Ok about a week has passed. IÂ’ve been doing more thinking and have seen a lot of stuff written that is hopefully getting you to seriously learn from what you did from all aspects all the way from Day 1 on July 22, 2012 to the current day.
Yes I stood beside you for 140 days as you had that fire and passion for the quit above and beyond within our group. But then there at the end (the last week) were a little too quiet (in my opinion). I did like what I saw that ERDVM mentioned in that with the amount of fire you have to be careful about burning out. And you know my style, get that flame to more of a steady ember that will burn a long time. If this can be learned you will do well.
I do say of the confusion in the comparison between someone who remains quit while not posting versus someone who caves. There is no comparison. Yes we want to give our word each day to our self first and then give it to our brothers and sisters to have the hold us accountable, BUT (and this will go over like a lead balloon) is there an ultimate harm for missing a day, where-as for caving it might be that magic bullet that results in cancer.
This then brings to the point of the 2 days for the posting of a name and a promise, that I know I initially missed. This will take some time to mend, but with most everything, time and what happens during that time, will have the greatest of impacts.
I do thank you as the situation that you put yourself in has made me rethink the pattern that I was following with the above normal drinking, and if you need to look my name is now present in the alcohol slow down thread and will be on a daily basis for a whileÂ….just a thought as consciously, I believe, you would not have done what you did, but you put yourself in that situation. And I hope that you realize that when you give your promise that it involves not only the deed, but the positions surrounding that could lead to the deed.
So my brother, the ball is in your court. You will have my support if you can continue to show me with actions, not words, that you (1) have learned from this incident, (2) can move ahead, day by day,(3) and follow the mantra NEVER AGAIN FOR ANY REASON.