I was confronted by my wife this morning. And I have been thinking of quitting, but I find that I can not find the will power to follow through. It is usually a stressful event or situation that I go running for a tin. I know that I am addicted to the oral part of this habit. I can not stand chewing gum so I find it hard to find something to replace the sensation. I have tried life savers (wintergreen) to replicate the taste and feel, but I end up chewing them and go through a bag in about 3 hours. Any tips and support in this area would be great.Worktowin -
I have been using on and off since college. I ALWAYS fall off.... But I need this to be different for me and my relationship. I want to prove that I can do it to myself and my wife.
Thanks
I was confronted by my wife this morning. And I have been thinking of quitting, but I find that I can not find the will power to follow through.
Welcome, candoit.
QFT ^^^^. I lied to my wife the most regarding chewing - I'll quit tomorrow, on my birthday. on her birthday, etc. - so why would I get her support? Instead, I talked to her every day the first 2 months until things started to be normal again, and support or no, it helped a bunch. She knew I wasn't dipping, and that's all that mattered to me.Quote from: CandoitI was confronted by my wife this morning. And I have been thinking of quitting, but I find that I can not find the will power to follow through.
Welcome, candoit.
As others have said, you can't do this for someone else. You have to want to quit because YOU want to quit.
Doing it for your wife will get you through the first 12-24 hours, but on about day two or three when her immediate anger has worn off, you'll realize you don't have to actually BE quit, you just have to make her THINK you're quit. And I can tell you from experience, hiding dipping is a lot easier than quitting dipping.
Some advice from someone who's been there: involve your wife in your quit and talk to her about what you're feeling. When I first quit, I thought my wife would be mad if she knew I was struggling, so I just avoided the topic entirely. That's the wrong approach. You need support here AND in real life.
QFT ^^^^. I lied to my wife the most regarding chewing - I'll quit tomorrow, on my birthday. on her birthday, etc. - so why would I get her support? Instead I talked to her every day the first 2 months until things started to be normal again, and support or no, it helped a bunch. She knew I wasn't dipping, and that's all that mattered to me.If nothing else, it will help explain why you're more irritable than normal while you're going through the withdrawal. When I finally told my wife about my quit, the first thing she said was, "So that's why you were such an asshole all last week..."
Day 14This is what's it's all about ... summed up nicely on a day 14. This post struck a chord, made my quit stronger ... and for that I thank you! You're a quitter, a damn strong one, and I like it. Keep the toolbox open at all times. Thanks brother!
I am reflective at this point in my quit. So far I have experienced very low lows, in which I am angry at everyone and mellow even points. I wouldn't say that I am depressed nor would I say I am emotionally stable, but I am taking pause to evaluate the events and choices that have lead me to this point in my life.
The fact is I always had something to prove to everyone but myself. Whether it was in atheltics, socially, intellectually, or at work. The need to seek some sort of approval that I had earned the right to be here, gave me one hell of an egostical chip on my shoulder. I know why I first started to smoke, drink, or go down a very dark place in my life. I found things I could control, but in the end for what I thought I could control, controlled me.
I used to say, I would be a in a gutter if it wasn't for my wife, that statement is not tongue and cheek, it is the gospel truth. This habit it the last rement of my old life, that needed to be shed. In shedding this remaining crutch I can now move on with my journey. I would say that part of my life was the better part of 15 yrs.
14 days ago, I heard myself say to my wife "I will ask my doctor, next week about how to quit." She stormed off, i left for work and stopped for a tin, not thinking much of anything. But as that tin sat there on the passenger seat, I thought why is she mad, I do everything she want, she is the one that has the problem. But an hour is a long time to be alone with your thoughts, but then I though of every major fight in the past several years, guess who caused it, the nic bitch! That was it, I had been in this place so many times before, but what makes it any different? I will quit tonight, I just bought a new tin, that's a waste of money. So as I pulled into work, I did my ninja dipper routine hid the bottle, and tin. Went to my office and put in another one, well I have to get rid of it why waste it? So on went the day, got pissed, another one, coffee break? Another one, why well I am getting rid of the tin. But lunch I started looking how to quit, baccoff, patchs , gum, cold turkey? Oh there's a coupon for patches, or gum, but if I use baccoff my wife won't like that.... Then KTC and next thing I know its 4 pm. That drive home I threw the tin out of the window in the middle of interstate, went home, took my daughter to cheer leading, and joined KTC. That's where I am right now. The same spot I was 14 days ago, except I am now a quitter for life.
July 23, 2014 I realized that this addiction didn't define me, nor did the approval of anyone else. I said it before "I am not seeking forgiveness from everyone, I am seeking to forgive myself. I am living what I preech, I came clean with my wife, asked for her support and made it clear that I am not asking for forgiveness, but support. I reached out to my quit family, and the elders here. They all gave me adivice , but more important they gave me support.
For those that may be reading the KTC forums, please realize something. Everyone that is here and is committed to their quit, does not except failure. It may seem harsh, rude, arrogent, and hypocritical, but if you have that view you don't know what it means to quit yet. Saying failure is okay means it's okay to put that shit in your mouth, and its not a big deal. Well count how many times you have made that deal with yourself, and three years later your back at square one. Why? Because you said failure is okay.
KTC has been the support I need to quit everyday. The forums are only part of it, the numbers, live chat, and kakao app chatter that make the quit possible. U put ur quit in the hands of every serious quitter when you join, as they put their quit in yours. The wisdom and experiences of the group is something I haven't experienced in a very long time.
To my titan family:
Lim - the ability to reach out and be the butt of long running jokes, in the face of huge obsticals impresses and inspires me every day.
Southpaw the wisdom and leadership you display at such a young age, you have nothing but greatness ahead
Bam your fight to do right by your children and willingness to fight for them and our quit
Enav the southern possum fighter, always with the joke, has been a huge help
Thomas the voice of reason
Thutchi keep moving forward, I am proud you found the fight
Sir Derek truly fitting name for someone willing to suppport a newibie as an equal.
All of the others that I have not mentioned please do not take offense or disrespect for not being mentioned here. I have not chatted or spoken with you, we still have many more days of our life long battle together to get to know one another.
As I began this post I am in a reflective place, and thought I should share my thoughts about the past two weeks. I will end with this quote from my youth by the bouncing souls " together we are what we can't be alone"
Quote from: CandoitLot of strength and introspection from a 14 day dude. My mind was still a jumbled festering pile at 2 weeks. I took longer than the average bear. Very insightful and strong post. Only a couple of items I want to comment on.
Day 14
I am reflective at this point in my quit. So far I have experienced very low lows, in which I am angry at everyone and mellow even points. I wouldn't say that I am depressed nor would I say I am emotionally stable, but I am taking pause to evaluate the events and choices that have lead me to this point in my life.
The fact is I always had something to prove to everyone but myself. Whether it was in atheltics, socially, intellectually, or at work. The need to seek some sort of approval that I had earned the right to be here, gave me one hell of an egostical chip on my shoulder. I know why I first started to smoke, drink, or go down a very dark place in my life. I found things I could control, but in the end for what I thought I could control, controlled me.
I used to say, I would be a in a gutter if it wasn't for my wife, that statement is not tongue and cheek, it is the gospel truth. This habit it the last rement of my old life, that needed to be shed. In shedding this remaining crutch I can now move on with my journey. I would say that part of my life was the better part of 15 yrs.
14 days ago, I heard myself say to my wife "I will ask my doctor, next week about how to quit." She stormed off, i left for work and stopped for a tin, not thinking much of anything. But as that tin sat there on the passenger seat, I thought why is she mad, I do everything she want, she is the one that has the problem. But an hour is a long time to be alone with your thoughts, but then I though of every major fight in the past several years, guess who caused it, the nic bitch! That was it, I had been in this place so many times before, but what makes it any different? I will quit tonight, I just bought a new tin, that's a waste of money. So as I pulled into work, I did my ninja dipper routine hid the bottle, and tin. Went to my office and put in another one, well I have to get rid of it why waste it? So on went the day, got pissed, another one, coffee break? Another one, why well I am getting rid of the tin. But lunch I started looking how to quit, baccoff, patchs , gum, cold turkey? Oh there's a coupon for patches, or gum, but if I use baccoff my wife won't like that.... Then KTC and next thing I know its 4 pm. That drive home I threw the tin out of the window in the middle of interstate, went home, took my daughter to cheer leading, and joined KTC. That's where I am right now. The same spot I was 14 days ago, except I am now a quitter for life.
July 23, 2014 I realized that this addiction didn't define me, nor did the approval of anyone else. I said it before "I am not seeking forgiveness from everyone, I am seeking to forgive myself. I am living what I preech, I came clean with my wife, asked for her support and made it clear that I am not asking for forgiveness, but support. I reached out to my quit family, and the elders here. They all gave me adivice , but more important they gave me support.
For those that may be reading the KTC forums, please realize something. Everyone that is here and is committed to their quit, does not except failure. It may seem harsh, rude, arrogent, and hypocritical, but if you have that view you don't know what it means to quit yet. Saying failure is okay means it's okay to put that shit in your mouth, and its not a big deal. Well count how many times you have made that deal with yourself, and three years later your back at square one. Why? Because you said failure is okay.
KTC has been the support I need to quit everyday. The forums are only part of it, the numbers, live chat, and kakao app chatter that make the quit possible. U put ur quit in the hands of every serious quitter when you join, as they put their quit in yours. The wisdom and experiences of the group is something I haven't experienced in a very long time.
To my titan family:
Lim - the ability to reach out and be the butt of long running jokes, in the face of huge obsticals impresses and inspires me every day.
Southpaw the wisdom and leadership you display at such a young age, you have nothing but greatness ahead
Bam your fight to do right by your children and willingness to fight for them and our quit
Enav the southern possum fighter, always with the joke, has been a huge help
Thomas the voice of reason
Thutchi keep moving forward, I am proud you found the fight
Sir Derek truly fitting name for someone willing to suppport a newibie as an equal.
All of the others that I have not mentioned please do not take offense or disrespect for not being mentioned here. I have not chatted or spoken with you, we still have many more days of our life long battle together to get to know one another.
As I began this post I am in a reflective place, and thought I should share my thoughts about the past two weeks. I will end with this quote from my youth by the bouncing souls " together we are what we can't be alone"
This is what's it's all about ... summed up nicely on a day 14. This post struck a chord, made my quit stronger ... and for that I thank you! You're a quitter, a damn strong one, and I like it. Keep the toolbox open at all times. Thanks brother!
Beware of false confidence and large promises by staying small. Your phrase "now a quitter for life"...I know you are still in the euphoria stage but this is a long ass battle. One day, that's it, keep the promise to one day. No way in hell you should be promising anything more. Certainly not a lifetime. It's like in the business world, under promise and over deliver.
Next item you are totally in line with my thinking. Small groups are the 2nd most powerful tenet of the KTC quit behind posting roll daily. Your section addressed to your titan family was heartfelt with admiration for these dudes/dudesses that are there for you. Keep up the small groups. As you get more quit tenure (and my money is on you long term), invite a new quitter in. One one my groups is a bunch of guys in my month and a vet. The other is where I was the new quitter invited in right around where you are now. I love being a part of both of the groups and wouldn't trade them for anything.
You're on the right path and fulling diving in. Good stuff Candoit.
I was confronted by my wife this morning. And I have been thinking of quitting, but I find that I can not find the will power to follow through. It is usually a stressful event or situation that I go running for a tin. I know that I am addicted to the oral part of this habit. I can not stand chewing gum so I find it hard to find something to replace the sensation. I have tried life savers (wintergreen) to replicate the taste and feel, but I end up chewing them and go through a bag in about 3 hours. Any tips and support in this area would be great.You are an addict. To a substance as addictive as heroin.
I have been using on and off since college. I ALWAYS fall off.... But I need this to be different for me and my relationship. I want to prove that I can do it to myself and my wife.
Thanks
I was confronted by my wife this morning. And I have been thinking of quitting, but I find that I can not find the will power to follow through.Welcome, candoit.
QFT ^^^^. I lied to my wife the most regarding chewing - I'll quit tomorrow, on my birthday. on her birthday, etc. - so why would I get her support? Instead I talked to her every day the first 2 months until things started to be normal again, and support or no, it helped a bunch. She knew I wasn't dipping, and that's all that mattered to me.Quote from: candoitI was confronted by my wife this morning. And I have been thinking of quitting, but I find that I can not find the will power to follow through.Welcome, candoit.
