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Community => Introductions => Topic started by: Alan on October 08, 2013, 12:44:00 AM
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Well, first off Id like to say Im Alan. Like everyone else I dip. I have used for 8 years with spurts of off and on but more on than off. I stumbled onto this page a couple of months ago after "the late night fight" with my wife. I promised her I'd quite and change my habits but my dip has got a strong hold on me. Tonight after coming home from work I found 4 empty cans sitting on the counter and BOOM I knew I had really messed up. 3 months ago she left me because of ling about using. Now it is all on me. I have tossed all can, used or full into the trash. I even went to the extreme of opening all full cans and pouring them down the garbage disposal. I know now that I need help from people that have been there and I need that help now more that ever.
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Welcome Alan. I'm sure the veterans will be along shortly with better advice than I have. The first thing I can say though is find a reason you want to do this for yourself. Just doing it for somebody else often isn't enough. No matter how much they might want it for you, you have to want it for yourself. Check out the welcome center link above in red, read the KillTheCan.org blog. There's lots of good info, and info you should be sharing with your wife too to make her involved invested in your quit. You can't lie to her, she can't hold it against you if you're to be successful.
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Thanks Mike. Im letting her cool off a bit. She will hear me say that I joined a group and call BS on me. I have to do a little proving before I bring her on board. In the past I have tried to quit for other people and it doesn't work. This time its for me. I have a little girl that 4 and a little boy that's 2 that look up to me and I need them in my life. I want to be there with a full face to walk my daughter down the aisle one day. That's why I'm done with dip.
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Welcome Alan. I'm glad you're here. You will be in the January 2014 Nic killers. I'm in your group. I'll quit with you everyday, bro. Do this for you and nobody else. Everything else will fall into place. Accountability and trust is everything and trust is a hard thing to earn back once lost. Check your inbox
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Nice to meet you Punkin. It sucks I have been down this road 3 or 4 times and have never gotten the backing that I needed but Im starting to think I can do it this time.
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Nice to meet you Punkin. It sucks I have been down this road 3 or 4 times and have never gotten the backing that I needed but Im starting to think I can do it this time.
Every person in this place has your back brother. By this time tomorrow, you will have talked to so many complete strangers who are walking the same shitty road as you are, that it will make your head spin. You can do it, just do it one day at a time. Reach out for help too. There's no shame in it.
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Well, first off Id like to say Im Alan. Like everyone else I dip. I have used for 8 years with spurts of off and on but more on than off. I stumbled onto this page a couple of months ago after "the late night fight" with my wife. I promised her I'd quite and change my habits but my dip has got a strong hold on me. Tonight after coming home from work I found 4 empty cans sitting on the counter and BOOM I knew I had really messed up. 3 months ago she left me because of ling about using. Now it is all on me. I have tossed all can, used or full into the trash. I even went to the extreme of opening all full cans and pouring them down the garbage disposal. I know now that I need help from people that have been there and I need that help now more that ever.
Welcome alan, like you, most of us have lied countless times to our wives. "Oh ya! I quit honey!" Just to sneak off and steal a dip and ultimately time awsu from them. Drink plenty of water and spend your time time reading here on the site. You will soon develope tools and contacts to help with the struggle. Its not easy. We dont promise that. But it will get better, that we do promise. Post your daily roll call as your promise to us not to use nicotine in any shape or form. Be a man and honor that word all day. Then, repeat the next day. If you are struggling, reach out!! Post in your group. Jump into chat. Get connected and build and honorable reputation here.
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Welcome. The posters below have made some good points.
Man, I'm no professional, but it seems to me that you and your wife may have some other issues besides just the dip. I mean that sincerely, and I hope it doesn't come across as me being a jerk. I know a lot of guys who dipped for a long time while there wives absolutely despised the addiction. I was in that group. She hated it. She knew what it did. But would she leave me (or even threaten to do so) because of it? Not sure why, but hell no. Same goes for all of the other guys I knew.
I point out that observation for a few reasons. Quitting prompted me to change a whole bunch of things in my life. All for the better. I reevaluated a bunch of relationships and personal attitudes toward things. I hope that you can do the same thing.
