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Title: Tired of the stress
Post by: cdk on October 20, 2015, 06:34:00 PM
On my third day of no tobacco use and am hoping to make this work for good. I am 23 and have been dipping pretty regularly for the last 5 and a half years. Whew can't believe I've done this shit that long. I started dipping after drinking with friends back then but it has evolved into a closet habit I am ashamed of. I always justified it that I didn't do it that much (at most 1-2 cans/week rarely more), but I have to admit to myself that I am hooked. I was hooked immediately when I tried it for the first time.

I used dip as a stress reliever but now I've figured out that it has always caused more stress than it did good. ( constantly hiding the habit, worried about potential health problems etc.) Recently one of my parents was diagnosed with terminal cancer (not related to tobacco), and now it is the time to kill this horrible habit and minimize my risk as much as possible.


Here's to no more.....
Title: Re: Tired of the stress
Post by: fowlmouth on October 20, 2015, 06:40:00 PM
Fantastic decision Mr. cdk! You won't regret it!

Here is the KEY to the site: post roll every damn day (EDD). Posting roll is your promise to us that you will not use nicotine for 24 hours--just 24 hours--and then you keep your word for 24 hours.

So head to the most recent January roll post (here (http://forum.killthecan.org/single/?p=9378308&t=11341759)) and post something like this:

cdk - day 3

And then wake up and post your day 4 tomorrow!

Proud to quit with you cdk!
Title: Re: Tired of the stress
Post by: Nomore1959 on October 20, 2015, 06:47:00 PM
Quote from: cdk
On my third day of no tobacco use and am hoping to make this work for good. I am 23 and have been dipping pretty regularly for the last 5 and a half years. Whew can't believe I've done this shit that long. I started dipping after drinking with friends back then but it has evolved into a closet habit I am ashamed of. I always justified it that I didn't do it that much (at most 1-2 cans/week rarely more), but I have to admit to myself that I am hooked. I was hooked immediately when I tried it for the first time.

I used dip as a stress reliever but now I've figured out that it has always caused more stress than it did good. ( constantly hiding the habit, worried about potential health problems etc.) Recently one of my parents was diagnosed with terminal cancer (not related to tobacco), and now it is the time to kill this horrible habit and minimize my risk as much as possible.


Here's to no more.....
You rang? (Kidding)

Good decision, and well done in figuring out a couple key points. Dip doesn't relieve stress, it creates stress for when you are not dipping -- nicotine is like that. And hooked is the right word, we are all nicotine addicts here.

Read up around the site, what to expect, words of wisdom, hall of fame speeches.

Post roll*, your promise to yourself and all here that you will not use nicotine for 24 hours. Get to know other quitters and exchange digits (PM me if you want).

Drink lots of water, exercise, let your rage out here, not at friends and family. We can quit one day at a time, every damn day.


* you fit with the January 2016 quit group, there is a rage fest there right now. It will blow over, and the Dogs will welcome and support you and your quit. The rage is about accountability, and general quit rage. (Again feel free to PM me to make sense of it).
Title: Re: Tired of the stress
Post by: fowlmouth on October 20, 2015, 07:07:00 PM
You can just post your promise here if you'd like! Ignore that quit drama for now!
Title: Re: Tired of the stress
Post by: cdk on October 20, 2015, 07:18:00 PM
Thank you! Think I figured it out. Will have to get used to it!
Title: Re: Tired of the stress
Post by: KingNothing on October 20, 2015, 07:22:00 PM
Quote from: cdk
Thank you! Think I figured it out. Will have to get used to it!
You got it on the first try CDK, nicely done. I promise you ODAAT (one day at a time) will get it done. This gets so much better, I can't even begin to tell you about it. You will be amazed what you're capable of without poison coursing through your veins at all times.
Title: Re: Tired of the stress
Post by: JB65 on October 20, 2015, 08:10:00 PM
Quote from: KingNothing
Quote from: cdk
Thank you! Think I figured it out. Will have to get used to it!
You got it on the first try CDK, nicely done. I promise you ODAAT (one day at a time) will get it done. This gets so much better, I can't even begin to tell you about it. You will be amazed what you're capable of without poison coursing through your veins at all times.
CDK, glad to see you here. Nice job on the quit. January is full of great quitters who get it and will help you.