As others have said, you can't do this for someone else. You have to want to quit because YOU want to quit.
Doing it for your wife will get you through the first 12-24 hours, but on about day two or three when her immediate anger has worn off, you'll realize you don't have to actually BE quit, you just have to make her THINK you're quit. And I can tell you from experience, hiding dipping is a lot easier than quitting dipping.
Some advice from someone who's been there: involve your wife in your quit and talk to her about what you're feeling. When I first quit, I thought my wife would be mad if she knew I was struggling, so I just avoided the topic entirely. That's the wrong approach. You need support here AND in real life.
QFT ^^^^. I lied to my wife the most regarding chewing - I'll quit tomorrow, on my birthday. on her birthday, etc. - so why would I get her support? Instead I talked to her every day the first 2 months until things started to be normal again, and support or no, it helped a bunch. She knew I wasn't dipping, and that's all that mattered to me.If nothing else, it will help explain why you're more irritable than normal while you're going through the withdrawal. When I finally told my wife about my quit, the first thing she said was, "So that's why you were such an asshole all last week..."
Day 14This is what's it's all about ... summed up nicely on a day 14. This post struck a chord, made my quit stronger ... and for that I thank you! You're a quitter, a damn strong one, and I like it. Keep the toolbox open at all times. Thanks brother!
I am reflective at this point in my quit. So far I have experienced very low lows, in which I am angry at everyone and mellow even points. I wouldn't say that I am depressed nor would I say I am emotionally stable, but I am taking pause to evaluate the events and choices that have lead me to this point in my life.
The fact is I always had something to prove to everyone but myself. Whether it was in atheltics, socially, intellectually, or at work. The need to seek some sort of approval that I had earned the right to be here, gave me one hell of an egostical chip on my shoulder. I know why I first started to smoke, drink, or go down a very dark place in my life. I found things I could control, but in the end for what I thought I could control, controlled me.
I used to say, I would be a in a gutter if it wasn't for my wife, that statement is not tongue and cheek, it is the gospel truth. This habit it the last rement of my old life, that needed to be shed. In shedding this remaining crutch I can now move on with my journey. I would say that part of my life was the better part of 15 yrs.
14 days ago, I heard myself say to my wife "I will ask my doctor, next week about how to quit." She stormed off, i left for work and stopped for a tin, not thinking much of anything. But as that tin sat there on the passenger seat, I thought why is she mad, I do everything she want, she is the one that has the problem. But an hour is a long time to be alone with your thoughts, but then I though of every major fight in the past several years, guess who caused it, the nic bitch! That was it, I had been in this place so many times before, but what makes it any different? I will quit tonight, I just bought a new tin, that's a waste of money. So as I pulled into work, I did my ninja dipper routine hid the bottle, and tin. Went to my office and put in another one, well I have to get rid of it why waste it? So on went the day, got pissed, another one, coffee break? Another one, why well I am getting rid of the tin. But lunch I started looking how to quit, baccoff, patchs , gum, cold turkey? Oh there's a coupon for patches, or gum, but if I use baccoff my wife won't like that.... Then KTC and next thing I know its 4 pm. That drive home I threw the tin out of the window in the middle of interstate, went home, took my daughter to cheer leading, and joined KTC. That's where I am right now. The same spot I was 14 days ago, except I am now a quitter for life.
July 23, 2014 I realized that this addiction didn't define me, nor did the approval of anyone else. I said it before "I am not seeking forgiveness from everyone, I am seeking to forgive myself. I am living what I preech, I came clean with my wife, asked for her support and made it clear that I am not asking for forgiveness, but support. I reached out to my quit family, and the elders here. They all gave me adivice , but more important they gave me support.
For those that may be reading the KTC forums, please realize something. Everyone that is here and is committed to their quit, does not except failure. It may seem harsh, rude, arrogent, and hypocritical, but if you have that view you don't know what it means to quit yet. Saying failure is okay means it's okay to put that shit in your mouth, and its not a big deal. Well count how many times you have made that deal with yourself, and three years later your back at square one. Why? Because you said failure is okay.
KTC has been the support I need to quit everyday. The forums are only part of it, the numbers, live chat, and kakao app chatter that make the quit possible. U put ur quit in the hands of every serious quitter when you join, as they put their quit in yours. The wisdom and experiences of the group is something I haven't experienced in a very long time.
To my titan family:
Lim - the ability to reach out and be the butt of long running jokes, in the face of huge obsticals impresses and inspires me every day.
Southpaw the wisdom and leadership you display at such a young age, you have nothing but greatness ahead
Bam your fight to do right by your children and willingness to fight for them and our quit
Enav the southern possum fighter, always with the joke, has been a huge help
Thomas the voice of reason
Thutchi keep moving forward, I am proud you found the fight
Sir Derek truly fitting name for someone willing to suppport a newibie as an equal.
All of the others that I have not mentioned please do not take offense or disrespect for not being mentioned here. I have not chatted or spoken with you, we still have many more days of our life long battle together to get to know one another.
As I began this post I am in a reflective place, and thought I should share my thoughts about the past two weeks. I will end with this quote from my youth by the bouncing souls " together we are what we can't be alone"
Lot of strength and introspection from a 14 day dude. My mind was still a jumbled festering pile at 2 weeks. I took longer than the average bear. Very insightful and strong post. Only a couple of items I want to comment on.Quote from: candoitDay 14This is what's it's all about ... summed up nicely on a day 14. This post struck a chord, made my quit stronger ... and for that I thank you! You're a quitter, a damn strong one, and I like it. Keep the toolbox open at all times. Thanks brother!
I am reflective at this point in my quit. So far I have experienced very low lows, in which I am angry at everyone and mellow even points. I wouldn't say that I am depressed nor would I say I am emotionally stable, but I am taking pause to evaluate the events and choices that have lead me to this point in my life.
The fact is I always had something to prove to everyone but myself. Whether it was in atheltics, socially, intellectually, or at work. The need to seek some sort of approval that I had earned the right to be here, gave me one hell of an egostical chip on my shoulder. I know why I first started to smoke, drink, or go down a very dark place in my life. I found things I could control, but in the end for what I thought I could control, controlled me.
I used to say, I would be a in a gutter if it wasn't for my wife, that statement is not tongue and cheek, it is the gospel truth. This habit it the last rement of my old life, that needed to be shed. In shedding this remaining crutch I can now move on with my journey. I would say that part of my life was the better part of 15 yrs.
14 days ago, I heard myself say to my wife "I will ask my doctor, next week about how to quit." She stormed off, i left for work and stopped for a tin, not thinking much of anything. But as that tin sat there on the passenger seat, I thought why is she mad, I do everything she want, she is the one that has the problem. But an hour is a long time to be alone with your thoughts, but then I though of every major fight in the past several years, guess who caused it, the nic bitch! That was it, I had been in this place so many times before, but what makes it any different? I will quit tonight, I just bought a new tin, that's a waste of money. So as I pulled into work, I did my ninja dipper routine hid the bottle, and tin. Went to my office and put in another one, well I have to get rid of it why waste it? So on went the day, got pissed, another one, coffee break? Another one, why well I am getting rid of the tin. But lunch I started looking how to quit, baccoff, patchs , gum, cold turkey? Oh there's a coupon for patches, or gum, but if I use baccoff my wife won't like that.... Then KTC and next thing I know its 4 pm. That drive home I threw the tin out of the window in the middle of interstate, went home, took my daughter to cheer leading, and joined KTC. That's where I am right now. The same spot I was 14 days ago, except I am now a quitter for life.
July 23, 2014 I realized that this addiction didn't define me, nor did the approval of anyone else. I said it before "I am not seeking forgiveness from everyone, I am seeking to forgive myself. I am living what I preech, I came clean with my wife, asked for her support and made it clear that I am not asking for forgiveness, but support. I reached out to my quit family, and the elders here. They all gave me adivice , but more important they gave me support.
For those that may be reading the KTC forums, please realize something. Everyone that is here and is committed to their quit, does not except failure. It may seem harsh, rude, arrogent, and hypocritical, but if you have that view you don't know what it means to quit yet. Saying failure is okay means it's okay to put that shit in your mouth, and its not a big deal. Well count how many times you have made that deal with yourself, and three years later your back at square one. Why? Because you said failure is okay.
KTC has been the support I need to quit everyday. The forums are only part of it, the numbers, live chat, and kakao app chatter that make the quit possible. U put ur quit in the hands of every serious quitter when you join, as they put their quit in yours. The wisdom and experiences of the group is something I haven't experienced in a very long time.
To my titan family:
Lim - the ability to reach out and be the butt of long running jokes, in the face of huge obsticals impresses and inspires me every day.
Southpaw the wisdom and leadership you display at such a young age, you have nothing but greatness ahead
Bam your fight to do right by your children and willingness to fight for them and our quit
Enav the southern possum fighter, always with the joke, has been a huge help
Thomas the voice of reason
Thutchi keep moving forward, I am proud you found the fight
Sir Derek truly fitting name for someone willing to suppport a newibie as an equal.
All of the others that I have not mentioned please do not take offense or disrespect for not being mentioned here. I have not chatted or spoken with you, we still have many more days of our life long battle together to get to know one another.
As I began this post I am in a reflective place, and thought I should share my thoughts about the past two weeks. I will end with this quote from my youth by the bouncing souls " together we are what we can't be alone"
Great post. Keep it up.Quote from: SmedsLot of strength and introspection from a 14 day dude. My mind was still a jumbled festering pile at 2 weeks. I took longer than the average bear. Very insightful and strong post. Only a couple of items I want to comment on.Quote from: candoitDay 14This is what's it's all about ... summed up nicely on a day 14. This post struck a chord, made my quit stronger ... and for that I thank you! You're a quitter, a damn strong one, and I like it. Keep the toolbox open at all times. Thanks brother!
I am reflective at this point in my quit. So far I have experienced very low lows, in which I am angry at everyone and mellow even points. I wouldn't say that I am depressed nor would I say I am emotionally stable, but I am taking pause to evaluate the events and choices that have lead me to this point in my life.
The fact is I always had something to prove to everyone but myself. Whether it was in atheltics, socially, intellectually, or at work. The need to seek some sort of approval that I had earned the right to be here, gave me one hell of an egostical chip on my shoulder. I know why I first started to smoke, drink, or go down a very dark place in my life. I found things I could control, but in the end for what I thought I could control, controlled me.
I used to say, I would be a in a gutter if it wasn't for my wife, that statement is not tongue and cheek, it is the gospel truth. This habit it the last rement of my old life, that needed to be shed. In shedding this remaining crutch I can now move on with my journey. I would say that part of my life was the better part of 15 yrs.
14 days ago, I heard myself say to my wife "I will ask my doctor, next week about how to quit." She stormed off, i left for work and stopped for a tin, not thinking much of anything. But as that tin sat there on the passenger seat, I thought why is she mad, I do everything she want, she is the one that has the problem. But an hour is a long time to be alone with your thoughts, but then I though of every major fight in the past several years, guess who caused it, the nic bitch! That was it, I had been in this place so many times before, but what makes it any different? I will quit tonight, I just bought a new tin, that's a waste of money. So as I pulled into work, I did my ninja dipper routine hid the bottle, and tin. Went to my office and put in another one, well I have to get rid of it why waste it? So on went the day, got pissed, another one, coffee break? Another one, why well I am getting rid of the tin. But lunch I started looking how to quit, baccoff, patchs , gum, cold turkey? Oh there's a coupon for patches, or gum, but if I use baccoff my wife won't like that.... Then KTC and next thing I know its 4 pm. That drive home I threw the tin out of the window in the middle of interstate, went home, took my daughter to cheer leading, and joined KTC. That's where I am right now. The same spot I was 14 days ago, except I am now a quitter for life.
July 23, 2014 I realized that this addiction didn't define me, nor did the approval of anyone else. I said it before "I am not seeking forgiveness from everyone, I am seeking to forgive myself. I am living what I preech, I came clean with my wife, asked for her support and made it clear that I am not asking for forgiveness, but support. I reached out to my quit family, and the elders here. They all gave me adivice , but more important they gave me support.
For those that may be reading the KTC forums, please realize something. Everyone that is here and is committed to their quit, does not except failure. It may seem harsh, rude, arrogent, and hypocritical, but if you have that view you don't know what it means to quit yet. Saying failure is okay means it's okay to put that shit in your mouth, and its not a big deal. Well count how many times you have made that deal with yourself, and three years later your back at square one. Why? Because you said failure is okay.
