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Community => Introductions => Topic started by: shanelax22 on November 28, 2011, 01:41:00 PM
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Hey everyone, every time I put a chew in my mouth I don't want it anymore. Today is the day I will be quitting chew for good. I am 20 years old and do not want to be an addict anymore. I have been addicted for just over two years now and do not want this sh!# controlling my life anymore. I am tired of sneaking around being an addict and letting my friends and family down. Most importantly I am letting myself down every time I put a chew in my mouth. I am a college athlete in North Carolina and have worked too hard to get where I am to let nicotine control my life. I have realized that others have gone through the pain of quitting and, well I guess I deserve to go through the pain since I was stupid enough to get addicted to this in the first place. I would appreciate any input you all have to help me through this entire process. Thank you
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Post roll immediately. That will tell us and yourself that you are serious. I hope to see your name on the roll list. Until you make the promise not to dip to yourself and everyone on this board you are still a slave to the nic bitch.
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I went to the roll page and hopefully I marked role correctly.
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Nice work bud. You're in. All in.
Make sure you read what's going on here. Read all that you can. We post roll every day. That's how we do it. One day at a time. That's about all any of us addicts can handle. Get to know the folks in March 2012. They're finding their way just as you are.
Welcome.
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Hey everyone, every time I put a chew in my mouth I don't want it anymore. Today is the day I will be quitting chew for good. I am 20 years old and do not want to be an addict anymore. I have been addicted for just over two years now and do not want this sh!# controlling my life anymore. I am tired of sneaking around being an addict and letting my friends and family down. Most importantly I am letting myself down every time I put a chew in my mouth. I am a college athlete in North Carolina and have worked too hard to get where I am to let nicotine control my life. I have realized that others have gone through the pain of quitting and, well I guess I deserve to go through the pain since I was stupid enough to get addicted to this in the first place. I would appreciate any input you all have to help me through this entire process. Thank you
Hey glad you made the right choice!
SOunds like youa are also a fellow former ninja dipper! Thats what we call them around here! Check out my hall of fame post titled deceit if you want to see where you are going if you keep dipping and keeping it from your friends and family.
Good to hear you quit and proud to be quit with you!
Whacko......108 days
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Being an addict makes you do some stupid shit. I lied to my wife and family about dipping for 6 years. I snuck around, hid it, got caught, and lied about it every time. Quitting will keep you alive and you don't have to be a f*ing liar anymore. Nice quitting with you. Get numbers for support, it really helps.
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Smart move, young man!!! For many of us it took 25 years or more of using the crap before we quit. You definitely don't want that! The best decision you'll ever make . . . .
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Being an addict makes you do some stupid shit. I lied to my wife and family about dipping for 6 years. I snuck around, hid it, got caught, and lied about it every time. Quitting will keep you alive and you don't have to be a f*ing liar anymore. Nice quitting with you. Get numbers for support, it really helps.
Yeah it has definitely made me do some stupid shit. I would sneak around all day just so I had the chance to take a dip. I am sick of that and do now want to live like that any more. How do I go about getting numbers for people who are quitting in March as well? Thank you
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Being an addict makes you do some stupid shit. I lied to my wife and family about dipping for 6 years. I snuck around, hid it, got caught, and lied about it every time. Quitting will keep you alive and you don't have to be a f*ing liar anymore. Nice quitting with you. Get numbers for support, it really helps.
Yeah it has definitely made me do some stupid shit. I would sneak around all day just so I had the chance to take a dip. I am sick of that and do now want to live like that any more. How do I go about getting numbers for people who are quitting in March as well? Thank you
Click on their names by their posts and then find the "Send PM" link.
Don't share numbers out in the open because you will have a particular someone who calls himself G and happens to be a gay mann calling you all the time.
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Being an addict makes you do some stupid shit. I lied to my wife and family about dipping for 6 years. I snuck around, hid it, got caught, and lied about it every time. Quitting will keep you alive and you don't have to be a f*ing liar anymore. Nice quitting with you. Get numbers for support, it really helps.
Yeah it has definitely made me do some stupid shit. I would sneak around all day just so I had the chance to take a dip. I am sick of that and do now want to live like that any more. How do I go about getting numbers for people who are quitting in March as well? Thank you
Click on their names by their posts and then find the "Send PM" link.
Don't share numbers out in the open because you will have a particular someone who calls himself G and happens to be a gay mann calling you all the time.
wait...that was a dude?
