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Community => Introductions => Topic started by: Gauth05 on March 04, 2014, 04:34:00 PM
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Hello my name is Ben Gauthier and I am from Northern Wisconsin. I started smoking when I was 14 to feel cool with my older brother. I joined the Army at 19 and quit completely for the 9 weeks of basic training. Instead of staying on the quit path a buddy from basic was flying with me to AIT as we sat on the plane he pulled out a tin of skoal straight long cut and asked if I wanted some. If I could go back in time I would kick my own ass for saying yes. It was at this point that I started down the long and terrible road of addiction. I am going on 7 years of chewing and today is the last day. I have thrown out my tins and ready to begin this journey. I am married with one son who is almost 20 months old. I just want to be a man my son can look up to and want to be like when he grows up. With chew that is not possible. My wife and I have an amazing relationship outside of chew. It is the sole reason we fight and the only reason I ever feel the need to lie to her. I am excited to be rid of this burden forever and want to thank you all in advance for the support.
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Hello my name is Ben Gauthier and I am from Northern Wisconsin. I started smoking when I was 14 to feel cool with my older brother. I joined the Army at 19 and quit completely for the 9 weeks of basic training. Instead of staying on the quit path a buddy from basic was flying with me to AIT as we sat on the plane he pulled out a tin of skoal straight long cut and asked if I wanted some. If I could go back in time I would kick my own ass for saying yes. It was at this point that I started down the long and terrible road of addiction. I am going on 7 years of chewing and today is the last day. I have thrown out my tins and ready to begin this journey. I am married with one son who is almost 20 months old. I just want to be a man my son can look up to and want to be like when he grows up. With chew that is not possible. My wife and I have an amazing relationship outside of chew. It is the sole reason we fight and the only reason I ever feel the need to lie to her. I am excited to be rid of this burden forever and want to thank you all in advance for the support.
commit to the KTC way and you will succeed.
Post roll every day and make some friends. You bring the "want", KTC provides the "how".
I quit with you today.
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Don't think in terms of forever brother. Right now, at the beginning, it's far too big and scary to contemplate.
Today. We will quit today. I'll quit today right alongside you. There will be more to post after me sayin the same thing. Pay attention... We know how to get this done. Get yourself up to the Welcome Center link at the top of the page. It explains what/why/ how we do things at KTC. You'll be in the new June quit group. Welcome to freedom man... It's pretty damn cool. If I can help in any way, message me. Rock on...
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Nice job posting roll. You made a great decision. No need to be nervous... Just keep your word no matter what today. You will not chew today. F chew. You can do this bro. One day at a time!
I am quitting with you today!
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You came to the right place. Being quit is not easy, but you can do it.
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Nice talking to you in chat tonight man... Quit hard today
I quit with you
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Welcome to freedom ....post roll every day, read everything, hit the chat, and stay involved.... I'll quit with you today
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I just want to be a man my son can look up to and want to be like when he grows up. With chew that is not possible. My wife and I have an amazing relationship outside of chew. It is the sole reason we fight and the only reason I ever feel the need to lie to her.
This section I quoted, Â…is spot on. This isn't who you are. This isn't who you want to be. But this is what you've become. A lying nicotine addict that who will go to great lengths to feed that addiction. Ya know what though, I was a lying nicotine addict that went pathetic lengths to support my addiction. The only difference now is that I'm quitÂ….I don't use nicotine and I don't lie. Notice, I didn't say that I wasn't an addict any more. Gauth, you've come to the right place, we're all addicts and we've all been there before. Embrace the suck of these next few days and promise yourself never to put yourself through it again. You're on the road to freedom my friend. Buckle up.
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I just want to be a man my son can look up to and want to be like when he grows up. With chew that is not possible. My wife and I have an amazing relationship outside of chew. It is the sole reason we fight and the only reason I ever feel the need to lie to her.
This section I quoted, Â…is spot on. This isn't who you are. This isn't who you want to be. But this is what you've become. A lying nicotine addict that who will go to great lengths to feed that addiction. Ya know what though, I was a lying nicotine addict that went pathetic lengths to support my addiction. The only difference now is that I'm quitÂ….I don't use nicotine and I don't lie. Notice, I didn't say that I wasn't an addict any more. Gauth, you've come to the right place, we're all addicts and we've all been there before. Embrace the suck of these next few days and promise yourself never to put yourself through it again. You're on the road to freedom my friend. Buckle up.
