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Community => Introductions => Topic started by: snickerson85 on September 22, 2013, 04:16:00 PM
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Hello everyone, my name is Steve and I need to quit chewing before I lose my family . I quit smoking 4 years ago and I've found it even harder to quit chewing. I don't have much of a support team here at home as my wife is pretty upset after finding out that I still chew. I've tried asking her to help me and give me support but all I get is "she doesn't care" I'm new to this posting stuff and any help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks
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Hello everyone, my name is Steve and I need to quit chewing before I lose my family . I quit smoking 4 years ago and I've found it even harder to quit chewing. I don't have much of a support team here at home as my wife is pretty upset after finding out that I still chew. I've tried asking her to help me and give me support but all I get is "she doesn't care" I'm new to this posting stuff and any help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks
Welcome to ktc, and to the best decision of your life. Steve, I'm not gonna bullshit you here... This is gonna be tough. Maybe the toughest thing you've ever done. But if a guy like me can do it, you can too. Lots of us were ninja chewers. I cannot begin to explain to someone that wasn't a ninja the sense of relief and freedom that you are going to have. No more hiding. No more fear of forgetting a can somewhere. No more excuses to escape to the c store. No more!
I'm sorry that you are having some home trouble. Here is how I think about it.... If you found a receipt in your wife's purse for 15k worth of rat poison, which she admitted eating for 15 years, you would be pissed too. Try to keep that in mind. There is a spouses section on here - if she is open to reading it, it would help both of you. Both of you need to understand and accept that you are an addict. But you can control (quit) your addiction. That means that today you will go to December 2013 group and add your name to the list of quitters. That is your promise, in writing to yourself, your family, and the members of this community that today you will not use nicotine in any form. We only worry about today. If you are a man of integrity and honor, you can keep your word for today. Tomorrow, wake up, run to the computer (skip the bathroom - posting roll is more important) and get your name on the list again. This site and the process has changed and saved my life. It can do the same for you.
Read read read everything you can on this site. Intros. Hall of fame speeches (you will hit hall of fame in December - 100 days of freedom!) and make sure to check out chat. The first 3 or 4 days suck. You brought it on yourself - don't take it out on your family. Come here, yell at us. Use chat, get numbers. I know it is hard, but you can do it. Get your name on the December roll list now! And you'll almost certainly fuck it up... Don't worry about it - someone will fix it. That's what this brotherhood does. Everyone's got your back. Check your inbox, my number is in there.
Stay strong.
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Hello everyone, my name is Steve and I need to quit chewing before I lose my family . I quit smoking 4 years ago and I've found it even harder to quit chewing. I don't have much of a support team here at home as my wife is pretty upset after finding out that I still chew. I've tried asking her to help me and give me support but all I get is "she doesn't care" I'm new to this posting stuff and any help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks
Welcome to ktc, and to the best decision of your life. Steve, I'm not gonna bullshit you here... This is gonna be tough. Maybe the toughest thing you've ever done. But if a guy like me can do it, you can too. Lots of us were ninja chewers. I cannot begin to explain to someone that wasn't a ninja the sense of relief and freedom that you are going to have. No more hiding. No more fear of forgetting a can somewhere. No more excuses to escape to the c store. No more!
I'm sorry that you are having some home trouble. Here is how I think about it.... If you found a receipt in your wife's purse for 15k worth of rat poison, which she admitted eating for 15 years, you would be pissed too. Try to keep that in mind. There is a spouses section on here - if she is open to reading it, it would help both of you. Both of you need to understand and accept that you are an addict. But you can control (quit) your addiction. That means that today you will go to December 2013 group and add your name to the list of quitters. That is your promise, in writing to yourself, your family, and the members of this community that today you will not use nicotine in any form. We only worry about today. If you are a man of integrity and honor, you can keep your word for today. Tomorrow, wake up, run to the computer (skip the bathroom - posting roll is more important) and get your name on the list again. This site and the process has changed and saved my life. It can do the same for you.
