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Community => Introductions => Topic started by: Woody79 on December 16, 2013, 05:07:00 PM
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i'd like to introduce my self. My name is Woody, and i'm 34 years old. I've struggled with tabacco addiction on and off for the last 7-10 years. Most recenctly was two years + ninja dipping at the office, hiding my habit from my wife. I've tried to quit a number of times on my own, again in secrecy. Hoping that i could win the battle before it did any damage to me or my relationships. I found this site 3 days ago, and after reading other stories similar to my own, decided that i needed support, not just from this community but from my family as well, if i was going to quit for good. So yesterday i sat my wife down and told her my dirty little secret. She was hurt, and rightfully so, but i really believe it was a first big step in the right direction. To be honest, that secret has weighed over me more than the threat of cancer... now that being said, reading on this site has made me uncomfortably aware of the seriousness of the threats that dipping brings. I want to stop. For me, for my family and for our future.
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You can do this. You took a very important step by bringing it into the light of day. Put on your hard hat and try not to lick the windows.
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Woody, I love your honesty. It has to feel good to come clean. Congrats on your great decision.
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Great job Woddy and welcome to the KTC family. My story was very similar to yours. I was a ninja dipper for 16 years, but I tried to quit as a ninja too. That didn't work out too well, so I think you are doing it right.
I had a realization this weekend. Before quitting and before confessing my addiction to Mrs Evil, I was always paranoid about getting caught and would go to great lengths to hide my dirty little habit/addiction.
One area that was always difficult to hide was my car. It smelled heavily like wintergreen or mint, yet I had no air freshener. I hid my spitter in the center armrest, under the removeable little try, and underneath some papers and shit. The carpet and even that little tray, were littered with pounds of dip pubes (some call them shards). Every time my wife wanted to take my car I was on edge. Fortunately she hated my car and rarely drive it, but since I have OCD every time I would get out I had to say outloud (go through my ninja checklist), "Dip's away. Spit's way". Checking those two things made me feel slightly better about not being caught.
Well, I bought a new car in September and it has never had any dip in it, nor a spitter. Mrs Evil loves this car and wants to take it all of the time. How do I feel about that? Wonderful! Take it. I have nothing to hide.
Day 4 is kick ass. There is no point in turning back now. Reach out when you need to.
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Woody, congratulations! You have a very bright future One Freaking Day At A Time. Don't think about anything more than that. Tomorrow may never come, so only concentrate on today and more specifically NOW. We are here to help.
Mogul
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Great intro woody. It sounds like you are bringing the desire to quit. Now read all you can on this site so that you can learn the tools. Make sure to read the entire WELCOME CENTER. Posting roll become the backbone of your quit. Do it everyday and do it early. If you need any help let me know.
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Great decision to quit woody and welcome aboard.
It takes guts to admit you need help to quit. That is why we all struggled by ourselves. Ego. Once you realize that it is ok to ask for help and you open your quit to KTC, then you quickly find you are on the path to quit. It is the path to freedom!
I was a ninja dipper also... Told the wife early on in my quit. Best thing I ever did. Excellent decision there. We put all the BS lies behind us and move forward.
The plan is simple... Wake up, post roll and stay quit for that day. You can do that. If I can do it then so can you.
QLF today!
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Hey Woody. If you really want to quit, if your truly serious, then you are in the right place. KTC reaks of success stories. You have already taken the correct first steps of introducing yourself and posting roll. Now get around the site and read all that you can. Arm yourself with the necessary tools to quit. Gaining knowledge and also phone numbers for support are 2 big tools. I know you can do it because we have done it. One day at a time.
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Woody I respect your honesty with your wife, and your courage. I'm with you in this quit, as are a lot of strong quitters. Get yourself entrenched in this program and join us all in earning our freedom one day at a time (odaat). Glad to be quitting with you!
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Hey Woody. I'm in your quit group and am glad to be quit with you today. Great job of already posting roll and introducing yourself. I feel like my situation was very similar to yours--I hid it from everyone for a long time and the best part about quitting so far is that I've been the real me, not the me that needs to find that extra time alone before coming home after work, nor the me that stays up extra late to get that last bit of nicotine. It's tough and I still crave it but the craves are less powerful and less frequent on day 24 than they were on day 4. Hang in there and keep posting roll. I'm going to PM my number.
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Hi Woody- Im in your March quit group. I am like you- actually same age, 2 kids and ninja dipper. I broke down 2 weeks ago and told my wife id been back at the can (she thought I had quit about 10 months ago). the one thing I am doing different this time is KTC.
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Welcome to KTC Woody. Nice job of posting roll in your March quit group today. Since you have been reading on the site, all I will say is to look up at your Inbox(1) tab and open it up. It is a message from me with my telephone number. Call it 24/7 when you need someone to talk to. You will get alot more numbers from the boys in your new group, as these numbers will be your lifeline at some point in the future. Congrats on the best decision you will ever make.
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To everyone that took the time to post a reply and offer encouragement/support, THANK YOU. I've been having a rough day; started poking around on the forum and came back to see my post. It was only then that i saw all of your responses. The best thing for a bad day. Fired me up.
Question for everyone. I used to dip with my buddies on our weekly guys night. Went last night because i didn't want to stop hanging out, just because i've stopped dipping. I succeeded in staying quit, but last night sucked. Can anyone relate?/have advice on how to deal with this? My buddies know i've quit and are supportive, but it's tough being around it. I'm not sure if it's just another situation that i need to re-adjust to, or if i should avoid hanging out until i'm stronger. Would appreciate some insight.
Stay quit.
-Woody
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Woody, I'd definitely advise staying away from that situation a while. You are entering in to so e very hard days. And you don't want to be adding to the already ever present stress. It might be that soon you are very tired and just want to get home in the evenings and go to sleep. That's pretty common. If that happens, then embrace it. Every second your asleep, is one that your not awake experiencing the suck. And in the evenings be sure to rake something that will help you sleep sound through the night. Benadryl. Tylenol PM. Etc. a good night sleep makes the day go by better. Also, I'd advise you to find so e fake alternative. I like Smokey Mountain. Just kinda gives you so etching to so to satisfy the oral habit part of dipping. And again. Avoid the situations that add a hardship to your Quit. Your just not ready yet. But you certainly will be soon. And hey. You said you'd text if you needed to. You already needed them. That's why a sent them. You need a phone full of folks to contact when those times come up. And they will. Glad yomade it through that. And I'm proud to be quit with you.