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I'm Josh, I'm 29 and I've been dipping skoal for about ten years. I'm tired of wasting money that could be used for more important stuff, tired of spit and spit bottles, and mostly don't wanna end up doing this all my life and getting cancer from it. This is part of a bigger project of wanting to be healthier overall, going along with eating a healthier diet and getting more exercise. Yesterday, July 3, was my quit date. I've just about wrapped up day 2, and this isn't easy. Doing this cold turkey, I'm not gonna replace one nicotine product with another. Day 1 didn't seem too bad, but today was rough, feeling grouchy and like I can't think straight. Gum and sunflower seeds are doing it for the time. Wish me luck...
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I'm Josh, I'm 29 and I've been dipping skoal for about ten years. I'm tired of wasting money that could be used for more important stuff, tired of spit and spit bottles, and mostly don't wanna end up doing this all my life and getting cancer from it. This is part of a bigger project of wanting to be healthier overall, going along with eating a healthier diet and getting more exercise. Yesterday, July 3, was my quit date. I've just about wrapped up day 2, and this isn't easy. Doing this cold turkey, I'm not gonna replace one nicotine product with another. Day 1 didn't seem too bad, but today was rough, feeling grouchy and like I can't think straight. Gum and sunflower seeds are doing it for the time. Wish me luck...
Congrats on the quit. Find your quit group in October and read how to post roll.
You need water. A lot of water. It helps get the nicotine out of your system.
Glad to be quit with ya,
Steven AKA CowMus
54 days.
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I'm Josh, I'm 29 and I've been dipping skoal for about ten years. I'm tired of wasting money that could be used for more important stuff, tired of spit and spit bottles, and mostly don't wanna end up doing this all my life and getting cancer from it. This is part of a bigger project of wanting to be healthier overall, going along with eating a healthier diet and getting more exercise. Yesterday, July 3, was my quit date. I've just about wrapped up day 2, and this isn't easy. Doing this cold turkey, I'm not gonna replace one nicotine product with another. Day 1 didn't seem too bad, but today was rough, feeling grouchy and like I can't think straight. Gum and sunflower seeds are doing it for the time. Wish me luck...
Congrats on the quit. Find your quit group in October and read how to post roll.
You need water. A lot of water. It helps get the nicotine out of your system.
Glad to be quit with ya,
Steven AKA CowMus
54 days.
Josh, welcome! You've made a great decision. Quitting will be difficult, but more worth it than you could imagine right now. I do want to caution you about a line of thinking in your intro.
You're talking about this as one part of a holistic health plan, rather than a life and death struggle with nicotine. It's GREAT that you're taking care of yourself in other ways, in fact doing that will absolutely help you with your struggle w/ nicotine. However, if you view quitting tobacco as a single line item in your overall health plan, you could be setting yourself up for failure. Staying quit needs to be treated with the level of urgency of a sucking chest wound, rather than that of carrying a few extra lbs.
Adding your Quit to a list of self improvements makes it something that you might be more willing to bargain with. "Well ok, I can have a chew every now and then, but I'm giving up pizza, so it evens out." That line of thinking will make you fail. I'm not saying that's where you're at, but you can see why one might go there.
Bottom line, take care of yourself, outrun your cravings and stay positive. But don't forget that staying quit is your #1 top health priority.
Post roll, explore this site and connect with others. This is hard work and you need to develop the right tools to be successful.
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Thanks for the support folks. Day 3 here. I'm dealing with it ok. Gotta keep my mind busy. Heading to work shortly, will be the first time in many years without a can in my pocket. To clarify my first post, I should have said this is step one of being a healthier person. I'm not worrying about anything else until this is accomplished. I'll worry about eating healthier and whatever else, only well after I'm through with the hard times of this. I'm certainly looking at this as the most important health decision
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Thanks for the support folks. Day 3 here. I'm dealing with it ok. Gotta keep my mind busy. Heading to work shortly, will be the first time in many years without a can in my pocket. To clarify my first post, I should have said this is step one of being a healthier person. I'm not worrying about anything else until this is accomplished. I'll worry about eating healthier and whatever else, only well after I'm through with the hard times of this. I'm certainly looking at this as the most important health decision
Good! This, for the next few weeks, is honestly more imortant. Once you have a little better grip on this, wrap up on the rest. I used candy, gum, snacks, drinks to help me. I gained quite a bit of weight on my quit.
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You need to get on roll call, that's our promise to each other that we quit for 24 hours. Check out the Welcome Center and you month is October 2016.
