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Community => Introductions => Topic started by: Dajacks on June 09, 2020, 04:21:04 PM
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My name is Dustin. I have dipped for over 20 years, and have decided to take my life back and quit.
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My name is Todd and I am joining you in quitting today. I dipped for 22 years and I threw my stash out about 9 hours ago.
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That's awesome Dustin. You can do this. I said the same thing almost 2 weeks ago. If you need a partner in quit send me a PM and we can trade #s. You can do this. Stay focused, learn to tell your brain and body no.
Todd: good for you. The best thing you can do is toss that crap straight in the bin mate. Just as I mentioned above you need help in this journey just ask. There are some really good people here that want to see you succeed so don't be afraid to ask for help. If you think you are going to do something to take you away from your goals get someone's number ahead of time and phone a friend. You got this.
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My name is Dustin. I have dipped for over 20 years, and have decided to take my life back and quit.
@Dajacks (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=17809) here is the link to your freedom https://ktcforum.org/index.php?topic=16478.0. Go post roll in the September 2020 group and start taking your life back. Looks like you posted in July yesterday. We wake up, piss, and post our promise to stay nicotine free for the day. Then keep your word. Only worry about today. We will deal with tomorrow when it gets here. Make some relationships as they will be huge in difficult times. Brother/Sisterhood + Accountability = Success. We all need help to stay clean. However, only exchange digits through personal messages and not on the forum or here in the Intro section. You can do this and we are here to help. Reach out if I can be of assistance.
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My name is Dustin. I have dipped for over 20 years, and have decided to take my life back and quit.
@Dajacks (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=17809) here is the link to your freedom https://ktcforum.org/index.php?topic=16478.0. Go post roll in the September 2020 group and start taking your life back. Looks like you posted in July yesterday. We wake up, piss, and post our promise to stay nicotine free for the day. Then keep your word. Only worry about today. We will deal with tomorrow when it gets here. Make some relationships as they will be huge in difficult times. Brother/Sisterhood + Accountability = Success. We all need help to stay clean. However, only exchange digits through personal messages and not on the forum or here in the Intro section. You can do this and we are here to help. Reach out if I can be of assistance.
Thanks!
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My name is Todd and I am joining you in quitting today. I dipped for 22 years and I threw my stash out about 9 hours ago.
That's awesome, Todd. Thank you. We can do this! The journey of 1,000 miles starts with 1 step.
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I wasn't successful. I would be approaching 100 days this month if I had. Honestly, the thought of quitting nags at me, and I really would like to give it a shot. Could I join the December quit group?
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I wasn't successful. I would be approaching 100 days this month if I had. Honestly, the thought of quitting nags at me, and I really would like to give it a shot. Could I join the December quit group?
Well @Dajacks (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=17809) all I can say is prepare to have your butt chewed out. You will need to answer to a whole bunch of people plus answer the normal questions. You need to be reaching out and building a group of supporters that you can get help from. As the Sept 2020 rolls through their celebration this month it sucks that you could not be one that celebrates with them. I know how difficult it is to stay quit as I have placed plenty of info about my quit in my intro. I would suggest to read my intro but I am not putting myself higher then anybody just using my sorry self as an example. I wish you well and if you need anything let me know. But right now you will need some super duper strength butt cream to start with.
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I wasn't successful. I would be approaching 100 days this month if I had. Honestly, the thought of quitting nags at me, and I really would like to give it a shot. Could I join the December quit group?
Well @Dajacks (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=17809) all I can say is prepare to have your butt chewed out. You will need to answer to a whole bunch of people plus answer the normal questions. You need to be reaching out and building a group of supporters that you can get help from. As the Sept 2020 rolls through their celebration this month it sucks that you could not be one that celebrates with them. I know how difficult it is to stay quit as I have placed plenty of info about my quit in my intro. I would suggest to read my intro but I am not putting myself higher then anybody just using my sorry self as an example. I wish you well and if you need anything let me know. But right now you will need some super duper strength butt cream to start with.
@Dajacks (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=17809) you want to give quitting a shot? With that attitude quitting will be extremely hard. Sounds like you need to decide if you actually want to quit. When you make that decision feel free to join December 2020. Be prepared to answer the 3 questions. 1. What happened. 2. Why did it happen. 3. What are you going to do different this time? Answer those questions in December and your old group/groups. Give them some thought and take them seriously. They are designed to help you.
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I wasn't successful. I would be approaching 100 days this month if I had. Honestly, the thought of quitting nags at me, and I really would like to give it a shot. Could I join the December quit group?
