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Community => Introductions => Topic started by: Tuesday on May 21, 2013, 12:43:00 PM
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Hi,
I am new here and do not really know where to start, or even if I really should be here. I am on day nine and having a hard time not caving today, and I thought that I could use some company (you know that misery loves company right?).
I didn't tell anyone in my life that I quit, because I don't want them to blame everything I say on the fact that I am not chewing. Or, I don't want them to try to talk me into chewing to make them feel better. However, today I am wondering if I am simply being a bitch because I quit chewing. I am seriously debating the worth of quitting.
For example, my little girl's bike broke. She was all upset, and I told her to tell her father because I couldn't fix it. I am not sure that it even can be fixed, but I hoped that he would care. So, he gets home and completely blows her off with maybe he will look at it on a day that he didn't have to work. Now, I know that means never, and I also know that I will be the one buying her a bike if I want her to have one. All I wanted was for him to say, "Oh, I'm sorry honey. Let's go take a look at it." Like that would ever happen. Now I am pissed off at him, but I haven't told him because maybe I'm being irrational because ALL I WANT IS TO TAKE A DAMN CHEW.
Is anyone else in the same boat?
Thanks,
Tuesday
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Hi,
I am new here and do not really know where to start, or even if I really should be here. I am on day nine and having a hard time not caving today, and I thought that I could use some company (you know that misery loves company right?).
I didn't tell anyone in my life that I quit, because I don't want them to blame everything I say on the fact that I am not chewing. Or, I don't want them to try to talk me into chewing to make them feel better. However, today I am wondering if I am simply being a bitch because I quit chewing. I am seriously debating the worth of quitting.
For example, my little girl's bike broke. She was all upset, and I told her to tell her father because I couldn't fix it. I am not sure that it even can be fixed, but I hoped that he would care. So, he gets home and completely blows her off with maybe he will look at it on a day that he didn't have to work. Now, I know that means never, and I also know that I will be the one buying her a bike if I want her to have one. All I wanted was for him to say, "Oh, I'm sorry honey. Let's go take a look at it." Like that would ever happen. Now I am pissed off at him, but I haven't told him because maybe I'm being irrational because ALL I WANT IS TO TAKE A DAMN CHEW.
Is anyone else in the same boat?
Thanks,
Tuesday
Tuesday, get into the August group right now and make your promise first and foremost. Give me 24 hours with no Nic, one day at a time. Congrats on your nine day victory, and you have come to the right spot.
At nine days the nic is out of your body your down to the mind games and oral fixation parts.
Remember, Nic did nothing for you, if you had a chew in any of these situations, it would not make them better, it would only push you one day closer to Cancer. Check your inbox, I am sending my information to you now.
Last remember how the first days felt, dont re-live that shit with a cave. Get into roll now, make your promise and secure your quit with your word.
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Hi,
I am new here and do not really know where to start, or even if I really should be here. I am on day nine and having a hard time not caving today, and I thought that I could use some company (you know that misery loves company right?).
I didn't tell anyone in my life that I quit, because I don't want them to blame everything I say on the fact that I am not chewing. Or, I don't want them to try to talk me into chewing to make them feel better. However, today I am wondering if I am simply being a bitch because I quit chewing. I am seriously debating the worth of quitting.
For example, my little girl's bike broke. She was all upset, and I told her to tell her father because I couldn't fix it. I am not sure that it even can be fixed, but I hoped that he would care. So, he gets home and completely blows her off with maybe he will look at it on a day that he didn't have to work. Now, I know that means never, and I also know that I will be the one buying her a bike if I want her to have one. All I wanted was for him to say, "Oh, I'm sorry honey. Let's go take a look at it." Like that would ever happen. Now I am pissed off at him, but I haven't told him because maybe I'm being irrational because ALL I WANT IS TO TAKE A DAMN CHEW.
Is anyone else in the same boat?
Thanks,
Tuesday
First of all, 9 days is freaking awesome. I am so proud of you. What have you done so far to stay quit?
Secondly, I saw that you have posted roll for today. That means that you promised us and (most importantly) yourself that you won't use nicotine today. Step 2 to our program is keeping your word. Do whatever you need to stay quit.
Third, Don't be afraid to tell people you are quit. I tell everybody, and it's been nearly 2 years. I am proud of myself because I know how hard it is to get through a day sometimes. Being "quit" is not just a decision. It is a perpetual state of actions. We plan to be quit. We tailor our actions to be quit. We will be quit.
Finally, quitting is hard. There are some tricks to help like limiting your caffeine, drinking lots of water, and working out. This helps to get the blood moving, and gets rid of the jitters you are experiencing. Read up on the site, and have some friends to "bitch" at here. We've been where you are, and we know that sometimes all we need is an outlet (not a fight).
Be open to your hubby and everybody else in your life. You can do this.
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First of all, 9 days is freaking awesome. I am so proud of you. What have you done so far to stay quit?
Secondly, I saw that you have posted roll for today. That means that you promised us and (most importantly) yourself that you won't use nicotine today. Step 2 to our program is keeping your word. Do whatever you need to stay quit.
