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Community => Introductions => Topic started by: franklin77 on February 16, 2011, 08:49:00 AM
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Hi - I've been dipping Skoal for the last 14 years (33 now), and I've tried to quit many times - never with this site for support. About 3 years ago, I had quit for about a year, but got drunk at a golf outing and bummed a rub off of a friend and have been doing it ever since.
I've got to do it this time and make it last forever. I've got 3 boys at home, oldest 5, who I'd like to see grow up. I'd also like to stop explaining to them why I have to spit when I chew "Daddy Gum."
Today's day one, posted roll call, and skipped my wake-up dip and my drive to work dip. I'm sitting here at work sweating like a whore in church.
I appreciate in advance everyone's support.
-Ben
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Hi - I've been dipping Skoal for the last 14 years (33 now), and I've tried to quit many times - never with this site for support. About 3 years ago, I had quit for about a year, but got drunk at a golf outing and bummed a rub off of a friend and have been doing it ever since.
I've got to do it this time and make it last forever. I've got 3 boys at home, oldest 5, who I'd like to see grow up. I'd also like to stop explaining to them why I have to spit when I chew "Daddy Gum."
Today's day one, posted roll call, and skipped my wake-up dip and my drive to work dip. I'm sitting here at work sweating like a whore in church.
I appreciate in advance everyone's support.
-Ben
Welcome Ben, as a father it's freaking tough. Haven't used around my daughter but use often around my sons who are now 8 and 7 and I've hoped for a while that I was being discreet enough that they wouldn't know what it was. But I remember seeing my brother dip the bear when I was 8, and I remember packing a dip of tuna from the can to be grown up like him.
Keep up the battle man, you're winning even though you may not realize at the moment. The kids are as good a reason as any but it's your quit and you have to supply the fire and motivation for you!
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Ben, our stories are somewhat similar, I too have small children and I too quit for about 9 months before some drama pulled me back in. If you have quit for that year before you can do it again for sure, you already know you can do it. Don't go at it alone this time, post roll every day, throw it out to the board that your having a difficult time and help encourage everyone else around you. Solicit the support of your wife and most importanly realize that you are an addict, admit that to yourself and realize that you can never go back, it's not an option but take it day by day. Shoot me a PM if I can help in anyway, hey even if it's just to listen to you complain I don't care.
David
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remember the physical part lasts only about 3 days (sweating, dizzy, shaky, etc.). You can do it...eat seeds, gum, candy and drink water. Just know that in 3 days it will be a bit better. Then the fog and mental shit will come for a while but gradually that will get easier. Post roll, read on this site, the HOF letters and quit groups and get in the chat room. before you know it you will be adding up major days and be headed to freedom!! Be tough, be quit. Your life depends on it....
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Thanks for the notes - day 1 is sucking big time. Don't remember this the other times I've "quit."
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Hi - I've been dipping Skoal for the last 14 years (33 now), and I've tried to quit many times - never with this site for support. About 3 years ago, I had quit for about a year, but got drunk at a golf outing and bummed a rub off of a friend and have been doing it ever since.
I've got to do it this time and make it last forever. I've got 3 boys at home, oldest 5, who I'd like to see grow up. I'd also like to stop explaining to them why I have to spit when I chew "Daddy Gum."
Today's day one, posted roll call, and skipped my wake-up dip and my drive to work dip. I'm sitting here at work sweating like a whore in church.
I appreciate in advance everyone's support.
-Ben
Hey man! Welcome to the suck! Embrace the suck. Remember how bad you feel right now. You don't want to go through it again. It can be done friend! Im 99 days quit today. Send me a PM if you need help posting roll or anything, or if you need a number.
Sadjr
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Welcome. Do not worry about making it last forever. Forever is way too far away. Worry about making it last today and today only!!
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Hang in there Ben. This is all hard but doable. Completely doable. You can rule this stuff. Keep those boys in mind when you're reading the stuff here. You want to see them grow up. The thing I didn't realize when I first quit here was reaching out. It helps. You have a battalion of soldiers here ready to get you over the hill brother.
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Thanks for the notes - day 1 is sucking big time. Don't remember this the other times I've "quit."