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Ok, I figured out roll call. Almost through with day 3!!
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Josh,
This is by far the best physical decision you can make and you will eventually be glad you did it.
I highly suggest getting digits (phone numbers) from every single one of your brother's in October; even the new ones that come in later on. The camaraderie you can build will be tremendous in overcoming the fog and craves.
Also, grab hold of some vets digits as well. You can really never have enough! I'll be looking for your pm to trade!
One more thing...
Luck has nothing to do with your quit. Just like anything of value in this life, it takes work and a lot of it! During the worst parts of my fog, I kept my nose in KTC, reading the HOF stories and getting to know as many people as I could. It will help get through it. Keep writing your journey in this introduction... I'm looking forward to watching (and helping if you need) your progress!
SG
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Josh,
This is by far the best physical decision you can make and you will eventually be glad you did it.
I highly suggest getting digits (phone numbers) from every single one of your brother's in October; even the new ones that come in later on. The camaraderie you can build will be tremendous in overcoming the fog and craves.
Also, grab hold of some vets digits as well. You can really never have enough! I'll be looking for your pm to trade!
One more thing...
Luck has nothing to do with your quit. Just like anything of value in this life, it takes work and a lot of it! During the worst parts of my fog, I kept my nose in KTC, reading the HOF stories and getting to know as many people as I could. It will help get through it. Keep writing your journey in this introduction... I'm looking forward to watching (and helping if you need) your progress!
SG
^^^ I can't say it any better than Suthern did. That's some very solid advice from a gentleman who know's how to quit. Follow his advice to the T and you can't go wrong.
Post your promise early, Trade some digits, and Read read read. You can do this. It'll suck for a while, but it's worth it.
Your plans to exercise sounds like a great idea. It'll help take your mind off quitting for a while and relieve some stress. As far as a healthier diet. . . . I'd play that one by ear for a while, you probably need to focus all of you attention on the sucking chest wound of nicotine addiction first, and focus on a healthy diet once the fog begins to lift. But you'll know what feels right for you.
I quit with you today!
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Day 4 here. I gotta say, I believe it wasn't quite as bad as days 2 and 3. Those sucked. Maybe cause I had a dumb little happy moment this morning, lets just put it nicely and say days 2 and 3 the GI tract wasn't moving anything out. And from what I read, that is a withdrawal symptom. All of that was made up for this morning roflmao Hopefully that's one thing that will stay back to normal now. Every little thing is gonna help.
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Nice job man the poison is out of your system at this point. Now its just mind games to stay quit. You and I are addicts we can't have just one more and quit tomorrow. You have a lot more bumps to come but just remember the last 3-4 days and how bad they sucked and how you don't ever want to feel that again
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The GI tract isn't the only thing changing Josh. Put up with it all because you're becoming a better man for it. Remember how bad you feel in these first few days because it will motivate you when things start to get stale in a couple months. If you never forget how badly these first days suck, you'll remember why you never want to start over again.
ODAAT will get it done.
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The hard days are behind you, now it's mind over matter. I quit with you today.
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Welp, mowed the lawn this evening. That was one of those things that went with chew like milk goes with cookies. So, I packed a big cheek full of... Sunflower seeds, hopped on the mower, and went to town. It was all good. I think that fresh cut grass might have smelled a little fresher this time. How long do sleep issues usually last? I'm getting sleep, but I wake up 2 or 3 times at night, roll around a little, then go back to sleep.
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Welp, mowed the lawn this evening. That was one of those things that went with chew like milk goes with cookies. So, I packed a big cheek full of... Sunflower seeds, hopped on the mower, and went to town. It was all good. I think that fresh cut grass might have smelled a little fresher this time. How long do sleep issues usually last? I'm getting sleep, but I wake up 2 or 3 times at night, roll around a little, then go back to sleep.
Be careful here Josh...we all went through that stage of quitting where our addiction starts whispering bullshit about our health....your stomach will feel better, your teeth will stop hurting, you'll be able to sleep better, if only you start dipping again. Please believe me when I tell you that is a siren song of crap. You are, and will be, fine.
The truth is, Make any major change to the way you live....stop eating meat, take large amounts of vitamins, cut out carbs, etc....any major change can have the same side effects you're having. Dipping, and nicotine abuse is what your body is used to...give it time and it will become used to living clean.
The rule of thumb I have seen time and again from quitters is 10 days. Usually it takes 10 days or less for a stage of withdrawal to run its course. It may be replaced by something else, but that too will probably last 10 days or less. I like what I've read so far. Keep it up.
