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Community => Introductions => Topic started by: sschumann on December 22, 2014, 01:02:00 PM
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Hello guys and gals. I am a 25 year old male who had his first dip on my 18th birthday (November 29th 2007.) Many of my close friends had been exposed to dip since they were baseball players, so once I turned 18 I decided to buy, and try my first dip: Skoal Vanilla. I was immediately hooked. I think I began dipping around 3 times a week. That soon turned to 5-7 times a week. The drawer in my bathroom at my parents house was filled with empty dip cans.
Since then I have dipped about once a day, sometimes two, but no more than 4. When I drink I binge on dip, basically constantly having one in. I was always the loser at the college parties or bars who had a nasty dip in. It was embarrassing, and turned some girls off, but that wasn't enough motivation to quit.
I was always self conscious about my breath, so I always brush my teeth, or atleast chew some gum, after throwing out a dip.
With all that being said, I will explain the title. I have recently landed a great job, I workout daily and my diet it on point. I brush my teeth 2-3 times a day, floss and take other measures to help with dental health. I am absolutely killing it at life right now! Everything is perfect... Except I still dip.
November marked 7 years of dipping and now it is time to stop!
I quit cold turkey about 3 years ago for 3 months before relapsing, so I will be doing this without the help of any nicotine, or fake chew.
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Way to post roll. You've made a great decision to QUIT. Welcome. I'm quitting right beside you today.
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Thanks man!
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Keep quitting one day at a time. It's the only way it works. Thinking about staying quit for months or years is too overwhelming. You will get there.....by adding one day to another. Post roll and keep your word. All of us are addicts. We get it. Come here and rage. Use chat. Ask questions. Here is what helped me the most:
1- do not let anything or anyone get in the way of your quit
2-take nicotine off the table - it's not an option
3- wear great heels - life is short (haha)
Quit hard - quit like a girl
Ginet
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Way to make roll man, I pm'd you. I'm with you today!
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Keep quitting one day at a time. It's the only way it works. Thinking about staying quit for months or years is too overwhelming. You will get there.....by adding one day to another. Post roll and keep your word. All of us are addicts. We get it. Come here and rage. Use chat. Ask questions. Here is what helped me the most:
1- do not let anything or anyone get in the way of your quit
2-take nicotine off the table - it's not an option
3- wear great heels - life is short (haha)
Quit hard - quit like a girl
Ginet
I don't think us guys can get away with your 3rd rule... besides I'd break my ankle if i wore those.
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Keep quitting one day at a time. It's the only way it works. Thinking about staying quit for months or years is too overwhelming. You will get there.....by adding one day to another. Post roll and keep your word. All of us are addicts. We get it. Come here and rage. Use chat. Ask questions. Here is what helped me the most:
1- do not let anything or anyone get in the way of your quit
2-take nicotine off the table - it's not an option
3- wear great heels - life is short (haha)
Quit hard - quit like a girl
Ginet
I don't think us guys can get away with your 3rd rule... besides I'd break my ankle if i wore those.
Yeahhh I don't know about that last one either haha but to each their own!
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Keep quitting one day at a time. It's the only way it works. Thinking about staying quit for months or years is too overwhelming. You will get there.....by adding one day to another. Post roll and keep your word. All of us are addicts. We get it. Come here and rage. Use chat. Ask questions. Here is what helped me the most:
1- do not let anything or anyone get in the way of your quit
2-take nicotine off the table - it's not an option
3- wear great heels - life is short (haha)
Quit hard - quit like a girl
Ginet
I don't think us guys can get away with your 3rd rule... besides I'd break my ankle if i wore those.
Yeahhh I don't know about that last one either haha but to each their own!
Shoot, I wear my heels every day...
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Welcome schu! A late entry to the March 2015 quit group. I'm proud to be quit with you today. Use everything on this website. There are people here that have been quit much longer than I have who paved the way and it has worked time and time again. Post roll every damn day, read everything on here, and enjoy being nicotine free.
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Its an awkwardly shitty feeling to have to post again, in a new HOF month because you couldn't even last one day. I don't even know you all, but I'm embarrassed to have to do that. Here's to never dipping again. April 2015.
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Jacker and Schu I'm new to the site and my quit date was Dec 18th. Looks like we're on this journey together.
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How do I join the March 2015 group?
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Its an awkwardly shitty feeling to have to post again, in a new HOF month because you couldn't even last one day. I don't even know you all, but I'm embarrassed to have to do that. Here's to never dipping again. April 2015.