KTC has been the support I need to quit everyday. The forums are only part of it, the numbers, live chat, and kakao app chatter that make the quit possible. U put ur quit in the hands of every serious quitter when you join, as they put their quit in yours. The wisdom and experiences of the group is something I haven't experienced in a very long time.
To my titan family:
Lim - the ability to reach out and be the butt of long running jokes, in the face of huge obsticals impresses and inspires me every day.
Southpaw the wisdom and leadership you display at such a young age, you have nothing but greatness ahead
Bam your fight to do right by your children and willingness to fight for them and our quit
Enav the southern possum fighter, always with the joke, has been a huge help
Thomas the voice of reason
Thutchi keep moving forward, I am proud you found the fight
Sir Derek truly fitting name for someone willing to suppport a newibie as an equal.
All of the others that I have not mentioned please do not take offense or disrespect for not being mentioned here. I have not chatted or spoken with you, we still have many more days of our life long battle together to get to know one another.
As I began this post I am in a reflective place, and thought I should share my thoughts about the past two weeks. I will end with this quote from my youth by the bouncing souls " together we are what we can't be alone"
Beware of false confidence and large promises by staying small. Your phrase "now a quitter for life"...I know you are still in the euphoria stage but this is a long ass battle. One day, that's it, keep the promise to one day. No way in hell you should be promising anything more. Certainly not a lifetime. It's like in the business world, under promise and over deliver.
Next item you are totally in line with my thinking. Small groups are the 2nd most powerful tenet of the KTC quit behind posting roll daily. Your section addressed to your titan family was heartfelt with admiration for these dudes/dudesses that are there for you. Keep up the small groups. As you get more quit tenure (and my money is on you long term), invite a new quitter in. One one my groups is a bunch of guys in my month and a vet. The other is where I was the new quitter invited in right around where you are now. I love being a part of both of the groups and wouldn't trade them for anything.
You're on the right path and fulling diving in. Good stuff Candoit.
Beware of false confidence and large promises by staying small. Your phrase "now a quitter for life"...I know you are still in the euphoria stage but this is a long ass battle. One day, that's it, keep the promise to one day. No way in hell you should be promising anything more. Certainly not a lifetime. It's like in the business world, under promise and over deliver.Quote from: SmedsLot of strength and introspection from a 14 day dude. My mind was still a jumbled festering pile at 2 weeks. I took longer than the average bear. Very insightful and strong post. Only a couple of items I want to comment on.Quote from: candoitDay 14This is what's it's all about ... summed up nicely on a day 14. This post struck a chord, made my quit stronger ... and for that I thank you! You're a quitter, a damn strong one, and I like it. Keep the toolbox open at all times. Thanks brother!
I am reflective at this point in my quit. So far I have experienced very low lows, in which I am angry at everyone and mellow even points. I wouldn't say that I am depressed nor would I say I am emotionally stable, but I am taking pause to evaluate the events and choices that have lead me to this point in my life.
The fact is I always had something to prove to everyone but myself. Whether it was in atheltics, socially, intellectually, or at work. The need to seek some sort of approval that I had earned the right to be here, gave me one hell of an egostical chip on my shoulder. I know why I first started to smoke, drink, or go down a very dark place in my life. I found things I could control, but in the end for what I thought I could control, controlled me.
I used to say, I would be a in a gutter if it wasn't for my wife, that statement is not tongue and cheek, it is the gospel truth. This habit it the last rement of my old life, that needed to be shed. In shedding this remaining crutch I can now move on with my journey. I would say that part of my life was the better part of 15 yrs.
14 days ago, I heard myself say to my wife "I will ask my doctor, next week about how to quit." She stormed off, i left for work and stopped for a tin, not thinking much of anything. But as that tin sat there on the passenger seat, I thought why is she mad, I do everything she want, she is the one that has the problem. But an hour is a long time to be alone with your thoughts, but then I though of every major fight in the past several years, guess who caused it, the nic bitch! That was it, I had been in this place so many times before, but what makes it any different? I will quit tonight, I just bought a new tin, that's a waste of money. So as I pulled into work, I did my ninja dipper routine hid the bottle, and tin. Went to my office and put in another one, well I have to get rid of it why waste it? So on went the day, got pissed, another one, coffee break? Another one, why well I am getting rid of the tin. But lunch I started looking how to quit, baccoff, patchs , gum, cold turkey? Oh there's a coupon for patches, or gum, but if I use baccoff my wife won't like that.... Then KTC and next thing I know its 4 pm. That drive home I threw the tin out of the window in the middle of interstate, went home, took my daughter to cheer leading, and joined KTC. That's where I am right now. The same spot I was 14 days ago, except I am now a quitter for life.
July 23, 2014 I realized that this addiction didn't define me, nor did the approval of anyone else. I said it before "I am not seeking forgiveness from everyone, I am seeking to forgive myself. I am living what I preech, I came clean with my wife, asked for her support and made it clear that I am not asking for forgiveness, but support. I reached out to my quit family, and the elders here. They all gave me adivice , but more important they gave me support.
For those that may be reading the KTC forums, please realize something. Everyone that is here and is committed to their quit, does not except failure. It may seem harsh, rude, arrogent, and hypocritical, but if you have that view you don't know what it means to quit yet. Saying failure is okay means it's okay to put that shit in your mouth, and its not a big deal. Well count how many times you have made that deal with yourself, and three years later your back at square one. Why? Because you said failure is okay.
KTC has been the support I need to quit everyday. The forums are only part of it, the numbers, live chat, and kakao app chatter that make the quit possible. U put ur quit in the hands of every serious quitter when you join, as they put their quit in yours. The wisdom and experiences of the group is something I haven't experienced in a very long time.
To my titan family:
Lim - the ability to reach out and be the butt of long running jokes, in the face of huge obsticals impresses and inspires me every day.
Southpaw the wisdom and leadership you display at such a young age, you have nothing but greatness ahead
Bam your fight to do right by your children and willingness to fight for them and our quit
Enav the southern possum fighter, always with the joke, has been a huge help
Thomas the voice of reason
Thutchi keep moving forward, I am proud you found the fight
Sir Derek truly fitting name for someone willing to suppport a newibie as an equal.
All of the others that I have not mentioned please do not take offense or disrespect for not being mentioned here. I have not chatted or spoken with you, we still have many more days of our life long battle together to get to know one another.
As I began this post I am in a reflective place, and thought I should share my thoughts about the past two weeks. I will end with this quote from my youth by the bouncing souls " together we are what we can't be alone"
Beware of false confidence and large promises by staying small. Your phrase "now a quitter for life"...I know you are still in the euphoria stage but this is a long ass battle. One day, that's it, keep the promise to one day. No way in hell you should be promising anything more. Certainly not a lifetime. It's like in the business world, under promise and over deliver.
Next item you are totally in line with my thinking. Small groups are the 2nd most powerful tenet of the KTC quit behind posting roll daily. Your section addressed to your titan family was heartfelt with admiration for these dudes/dudesses that are there for you. Keep up the small groups. As you get more quit tenure (and my money is on you long term), invite a new quitter in. One one my groups is a bunch of guys in my month and a vet. The other is where I was the new quitter invited in right around where you are now. I love being a part of both of the groups and wouldn't trade them for anything.
You're on the right path and fulling diving in. Good stuff Candoit.
I hear what you're saying, but:Quote from: Done4MeBeware of false confidence and large promises by staying small. Your phrase "now a quitter for life"...I know you are still in the euphoria stage but this is a long ass battle. One day, that's it, keep the promise to one day. No way in hell you should be promising anything more. Certainly not a lifetime. It's like in the business world, under promise and over deliver.Quote from: SmedsLot of strength and introspection from a 14 day dude. My mind was still a jumbled festering pile at 2 weeks. I took longer than the average bear. Very insightful and strong post. Only a couple of items I want to comment on.Quote from: candoitDay 14This is what's it's all about ... summed up nicely on a day 14. This post struck a chord, made my quit stronger ... and for that I thank you! You're a quitter, a damn strong one, and I like it. Keep the toolbox open at all times. Thanks brother!
I am reflective at this point in my quit. So far I have experienced very low lows, in which I am angry at everyone and mellow even points. I wouldn't say that I am depressed nor would I say I am emotionally stable, but I am taking pause to evaluate the events and choices that have lead me to this point in my life.
The fact is I always had something to prove to everyone but myself. Whether it was in atheltics, socially, intellectually, or at work. The need to seek some sort of approval that I had earned the right to be here, gave me one hell of an egostical chip on my shoulder. I know why I first started to smoke, drink, or go down a very dark place in my life. I found things I could control, but in the end for what I thought I could control, controlled me.
I used to say, I would be a in a gutter if it wasn't for my wife, that statement is not tongue and cheek, it is the gospel truth. This habit it the last rement of my old life, that needed to be shed. In shedding this remaining crutch I can now move on with my journey. I would say that part of my life was the better part of 15 yrs.
14 days ago, I heard myself say to my wife "I will ask my doctor, next week about how to quit." She stormed off, i left for work and stopped for a tin, not thinking much of anything. But as that tin sat there on the passenger seat, I thought why is she mad, I do everything she want, she is the one that has the problem. But an hour is a long time to be alone with your thoughts, but then I though of every major fight in the past several years, guess who caused it, the nic bitch! That was it, I had been in this place so many times before, but what makes it any different? I will quit tonight, I just bought a new tin, that's a waste of money. So as I pulled into work, I did my ninja dipper routine hid the bottle, and tin. Went to my office and put in another one, well I have to get rid of it why waste it? So on went the day, got pissed, another one, coffee break? Another one, why well I am getting rid of the tin. But lunch I started looking how to quit, baccoff, patchs , gum, cold turkey? Oh there's a coupon for patches, or gum, but if I use baccoff my wife won't like that.... Then KTC and next thing I know its 4 pm. That drive home I threw the tin out of the window in the middle of interstate, went home, took my daughter to cheer leading, and joined KTC. That's where I am right now. The same spot I was 14 days ago, except I am now a quitter for life.
July 23, 2014 I realized that this addiction didn't define me, nor did the approval of anyone else. I said it before "I am not seeking forgiveness from everyone, I am seeking to forgive myself. I am living what I preech, I came clean with my wife, asked for her support and made it clear that I am not asking for forgiveness, but support. I reached out to my quit family, and the elders here. They all gave me adivice , but more important they gave me support.
For those that may be reading the KTC forums, please realize something. Everyone that is here and is committed to their quit, does not except failure. It may seem harsh, rude, arrogent, and hypocritical, but if you have that view you don't know what it means to quit yet. Saying failure is okay means it's okay to put that shit in your mouth, and its not a big deal. Well count how many times you have made that deal with yourself, and three years later your back at square one. Why? Because you said failure is okay.
KTC has been the support I need to quit everyday. The forums are only part of it, the numbers, live chat, and kakao app chatter that make the quit possible. U put ur quit in the hands of every serious quitter when you join, as they put their quit in yours. The wisdom and experiences of the group is something I haven't experienced in a very long time.
To my titan family:
Lim - the ability to reach out and be the butt of long running jokes, in the face of huge obsticals impresses and inspires me every day.
Southpaw the wisdom and leadership you display at such a young age, you have nothing but greatness ahead
Bam your fight to do right by your children and willingness to fight for them and our quit
Enav the southern possum fighter, always with the joke, has been a huge help
Thomas the voice of reason
Thutchi keep moving forward, I am proud you found the fight
Sir Derek truly fitting name for someone willing to suppport a newibie as an equal.
All of the others that I have not mentioned please do not take offense or disrespect for not being mentioned here. I have not chatted or spoken with you, we still have many more days of our life long battle together to get to know one another.
As I began this post I am in a reflective place, and thought I should share my thoughts about the past two weeks. I will end with this quote from my youth by the bouncing souls " together we are what we can't be alone"
Beware of false confidence and large promises by staying small. Your phrase "now a quitter for life"...I know you are still in the euphoria stage but this is a long ass battle. One day, that's it, keep the promise to one day. No way in hell you should be promising anything more. Certainly not a lifetime. It's like in the business world, under promise and over deliver.