Third, Don't be afraid to tell people you are quit. I tell everybody, and it's been nearly 2 years. I am proud of myself because I know how hard it is to get through a day sometimes. Being "quit" is not just a decision. It is a perpetual state of actions. We plan to be quit. We tailor our actions to be quit. We will be quit.
Finally, quitting is hard. There are some tricks to help like limiting your caffeine, drinking lots of water, and working out. This helps to get the blood moving, and gets rid of the jitters you are experiencing. Read up on the site, and have some friends to "bitch" at here. We've been where you are, and we know that sometimes all we need is an outlet (not a fight).
Be open to your hubby and everybody else in your life. You can do this.
First of all, 9 days is freaking awesome. I am so proud of you. What have you done so far to stay quit?
Secondly, I saw that you have posted roll for today. That means that you promised us and (most importantly) yourself that you won't use nicotine today. Step 2 to our program is keeping your word. Do whatever you need to stay quit.
Third, Don't be afraid to tell people you are quit. I tell everybody, and it's been nearly 2 years. I am proud of myself because I know how hard it is to get through a day sometimes. Being "quit" is not just a decision. It is a perpetual state of actions. We plan to be quit. We tailor our actions to be quit. We will be quit.
Finally, quitting is hard. There are some tricks to help like limiting your caffeine, drinking lots of water, and working out. This helps to get the blood moving, and gets rid of the jitters you are experiencing. Read up on the site, and have some friends to "bitch" at here. We've been where you are, and we know that sometimes all we need is an outlet (not a fight).
Be open to your hubby and everybody else in your life. You can do this.
Thanks Wastepanel,
Well, I have been drinking a lot of water and being very active. (Hence riding bikes with the girls, roller skating, riding my horse, shooting my bow, etc.) I still feel a little foggy and very agitated, and when I am at work sitting down it is extremely hard.
I really don't think that I should tell my hubby. I quit once before (not including that I didn't chew when I was pregnant, because that's an obvious one and was for an important reason), which only lasted eight months. He is not the person going "stay quit," he is the person that says "stop being a bitch and take a chew already" EVERY time I say anything pissy.
Terrilynn
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Okay, sorry for quoting incorrectly. I am new. ;)
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First of all, 9 days is freaking awesome. I am so proud of you. What have you done so far to stay quit?
Secondly, I saw that you have posted roll for today. That means that you promised us and (most importantly) yourself that you won't use nicotine today. Step 2 to our program is keeping your word. Do whatever you need to stay quit.
Third, Don't be afraid to tell people you are quit. I tell everybody, and it's been nearly 2 years. I am proud of myself because I know how hard it is to get through a day sometimes. Being "quit" is not just a decision. It is a perpetual state of actions. We plan to be quit. We tailor our actions to be quit. We will be quit.
Finally, quitting is hard. There are some tricks to help like limiting your caffeine, drinking lots of water, and working out. This helps to get the blood moving, and gets rid of the jitters you are experiencing. Read up on the site, and have some friends to "bitch" at here. We've been where you are, and we know that sometimes all we need is an outlet (not a fight).
Be open to your hubby and everybody else in your life. You can do this.
First of all, 9 days is freaking awesome. I am so proud of you. What have you done so far to stay quit?
Secondly, I saw that you have posted roll for today. That means that you promised us and (most importantly) yourself that you won't use nicotine today. Step 2 to our program is keeping your word. Do whatever you need to stay quit.
Third, Don't be afraid to tell people you are quit. I tell everybody, and it's been nearly 2 years. I am proud of myself because I know how hard it is to get through a day sometimes. Being "quit" is not just a decision. It is a perpetual state of actions. We plan to be quit. We tailor our actions to be quit. We will be quit.
Finally, quitting is hard. There are some tricks to help like limiting your caffeine, drinking lots of water, and working out. This helps to get the blood moving, and gets rid of the jitters you are experiencing. Read up on the site, and have some friends to "bitch" at here. We've been where you are, and we know that sometimes all we need is an outlet (not a fight).
Be open to your hubby and everybody else in your life. You can do this.
Thanks Wastepanel,
Well, I have been drinking a lot of water and being very active. (Hence riding bikes with the girls, roller skating, riding my horse, shooting my bow, etc.) I still feel a little foggy and very agitated, and when I am at work sitting down it is extremely hard.
I really don't think that I should tell my hubby. I quit once before (not including that I didn't chew when I was pregnant, because that's an obvious one and was for an important reason), which only lasted eight months. He is not the person going "stay quit," he is the person that says "stop being a bitch and take a chew already" EVERY time I say anything pissy.
Terrilynn
Oh, you're fine.
Here's the thing Tuesday: You are the only person that can choose whether you are using or not. Unless he's secretly injecting your body with nicotine against your will, you are the only one in control of this.
Does he chew?
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Oh, I'm not blaming him, I am just explaining why I am not telling him. Also I am showing that I probably am unreasonable while I am quitting.
Yes, he does chew.
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First of all, 9 days is freaking awesome. I am so proud of you. What have you done so far to stay quit?