I don't know your story, but I'll bet the other times you 'quit' you didn't really Quit. This time SHOULD be different. This time you have us. You have KTC. And yes, KTC and the support you get here can and will make all the difference in the world.
Congratulations on the best decision you've made in a long, long time.
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Ben Franklin,
Welcome to the site. I'm 2 weeks quit today. My first few days were rough! Just as everybody elses were. Be a man of your word. You know you want to quit. I have kids too. My wife was nice enough to constantly be reminding me that I needed to see them graduate school, and get married. Even for a while, that wasn't enough persuasion for me, because I believed I was invincible... and to admit that hurts. But feeling my own gums and mouth hurt and looking close at my gum line that looks like it's damn near receeding finally flipped a switch. Why does my mouth hurt like an Effer, yet I still can't wait to put the next pinch in??? I'm done with this bitch controlling my life and denying my freedom to be the husband and father I want to be.
Be a man!
Wake up tomorrow and get quit again! I'm doing it with you.
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Thanks for the notes - day 1 is sucking big time. Don't remember this the other times I've "quit."
I don't know your story, but I'll bet the other times you 'quit' you didn't really Quit. This time SHOULD be different. This time you have us. You have KTC. And yes, KTC and the support you get here can and will make all the difference in the world.
Congratulations on the best decision you've made in a long, long time.
Agreed!
This time you mean it. This time you're not fucking around and your mind and body knows it. The nic bitch knows it too and she will be whispering in your ear that you should "just have one" to take the edge off. Well my friend, you're and addict and you can't have just one.
Stay stay strong brother. It's gonna suck for a little while but it gets better. Then you will be free.
Brian
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It looks like a lot of us have started in the last 3-4 days. Let's make sure we stick with it!
Not sure if it is "normal" or different for everyone, but day two was the absolute worst. I was a complete jagoff to my family all day yesterday. The AM of day 3 has been much, much better.
Looking forward to kicking the ever-loving shit out of this habit with you guys.
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Round 'em up, get them to roll call and keep track of each other. You might just find a few of the best friends that you may or may not meet.
Don't be a jagoff to the family. I don't think they were the one's that decided to shove dip in your pie hole so, don't take it out on them. Come in here, yell at us, post up some stoopid shit or head over to chat and call gator a butthole. We can take it, that's what we are here for.
Most of all, shout if you need anything. You will be overwhelmed with assistance.
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Don't be an asshole to your family...it's not their fault, it yours. You chose to dip, and now you are chosing to quit. And the suck is part of it.
Your day 47 (that's me) will be here soon enough. There are rough days still ahead but not unachievable.
If you want to be a jerkoff then you the people here for that, and they will gladly return what you need.
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I hope you're not quitting in the closet.
Explain to your family that you decided you want to live and in doing so you will be an asshole for the foreseeable future, or perhaps the next 2 weeks. You will make every effort to make it up to them with interest, especially your wife who has to put up with your bullshit and ass-breath first and foremost.
It gets better, we promise you. You will be amazed what you can accomplish with your family without draggiong the nic bitch along.
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I hope you're not quitting in the closet.
Good advice. My wife asked me on Day 3, "Are you quitting tobacco again? because you're acting insane." It's just cruel not to let your family know.
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I hope you're not quitting in the closet.
Good advice. My wife asked me on Day 3, "Are you quitting tobacco again? because you're acting insane." It's just cruel not to let your family know.
I did not tell my wife for about 17 days....but you do need to come clean at some point
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I hope you're not quitting in the closet.
Good advice. My wife asked me on Day 3, "Are you quitting tobacco again? because you're acting insane." It's just cruel not to let your family know.
I did not tell my wife for about 17 days....but you do need to come clean at some point
My wife doesn't know I'm quitting, I am going to surprise her when I go home on RR. I wonder how long it will take her to notice I'm not stuffing my face with worm poop. My RR will also coincide with my 100 days.
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I'm always an asshole, but there were about two weeks where I was unusually bad. Actually, the past week or so I've been an asshole too. It's hard when the only way to communicate is through IM, email, and occasional Skype. She knows, I had to tell her after about 10 days of being irritated with every single thing she said or wrote to me.