KillTheCan.org Accountability Forum
Community => Introductions => Topic started by: Mtn Climber on June 01, 2015, 12:28:00 PM
-
Hi all, I am 37/yo male from WA State.
1 can per day user since 18 years old. Going to need all the help I can get as I realize just how difficult it will be.
I have told myself all the lies one can muster up, and I'm sick of my double life.
I am a professional and must hide from co-workers and family the fact that I have been a slave to nicotine/chew.
I said I would quit when my daughter turns two years old. This month she will be 16. I feel like such an ass-wipe for all that I have put my family through over the years, and all the time/money/energy I have wasted for my habit.
Thanks for the encouragement in advance and look forward to this journey.
-
Hi all, I am 37/yo male from WA State.
1 can per day user since 18 years old. Going to need all the help I can get as I realize just how difficult it will be.
I have told myself all the lies one can muster up, and I'm sick of my double life.
I am a professional and must hide from co-workers and family the fact that I have been a slave to nicotine/chew.
I said I would quit when my daughter turns two years old. This month she will be 16. I feel like such an ass-wipe for all that I have put my family through over the years, and all the time/money/energy I have wasted for my habit.
Thanks for the encouragement in advance and look forward to this journey.
Climber, Welcome to the site brother and congrats on making the best decision of your life. As a former ninja dipper myself there are 3 pieces of advice I want to share with you that was told to me when I first quit. 1. This wasn't a habit. It is an addiction, an addiction that is slowly killing you. We are all addicts here and are fighting one day at a time to beat it. get mad that you were throwing away money to kill yourself and use this mentality to fuel your quit. 2. If you haven't yet, come clean to your family. Tell them that you are once and for all quitting dip and will never be going back to it. It will be hard at first but you will need their support throughout this and all of you will be happier in the long run. 3. Come here and rage, don't take it out on your family. They aren't the ones who put the dip in your mouth you did. They probably won't understand what you are going through but we do. We can take it when you are mad at the smallest things. Yell, rant do whatever you have to here.
Again welcome to the site and well done on your first roll post. Get to know your quit group exchange numbers, build accountability here and post roll every single day. It is the foundation of the site a promise to your group you won't use for that day. Let me know if you need anything.
FFC 365
-
Climber... I'm really proud of you that you have decided to take your stand now. Might sound strange to have a stranger say he's proud of you, but I've been there. In fact, add 15 more years to your story and that's where I am; Now on Day 5 of quit.
You'll be joining our September Samurai 2015 Quit Group. We have a really strong group of Bad Ass Quitters and we are ALL going to make it together. For example, this past weekend, we had a group text going on our smart phones. As soon as someone had a craving, messages started flying in from 4 or 5 different KTC supporters... Bottom line, we all came through our first tough weekend without anyone caving.
I will PM you my digits. Text me or call me if you start to feel challenged. Also, lots of other quitters who have been doing this much longer than me will help you out too. Don't hesitate to lean on them.
In the meantime, surf the site, read up on symptoms, personal stories, etc. This site doesn't cost you a penny, but it's not free. Your cost is:
1. As soon as you wake up every morning, you must post roll call - which is your commitment to yourself, me and your fellow Samurai that you will not put nicotine in your system that day. Nice job posting roll today.
2. Honor your promise and make your Quit rock solid all day.
3. Wake up the next day and repeat.
Simple. :) Talk to you soon and be strong.
-
Hi all, I am 37/yo male from WA State.
1 can per day user since 18 years old. Going to need all the help I can get as I realize just how difficult it will be.
I have told myself all the lies one can muster up, and I'm sick of my double life.
I am a professional and must hide from co-workers and family the fact that I have been a slave to nicotine/chew.
I said I would quit when my daughter turns two years old. This month she will be 16. I feel like such an ass-wipe for all that I have put my family through over the years, and all the time/money/energy I have wasted for my habit.
Thanks for the encouragement in advance and look forward to this journey.
Climber, Welcome to the site brother and congrats on making the best decision of your life. As a former ninja dipper myself there are 3 pieces of advice I want to share with you that was told to me when I first quit. 1. This wasn't a habit. It is an addiction, an addiction that is slowly killing you. We are all addicts here and are fighting one day at a time to beat it. get mad that you were throwing away money to kill yourself and use this mentality to fuel your quit. 2. If you haven't yet, come clean to your family. Tell them that you are once and for all quitting dip and will never be going back to it. It will be hard at first but you will need their support throughout this and all of you will be happier in the long run. 3. Come here and rage, don't take it out on your family. They aren't the ones who put the dip in your mouth you did. They probably won't understand what you are going through but we do. We can take it when you are mad at the smallest things. Yell, rant do whatever you have to here.
Again welcome to the site and well done on your first roll post. Get to know your quit group exchange numbers, build accountability here and post roll every single day. It is the foundation of the site a promise to your group you won't use for that day. Let me know if you need anything.
FFC 365
Sounds like you have been an ass-wipe. I don't think anyone at KTC wants to be around an ass-wipe.
A man of integrity, however, is another matter altogether.
Become a man of integrity, give up that nicotine, and be the father your children deserve. All of us want a man of integrity quit with us.
-
Climber. Like I said, I had a similar story. One of the things you're going to have to do is come clean with your wife and family. Most of us believe that our spouse is one of our strongest supporters. Of course, you know her, and we don't, so make your own decision. If it helps, here's a post from the day I fessed up with my wife after being, as Quark puts it, a lying ass-wipe with no integrity.