If you are quitting because your wife is forcing you to, then your relationship with her is in jeopardy. Same goes for your children. You are going to have some tough mental battles during the next few months, and the addiction will lash out. Decide right now that you are quitting for YOU, because your life and health depend on it. Our families didn't make us addicts, so they shouldn't be the target of any rage that may happen. Bring it here. We can handle it.
Shoot me a PM if I can help you any way. Glad you're here.
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Welcome. The posters below have made some good points.
Man, I'm no professional, but it seems to me that you and your wife may have some other issues besides just the dip. I mean that sincerely, and I hope it doesn't come across as me being a jerk. I know a lot of guys who dipped for a long time while there wives absolutely despised the addiction. I was in that group. She hated it. She knew what it did. But would she leave me (or even threaten to do so) because of it? Not sure why, but hell no. Same goes for all of the other guys I knew.
I point out that observation for a few reasons. Quitting prompted me to change a whole bunch of things in my life. All for the better. I reevaluated a bunch of relationships and personal attitudes toward things. I hope that you can do the same thing.
If you are quitting because your wife is forcing you to, then your relationship with her is in jeopardy. Same goes for your children. You are going to have some tough mental battles during the next few months, and the addiction will lash out. Decide right now that you are quitting for YOU, because your life and health depend on it. Our families didn't make us addicts, so they shouldn't be the target of any rage that may happen. Bring it here. We can handle it.
Shoot me a PM if I can help you any way. Glad you're here.
Welcome aboard Alan. My wife hated my dipping, my sneaking and my lying to her for 33 years. I made the promises and really did want to be a better husband and father but I'm an addict and pure will power wasn't enough. The brotherhood and accountability will help you as it has me. Another comment is that trust has got to be earned and it takes time. Just 2 days ago my wife questioned me if I bought anything besides gas and a drink. That's after 554 days, at first I was offended but then I realized I haven't earned that trust yet.
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Welcome. The posters below have made some good points.Â
Man, I'm no professional, but it seems to me that you and your wife may have some other issues besides just the dip. I mean that sincerely, and I hope it doesn't come across as me being a jerk. I know a lot of guys who dipped for a long time while there wives absolutely despised the addiction. I was in that group. She hated it. She knew what it did. But would she leave me (or even threaten to do so) because of it? Not sure why, but hell no. Same goes for all of the other guys I knew.
I point out that observation for a few reasons. Quitting prompted me to change a whole bunch of things in my life. All for the better. I reevaluated a bunch of relationships and personal attitudes toward things. I hope that you can do the same thing.Â
If you are quitting because your wife is forcing you to, then your relationship with her is in jeopardy. Same goes for your children. You are going to have some tough mental battles during the next few months, and the addiction will lash out. Decide right now that you are quitting for YOU, because your life and health depend on it. Our families didn't make us addicts, so they shouldn't be the target of any rage that may happen. Bring it here. We can handle it.
Shoot me a PM if I can help you any way. Glad you're here.
Welcome aboard Alan. My wife hated my dipping, my sneaking and my lying to her for 33 years. I made the promises and really did want to be a better husband and father but I'm an addict and pure will power wasn't enough. The brotherhood and accountability will help you as it has me. Another comment is that trust has got to be earned and it takes time. Just 2 days ago my wife questioned me if I bought anything besides gas and a drink. That's after 554 days, at first I was offended but then I realized I haven't earned that trust yet.
Welcome Alan. Nice job posting roll today. If you want to quit then this place will help you do it. But YOU will have to do it. Not for your wife, not for your kids, not for..... fill in the blank. This quittin is not easy and you will have to batten down the hatches hold this quit on your own. No one can do it for you. That I can assure you.
I used to have fights with my wife I was a ninja dipper... lied, hid it, fight, repeat, etc. Over time the fights got to be less and less as she found out that I was not quitting because of the fights. She could not make me quit. She basically stopped hassling me about it. It was not until "I" had enough and could not go another day addicted to the poison can that I was able to get my quit on.
Funny thing is that when I was using the poison I used to think that I was "getting away with it". I would hide the stuff and dip in private. Thinking that my wife never knew. Now as I sit here 108 days quit under my belt.. I realize that she just ignored it all to keep the peace knew I was dipping all along.