Well @Dajacks (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=17809) all I can say is prepare to have your butt chewed out. You will need to answer to a whole bunch of people plus answer the normal questions. You need to be reaching out and building a group of supporters that you can get help from. As the Sept 2020 rolls through their celebration this month it sucks that you could not be one that celebrates with them. I know how difficult it is to stay quit as I have placed plenty of info about my quit in my intro. I would suggest to read my intro but I am not putting myself higher then anybody just using my sorry self as an example. I wish you well and if you need anything let me know. But right now you will need some super duper strength butt cream to start with.
@Dajacks (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=17809) you want to give quitting a shot? With that attitude quitting will be extremely hard. Sounds like you need to decide if you actually want to quit. When you make that decision feel free to join December 2020. Be prepared to answer the 3 questions. 1. What happened. 2. Why did it happen. 3. What are you going to do different this time? Answer those questions in December and your old group/groups. Give them some thought and take them seriously. They are designed to help you.
I will go ahead and answer the questions on here first. What happened? If I recall, I caved twice in the first month. The second cave was after 7 days of no tobacco or nicotine. Why did it happen? I didn't reveal this to the group (in fact, I shut out one person in particular), but I ended a relationship shortly before I signed up. The breakup went okay, but the relationship was very dysfunctional. I'm not going to smear my ex on here, but I didn't have my head together and didn't take into account that I was pretty shaken up by a lot of the things that I had been through over the past 3 years. I was lashing out and just being an asshole, or shutting people out and not talking to anyone. I wanted to do something positive, and quitting was something that I could do that would potentially lead to a better quality of life. Unfortunately, I was just too fucked up and I couldn't deal with any of it. Going without nicotine led to having horrible anxiety and nightmares. What am I going to do differently? In all honesty, it took me breaking my knuckle after punching a wooden stool in a fit of rage to realize that I had a serious problem. I took the time to deal with some of the mental issues, but quitting tobacco always nagged at me. I am looking at different options, but in the end, quitting has to be the top priority. Is it? I won't join a quit group unless I do. I would be doing a disservice if I did, because I know how I am. I think it'd be safer to have a week or so free of nicotine and tobacco before joining a quit group. I know it sounds strange, but I know that if I were to do the same thing I had done before would likely fail. I know it sounds like a copout, but I know how I am. If I joined a quit group right now, it would be risky.
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I wasn't successful. I would be approaching 100 days this month if I had. Honestly, the thought of quitting nags at me, and I really would like to give it a shot. Could I join the December quit group?
Well @Dajacks (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=17809) all I can say is prepare to have your butt chewed out. You will need to answer to a whole bunch of people plus answer the normal questions. You need to be reaching out and building a group of supporters that you can get help from. As the Sept 2020 rolls through their celebration this month it sucks that you could not be one that celebrates with them. I know how difficult it is to stay quit as I have placed plenty of info about my quit in my intro. I would suggest to read my intro but I am not putting myself higher then anybody just using my sorry self as an example. I wish you well and if you need anything let me know. But right now you will need some super duper strength butt cream to start with.
@Dajacks (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=17809) you want to give quitting a shot? With that attitude quitting will be extremely hard. Sounds like you need to decide if you actually want to quit. When you make that decision feel free to join December 2020. Be prepared to answer the 3 questions. 1. What happened. 2. Why did it happen. 3. What are you going to do different this time? Answer those questions in December and your old group/groups. Give them some thought and take them seriously. They are designed to help you.
I will go ahead and answer the questions on here first. What happened? If I recall, I caved twice in the first month. The second cave was after 7 days of no tobacco or nicotine. Why did it happen? I didn't reveal this to the group (in fact, I shut out one person in particular), but I ended a relationship shortly before I signed up. The breakup went okay, but the relationship was very dysfunctional. I'm not going to smear my ex on here, but I didn't have my head together and didn't take into account that I was pretty shaken up by a lot of the things that I had been through over the past 3 years. I was lashing out and just being an asshole, or shutting people out and not talking to anyone. I wanted to do something positive, and quitting was something that I could do that would potentially lead to a better quality of life. Unfortunately, I was just too fucked up and I couldn't deal with any of it. Going without nicotine led to having horrible anxiety and nightmares. What am I going to do differently? In all honesty, it took me breaking my knuckle after punching a wooden stool in a fit of rage to realize that I had a serious problem. I took the time to deal with some of the mental issues, but quitting tobacco always nagged at me. I am looking at different options, but in the end, quitting has to be the top priority. Is it? I won't join a quit group unless I do. I would be doing a disservice if I did, because I know how I am. I think it'd be safer to have a week or so free of nicotine and tobacco before joining a quit group. I know it sounds strange, but I know that if I were to do the same thing I had done before would likely fail. I know it sounds like a copout, but I know how I am. If I joined a quit group right now, it would be risky.