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haha well this definitely sucks ass right now, but I will not let myself and everyone down
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haha well this definitely sucks ass right now, but I will not let myself and everyone down
It certainly will suck ass...never forget these first days..it will be hell- but you only have to walk through this hell but once. Once you get to the other side things will be so much better than you can imagine right now.
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haha well this definitely sucks ass right now, but I will not let myself and everyone down
It certainly will suck ass...never forget these first days..it will be hell- but you only have to walk through this hell but once. Once you get to the other side things will be so much better than you can imagine right now.
Thank you, I really appreciate it. What do you think about tobacco free chew?
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haha well this definitely sucks ass right now, but I will not let myself and everyone down
It certainly will suck ass...never forget these first days..it will be hell- but you only have to walk through this hell but once. Once you get to the other side things will be so much better than you can imagine right now.
Thank you, I really appreciate it. What do you think about tobacco free chew?
If it helps keep cancer candy out of your mouth then use it.
I used it for a bit. Went through a sleeve of chattahoochie and forgot to get another sleeve.
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haha well this definitely sucks ass right now, but I will not let myself and everyone down
It certainly will suck ass...never forget these first days..it will be hell- but you only have to walk through this hell but once. Once you get to the other side things will be so much better than you can imagine right now.
Thank you, I really appreciate it. What do you think about tobacco free chew?
If it helps keep cancer candy out of your mouth then use it.
I used it for a bit. Went through a sleeve of chattahoochie and forgot to get another sleeve.
what Souli said-...I used it for the first 250 days of my quit. Sunflower seeds are another help...Keep in mind, at some point you are probably want to do away with the oral addiction, and that may or may not be challenging...some people are like souli in that they lost interest in the fake after a while, but I had some craves when I stopped using the fake. All in all the fake helped quite a bit.
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I just picked up a couple cans of smokey mountain so hopefully this helps out a little bit. Okay so I will be going back home for winter break from college and most of my friends back home still chew. They will be chewing all the time around me. Any suggestions on what to do there besides not chew?
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I just picked up a couple cans of smokey mountain so hopefully this helps out a little bit. Okay so I will be going back home for winter break from college and most of my friends back home still chew. They will be chewing all the time around me. Any suggestions on what to do there besides not chew?
Take some smokey mountain....maybe even be a "quit evangelist" ;) Bring your cell phone....if you are struggling- use your numbers! Tell your friends about your quit and ask that they don't offer you one. Stare at them spitting in their spitters, drooling on their chins...look at how silly they look with a wad in...and revel in the fact that you have the biggest balls in the group!
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I just picked up a couple cans of smokey mountain so hopefully this helps out a little bit. Okay so I will be going back home for winter break from college and most of my friends back home still chew. They will be chewing all the time around me. Any suggestions on what to do there besides not chew?
Let your quit shine. Be confident. Be quit. Be the person you were supposed to be.
You will find that as your quit gets stronger, as it grows day by day, all the other addicts will be humble and give your props. You see, we have all paused. We have all paused such that we know hard it is to QUIT. Let your quit shine and when they are ready, they will ask how you did it. I think you know what to do next.
This does not directly address your question, but, it is the answer.
PS. Keep a cell phone handy. PM me for a number.
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I just picked up a couple cans of smokey mountain so hopefully this helps out a little bit. Okay so I will be going back home for winter break from college and most of my friends back home still chew. They will be chewing all the time around me. Any suggestions on what to do there besides not chew?
Take some smokey mountain....maybe even be a "quit evangelist" ;) Bring your cell phone....if you are struggling- use your numbers! Tell your friends about your quit and ask that they don't offer you one. Stare at them spitting in their spitters, drooling on their chins...look at how silly they look with a wad in...and revel in the fact that you have the biggest balls in the group!
and DONT GET DRUNK WITH THEM! too early in your quit for that bro....
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Yeah it sucks, my 21'st birthday is over break so it will be tough not to drink with them. I just need to stay strong and say fuck that shit
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Yeah it sucks, my 21'st birthday is over break so it will be tough not to drink with them. I just need to stay strong and say fuck that shit
Take it from someone who was a prisoner of this addiction for 33 or so years- The sacrifices you make to leave this addiction behind will be well worth it in the end. Unfortunately alcohol early in a quit quite often leads to the death of the quit...it is a judgement impaired thing. And if you are drinking with a bunch of dippers...the judgement can lapse and the temptation is always at an arms reach.