Bottom line is... this is YOUR life and if YOU want it back... then YOU have to take it back! This is yours for the taking brother! Trust me when I tell you that you can do this. Focus ODAAT you got this! Quit with you today.
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Welcome. The posters below have made some good points.
Man, I'm no professional, but it seems to me that you and your wife may have some other issues besides just the dip. I mean that sincerely, and I hope it doesn't come across as me being a jerk. I know a lot of guys who dipped for a long time while there wives absolutely despised the addiction. I was in that group. She hated it. She knew what it did. But would she leave me (or even threaten to do so) because of it? Not sure why, but hell no. Same goes for all of the other guys I knew.
I point out that observation for a few reasons. Quitting prompted me to change a whole bunch of things in my life. All for the better. I reevaluated a bunch of relationships and personal attitudes toward things. I hope that you can do the same thing.
If you are quitting because your wife is forcing you to, then your relationship with her is in jeopardy. Same goes for your children. You are going to have some tough mental battles during the next few months, and the addiction will lash out. Decide right now that you are quitting for YOU, because your life and health depend on it. Our families didn't make us addicts, so they shouldn't be the target of any rage that may happen. Bring it here. We can handle it.
Shoot me a PM if I can help you any way. Glad you're here.
Thing have been messes up in the past. There have always been our issues but dip was the biggest thing. Id lie about because i wouldnt want to deal with the fight and aftermath that would come. There is no dought that my wife and myself have some issues but im will to do some work and go thepught hell. Its not for my wife right noq i could really care less what she asks. Its my son and daughter that will keep me going. I want to be able to play ball with my son, watch my daughter dance and to be able to see both of them grow into adults and have families of there own. Thats why I AM QUIT
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Welcome. The posters below have made some good points.Â
Man, I'm no professional, but it seems to me that you and your wife may have some other issues besides just the dip. I mean that sincerely, and I hope it doesn't come across as me being a jerk. I know a lot of guys who dipped for a long time while there wives absolutely despised the addiction. I was in that group. She hated it. She knew what it did. But would she leave me (or even threaten to do so) because of it? Not sure why, but hell no. Same goes for all of the other guys I knew.
I point out that observation for a few reasons. Quitting prompted me to change a whole bunch of things in my life. All for the better. I reevaluated a bunch of relationships and personal attitudes toward things. I hope that you can do the same thing.Â
If you are quitting because your wife is forcing you to, then your relationship with her is in jeopardy. Same goes for your children. You are going to have some tough mental battles during the next few months, and the addiction will lash out. Decide right now that you are quitting for YOU, because your life and health depend on it. Our families didn't make us addicts, so they shouldn't be the target of any rage that may happen. Bring it here. We can handle it.
Shoot me a PM if I can help you any way. Glad you're here.
Welcome aboard Alan. My wife hated my dipping, my sneaking and my lying to her for 33 years. I made the promises and really did want to be a better husband and father but I'm an addict and pure will power wasn't enough. The brotherhood and accountability will help you as it has me. Another comment is that trust has got to be earned and it takes time. Just 2 days ago my wife questioned me if I bought anything besides gas and a drink. That's after 554 days, at first I was offended but then I realized I haven't earned that trust yet.
I have to say that with everythIng i have seen so far, it looks like im not alone with the same issues.
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Welcome. The posters below have made some good points.Â
Man, I'm no professional, but it seems to me that you and your wife may have some other issues besides just the dip. I mean that sincerely, and I hope it doesn't come across as me being a jerk. I know a lot of guys who dipped for a long time while there wives absolutely despised the addiction. I was in that group. She hated it. She knew what it did. But would she leave me (or even threaten to do so) because of it? Not sure why, but hell no. Same goes for all of the other guys I knew.
I point out that observation for a few reasons. Quitting prompted me to change a whole bunch of things in my life. All for the better. I reevaluated a bunch of relationships and personal attitudes toward things. I hope that you can do the same thing.Â
If you are quitting because your wife is forcing you to, then your relationship with her is in jeopardy. Same goes for your children. You are going to have some tough mental battles during the next few months, and the addiction will lash out. Decide right now that you are quitting for YOU, because your life and health depend on it. Our families didn't make us addicts, so they shouldn't be the target of any rage that may happen. Bring it here. We can handle it.