Sounds like you are still deciding if you really want to quit and are willing to go through the suck to achieve it. Good luck with your decision. Until you totally buy in to quitting, your chances of success are extremely low. With the right mindset it is achievable and will be the best decision you ever make.
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I wasn't successful. I would be approaching 100 days this month if I had. Honestly, the thought of quitting nags at me, and I really would like to give it a shot. Could I join the December quit group?
Well @Dajacks (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=17809) all I can say is prepare to have your butt chewed out. You will need to answer to a whole bunch of people plus answer the normal questions. You need to be reaching out and building a group of supporters that you can get help from. As the Sept 2020 rolls through their celebration this month it sucks that you could not be one that celebrates with them. I know how difficult it is to stay quit as I have placed plenty of info about my quit in my intro. I would suggest to read my intro but I am not putting myself higher then anybody just using my sorry self as an example. I wish you well and if you need anything let me know. But right now you will need some super duper strength butt cream to start with.
@Dajacks (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=17809) you want to give quitting a shot? With that attitude quitting will be extremely hard. Sounds like you need to decide if you actually want to quit. When you make that decision feel free to join December 2020. Be prepared to answer the 3 questions. 1. What happened. 2. Why did it happen. 3. What are you going to do different this time? Answer those questions in December and your old group/groups. Give them some thought and take them seriously. They are designed to help you.
I will go ahead and answer the questions on here first. What happened? If I recall, I caved twice in the first month. The second cave was after 7 days of no tobacco or nicotine. Why did it happen? I didn't reveal this to the group (in fact, I shut out one person in particular), but I ended a relationship shortly before I signed up. The breakup went okay, but the relationship was very dysfunctional. I'm not going to smear my ex on here, but I didn't have my head together and didn't take into account that I was pretty shaken up by a lot of the things that I had been through over the past 3 years. I was lashing out and just being an asshole, or shutting people out and not talking to anyone. I wanted to do something positive, and quitting was something that I could do that would potentially lead to a better quality of life. Unfortunately, I was just too fucked up and I couldn't deal with any of it. Going without nicotine led to having horrible anxiety and nightmares. What am I going to do differently? In all honesty, it took me breaking my knuckle after punching a wooden stool in a fit of rage to realize that I had a serious problem. I took the time to deal with some of the mental issues, but quitting tobacco always nagged at me. I am looking at different options, but in the end, quitting has to be the top priority. Is it? I won't join a quit group unless I do. I would be doing a disservice if I did, because I know how I am. I think it'd be safer to have a week or so free of nicotine and tobacco before joining a quit group. I know it sounds strange, but I know that if I were to do the same thing I had done before would likely fail. I know it sounds like a copout, but I know how I am. If I joined a quit group right now, it would be risky.
Sounds like you are still deciding if you really want to quit and are willing to go through the suck to achieve it. Good luck with your decision. Until you totally buy in to quitting, your chances of success are extremely low. With the right mindset it is achievable and will be the best decision you ever make.
@Dajacks (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=17809) - The fact that I remember how many times you caved and you don't is more evidence that you really didn't value your quit or your group. It was 3 times by the way. I'll remind you of what I posted after your first cave (LINK (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?topic=16478.msg8005595#msg8005595)). I didn't think you were going to make it back then and it wasn't because I knew much about you, it's because you didn't think you were going to make it.
Now you are back, for the 4th time, and you are still full of self doubt. I don't know what kind of magic you expect to happen by avoiding a quit group for a week. You made it a week last time and still turned your back on your last group. It's time to suck it up buttercup.
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I wasn't successful. I would be approaching 100 days this month if I had. Honestly, the thought of quitting nags at me, and I really would like to give it a shot. Could I join the December quit group?
Well @Dajacks (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=17809) all I can say is prepare to have your butt chewed out. You will need to answer to a whole bunch of people plus answer the normal questions. You need to be reaching out and building a group of supporters that you can get help from. As the Sept 2020 rolls through their celebration this month it sucks that you could not be one that celebrates with them. I know how difficult it is to stay quit as I have placed plenty of info about my quit in my intro. I would suggest to read my intro but I am not putting myself higher then anybody just using my sorry self as an example. I wish you well and if you need anything let me know. But right now you will need some super duper strength butt cream to start with.