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Welp, mowed the lawn this evening. That was one of those things that went with chew like milk goes with cookies. So, I packed a big cheek full of... Sunflower seeds, hopped on the mower, and went to town. It was all good. I think that fresh cut grass might have smelled a little fresher this time. How long do sleep issues usually last? I'm getting sleep, but I wake up 2 or 3 times at night, roll around a little, then go back to sleep.
Be careful here Josh...we all went through that stage of quitting where our addiction starts whispering bullshit about our health....your stomach will feel better, your teeth will stop hurting, you'll be able to sleep better, if only you start dipping again. Please believe me when I tell you that is a siren song of crap. You are, and will be, fine.
The truth is, Make any major change to the way you live....stop eating meat, take large amounts of vitamins, cut out carbs, etc....any major change can have the same side effects you're having. Dipping, and nicotine abuse is what your body is used to...give it time and it will become used to living clean.
The rule of thumb I have seen time and again from quitters is 10 days. Usually it takes 10 days or less for a stage of withdrawal to run its course. It may be replaced by something else, but that too will probably last 10 days or less. I like what I've read so far. Keep it up.
Josh, if you really want to know, read my intro, from start to finish. That will take you 130 or so days into my quit. There is a lot of shite associated with quitting this shite. All of it is worth it.
You've got the wrong friggin fishing rod in your avatar. The reel should be on the end of the rod, packed with fly line and backing.
Spend time on this site, searching for answers. Most of them are here. There are links to the answers that lie elsewhere. Get involved with those who have quit within days of you. They are your brothers. They are going through the same thing, at the same time, as you.
Grab your sack, scream, and hang on as if your life depends on it. It does.
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Welp, mowed the lawn this evening. That was one of those things that went with chew like milk goes with cookies. So, I packed a big cheek full of... Sunflower seeds, hopped on the mower, and went to town. It was all good. I think that fresh cut grass might have smelled a little fresher this time. How long do sleep issues usually last? I'm getting sleep, but I wake up 2 or 3 times at night, roll around a little, then go back to sleep.
Be careful here Josh...we all went through that stage of quitting where our addiction starts whispering bullshit about our health....your stomach will feel better, your teeth will stop hurting, you'll be able to sleep better, if only you start dipping again. Please believe me when I tell you that is a siren song of crap. You are, and will be, fine.
The truth is, Make any major change to the way you live....stop eating meat, take large amounts of vitamins, cut out carbs, etc....any major change can have the same side effects you're having. Dipping, and nicotine abuse is what your body is used to...give it time and it will become used to living clean.
The rule of thumb I have seen time and again from quitters is 10 days. Usually it takes 10 days or less for a stage of withdrawal to run its course. It may be replaced by something else, but that too will probably last 10 days or less. I like what I've read so far. Keep it up.
I'm doin my best here to be super careful, from everything I've read this is gonna be a long road. I know, that inside I'm an addict, and one sniff of a can, hell probably just holding a can, would start it all over again. So, one day at a time, I quit.
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Nice work today Josh87 with your quit. I am proud to be quit with you!
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Welp, mowed the lawn this evening. That was one of those things that went with chew like milk goes with cookies. So, I packed a big cheek full of... Sunflower seeds, hopped on the mower, and went to town. It was all good. I think that fresh cut grass might have smelled a little fresher this time. How long do sleep issues usually last? I'm getting sleep, but I wake up 2 or 3 times at night, roll around a little, then go back to sleep.
Be careful here Josh...we all went through that stage of quitting where our addiction starts whispering bullshit about our health....your stomach will feel better, your teeth will stop hurting, you'll be able to sleep better, if only you start dipping again. Please believe me when I tell you that is a siren song of crap. You are, and will be, fine.
The truth is, Make any major change to the way you live....stop eating meat, take large amounts of vitamins, cut out carbs, etc....any major change can have the same side effects you're having. Dipping, and nicotine abuse is what your body is used to...give it time and it will become used to living clean.
The rule of thumb I have seen time and again from quitters is 10 days. Usually it takes 10 days or less for a stage of withdrawal to run its course. It may be replaced by something else, but that too will probably last 10 days or less. I like what I've read so far. Keep it up.
Josh, if you really want to know, read my intro, from start to finish. That will take you 130 or so days into my quit. There is a lot of shite associated with quitting this shite. All of it is worth it.
You've got the wrong friggin fishing rod in your avatar. The reel should be on the end of the rod, packed with fly line and backing.