Shoot me a PM if I can help you any way. Glad you're here.
Welcome aboard Alan. My wife hated my dipping, my sneaking and my lying to her for 33 years. I made the promises and really did want to be a better husband and father but I'm an addict and pure will power wasn't enough. The brotherhood and accountability will help you as it has me. Another comment is that trust has got to be earned and it takes time. Just 2 days ago my wife questioned me if I bought anything besides gas and a drink. That's after 554 days, at first I was offended but then I realized I haven't earned that trust yet.
I have to say that with everythIng i have seen so far, it looks like im not alone with the same issues.
You really can "be quit" Alan.
It's real simple but most likely the hardest damn thing you've ever done!
We do this: ODAAT. that is: one day at a time.
Do or do not...there is no try!
Read all you can in here.
You've got to do this for YOU and only You.
IF you do it for the wife, then when things are not perfect with the wife, you'll cave, guarenteed!
Do this for YOU brother...because YOU are worth it!
You're another Addict...just like us.
I dipped 30 yrs, 1-2 cans a day. Never had a stoppage. This is my first an last QUIT. I do this the KTC way. It has saved my life and has enabled my to be a better husband and father, not to mention it has made my job easier.
At day 502 I can say that it is great to have my freedom back from the nictoine bitch!
All you have to do is quit Today. Just Today Alan.
Tomorrow is not real and we don't do the past.
Today is a Gift, that's why it's called the Present.
Post Roll Alan, Keep your word all day, wake in the a.m. and repeat.
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Alan, nice job of posting roll early today. We post it every day, rain or shine. That is our admission ticket to KTC and the map to the path of quit. Simple. You have been given some pretty sound advice so far from some folks that know of what they speak. Take it to heart. Read all you can and prepare yourself for the first few days of walking down the quit path...it has some bumps in the path, but it is navigable. Now look up at the top right hand side of this page and you will see Inbox(1). Open the tab and you will find a personal message from me with my telephone number. Call me before you decide to get a can "one last time"...deal?
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Welcome. The posters below have made some good points.Â
Man, I'm no professional, but it seems to me that you and your wife may have some other issues besides just the dip. I mean that sincerely, and I hope it doesn't come across as me being a jerk. I know a lot of guys who dipped for a long time while there wives absolutely despised the addiction. I was in that group. She hated it. She knew what it did. But would she leave me (or even threaten to do so) because of it? Not sure why, but hell no. Same goes for all of the other guys I knew.
I point out that observation for a few reasons. Quitting prompted me to change a whole bunch of things in my life. All for the better. I reevaluated a bunch of relationships and personal attitudes toward things. I hope that you can do the same thing.Â
If you are quitting because your wife is forcing you to, then your relationship with her is in jeopardy. Same goes for your children. You are going to have some tough mental battles during the next few months, and the addiction will lash out. Decide right now that you are quitting for YOU, because your life and health depend on it. Our families didn't make us addicts, so they shouldn't be the target of any rage that may happen. Bring it here. We can handle it.
Shoot me a PM if I can help you any way. Glad you're here.
Welcome aboard Alan. My wife hated my dipping, my sneaking and my lying to her for 33 years. I made the promises and really did want to be a better husband and father but I'm an addict and pure will power wasn't enough. The brotherhood and accountability will help you as it has me. Another comment is that trust has got to be earned and it takes time. Just 2 days ago my wife questioned me if I bought anything besides gas and a drink. That's after 554 days, at first I was offended but then I realized I haven't earned that trust yet.
I have to say that with everythIng i have seen so far, it looks like im not alone with the same issues.
You really can "be quit" Alan.
It's real simple but most likely the hardest damn thing you've ever done!
We do this: ODAAT. that is: one day at a time.
Do or do not...there is no try!
Read all you can in here.
You've got to do this for YOU and only You.
IF you do it for the wife, then when things are not perfect with the wife, you'll cave, guarenteed!