Boom!
Steakbomb just delivered up a plate of quit greatness there!
You are in the right place. You aren't alone. Embracing the process here, posting roll and keeping your word, making connections (do you have steaks contact info? He would be a great mentor) and being accountable to the brotherhood here will get you to your goals.
While you push thru the initial suck phase, and it is temporary and it will get a lot better, come here to vent your anger or frustration. The family didn't cause these feelings, so don't take it out on them. Yell at steakbomb when you feel the need. Lol.
Congratulations on making a great decision. One day at a time, you are the husband and father you've always wanted to be.
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I just want to be a man my son can look up to and want to be like when he grows up. With chew that is not possible. My wife and I have an amazing relationship outside of chew. It is the sole reason we fight and the only reason I ever feel the need to lie to her.
This section I quoted, Â…is spot on. This isn't who you are. This isn't who you want to be. But this is what you've become. A lying nicotine addict that who will go to great lengths to feed that addiction. Ya know what though, I was a lying nicotine addict that went pathetic lengths to support my addiction. The only difference now is that I'm quitÂ….I don't use nicotine and I don't lie. Notice, I didn't say that I wasn't an addict any more. Gauth, you've come to the right place, we're all addicts and we've all been there before. Embrace the suck of these next few days and promise yourself never to put yourself through it again. You're on the road to freedom my friend. Buckle up.
Fuck Steak that was some righteous shit man! Preach!!!
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My name is Ben Gauthier and I am so ready to be quit. The last time I was here, 3 years ago, I didn't trust the process or the people here that were truly trying to help. I have now been chewing for ten years and can't even bring myself to calculate how much money it has cost me and how much time I have spent fighting with my wife about it. I have two beautiful kids, a son 4, and a daughter just over a year. I am ready to fight this head one, one day at a time. I am an addict and I need to understand that i will be forever. Time to put the can down for good.
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Gauth, what happened last time that you only needed post 24 days before you didn't need KTC anymore? I know you said you didn't trust the process, but what was it about the process? Also, how are you going to put action to words this time when you say you are going to trust the process this time?
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Gauth, what happened last time that you only needed post 24 days before you didn't need KTC anymore? I know you said you didn't trust the process, but what was it about the process? Also, how are you going to put action to words this time when you say you are going to trust the process this time?
It really just came down to thinking I was strong enough on my own to keep my quit going and because of that I thought I had the start I needed. I now understand that once an addict always an addict. There will be constant temptation and situations where you set yourself up to fail if you don't have a support system. I see now the importance of communicating with others who have been there and done that. I will post and communicate everyday for the rest of my life because I believe this works.
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Gauth, what happened last time that you only needed post 24 days before you didn't need KTC anymore? I know you said you didn't trust the process, but what was it about the process? Also, how are you going to put action to words this time when you say you are going to trust the process this time?
It really just came down to thinking I was strong enough on my own to keep my quit going and because of that I thought I had the start I needed. I now understand that once an addict always an addict. There will be constant temptation and situations where you set yourself up to fail if you don't have a support system. I see now the importance of communicating with others who have been there and done that. I will post and communicate everyday for the rest of my life because I believe this works.
Don't worry about the rest of your life. Just worry about today. You might remember one day at a time (ODAAT). What I'm still not seeing in your post is HOW you're going to do it differently this time. You say things like "I now understand that once an addict always an addict" and "I see now the importance of communicating." Not to get college English nerdy on you, but these aren't action phrases. These are passive that show you understand what's going on, but not that you're doing something to make this happen for yourself.
So, how?
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Gauth, what happened last time that you only needed post 24 days before you didn't need KTC anymore? I know you said you didn't trust the process, but what was it about the process? Also, how are you going to put action to words this time when you say you are going to trust the process this time?
It really just came down to thinking I was strong enough on my own to keep my quit going and because of that I thought I had the start I needed. I now understand that once an addict always an addict. There will be constant temptation and situations where you set yourself up to fail if you don't have a support system. I see now the importance of communicating with others who have been there and done that. I will post and communicate everyday for the rest of my life because I believe this works.
Face the wheel time -- copy and paste these into Apr 2017 and your old group if you haven't already
(1) What happened?
(2) Why did it happen?