Spend time on this site, searching for answers. Most of them are here. There are links to the answers that lie elsewhere. Get involved with those who have quit within days of you. They are your brothers. They are going through the same thing, at the same time, as you.
Grab your sack, scream, and hang on as if your life depends on it. It does.
Good stuff in your intro. Gives a good perspective on the road ahead. And I like my live bait fishin- something else I'm looking forward to doin without thinking I need a pouch of chew stuffed in my lip the whole time
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Today marks one week of quitting, each and every day. I'm keeping my eyes on this site, and I've begun counting up how much money I'm saving. A roll of skoal xtra was close to ten bucks, so I've saved about 14 bucks. That adds up. In my ten years of chewing, averaging the cost and how much I chewed, I've pissed away probably close to $5,000. And for what. Spending money to slowly kill yourself, that's real smart. I finally got a good sleep last night, so we'll see what other sneaky little tricks the nic bitch is gonna try on me now, I'm sure it will be something. Yesterday I had to fill my truck, so I just paid with my card at the pump. I had no feelings of caving at the time, just didn't feel like going in and looking at all those cans on the rack. Not yet. I don't wanna get careless about this. Two nights ago it was a dream, not that I used, but a withdrawal issue. I dreamed I was covered in hives from head to toe, on top of my head my hair was falling out from the hives, because I didn't have chew. (I used to actually get hives from my allergies) So I woke up, no hives, just a damn dream. Anyway, today I quit. This weekend I quit. Every day one day at a time.
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Today marks one week of quitting, each and every day. I'm keeping my eyes on this site, and I've begun counting up how much money I'm saving. A roll of skoal xtra was close to ten bucks, so I've saved about 14 bucks. That adds up. In my ten years of chewing, averaging the cost and how much I chewed, I've pissed away probably close to $5,000. And for what. Spending money to slowly kill yourself, that's real smart. I finally got a good sleep last night, so we'll see what other sneaky little tricks the nic bitch is gonna try on me now, I'm sure it will be something. Yesterday I had to fill my truck, so I just paid with my card at the pump. I had no feelings of caving at the time, just didn't feel like going in and looking at all those cans on the rack. Not yet. I don't wanna get careless about this. Two nights ago it was a dream, not that I used, but a withdrawal issue. I dreamed I was covered in hives from head to toe, on top of my head my hair was falling out from the hives, because I didn't have chew. (I used to actually get hives from my allergies) So I woke up, no hives, just a damn dream. Anyway, today I quit. This weekend I quit. Every day one day at a time.
Josh, what changed this weekend? This post should remind you of all the reasons why you knew better and yet you still threw it all away. This post is all the stuff you think others want to hear, but you weren't living it. There's a big difference and it's up to you to get over that hump. You choose to quit so that you don't have a choice whether to cave. Quit today instead of just not using today.
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Today marks one week of quitting, each and every day. I'm keeping my eyes on this site, and I've begun counting up how much money I'm saving. A roll of skoal xtra was close to ten bucks, so I've saved about 14 bucks. That adds up. In my ten years of chewing, averaging the cost and how much I chewed, I've pissed away probably close to $5,000. And for what. Spending money to slowly kill yourself, that's real smart. I finally got a good sleep last night, so we'll see what other sneaky little tricks the nic bitch is gonna try on me now, I'm sure it will be something. Yesterday I had to fill my truck, so I just paid with my card at the pump. I had no feelings of caving at the time, just didn't feel like going in and looking at all those cans on the rack. Not yet. I don't wanna get careless about this. Two nights ago it was a dream, not that I used, but a withdrawal issue. I dreamed I was covered in hives from head to toe, on top of my head my hair was falling out from the hives, because I didn't have chew. (I used to actually get hives from my allergies) So I woke up, no hives, just a damn dream. Anyway, today I quit. This weekend I quit. Every day one day at a time.
Josh, what changed this weekend? This post should remind you of all the reasons why you knew better and yet you still threw it all away. This post is all the stuff you think others want to hear, but you weren't living it. There's a big difference and it's up to you to get over that hump. You choose to quit so that you don't have a choice whether to cave. Quit today instead of just not using today.
You're right. Something changed in me on Sunday. Maybe it was not going to work, or being busy all day like I was on Saturday, more idle time for the addiction to trick me. I made it a week and threw it away. I've now exchanged numbers with a handful of folks, and texted a few of them today while I was at work and couldn't put my nose on this site. I trashed the dip from last night, and I got smoky mountain fake dip today, adding to my forces against this addiction. I hate the fact that I caved yesterday. But I can't take it back, all I can do is learn and move forward.