Do this for YOU brother...because YOU are worth it!
You're another Addict...just like us.
I dipped 30 yrs, 1-2 cans a day. Never had a stoppage. This is my first an last QUIT. I do this the KTC way. It has saved my life and has enabled my to be a better husband and father, not to mention it has made my job easier.
At day 502 I can say that it is great to have my freedom back from the nictoine bitch!
All you have to do is quit Today. Just Today Alan.
Tomorrow is not real and we don't do the past.
Today is a Gift, that's why it's called the Present.
Post Roll Alan, Keep your word all day, wake in the a.m. and repeat.
^^^^^ The gospel, in plain English.
Alan, you're absolutely right. We have amazing similarities. There are no special butterflies. I think that's why this place works. Even thought our paths and lifestyles are completely diverse, we share common ground and past failures. It's apparent on this site, but even more so in person. I've made some friends here and met quite a few members. It's quite baffling.
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So Im almost a full 24 hours without nic. I feel like shit. But i have not wanted to be quit more. Thanks to all of you. Im completely amazed by some of the thing that have been said. You guys and girla are the shit
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So Im almost a full 24 hours without nic. I feel like shit. But i have not wanted to be quit more. Thanks to all of you. Im completely amazed by some of the thing that have been said. You guys and girla are the shit
You are doing it. Gut through this, and use all the tools. Have some seeds or fake stuff or candy to keep your mouth occupied. Get on here and read. Then read some more.
You've got this brother.
IF you need another number, PM me.
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So Im almost a full 24 hours without nic. I feel like shit. But i have not wanted to be quit more. Thanks to all of you. Im completely amazed by some of the thing that have been said. You guys and girla are the shit
You are doing it. Gut through this, and use all the tools. Have some seeds or fake stuff or candy to keep your mouth occupied. Get on here and read. Then read some more.
You've got this brother.
IF you need another number, PM me.
I had a Girla once. I fed him bananners and kept him in the bathroom. Damn thing used to gnaw on the toilet seat and fling poo at the cat. When he used my wifes heirloom guest towels with the lace fringe as a ball gag on the unwilling mailman I wondered if I may have a problem.
As for advice? go live your life, you don't do that shit anymore. Your not "quitting" you have quit.
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So Im almost a full 24 hours without nic. I feel like shit. But i have not wanted to be quit more. Thanks to all of you. Im completely amazed by some of the thing that have been said. You guys and girla are the shit
You are doing it. Gut through this, and use all the tools. Have some seeds or fake stuff or candy to keep your mouth occupied. Get on here and read. Then read some more.
You've got this brother.
IF you need another number, PM me.
I had a Girla once. I fed him bananners and kept him in the bathroom. Damn thing used to gnaw on the toilet seat and fling poo at the cat. When he used my wifes heirloom guest towels with the lace fringe as a ball gag on the unwilling mailman I wondered if I may have a problem.
As for advice? go live your life, you don't do that shit anymore. Your not "quitting" you have quit.
LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!! You gotta watch them girla's.
You got this Alan. You have my numbers, dont hesitate to use them. Im here for ya pal. I quit with you
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So Im almost a full 24 hours without nic. I feel like shit. But i have not wanted to be quit more. Thanks to all of you. Im completely amazed by some of the thing that have been said. You guys and girla are the shit
You are doing it. Gut through this, and use all the tools. Have some seeds or fake stuff or candy to keep your mouth occupied. Get on here and read. Then read some more.
You've got this brother.
IF you need another number, PM me.
I had a Girla once. I fed him bananners and kept him in the bathroom. Damn thing used to gnaw on the toilet seat and fling poo at the cat. When he used my wifes heirloom guest towels with the lace fringe as a ball gag on the unwilling mailman I wondered if I may have a problem.
As for advice? go live your life, you don't do that shit anymore. Your not "quitting" you have quit.
Just saw this!!!! Got to love my monkey fingers. Still alive and doing well.
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Keep it going bro! I quit with you man! Look me up any time you need it. You are one badass! Welcome to the Nic Killers!