What? You caved? Is that what this means? It's awful weak and I don't speak weak.....come again?
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Its an awkwardly shitty feeling to have to post again, in a new HOF month because you couldn't even last one day. I don't even know you all, but I'm embarrassed to have to do that. Here's to never dipping again. April 2015.
What? You caved? Is that what this means? It's awful weak and I don't speak weak.....come again?
Yes, unfortunately
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Everything is perfect, except you still dip, and you have an integrity problem. Full reset, do exactly everything the guys in April are telling you, drink water, don't fucking lie, and you might make a quitter.
Did you go to the Welcome Center (http://forum.killthecan.org/forum/55560/) and other links on PAGE ONE (http://forum.killthecan.org/single/?p=8772644&t=10847546) yet? You signed up, quit with no remorse and no excuses.
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Its an awkwardly shitty feeling to have to post again, in a new HOF month because you couldn't even last one day. I don't even know you all, but I'm embarrassed to have to do that. Here's to never dipping again. April 2015.
What? You caved? Is that what this means? It's awful weak and I don't speak weak.....come again?
Yes, unfortunately
How about you quit worrying about never again and simply concentrate on the next 24hrs...or, more simply, the next hour.
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Its an awkwardly shitty feeling to have to post again, in a new HOF month because you couldn't even last one day. I don't even know you all, but I'm embarrassed to have to do that. Here's to never dipping again. April 2015.
What? You caved? Is that what this means? It's awful weak and I don't speak weak.....come again?
Yes, unfortunately
It is far more than unfortunate. You aren't here to quit. I only have time for quitters. I battle for my life everyday. All of us do, well except for you that is. Go ahead, explain yourself. You don't get to jump back into it and post again with an "oops". Can't even do one day. Shit - go away. We are busy saving our lives here.
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Everything is perfect, except you still dip, and you have an integrity problem. Full reset, do exactly everything the guys in April are telling you, drink water, don't fucking lie, and you might make a quitter.
Did you go to the Welcome Center (http://forum.killthecan.org/forum/55560/) and other links on PAGE ONE (http://forum.killthecan.org/single/?p=8772644&t=10847546) yet? You signed up, quit with no remorse and no excuses.
I did, I did
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Its an awkwardly shitty feeling to have to post again, in a new HOF month because you couldn't even last one day. I don't even know you all, but I'm embarrassed to have to do that. Here's to never dipping again. April 2015.
What? You caved? Is that what this means? It's awful weak and I don't speak weak.....come again?
Yes, unfortunately
It is far more than unfortunate. You aren't here to quit. I only have time for quitters. I battle for my life everyday. All of us do, well except for you that is. Go ahead, explain yourself. You don't get to jump back into it and post again with an "oops". Can't even do one day. Shit - go away. We are busy saving our lives here.
Explain myself? There is no explanation other than I fucked up.
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Its an awkwardly shitty feeling to have to post again, in a new HOF month because you couldn't even last one day. I don't even know you all, but I'm embarrassed to have to do that. Here's to never dipping again. April 2015.
What? You caved? Is that what this means? It's awful weak and I don't speak weak.....come again?
Yes, unfortunately
It is far more than unfortunate. You aren't here to quit. I only have time for quitters. I battle for my life everyday. All of us do, well except for you that is. Go ahead, explain yourself. You don't get to jump back into it and post again with an "oops". Can't even do one day. Shit - go away. We are busy saving our lives here.
Explain myself? There is no explanation other than I fucked up.
That explanation isn't good enough. You didn't fuck up, you just aren't ready to be a quitter.
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Its an awkwardly shitty feeling to have to post again, in a new HOF month because you couldn't even last one day. I don't even know you all, but I'm embarrassed to have to do that. Here's to never dipping again. April 2015.
What? You caved? Is that what this means? It's awful weak and I don't speak weak.....come again?
Yes, unfortunately
It is far more than unfortunate. You aren't here to quit. I only have time for quitters. I battle for my life everyday. All of us do, well except for you that is. Go ahead, explain yourself. You don't get to jump back into it and post again with an "oops". Can't even do one day. Shit - go away. We are busy saving our lives here.
Explain myself? There is no explanation other than I fucked up.
That explanation isn't good enough. You didn't fuck up, you just aren't ready to be a quitter.
Good point.