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I just picked up a couple cans of smokey mountain so hopefully this helps out a little bit. Okay so I will be going back home for winter break from college and most of my friends back home still chew. They will be chewing all the time around me. Any suggestions on what to do there besides not chew?
Take some smokey mountain....maybe even be a "quit evangelist" ;) Bring your cell phone....if you are struggling- use your numbers! Tell your friends about your quit and ask that they don't offer you one. Stare at them spitting in their spitters, drooling on their chins...look at how silly they look with a wad in...and revel in the fact that you have the biggest balls in the group!
you tell um bout your quit. and man the first guy what offers a dip you take his can and dump it on the floor man. wont be a seckind one passin the tin.
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Well today is day two in my quit. I have class all day and won't have a chance to use any alternatives so today will suck..... I am going to try my best to focus in class and fight the bitch. Struggle city today
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Well today is day two in my quit. I have class all day and won't have a chance to use any alternatives so today will suck..... I am going to try my best to focus in class and fight the bitch. Struggle city today
Bring the quit. Exercise today. Drink water. Chew gum.
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Well today is day two in my quit. I have class all day and won't have a chance to use any alternatives so today will suck..... I am going to try my best to focus in class and fight the bitch. Struggle city today
Dude you are in Carolina. If you start getting sidetracked by a crave, focus on one of those cute little Carolina asses. Schoolwork can be made up later;)
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Well today is day two in my quit. I have class all day and won't have a chance to use any alternatives so today will suck..... I am going to try my best to focus in class and fight the bitch. Struggle city today
Dude you are in Carolina. If you start getting sidetracked by a crave, focus on one of those cute little Carolina asses. Schoolwork can be made up later;)
True that man, one just left my house which made last night not so bad....haha
I'll probably chew at least 10 pieces of gum today........
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These last few days have been, well.......a bitch. I am fighting one massive craving right now as I am writing this. As much as these last few days have sucked, it feels good and I do feel like I have really accomplished something. It is my fault that these days of ghey blurrr and fog are occurring, but it is great to know that I am NOT the only one going through this right now. Drop kick the bitch nic queen right in the teeth when she comes creeping up at you and stay strong. Lets do this March.........staying strong one day at a time.
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working through this site trying to figure out the diff functions. seeing if i can post something and find it. Intro: I'm 39, married with 4 daughters, started chewing in 7th grade.
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shane,
Well done. No caving: do something else!
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These last few days have been, well.......a bitch. I am fighting one massive craving right now as I am writing this. As much as these last few days have sucked, it feels good and I do feel like I have really accomplished something. It is my fault that these days of ghey blurrr and fog are occurring, but it is great to know that I am NOT the only one going through this right now. Drop kick the bitch nic queen right in the teeth when she comes creeping up at you and stay strong. Lets do this March.........staying strong one day at a time.
You definitely aren't the only one feeling that way man, I'm there with you too. Yesterday I couldn't even really type my mind was so blurred. Just all goes to show you how powerful this shit really is and how much better off we'll be once it's all out of our bodies. Staying strong one day at a time right there with you buddy, and all of March
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These last few days have been, well.......a bitch. I am fighting one massive craving right now as I am writing this. As much as these last few days have sucked, it feels good and I do feel like I have really accomplished something. It is my fault that these days of ghey blurrr and fog are occurring, but it is great to know that I am NOT the only one going through this right now. Drop kick the bitch nic queen right in the teeth when she comes creeping up at you and stay strong. Lets do this March.........staying strong one day at a time.
You definitely aren't the only one feeling that way man, I'm there with you too. Yesterday I couldn't even really type my mind was so blurred. Just all goes to show you how powerful this shit really is and how much better off we'll be once it's all out of our bodies. Staying strong one day at a time right there with you buddy, and all of March
It is going to get better than you can imagine...Take my word on that! Way to power through the suck! Never forget what it was like. Some awesome quittin fellas!
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These last few days have been, well.......a bitch. I am fighting one massive craving right now as I am writing this. As much as these last few days have sucked, it feels good and I do feel like I have really accomplished something. It is my fault that these days of ghey blurrr and fog are occurring, but it is great to know that I am NOT the only one going through this right now.  Drop kick the bitch nic queen right in the teeth when she comes creeping up at you and stay strong. Lets do this March.........staying strong one day at a time.