Next item you are totally in line with my thinking. Small groups are the 2nd most powerful tenet of the KTC quit behind posting roll daily. Your section addressed to your titan family was heartfelt with admiration for these dudes/dudesses that are there for you. Keep up the small groups. As you get more quit tenure (and my money is on you long term), invite a new quitter in. One one my groups is a bunch of guys in my month and a vet. The other is where I was the new quitter invited in right around where you are now. I love being a part of both of the groups and wouldn't trade them for anything.
You're on the right path and fulling diving in. Good stuff Candoit.
I am aware of the false confince, at this point. But also know myself I need to see both the long and short terms of things. So keeping the eye on the guiding light, ie qft, helps me place the day to day choices and prevents them from becoming meaningless routines. I don't want my quit to become routine.
The words and support of the vets of quit also continue to help ground my lofty goal, with the bitter reality of quitting. But if I listened to all those that said I couldn't I would not be here today.
Done4me I hope this helps you understand quit for life is no some cheap motto, it is a goal in which I work towards everyday. The more people that know my goal, the more that can help support me.
congrats on 2 weeks!Quote from: candoitI hear what you're saying, but:Quote from: Done4MeBeware of false confidence and large promises by staying small. Your phrase "now a quitter for life"...I know you are still in the euphoria stage but this is a long ass battle. One day, that's it, keep the promise to one day. No way in hell you should be promising anything more. Certainly not a lifetime. It's like in the business world, under promise and over deliver.Quote from: SmedsLot of strength and introspection from a 14 day dude. My mind was still a jumbled festering pile at 2 weeks. I took longer than the average bear. Very insightful and strong post. Only a couple of items I want to comment on.Quote from: candoitDay 14This is what's it's all about ... summed up nicely on a day 14. This post struck a chord, made my quit stronger ... and for that I thank you! You're a quitter, a damn strong one, and I like it. Keep the toolbox open at all times. Thanks brother!
I am reflective at this point in my quit. So far I have experienced very low lows, in which I am angry at everyone and mellow even points. I wouldn't say that I am depressed nor would I say I am emotionally stable, but I am taking pause to evaluate the events and choices that have lead me to this point in my life.
The fact is I always had something to prove to everyone but myself. Whether it was in atheltics, socially, intellectually, or at work. The need to seek some sort of approval that I had earned the right to be here, gave me one hell of an egostical chip on my shoulder. I know why I first started to smoke, drink, or go down a very dark place in my life. I found things I could control, but in the end for what I thought I could control, controlled me.
I used to say, I would be a in a gutter if it wasn't for my wife, that statement is not tongue and cheek, it is the gospel truth. This habit it the last rement of my old life, that needed to be shed. In shedding this remaining crutch I can now move on with my journey. I would say that part of my life was the better part of 15 yrs.
14 days ago, I heard myself say to my wife "I will ask my doctor, next week about how to quit." She stormed off, i left for work and stopped for a tin, not thinking much of anything. But as that tin sat there on the passenger seat, I thought why is she mad, I do everything she want, she is the one that has the problem. But an hour is a long time to be alone with your thoughts, but then I though of every major fight in the past several years, guess who caused it, the nic bitch! That was it, I had been in this place so many times before, but what makes it any different? I will quit tonight, I just bought a new tin, that's a waste of money. So as I pulled into work, I did my ninja dipper routine hid the bottle, and tin. Went to my office and put in another one, well I have to get rid of it why waste it? So on went the day, got pissed, another one, coffee break? Another one, why well I am getting rid of the tin. But lunch I started looking how to quit, baccoff, patchs , gum, cold turkey? Oh there's a coupon for patches, or gum, but if I use baccoff my wife won't like that.... Then KTC and next thing I know its 4 pm. That drive home I threw the tin out of the window in the middle of interstate, went home, took my daughter to cheer leading, and joined KTC. That's where I am right now. The same spot I was 14 days ago, except I am now a quitter for life.
July 23, 2014 I realized that this addiction didn't define me, nor did the approval of anyone else. I said it before "I am not seeking forgiveness from everyone, I am seeking to forgive myself. I am living what I preech, I came clean with my wife, asked for her support and made it clear that I am not asking for forgiveness, but support. I reached out to my quit family, and the elders here. They all gave me adivice , but more important they gave me support.
For those that may be reading the KTC forums, please realize something. Everyone that is here and is committed to their quit, does not except failure. It may seem harsh, rude, arrogent, and hypocritical, but if you have that view you don't know what it means to quit yet. Saying failure is okay means it's okay to put that shit in your mouth, and its not a big deal. Well count how many times you have made that deal with yourself, and three years later your back at square one. Why? Because you said failure is okay.
KTC has been the support I need to quit everyday. The forums are only part of it, the numbers, live chat, and kakao app chatter that make the quit possible. U put ur quit in the hands of every serious quitter when you join, as they put their quit in yours. The wisdom and experiences of the group is something I haven't experienced in a very long time.
To my titan family:
Lim - the ability to reach out and be the butt of long running jokes, in the face of huge obsticals impresses and inspires me every day.
Southpaw the wisdom and leadership you display at such a young age, you have nothing but greatness ahead
Bam your fight to do right by your children and willingness to fight for them and our quit
Enav the southern possum fighter, always with the joke, has been a huge help
Thomas the voice of reason
Thutchi keep moving forward, I am proud you found the fight
Sir Derek truly fitting name for someone willing to suppport a newibie as an equal.
All of the others that I have not mentioned please do not take offense or disrespect for not being mentioned here. I have not chatted or spoken with you, we still have many more days of our life long battle together to get to know one another.
As I began this post I am in a reflective place, and thought I should share my thoughts about the past two weeks. I will end with this quote from my youth by the bouncing souls " together we are what we can't be alone"
Beware of false confidence and large promises by staying small. Your phrase "now a quitter for life"...I know you are still in the euphoria stage but this is a long ass battle. One day, that's it, keep the promise to one day. No way in hell you should be promising anything more. Certainly not a lifetime. It's like in the business world, under promise and over deliver.
Next item you are totally in line with my thinking. Small groups are the 2nd most powerful tenet of the KTC quit behind posting roll daily. Your section addressed to your titan family was heartfelt with admiration for these dudes/dudesses that are there for you. Keep up the small groups. As you get more quit tenure (and my money is on you long term), invite a new quitter in. One one my groups is a bunch of guys in my month and a vet. The other is where I was the new quitter invited in right around where you are now. I love being a part of both of the groups and wouldn't trade them for anything.
You're on the right path and fulling diving in. Good stuff Candoit.
I am aware of the false confince, at this point. But also know myself I need to see both the long and short terms of things. So keeping the eye on the guiding light, ie qft, helps me place the day to day choices and prevents them from becoming meaningless routines. I don't want my quit to become routine.
The words and support of the vets of quit also continue to help ground my lofty goal, with the bitter reality of quitting. But if I listened to all those that said I couldn't I would not be here today.
Done4me I hope this helps you understand quit for life is no some cheap motto, it is a goal in which I work towards everyday. The more people that know my goal, the more that can help support me.
A life long quit is the war. Each day is a new battle. In this war you have to win every single battle. You can't lose a single battle. The war will be lost if you lose today's battle. Win today.
One day at a time is the mantra required for success in this war.
Big bonus of the ODAAT philosophy: Valuing your time. You will learn to value each new day of freedom by soaking in the world with sharpened senses. Senses no longer dulled by nicotine. Enjoy the rest of your free life, ODAAT.
Day 14Good stuff Candoit. Enjoyed the read! Keep up the good quit.
I am reflective at this point in my quit. So far I have experienced very low lows, in which I am angry at everyone and mellow even points. I wouldn't say that I am depressed nor would I say I am emotionally stable, but I am taking pause to evaluate the events and choices that have lead me to this point in my life.
The fact is I always had something to prove to everyone but myself. Whether it was in atheltics, socially, intellectually, or at work. The need to seek some sort of approval that I had earned the right to be here, gave me one hell of an egostical chip on my shoulder. I know why I first started to smoke, drink, or go down a very dark place in my life. I found things I could control, but in the end for what I thought I could control, controlled me.
I used to say, I would be a in a gutter if it wasn't for my wife, that statement is not tongue and cheek, it is the gospel truth. This habit it the last rement of my old life, that needed to be shed. In shedding this remaining crutch I can now move on with my journey. I would say that part of my life was the better part of 15 yrs.
14 days ago, I heard myself say to my wife "I will ask my doctor, next week about how to quit." She stormed off, i left for work and stopped for a tin, not thinking much of anything. But as that tin sat there on the passenger seat, I thought why is she mad, I do everything she want, she is the one that has the problem. But an hour is a long time to be alone with your thoughts, but then I though of every major fight in the past several years, guess who caused it, the nic bitch! That was it, I had been in this place so many times before, but what makes it any different? I will quit tonight, I just bought a new tin, that's a waste of money. So as I pulled into work, I did my ninja dipper routine hid the bottle, and tin. Went to my office and put in another one, well I have to get rid of it why waste it? So on went the day, got pissed, another one, coffee break? Another one, why well I am getting rid of the tin. But lunch I started looking how to quit, baccoff, patchs , gum, cold turkey? Oh there's a coupon for patches, or gum, but if I use baccoff my wife won't like that.... Then KTC and next thing I know its 4 pm. That drive home I threw the tin out of the window in the middle of interstate, went home, took my daughter to cheer leading, and joined KTC. That's where I am right now. The same spot I was 14 days ago, except I am now a quitter for life.
July 23, 2014 I realized that this addiction didn't define me, nor did the approval of anyone else. I said it before "I am not seeking forgiveness from everyone, I am seeking to forgive myself. I am living what I preech, I came clean with my wife, asked for her support and made it clear that I am not asking for forgiveness, but support. I reached out to my quit family, and the elders here. They all gave me adivice , but more important they gave me support.
For those that may be reading the KTC forums, please realize something. Everyone that is here and is committed to their quit, does not except failure. It may seem harsh, rude, arrogent, and hypocritical, but if you have that view you don't know what it means to quit yet. Saying failure is okay means it's okay to put that shit in your mouth, and its not a big deal. Well count how many times you have made that deal with yourself, and three years later your back at square one. Why? Because you said failure is okay.
KTC has been the support I need to quit everyday. The forums are only part of it, the numbers, live chat, and kakao app chatter that make the quit possible. U put ur quit in the hands of every serious quitter when you join, as they put their quit in yours. The wisdom and experiences of the group is something I haven't experienced in a very long time.
To my titan family:
Lim - the ability to reach out and be the butt of long running jokes, in the face of huge obsticals impresses and inspires me every day.
Southpaw the wisdom and leadership you display at such a young age, you have nothing but greatness ahead
Bam your fight to do right by your children and willingness to fight for them and our quit
Enav the southern possum fighter, always with the joke, has been a huge help
Thomas the voice of reason
Thutchi keep moving forward, I am proud you found the fight
Sir Derek truly fitting name for someone willing to suppport a newibie as an equal.
All of the others that I have not mentioned please do not take offense or disrespect for not being mentioned here. I have not chatted or spoken with you, we still have many more days of our life long battle together to get to know one another.
As I began this post I am in a reflective place, and thought I should share my thoughts about the past two weeks. I will end with this quote from my youth by the bouncing souls " together we are what we can't be alone"
I have had a tough week, but as I think about what it means to be a quitter and the strength it takes, holy guacamole batman! This is a crazy ride. My wife called me a woman because of the emotional component of the quit. I am having serious ups and downs, i just wish there was a middle. But I cannot wish, because wishing does not fix problems actions fix problems.Welcome to your quit, honey.
I need to begin taking action and not make excuses or wishes to feel better about myself or my work. If the past 30 days has taught me something, it is that quitting is not work, it is a culture shock. It is retraining every part of your system to do with out. It is like know that you are going to fast everyday until you die. For ENAV that is like ordering every meal from Popeye's
But it is the others that you found by circumstance that make the quit possible. We ended up by luck to find each other in October quitters. But it is not all "quitters" that I will say luck or good fortune. Those that use this as a place holder for their quit days. I just think that is bullshit, like calling in sober to AA from the bar. I look at those days they are claiming to be can free. IMO do not deserve to put those number next to their names. That is a right and priviledge to post here, and it should not taken lightly.
I have had a tough week, but as I think about what it means to be a quitter and the strength it takes, holy guacamole batman! This is a crazy ride. My wife called me a woman because of the emotional component of the quit. I am having serious ups and downs, i just wish there was a middle. But I cannot wish, because wishing does not fix problems actions fix problems.You are killing it bud, and I speak for everyone when I say we're glad you're here. Very true on the dudes using KTC as a "day counter". They exist in every group. They also are the first to either: 1) Cave ... 2) hit HOF and bail ... 3) hit HOF, bail, cave and come back later with tail tucked.