I'm so glad you're so young and so friggin smart to realize dip is no good. Glad you didnt wait until you were and old f#$ like me?.

Proud to be quit with you today
Title: Re: Tired of the stress
Post by: canless2014 on October 20, 2015, 08:57:00 PM
CDK, welcome to the battle brother.

I've got good and bad news for you. Good news is you've found the best site for brotherhood and accountability while quitting nicotine that's out there. With KTC as your toolbox, you can post roll and pledge daily to remain nicotine-free. You will always be a nicotine addict, that's the result of a decision you made five years ago. But by committing every day to being a non-user, you're going to improve your life tenfold.

Here's the bad news: This is a damn hard fight. You've gotten past the physical part ... now it's mental, psychological, and emotional. Young guys like us (I'm 22) don't have the best track record here at KTC. I've spent a while thinking about why that is, and I think it's because we have a hard time thinking of "the rest of our lives" without dip, a cig, or a celebratory cigar.

So don't think about that. Put it out of your head. All you've got to do is quit for today, the next 24 hours. Wake up every morning and make the decision, then go post your promise and don't you dare break your word. Then repeat, One Day At A Time.

Quit with you today.
Title: Re: Tired of the stress
Post by: cdk on October 21, 2015, 03:45:00 PM
Thanks all!
I've gone days/weeks without dip before during this crappy addiction, but I've always been brought back with some trigger. Part of this quit is admitting that this isn't just a habit this is an addiction. I think i am going to have trouble fighting the urges in certain situations (after drinking/long drives/golfing/yard work etc) I know the last time I fucked up because I was quit for 2 weeks and threw one in after drinking and watching football with a buddy.

I wont be that weak this time and will keep this promise to myself! Glad to be here
Title: Re: Tired of the stress
Post by: Dundippin on October 21, 2015, 03:57:00 PM
CDK,

I am jealous that you are smart enough at the age of 23 to quit snuff. I quit at 59. You will have many wonderful times not shackled to the habit. Welcome to your freedom.

This a great deal of good advise on this site. Look around.

I quit with you today.
Title: Re: Tired of the stress
Post by: Can_I_Kick_It? on October 21, 2015, 04:43:00 PM
CDK,

We are with you. I quit with you today, but just today. We'll talk about tomorrow, tomorrow.

Don't let that sneaky pimp, Nic, start whispering sweet nothings in your ear. Smack the ish out of him and keep it moving EDD!

DOG house!
Title: Re: Tired of the stress
Post by: quark on October 21, 2015, 04:44:00 PM
Quote from: cdk
I think i am going to have trouble fighting the urges in certain situations (after drinking/long drives/golfing/yard work etc) I know the last time I fucked up because I was quit for 2 weeks and threw one in after drinking and watching football with a buddy.
Stay away from alcohol for the first 50 days, since it lowers you inhibition as well as promotes a buzz crave. Once you have some quit time behind you, then you can try alcohol again.

You may need something to occupy your mouth for your first 100 days during your 'certain situations': I used wintergreen lifesavers pretty constantly, but others swear by the imitation dip.
Title: Re: Tired of the stress
Post by: DjPorkchop on October 21, 2015, 04:48:00 PM
You'll like the DOG House CDK. There is some bad ass quitters in that group. Take care. If there is ever anything you need, PM me.
Title: Re: Tired of the stress
Post by: cdk on October 21, 2015, 07:28:00 PM
Quote from: quark
Quote from: cdk
I think i am going to have trouble fighting the urges in certain situations (after drinking/long drives/golfing/yard work etc) I know the last time I fucked up because I was quit for 2 weeks and threw one in after drinking and watching football with a buddy.
Stay away from alcohol for the first 50 days, since it lowers you inhibition as well as promotes a buzz crave. Once you have some quit time behind you, then you can try alcohol again.

