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Community => Introductions => Topic started by: bhadd on January 21, 2014, 10:37:00 AM
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I am new to the site and checking out how things operate. I am a 25 year dipper that started when I was 13. I've tried multiple times to quit and have always given in to the cravings and "happiness" of the habit. Many of the times I've tried to quit has been at the urging of my wife the does not understand the addiction or how the constant nagging doesn't help with the quitting process. I've even been so low as to lie to her and tell her I was quit when I was not to keep her off my back. (we work different hours, so wasn't that difficult to sneak a chew). Now with a child that just turned 3 who likes to do everything dad does, I need to stop once and for all to set an example. To add to this, I am tired of having a sore mouth and no money in the bank because of my addiction. The support on this site is encouraging and shows that with the accountability everyone holds you to that it can be done. I would love to hear from you guys and please give me ideas how to deal with the oral fixation once you quit since I am not a big gum or candy person.
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I am new to the site and checking out how things operate. I am a 25 year dipper that started when I was 13. I've tried multiple times to quit and have always given in to the cravings and "happiness" of the habit. Many of the times I've tried to quit has been at the urging of my wife the does not understand the addiction or how the constant nagging doesn't help with the quitting process. I've even been so low as to lie to her and tell her I was quit when I was not to keep her off my back. (we work different hours, so wasn't that difficult to sneak a chew). Now with a child that just turned 3 who likes to do everything dad does, I need to stop once and for all to set an example. To add to this, I am tired of having a sore mouth and no money in the bank because of my addiction. The support on this site is encouraging and shows that with the accountability everyone holds you to that it can be done. I would love to hear from you guys and please give me ideas how to deal with the oral fixation once you quit since I am not a big gum or candy person.
welcome as you have come to the best way to quit.
First - cold turkey, that is the way we do it, so no nicotine at all (no smokes, no patches, no lozenges, no nothing)
Second - the personal quit, you have to be a selfish SOB and want this for you above all else. doing it for any other reason will have you resenting that other reason (insert wife as an example), as you did this to yourself to start it, so do it to yourself and no other to end it
Third - read up, look through the what to expect as you will most likely hit the symptoms as they have been written not by doctors but by quitters just like you and me
Fourth - This is serious, a life and death addiction, so remember to treat it in such way. Always be on guard and use all of the tools here to help you. That includes showing the wife the spousal support section and getting her in your corner.
Fifth - start liking the sugarfree gum and hard candies as they will save you some days. use them, toothpicks, blades of grass, go ahead and use the fake mint stuff as it is the addiction to get rid of. Once you have that under control, this other stuff will just fade away for the oral fixation (for me was about 80-120 days where the need for constant stuff in my mouth ended)
And Sixth - just worry about today, let tomorrow come when it does. When we keep our focus on the now, we can beat this.
I quit with you today. yell if you need anything
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I am new to the site and checking out how things operate. I am a 25 year dipper that started when I was 13. I've tried multiple times to quit and have always given in to the cravings and "happiness" of the habit. Many of the times I've tried to quit has been at the urging of my wife the does not understand the addiction or how the constant nagging doesn't help with the quitting process. I've even been so low as to lie to her and tell her I was quit when I was not to keep her off my back. (we work different hours, so wasn't that difficult to sneak a chew). Now with a child that just turned 3 who likes to do everything dad does, I need to stop once and for all to set an example. To add to this, I am tired of having a sore mouth and no money in the bank because of my addiction. The support on this site is encouraging and shows that with the accountability everyone holds you to that it can be done. I would love to hear from you guys and please give me ideas how to deal with the oral fixation once you quit since I am not a big gum or candy person.
bhadd,
Welcome to KTC. My quit journey began 191 days ago and my story was very similar to yours, except I was never a Ninja Dipper, I was tat dickhead dipper that dipped when I wanted and where I wanted.
There are several ways that you can quit but the KTC way is cold turkey and I say that if I can do that so can you. Now let's get you started...