I need to begin taking action and not make excuses or wishes to feel better about myself or my work. If the past 30 days has taught me something, it is that quitting is not work, it is a culture shock. It is retraining every part of your system to do with out. It is like know that you are going to fast everyday until you die. For ENAV that is like ordering every meal from Popeye's
But it is the others that you found by circumstance that make the quit possible. We ended up by luck to find each other in October quitters. But it is not all "quitters" that I will say luck or good fortune. Those that use this as a place holder for their quit days. I just think that is bullshit, like calling in sober to AA from the bar. I look at those days they are claiming to be can free. IMO do not deserve to put those number next to their names. That is a right and priviledge to post here, and it should not taken lightly.
Funny, second intro in a row about excessive emotion in a quit. Made me think about a time in my quit when I felt no emotion about anything for a couple weeks. That sucked worse than raging and crying. Might be a funk, might be life, but either way just keep quitting and it will be alright. QLF with you all day!Quote from: candoitI have had a tough week, but as I think about what it means to be a quitter and the strength it takes, holy guacamole batman! This is a crazy ride. My wife called me a woman because of the emotional component of the quit. I am having serious ups and downs, i just wish there was a middle. But I cannot wish, because wishing does not fix problems actions fix problems.Welcome to your quit, honey.
I need to begin taking action and not make excuses or wishes to feel better about myself or my work. If the past 30 days has taught me something, it is that quitting is not work, it is a culture shock. It is retraining every part of your system to do with out. It is like know that you are going to fast everyday until you die. For ENAV that is like ordering every meal from Popeye's
But it is the others that you found by circumstance that make the quit possible. We ended up by luck to find each other in October quitters. But it is not all "quitters" that I will say luck or good fortune. Those that use this as a place holder for their quit days. I just think that is bullshit, like calling in sober to AA from the bar. I look at those days they are claiming to be can free. IMO do not deserve to put those number next to their names. That is a right and priviledge to post here, and it should not taken lightly.
I'll do your hair if you do mine. Deal? We can listen to the Bieber CD...
You will settle. Nicotine is a helluva drug that messed us up more than we realized. Hell, I can't tell you how many times I went from :DQ: to ;Ironman: initially, but it was a lot. You're doing this man, and it's fucking awesome to watch.
Candoit, I really liked reading this latest discussion. I for sure am more emotional since quitting. Its a good thing I think. It means we are living clean. I know I was flatlined emotionally when I was using. Just plodding along waiting for my next fix. Now life has more meaning and feelings. Keep it up, you are doing great!Quote from: wastepanelFunny, second intro in a row about excessive emotion in a quit. Made me think about a time in my quit when I felt no emotion about anything for a couple weeks. That sucked worse than raging and crying. Might be a funk, might be life, but either way just keep quitting and it will be alright. QLF with you all day!Quote from: candoitI have had a tough week, but as I think about what it means to be a quitter and the strength it takes, holy guacamole batman! This is a crazy ride. My wife called me a woman because of the emotional component of the quit. I am having serious ups and downs, i just wish there was a middle. But I cannot wish, because wishing does not fix problems actions fix problems.Welcome to your quit, honey.
I need to begin taking action and not make excuses or wishes to feel better about myself or my work. If the past 30 days has taught me something, it is that quitting is not work, it is a culture shock. It is retraining every part of your system to do with out. It is like know that you are going to fast everyday until you die. For ENAV that is like ordering every meal from Popeye's
But it is the others that you found by circumstance that make the quit possible. We ended up by luck to find each other in October quitters. But it is not all "quitters" that I will say luck or good fortune. Those that use this as a place holder for their quit days. I just think that is bullshit, like calling in sober to AA from the bar. I look at those days they are claiming to be can free. IMO do not deserve to put those number next to their names. That is a right and priviledge to post here, and it should not taken lightly.
I'll do your hair if you do mine. Deal? We can listen to the Bieber CD...
You will settle. Nicotine is a helluva drug that messed us up more than we realized. Hell, I can't tell you how many times I went from :DQ: to ;Ironman: initially, but it was a lot. You're doing this man, and it's fucking awesome to watch.
I felt that I should share this thought here.Enjoying your perspective Candoit. It's not just about quitting nicotine, it's about changing who we are for the better. Quit with you all day every day. Keep up the solid quit.
I have very few friends that I communicate with on a regular basis. That is for a variety of reasons, such as I don't like going out and drinking like I am 21, or they are still single, or don't have kids, or a career that they have to be up at 5:30 am and interacting with 30 + people at 7:00 am. Which is fine, but I also have not made the attempt to try and expand my circle of "friends".
This means I have stunted my own social growth to those that I have felt comfortable with and not changed the habits of socialization. But this is why a place like this is important. It is about changing habits and routines to become a different person than you were the day before.
Quitting is about change ALL OF WHO YOU ARE. If you don't begin to address these issues you will at some point revert back to what is comfortable all because it is habit. Change and learning are the same thing. When you change some thing, you are learning how to deal with the new, and it is uncomfortable. The discomfort is a sign you are doing it right.
Right now I am trying to deal with the fact I have more social interaction here online, or in Kakao than I do in real life. I could not do this alone and with out the support of the active members. But this introvertedness has been building long before the quit, and now I am ready to address this problem head on.
So I am expressing this fact in hopes that it gets to some of the less active Titian's to see that we are just as messed up as them, and have used tobacco to cover flaws, or hide feeling and emotions.
In the walking dead, rick asks anybody accompanying him and his group three questions:Quote from: candoitI felt that I should share this thought here.Enjoying your perspective Candoit. It's not just about quitting nicotine, it's about changing who we are for the better. Quit with you all day every day. Keep up the solid quit.
I have very few friends that I communicate with on a regular basis. That is for a variety of reasons, such as I don't like going out and drinking like I am 21, or they are still single, or don't have kids, or a career that they have to be up at 5:30 am and interacting with 30 + people at 7:00 am. Which is fine, but I also have not made the attempt to try and expand my circle of "friends".
This means I have stunted my own social growth to those that I have felt comfortable with and not changed the habits of socialization. But this is why a place like this is important. It is about changing habits and routines to become a different person than you were the day before.
Quitting is about change ALL OF WHO YOU ARE. If you don't begin to address these issues you will at some point revert back to what is comfortable all because it is habit. Change and learning are the same thing. When you change some thing, you are learning how to deal with the new, and it is uncomfortable. The discomfort is a sign you are doing it right.
Right now I am trying to deal with the fact I have more social interaction here online, or in Kakao than I do in real life. I could not do this alone and with out the support of the active members. But this introvertedness has been building long before the quit, and now I am ready to address this problem head on.
So I am expressing this fact in hopes that it gets to some of the less active Titian's to see that we are just as messed up as them, and have used tobacco to cover flaws, or hide feeling and emotions.
Not sure but believe candoit to be a teacher hence the knowledge bombs which are both humorous and interesting. 4 in a row makes me think you hit the gin bottle a bit much in the afternoon. Regardless, impressed with the the quit. Carry on sir.Done4me I am not a gin man. I prefer the Jack Daniels straight up. I wanted to post all of these knowledge bombs in one place. And yes I am a teacher, coach, and mentor, that part of my life has always been what I do and I damn good at it. Now I am learning how to do that with out the nic running through my system. I have "lost" my filter and editing system. So it is a challenge to do my job, and I find my self struggling to find and pronounce words. But again that will not be reason to give up. I now know I can relearn habits but it takes time and effort.
I am with you in that I also have lost my filter. At 112 days I am getting better than at 80 days which was better than at 50 days, etc. I believe that I will be fully cured (based on forum input) and ruler of the free world ( based on my Mom's input) at some point in the next year. Obama and the odd Korean dude with the f'd up haircut should fear me.Quote from: Done4MeNot sure but believe candoit to be a teacher hence the knowledge bombs which are both humorous and interesting. 4 in a row makes me think you hit the gin bottle a bit much in the afternoon. Regardless, impressed with the the quit. Carry on sir.Done4me I am not a gin man. I prefer the Jack Daniels straight up. I wanted to post all of these knowledge bombs in one place. And yes I am a teacher, coach, and mentor, that part of my life has always been what I do and I damn good at it. Now I am learning how to do that with out the nic running through my system. I have "lost" my filter and editing system. So it is a challenge to do my job, and I find my self struggling to find and pronounce words. But again that will not be reason to give up. I now know I can relearn habits but it takes time and effort.
Mr. C., thanks for the factiods and insights. One of your earlier posts from today (maybe yesterday) talked about taking your quit as an opportunity to deconstruct ourselves and rebuild or something like that, and I think that part of this comes from the pride one should rightly feel in quitting nicotine. When one finds themselves doing what they previously thought impossible (quitting nicotine), then the thought that one should be able to reshape any aspect of their life that they are unhappy with. Also, some of the most commonly given (and useful) bits of advice given to new quitters is to exercise, and exercising also leads to a feeling that self improvement is possible. Furthermore, once the poison is out of ones system the brain starts getting more oxygen which leads to more thinking, and more thinking leads to knowledge bombs.... Wait what was I talking about? Nevermind, it doesn't matter... Keep doing what you're doing and quit on!Knowledge bombs I think are mistitled. They are tangents of thought that I have made coherent and understandable.( I hope) these pearls or hair balls of wisdom I need to document. A good friend of mine always told me I had an old soul. After I looked at my shoes, he told me this.......
Day 65 It has been two weeks since I last posted anything up here or substantial. I have been pissed off at anyone that has crossed my path in the digital or physical world. Anger is a fowl beast, that corrupts and distorts our perception of everything from text messages and emails to things that aren't said.Nice reflection there friend.
I have about 2 hours minimum worth of driving M -F were I have nothing to do but think about why....Each of these questions gets me enraged to think about, but as I am asking myself these questions I become not upset but depressed and disappointed, almost on the verge of tears because I know that it is I who is fighting these battles with myself. It is the absence of the nicotine in my system that is driving these questions, because it is the new clarity of mind that allows these questions to rise to the surface.
- Why am I an addict?
- Why could I not stop sooner?
- Why do I always feel like a failure?
- Why do I have something to prove?
- Why do I need the validation of others to feel better about myself?
- Why am I becoming a social hermit?
- Why do I feel very polar about things?
- Why do I just ramble and think I need to provide detailed answers to everything?
- Why can't I just shut-up and listen to others?
- Why do people raise their children to tell the truth but don't want to hear it themselves?
- Why can cops talk on their cell phones and pass me in the right lane going 85?
- Why am I forgotten?
- Why am I not considered important or capable?
Many say that our dreams are a window to the soul, but the questions we ask ourselves of ourselves are often more important than the dreams. This is because the questions that our mind raises are ones that need to be dealt with. It is all too often we ignore these questions or turn down the volume by turning to drugs, but it only a temporary fix. The questions become louder, becoming self doubt and pity so I push more drugs into my system and this keeps going on and on.
So until we can begin to find the answers and truth for ourselves our addiction will run our life. I know it did with me, and still does. Yes I am still quit, but the new addition is being quitter.
Being a quitter is not a habit, it cant be. Being a quitter is about fighting, a boxer does not train for 1 round, nor does a ball player train for 1 at bat, it is about latching on to something that is going help you begin answering those questions. We all find a sense of pride in being part of something larger than ourselves, but when we do is it at the risk of losing our own identity or is it now having the support to begin to truthfully answer those questions. I really do not know the answer to that, for one simple reason, I do not know who I am yet, as a person with out nicotine, and I have the rest of my life to figure that out, as I begin to answer why.
Today is 79 days in to being Nic Free. I think about the past 15 days of my quit, and oh how have I changed.While I don't agree with everything you just wrote, there is some very powerful lessons, for life and Quit in there and I'm glad that you wrote it and that I read the whole thing 3 times.