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Today marks one week of quitting, each and every day. I'm keeping my eyes on this site, and I've begun counting up how much money I'm saving. A roll of skoal xtra was close to ten bucks, so I've saved about 14 bucks. That adds up. In my ten years of chewing, averaging the cost and how much I chewed, I've pissed away probably close to $5,000. And for what. Spending money to slowly kill yourself, that's real smart. I finally got a good sleep last night, so we'll see what other sneaky little tricks the nic bitch is gonna try on me now, I'm sure it will be something. Yesterday I had to fill my truck, so I just paid with my card at the pump. I had no feelings of caving at the time, just didn't feel like going in and looking at all those cans on the rack. Not yet. I don't wanna get careless about this. Two nights ago it was a dream, not that I used, but a withdrawal issue. I dreamed I was covered in hives from head to toe, on top of my head my hair was falling out from the hives, because I didn't have chew. (I used to actually get hives from my allergies) So I woke up, no hives, just a damn dream. Anyway, today I quit. This weekend I quit. Every day one day at a time.
Josh, what changed this weekend? This post should remind you of all the reasons why you knew better and yet you still threw it all away. This post is all the stuff you think others want to hear, but you weren't living it. There's a big difference and it's up to you to get over that hump. You choose to quit so that you don't have a choice whether to cave. Quit today instead of just not using today.
You're right. Something changed in me on Sunday. Maybe it was not going to work, or being busy all day like I was on Saturday, more idle time for the addiction to trick me. I made it a week and threw it away. I've now exchanged numbers with a handful of folks, and texted a few of them today while I was at work and couldn't put my nose on this site. I trashed the dip from last night, and I got smoky mountain fake dip today, adding to my forces against this addiction. I hate the fact that I caved yesterday. But I can't take it back, all I can do is learn and move forward.
Glad you're starting over. You've got a fantastic resource here to help you get quit.
It does need to be made clear that this resource is not unconditional. You post roll, you keep your promise, you get involved and you will find this place to be full of support and camaraderie. If you fail once, you come back humbly, own your failure, thoughtfully fully examine it, learn from it and make a plan to avoid it happening again. You follow that plan and you have the chance to earn back some trust.
If you fail twice, that's it for you. I'll wish you luck, but no way in hell am I expending one iota of mental energy or emotional investment in your quit. It's not personal, I'm sure you're a nice person, but I'm not going to let a serial failure waste my time.
So you've taken a mulligan. Get your head right, dust off and quit for real. Don't romanticize that shit, don't cave to peer pressure. GET ANGRY! Next time someone shoves a can in your face, take it and launch that shit as far as you can.
You now have to do some work on your plan and then live it.
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Today marks one week of quitting, each and every day. I'm keeping my eyes on this site, and I've begun counting up how much money I'm saving. A roll of skoal xtra was close to ten bucks, so I've saved about 14 bucks. That adds up. In my ten years of chewing, averaging the cost and how much I chewed, I've pissed away probably close to $5,000. And for what. Spending money to slowly kill yourself, that's real smart. I finally got a good sleep last night, so we'll see what other sneaky little tricks the nic bitch is gonna try on me now, I'm sure it will be something. Yesterday I had to fill my truck, so I just paid with my card at the pump. I had no feelings of caving at the time, just didn't feel like going in and looking at all those cans on the rack. Not yet. I don't wanna get careless about this. Two nights ago it was a dream, not that I used, but a withdrawal issue. I dreamed I was covered in hives from head to toe, on top of my head my hair was falling out from the hives, because I didn't have chew. (I used to actually get hives from my allergies) So I woke up, no hives, just a damn dream. Anyway, today I quit. This weekend I quit. Every day one day at a time.
Josh, what changed this weekend? This post should remind you of all the reasons why you knew better and yet you still threw it all away. This post is all the stuff you think others want to hear, but you weren't living it. There's a big difference and it's up to you to get over that hump. You choose to quit so that you don't have a choice whether to cave. Quit today instead of just not using today.
You're right. Something changed in me on Sunday. Maybe it was not going to work, or being busy all day like I was on Saturday, more idle time for the addiction to trick me. I made it a week and threw it away. I've now exchanged numbers with a handful of folks, and texted a few of them today while I was at work and couldn't put my nose on this site. I trashed the dip from last night, and I got smoky mountain fake dip today, adding to my forces against this addiction. I hate the fact that I caved yesterday. But I can't take it back, all I can do is learn and move forward.