Visit The Welcome Center (http://forum.killthecan.org/index.php?showforum=13)
Learn how to Post Roll How To Post Roll (http://forum.killthecan.org/index.php?showtopic=50), what the hell is Roll Call? (http://forum.killthecan.org/index.php?showtopic=120)
Is there anything I should share with my spouse in this early stage of my quit? What can I do to prepare them Spousal Support (http://www.killthecan.org/community/spousal-support/)
If you are still wondering why or how, then visit the main website for KTC and read the stories, brace yourself as the stories will make a tear come to your eyes. The pictures are anything but sexy but sometimes the truth is an ugly SOB. KTC Website (http://www.killthecan.org)
Now Post Roll and let's do this. Check your PM inbox (upper right hand corner) for a message from me.
Drinks lots of water, find an alternative and quit daily, never focus on tomorrow or the next day, just battle today's battle and win the war one day at a time.
Pinched
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The 2 previous bad assed quitters have laid it all out for you so I will give you my $.02 on the oral fixation stuff: anything at all that is nicotine free is great. I personally used bac-off fake dip hard core for the first week and then 1-2 a day for the first month of quit. Had an acceptable feel and good spit, and with one of those in it was easier to find a distraction and ride out the craves. You might have to order fake dip online (there is a good review of the various brands on the welcome center I believe) but the shredded beef jerky chew works and you can find that at most c stores. After the first month of quit the whole act of dipping seemed dumb to me, we are addicted to the nicotine not the act of dipping, but I do keep some fake stuff around if I know I will be in a spot were I might need it i.e. tailgating and going to Bills games. Sunflower seeds helped me the most from second week on and I could get them cheap at the dollar store. I used gum and candy some, atomic fireballs have a nice burn, but mostly sunflower seeds for me. I recommend chawing on fresh herbs if you can get 'em. Big handful of fresh mint was the best spit I ever had. My need for an oral fix dropped off shortly after 100 days. This will be hard, but it gets so much better.
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Welcome,
Agree with what has already been told to you. This quit is for YOU and you alone. It is ok to be selfish with it. Have your wife read the spouses section of the site.
People who have never been addicted have no fucking clue what you are going through they cant even fathom every cell begging for a hit of nicotine a substance more dangerous than snake venom and the most addiction chemical on earth. You have come here we know what you are going through we also can recognize a bs addict line in a heartbeat so keep those to yourself and reach out to anyone and everyone you can.
You need help PM me I will give you my number. Balls in your court
T
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Thanks for all of the advice and support quitters. After work today I stopped by the store and got some smoky mountain and jerky chew. The smoky mountain was heavy on the wintergreen side but was ok for the oral fix. The jerky chew I felt satisfied me more. I will keep experimenting if the two of these products get old
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Today is day 1 for me. It feels good to to say "I quit and I'm taking my life back from the satin soil that has controlled me for 25 years". My body however, is giving my brain the middle finger. Cravings, triggers, headache and lack of focus are my problems thus far for the day. All the advice on here tells me to focus on quitting for today and don't think about tomorrow. I will have to say my mind isn't even to that step yet. I'm focusing on the hour and not worrying about the next hour.
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Welcome,
Congrats on making the best decision of your life to quit. We quit only once all other times are just stoppages. I feel your pain(read my HOF for pain reference) remember how fucking awful you are feeling right now embrace it. This will be the last time you ever have to go through it. Get through the withdrawals and then the mental game begins. stay close to the site PM me if you need anything.
T
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Welcome,
Congrats on making the best decision of your life to quit. We quit only once all other times are just stoppages. I feel your pain(read my HOF for pain reference) remember how fucking awful you are feeling right now embrace it. This will be the last time you ever have to go through it. Get through the withdrawals and then the mental game begins. stay close to the site PM me if you need anything.
T
I am glad you found us. This site offers all of the tools to give the nic bitch the finger. Post roll each day like you did today. Help someone out each day in your group. Read, read, read. When you post roll each day and invest in yourself and others you will crush her.
Shout if you need help. The quit Sherpas will arrive quickly.
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Welcome,
Congrats on making the best decision of your life to quit. We quit only once all other times are just stoppages. I feel your pain(read my HOF for pain reference) remember how fucking awful you are feeling right now embrace it. This will be the last time you ever have to go through it. Get through the withdrawals and then the mental game begins. stay close to the site PM me if you need anything.
T
I am glad you found us. This site offers all of the tools to give the nic bitch the finger. Post roll each day like you did today. Help someone out each day in your group. Read, read, read. When you post roll each day and invest in yourself and others you will crush her.