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Its an awkwardly shitty feeling to have to post again, in a new HOF month because you couldn't even last one day. I don't even know you all, but I'm embarrassed to have to do that. Here's to never dipping again. April 2015.
What? You caved? Is that what this means? It's awful weak and I don't speak weak.....come again?
Yes, unfortunately
It is far more than unfortunate. You aren't here to quit. I only have time for quitters. I battle for my life everyday. All of us do, well except for you that is. Go ahead, explain yourself. You don't get to jump back into it and post again with an "oops". Can't even do one day. Shit - go away. We are busy saving our lives here.
Explain myself? There is no explanation other than I fucked up.
That explanation isn't good enough. You didn't fuck up, you just aren't ready to be a quitter.
Good point.
Well get ready and let us know when that occurs
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Its an awkwardly shitty feeling to have to post again, in a new HOF month because you couldn't even last one day. I don't even know you all, but I'm embarrassed to have to do that. Here's to never dipping again. April 2015.
What? You caved? Is that what this means? It's awful weak and I don't speak weak.....come again?
Yes, unfortunately
It is far more than unfortunate. You aren't here to quit. I only have time for quitters. I battle for my life everyday. All of us do, well except for you that is. Go ahead, explain yourself. You don't get to jump back into it and post again with an "oops". Can't even do one day. Shit - go away. We are busy saving our lives here.
Explain myself? There is no explanation other than I fucked up.
That explanation isn't good enough. You didn't fuck up, you just aren't ready to be a quitter.
Good point.
Well get ready and let us know when that occurs
I'm here aren't I? If I wasn't ready to quit after last night, then why would I be back this morning?
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Its an awkwardly shitty feeling to have to post again, in a new HOF month because you couldn't even last one day. I don't even know you all, but I'm embarrassed to have to do that. Here's to never dipping again. April 2015.
What? You caved? Is that what this means? It's awful weak and I don't speak weak.....come again?
Yes, unfortunately
It is far more than unfortunate. You aren't here to quit. I only have time for quitters. I battle for my life everyday. All of us do, well except for you that is. Go ahead, explain yourself. You don't get to jump back into it and post again with an "oops". Can't even do one day. Shit - go away. We are busy saving our lives here.
Explain myself? There is no explanation other than I fucked up.
That explanation isn't good enough. You didn't fuck up, you just aren't ready to be a quitter.
Good point.
Well get ready and let us know when that occurs
I'm here aren't I? If I wasn't ready to quit after last night, then why would I be back this morning?
Being here didn't mean quit for you yesterday, did it? Why should your new group trust you? I mean, I assume you will eat and go to the gym again sometime.
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couldn't even last one day.
Two pump chump, huh? Doesn't sound like a really great way to start of a relationship. You fucking cheated on us right after posting roll yesterday. What oes that reek of? Infidelity? Nah, more like stupidity.
I'm here aren't I? If I wasn't ready to quit after last night, then why would I be back this morning?
There's a huge fucking difference between showing up and actually quitting. Anybody can just show up.
Show me what you got...because right now, you've gt nothing to stand on.
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sschumann, haven't seen you in April roll yet today. Are you sleeping in?
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sschumann, haven't seen you in April roll yet today. Are you sleeping in?
Haha nope, don't get to the office until 8:30!
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sschumann, haven't seen you in April roll yet today. Are you sleeping in?
Haha nope, don't get to the office until 8:30!
Wake up, piss, post roll.
No internet in the home?
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sschumann, haven't seen you in April roll yet today. Are you sleeping in?
Haha nope, don't get to the office until 8:30!
Wake up, piss, post roll.
No internet in the home?
I post at the office too in weekdays, but it's first thing I do.
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sschumann, haven't seen you in April roll yet today. Are you sleeping in?
Haha nope, don't get to the office until 8:30!
Wake up, piss, post roll.
No internet in the home?
I post at the office too in weekdays, but it's first thing I do.
To get posting roll a part of my routine in the early days of my quit, I needed to post roll pretty much the first thing in the morning. Or I just forgot about it, until I had an "oh shit" moment.
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sschumann, haven't seen you in April roll yet today. Are you sleeping in?
Haha nope, don't get to the office until 8:30!
Wake up, piss, post roll.
No internet in the home?
I post at the office too in weekdays, but it's first thing I do.
To get posting roll a part of my routine in the early days of my quit, I needed to post roll pretty much the first thing in the morning. Or I just forgot about it, until I had an "oh shit" moment.