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Alan - Alan is a married quitter and has been for the past 5 years. His wife has given him two crazy kids. He says his daughter Lena will kill him by the time he’s 40. She's only 4. His son Trevin is one badass little guy and loves most everything he does. He thanks his wife for being there through it all. In his time, Alan has seen some nasty and bad stuff happen to people and goes on to say, “...but when you are the one that it happens to, you remember the ones that stand beside you holding your hand, helping you up, and pushing you forward.” He says this perfectly describes his Wife, and he is so much better off because she has stood by him.
Alan started dipping when he was 19 but jumped around from Skoal to Redman to Beachnut and to his favorite Grizzly Wintergreen. He says, “OHHHH I loved that burn!! I tried to quit multiple times but always within a week or a couple of months I was back into my old habits.” How familiar does this sound, anyone?? He made his 100 days and is going to give it his all. He credits Punkin who has really helped him out a lot. “He helped pull my head out and see that life is better without the witch.” Alan admits to not being a big social person and not one to ask for help easily. Alan is a Loss Prevention Supervisor for a major retailer and also has a true passion for being a Paramedic/Firefighter. Alan quit for many reasons, one of which is that he never wanted his kids seeing him stuff his lip with dip again. Alan drives a 16 year old “asian boy car” because he had to sell his truck after getting laid off in 2010. He is practical and says it gets him from Point A to B...but quickly admits the cool massive spoiler adds at least 15 horsepower. How much horsepower will he add to the Killer Express?! He is grateful to everyone here at KTC. Alan, you’ve earned it!! Welcome Aboard!!
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Alan - Alan is a married quitter and has been for the past 5 years. His wife has given him two crazy kids. He says his daughter Lena will kill him by the time he’s 40. She's only 4. His son Trevin is one badass little guy and loves most everything he does. He thanks his wife for being there through it all. In his time, Alan has seen some nasty and bad stuff happen to people and goes on to say, “...but when you are the one that it happens to, you remember the ones that stand beside you holding your hand, helping you up, and pushing you forward.” He says this perfectly describes his Wife, and he is so much better off because she has stood by him.
Alan started dipping when he was 19 but jumped around from Skoal to Redman to Beachnut and to his favorite Grizzly Wintergreen. He says, “OHHHH I loved that burn!! I tried to quit multiple times but always within a week or a couple of months I was back into my old habits.” How familiar does this sound, anyone?? He made his 100 days and is going to give it his all. He credits Punkin who has really helped him out a lot. “He helped pull my head out and see that life is better without the witch.” Alan admits to not being a big social person and not one to ask for help easily. Alan is a Loss Prevention Supervisor for a major retailer and also has a true passion for being a Paramedic/Firefighter. Alan quit for many reasons, one of which is that he never wanted his kids seeing him stuff his lip with dip again. Alan drives a 16 year old “asian boy car” because he had to sell his truck after getting laid off in 2010. He is practical and says it gets him from Point A to B...but quickly admits the cool massive spoiler adds at least 15 horsepower. How much horsepower will he add to the Killer Express?! He is grateful to everyone here at KTC. Alan, you’ve earned it!! Welcome Aboard!!
Congrats, Alan!! Way to do it!! Keep it up.
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Alan - Alan is a married quitter and has been for the past 5 years. His wife has given him two crazy kids. He says his daughter Lena will kill him by the time he’s 40. She's only 4. His son Trevin is one badass little guy and loves most everything he does. He thanks his wife for being there through it all. In his time, Alan has seen some nasty and bad stuff happen to people and goes on to say, “...but when you are the one that it happens to, you remember the ones that stand beside you holding your hand, helping you up, and pushing you forward.” He says this perfectly describes his Wife, and he is so much better off because she has stood by him.