Secondly, I saw that you have posted roll for today. That means that you promised us and (most importantly) yourself that you won't use nicotine today. Step 2 to our program is keeping your word. Do whatever you need to stay quit.
Third, Don't be afraid to tell people you are quit. I tell everybody, and it's been nearly 2 years. I am proud of myself because I know how hard it is to get through a day sometimes. Being "quit" is not just a decision. It is a perpetual state of actions. We plan to be quit. We tailor our actions to be quit. We will be quit.
Finally, quitting is hard. There are some tricks to help like limiting your caffeine, drinking lots of water, and working out. This helps to get the blood moving, and gets rid of the jitters you are experiencing. Read up on the site, and have some friends to "bitch" at here. We've been where you are, and we know that sometimes all we need is an outlet (not a fight).
Be open to your hubby and everybody else in your life. You can do this.
First of all, 9 days is freaking awesome. I am so proud of you. What have you done so far to stay quit?
Secondly, I saw that you have posted roll for today. That means that you promised us and (most importantly) yourself that you won't use nicotine today. Step 2 to our program is keeping your word. Do whatever you need to stay quit.
Third, Don't be afraid to tell people you are quit. I tell everybody, and it's been nearly 2 years. I am proud of myself because I know how hard it is to get through a day sometimes. Being "quit" is not just a decision. It is a perpetual state of actions. We plan to be quit. We tailor our actions to be quit. We will be quit.
Finally, quitting is hard. There are some tricks to help like limiting your caffeine, drinking lots of water, and working out. This helps to get the blood moving, and gets rid of the jitters you are experiencing. Read up on the site, and have some friends to "bitch" at here. We've been where you are, and we know that sometimes all we need is an outlet (not a fight).
Be open to your hubby and everybody else in your life. You can do this.
Thanks Wastepanel,
Well, I have been drinking a lot of water and being very active. (Hence riding bikes with the girls, roller skating, riding my horse, shooting my bow, etc.) I still feel a little foggy and very agitated, and when I am at work sitting down it is extremely hard.
I really don't think that I should tell my hubby. I quit once before (not including that I didn't chew when I was pregnant, because that's an obvious one and was for an important reason), which only lasted eight months. He is not the person going "stay quit," he is the person that says "stop being a bitch and take a chew already" EVERY time I say anything pissy.
Terrilynn
Terri, my wife actually bought me a can on one of the times I "stopped" Here is the thing though, he has to be involved in your quit. You need that support system. My wife really could care less if I am quit or not, so I post roll to her, and my kids every day. She may not care but this is for me, so I bring everyone I can into my accountability circle.
Hell the guy at my gym knows I quit and about once every few weeks he will ask me what day I am on. He thinks it's comical I know the day.
Anyway, do whatever you have to do, I sent you my number, use it. I will help you how ever I can, reach out, look around.
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First of all, 9 days is freaking awesome. I am so proud of you. What have you done so far to stay quit?
Secondly, I saw that you have posted roll for today. That means that you promised us and (most importantly) yourself that you won't use nicotine today. Step 2 to our program is keeping your word. Do whatever you need to stay quit.
Third, Don't be afraid to tell people you are quit. I tell everybody, and it's been nearly 2 years. I am proud of myself because I know how hard it is to get through a day sometimes. Being "quit" is not just a decision. It is a perpetual state of actions. We plan to be quit. We tailor our actions to be quit. We will be quit.
Finally, quitting is hard. There are some tricks to help like limiting your caffeine, drinking lots of water, and working out. This helps to get the blood moving, and gets rid of the jitters you are experiencing. Read up on the site, and have some friends to "bitch" at here. We've been where you are, and we know that sometimes all we need is an outlet (not a fight).
Be open to your hubby and everybody else in your life. You can do this.
First of all, 9 days is freaking awesome. I am so proud of you. What have you done so far to stay quit?
Secondly, I saw that you have posted roll for today. That means that you promised us and (most importantly) yourself that you won't use nicotine today. Step 2 to our program is keeping your word. Do whatever you need to stay quit.
Third, Don't be afraid to tell people you are quit. I tell everybody, and it's been nearly 2 years. I am proud of myself because I know how hard it is to get through a day sometimes. Being "quit" is not just a decision. It is a perpetual state of actions. We plan to be quit. We tailor our actions to be quit. We will be quit.
Finally, quitting is hard. There are some tricks to help like limiting your caffeine, drinking lots of water, and working out. This helps to get the blood moving, and gets rid of the jitters you are experiencing. Read up on the site, and have some friends to "bitch" at here. We've been where you are, and we know that sometimes all we need is an outlet (not a fight).
Be open to your hubby and everybody else in your life. You can do this.
Thanks Wastepanel,
Well, I have been drinking a lot of water and being very active. (Hence riding bikes with the girls, roller skating, riding my horse, shooting my bow, etc.) I still feel a little foggy and very agitated, and when I am at work sitting down it is extremely hard.
I really don't think that I should tell my hubby. I quit once before (not including that I didn't chew when I was pregnant, because that's an obvious one and was for an important reason), which only lasted eight months. He is not the person going "stay quit," he is the person that says "stop being a bitch and take a chew already" EVERY time I say anything pissy.