Make KTC the first browser bookmark.
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sschumann, haven't seen you in April roll yet today. Are you sleeping in?
Haha nope, don't get to the office until 8:30!
Wake up, piss, post roll.
No internet in the home?
I post at the office too in weekdays, but it's first thing I do.
To get posting roll a part of my routine in the early days of my quit, I needed to post roll pretty much the first thing in the morning. Or I just forgot about it, until I had an "oh shit" moment.
Make KTC the first browser bookmark.
homepage..good idea
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sschumann, haven't seen you in April roll yet today. Are you sleeping in?
Haha nope, don't get to the office until 8:30!
Wake up, piss, post roll.
No internet in the home?
I post at the office too in weekdays, but it's first thing I do.
To get posting roll a part of my routine in the early days of my quit, I needed to post roll pretty much the first thing in the morning. Or I just forgot about it, until I had an "oh shit" moment.
Make KTC the first browser bookmark.
homepage..good idea
Learn how to post on your phone. Then you can do it right after you wake up.
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Not seeing any post from him today...looks like he caved.
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Not seeing any post from him today...looks like he caved.
CC do you have his fucking phone number, did you ask what Ape has it? Does it look to you like he caved because you want to cave and you need help?
Cave accusation requires proof. Right now all we have is a bad decision not to post roll first thing.
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Not seeing any post from him today...looks like he caved.
CC do you have his fucking phone number, did you ask what Ape has it? Does it look to you like he caved because you want to cave and you need help?
Cave accusation requires proof. Right now all we have is a bad decision not to post roll first thing.
He's posted day 4 now, he missed christmas day
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Not seeing any post from him today...looks like he caved.
LOL from the looks of it, you have no room to talk...
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Not seeing any post from him today...looks like he caved.
LOL from the looks of it, you have no room to talk...
sschu, where were you yesterday?
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Not seeing any post from him today...looks like he caved.
LOL from the looks of it, you have no room to talk...
sschu, where were you yesterday?
He caved.
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Not seeing any post from him today...looks like he caved.
LOL from the looks of it, you have no room to talk...
sschu, where were you yesterday?
He caved.
Well this.........I don't even know what to say.
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Not seeing any post from him today...looks like he caved.
LOL from the looks of it, you have no room to talk...
sschu, where were you yesterday?
He caved.
Missed it on the way back last night. Shit.
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Not seeing any post from him today...looks like he caved.
LOL from the looks of it, you have no room to talk...
Nic still has her arm elbow deep up your ass, moving your lips for you.
You're not done yet. That much at least is plain as day. That is what it is. The part that I can't abide by is the fact that you consumed so many other people's time and effort while you briefly pretended to quit. It takes a real special type of asshole to willingly lie right to the faces of those that are trying to help you. I hope you reflect on that bit once or twice as you continue to hump a can.
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Sschuman, if you have no integrity, being on KTC will not help you quit at all. You chose death (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XRw9Dwg710Q). You asked for your name to be inscribed (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gcM1pFxO464) in the Black Book of Death and you got nothing in return. Did you go nuts like your namesake (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6pnvytZnlKw)???? (all I see in that link is a guy looking like a fucking asshole smoking a cigarette) You look and sound like a fucking asshole, Sschumann.
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Question, if you were giving advice, Schuman, how would you advise on how to deal with a serial caver on an extreme quitter site?
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Question, if you were giving advice, Schuman, how would you advise on how to deal with a serial caver on an extreme quitter site?
'Popcorn'
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I am back. As you can see, I’ve been a weak ass, trying to quit for 6+ years. Ive posted here, posted on other sites, done my own thing- but none of it worked and eventually I caved.
I always had goals to get to 100 days, quit for life, quit for a month, etc. but none of that matters if I don’t quit for today. Just one day at a time.
I know I can’t do it on my own, so I came here to connect with accountability and brotherhood. I have 350 days without alcohol, all by taking it ODAAT, posting and making connections for accountability. So I’m here to do the same thing. I’m here to be an example to new quitters to not fucking cave like me.
So what happened? Found myself in a vulnerable state with no one to reach out to, so I decided to dip.
What am I going to do differently? Post every damn day and pour myself into the brothers of Dec ‘21 to establish connections so I have a reason outside of myself to fight this battle against dip each and every day, but take it one day at a time.