@Dajacks (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=17809) you want to give quitting a shot? With that attitude quitting will be extremely hard. Sounds like you need to decide if you actually want to quit. When you make that decision feel free to join December 2020. Be prepared to answer the 3 questions. 1. What happened. 2. Why did it happen. 3. What are you going to do different this time? Answer those questions in December and your old group/groups. Give them some thought and take them seriously. They are designed to help you.
I will go ahead and answer the questions on here first. What happened? If I recall, I caved twice in the first month. The second cave was after 7 days of no tobacco or nicotine. Why did it happen? I didn't reveal this to the group (in fact, I shut out one person in particular), but I ended a relationship shortly before I signed up. The breakup went okay, but the relationship was very dysfunctional. I'm not going to smear my ex on here, but I didn't have my head together and didn't take into account that I was pretty shaken up by a lot of the things that I had been through over the past 3 years. I was lashing out and just being an asshole, or shutting people out and not talking to anyone. I wanted to do something positive, and quitting was something that I could do that would potentially lead to a better quality of life. Unfortunately, I was just too fucked up and I couldn't deal with any of it. Going without nicotine led to having horrible anxiety and nightmares. What am I going to do differently? In all honesty, it took me breaking my knuckle after punching a wooden stool in a fit of rage to realize that I had a serious problem. I took the time to deal with some of the mental issues, but quitting tobacco always nagged at me. I am looking at different options, but in the end, quitting has to be the top priority. Is it? I won't join a quit group unless I do. I would be doing a disservice if I did, because I know how I am. I think it'd be safer to have a week or so free of nicotine and tobacco before joining a quit group. I know it sounds strange, but I know that if I were to do the same thing I had done before would likely fail. I know it sounds like a copout, but I know how I am. If I joined a quit group right now, it would be risky.
Sounds like you are still deciding if you really want to quit and are willing to go through the suck to achieve it. Good luck with your decision. Until you totally buy in to quitting, your chances of success are extremely low. With the right mindset it is achievable and will be the best decision you ever make.
@Dajacks (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=17809) - The fact that I remember how many times you caved and you don't is more evidence that you really didn't value your quit or your group. It was 3 times by the way. I'll remind you of what I posted after your first cave (LINK (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?topic=16478.msg8005595#msg8005595)). I didn't think you were going to make it back then and it wasn't because I knew much about you, it's because you didn't think you were going to make it.
Now you are back, for the 4th time, and you are still full of self doubt. I don't know what kind of magic you expect to happen by avoiding a quit group for a week. You made it a week last time and still turned your back on your last group. It's time to suck it up buttercup.
KTC is not a magical fairy land where you come and are cured. You are addicted to nicotine. You will always be addicted to nicotine. KTC exists as a place to immerse yourself in accountability as YOU fight nicotine one day at a time. None of us can quit for you. None of us can make you want to be quit. But we can support you when you decide you are ready to take your life back and want to experience the freedom that comes with not being slave to a slimy, poisonous weed in a plastic can.
With your track record, you are going to have some serious work to do. Especially considering your current mindset. Dig deep and find the confidence in yourself that you can give your word each day and honor that promise 24 hours at a time. Are you really scared of failure? Or are you scared of success and the new reality that will be born when you 100% remove nicotine in your life?
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I wasn't successful. I would be approaching 100 days this month if I had. Honestly, the thought of quitting nags at me, and I really would like to give it a shot. Could I join the December quit group?
Well @Dajacks (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=17809) all I can say is prepare to have your butt chewed out. You will need to answer to a whole bunch of people plus answer the normal questions. You need to be reaching out and building a group of supporters that you can get help from. As the Sept 2020 rolls through their celebration this month it sucks that you could not be one that celebrates with them. I know how difficult it is to stay quit as I have placed plenty of info about my quit in my intro. I would suggest to read my intro but I am not putting myself higher then anybody just using my sorry self as an example. I wish you well and if you need anything let me know. But right now you will need some super duper strength butt cream to start with.
@Dajacks (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=17809) you want to give quitting a shot? With that attitude quitting will be extremely hard. Sounds like you need to decide if you actually want to quit. When you make that decision feel free to join December 2020. Be prepared to answer the 3 questions. 1. What happened. 2. Why did it happen. 3. What are you going to do different this time? Answer those questions in December and your old group/groups. Give them some thought and take them seriously. They are designed to help you.