Terrilynn
Terri, my wife actually bought me a can on one of the times I "stopped" Here is the thing though, he has to be involved in your quit. You need that support system. My wife really could care less if I am quit or not, so I post roll to her, and my kids every day. She may not care but this is for me, so I bring everyone I can into my accountability circle.
Hell the guy at my gym knows I quit and about once every few weeks he will ask me what day I am on. He thinks it's comical I know the day.
Anyway, do whatever you have to do, I sent you my number, use it. I will help you how ever I can, reach out, look around.
Thank you. I am sure that with my attitude (at least the one I have shockingly kept to myself these last nine days) my husband would throw a can of chew at me, and we would get in a big fight. LOL
I am so on edge. How did you overcome it?
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Oh, I'm not blaming him, I am just explaining why I am not telling him. Also I am showing that I probably am unreasonable while I am quitting.
Yes, he does chew.
A lot of times, people don't want to be shown there can be freedom from nicotine. They want to feel resolved to putting up with using it and "needing" it.
What made you quit?
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First of all, 9 days is freaking awesome. I am so proud of you. What have you done so far to stay quit?
Secondly, I saw that you have posted roll for today. That means that you promised us and (most importantly) yourself that you won't use nicotine today. Step 2 to our program is keeping your word. Do whatever you need to stay quit.
Third, Don't be afraid to tell people you are quit. I tell everybody, and it's been nearly 2 years. I am proud of myself because I know how hard it is to get through a day sometimes. Being "quit" is not just a decision. It is a perpetual state of actions. We plan to be quit. We tailor our actions to be quit. We will be quit.
Finally, quitting is hard. There are some tricks to help like limiting your caffeine, drinking lots of water, and working out. This helps to get the blood moving, and gets rid of the jitters you are experiencing. Read up on the site, and have some friends to "bitch" at here. We've been where you are, and we know that sometimes all we need is an outlet (not a fight).
Be open to your hubby and everybody else in your life. You can do this.
First of all, 9 days is freaking awesome. I am so proud of you. What have you done so far to stay quit?
Secondly, I saw that you have posted roll for today. That means that you promised us and (most importantly) yourself that you won't use nicotine today. Step 2 to our program is keeping your word. Do whatever you need to stay quit.
Third, Don't be afraid to tell people you are quit. I tell everybody, and it's been nearly 2 years. I am proud of myself because I know how hard it is to get through a day sometimes. Being "quit" is not just a decision. It is a perpetual state of actions. We plan to be quit. We tailor our actions to be quit. We will be quit.
Finally, quitting is hard. There are some tricks to help like limiting your caffeine, drinking lots of water, and working out. This helps to get the blood moving, and gets rid of the jitters you are experiencing. Read up on the site, and have some friends to "bitch" at here. We've been where you are, and we know that sometimes all we need is an outlet (not a fight).
Be open to your hubby and everybody else in your life. You can do this.
Thanks Wastepanel,
Well, I have been drinking a lot of water and being very active. (Hence riding bikes with the girls, roller skating, riding my horse, shooting my bow, etc.) I still feel a little foggy and very agitated, and when I am at work sitting down it is extremely hard.
I really don't think that I should tell my hubby. I quit once before (not including that I didn't chew when I was pregnant, because that's an obvious one and was for an important reason), which only lasted eight months. He is not the person going "stay quit," he is the person that says "stop being a bitch and take a chew already" EVERY time I say anything pissy.
Terrilynn
Terri, my wife actually bought me a can on one of the times I "stopped" Here is the thing though, he has to be involved in your quit. You need that support system. My wife really could care less if I am quit or not, so I post roll to her, and my kids every day. She may not care but this is for me, so I bring everyone I can into my accountability circle.
Hell the guy at my gym knows I quit and about once every few weeks he will ask me what day I am on. He thinks it's comical I know the day.
Anyway, do whatever you have to do, I sent you my number, use it. I will help you how ever I can, reach out, look around.
Thank you. I am sure that with my attitude (at least the one I have shockingly kept to myself these last nine days) my husband would throw a can of chew at me, and we would get in a big fight. LOL
I am so on edge. How did you overcome it?
It's second by second. I knew if I allowed myself to blow, it would be trigger my wife to want me to start again. Deep breaths, walk outside gut it down if you have to. Or reach out to your group. You will not hurt my feeling if you text or call me just to cuss. I will tell you thank you can I have another round please!
Lord knows I sure did. I have raged, but I did it to another KTC member, or to myself in the mirror. You have to keep up the good fight. Your situation is tough you have another chewer in the house. But I will quit with you today, 24 hours, then we can do it all again tomorrow.
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Oh, I'm not blaming him, I am just explaining why I am not telling him. Also I am showing that I probably am unreasonable while I am quitting.
Yes, he does chew.
A lot of times, people don't want to be shown there can be freedom from nicotine. They want to feel resolved to putting up with using it and "needing" it.
What made you quit?
Today, I am not really sure.