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I am back. As you can see, I’ve been a weak ass, trying to quit for 6+ years. Ive posted here, posted on other sites, done my own thing- but none of it worked and eventually I caved.
I always had goals to get to 100 days, quit for life, quit for a month, etc. but none of that matters if I don’t quit for today. Just one day at a time.
I know I can’t do it on my own, so I came here to connect with accountability and brotherhood. I have 350 days without alcohol, all by taking it ODAAT, posting and making connections for accountability. So I’m here to do the same thing. I’m here to be an example to new quitters to not fucking cave like me.
So what happened? Found myself in a vulnerable state with no one to reach out to, so I decided to dip.
What am I going to do differently? Post every damn day and pour myself into the brothers of Dec ‘21 to establish connections so I have a reason outside of myself to fight this battle against dip each and every day, but take it one day at a time.
I'm glad you decided to get your life back. It is going to take work. Reading back through your intro it appears you weren't ready to work for it. Has that changed? Are you ready for sure now? From your past history here, you are going to have to prove it. To everyone. Step 1. Answer those 3 questions in your new group, AND your old group. Dig deep and put some real thought into it. Then remember the answers to those questions every damn day when you wake up, piss, and post your promise on roll. Keep that promise, no matter what, because this site is built on integrity. One day at a time.
Quit with you today.
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I am back. As you can see, I’ve been a weak ass, trying to quit for 6+ years. Ive posted here, posted on other sites, done my own thing- but none of it worked and eventually I caved.
I always had goals to get to 100 days, quit for life, quit for a month, etc. but none of that matters if I don’t quit for today. Just one day at a time.
I know I can’t do it on my own, so I came here to connect with accountability and brotherhood. I have 350 days without alcohol, all by taking it ODAAT, posting and making connections for accountability. So I’m here to do the same thing. I’m here to be an example to new quitters to not fucking cave like me.
So what happened? Found myself in a vulnerable state with no one to reach out to, so I decided to dip.
What am I going to do differently? Post every damn day and pour myself into the brothers of Dec ‘21 to establish connections so I have a reason outside of myself to fight this battle against dip each and every day, but take it one day at a time.
I'm glad you decided to get your life back. It is going to take work. Reading back through your intro it appears you weren't ready to work for it. Has that changed? Are you ready for sure now? From your past history here, you are going to have to prove it. To everyone. Step 1. Answer those 3 questions in your new group, AND your old group. Dig deep and put some real thought into it. Then remember the answers to those questions every damn day when you wake up, piss, and post your promise on roll. Keep that promise, no matter what, because this site is built on integrity. One day at a time.
Quit with you today.
Set short term achievable goals! there is a reason we talk about one day at a time. Hell in the begining I was looking at the clock saying ok I made it for 5 minutes I will wait for 15 more before I go to the store. Just stay quit for the next 5 min then the next hour then the next day. Then all of a sudden your sitting on a pile of quit! Make yourself accountable to your fellow quitters give them your number and get theirs. Text them call them build a network of quit! My number is a PM away just ask! First you need to be accountable to your old groups answere the 3 questions in every one of them. 1 what happened 2 why did it happen 3 what are you going to do different so it doesn't happen again? Give it some thought and itrospection before you answer.
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I am back. As you can see, I’ve been a weak ass, trying to quit for 6+ years. Ive posted here, posted on other sites, done my own thing- but none of it worked and eventually I caved.
I always had goals to get to 100 days, quit for life, quit for a month, etc. but none of that matters if I don’t quit for today. Just one day at a time.
I know I can’t do it on my own, so I came here to connect with accountability and brotherhood. I have 350 days without alcohol, all by taking it ODAAT, posting and making connections for accountability. So I’m here to do the same thing. I’m here to be an example to new quitters to not fucking cave like me.
So what happened? Found myself in a vulnerable state with no one to reach out to, so I decided to dip.
What am I going to do differently? Post every damn day and pour myself into the brothers of Dec ‘21 to establish connections so I have a reason outside of myself to fight this battle against dip each and every day, but take it one day at a time.
I'm glad you decided to get your life back. It is going to take work. Reading back through your intro it appears you weren't ready to work for it. Has that changed? Are you ready for sure now? From your past history here, you are going to have to prove it. To everyone. Step 1. Answer those 3 questions in your new group, AND your old group. Dig deep and put some real thought into it. Then remember the answers to those questions every damn day when you wake up, piss, and post your promise on roll. Keep that promise, no matter what, because this site is built on integrity. One day at a time.