Read read read everything you can on this site. Intros. Hall of fame speeches (you will hit hall of fame in December - 100 days of freedom!) and make sure to check out chat. The first 3 or 4 days suck. You brought it on yourself - don't take it out on your family. Come here, yell at us. Use chat, get numbers. I know it is hard, but you can do it. Get your name on the December roll list now! And you'll almost certainly fuck it up... Don't worry about it - someone will fix it. That's what this brotherhood does. Everyone's got your back. Check your inbox, my number is in there.
Stay strong.
Welcome Steve. I promise if you come in here with an open mind, willingness to do a few simple things, and reach out to others you will not fail one day at a time. Hell, start off one hour at a time or one minute at a time. Just don't put that shit in your mouth no matter what. All of us have been where you are right now. I lived on this site for the first few months reading everything I could to help pass the time. You can do this, as many before you have successfully quit one day at a time and continue to quit one day at a time.
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Hello everyone, my name is Steve and I need to quit chewing before I lose my family . I quit smoking 4 years ago and I've found it even harder to quit chewing. I don't have much of a support team here at home as my wife is pretty upset after finding out that I still chew. I've tried asking her to help me and give me support but all I get is "she doesn't care" I'm new to this posting stuff and any help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks
Hey Steve, glad you found this site. It has helped save my life and it can help you too. Be an active member on here, learn how to post roll and do it everyday - but also use the Live Chat to get to know people. Its also a great distraction, especially early in your quit when you're having the hardest time.
I can tell you that if you aren't quitting for yourself - if you're quitting because your wife is mad - you will most likely fail. You have to be doing this for yourself. So make the decision that you are done with nicotine, for YOU, and quit.
So - did you quit yet or are you chewing right now and committing slow suicide?
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Hey Steve. Welcome to KTC. Did you get in and post roll today? I was looking at the Dec Quit page did not see your name in there. Go up to the welcome center above and read how/why we post roll. This is the most critical thing you can do today. Posting roll is your commitment to quitting today joining the rest of the folks on this site that did the same thing today. We quit one day at a time here.
Some of your intro sounds similar to me. I also had troubles with the home life due to hiding this addiction. But, I hope you are quitting for more reasons than your wife is mad at you about your chewing. I always found that once the heat from the wife dropped off... then I just reverted back to the poison just got better at hiding. The thing that is going to make your quit stick is that YOU want this quit. If you googled and found this site then I am hopeful you are in this for YOU. The wife wanting you quit will only help for so long.
This is going to be a battle, but you can do it. Get in and post roll, then stay quit. I am quit with you today!
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Welcome Snickerson all the best to you. I see you've already got all the best advice possible. BUt yes you do have to want it for yourself. You can do it for you!
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Steve, I hope I'm wrong. 1 visit to the site in 2 days? No roll post?
I hope I'm wrong....
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Steve, I hope I'm wrong. 1 visit to the site in 2 days? No roll post?
I hope I'm wrong....
I dont think he has quit yet. His post says "I need to quit", not "I have quit"...
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Hey, man...... has your wife ever used nicotine? If not, then she has not idea what you're going through. If she has smoked, she still has no idea. I saw statistics somewhere that a dip gives something like 8 times as much nicotine as a cigarette.
When I quit, my wife thought I had already quit 6 months earlier. I thought there was no way I could tell her that I had failed previously. Quitting without her help (or, in your case, with her mad) is damn near impossible. I tried to do it alone, and honestly...... I'm being completely serious here..... my wife thought I was having an affair. Several weeks into this quit, she and I wound up sitting at the dining table with her in tears. That was a long conversation. I had just found KTC, and we did a lot of reading together. Since that day, she has been a beacon for me. I couldn't have done it without her my brothers and sisters and KTC. No way.
Show your wife The Spousal Support Page (http://www.killthecan.org/community/spousal-support/). Maybe that will help.
I'm dropping you a PM with the same info. Let me know if I can help any way.
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I think we have ourselves another touch n go, I'm afraid. "I need to quit chewing before I lose my family,"... Do you want to quit? Get on board, Steve. KTC can help you but you gotta accept the help.