I think that it was hiding it from my kids and wanting to be healthier. I want to gain some weight too, because I think that will make me healthier, and not chewing is a good way to do that. I don't want my girls to catch me chewing.
Oh, I also hate that feeling of not having enough chew left to get through the day.
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First of all, 9 days is freaking awesome. I am so proud of you. What have you done so far to stay quit?
Secondly, I saw that you have posted roll for today. That means that you promised us and (most importantly) yourself that you won't use nicotine today. Step 2 to our program is keeping your word. Do whatever you need to stay quit.
Third, Don't be afraid to tell people you are quit. I tell everybody, and it's been nearly 2 years. I am proud of myself because I know how hard it is to get through a day sometimes. Being "quit" is not just a decision. It is a perpetual state of actions. We plan to be quit. We tailor our actions to be quit. We will be quit.
Finally, quitting is hard. There are some tricks to help like limiting your caffeine, drinking lots of water, and working out. This helps to get the blood moving, and gets rid of the jitters you are experiencing. Read up on the site, and have some friends to "bitch" at here. We've been where you are, and we know that sometimes all we need is an outlet (not a fight).
Be open to your hubby and everybody else in your life. You can do this.
First of all, 9 days is freaking awesome. I am so proud of you. What have you done so far to stay quit?
Secondly, I saw that you have posted roll for today. That means that you promised us and (most importantly) yourself that you won't use nicotine today. Step 2 to our program is keeping your word. Do whatever you need to stay quit.
Third, Don't be afraid to tell people you are quit. I tell everybody, and it's been nearly 2 years. I am proud of myself because I know how hard it is to get through a day sometimes. Being "quit" is not just a decision. It is a perpetual state of actions. We plan to be quit. We tailor our actions to be quit. We will be quit.
Finally, quitting is hard. There are some tricks to help like limiting your caffeine, drinking lots of water, and working out. This helps to get the blood moving, and gets rid of the jitters you are experiencing. Read up on the site, and have some friends to "bitch" at here. We've been where you are, and we know that sometimes all we need is an outlet (not a fight).
Be open to your hubby and everybody else in your life. You can do this.
Thanks Wastepanel,
Well, I have been drinking a lot of water and being very active. (Hence riding bikes with the girls, roller skating, riding my horse, shooting my bow, etc.) I still feel a little foggy and very agitated, and when I am at work sitting down it is extremely hard.
I really don't think that I should tell my hubby. I quit once before (not including that I didn't chew when I was pregnant, because that's an obvious one and was for an important reason), which only lasted eight months. He is not the person going "stay quit," he is the person that says "stop being a bitch and take a chew already" EVERY time I say anything pissy.
Terrilynn
Terri, my wife actually bought me a can on one of the times I "stopped" Here is the thing though, he has to be involved in your quit. You need that support system. My wife really could care less if I am quit or not, so I post roll to her, and my kids every day. She may not care but this is for me, so I bring everyone I can into my accountability circle.
Hell the guy at my gym knows I quit and about once every few weeks he will ask me what day I am on. He thinks it's comical I know the day.
Anyway, do whatever you have to do, I sent you my number, use it. I will help you how ever I can, reach out, look around.
Thank you. I am sure that with my attitude (at least the one I have shockingly kept to myself these last nine days) my husband would throw a can of chew at me, and we would get in a big fight. LOL
I am so on edge. How did you overcome it?
It's second by second. I knew if I allowed myself to blow, it would be trigger my wife to want me to start again. Deep breaths, walk outside gut it down if you have to. Or reach out to your group. You will not hurt my feeling if you text or call me just to cuss. I will tell you thank you can I have another round please!
Lord knows I sure did. I have raged, but I did it to another KTC member, or to myself in the mirror. You have to keep up the good fight. Your situation is tough you have another chewer in the house. But I will quit with you today, 24 hours, then we can do it all again tomorrow.
Thank you so much.
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Oh, I'm not blaming him, I am just explaining why I am not telling him. Also I am showing that I probably am unreasonable while I am quitting.
Yes, he does chew.
A lot of times, people don't want to be shown there can be freedom from nicotine. They want to feel resolved to putting up with using it and "needing" it.
What made you quit?
Today, I am not really sure.
I think that it was hiding it from my kids and wanting to be healthier. I want to gain some weight too, because I think that will make me healthier, and not chewing is a good way to do that. I don't want my girls to catch me chewing.
Oh, I also hate that feeling of not having enough chew left to get through the day.
Don't think.
KNOW.
I know why I quit initially.
I bought my 6 year old son a can of beef jerky because I couldn't find any regular beef jerky and had promised him some. He was scared by it until I told him it was safe (and not daddy's stuff), and then he promptly went home and packed it in front of mom.
I saw the look of disappointment and rage in her eyes, and I saw the nonchalant way that he handled that can like it would be a part of his life one day.
I started looking at my behaviors.
If I was in public and couldn't get to the bathroom before being given my food, I would simply gut the glob with my first few bites. My body temperature would rise a thousand degrees the moment my body realized it wasn't getting a nicotine stream. I would have to sneak off all the time to put one in (as I only packed and unpacked in front of close friends).