Quit with you today.
Set short term achievable goals! there is a reason we talk about one day at a time. Hell in the begining I was looking at the clock saying ok I made it for 5 minutes I will wait for 15 more before I go to the store. Just stay quit for the next 5 min then the next hour then the next day. Then all of a sudden your sitting on a pile of quit! Make yourself accountable to your fellow quitters give them your number and get theirs. Text them call them build a network of quit! My number is a PM away just ask! First you need to be accountable to your old groups answere the 3 questions in every one of them. 1 what happened 2 why did it happen 3 what are you going to do different so it doesn't happen again? Give it some thought and itrospection before you answer.
The Three Questions (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?topic=805.msg125936#msg125936) - an Irish take on them.
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My 3 answers:
What happened: I had 149 days of stoppage. I had been posting on Reddit on their stop dripping group. There’s not much accountability there, but the Stop Drinking group on Reddit had helped me quit alcohol one day at a time for 351 days. Anyways, my 15 mo old son was in the ER and admitted to the hospital. Since there was only 1 bed I tried to get my wife to go home, knowing I’d cave, but she wouldn’t leave his side- so sure enough I picked up a dip on the way home.
Why did it happen: because I’m a life long addict and dip will always be lurking around the corner to present herself as a stress reliever. I didn’t have anyone to reach out to. I knew I was struggling but didn’t have anyone to text “help me stay quit. Talk me off the ledge.” Which is why I’m here. I know I’m going to get so much shit but I need this place. Obviously. After 149 days quit I was still weak enough to need brothers to lean on.
How are you going to keep it from happening again: by posting here everyday, by making connections with my quit brothers and texting/ calling them if I even have a slight craving. I knew I was going through a huge craving, but didn’t have anywhere to go for support. So I will work to establish that here. I will also pour my experience out to new guys. It’s not worth it. It’s not worth it to struggle with your quit for 6+ years. Don’t be like me.
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My 3 answers:
What happened: I had 149 days of stoppage. I had been posting on Reddit on their stop dripping group. There’s not much accountability there, but the Stop Drinking group on Reddit had helped me quit alcohol one day at a time for 351 days. Anyways, my 15 mo old son was in the ER and admitted to the hospital. Since there was only 1 bed I tried to get my wife to go home, knowing I’d cave, but she wouldn’t leave his side- so sure enough I picked up a dip on the way home.
Why did it happen: because I’m a life long addict and dip will always be lurking around the corner to present herself as a stress reliever. I didn’t have anyone to reach out to. I knew I was struggling but didn’t have anyone to text “help me stay quit. Talk me off the ledge.” Which is why I’m here. I know I’m going to get so much shit but I need this place. Obviously. After 149 days quit I was still weak enough to need brothers to lean on.
How are you going to keep it from happening again: by posting here everyday, by making connections with my quit brothers and texting/ calling them if I even have a slight craving. I knew I was going through a huge craving, but didn’t have anywhere to go for support. So I will work to establish that here. I will also pour my experience out to new guys. It’s not worth it. It’s not worth it to struggle with your quit for 6+ years. Don’t be like me.
I put this in Dec but I'm not sure you saw it so I will copy it here
@sschumann (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=11074) you were here before and caved. Why didn’t you start over here instead of using Reddit. If the accountability was too much for you I might not be the guy you want around. Lol! PMed you my digits anyway but like I said in the pm build relationships here in your group first.
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My 3 answers:
What happened: I had 149 days of stoppage. I had been posting on Reddit on their stop dripping group. There’s not much accountability there, but the Stop Drinking group on Reddit had helped me quit alcohol one day at a time for 351 days. Anyways, my 15 mo old son was in the ER and admitted to the hospital. Since there was only 1 bed I tried to get my wife to go home, knowing I’d cave, but she wouldn’t leave his side- so sure enough I picked up a dip on the way home.
Why did it happen: because I’m a life long addict and dip will always be lurking around the corner to present herself as a stress reliever. I didn’t have anyone to reach out to. I knew I was struggling but didn’t have anyone to text “help me stay quit. Talk me off the ledge.” Which is why I’m here. I know I’m going to get so much shit but I need this place. Obviously. After 149 days quit I was still weak enough to need brothers to lean on.