(3) What are you going to do differently
would strongly suggest you put some thought into these answers
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Gauth, what happened last time that you only needed post 24 days before you didn't need KTC anymore? I know you said you didn't trust the process, but what was it about the process? Also, how are you going to put action to words this time when you say you are going to trust the process this time?
It really just came down to thinking I was strong enough on my own to keep my quit going and because of that I thought I had the start I needed. I now understand that once an addict always an addict. There will be constant temptation and situations where you set yourself up to fail if you don't have a support system. I see now the importance of communicating with others who have been there and done that. I will post and communicate everyday for the rest of my life because I believe this works.
Don't worry about the rest of your life. Just worry about today. You might remember one day at a time (ODAAT). What I'm still not seeing in your post is HOW you're going to do it differently this time. You say things like "I now understand that once an addict always an addict" and "I see now the importance of communicating." Not to get college English nerdy on you, but these aren't action phrases. These are passive that show you understand what's going on, but not that you're doing something to make this happen for yourself.
So, how?
First things first, my tin has been flushed. Secondly, I am going to post roll everyday. Third I am going to seek out help and advice when I am craving bad or things are rough. Finally, I am going to try and not use any substitute chew this time, but am prepared to use some natural mint if needed.
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Gauth, what happened last time that you only needed post 24 days before you didn't need KTC anymore? I know you said you didn't trust the process, but what was it about the process? Also, how are you going to put action to words this time when you say you are going to trust the process this time?
It really just came down to thinking I was strong enough on my own to keep my quit going and because of that I thought I had the start I needed. I now understand that once an addict always an addict. There will be constant temptation and situations where you set yourself up to fail if you don't have a support system. I see now the importance of communicating with others who have been there and done that. I will post and communicate everyday for the rest of my life because I believe this works.
Don't worry about the rest of your life. Just worry about today. You might remember one day at a time (ODAAT). What I'm still not seeing in your post is HOW you're going to do it differently this time. You say things like "I now understand that once an addict always an addict" and "I see now the importance of communicating." Not to get college English nerdy on you, but these aren't action phrases. These are passive that show you understand what's going on, but not that you're doing something to make this happen for yourself.
So, how?
First things first, my tin has been flushed. Secondly, I am going to post roll everyday. Third I am going to seek out help and advice when I am craving bad or things are rough. Finally, I am going to try and not use any substitute chew this time, but am prepared to use some natural mint if needed.
This is a start. I would encourage you, however, to not wait until you're "craving bad or things are rough" to reach out to your brethren. You want to make sure that you've established that brotherhood before you're craving badly. That way when you reach out, you'll know not only to whom you should reach out, but also that said quitter will be there for you. Get some numbers now and get to know those guys/gals. The more you invest, the more you'll get back.
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Gauth, what happened last time that you only needed post 24 days before you didn't need KTC anymore? I know you said you didn't trust the process, but what was it about the process? Also, how are you going to put action to words this time when you say you are going to trust the process this time?
It really just came down to thinking I was strong enough on my own to keep my quit going and because of that I thought I had the start I needed. I now understand that once an addict always an addict. There will be constant temptation and situations where you set yourself up to fail if you don't have a support system. I see now the importance of communicating with others who have been there and done that. I will post and communicate everyday for the rest of my life because I believe this works.
Don't worry about the rest of your life. Just worry about today. You might remember one day at a time (ODAAT). What I'm still not seeing in your post is HOW you're going to do it differently this time. You say things like "I now understand that once an addict always an addict" and "I see now the importance of communicating." Not to get college English nerdy on you, but these aren't action phrases. These are passive that show you understand what's going on, but not that you're doing something to make this happen for yourself.
So, how?
First things first, my tin has been flushed. Secondly, I am going to post roll everyday. Third I am going to seek out help and advice when I am craving bad or things are rough. Finally, I am going to try and not use any substitute chew this time, but am prepared to use some natural mint if needed.
This is a start. I would encourage you, however, to not wait until you're "craving bad or things are rough" to reach out to your brethren. You want to make sure that you've established that brotherhood before you're craving badly. That way when you reach out, you'll know not only to whom you should reach out, but also that said quitter will be there for you. Get some numbers now and get to know those guys/gals. The more you invest, the more you'll get back.