I will go ahead and answer the questions on here first. What happened? If I recall, I caved twice in the first month. The second cave was after 7 days of no tobacco or nicotine. Why did it happen? I didn't reveal this to the group (in fact, I shut out one person in particular), but I ended a relationship shortly before I signed up. The breakup went okay, but the relationship was very dysfunctional. I'm not going to smear my ex on here, but I didn't have my head together and didn't take into account that I was pretty shaken up by a lot of the things that I had been through over the past 3 years. I was lashing out and just being an asshole, or shutting people out and not talking to anyone. I wanted to do something positive, and quitting was something that I could do that would potentially lead to a better quality of life. Unfortunately, I was just too fucked up and I couldn't deal with any of it. Going without nicotine led to having horrible anxiety and nightmares. What am I going to do differently? In all honesty, it took me breaking my knuckle after punching a wooden stool in a fit of rage to realize that I had a serious problem. I took the time to deal with some of the mental issues, but quitting tobacco always nagged at me. I am looking at different options, but in the end, quitting has to be the top priority. Is it? I won't join a quit group unless I do. I would be doing a disservice if I did, because I know how I am. I think it'd be safer to have a week or so free of nicotine and tobacco before joining a quit group. I know it sounds strange, but I know that if I were to do the same thing I had done before would likely fail. I know it sounds like a copout, but I know how I am. If I joined a quit group right now, it would be risky.
Sounds like you are still deciding if you really want to quit and are willing to go through the suck to achieve it. Good luck with your decision. Until you totally buy in to quitting, your chances of success are extremely low. With the right mindset it is achievable and will be the best decision you ever make.
@Dajacks (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=17809) - The fact that I remember how many times you caved and you don't is more evidence that you really didn't value your quit or your group. It was 3 times by the way. I'll remind you of what I posted after your first cave (LINK (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?topic=16478.msg8005595#msg8005595)). I didn't think you were going to make it back then and it wasn't because I knew much about you, it's because you didn't think you were going to make it.
Now you are back, for the 4th time, and you are still full of self doubt. I don't know what kind of magic you expect to happen by avoiding a quit group for a week. You made it a week last time and still turned your back on your last group. It's time to suck it up buttercup.
You are absolutely right.
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I wasn't successful. I would be approaching 100 days this month if I had. Honestly, the thought of quitting nags at me, and I really would like to give it a shot. Could I join the December quit group?
Well @Dajacks (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=17809) all I can say is prepare to have your butt chewed out. You will need to answer to a whole bunch of people plus answer the normal questions. You need to be reaching out and building a group of supporters that you can get help from. As the Sept 2020 rolls through their celebration this month it sucks that you could not be one that celebrates with them. I know how difficult it is to stay quit as I have placed plenty of info about my quit in my intro. I would suggest to read my intro but I am not putting myself higher then anybody just using my sorry self as an example. I wish you well and if you need anything let me know. But right now you will need some super duper strength butt cream to start with.
@Dajacks (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=17809) you want to give quitting a shot? With that attitude quitting will be extremely hard. Sounds like you need to decide if you actually want to quit. When you make that decision feel free to join December 2020. Be prepared to answer the 3 questions. 1. What happened. 2. Why did it happen. 3. What are you going to do different this time? Answer those questions in December and your old group/groups. Give them some thought and take them seriously. They are designed to help you.
I will go ahead and answer the questions on here first. What happened? If I recall, I caved twice in the first month. The second cave was after 7 days of no tobacco or nicotine. Why did it happen? I didn't reveal this to the group (in fact, I shut out one person in particular), but I ended a relationship shortly before I signed up. The breakup went okay, but the relationship was very dysfunctional. I'm not going to smear my ex on here, but I didn't have my head together and didn't take into account that I was pretty shaken up by a lot of the things that I had been through over the past 3 years. I was lashing out and just being an asshole, or shutting people out and not talking to anyone. I wanted to do something positive, and quitting was something that I could do that would potentially lead to a better quality of life. Unfortunately, I was just too fucked up and I couldn't deal with any of it. Going without nicotine led to having horrible anxiety and nightmares. What am I going to do differently? In all honesty, it took me breaking my knuckle after punching a wooden stool in a fit of rage to realize that I had a serious problem. I took the time to deal with some of the mental issues, but quitting tobacco always nagged at me. I am looking at different options, but in the end, quitting has to be the top priority. Is it? I won't join a quit group unless I do. I would be doing a disservice if I did, because I know how I am. I think it'd be safer to have a week or so free of nicotine and tobacco before joining a quit group. I know it sounds strange, but I know that if I were to do the same thing I had done before would likely fail. I know it sounds like a copout, but I know how I am. If I joined a quit group right now, it would be risky.