"One of my own prerequisites to quitting was that I take the advice of my KTC brothers and come clean with my wife. And not only with her but also with both my children (both in their teens). Couple of things I learned during my first (and hopefully last) heart to heart with people you've hurt:
1. The people you care about will be your greatest and most ardent supporters, but don't expect any forgiveness or support until you initially prove you're serious about quitting.
2. When you've been lying to someone for a long time, and then all of a sudden say "I'm sorry, that was my last lie", you can't expect that you'll have any credibility whatsoever until you earn it back.
3. Talking honestly and openly about drugs, addiction and your own weaknesses and lack of will power is not only cathartic but instructive. You are teaching your kids to live by example with both humility and determination.
4. You're heart-to-heart is much more meaningful if they see you doing something about it. Watching me embrace KTC and my new life without nicotine, makes them happy.
5. You might think these types of discussions are about YOU coming clean, and this GREAT thing you're doing by finally quitting. Wrong. This is about you taking the punishment you so rightfully deserve (but avoided for years because you were lying) by letting your victims vent. As much as you need to heal by apologizing, they need to heal their wounds by letting you know how you have hurt them and how angry they are with you, and how you better change or else. If you don't have a 2-way discussion where the people you hurt can hurt you back (verbally of course), then it wasn't a successful discussion. And it's your responsibility to keep the discussion cool headed and suck it up by not letting it escalate. YOU caused this. No one else. So take your medicine, earn their trust back and get busy getting quit.
6. Lastly, I promise you, that in a few days (it took 1.5 days for me and my family), after the dust has settled and the cold-shoulders and cooling-off periods have run their course, the people who care about you will be your strongest supporters. And to top it all off, you will have the stress-free feeling that comes with honesty.
Bottom line, my KTC brothers couldn't have given better advice. Re-establishing my integrity with my family is one of my biggest drivers to Quitting success."
Try that on. If it fits you, then give it a go when you're ready. PM or text me if you want to talk about any of this. It's pretty damn fresh in my mind.
Lastly, roll call EDD, keep your promise and repeat every day. Coming clean with your family means NOTHING if you cave.
-
Glad your here friend. The whore doesn't care about what you do, who you love, or what you would like to do. She only cares about you slinging shit in your lip...daily. If you want to quit, then you have found the best place IMO to help you, but you have to use the system. You have to be willing to stick to the routine, and not deviate. I quit with you today friend. ps. I believe God is helping you. He led you here, and that's exactly what happened to me.
-
Welcome Mtn Climber! My story is very similar to yours...ninja dipper for 33 years. I have been quit now for 470 days! I wasn't easy, but it can be done. We are here to help and PM if you need anything. Climber, I'm quitting with you today!!
mb289
-
Hey Climber, great decision to utilize the tools here at KTC. Most of us have similar stories to yours. There are a lot professionals and ninja dippers. What's great is regardless of occupation, everyone here understands the addiction and that's all that really matters. I'm a fellow Washingtonian. I lived in East Lake Seattle for 8 years and moved fairly recently to Spokane to go back to school. Where do you live in Washington?
If you make the simple commitment to post every day you'll find that quitting is so much easier. I tried a hundred times to quit and nothing worked. Now I'm on day 140 due to KTC and the support of its members. PM me any time if you have any questions or need some support!
-
^^^ I live in Spokane, WA as well. Good to get some more west coast quit on KTC.
Stay quit and PM for digits, your intro is like a mirror of mine, there is no going back only forward.
Quit on brother,
Idaho Spuds (born in Idaho but live in WA now)
-
Thanks for all the replies.
Going on day 2 and feel ok.
Of course the thought crosses my mind but also the future without this addiction controlling me.
Thanks for all the encouragement and support so far. I like watching the quit calc ticking up.
I live in Yakima.
-
Thanks for all the replies.
Going on day 2 and feel ok.
Of course the thought crosses my mind but also the future without this addiction controlling me.
Thanks for all the encouragement and support so far. I like watching the quit calc ticking up.
I live in Yakima.
This right here. Keep it up and stay vigilant, and before you know it you will feel noticeably better. It takes a lot of time to re-wire your brain though after all that abuse. Nicotine does NOT relieve stress, help focus, solve problems, should not be considered a companion or friend, help with boredom, taste good, etc. It really only helps with withdrawals to NICOTINE. Sounds a lot like racketeering to me. Shit should be illegal!
Nicotine robs you of your ambition. Your time. Your money. Your health. You have put it in front of your daughter in terms of importance for over a decade, bro. It's time to man up and get your priorities straight. You can do this!
Learn to hate Nicotine and Tobacco and all the lies that encompass its users and advocates.
-
100 Days!
Thanks to everyone for support
To all new readers hang in there! Stay Quit! It gets much better!
We all believe that we are so far in that we couldn't possibly stay away from Nicotine, but it is possible with vigilance and dedication and accountability.
These are the things you find and develop at KTC.
Post Roll, read up, plan ahead, ditch those people in your life that may cause you to slip up.
Stay Quit!
-
Congratulations brother!!
-
Congratulations brother!!
Congratulations! See you at 200!
-
Congratulations brother!!
Congratulations! See you at 200!
From fear to freedom. This is a great thread. Congrats on a huge milestone sir!
-
Congrats on your 1 year quit Mtn Climber!
Keep it up.
-
Congrats!
-
Congrats on that first year!
-
Nice year! Thanks for your support to the quitters on KTC
-
Congrats on your comma today Mtn Climber!