This morning I was pissed about stupid shit at work, like I need to be next to my office phone to make calls. But the phone was moved on Monday to my new office, upstairs from the basement (old office), but found out they never moved my desk, and it was not being moved till oh next Wednesday. So what did i do I got a hand truck and moved my desk my self (no elevators). So I was also dealing with a pissy client that I didn't return emails or the phone calls from yesterday. He called me at 7:00 pm and emailed at 11 pm, and by the way he is not paying the 750 per day fee for my services, this is all for free. I go back to day 50 this would of derailed my entire day, go back to day 25 I would of stayed home to protect the quit, and 25 days before that, I would of gone for a coffee run (packed a fat lip full of cancer seed) come back switched to ninja mode and gut it for about the next 3 hours, till I was back in the car. But chatting with a Titian of Quit October 2014, I realized that about a year ago I was in a 4+ hour lock down, when a "gun man" was spotted on Yale campus. At the time I was working in a school in the area, due to its proximity it was locked down. What did that mean? It was part of my job to sweep the halls and ensure all students are in classrooms and all doors are locked, then I shelter in place. I ended up in an empty classroom for the entire time. So what did I do, well i drained the cell battery and then lamented about how I didn't have a tin with me, it was in my bag in my office. I was pissed that I had time to kill, an empty classroom, and even better an empty coffee cup. But the best part of this story, I had to shit in a trash can, because it happened from 11 am to 4 pm. Right before lunch, plus as a teacher you only have a 15 to 30 minute window of time to shit or talk to adults per day. But i was more upset that I didn't have my can of mint flavored cancer turds on me, then shitting in a trash can or a possible "gun man" on the loose. It turned out that it was a hoax called in from a pay phone (this happened in 2013 Google it).
But I digress about that incident a year ago. I was a teacher and I was being used for my skills and talents, but continually passed over for the leadership roles, because of who/what I was. I blamed it on a lot of things, but I knew there was a glass ceiling and it was time to leave. I left the classroom in December of 2013. This was one the hardest choices I made, but it was the right one. Why? I think back to what I was doing and how I got to where I was, it was because I pushed the envelope I was not complacent, I always risking, pushing the edge of comfort for myself and the students. I embraced failure, I created a culture of failure, I forced my students to fail, I taught failure, and I was damn good at it.
A culture of failure, is not living life as a failure, but how do I react when I do fail, how do I move on, how do I deal with it mentally, how do I seek help for what I do not know, how do I recognize that which I do not know, and how to I not fail at the same thing twice. I do not care what subject a teacher teach's, but if they are not teaching how to deal with failure through the content, they are doing nothing more than wasting time. I cared more about learning how to teach hard work, self reliance, self esteem, and pride than I did chemistry. Chemistry was the mechanism in which I could set up controlled failures to teach them how to trouble shoot, have faith in themselves. I always started the year off, with a lab that would never work or give them what the "book said it would" Why? Because they all doubted themselves, not the directions or the book. Even if they responded correctly, I always asked are you sure? Why? Because if you really trusted yourself and didn't look at the teacher as the wise sage on the stage, you would push back at the positional authority and stand up because you know it is right.
Chemistry is hard for many reasons, but the largest is that we study atoms and their behavior. That isn't hard, what is hard is that we observed the large scale interactions (macro scale) and from that we deduce what is going on at the atomic scale. So why is that relevant, well it is completely reverse of the way we learn all other subjects. We observe the effect from that we figure out the cause.
Here's the example I always used:
"Describe the wind?"
Could you answer that? Right now, no Google, no phone a friend, no text, no book, just your thinking and completely justify it with concrete examples and numerical data? I would wager that the majority of you would say it is something moving, like leaves or a tree or trash, or a house in Kansas. But you all gave me examples of effects not causes. That is how chemistry works, we see the effects and from there have to figure out the reasons.
But a year ago I realized I no longer was that teacher that embraced a culture of failure or deep logical thinking and conversation. I stopped because I had become disenfranchised. I had a choice I can take a risk and fail, or become the teacher that has lost the passion. I took the risk with the full knowledge I could fail, I was fine with that. I couldn't go in planning to fail, but I go in aware that it could happen and I will do everything I can to ensure it doesn't happen.
79 days ago, July 23, 2014, I took another risk knowing full well that I have failed every time I tried before. But i knew I had i to do it differently, so I joined and posted roll. This has been one hell of a risk for me, to put your faith in a complete group of strangers and hope that this works based on the stories and words posted here. But how is that different than walking into a new school, or the 1st day of a new school year?
Everyone always asks the same three questions of the teacher/professor/BAQ they just meet:
1) Who are you?
2) Why should I listen to you?
3) Why should I care?
If you fail to answer any of these questions by the end of the first interaction, then you are done. I don't care who you are, you may not realize it or even consciously think about it, but you do ask these questions.
Why does this matter? I kept my keyboard quite last night as two groups of quitters unleashed a pissing contest all over a new quit group. Am I a proud Titian Hell Fucking Yeah I am, but at the same time what I saw turned my stomach.
Call me a special butterfly, snowflake, a fuvking ghey phag, a cocknow user, or what ever else you want to, but take the pissing some where else. I took what happened a month ago too damn personal, but now you all have stepped over the line. This is scaring a new class of quitters, who all are taking a huge risk and putting their faith and trust in all of us not just one month. ALL OF US. I am not going to point fingers at who started that or who I think should apologize, because that is not my job or my place. However, it is my place to stand up for those who do not know any better or are too scared to say something in a place they do not feel comfortable, to begin with.
I have reached out to new quitters and they are scared to use Kakao, because they see the way it is talked about here, just like the quit lite. I saw the attack on one the veterans, who was one of the first few to reach out and welcome my messed up ass here. His message was clear: Honor your word to not use nicotine today, and protect it by any means necessary.
Protect your honor by any means necessary, I forgot what that was, until today, 365 days from when I was shitting in a trash can.
I am an educator who firmly believes in teaching and supporting those who take risks. The largest part of that is teaching them how to deal with the failure, and move forward stronger and with their heads held a little higher, with pride. A large part of that lesson is owning up to the errors and consequences of the failure (this is the students part) but my part is the hardest one:
Keep my mouth shut long enough for them to let them own up and encourage them to keep moving forward.
Do I call bullshit? Yes
Do I demand more? Yes
Do I ensure that they understand what they did wrong? Yes
Am I disappointed in their choices? Yes
Am I disappointed that they knew better? Yes
Am I disappointed in myself for not doing something differently? Yes
But do I linger on it? Yes
Do I hold it against them? No
If I want to grow better people they need to be held accountable, but they also need to know that tomorrow is a new day, and that I will be their for them just as I was today. Will any of my expectations or demands change, no never.
So I am protecting my honor, and the honor of those who have yet to learn or remember what honor is, people will fail, you all failed last night at being the role models for January 2015. But know this tomorrow I will be back here, post roll, wish everyone in Kakao a good morning, text NateMcP, PrOf, FredR, and McCamno, and be waiting for my expectations of all of you to be met. And I will continue to do that every single day of my life because I choose to protect my honor and I have pride what I do.
Nice work Candoit. Deep stuff here. Quit with you!Quote from: candoitToday is 79 days in to being Nic Free. I think about the past 15 days of my quit, and oh how have I changed.While I don't agree with everything you just wrote, there is some very powerful lessons, for life and Quit in there and I'm glad that you wrote it and that I read the whole thing 3 times.
This morning I was pissed about stupid shit at work, like I need to be next to my office phone to make calls. But the phone was moved on Monday to my new office, upstairs from the basement (old office), but found out they never moved my desk, and it was not being moved till oh next Wednesday. So what did i do I got a hand truck and moved my desk my self (no elevators). So I was also dealing with a pissy client that I didn't return emails or the phone calls from yesterday. He called me at 7:00 pm and emailed at 11 pm, and by the way he is not paying the 750 per day fee for my services, this is all for free. I go back to day 50 this would of derailed my entire day, go back to day 25 I would of stayed home to protect the quit, and 25 days before that, I would of gone for a coffee run (packed a fat lip full of cancer seed) come back switched to ninja mode and gut it for about the next 3 hours, till I was back in the car. But chatting with a Titian of Quit October 2014, I realized that about a year ago I was in a 4+ hour lock down, when a "gun man" was spotted on Yale campus. At the time I was working in a school in the area, due to its proximity it was locked down. What did that mean? It was part of my job to sweep the halls and ensure all students are in classrooms and all doors are locked, then I shelter in place. I ended up in an empty classroom for the entire time. So what did I do, well i drained the cell battery and then lamented about how I didn't have a tin with me, it was in my bag in my office. I was pissed that I had time to kill, an empty classroom, and even better an empty coffee cup. But the best part of this story, I had to shit in a trash can, because it happened from 11 am to 4 pm. Right before lunch, plus as a teacher you only have a 15 to 30 minute window of time to shit or talk to adults per day. But i was more upset that I didn't have my can of mint flavored cancer turds on me, then shitting in a trash can or a possible "gun man" on the loose. It turned out that it was a hoax called in from a pay phone (this happened in 2013 Google it).
But I digress about that incident a year ago. I was a teacher and I was being used for my skills and talents, but continually passed over for the leadership roles, because of who/what I was. I blamed it on a lot of things, but I knew there was a glass ceiling and it was time to leave. I left the classroom in December of 2013. This was one the hardest choices I made, but it was the right one. Why? I think back to what I was doing and how I got to where I was, it was because I pushed the envelope I was not complacent, I always risking, pushing the edge of comfort for myself and the students. I embraced failure, I created a culture of failure, I forced my students to fail, I taught failure, and I was damn good at it.
A culture of failure, is not living life as a failure, but how do I react when I do fail, how do I move on, how do I deal with it mentally, how do I seek help for what I do not know, how do I recognize that which I do not know, and how to I not fail at the same thing twice. I do not care what subject a teacher teach's, but if they are not teaching how to deal with failure through the content, they are doing nothing more than wasting time. I cared more about learning how to teach hard work, self reliance, self esteem, and pride than I did chemistry. Chemistry was the mechanism in which I could set up controlled failures to teach them how to trouble shoot, have faith in themselves. I always started the year off, with a lab that would never work or give them what the "book said it would" Why? Because they all doubted themselves, not the directions or the book. Even if they responded correctly, I always asked are you sure? Why? Because if you really trusted yourself and didn't look at the teacher as the wise sage on the stage, you would push back at the positional authority and stand up because you know it is right.
Chemistry is hard for many reasons, but the largest is that we study atoms and their behavior. That isn't hard, what is hard is that we observed the large scale interactions (macro scale) and from that we deduce what is going on at the atomic scale. So why is that relevant, well it is completely reverse of the way we learn all other subjects. We observe the effect from that we figure out the cause.
Here's the example I always used:
"Describe the wind?"
Could you answer that? Right now, no Google, no phone a friend, no text, no book, just your thinking and completely justify it with concrete examples and numerical data? I would wager that the majority of you would say it is something moving, like leaves or a tree or trash, or a house in Kansas. But you all gave me examples of effects not causes. That is how chemistry works, we see the effects and from there have to figure out the reasons.
But a year ago I realized I no longer was that teacher that embraced a culture of failure or deep logical thinking and conversation. I stopped because I had become disenfranchised. I had a choice I can take a risk and fail, or become the teacher that has lost the passion. I took the risk with the full knowledge I could fail, I was fine with that. I couldn't go in planning to fail, but I go in aware that it could happen and I will do everything I can to ensure it doesn't happen.
79 days ago, July 23, 2014, I took another risk knowing full well that I have failed every time I tried before. But i knew I had i to do it differently, so I joined and posted roll. This has been one hell of a risk for me, to put your faith in a complete group of strangers and hope that this works based on the stories and words posted here. But how is that different than walking into a new school, or the 1st day of a new school year?
Everyone always asks the same three questions of the teacher/professor/BAQ they just meet:
1) Who are you?
2) Why should I listen to you?
3) Why should I care?
If you fail to answer any of these questions by the end of the first interaction, then you are done. I don't care who you are, you may not realize it or even consciously think about it, but you do ask these questions.
Why does this matter? I kept my keyboard quite last night as two groups of quitters unleashed a pissing contest all over a new quit group. Am I a proud Titian Hell Fucking Yeah I am, but at the same time what I saw turned my stomach.
Call me a special butterfly, snowflake, a fuvking ghey phag, a cocknow user, or what ever else you want to, but take the pissing some where else. I took what happened a month ago too damn personal, but now you all have stepped over the line. This is scaring a new class of quitters, who all are taking a huge risk and putting their faith and trust in all of us not just one month. ALL OF US. I am not going to point fingers at who started that or who I think should apologize, because that is not my job or my place. However, it is my place to stand up for those who do not know any better or are too scared to say something in a place they do not feel comfortable, to begin with.