You may need something to occupy your mouth for your first 100 days during your 'certain situations': I used wintergreen lifesavers pretty constantly, but others swear by the imitation dip.
Thanks I should certainly try and cut out, or at least limit the drinking going forward. I don't know which will be harder no dip or no beer... I'm not an alcoholic by any means but am a social drinker. I will keep posted on what I find works for me. I might check out the fake stuff, but then again Id rather go without and get rid of the ritual of packing a lip altogeter even if it's coffee grinds instead of carcinogens...
Title: Re: Tired of the stress
Post by: e=mc^2 on October 22, 2015, 02:13:00 AM
CDK,

Congrats on your decision to quit and welcome to KTC. I quit with you today! If you'd like to exchange numbers lmk and I will PM you mine.
Title: Re: Tired of the stress
Post by: eyehatecope on October 22, 2015, 09:24:00 PM
Quote from: quark
Quote from: cdk
I think i am going to have trouble fighting the urges in certain situations (after drinking/long drives/golfing/yard work etc) I know the last time I fucked up because I was quit for 2 weeks and threw one in after drinking and watching football with a buddy.
Stay away from alcohol for the first 50 days, since it lowers you inhibition as well as promotes a buzz crave. Once you have some quit time behind you, then you can try alcohol again.

You may need something to occupy your mouth for your first 100 days during your 'certain situations': I used wintergreen lifesavers pretty constantly, but others swear by the imitation dip.
This right here. As bad as you don't want to, this will help you tremendously. It was hard for me because God knows I loved my Miller Lite. Now I'm a rum guy in my days of the 70's. I picked the rum up around 50ish after the ML didn't taste exactly right.
Title: Re: Tired of the stress
Post by: Leon on October 22, 2015, 09:38:00 PM
Quote from: eyehatecope
Quote from: quark
Quote from: cdk
I think i am going to have trouble fighting the urges in certain situations (after drinking/long drives/golfing/yard work etc) I know the last time I fucked up because I was quit for 2 weeks and threw one in after drinking and watching football with a buddy.
Stay away from alcohol for the first 50 days, since it lowers you inhibition as well as promotes a buzz crave. Once you have some quit time behind you, then you can try alcohol again.

You may need something to occupy your mouth for your first 100 days during your 'certain situations': I used wintergreen lifesavers pretty constantly, but others swear by the imitation dip.
This right here. As bad as you don't want to, this will help you tremendously. It was hard for me because God knows I loved my Miller Lite. Now I'm a rum guy in my days of the 70's. I picked the rum up around 50ish after the ML didn't taste exactly right.
Alcohol will be the downfall of your quit. It has happened to me. I was two weeks into a quit and decided to have some beer and ended up walking to a c-store to put some of that shredded shit in my mouth.

Welcome to KTC and congrats on making a great decision. I quit with you.

Leon
Title: Re: Tired of the stress
Post by: Rawls on October 22, 2015, 11:57:00 PM
Quote from: cdk
Quote from: quark
Quote from: cdk
I think i am going to have trouble fighting the urges in certain situations (after drinking/long drives/golfing/yard work etc) I know the last time I fucked up because I was quit for 2 weeks and threw one in after drinking and watching football with a buddy.
Stay away from alcohol for the first 50 days, since it lowers you inhibition as well as promotes a buzz crave. Once you have some quit time behind you, then you can try alcohol again.

You may need something to occupy your mouth for your first 100 days during your 'certain situations': I used wintergreen lifesavers pretty constantly, but others swear by the imitation dip.
Thanks I should certainly try and cut out, or at least limit the drinking going forward. I don't know which will be harder no dip or no beer... I'm not an alcoholic by any means but am a social drinker. I will keep posted on what I find works for me. I might check out the fake stuff, but then again Id rather go without and get rid of the ritual of packing a lip altogeter even if it's coffee grinds instead of carcinogens...
Tired of being tired.
Make your decision early....
Just one day at a time.
You can quit anything for a day.
You dont need either one.
Nor do I.
I quit with you today.
Rawls 339
Title: Re: Tired of the stress
Post by: cdk on October 23, 2015, 07:26:00 AM
Quote from: eyehatecope
Quote from: quark
Quote from: cdk
I think i am going to have trouble fighting the urges in certain situations (after drinking/long drives/golfing/yard work etc) I know the last time I fucked up because I was quit for 2 weeks and threw one in after drinking and watching football with a buddy.
Stay away from alcohol for the first 50 days, since it lowers you inhibition as well as promotes a buzz crave. Once you have some quit time behind you, then you can try alcohol again.