Sounds like you are still deciding if you really want to quit and are willing to go through the suck to achieve it. Good luck with your decision. Until you totally buy in to quitting, your chances of success are extremely low. With the right mindset it is achievable and will be the best decision you ever make.
@Dajacks (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=17809) - The fact that I remember how many times you caved and you don't is more evidence that you really didn't value your quit or your group. It was 3 times by the way. I'll remind you of what I posted after your first cave (LINK (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?topic=16478.msg8005595#msg8005595)). I didn't think you were going to make it back then and it wasn't because I knew much about you, it's because you didn't think you were going to make it.
Now you are back, for the 4th time, and you are still full of self doubt. I don't know what kind of magic you expect to happen by avoiding a quit group for a week. You made it a week last time and still turned your back on your last group. It's time to suck it up buttercup.
KTC is not a magical fairy land where you come and are cured. You are addicted to nicotine. You will always be addicted to nicotine. KTC exists as a place to immerse yourself in accountability as YOU fight nicotine one day at a time. None of us can quit for you. None of us can make you want to be quit. But we can support you when you decide you are ready to take your life back and want to experience the freedom that comes with not being slave to a slimy, poisonous weed in a plastic can.
With your track record, you are going to have some serious work to do. Especially considering your current mindset. Dig deep and find the confidence in yourself that you can give your word each day and honor that promise 24 hours at a time. Are you really scared of failure? Or are you scared of success and the new reality that will be born when you 100% remove nicotine in your life?
I don't expect any magic or anything like that. Bottom line, I just need to get through it. Yeah, it's gonna suck, and I'm not going to like it, but I won't know what that reality is going to be until experience it. I don't drink or use any illicit drugs, but nicotine is a whole other beast. I'd rather not have it than have it, but I have to do the legwork. So, who do I contact regarding joining the December group?
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I wasn't successful. I would be approaching 100 days this month if I had. Honestly, the thought of quitting nags at me, and I really would like to give it a shot. Could I join the December quit group?
Well @Dajacks (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=17809) all I can say is prepare to have your butt chewed out. You will need to answer to a whole bunch of people plus answer the normal questions. You need to be reaching out and building a group of supporters that you can get help from. As the Sept 2020 rolls through their celebration this month it sucks that you could not be one that celebrates with them. I know how difficult it is to stay quit as I have placed plenty of info about my quit in my intro. I would suggest to read my intro but I am not putting myself higher then anybody just using my sorry self as an example. I wish you well and if you need anything let me know. But right now you will need some super duper strength butt cream to start with.
@Dajacks (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=17809) you want to give quitting a shot? With that attitude quitting will be extremely hard. Sounds like you need to decide if you actually want to quit. When you make that decision feel free to join December 2020. Be prepared to answer the 3 questions. 1. What happened. 2. Why did it happen. 3. What are you going to do different this time? Answer those questions in December and your old group/groups. Give them some thought and take them seriously. They are designed to help you.
I will go ahead and answer the questions on here first. What happened? If I recall, I caved twice in the first month. The second cave was after 7 days of no tobacco or nicotine. Why did it happen? I didn't reveal this to the group (in fact, I shut out one person in particular), but I ended a relationship shortly before I signed up. The breakup went okay, but the relationship was very dysfunctional. I'm not going to smear my ex on here, but I didn't have my head together and didn't take into account that I was pretty shaken up by a lot of the things that I had been through over the past 3 years. I was lashing out and just being an asshole, or shutting people out and not talking to anyone. I wanted to do something positive, and quitting was something that I could do that would potentially lead to a better quality of life. Unfortunately, I was just too fucked up and I couldn't deal with any of it. Going without nicotine led to having horrible anxiety and nightmares. What am I going to do differently? In all honesty, it took me breaking my knuckle after punching a wooden stool in a fit of rage to realize that I had a serious problem. I took the time to deal with some of the mental issues, but quitting tobacco always nagged at me. I am looking at different options, but in the end, quitting has to be the top priority. Is it? I won't join a quit group unless I do. I would be doing a disservice if I did, because I know how I am. I think it'd be safer to have a week or so free of nicotine and tobacco before joining a quit group. I know it sounds strange, but I know that if I were to do the same thing I had done before would likely fail. I know it sounds like a copout, but I know how I am. If I joined a quit group right now, it would be risky.