Hey Gauth,
I am in the same boat as you are. I "stopped" for awhile back in 2013. I, like you, didn't "believe" in the system (really though - I didn't want the accountability.) but now I'm on Day 12. It sucks. I'm not using any fake stuff either because it makes me want the real stuff more. So, good choice not doing the fake chew. Our way obviously didn't work. So let's go with what we have seen work - KTC.
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This is the hardest thing I have ever done, but I know its the only way for this to work. I was quit for a long time thanks to help from KTC and then I got selfish and thought I could continue all on my own. I made it three more months before I caved and gave into the addiction again. I have tried several times since to quit but it never took, I knew I needed to get back here for the accountability, but I was scared about the reaction from my previous quit group. Well enough is enough and it's time to start posting roll again. Here I am a broken man ready to quit. Day 8.
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Brother I am glad you are back home...always here to help...make sure you answer the 3 questions once you post roll in your new group...you know this process works if you WUPP EDD! Let's get after it!
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Well, you know the deal... give us info on what happened, why, and what you are going to do to prevent it next time.
Looks like you were here in 2014, then again in 2017. I don't see a roll post past day 24, but I didn't dig too deep.
I know all too well the mind games we play with ourselves. I don't know if your "quit for a long time" was 3 years or 3 months, or 3 weeks. But you didn't quit, you just stopped for a while. I used to stop all the time. I'd take a month off here and there, then decide I was all better and could use just a little responsibly... then before i knew it, 9 months or a year had slipped by.
I finally made it to 100 days recently, and all it has taught me is that I am not ok at all. I'm as close to going to buy a can today as I was on day 10.
So anyway, find your group, log your quit date in your own calendar, and buckle the fuck up. This shit is not going to be easy. You know that.
Looks like your quit date would be 6-17-21 or so, so that would put you in september... https://ktcforum.org/index.php?topic=17074.0
Get in there and post roll today.... right now.
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oh boy @Gauth05 (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=4747)...
I found your old intro. Please re-read it and use it as fuel to make this stoppage your one and only QUIT.
Each quitter is allowed only one intro. Please use this one going to blog your quit journey.
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Sooooo, this is the 3rd go 'round here, eh?
I'll be the asshole... you shouldn't be here.
This isn't a "try" site. You should know that already having been here off and on since 2014. Or maybe not... you didn't stick around either time so what's going to be different about this time?
Trying again and again has zero merit, integrity, or guts. The "try" mentality taints the effort everyone is putting in to get it done and win. Again, I don't think you should be allowed to "try" again buuuut I don't get to decide. So... own it.
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Sooooo, this is the 3rd go 'round here, eh?
I'll be the asshole... you shouldn't be here.
This isn't a "try" site. You should know that already having been here off and on since 2014. Or maybe not... you didn't stick around either time so what's going to be different about this time?
Trying again and again has zero merit, integrity, or guts. The "try" mentality taints the effort everyone is putting in to get it done and win. Again, I don't think you should be allowed to "try" again buuuut I don't get to decide. So... own it.
I wouldn't recommend "trying" skydiving, the same way you've "tried" to quit @Gauth05 (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=4747)
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This is the hardest thing I have ever done, but I know its the only way for this to work. I was quit for a long time thanks to help from KTC and then I got selfish and thought I could continue all on my own. I made it three more months before I caved and gave into the addiction again. I have tried several times since to quit but it never took, I knew I needed to get back here for the accountability, but I was scared about the reaction from my previous quit group. Well enough is enough and it's time to start posting roll again. Here I am a broken man ready to quit. Day 8.
One day at a time. That works. And it works better if you have support from other quitters that you've connected with. You didn't stay here and you didn't stay quit. Is this your last day 8?
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No roll post today.
Figures.
Maybe he’ll “try” later…
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No roll post today.
Figures.
Maybe he’ll “try” later…
Yup, makes the title of this intro pretty ironic. So much for facing the music....
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No roll post today.
Figures.
Maybe he’ll “try” later…
Yup, makes the title of this intro pretty ironic. So much for facing the music....
Pretty sure he only likes the sound of being quit. Hopefully he wakes up before cancer wins the war.
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No roll post today.
Figures.
Maybe he’ll “try” later…
Yup, makes the title of this intro pretty ironic. So much for facing the music....
Pretty sure he only likes the sound of being quit. Hopefully he wakes up before cancer wins the war.
He's up today in September 21. Still needs to answer those questions...