I would sleep on a chair at night instead of my bed so I could have one last one at night. I'd fall asleep with it in and wake up either choking or have it all over my face or both. I'd sometimes sleep take it out and stuff it inside of the chair. We had little brown pellets under the chair all of the time and my wife would be irate.
I "couldn't" live without the stuff.
AND I WAS FUCKING TIRED OF IT.
I came here because I wanted to be quit. But I was afraid.
The good folks here propped me up, and gave me the tools to be quit.
But I had to do it on my own. I had to live my quit. I had to make this quit priority number one in my life. Soon afterwards, I now had another reason to be quit: I was afraid to fall. I was afraid to let down all of these people that have given me so much of their time. I was afraid that people would call me weak (both here and personally). I was afraid to let down my son that I sat down and explained just why I was weepy and angry.
Be quit because you want to be quit. Throw out any secondary reasons, but ultimately the answer is going to be "I want to be quit". Scream it from the rooftops. Write it out a million times. Say it in the mirror. Be quit. You can do it.
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Welcome, Let's break your Intro down a little:
I am new here and do not really know where to start, or even if I really should be here. I am on day nine and having a hard time not caving today
You didnÂ’t happen upon this site by accident so, yes, you do belong here. You obviously have a desire to be quit, so do it. Day nine going solo is amazing! Without this site and these guys I would not have lasted a day. I don't want them to try to talk me into chewing to make them feel better.
I bet they want you quit so that you can live a long time and with your entire face. What loved one would willfully hurt you?However, today I am wondering if I am simply being a bitch because I quit chewing. I am seriously debating the worth of quitting.
You are rewiring your brain. You have been putting a drug into your blood, then into your brain, which has fucked it all up. The process to right this wrong is anything but easy or fun but you have to commit to it one day at a time. We can help but you have to quit for you.I haven't told him because maybe I'm being irrational because ALL I WANT IS TO TAKE A DAMN CHEW.
I was a ninja dipper - no one knew for 16 years and therefore I sure as hell wasnÂ’t about to tell my wife I quit an addiction she didnÂ’t know about. It got bad at home. My kids were affected by my mood. My wife asked if I was having an affair and wanted a divorce because I was so pissed at home. Several quitters here suggested telling her and I did. Things have gotten better to an extent. She still doesnÂ’t understand addiction and the struggles unique to quitting dip, but she does know I am busting my ass every day to remain quit and that without the site and these guys IÂ’d still be lying and using.
The bottom line is you have to want to remain quit. We can help. You have already gotten amazing advice here. Use it.
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Welcome, Let's break your Intro down a little:I am new here and do not really know where to start, or even if I really should be here. I am on day nine and having a hard time not caving today
You didnÂ’t happen upon this site by accident so, yes, you do belong here. You obviously have a desire to be quit, so do it. Day nine going solo is amazing! Without this site and these guys I would not have lasted a day. I don't want them to try to talk me into chewing to make them feel better.
I bet they want you quit so that you can live a long time and with your entire face. What loved one would willfully hurt you?However, today I am wondering if I am simply being a bitch because I quit chewing. I am seriously debating the worth of quitting.
You are rewiring your brain. You have been putting a drug into your blood, then into your brain, which has fucked it all up. The process to right this wrong is anything but easy or fun but you have to commit to it one day at a time. We can help but you have to quit for you.I haven't told him because maybe I'm being irrational because ALL I WANT IS TO TAKE A DAMN CHEW.
I was a ninja dipper - no one knew for 16 years and therefore I sure as hell wasnÂ’t about to tell my wife I quit an addiction she didnÂ’t know about. It got bad at home. My kids were affected by my mood. My wife asked if I was having an affair and wanted a divorce because I was so pissed at home. Several quitters here suggested telling her and I did. Things have gotten better to an extent. She still doesnÂ’t understand addiction and the struggles unique to quitting dip, but she does know I am busting my ass every day to remain quit and that without the site and these guys IÂ’d still be lying and using.
The bottom line is you have to want to remain quit. We can help. You have already gotten amazing advice here. Use it.
Thank you!
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I am seriously debating the worth of quitting.
If you were imprisoned in a concentration camp in WWII and you could see the killers coming to march you into the ovens and you were presented a way of escaping, what would you do? The way of escaping the slavery of nicotine is right here in front of you, it works, it's difficult and really sucks but it is so much better than the alternative. I wouldn't trade my freedom for anything and even though most days I don't need to promise in order to stay quit I'm here for quitters like you. I'll offer my support to anyone who needs it and is willing to fight. I'm proof it's possible. I had honestly nearly given up on everything. I believe I was figuratively already in the oven and I had prayed out for help and The Lord showed me this way of escaping. I escaped 40 years of slavery.
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Tuesday,
Awesome that you are here!
Get to know some of the other women on this site.. Sage, racetrackcowgirl are both fairly new, JulieJan is a vet PM numbers to them and stay close to the site.
It will suck horribly.. Read my HOF speech.. it has a number of things which will help you...