You definitely aren't the only one feeling that way man, I'm there with you too. Yesterday I couldn't even really type my mind was so blurred. Just all goes to show you how powerful this shit really is and how much better off we'll be once it's all out of our bodies. Staying strong one day at a time right there with you buddy, and all of March
It is going to get better than you can imagine...Take my word on that! Way to power through the suck! Never forget what it was like. Some awesome quittin fellas!
This is why we all quit. Keep up the work. http://www.killthecan.org/facts/100benefits.asp (http://www.killthecan.org/facts/100benefits.asp)
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Coming home for winter break from college is probably one of the hardest parts of my quit. All of my friends back home dip and I am the only one who has decided to quit. Every second of every day I have been constantly thinking about chew and each second has been a complete struggle. One side of me keeps saying, just dip with your friends over break and then you can quit as soon as you head back to school. The other side doesn't want to lose the three weeks of hell I have gone through to get this far.
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Coming home for winter break from college is probably one of the hardest parts of my quit. All of my friends back home dip and I am the only one who has decided to quit. Every second of every day I have been constantly thinking about chew and each second has been a complete struggle. One side of me keeps saying, just dip with your friends over break and then you can quit as soon as you head back to school. The other side doesn't want to lose the three weeks of hell I have gone through to get this far.
Being quit does not take Christmas break. You are either quit or not.
Kill the can means to murder it for today. Kill it today, remain quit, and then rinse and repeat tomorrow. If your friends don't care about your decision, then what kind of friends are they?
Sorry to sound harsh, but think about how quickly this shit can kill you. Are you willing to let it seep back into your life and hold you in chains again, or are you going to be free as you are today?
Better yet, tell your friends about this site and get them to quit, or tell them to pound sand.
Use your numbers, look at the contract to give up being quit, use Chat, do whatever you have to do to keep from falling. You can do this. Need a number? PM me and it is yours.
~Frazz
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So many have gone down that road to the slaughter...your addict mind is telling you the lie that you can always quit again. The truth of the matter is: every time I relapsed it took years to "try again". Shane- there is no more just one. You are quit. You are going to do whatever it takes to stay that way. If that means going without the friends that dip over the next month, then that is what it is. You will have your whole life to hang out with friends. Don't shorten that life with cancer.
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30 is right on. Your addicted self is telling you to dip. Read this, it is called the law of addiction. It is as true as the law of gravity. http://www.killthecan.org/robs/law.asp (http://www.killthecan.org/robs/law.asp)
My experience has been that all users deep down envy quitters. Your brain is saying take one, their brain is saying Damn, I wished is was quit. Just watch. Let your quit grow. Once your friends know you are serious they very well may say something to you. I have a friend that uses and would love to quit. He just does not have the courage yet.
Stay quit friend.
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Hang tough...your FRIENDS should all understand. Make sure you tell them that you are quit. Be quit. Stay quit. Think about how hard it will be to start all over again, 3 weeks down the fucking toilet. Your reward for being quit is freedom, not to dip over break because you can't stand up to FRIENDS. HTFU and keep your promise.
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The average addict musters the confidence to challenge their addiction about once every three years, at which time roughly 1 in 20 will succeed in breaking free for an entire year due to thoughts just like yours. " I can have one" I can dip just for the weekend"" I can quit whenever I want to." These horrible recovery statistics evenutally result in half of us dying by our own hand, with male users losing an average of 13 years of life expectancy and females losing 14 years. Our senseless self-destruction is undeniable visible evidence of denial's depth, and the power of this addiction. The addiction insulated us from the extreme price being paid with each and every puff or pinch - a little more of life itself taken.
Sadly for far too many the three years between recovery attempts will be too long. According to the World Health Organization the next three years will cost 15 million of our brother and sister addicts their lives. This is where you need to be ! It will be tough, you will have to endure some pain but it can be done. You have stopped today, do not make the mistake of re-starting. Who knows when you will get another chance. As a former can to can and a half a day user I can attest to the fact that this site and the methods here do work. You have a choice to make today, another try in three years may be too late.
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I told my friends who dip this:
If I try to bum a dip from you, kick me in balls as hard as you can.
If you try to wave that shit in my face to mess with me, I will kick you in the balls as hard as I can.
Shake on it!
Shane, don't throw this away man. Our group is stronger if you stay. If you throw this away the next time you think about quitting may be when your dentists discovers a suspicious sore in your mouth. Make your choice.
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Shane we talked here close to 20 days ago. Don't let them talk you into dipping. I know how stubborn these North Carolina people can be. I have actually got two of my coworkers who I never dreamed would stop to talk about quitting. Just do a search of the ingredients of smokeless and see if you want to put nuclear waste or uranium 235 used to make nuclear weapons between your cheek and gum.
