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--- Quote ---Just Today
Today is the first day of my quit - - - no matter if I'm posting Day 1 or Day 1001.
What do I mean by this? ...... It's simple.
In the beginning what are we thinking about the most? Probably posting the number of days we've been quit, right? And that's all great as we go through the hell of taking it one day at a time .. fighting the withdraws, the craves, the urges and the temptations of our addiction.
During these days we might be taking it moment by moment to get through to the next hour. Our quit days start to build confidence within us. We strive to make 100, 200, 300 days along side our quit brothers and sisters. We relish at the milestones we've accomplished ...... and we should!
Yet it's during this time ...
when life begins to knock on the door of reality. We slowly start to take each day we're quit for granted. We feel invincible. Some might even feel that since we've been quit a certain number of days, months and yes even years that one dip won't hurt. We must fight against that urge and by doing so means saying to yourself, "Not today, my friend, today I'm quit."
I believe some of us forget how and why we got to this point to begin with.
We got here by taking it one day at a time.
Not a month at a time, nor a year at a time.
Not even a forever ..... but one day ... just today.
-mylilsecret
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syndrome:
--- Quote ---A Step Back
At times we may forget about our friends
especially those of our past.
It seems within the blink of an eye,
our time spent here can travel so fast.
We tend to think towards
the future; not for the moments of today.
What if we had no tomorrow and through our
fingertips life slipped away?
You might have a friend upon their face
a smile is always shown.
But if you looked a little closer
their sadness you would have known.
Our lives are hectic with stress
as were caught up in all we do.
But words truly need to be heard,
instead of the silent, I love you.
As you read this, that someone might
be reaching out to know youre there.
That your friendship is true
and you genuinely care.
Some say to look out for ourselves
in order to get ahead.
Yet shouldnt we take a step back to
help those around us instead?
We need to show our friends to never fear
life, love or laughter; to never doubt
And prove to them just like our need for air;
their friendship, we can not live without.
Written by: mylilsecret
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syndrome:
--- Quote ---Most, .. if not all who chose to quit dipping do so in fear of cancer and ultimately their fear of death from their addiction.
- Imagine being twelve and your first dip. Dad lets you do it around the garage with him as you tinker with his tools pretending to help. Pretty cool, huh?
- Imagine being fifteen and your friends start hanging out at your house 'cause it's okay to dip around your parents. Heck, most of their parents haven't a clue about the dipping ritual that happens after school.
- Imagine being nineteen and working with your father at his business. Both still dipping and enjoying the conversations you spend because you feel a connection, even if it has to do with dip.
- Imagine finding your first sore, gums raw but you still keep using. Dad says its happened to him but it'll go away. So you pack it to the other side of your mouth. It feels somewhat less painful that way.
- Imagine being twenty-one and the birth of your first and only son. Dipping the whole time your wife is in labor. So nervous but you need dip to take that edge off. Asking the nurses for a cup to spit into. Holding your son after birth, but in the back of your mind you know that you need to get another can since you're out.
- Imagine being twenty-seven and your now six yr old son wants to go hunting with you like he has many times before but you tell him he can't go. Unable to tell him why since there's going to be alcohol and a little party later at a friends house. Your son cries not understanding why Daddy won't take him hunting. You promise to take him real soon. Maybe next weekend. He pouts some but you're able to scoot out the door without him noticing.
- Imagine hunting while drinking some beer. Later on you're at a friends house you've known since grade school. You play a little poker and get somewhat carried away with the shots and liquor being passed around.
- Imagine feeling a bit dizzy and resting on the couch since the room won't stop spinning. Some time later others pass by and laugh 'cause your drunker than shit. They believed you have passed out since they hear you snoring.
- Imagine being so intoxicated to the point that you've swallow your snuff. What they believe was snoring was actually you gasping for air yet since you've been drinking, you're unable to move and get help .. you die .. not from cancer .. but from choking on your wad of dip.
Now imagine leaving behind your wife and son, mother, father and sister. Leaving behind your friends and one of the girls (me) who played truth or dare and was dared to kiss you. We were fourteen. (the time I started dipping secretly)
Imagine now, if cancer's truly the only culprit that can lead to your death.
This true story happened to a good friend of mine. Someone with a kind heart but just was stupid to think that he wasn't addicted. To proud thinking he was invincible to cancer and death. Yet sadly he died by asphyxiation.
He's gone by just a single dip!
-mylilsecret
Rest in peace, Jay Archibald! I hope you're death wasn't in vain and by me telling your story will help someone take that first step to quit.
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--- Quote ---Never Give Up
Remember to never give up and never have doubt.
Those ups and downs is what lifes all about.
You try and try your absolute best
and somehow struggle like all the rest.
At times it seems you just cant do it.
Yet all it takes is putting your mind to it.
The mistakes that you might make along the way,
create a stronger person to defeat another day.
You see, no one can tell you the steps you must take.
Whether right or wrong; its the choices you make.
Believe in yourself and all the power that you hold.
Aspirations are created by the young and the old.
But it has to start here and it has to start now.
Of course youre sitting there wondering how?
It begins when you set this extraordinary example for others.
Yes, strangers at first; end up quit sisters and brothers.
Maybe youre struggling addiction and needing some belief.
Simply asking for help begins your journey towards relief.
Quitting means you want this. Its coming from the heart.
Dont wait until tomorrow when right now you can start.
If you take this chance. Id promise youll see
Youre not alone. Youre standing with me.
mylilsecret
© 2008
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syndrome:
--- Quote ---Trust Me
I've been where you're at, maybe not the exact situation but I've been there.
It's rough! It hurts! It stinks! You feel like punching something. Anything!
There's an ache deep within .. like you can't go on unless you have a dip in your mouth. You feel a dip will make things better. It'll reduce your stress and make life easier. It's become a daily ritual that's been screwed up by this freakin' site! Why do you even need this place? C'mon - just get a can and everything will seem better. Just one dip to ride you through! You've shown that you're strong enough to quit. It's just a dip not like you'll be addicted from one dip. Trust me!
Have you thought this? I bet it's safe to say you have. I know I have! But why?
Maybe you're at the beginning of your quit or you've been quit for a few months, .. better yet you could be a seasoned vet when this creeps into your mind. Just because you're quit doesn't mean you'll evade the nicotine demon totally from visiting your thoughts. It will from time to time slip in. At the beginning this might be your frame of mind every minute of every hour then once you start to get days under your belt, it becomes less and less of a thought or even an option. Truthfully the demon will always be there, .. ready to creep up at a moments notice ... when you least expect it.
Be prepared!
Be ready to fight!
Because ultimately ...
isn't your life worth fighting for?
You and I will always be addicted to this demon so that's why it's fortunate that we have this site and these resources. Here .. we have others to help us change our way of thinking, to learn new ways to cope through stressful situations and friendships to gain by the mere fact that we're in this together.
We can do this! You and I. Trust me!
-mylilsecret
Quitting is hard but not quitting (cancer/death?) well .. that's even harder.
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