Shout if you need help. The quit Sherpas will arrive quickly.
You can do this! Read everything on KTC and own your quit. Fight like your life depends upon it. Get through the day minute by minute if you have to. PM me if you need anything.
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Day 2...Feeling the Blues but promising myself it is all worth it. I've got a headache (probably from my mind fighting my body) and lack focus because of cravings. I have no triggers at this point as I am used to having a dip the greater part of every day. I'm hangin in there and taking things minute by minute as B Lo advised me yesterday.
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Day 2...Feeling the Blues but promising myself it is all worth it. I've got a headache (probably from my mind fighting my body) and lack focus because of cravings. I have no triggers at this point as I am used to having a dip the greater part of every day. I'm hangin in there and taking things minute by minute as B Lo advised me yesterday.
Nice job man... That's huge. Keep this in mind too... Tomorrow, day 3, 72 hrs of being quit... Nicotine is gone from your body. The battle doesn't even begin to stop there but it's a milestone to celebrate. A big one. Every +1, whether it be another minute, another hour, another day... Is a win for you bro. Rock on...
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bhadd,
Welcome to our April 2014 HOF quit group. I'm in here right along side of you, just a few days ahead of you in my quit. I can't really add much to what the veterans below have said. Keep up the fight...it will get easier! At the end of today (day 2) you'll be more than half way through the physical withdrawl portion of your quit and most of your physical symptoms will start to subside after that. While you're toughing it out, be sure to read anything and everything you can find on this forum. No matter how strange or unique something you're feeling may sound to you....someone else here on the site felt it too during their quit and were able to power through it. Solicit them for advice on how they dealt with it, and you will get through it too.
Take a minute and introduce yourself to your quit Group (on the Roll Call page). Look back to last week and you'll see the format most of us used to do so.
PM me anytime if you have questions or want to share your story, or you just want to chat or vent. I'd be happy to pass along my phone number to you.
Most importantly...post roll EVERY DAY and reach out to you quit buddies.
-Jeff
(peters6278)
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bhadd,
Welcome to our April 2014 HOF quit group. I'm in here right along side of you, just a few days ahead of you in my quit. I can't really add much to what the veterans below have said. Keep up the fight...it will get easier! At the end of today (day 2) you'll be more than half way through the physical withdrawl portion of your quit and most of your physical symptoms will start to subside after that. While you're toughing it out, be sure to read anything and everything you can find on this forum. No matter how strange or unique something you're feeling may sound to you....someone else here on the site felt it too during their quit and were able to power through it. Solicit them for advice on how they dealt with it, and you will get through it too.
Take a minute and introduce yourself to your quit Group (on the Roll Call page). Look back to last week and you'll see the format most of us used to do so.
PM me anytime if you have questions or want to share your story, or you just want to chat or vent. I'd be happy to pass along my phone number to you.
Most importantly...post roll EVERY DAY and reach out to you quit buddies.
-Jeff
(peters6278)
Thanks for this post Jeff. Way to reach out! Sage advice as well.
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Anyone seen this Cat he is looking like a one and done kind of guy. No answer on a PM either.
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I reached out to him earlier in his quit, but never heard back from him. I sent him a PM today as well to see how he's doing and if he needs some support.
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Looks like we lost him.
bhadd,
If you're still lurking around the site, why not join up with the May group? There are some solid quitters in there. Swallow you pride and suck it up. It's a whole lot better that shoving that cancer-causing dog shit in your pie hole every day.
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Looks like we lost him.
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Don't get discouraged Jeff. You are paying it forward and getting involved. You aren't going to reach everyone. I'm not that much farther than you. 64 days. I have had more new quitters ignore me/disappear than respond. Just part of it. Keep reaching out.
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Looks like we lost him.
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Don't get discouraged Jeff. You are paying it forward and getting involved. You aren't going to reach everyone. I'm not that much farther than you. 64 days. I have had more new quitters ignore me/disappear than respond. Just part of it. Keep reaching out.
No worries pbrain. My quit ain't goin' anywhere. I'm always sad to see someone fail, but the quit group only gets stronger for those that have persisted. A little culling of the herd now and then leaves a stronger herd after all.