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Shane,
The questions that come to mind are numerous...21 days...28 posts...Only 15 posts in March 2012, 3 missed roll calls not including today, A failure to have a plan for winter break, a desperate post at 3am- which did not include a roll call post and I wonder if you even had any numbers? And if you had numbers did you use them? Did you spend any time reading here? Were you drinking with your buddies when you posted that? If you were drinking, did you not see the numerous warnings that were posted here? Did you get involved with the people here- the people that could influence you to stay quit?
You don't want this bad enough. _
PS...you remember THIS post from your other intro? You knew this was going to be a problem. And yet you put yourself in harms way. A failure to plan is to plan to fail.
I just picked up a couple cans of smokey mountain so hopefully this helps out a little bit. Okay so I will be going back home for winter break from college and most of my friends back home still chew. They will be chewing all the time around me. Any suggestions on what to do there besides not chew?
Take some smokey mountain....maybe even be a "quit evangelist" ;) Bring your cell phone....if you are struggling- use your numbers! Tell your friends about your quit and ask that they don't offer you one. Stare at them spitting in their spitters, drooling on their chins...look at how silly they look with a wad in...and revel in the fact that you have the biggest balls in the group!
and DONT GET DRUNK WITH THEM! too early in your quit for that bro....
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Shane I started dipping when I was 16 and quit cold turkey when I was 21. I went over 11 years with very little if any dip. I met up with one of my old friends when I was 34 and he offered me dip. I dipped for 4 more years. I am here now on day 37. I am just saying that one leads to another then another.
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Shane,
Why are we even having this problem...You are quit, dammit! Never Again! Your quit is too new to deal with that kind of pressure...Tell your friends to FUCK THE FUCK OFF for now!
I hope this is not foreshadowing of a planned cave! You are stronger than this shit, now just prove it!
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Everyone,
Thank you for your reply and helping me get through this. I know I am being a big fucking vagina about this, but it really was just a tough situation. I was not drinking last night, and I knew very well what exactly was going to happen. My friends tried the whole you have only been quit for 20 days, just take a dip with me and I didn't do it, I told them I quit and just one would turn into one all fucking day again. I am sorry I haven't made many posts on this site and I am sorry I have missed some role calls. It was fucking stupid of me, and there really is no excuse. My mind still is in the right place and I AM quit. I understand why most of you were harsh and I deserve all of it. 'Although I do not post as much as I would like to because I am not by my computer much and I do not have a smart phone, I do think about the site ass the time and I do read and use the sources. Thanks again and sorry for being an ignorant fuck. I just want you all to know I am still quit.
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Shane...Don't ever back yourself into the corner. Protect your quit. Have a plan. Post roll first thing.
You just learned something- that you cannot trust your friends. They feel inadequate because of your quit, they want you back on their level. My advice is to stay away from them...make some new KTC friends.
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Your roll post should be the first thing you do every morning !! Nothing is more important than your quit right now. NOTHING!
If you want to post daily you can. I have stories from quitters here that post from anywhere you can imagine. If you make it your priority to post, you will.
As far as your friends offering you a dip. Here is how I would address that situation:
1. When said dip is offered say "sure"
2. Take the can, pack it up nicely
3. Take the lid off
4. Dump the shit on the ground
5. Hand empty can back to your "friend" and follow up with.
I told you I am quit, now stop fucking with me. When you grow a pair you will quit too. Until then never offer that shit to me again. Walk away knowing you are a bad ass quitter...
Greg
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Shane -
As soon as you drag your butt out of bed, post roll. It only takes a minute - one minute a day to save your life -- sounds like a hell of a deal to me.
You really need to think about your choice of friends. These guys apparently have no respect whatsoever for your decision. As others have said, they are actually scared to death of your quit.
You're out here swimming for your life; you don't need any friends who are tossing anchors to you. You need people like those around here who really give a damn about your quit. That's right, even though we've never set eyes on you and may never do so, we care more about your quit and your future than your "friends." Sit them all down, when they are sober, and tell them (1) I am quit (2) Don't offer me any of that shit you are thowing in your face (3) Respect my decision. If they can't agree to those simple rules, walk away. - they're not worth your time.
Proud to be quit with you.
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You all are right, saving my life is my number one goal and the friends I chose are a big part of a successful quit. I am going to work hard at it, because quitting is my number one focus.