How are you going to keep it from happening again: by posting here everyday, by making connections with my quit brothers and texting/ calling them if I even have a slight craving. I knew I was going through a huge craving, but didn’t have anywhere to go for support. So I will work to establish that here. I will also pour my experience out to new guys. It’s not worth it. It’s not worth it to struggle with your quit for 6+ years. Don’t be like me.
I put this in Dec but I'm not sure you saw it so I will copy it here
@sschumann (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=11074) you were here before and caved. Why didn’t you start over here instead of using Reddit. If the accountability was too much for you I might not be the guy you want around. Lol! PMed you my digits anyway but like I said in the pm build relationships here in your group first.
Thought about coming back, but just posting daily on Reddit was working great for my alcohol quit, and so I decided to post my dip quit on there hoping for the same success. Everything was going good until I hit a life challenge and didn’t have the accountability and brotherhood that this place offers.
So I caved, immediately realized why I caved, and started posting here again.
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My 3 answers:
What happened: I had 149 days of stoppage. I had been posting on Reddit on their stop dripping group. There’s not much accountability there, but the Stop Drinking group on Reddit had helped me quit alcohol one day at a time for 351 days. Anyways, my 15 mo old son was in the ER and admitted to the hospital. Since there was only 1 bed I tried to get my wife to go home, knowing I’d cave, but she wouldn’t leave his side- so sure enough I picked up a dip on the way home.
Why did it happen: because I’m a life long addict and dip will always be lurking around the corner to present herself as a stress reliever. I didn’t have anyone to reach out to. I knew I was struggling but didn’t have anyone to text “help me stay quit. Talk me off the ledge.” Which is why I’m here. I know I’m going to get so much shit but I need this place. Obviously. After 149 days quit I was still weak enough to need brothers to lean on.
How are you going to keep it from happening again: by posting here everyday, by making connections with my quit brothers and texting/ calling them if I even have a slight craving. I knew I was going through a huge craving, but didn’t have anywhere to go for support. So I will work to establish that here. I will also pour my experience out to new guys. It’s not worth it. It’s not worth it to struggle with your quit for 6+ years. Don’t be like me.
I put this in Dec but I'm not sure you saw it so I will copy it here
@sschumann (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=11074) you were here before and caved. Why didn’t you start over here instead of using Reddit. If the accountability was too much for you I might not be the guy you want around. Lol! PMed you my digits anyway but like I said in the pm build relationships here in your group first.
Thought about coming back, but just posting daily on Reddit was working great for my alcohol quit, and so I decided to post my dip quit on there hoping for the same success. Everything was going good until I hit a life challenge and didn’t have the accountability and brotherhood that this place offers.
So I caved, immediately realized why I caved, and started posting here again.
You get what you put into your quit.
Did you ask for help on Reddit? Did you have numbers or contacts in case of emergency? Reddit, this board, and all the contacts and magic that you derive from your quit tools won't do you any good if you decide to walk off and buy a can. We are all bullets in your arsenal of quit but you have to fucking point the gun and pull the trigger man.
I'm sorry about your son and praying for him. Own up and realize that if you want to be quit, you've got to close the door on nicotine and be willing to ride the waves of quit. It's not always good. It's not always easy. You're not always inspired. But when you are good...you practice for this shit. You have an avenue to stay quit if you pave it.
We can do this man.
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My 3 answers:
What happened: I had 149 days of stoppage. I had been posting on Reddit on their stop dripping group. There’s not much accountability there, but the Stop Drinking group on Reddit had helped me quit alcohol one day at a time for 351 days. Anyways, my 15 mo old son was in the ER and admitted to the hospital. Since there was only 1 bed I tried to get my wife to go home, knowing I’d cave, but she wouldn’t leave his side- so sure enough I picked up a dip on the way home.
Why did it happen: because I’m a life long addict and dip will always be lurking around the corner to present herself as a stress reliever. I didn’t have anyone to reach out to. I knew I was struggling but didn’t have anyone to text “help me stay quit. Talk me off the ledge.” Which is why I’m here. I know I’m going to get so much shit but I need this place. Obviously. After 149 days quit I was still weak enough to need brothers to lean on.
How are you going to keep it from happening again: by posting here everyday, by making connections with my quit brothers and texting/ calling them if I even have a slight craving. I knew I was going through a huge craving, but didn’t have anywhere to go for support. So I will work to establish that here. I will also pour my experience out to new guys. It’s not worth it. It’s not worth it to struggle with your quit for 6+ years. Don’t be like me.