Sounds like you are still deciding if you really want to quit and are willing to go through the suck to achieve it. Good luck with your decision. Until you totally buy in to quitting, your chances of success are extremely low. With the right mindset it is achievable and will be the best decision you ever make.
@Dajacks (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=17809) - The fact that I remember how many times you caved and you don't is more evidence that you really didn't value your quit or your group. It was 3 times by the way. I'll remind you of what I posted after your first cave (LINK (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?topic=16478.msg8005595#msg8005595)). I didn't think you were going to make it back then and it wasn't because I knew much about you, it's because you didn't think you were going to make it.
Now you are back, for the 4th time, and you are still full of self doubt. I don't know what kind of magic you expect to happen by avoiding a quit group for a week. You made it a week last time and still turned your back on your last group. It's time to suck it up buttercup.
KTC is not a magical fairy land where you come and are cured. You are addicted to nicotine. You will always be addicted to nicotine. KTC exists as a place to immerse yourself in accountability as YOU fight nicotine one day at a time. None of us can quit for you. None of us can make you want to be quit. But we can support you when you decide you are ready to take your life back and want to experience the freedom that comes with not being slave to a slimy, poisonous weed in a plastic can.
With your track record, you are going to have some serious work to do. Especially considering your current mindset. Dig deep and find the confidence in yourself that you can give your word each day and honor that promise 24 hours at a time. Are you really scared of failure? Or are you scared of success and the new reality that will be born when you 100% remove nicotine in your life?
I don't expect any magic or anything like that. Bottom line, I just need to get through it. Yeah, it's gonna suck, and I'm not going to like it, but I won't know what that reality is going to be until experience it. I don't drink or use any illicit drugs, but nicotine is a whole other beast. I'd rather not have it than have it, but I have to do the legwork. So, who do I contact regarding joining the December group?
@Dajacks (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=17809) here is the link https://ktcforum.org/index.php?topic=16691.0. Start posting today and repeat everyday as soon as you wake up.
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I wasn't successful. I would be approaching 100 days this month if I had. Honestly, the thought of quitting nags at me, and I really would like to give it a shot. Could I join the December quit group?
Well @Dajacks (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=17809) all I can say is prepare to have your butt chewed out. You will need to answer to a whole bunch of people plus answer the normal questions. You need to be reaching out and building a group of supporters that you can get help from. As the Sept 2020 rolls through their celebration this month it sucks that you could not be one that celebrates with them. I know how difficult it is to stay quit as I have placed plenty of info about my quit in my intro. I would suggest to read my intro but I am not putting myself higher then anybody just using my sorry self as an example. I wish you well and if you need anything let me know. But right now you will need some super duper strength butt cream to start with.
@Dajacks (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=17809) you want to give quitting a shot? With that attitude quitting will be extremely hard. Sounds like you need to decide if you actually want to quit. When you make that decision feel free to join December 2020. Be prepared to answer the 3 questions. 1. What happened. 2. Why did it happen. 3. What are you going to do different this time? Answer those questions in December and your old group/groups. Give them some thought and take them seriously. They are designed to help you.
I will go ahead and answer the questions on here first. What happened? If I recall, I caved twice in the first month. The second cave was after 7 days of no tobacco or nicotine. Why did it happen? I didn't reveal this to the group (in fact, I shut out one person in particular), but I ended a relationship shortly before I signed up. The breakup went okay, but the relationship was very dysfunctional. I'm not going to smear my ex on here, but I didn't have my head together and didn't take into account that I was pretty shaken up by a lot of the things that I had been through over the past 3 years. I was lashing out and just being an asshole, or shutting people out and not talking to anyone. I wanted to do something positive, and quitting was something that I could do that would potentially lead to a better quality of life. Unfortunately, I was just too fucked up and I couldn't deal with any of it. Going without nicotine led to having horrible anxiety and nightmares. What am I going to do differently? In all honesty, it took me breaking my knuckle after punching a wooden stool in a fit of rage to realize that I had a serious problem. I took the time to deal with some of the mental issues, but quitting tobacco always nagged at me. I am looking at different options, but in the end, quitting has to be the top priority. Is it? I won't join a quit group unless I do. I would be doing a disservice if I did, because I know how I am. I think it'd be safer to have a week or so free of nicotine and tobacco before joining a quit group. I know it sounds strange, but I know that if I were to do the same thing I had done before would likely fail. I know it sounds like a copout, but I know how I am. If I joined a quit group right now, it would be risky.