You may need something to occupy your mouth for your first 100 days during your 'certain situations': I used wintergreen lifesavers pretty constantly, but others swear by the imitation dip.
This right here. As bad as you don't want to, this will help you tremendously. It was hard for me because God knows I loved my Miller Lite. Now I'm a rum guy in my days of the 70's. I picked the rum up around 50ish after the ML didn't taste exactly right.
Thanks its definitely a good idea. I will cut back on the drinking at home for sure because it's usually just having a few by myself or with my brother that I would end up dipping after.

Cutting back drinking in general is something I want to do to be healthier so might as well start now!
Title: Re: Tired of the stress
Post by: cdk on October 23, 2015, 07:29:00 AM
Quote from: Jeleonowicz
Quote from: eyehatecope
Quote from: quark
Quote from: cdk
I think i am going to have trouble fighting the urges in certain situations (after drinking/long drives/golfing/yard work etc) I know the last time I fucked up because I was quit for 2 weeks and threw one in after drinking and watching football with a buddy.
Stay away from alcohol for the first 50 days, since it lowers you inhibition as well as promotes a buzz crave. Once you have some quit time behind you, then you can try alcohol again.

You may need something to occupy your mouth for your first 100 days during your 'certain situations': I used wintergreen lifesavers pretty constantly, but others swear by the imitation dip.
This right here. As bad as you don't want to, this will help you tremendously. It was hard for me because God knows I loved my Miller Lite. Now I'm a rum guy in my days of the 70's. I picked the rum up around 50ish after the ML didn't taste exactly right.
Alcohol will be the downfall of your quit. It has happened to me. I was two weeks into a quit and decided to have some beer and ended up walking to a c-store to put some of that shredded shit in my mouth.

Welcome to KTC and congrats on making a great decision. I quit with you.

Leon
Thanks that's whats happened to me in the past as well so I need to do something different this time. The excuses definitely start coming out of the woodwork if youre drinking.

Thanks for the advice ( even if you're a UMich fan lol)
Title: Re: Tired of the stress
Post by: cdk on October 27, 2015, 08:28:00 AM
Having some pretty tough urges the last couple days...been a tough week or so


I have been resorting to sunflower seeds and I did try this smokey mountain stuff, which is surprisingly good. It tastes exactly like cope in my opinion. I am eagerly awaiting a shipment of Grinds I ordered online. Anyone try that stuff?
Title: Re: Tired of the stress
Post by: Done4Me on October 27, 2015, 09:26:00 AM
Quote from: cdk
Having some pretty tough urges the last couple days...been a tough week or so


I have been resorting to sunflower seeds and I did try this smokey mountain stuff, which is surprisingly good. It tastes exactly like cope in my opinion. I am eagerly awaiting a shipment of Grinds I ordered online. Anyone try that stuff?
Lots of people like grinds. I never used fake so others will respond. As for urges, you're past the point of physical addiction. It's all head games. Urges/craves are frequent early on but lessen with time. Throw in some gum, hard candy, hot balls, whatever it takes. Redirection also works. Get up and walk outside. Do a different task. Bottom line make it through the day.
Title: Re: Tired of the stress
Post by: cdk on October 27, 2015, 10:00:00 AM
Quote from: Done4Me
Quote from: cdk
Having some pretty tough urges the last couple days...been a tough week or so


I have been resorting to sunflower seeds and I did try this smokey mountain stuff, which is surprisingly good. It tastes exactly like cope in my opinion. I am eagerly awaiting a shipment of Grinds I ordered online. Anyone try that stuff?
Lots of people like grinds. I never used fake so others will respond. As for urges, you're past the point of physical addiction. It's all head games. Urges/craves are frequent early on but lessen with time. Throw in some gum, hard candy, hot balls, whatever it takes. Redirection also works. Get up and walk outside. Do a different task. Bottom line make it through the day.
"Redirection also works. Get up and walk outside. Do a different task. "

Thanks man. I actually really like that advice, and thats something I got to keep drilling in my head. I feel like the physical addiction I have been able to overcome somewhat ok, but the mental part about it right now is the toughest for me. I am trying to use the fake stuff to keep my mind off it, but also dont want to use it as a crutch so I just want it handy for the hard times....


It kind of is like that old adage, "Put yourself in a position to succeed"...Thank you I will carry that on in my quit!