Romandog
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Tuesday you are in the right place! Stay true to your word and just set the nicotine down, you can do it! Just one day or one minute at a time!
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Tuesday,
Awesome that you are here!
Get to know some of the other women on this site.. Sage, racetrackcowgirl are both fairly new, JulieJan is a vet PM numbers to them and stay close to the site.
It will suck horribly.. Read my HOF speech.. it has a number of things which will help you...
Romandog
Hey Teusday,
My name is Sage and I have been quit for 141 days. My husband chewed too! You are amazing that you have made it 9 days of torture...you are doing so well! Don't worry, all your symptoms will get better. "The Suck" is what we call the craving and bitchiness and all the awful symptoms you are having right now. Every single person here went through it and survived...you can too. We will help. Make sure you read everything on this site. Also, live chat is a great way to get support. The men here are amazing and will help anyway they can in a wonderfully brotherly way. I will PM you, which will show up in your inbox as a email, and send you my phone number. In the 140 days, 3 women have quit and we have all stayed quit. That makes us 100 percent quitters. The men can't say that....just saying. :rolleyes:
Sage
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Tuesday,
Awesome that you are here!
Get to know some of the other women on this site.. Sage, racetrackcowgirl are both fairly new, JulieJan is a vet PM numbers to them and stay close to the site.
It will suck horribly.. Read my HOF speech.. it has a number of things which will help you...
Romandog
Hey Teusday,
My name is Sage and I have been quit for 141 days. My husband chewed too! You are amazing that you have made it 9 days of torture...you are doing so well! Don't worry, all your symptoms will get better. "The Suck" is what we call the craving and bitchiness and all the awful symptoms you are having right now. Every single person here went through it and survived...you can too. We will help. Make sure you read everything on this site. Also, live chat is a great way to get support. The men here are amazing and will help anyway they can in a wonderfully brotherly way. I will PM you, which will show up in your inbox as a email, and send you my phone number. In the 140 days, 3 women have quit and we have all stayed quit. That makes us 100 percent quitters. The men can't say that....just saying. :rolleyes:
Sage
I'm with Sage. All the girls on this site are tough as shit. I was a complete and utter bitch (more so than normal :wub: ). I'm 49 days quit and people around me are just now starting to say I'm coming out of that part of the withdrawal.
Somedays I just knew I was a bitch. Some things that I really should have been upset about, I was downright irrate and irrational. Other things that shouldn't have bothered me (you know "....spilled milk") still would set me off into a tyrade. Somedays, I thought I was actually doing really really well and my family told me I was dillusional and was still being bitchy. It was hard because I didn't want that.
The most important thing i read during the early days was "don't take it out on your family..they didn't put you in this position...take it out on us here on the site". EASIER SAID THAN DONE - and I couldn't help it sometimes but other times I could conciously catch myself and either stop it or apologize really quickly.
You should find my thread "accountability 101" - about page 3. There are some some great things, great perspectives, and great rants - all from a woman's point of view. There is also some GREAT advice that the guys here gave me that got me thru!
PM me if you need anything at all! Girl power all the way!
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Tuesday,
Awesome that you are here!
Get to know some of the other women on this site.. Sage, racetrackcowgirl are both fairly new, JulieJan is a vet PM numbers to them and stay close to the site.
It will suck horribly.. Read my HOF speech.. it has a number of things which will help you...
Romandog
Hey Teusday,
My name is Sage and I have been quit for 141 days. My husband chewed too! You are amazing that you have made it 9 days of torture...you are doing so well! Don't worry, all your symptoms will get better. "The Suck" is what we call the craving and bitchiness and all the awful symptoms you are having right now. Every single person here went through it and survived...you can too. We will help. Make sure you read everything on this site. Also, live chat is a great way to get support. The men here are amazing and will help anyway they can in a wonderfully brotherly way. I will PM you, which will show up in your inbox as a email, and send you my phone number. In the 140 days, 3 women have quit and we have all stayed quit. That makes us 100 percent quitters. The men can't say that....just saying. :rolleyes:
Sage
I'm with Sage. All the girls on this site are tough as shit. I was a complete and utter bitch (more so than normal :wub: ). I'm 49 days quit and people around me are just now starting to say I'm coming out of that part of the withdrawal.
Somedays I just knew I was a bitch. Some things that I really should have been upset about, I was downright irrate and irrational. Other things that shouldn't have bothered me (you know "....spilled milk") still would set me off into a tyrade. Somedays, I thought I was actually doing really really well and my family told me I was dillusional and was still being bitchy. It was hard because I didn't want that.
The most important thing i read during the early days was "don't take it out on your family..they didn't put you in this position...take it out on us here on the site". EASIER SAID THAN DONE - and I couldn't help it sometimes but other times I could conciously catch myself and either stop it or apologize really quickly.
You should find my thread "accountability 101" - about page 3. There are some some great things, great perspectives, and great rants - all from a woman's point of view. There is also some GREAT advice that the guys here gave me that got me thru!
PM me if you need anything at all! Girl power all the way!