Sounds like you are still deciding if you really want to quit and are willing to go through the suck to achieve it. Good luck with your decision. Until you totally buy in to quitting, your chances of success are extremely low. With the right mindset it is achievable and will be the best decision you ever make.
@Dajacks (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=17809) - The fact that I remember how many times you caved and you don't is more evidence that you really didn't value your quit or your group. It was 3 times by the way. I'll remind you of what I posted after your first cave (LINK (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?topic=16478.msg8005595#msg8005595)). I didn't think you were going to make it back then and it wasn't because I knew much about you, it's because you didn't think you were going to make it.
Now you are back, for the 4th time, and you are still full of self doubt. I don't know what kind of magic you expect to happen by avoiding a quit group for a week. You made it a week last time and still turned your back on your last group. It's time to suck it up buttercup.
KTC is not a magical fairy land where you come and are cured. You are addicted to nicotine. You will always be addicted to nicotine. KTC exists as a place to immerse yourself in accountability as YOU fight nicotine one day at a time. None of us can quit for you. None of us can make you want to be quit. But we can support you when you decide you are ready to take your life back and want to experience the freedom that comes with not being slave to a slimy, poisonous weed in a plastic can.
With your track record, you are going to have some serious work to do. Especially considering your current mindset. Dig deep and find the confidence in yourself that you can give your word each day and honor that promise 24 hours at a time. Are you really scared of failure? Or are you scared of success and the new reality that will be born when you 100% remove nicotine in your life?
I don't expect any magic or anything like that. Bottom line, I just need to get through it. Yeah, it's gonna suck, and I'm not going to like it, but I won't know what that reality is going to be until experience it. I don't drink or use any illicit drugs, but nicotine is a whole other beast. I'd rather not have it than have it, but I have to do the legwork. So, who do I contact regarding joining the December group?
@Dajacks (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=17809) here is the link https://ktcforum.org/index.php?topic=16691.0. Start posting today and repeat everyday as soon as you wake up.
@Dajacks (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=17809)
Glad to see you posted today. Come back and do it again first thing tomorrow morning. Only worry about quitting today. We will deal with tomorrow when it gets here. Drink a lot of water, get some exercise, and realize it will suck for a while until it doesn’t. The light at the end of the tunnel will get brighter but it takes time. You can’t pack your mouth with shit for years and expect everything to work as normal immediately. Be patient and take pleasure in the fact you are no longer actively killing yourself. You can do this and we are here to help.
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@Dajacks (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=17809) - Another disappearing act. I can't say I'm surprised. You've been on roll a total of 14 days and have caved 4 times. Do us all a favor and don't come back. This place is better off without you.
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@Dajacks (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=17809) - Another disappearing act. I can't say I'm surprised. You've been on roll a total of 14 days and have caved 4 times. Do us all a favor and don't come back. This place is better off without you.
@Dajacks (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=17809) Just sack up and get it done. You should be celebrating 100+ days with us but you didn't find the strength to quit. Stop fooling yourself and grow up and just quit.
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@Dajacks (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=17809) - Another disappearing act. I can't say I'm surprised. You've been on roll a total of 14 days and have caved 4 times. Do us all a favor and don't come back. This place is better off without you.
@Dajacks (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=17809) Just sack up and get it done. You should be celebrating 100+ days with us but you didn't find the strength to quit. Stop fooling yourself and grow up and just quit.
Nah ^^^
This fool doesn’t get another “try”.
He hasn’t been on in a week and, truthfully, it takes at least that long to get the taint of failure stench out of this place.
This was the 4th time?
Nah.
One and done... own it.
Good riddance.
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@Dajacks (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=17809) - Another disappearing act. I can't say I'm surprised. You've been on roll a total of 14 days and have caved 4 times. Do us all a favor and don't come back. This place is better off without you.
@Dajacks (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=17809) Just sack up and get it done. You should be celebrating 100+ days with us but you didn't find the strength to quit. Stop fooling yourself and grow up and just quit.
Nah ^^^
This fool doesn’t get another “try”.
He hasn’t been on in a week and, truthfully, it takes at least that long to get the taint of failure stench out of this place.
This was the 4th time?
Nah.
One and done... own it.
Good riddance.
'Finger'