I have reached out to new quitters and they are scared to use Kakao, because they see the way it is talked about here, just like the quit lite. I saw the attack on one the veterans, who was one of the first few to reach out and welcome my messed up ass here. His message was clear: Honor your word to not use nicotine today, and protect it by any means necessary.
Protect your honor by any means necessary, I forgot what that was, until today, 365 days from when I was shitting in a trash can.
I am an educator who firmly believes in teaching and supporting those who take risks. The largest part of that is teaching them how to deal with the failure, and move forward stronger and with their heads held a little higher, with pride. A large part of that lesson is owning up to the errors and consequences of the failure (this is the students part) but my part is the hardest one:
Keep my mouth shut long enough for them to let them own up and encourage them to keep moving forward.
Do I call bullshit? Yes
Do I demand more? Yes
Do I ensure that they understand what they did wrong? Yes
Am I disappointed in their choices? Yes
Am I disappointed that they knew better? Yes
Am I disappointed in myself for not doing something differently? Yes
But do I linger on it? Yes
Do I hold it against them? No
If I want to grow better people they need to be held accountable, but they also need to know that tomorrow is a new day, and that I will be their for them just as I was today. Will any of my expectations or demands change, no never.
So I am protecting my honor, and the honor of those who have yet to learn or remember what honor is, people will fail, you all failed last night at being the role models for January 2015. But know this tomorrow I will be back here, post roll, wish everyone in Kakao a good morning, text NateMcP, PrOf, FredR, and McCamno, and be waiting for my expectations of all of you to be met. And I will continue to do that every single day of my life because I choose to protect my honor and I have pride what I do.
I'm proud to call you Brother and I'm a better person for knowing and Quitting with you.
Congrats on the Hall Candoit! Great work! Honored to be a fellow Titan with you. Keep up the great quit and keep the knowledge emporium posts.Congrats bro, always enjoy the tidbits from the Knowledge Emporium!
Quit with you everyday
You are a badass.Quote from: FMBM707Congrats on the Hall Candoit! Great work! Honored to be a fellow Titan with you. Keep up the great quit and keep the knowledge emporium posts.Congrats bro, always enjoy the tidbits from the Knowledge Emporium!
Quit with you everyday
Congrats candoit! 100 days is fan-freakin-tastic. today I hit 1500, but you know what, I quit today, with you and assclown from October 2014. You guys are rocking it like no other and I'm honored to quit with you today!Quote from: SmedsYou are a badass.Quote from: FMBM707Congrats on the Hall Candoit! Great work! Honored to be a fellow Titan with you. Keep up the great quit and keep the knowledge emporium posts.Congrats bro, always enjoy the tidbits from the Knowledge Emporium!
Quit with you everyday
What you've accomplished is badass.
Keep being a badass, badass.
I'm very proud to walk this path with you today man.
Today is Day 180 that is a School Year!Congrats, Candoit!
That means today, I have been quit as long as it takes a child to learn all they can before they move to the next grade. I have accomplished more than I thought I could in these 180 days.
I have proven to myself that I can change, I am stronger than my addiction, and I have paid it forward. The success of others that I have helped along the way, has given me strength to forge on.
Positives of the last 180 days:Areas for growth for the next 180 days:
- I have saved my marriage
- Improved my relationship with my children
- Found strength and courage
- Stopped hiding behind my addiction
- Begun taking on the demons that I ran from
- I put God back at the center
- Made true connections that have helped in so many ways
A single persons introspective review of their performance is necessary but the feedback of others is just as important. I invite you to give me feedback, observations, or thoughts about my last 180 days of quit here at KTC
- Focus on helping myself just as much as I help others
- Commit to spending time that is for me
- Work on my faults:
- Stop focusing on the negatives
- Listen to myself, just as I listen to others
- Let others help
- Be okay with letting go of control
Congratulations Can do.....your only 146 days ahead of me....im honored to be quit with uQuote from: candoitToday is Day 180 that is a School Year!Congrats, Candoit!
That means today, I have been quit as long as it takes a child to learn all they can before they move to the next grade. I have accomplished more than I thought I could in these 180 days.
I have proven to myself that I can change, I am stronger than my addiction, and I have paid it forward. The success of others that I have helped along the way, has given me strength to forge on.
Positives of the last 180 days:Areas for growth for the next 180 days:
- I have saved my marriage
- Improved my relationship with my children
- Found strength and courage
- Stopped hiding behind my addiction
- Begun taking on the demons that I ran from
- I put God back at the center
- Made true connections that have helped in so many ways
A single persons introspective review of their performance is necessary but the feedback of others is just as important. I invite you to give me feedback, observations, or thoughts about my last 180 days of quit here at KTC
- Focus on helping myself just as much as I help others
- Commit to spending time that is for me
- Work on my faults:
- Stop focusing on the negatives
- Listen to myself, just as I listen to others
- Let others help
- Be okay with letting go of control
Your commitment of time to helping new groups in the fore- and background is impressive. I also look forward to reading your posts. You've brought your own style to KTC. I'll quit with you for another 180!
Candy man! You have been a huge asset to KTC for my 107 days here. I appreciate what you have done for me. I hope you can continue to do it for yourself and othersQuote from: jabrCongratulations Can do.....your only 146 days ahead of me....im honored to be quit with uQuote from: candoitToday is Day 180 that is a School Year!Congrats, Candoit!
That means today, I have been quit as long as it takes a child to learn all they can before they move to the next grade. I have accomplished more than I thought I could in these 180 days.
I have proven to myself that I can change, I am stronger than my addiction, and I have paid it forward. The success of others that I have helped along the way, has given me strength to forge on.
Positives of the last 180 days:Areas for growth for the next 180 days:
- I have saved my marriage
- Improved my relationship with my children
- Found strength and courage
- Stopped hiding behind my addiction
- Begun taking on the demons that I ran from
- I put God back at the center
- Made true connections that have helped in so many ways
A single persons introspective review of their performance is necessary but the feedback of others is just as important. I invite you to give me feedback, observations, or thoughts about my last 180 days of quit here at KTC
- Focus on helping myself just as much as I help others
- Commit to spending time that is for me
- Work on my faults:
- Stop focusing on the negatives
- Listen to myself, just as I listen to others
- Let others help
- Be okay with letting go of control
Your commitment of time to helping new groups in the fore- and background is impressive. I also look forward to reading your posts. You've brought your own style to KTC. I'll quit with you for another 180!
great post!Quote from: beast42aCandy man! You have been a huge asset to KTC for my 107 days here. I appreciate what you have done for me. I hope you can continue to do it for yourself and othersQuote from: jabrCongratulations Can do.....your only 146 days ahead of me....im honored to be quit with uQuote from: candoitToday is Day 180 that is a School Year!Congrats, Candoit!
That means today, I have been quit as long as it takes a child to learn all they can before they move to the next grade. I have accomplished more than I thought I could in these 180 days.
I have proven to myself that I can change, I am stronger than my addiction, and I have paid it forward. The success of others that I have helped along the way, has given me strength to forge on.
Positives of the last 180 days:Areas for growth for the next 180 days:
- I have saved my marriage
- Improved my relationship with my children
- Found strength and courage
- Stopped hiding behind my addiction
- Begun taking on the demons that I ran from
- I put God back at the center
- Made true connections that have helped in so many ways
A single persons introspective review of their performance is necessary but the feedback of others is just as important. I invite you to give me feedback, observations, or thoughts about my last 180 days of quit here at KTC
- Focus on helping myself just as much as I help others
- Commit to spending time that is for me
- Work on my faults:
- Stop focusing on the negatives
- Listen to myself, just as I listen to others
- Let others help
- Be okay with letting go of control
Your commitment of time to helping new groups in the fore- and background is impressive. I also look forward to reading your posts. You've brought your own style to KTC. I'll quit with you for another 180!
I like it, I love it, I want some more of it!!Quote from: Okiegreat post!Quote from: beast42aCandy man! You have been a huge asset to KTC for my 107 days here. I appreciate what you have done for me. I hope you can continue to do it for yourself and othersQuote from: jabrCongratulations Can do.....your only 146 days ahead of me....im honored to be quit with uQuote from: candoitToday is Day 180 that is a School Year!Congrats, Candoit!
That means today, I have been quit as long as it takes a child to learn all they can before they move to the next grade. I have accomplished more than I thought I could in these 180 days.
I have proven to myself that I can change, I am stronger than my addiction, and I have paid it forward. The success of others that I have helped along the way, has given me strength to forge on.
Positives of the last 180 days:Areas for growth for the next 180 days:
- I have saved my marriage
- Improved my relationship with my children
- Found strength and courage
- Stopped hiding behind my addiction
- Begun taking on the demons that I ran from
- I put God back at the center
- Made true connections that have helped in so many ways
A single persons introspective review of their performance is necessary but the feedback of others is just as important. I invite you to give me feedback, observations, or thoughts about my last 180 days of quit here at KTC
- Focus on helping myself just as much as I help others
- Commit to spending time that is for me
- Work on my faults:
- Stop focusing on the negatives
- Listen to myself, just as I listen to others
- Let others help
- Be okay with letting go of control
Your commitment of time to helping new groups in the fore- and background is impressive. I also look forward to reading your posts. You've brought your own style to KTC. I'll quit with you for another 180!
"If liberty means anything at all, it means the right to tell people what they do not want to hear." ~ George Orwelldude! you are a seriously awesome quitter! I'm pumped to be your titan brother!
Today is yet another classic example of dealing with life, without nicotine crutch. I am not even in the back door when I find out that yet again I can not do anything right at work, and asked to account for everything that I have done for the last 6 months.bingo
I know that I can not control what the intentions of others, and I can only control my own actions. Therefore I should not get pissed, stressed or upset at that which I cannot control. That is a hella challenge to separate the issues. But I am focusing on today, not tomorrow or yesterday, focus on today.
By focusing on today I can make direct changes to the outcomes. If I plan or lament I only get myself all worked up over nothing I can change. Screw that I focus on the fact I am quit and I can control that.
Keep at it! You got your head screwed on right today and are winning. ODAAT. I'm with ya.Quote from: candoitToday is yet another classic example of dealing with life, without nicotine crutch. I am not even in the back door when I find out that yet again I can not do anything right at work, and asked to account for everything that I have done for the last 6 months.bingo
I know that I can not control what the intentions of others, and I can only control my own actions. Therefore I should not get pissed, stressed or upset at that which I cannot control. That is a hella challenge to separate the issues. But I am focusing on today, not tomorrow or yesterday, focus on today.
By focusing on today I can make direct changes to the outcomes. If I plan or lament I only get myself all worked up over nothing I can change. Screw that I focus on the fact I am quit and I can control that.
I quit for todayAnd then we'll do it all over tomorrow.
Twenty four hours I can succeed
This I can control
200 days ago, I choose to make a promise, not to use nicotine what so ever for today. I have repeated that promise 200 times.Belated BOG CONGRATS on hitting the 2nd floor Candoit! You are a rock solid quitter and you pay it forward! Congrats on all you've accomplished and your commitment to making a change and a difference. You're setting a great example. Proud to be quit with you.
200 hundred times seems impossible but it is there every day, I am 200/200 with out missing one day of making that promise. That promise has kept the can out of my hand. This works ONLY if you honor your word.
That is a big IF....
If you are a person that can honor their word
If you are a person that can put their faith in others
If you are a person that can trust others
If you are a person that can believe in others
If you are a person that can hold themselves accountable
If you are a person that can hold others to the same accountability
If you are a person that can let people help
If you are a person that can help others
If you are a person that can share in brotherhood
If you are a person that can add value by being here
If you are a person that can not use excuses to hide from the truth
If you are a person that can face the truth
If you are a person that can make a promise every day
Then ...You CAN DO IT!!!
The almighty creator created all, in doing so he created tobacco and choice.I choose to quit with you today, candoit.
We all have the choice to use or quit.
We all have the choice to acknowledge or deny.
We all have the choice to remember or forget.
It is the daily choices that we make that keep us quit.
I choose to quit
I choose to use KTC
I choose to acknowledge I am an addict
I choose to deny nicotine
I choose to remember that I make the choice to quit every day
I choose to forget nothing about my past choices.
Today is 79 days in to being Nic Free. I think about the past 15 days of my quit, and oh how have I changed.Some interesting parallels to our discussion today! Been good to ride the first parts of your ride with you.