Glad you're starting over. You've got a fantastic resource here to help you get quit.
It does need to be made clear that this resource is not unconditional. You post roll, you keep your promise, you get involved and you will find this place to be full of support and camaraderie. If you fail once, you come back humbly, own your failure, thoughtfully fully examine it, learn from it and make a plan to avoid it happening again. You follow that plan and you have the chance to earn back some trust.
If you fail twice, that's it for you. I'll wish you luck, but no way in hell am I expending one iota of mental energy or emotional investment in your quit. It's not personal, I'm sure you're a nice person, but I'm not going to let a serial failure waste my time.
So you've taken a mulligan. Get your head right, dust off and quit for real. Don't romanticize that shit, don't cave to peer pressure. GET ANGRY! Next time someone shoves a can in your face, take it and launch that shit as far as you can.
You now have to do some work on your plan and then live it.
Dude toughen the fuck up! You are going to have a reason to cave everyday for the rest of your life. I have yet to hear one reason that makes sense. You breaking your promise to stay quit cheapens all of our promises. Quitting is a tough grind, so put your big boy pants on and make this quit for real.
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Today marks one week of quitting, each and every day. I'm keeping my eyes on this site, and I've begun counting up how much money I'm saving. A roll of skoal xtra was close to ten bucks, so I've saved about 14 bucks. That adds up. In my ten years of chewing, averaging the cost and how much I chewed, I've pissed away probably close to $5,000. And for what. Spending money to slowly kill yourself, that's real smart. I finally got a good sleep last night, so we'll see what other sneaky little tricks the nic bitch is gonna try on me now, I'm sure it will be something. Yesterday I had to fill my truck, so I just paid with my card at the pump. I had no feelings of caving at the time, just didn't feel like going in and looking at all those cans on the rack. Not yet. I don't wanna get careless about this. Two nights ago it was a dream, not that I used, but a withdrawal issue. I dreamed I was covered in hives from head to toe, on top of my head my hair was falling out from the hives, because I didn't have chew. (I used to actually get hives from my allergies) So I woke up, no hives, just a damn dream. Anyway, today I quit. This weekend I quit. Every day one day at a time.
Josh, what changed this weekend? This post should remind you of all the reasons why you knew better and yet you still threw it all away. This post is all the stuff you think others want to hear, but you weren't living it. There's a big difference and it's up to you to get over that hump. You choose to quit so that you don't have a choice whether to cave. Quit today instead of just not using today.
You're right. Something changed in me on Sunday. Maybe it was not going to work, or being busy all day like I was on Saturday, more idle time for the addiction to trick me. I made it a week and threw it away. I've now exchanged numbers with a handful of folks, and texted a few of them today while I was at work and couldn't put my nose on this site. I trashed the dip from last night, and I got smoky mountain fake dip today, adding to my forces against this addiction. I hate the fact that I caved yesterday. But I can't take it back, all I can do is learn and move forward.
Glad you're starting over. You've got a fantastic resource here to help you get quit.
It does need to be made clear that this resource is not unconditional. You post roll, you keep your promise, you get involved and you will find this place to be full of support and camaraderie. If you fail once, you come back humbly, own your failure, thoughtfully fully examine it, learn from it and make a plan to avoid it happening again. You follow that plan and you have the chance to earn back some trust.
If you fail twice, that's it for you. I'll wish you luck, but no way in hell am I expending one iota of mental energy or emotional investment in your quit. It's not personal, I'm sure you're a nice person, but I'm not going to let a serial failure waste my time.
So you've taken a mulligan. Get your head right, dust off and quit for real. Don't romanticize that shit, don't cave to peer pressure. GET ANGRY! Next time someone shoves a can in your face, take it and launch that shit as far as you can.
You now have to do some work on your plan and then live it.
Dude toughen the fuck up! You are going to have a reason to cave everyday for the rest of your life. I have yet to hear one reason that makes sense. You breaking your promise to stay quit cheapens all of our promises. Quitting is a tough grind, so put your big boy pants on and make this quit for real.
Amen to that !!
Cmon man. You can do this but you have to be strong enough to make it past 10 days. I think you can do it. Get angry is right.
I got straightened out by a few vets for missing 2 of my first 6 days on roll call. Didn't cave, just didn't post.
Well it clicked for me, and there is no way I will cave after I give my promise that day. No way in hell.