Oh yea screw UNC and Duke!
Title: Re: Tired of the stress
Post by: KingNothing on October 27, 2015, 11:22:00 AM
Quote from: cdk
Quote from: Done4Me
Quote from: cdk
Having some pretty tough urges the last couple days...been a tough week or so


I have been resorting to sunflower seeds and I did try this smokey mountain stuff, which is surprisingly good. It tastes exactly like cope in my opinion. I am eagerly awaiting a shipment of Grinds I ordered online. Anyone try that stuff?
Lots of people like grinds. I never used fake so others will respond. As for urges, you're past the point of physical addiction. It's all head games. Urges/craves are frequent early on but lessen with time. Throw in some gum, hard candy, hot balls, whatever it takes. Redirection also works. Get up and walk outside. Do a different task. Bottom line make it through the day.
"Redirection also works. Get up and walk outside. Do a different task. "

Thanks man. I actually really like that advice, and thats something I got to keep drilling in my head. I feel like the physical addiction I have been able to overcome somewhat ok, but the mental part about it right now is the toughest for me. I am trying to use the fake stuff to keep my mind off it, but also dont want to use it as a crutch so I just want it handy for the hard times....


It kind of is like that old adage, "Put yourself in a position to succeed"...Thank you I will carry that on in my quit!

Oh yea screw UNC and Duke!
I think this is the best part of the quote:
Quote from: Done4Me
Throw in some...hot balls
This is your intro though so take what you need. In all seriousness, do whatever it takes to keep that shit out of your mouth today. Fake, gum, seeds, it doesn't matter. If it keeps you quit it's worth it for now. Eventually you'll tire of the replacements because they aren't laced with addictive poisons like dip was. Nice job reaching out, and share your struggles with your group too because chances are somebody in there is dealing with this too.

Keep it up CDK, it gets better.
Title: Re: Tired of the stress
Post by: Derekc1986 on October 27, 2015, 09:17:00 PM
Derekc1986 - 3 Days Quit for me. I quit with you cdk.
Title: Re: Tired of the stress
Post by: pab1964 on October 27, 2015, 10:43:00 PM
It makes me smile to see someone as young as you kicking this bitch ass. See, she kicked my ass for 38 year's. That's hard to believe and I'm damn sure not proud of it. But I am damn sure proud of the 304 days of freedom because of my brothers and sister's and all the tools here at ktc! You can and will beat this if you post early every damn day and concentrate on one day at a time! Damn proud of you! Quit on!
Title: Re: Tired of the stress
Post by: cdk on November 24, 2015, 12:05:00 AM
I've been having a difficult time with the quit just like many ppl I am sure, but today I got the kick in the ass I think I needed to keep this going.

I went to the dentist for a first time visit and came clean about ditching the habit etc etc. I asked for an in depth oral screening in order to make me feel a little better. Good news on that front that my mouth is in good shape and he told me it doesn't look like there's been any damage. Thank God. That being said I am going to make that a routine of mine since I know I might not be out of the woods just yet. It will be a lifelong battle because of my decision to start putting that crap in my mouth. I recommend any new to the quit to have an oral exam if you are super anxious like I am. I am confident that everyone will be okay but it's good to have a professional check.

Peace and quit on! I am happy to now be 37 days into this journey and I am gonna keep the pedal down. Fuck tobacco
Title: Re: Tired of the stress
Post by: Bigbob on November 25, 2015, 02:04:00 AM
congrats cdk on 27 days! one day at a time you'll get there man. after a while the sunflower seeds tear up ur mouth pretty good. get an old tic tac container and fill it with tooth pics.
Title: Re: Tired of the stress
Post by: cdk on January 03, 2016, 12:36:00 PM
Still very happy with this decision to kick the grizzly. It's still on my mind at times I have to admit but at this point I can't throw away 77 days of not giving in and buying that crap.

Feel so much healthier not poisoning myself with it and am down 10 lbs as well. Next up giving up beer for a month haha we will see if I can do that!
Title: Re: Tired of the stress
Post by: pab1964 on January 03, 2016, 01:52:00 PM
Quote from: cdk
Still very happy with this decision to kick the grizzly. It's still on my mind at times I have to admit but at this point I can't throw away 77 days of not giving in and buying that crap.

Feel so much healthier not poisoning myself with it and am down 10 lbs as well. Next up giving up beer for a month haha we will see if I can do that!
Hey cdk as a quitter you can do anything you put your mind to! Congratulations on success at such a young age, I'm jealous, at the same time proud as a fat cat! Quit on!