I put this in Dec but I'm not sure you saw it so I will copy it here
@sschumann (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=11074) you were here before and caved. Why didn’t you start over here instead of using Reddit. If the accountability was too much for you I might not be the guy you want around. Lol! PMed you my digits anyway but like I said in the pm build relationships here in your group first.
Thought about coming back, but just posting daily on Reddit was working great for my alcohol quit, and so I decided to post my dip quit on there hoping for the same success. Everything was going good until I hit a life challenge and didn’t have the accountability and brotherhood that this place offers.
So I caved, immediately realized why I caved, and started posting here again.
You get what you put into your quit.
Did you ask for help on Reddit? Did you have numbers or contacts in case of emergency? Reddit, this board, and all the contacts and magic that you derive from your quit tools won't do you any good if you decide to walk off and buy a can. We are all bullets in your arsenal of quit but you have to fucking point the gun and pull the trigger man.
I'm sorry about your son and praying for him. Own up and realize that if you want to be quit, you've got to close the door on nicotine and be willing to ride the waves of quit. It's not always good. It's not always easy. You're not always inspired. But when you are good...you practice for this shit. You have an avenue to stay quit if you pave it.
We can do this man.
“You have an avenue to stay quit if you pave it.”
I like this.
And you’re completely right. I don’t use to choose the right tools, and ultimately I was the one who paved my way to a cave. I do take full responsibility and realize what I did wrong- which is why I’m back here to add to my quit toolbelt.
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My 3 answers:
What happened: I had 149 days of stoppage. I had been posting on Reddit on their stop dripping group. There’s not much accountability there, but the Stop Drinking group on Reddit had helped me quit alcohol one day at a time for 351 days. Anyways, my 15 mo old son was in the ER and admitted to the hospital. Since there was only 1 bed I tried to get my wife to go home, knowing I’d cave, but she wouldn’t leave his side- so sure enough I picked up a dip on the way home.
Why did it happen: because I’m a life long addict and dip will always be lurking around the corner to present herself as a stress reliever. I didn’t have anyone to reach out to. I knew I was struggling but didn’t have anyone to text “help me stay quit. Talk me off the ledge.” Which is why I’m here. I know I’m going to get so much shit but I need this place. Obviously. After 149 days quit I was still weak enough to need brothers to lean on.
How are you going to keep it from happening again: by posting here everyday, by making connections with my quit brothers and texting/ calling them if I even have a slight craving. I knew I was going through a huge craving, but didn’t have anywhere to go for support. So I will work to establish that here. I will also pour my experience out to new guys. It’s not worth it. It’s not worth it to struggle with your quit for 6+ years. Don’t be like me.
I put this in Dec but I'm not sure you saw it so I will copy it here
@sschumann (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=11074) you were here before and caved. Why didn’t you start over here instead of using Reddit. If the accountability was too much for you I might not be the guy you want around. Lol! PMed you my digits anyway but like I said in the pm build relationships here in your group first.
Thought about coming back, but just posting daily on Reddit was working great for my alcohol quit, and so I decided to post my dip quit on there hoping for the same success. Everything was going good until I hit a life challenge and didn’t have the accountability and brotherhood that this place offers.
So I caved, immediately realized why I caved, and started posting here again.
You get what you put into your quit.
Did you ask for help on Reddit? Did you have numbers or contacts in case of emergency? Reddit, this board, and all the contacts and magic that you derive from your quit tools won't do you any good if you decide to walk off and buy a can. We are all bullets in your arsenal of quit but you have to fucking point the gun and pull the trigger man.
I'm sorry about your son and praying for him. Own up and realize that if you want to be quit, you've got to close the door on nicotine and be willing to ride the waves of quit. It's not always good. It's not always easy. You're not always inspired. But when you are good...you practice for this shit. You have an avenue to stay quit if you pave it.
We can do this man.
“You have an avenue to stay quit if you pave it.”
I like this.
And you’re completely right. I don’t use to choose the right tools, and ultimately I was the one who paved my way to a cave. I do take full responsibility and realize what I did wrong- which is why I’m back here to add to my quit toolbelt.
You're missing a CAVE or two in your story ... not surprised one bit by THAT! You stacked quite a few days prior to this 150 day failure. Fucking Reddit quit LOL. You fail at every location, every time. What attempt are you up to now? What excuse do you have at the ready this time? Pfffffttt. I've seen this shitty movie a bunch of times.