Well said Sage :) The women on this site are bad ass quitters! There are a lot more than most of these guys realize. I wasn't a dipper but smoked for more than 20 years. In my last 320 days quit I have formed some life long friendships with many of these great men and women. Be serious about quitting... If you're looking for anything else you've come to the wrong web site.
I will PM you my number and be there for you anytime you need someone to bitch at or simply understand how you feel.
Stay classy, sister! I quit with you today B)
Cindy
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Tuesday. I'm confused aren't you about 11 days. I was going thru and reaching out to everyone in the suck and saw you posted 2days but here you had 9days the day you joined. You can and should post your real number of days. Be proud of each one of them, I am sure you are! Glad to be quit with you!
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Tuesday... how you doin' out there in the suck? You need anything, reach out. There's a ton of people willing and waiting to help.
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Tuesday... how you doin' out there in the suck? You need anything, reach out. There's a ton of people willing and waiting to help.
F.Y.I. KTC family...Tuesday is gone. Says her husband didn't approve of her being on this site. He must like chicks with cancer....jk...sorta.
Sage
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Tuesday... how you doin' out there in the suck? You need anything, reach out. There's a ton of people willing and waiting to help.
F.Y.I. KTC family...Tuesday is gone. Says her husband didn't approve of her being on this site. He must like chicks with cancer....jk...sorta.
Sage
I would like to say that I hope that is a full joke there Sage, or maybe I should take that hubby aside and bust his jaw out and show him the quick preview of what he would allow to happen to her, but over a longer period of time.
(am not a usually a physical type of person, but seeing that just pisses me off).
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Tuesday... how you doin' out there in the suck? You need anything, reach out. There's a ton of people willing and waiting to help.
F.Y.I. KTC family...Tuesday is gone. Says her husband didn't approve of her being on this site. He must like chicks with cancer....jk...sorta.
Sage
I would like to say that I hope that is a full joke there Sage, or maybe I should take that hubby aside and bust his jaw out and show him the quick preview of what he would allow to happen to her, but over a longer period of time.
(am not a usually a physical type of person, but seeing that just pisses me off).
The joke part SD was the part about cancer....which really wasn't a joke but I thought it sounded kinda harsh to say her husband liked chicks with cancer. Her husband really did have her stop coming to this site. I like your plan.
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Tuesday... how you doin' out there in the suck? You need anything, reach out. There's a ton of people willing and waiting to help.
F.Y.I. KTC family...Tuesday is gone. Says her husband didn't approve of her being on this site. He must like chicks with cancer....jk...sorta.
Sage
I would like to say that I hope that is a full joke there Sage, or maybe I should take that hubby aside and bust his jaw out and show him the quick preview of what he would allow to happen to her, but over a longer period of time.
(am not a usually a physical type of person, but seeing that just pisses me off).
The joke part SD was the part about cancer....which really wasn't a joke but I thought it sounded kinda harsh to say her husband liked chicks with cancer. Her husband really did have her stop coming to this site. I like your plan.
I have no kind words for him right now...
Hope she is able to find some help, or at least hope she learned enough to keep it going..
Sage, if you have her number, maybe you or some of the other ladies could just check in on her or text her.. May be the thing that keeps her going.
Just a suggestion.. I'm sure, being a nurse, you are about as busy as you could be already...
Probably would be a good thing if none of the guys here tried to contact her.. If that guy is controlling and jealous ( and it sounds like he is ) he may also be abusive..
I e-mailed scottmacek to put a notice on the August '13 roll to this to give folks a heads up to not contact her...
Didn't know that he was a nicotine addict also.. From the posts it sounds like he was using the tobacco to try to control her as well.
Screwed up jerk.. Totally..
Romandog
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Tuesday... how you doin' out there in the suck? You need anything, reach out. There's a ton of people willing and waiting to help.
F.Y.I. KTC family...Tuesday is gone. Says her husband didn't approve of her being on this site. He must like chicks with cancer....jk...sorta.
Sage
I would like to say that I hope that is a full joke there Sage, or maybe I should take that hubby aside and bust his jaw out and show him the quick preview of what he would allow to happen to her, but over a longer period of time.
(am not a usually a physical type of person, but seeing that just pisses me off).
The joke part SD was the part about cancer....which really wasn't a joke but I thought it sounded kinda harsh to say her husband liked chicks with cancer. Her husband really did have her stop coming to this site. I like your plan.
I have no kind words for him right now...
Hope she is able to find some help, or at least hope she learned enough to keep it going..
Sage, if you have her number, maybe you or some of the other ladies could just check in on her or text her.. May be the thing that keeps her going.
Just a suggestion.. I'm sure, being a nurse, you are about as busy as you could be already...
Probably would be a good thing if none of the guys here tried to contact her.. If that guy is controlling and jealous ( and it sounds like he is ) he may also be abusive..
I e-mailed scottmacek to put a notice on the August '13 roll to this to give folks a heads up to not contact her...
Didn't know that he was a nicotine addict also.. From the posts it sounds like he was using the tobacco to try to control her as well.
Screwed up jerk.. Totally..
Romandog
I gave her my digits but she didn't give me hers or that would have been my first move. Good ideas Roman, though.