Alan started dipping when he was 19 but jumped around from Skoal to Redman to Beachnut and to his favorite Grizzly Wintergreen. He says, “OHHHH I loved that burn!! I tried to quit multiple times but always within a week or a couple of months I was back into my old habits.” How familiar does this sound, anyone?? He made his 100 days and is going to give it his all. He credits Punkin who has really helped him out a lot. “He helped pull my head out and see that life is better without the witch.” Alan admits to not being a big social person and not one to ask for help easily. Alan is a Loss Prevention Supervisor for a major retailer and also has a true passion for being a Paramedic/Firefighter. Alan quit for many reasons, one of which is that he never wanted his kids seeing him stuff his lip with dip again. Alan drives a 16 year old “asian boy car” because he had to sell his truck after getting laid off in 2010. He is practical and says it gets him from Point A to B...but quickly admits the cool massive spoiler adds at least 15 horsepower. How much horsepower will he add to the Killer Express?! He is grateful to everyone here at KTC. Alan, you’ve earned it!! Welcome Aboard!!
Congrats, Alan!! Way to do it!! Keep it up.
Congrats Alan
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KTC got me through things the first time with truly quilting. A year a ago I started to be on the forum. Learning how not not be a fucking slave to this witch. 300 days. I hit that mark. I was going to be quit for life. Being the young dumb ass that I am and not being man enough to keep away from this shit. I was a paramedic and while driving home one morning, I stopped off to get gas. And there it was. My enemy was calling my name. The one thing that destroyed my life, tearing my wife away from me, showing my kids what a monster looks like. I caved. I feel back to old ways. Chew, heavy drinking, lying, and the worst not being a fucking man. Now because of my weakness, I'm not with the woman I love, she with someone else, I barely get to see my kids and I'm a 29 year old living with his parents. All of my issues started when I took the first dip back in 06. But now I have not had a dip in 2 days. I forgot what freedom and trust felt like. I'm screaming out to the suck, asking for it and wanting to feel the freedom again. Help me keep this promise that I have made to myself.
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You only get one intro. Post this is your old one. I read your original intro thread and you had a lot of badass supporters. You pretty much disappeared after making the HOF. What are you going to do different this time? 86 posts in 300 days of quit is your first clue.
PS. It sounds like you have/had a lot of personal shit going on but It sounds liked you learned that Nic doesn't make any of that better. Right?
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You have to own it. This only works for those who help themselves. We can support but you and only you can make your quit happen and for it to stick you have to earn it.
How bad do you want your freedom back?
What are you willing to do (differently) to earn it?
Quitting this shit isn't easy, it takes balls, determination, perseverance, accountability and the right fucking attitude.
It sounds like you want this but talking about it and acting on it are two entirely differently things. It's only through your actions (posting roll early everyday, reading everything you can on this web-site, updating your intro, getting on live chat etc.) that you will truly become successful.
PM me and I'll support you but you must make this a priority
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I just combined your two intros. One intro per quitter. You have to own this.
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I didn't have the balls to stay quit. There is nothing more that want then to quit this hit for life. I've been staying away from booze my old stores and getting gas at the lumps instead of going inside to pay.
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I didn't have the balls to stay quit. There is nothing more that want then to quit this hit for life. I've been staying away from booze my old stores and getting gas at the lumps instead of going inside to pay.
There are three questions to answer. They are for your good, and to help build the trust back that you lost. I remember you going though some really tough stuff. Then you quit posting. I'm glad you found your way back. Get this dealt with, for good, and other stuff will be good too. I'll be glad to see you do this. Start with the questions. If you can't find them, someone will post them if you ask.
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You need to change the way you think, Alan. I am a firm believer in the power of positive thinking. I always hate it when I ask someone, "Hey...How's it going?" and they say "Ohhhh....it's going". I will be the first to tell you, "its going great....best day yet!"
You DO have the balls to quit. You just need to reach down and find them.
You screwed up....big time. Now....let's forget for moment what got you here and concentrate on what can be done from this point forward.
What's it going to be Alan?
Freedom or slavery?
Calmness or turmoil?
Life or death?
What say you?
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sounds like a great time for something positive in your life. DO THIS FOR YOU!
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I didn't have the balls to stay quit. There is nothing more that want then to quit this hit for life. I've been staying away from booze my old stores and getting gas at the lumps instead of going inside to pay.
There are three questions to answer. They are for your good, and to help build the trust back that you lost. I remember you going though some really tough stuff. Then you quit posting. I'm glad you found your way back. Get this dealt with, for good, and other stuff will be good too. I'll be glad to see you do this. Start with the questions. If you can't find them, someone will post them if you ask.
