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Community => Introductions => Topic started by: dsherb_81 on October 06, 2010, 04:23:00 AM
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Hi everyone,
I'll start by stating that I am on my second attempt at quitting. The first time I quit cold turkey in 2007 and stayed off all nicotine for about a year and a half. Like a dumbass, I started back about six months ago during the process of moving my family to a new home. I know it's an excuse to use that for starting back but I say that mostly as a point of reference to when I started using again. Started back at work one day by bumming a pinch off of a coworker that was more than willing to give one up. After that, it was on again as soon as I could find a gas station after work. Anyways, the drug of choice has been timberwolf wintergreen long cut most of the 9 years I used. It all began with occasional smoking in high school with friends (I also grew up in a smoking household). Stopped that for a girlfriend about two years out of school and started the dip. So now I am happily married with kids and would prefer to live out the standards I expect from my own sons. The way I see it, and I truly believe this, if I don't stop now the cycle is more likely to continue to my own children. I can see first hand the differences in a tobacco free family and one that uses. My in-law side is almost totally tobacco free and it seems to be frowned upon and it is just not used nor seems to be passed on to the next generation. On the other hand, my side of the family has almost no one that doesn't use some form of tobacco and so do almost all the children when they become adults. It's also worth mentioning that from an objective viewpoint it is amazing to me (and quite obvious really) how the health and breathing problems of children on one side drastically differ from the children of the non-smokers. Nevertheless, you cannot make the users see that and God help you if you try. Okay, I'm off the high horse now and really shouldn't berate smokers as I am just as addicted, even if it is dip. So here I am on day 2 of my 2nd attempt and plan to make this the final farewell to that bitch mistress that is nicotine. I will break the chains once and for all because I do remember how freeing it was to be totally off the can. Your whole outlook really does change for the better. You actually slow down and can taste food again. You don't schedule your days and events around the can. You become a nicer person and just feel healthier. And most of all, you aren't living like a hypocrite in front of your family. Just have to make it through the fog and keep the mind occupied. That is why it is 3am and I am here right now with a mouthful of peppermint tic-tacs. I have read a ton from here before and it does help to read the opinions and encouragement of others. My favorite thing is the 100 reasons to quit on the main page as it really does make you realize how disgusting and obnoxious this habit really is. It's almost comical to think of the things people do for a nic hit. I remember watching people dip and spit and how utterly disgusting and stupid it really looks when you aren't a member of that club. I can't really pinpoint what made me put it down again two days ago. Maybe it was my realization that my baby boy is starting to really talk and mimic what I do and here I am setting a terrible example for this innocent child that looks up to me. Or it could be that I noticed my older boy out in the yard spitting without realizing it for no reason and asking him why he was doing that and telling him to stop because it is gross and it's rude to spit. Hmmm....I wonder if it's because he has seen Dad doing just that for so long. Well, I think I have rambled enough and will probably need to vent some more later so I'll save the rest. Thanks for reading and thanks for all the information I've reamed thus far from the site. Good luck to all!
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Hi everyone,
I'll start by stating that I am on my second attempt at quitting. The first time I quit cold turkey in 2007 and stayed off all nicotine for about a year and a half. Like a dumbass, I started back about six months ago during the process of moving my family to a new home. I know it's an excuse to use that for starting back but I say that mostly as a point of reference to when I started using again. Started back at work one day by bumming a pinch off of a coworker that was more than willing to give one up. After that, it was on again as soon as I could find a gas station after work. Anyways, the drug of choice has been timberwolf wintergreen long cut most of the 9 years I used. It all began with occasional smoking in high school with friends (I also grew up in a smoking household). Stopped that for a girlfriend about two years out of school and started the dip. So now I am happily married with kids and would prefer to live out the standards I expect from my own sons. The way I see it, and I truly believe this, if I don't stop now the cycle is more likely to continue to my own children. I can see first hand the differences in a tobacco free family and one that uses. My in-law side is almost totally tobacco free and it seems to be frowned upon and it is just not used nor seems to be passed on to the next generation. On the other hand, my side of the family has almost no one that doesn't use some form of tobacco and so do almost all the children when they become adults. It's also worth mentioning that from an objective viewpoint it is amazing to me (and quite obvious really) how the health and breathing problems of children on one side drastically differ from the children of the non-smokers. Nevertheless, you cannot make the users see that and God help you if you try. Okay, I'm off the high horse now and really shouldn't berate smokers as I am just as addicted, even if it is dip. So here I am on day 2 of my 2nd attempt and plan to make this the final farewell to that bitch mistress that is nicotine. I will break the chains once and for all because I do remember how freeing it was to be totally off the can. Your whole outlook really does change for the better. You actually slow down and can taste food again. You don't schedule your days and events around the can. You become a nicer person and just feel healthier. And most of all, you aren't living like a hypocrite in front of your family. Just have to make it through the fog and keep the mind occupied. That is why it is 3am and I am here right now with a mouthful of peppermint tic-tacs. I have read a ton from here before and it does help to read the opinions and encouragement of others. My favorite thing is the 100 reasons to quit on the main page as it really does make you realize how disgusting and obnoxious this habit really is. It's almost comical to think of the things people do for a nic hit. I remember watching people dip and spit and how utterly disgusting and stupid it really looks when you aren't a member of that club. I can't really pinpoint what made me put it down again two days ago. Maybe it was my realization that my baby boy is starting to really talk and mimic what I do and here I am setting a terrible example for this innocent child that looks up to me. Or it could be that I noticed my older boy out in the yard spitting without realizing it for no reason and asking him why he was doing that and telling him to stop because it is gross and it's rude to spit. Hmmm....I wonder if it's because he has seen Dad doing just that for so long. Well, I think I have rambled enough and will probably need to vent some more later so I'll save the rest. Thanks for reading and thanks for all the information I've reamed thus far from the site. Good luck to all!
I understand where you're coming from. I came from a smoking family myself on both sides of my family. In fact my dad's side of the family grew tobacco! I was constantly around people that smoked and chewed and I got in on it too. I dipped Skoal Cherry and Copenhagen for 15 years. I'm now on day 71 of my first and only quit.
However you are on your 2nd quit. What is going to be different this go round? In order for this quit to work you need to be properly motivated. What are you going to do differently to ensure when the quit gets rough that you won't be swayed to going back to the can? Its going to be hard but you can do it. If you need help let me know.
Dave
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dsherb - As Dave stated you need to have a plan. You've been down the road before, so use the tools that got you quit plus this site. BUT what will keep you from going back? I'm betting that you learned a very important thing. YOU are an addict. You CAN'T ever have any more nic. You will CAVE if you do. So take that important knowledge and get pissed that you fell back into the dip world. Focus that into anger against nic. Get seeds, gum, water and start posting up each day. Keep your word to this group, make your quit known to family and friends. Fight the battle each day.
Post - Promise - Keep Word - Repeat
You can do it and this time make it stick!
Welcome to the quit
Rob
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Welcome.
The plan here is simple. Not easy but simple.
Post your promise, keep your word, do it again tomorrow.
I sent you a PM explaining what I mean. Do not post roll until you understand the commitment.
Sing out if you need help.
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dsherb_81 -- Welcome to the site - I can tell you in the last 40 days it has made all the difference in this quit being one that sticks. It reminds me daily you can't have just one. My kids and wife need me and I want to be the man that is there for them.
Make sure you have a written plan, what you will do before you are willing to cave on the quit. I would suggest printing out this "contract to quit" I have it sitting on my desk (where I am most tempted)
Contract to Quit (http://www.killthecan.org/facts/contract.asp)
If you need a number send me a pm - stay strong, stay quit!!
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