511 Days Quit. Alan, Quit for YOURSELF. Embrace the suck, enjoy the first days of suck. Post roll call everyday. Promise to YOURSELF and all of us that you won't use today. Reach down deep and find your balls and BE A BADD A$$ LIKE THE REST OF US. Good luck to you my brother. 'lick me'
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Day 14 quit here after 38 years with the nic bitch! Love your wife stay married to her! Divorce the nic bitch she's the one that owns your ass! Man up you got this shit and I quit with you my brother!
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WELP Day 1. Decided on my way home not to pick up a tin. Makes me depressed to put a dip in my mouth more than enjoyable.
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WELP Day 1. Decided on my way home not to pick up a tin. Makes me depressed to put a dip in my mouth more than enjoyable.
I quit with you my brother!
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You need to change the way you think, Alan. I am a firm believer in the power of positive thinking. I always hate it when I ask someone, "Hey...How's it going?" and they say "Ohhhh....it's going". I will be the first to tell you, "its going great....best day yet!"
You DO have the balls to quit. You just need to reach down and find them.
You screwed up....big time. Now....let's forget for moment what got you here and concentrate on what can be done from this point forward.
What's it going to be Alan?
Freedom or slavery?
Calmness or turmoil?
Life or death?
What say you?
I love what redtrain wrote, the power of positive thinking. I am going to add to that. The men and women that are the most successful on this site are positive, honest and .... help others. When you get involved in the site and get involved in others your quit becomes successful. This means that you don't leave when "you got this". You stay and give it all away. Over and over and over.
You can do this. Bring the quit everyday. The nic bitch should fear you being on this site.
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You need to change the way you think, Alan. I am a firm believer in the power of positive thinking. I always hate it when I ask someone, "Hey...How's it going?" and they say "Ohhhh....it's going". I will be the first to tell you, "its going great....best day yet!"
You DO have the balls to quit. You just need to reach down and find them.
You screwed up....big time. Now....let's forget for moment what got you here and concentrate on what can be done from this point forward.
What's it going to be Alan?
Freedom or slavery?
Calmness or turmoil?
Life or death?
What say you?
I love what redtrain wrote, the power of positive thinking. I am going to add to that. The men and women that are the most successful on this site are positive, honest and .... help others. When you get involved in the site and get involved in others your quit becomes successful. This means that you don't leave when "you got this". You stay and give it all away. Over and over and over.
You can do this. Bring the quit everyday. The nic bitch should fear you being on this site.
Problem: you're not answering the normal 3 questions, in either your new April class or your old Jan 14 class, and you're not even posting roll anywhere . That won't do. Nobody can help you if you don't follow the program dude. Get with it and you'll get help. But you gotta want it or real man. Nobody's gonna save you but you. Several times you've called out for help then run away instead of digging in. Don't be a fake.
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You need to change the way you think, Alan. I am a firm believer in the power of positive thinking. I always hate it when I ask someone, "Hey...How's it going?" and they say "Ohhhh....it's going". I will be the first to tell you, "its going great....best day yet!"
You DO have the balls to quit. You just need to reach down and find them.
You screwed up....big time. Now....let's forget for moment what got you here and concentrate on what can be done from this point forward.
What's it going to be Alan?
Freedom or slavery?
Calmness or turmoil?
Life or death?
What say you?
I love what redtrain wrote, the power of positive thinking. I am going to add to that. The men and women that are the most successful on this site are positive, honest and .... help others. When you get involved in the site and get involved in others your quit becomes successful. This means that you don't leave when "you got this". You stay and give it all away. Over and over and over.
You can do this. Bring the quit everyday. The nic bitch should fear you being on this site.
Problem: you're not answering the normal 3 questions, in either your new April class or your old Jan 14 class, and you're not even posting roll anywhere . That won't do. Nobody can help you if you don't follow the program dude. Get with it and you'll get help. But you gotta want it or real man. Nobody's gonna save you but you. Several times you've called out for help then run away instead of digging in. Don't be a fake.
You'd be a fool to ignore the support and advice the above champions of quit have gone out of their way to offer you. This isnt a fucking joke. Its your life man. Get serious.