This morning I was pissed about stupid shit at work, like I need to be next to my office phone to make calls. But the phone was moved on Monday to my new office, upstairs from the basement (old office), but found out they never moved my desk, and it was not being moved till oh next Wednesday. So what did i do I got a hand truck and moved my desk my self (no elevators). So I was also dealing with a pissy client that I didn't return emails or the phone calls from yesterday. He called me at 7:00 pm and emailed at 11 pm, and by the way he is not paying the 750 per day fee for my services, this is all for free. I go back to day 50 this would of derailed my entire day, go back to day 25 I would of stayed home to protect the quit, and 25 days before that, I would of gone for a coffee run (packed a fat lip full of cancer seed) come back switched to ninja mode and gut it for about the next 3 hours, till I was back in the car. But chatting with a Titian of Quit October 2014, I realized that about a year ago I was in a 4+ hour lock down, when a "gun man" was spotted on Yale campus. At the time I was working in a school in the area, due to its proximity it was locked down. What did that mean? It was part of my job to sweep the halls and ensure all students are in classrooms and all doors are locked, then I shelter in place. I ended up in an empty classroom for the entire time. So what did I do, well i drained the cell battery and then lamented about how I didn't have a tin with me, it was in my bag in my office. I was pissed that I had time to kill, an empty classroom, and even better an empty coffee cup. But the best part of this story, I had to shit in a trash can, because it happened from 11 am to 4 pm. Right before lunch, plus as a teacher you only have a 15 to 30 minute window of time to shit or talk to adults per day. But i was more upset that I didn't have my can of mint flavored cancer turds on me, then shitting in a trash can or a possible "gun man" on the loose. It turned out that it was a hoax called in from a pay phone (this happened in 2013 Google it).
But I digress about that incident a year ago. I was a teacher and I was being used for my skills and talents, but continually passed over for the leadership roles, because of who/what I was. I blamed it on a lot of things, but I knew there was a glass ceiling and it was time to leave. I left the classroom in December of 2013. This was one the hardest choices I made, but it was the right one. Why? I think back to what I was doing and how I got to where I was, it was because I pushed the envelope I was not complacent, I always risking, pushing the edge of comfort for myself and the students. I embraced failure, I created a culture of failure, I forced my students to fail, I taught failure, and I was damn good at it.
A culture of failure, is not living life as a failure, but how do I react when I do fail, how do I move on, how do I deal with it mentally, how do I seek help for what I do not know, how do I recognize that which I do not know, and how to I not fail at the same thing twice. I do not care what subject a teacher teach's, but if they are not teaching how to deal with failure through the content, they are doing nothing more than wasting time. I cared more about learning how to teach hard work, self reliance, self esteem, and pride than I did chemistry. Chemistry was the mechanism in which I could set up controlled failures to teach them how to trouble shoot, have faith in themselves. I always started the year off, with a lab that would never work or give them what the "book said it would" Why? Because they all doubted themselves, not the directions or the book. Even if they responded correctly, I always asked are you sure? Why? Because if you really trusted yourself and didn't look at the teacher as the wise sage on the stage, you would push back at the positional authority and stand up because you know it is right.
Chemistry is hard for many reasons, but the largest is that we study atoms and their behavior. That isn't hard, what is hard is that we observed the large scale interactions (macro scale) and from that we deduce what is going on at the atomic scale. So why is that relevant, well it is completely reverse of the way we learn all other subjects. We observe the effect from that we figure out the cause.
Here's the example I always used:
"Describe the wind?"
Could you answer that? Right now, no Google, no phone a friend, no text, no book, just your thinking and completely justify it with concrete examples and numerical data? I would wager that the majority of you would say it is something moving, like leaves or a tree or trash, or a house in Kansas. But you all gave me examples of effects not causes. That is how chemistry works, we see the effects and from there have to figure out the reasons.
But a year ago I realized I no longer was that teacher that embraced a culture of failure or deep logical thinking and conversation. I stopped because I had become disenfranchised. I had a choice I can take a risk and fail, or become the teacher that has lost the passion. I took the risk with the full knowledge I could fail, I was fine with that. I couldn't go in planning to fail, but I go in aware that it could happen and I will do everything I can to ensure it doesn't happen.
79 days ago, July 23, 2014, I took another risk knowing full well that I have failed every time I tried before. But i knew I had i to do it differently, so I joined and posted roll. This has been one hell of a risk for me, to put your faith in a complete group of strangers and hope that this works based on the stories and words posted here. But how is that different than walking into a new school, or the 1st day of a new school year?
Everyone always asks the same three questions of the teacher/professor/BAQ they just meet:
1) Who are you?
2) Why should I listen to you?
3) Why should I care?
If you fail to answer any of these questions by the end of the first interaction, then you are done. I don't care who you are, you may not realize it or even consciously think about it, but you do ask these questions.
Why does this matter? I kept my keyboard quite last night as two groups of quitters unleashed a pissing contest all over a new quit group. Am I a proud Titian Hell Fucking Yeah I am, but at the same time what I saw turned my stomach.
Call me a special butterfly, snowflake, a fuvking ghey phag, a cocknow user, or what ever else you want to, but take the pissing some where else. I took what happened a month ago too damn personal, but now you all have stepped over the line. This is scaring a new class of quitters, who all are taking a huge risk and putting their faith and trust in all of us not just one month. ALL OF US. I am not going to point fingers at who started that or who I think should apologize, because that is not my job or my place. However, it is my place to stand up for those who do not know any better or are too scared to say something in a place they do not feel comfortable, to begin with.
I have reached out to new quitters and they are scared to use Kakao, because they see the way it is talked about here, just like the quit lite. I saw the attack on one the veterans, who was one of the first few to reach out and welcome my messed up ass here. His message was clear: Honor your word to not use nicotine today, and protect it by any means necessary.
Protect your honor by any means necessary, I forgot what that was, until today, 365 days from when I was shitting in a trash can.
I am an educator who firmly believes in teaching and supporting those who take risks. The largest part of that is teaching them how to deal with the failure, and move forward stronger and with their heads held a little higher, with pride. A large part of that lesson is owning up to the errors and consequences of the failure (this is the students part) but my part is the hardest one:
Keep my mouth shut long enough for them to let them own up and encourage them to keep moving forward.
Do I call bullshit? Yes
Do I demand more? Yes
Do I ensure that they understand what they did wrong? Yes
Am I disappointed in their choices? Yes
Am I disappointed that they knew better? Yes
Am I disappointed in myself for not doing something differently? Yes
But do I linger on it? Yes
Do I hold it against them? No
If I want to grow better people they need to be held accountable, but they also need to know that tomorrow is a new day, and that I will be their for them just as I was today. Will any of my expectations or demands change, no never.
So I am protecting my honor, and the honor of those who have yet to learn or remember what honor is, people will fail, you all failed last night at being the role models for January 2015. But know this tomorrow I will be back here, post roll, wish everyone in Kakao a good morning, text NateMcP, PrOf, FredR, and McCamno, and be waiting for my expectations of all of you to be met. And I will continue to do that every single day of my life because I choose to protect my honor and I have pride what I do.
Rule #1 No leaving ever.Pretty timely shit right there. Thanks for the effort you put into the quit, it oozes all over the place.
Why?
We are addicts, we are never cured. Being here and accountable is the only way any of us have been successful. We lie straight to the face of our loved ones. What makes you think that will change?
We call you on your bullshit, becuase we know it, they don't.
Everyone here get's butthurt from time to time. But that is no reason to walk away. The only person that hurts is you. You came here to quit, everything else is a bonus.
Remember:
There is no such thing as cured. Cured is the nic bitches biggest lie.
Posted in Oct 14 on March 18 2015I'll drink to that...Who's In For 300?
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Two of the former members had their names on that list for promising that they were in this for another 100 days. And they caved because they didn't not have the testituclar (ovarian) fortitude to power through or enough pride to put the ego aside and ask for help.
But more important than that they forgot what that promise meant to themselves and to us. When we all posted our day 1's we had no idea what to expect or even if this would work. That promise to not to use nic for 24 hours, then we repeat. For many of us the fact the promise was for 24 hours made it doable, achievable, and realistic. As the days have past we have forgotten that this promise only lasts for 24 hours, and we need to make it every day for a reason.
Today may be easy, but we have no idea what tomorrow may bring. That I may be at the summit today, but tomorrow I could be back feeling like I am at day 1. That is life, but the fact I am a man of my word, and made my promise first thing in the morning, by posting on roll I will honor it today. That is why I will always make my promise.
They lost sight of what it means to post roll here every damn day, it is because of the accountability it gives us, which creates the brotherhood, which made us all successful. But that was built one day, one promise, at a time. Therefore it has to be practiced and used the same way in order to maintain it.
While we all need to focus on fixing the other parts of our lives that were on hold while we regained control, we can not forget that it was the daily promise and investment in each other that allowed to be in control again.
I can control today, I can not change yesterday, or know what tomorrow will bring. So I am making my promise for today, with all of you not to use for any reason.
Please consider what putting your name on roll in the header means to you, because you still need to be willing to fight like hell to honor your word. The battle looks different but it is the same war.
Candoit you're a good man! You work hard for what you stand for. ..the QUIT my friend! Damn proud to be quit with you today my brother!Quote from: candoitPosted in Oct 14 on March 18 2015I'll drink to that...Who's In For 300?
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Two of the former members had their names on that list for promising that they were in this for another 100 days. And they caved because they didn't not have the testituclar (ovarian) fortitude to power through or enough pride to put the ego aside and ask for help.
But more important than that they forgot what that promise meant to themselves and to us. When we all posted our day 1's we had no idea what to expect or even if this would work. That promise to not to use nic for 24 hours, then we repeat. For many of us the fact the promise was for 24 hours made it doable, achievable, and realistic. As the days have past we have forgotten that this promise only lasts for 24 hours, and we need to make it every day for a reason.
Today may be easy, but we have no idea what tomorrow may bring. That I may be at the summit today, but tomorrow I could be back feeling like I am at day 1. That is life, but the fact I am a man of my word, and made my promise first thing in the morning, by posting on roll I will honor it today. That is why I will always make my promise.
They lost sight of what it means to post roll here every damn day, it is because of the accountability it gives us, which creates the brotherhood, which made us all successful. But that was built one day, one promise, at a time. Therefore it has to be practiced and used the same way in order to maintain it.
While we all need to focus on fixing the other parts of our lives that were on hold while we regained control, we can not forget that it was the daily promise and investment in each other that allowed to be in control again.
I can control today, I can not change yesterday, or know what tomorrow will bring. So I am making my promise for today, with all of you not to use for any reason.
Please consider what putting your name on roll in the header means to you, because you still need to be willing to fight like hell to honor your word. The battle looks different but it is the same war.
So today is 250 days quit....That is amazing...looks good on ya brother. Thanks for your support.The Quarter CommaNothing monumental to say about today, other than I am not changing anything about what I am doing. It works period. I have no missed roll call in 250 days, I have only had one roll post after 12 pm, and I don't plan on anything changing for a very long time.
So I am 100% for 250 days, but I am still one bad decision away from starting over. I know that I have built up too much accountability to let any of that happen.
I want to succeed more today than I did 250 days ago. I am not that angry, scared, out of options, googling addict, I was. Now I am an addict with a different tool set, and building one hell of a new life with them.
So yeah am I happy at 250 days quit but that is today. Tomorrow is another day with a new promise and a new set of challenges, but I will meet them the same way I did today. Quit.
Congratulations can! You're a big inspiration to alot in here! I got my money on you staying quit till they bury you! Damn proud to be quit with you today my brother!Quote from: candoitSo today is 250 days quit....That is amazing...looks good on ya brother. Thanks for your support.The Quarter CommaNothing monumental to say about today, other than I am not changing anything about what I am doing. It works period. I have no missed roll call in 250 days, I have only had one roll post after 12 pm, and I don't plan on anything changing for a very long time.
So I am 100% for 250 days, but I am still one bad decision away from starting over. I know that I have built up too much accountability to let any of that happen.
I want to succeed more today than I did 250 days ago. I am not that angry, scared, out of options, googling addict, I was. Now I am an addict with a different tool set, and building one hell of a new life with them.
So yeah am I happy at 250 days quit but that is today. Tomorrow is another day with a new promise and a new set of challenges, but I will meet them the same way I did today. Quit.
So today is 250 days quit....250 is a great accomplishment Cando.The Quarter CommaNothing monumental to say about today, other than I am not changing anything about what I am doing. It works period. I have no missed roll call in 250 days, I have only had one roll post after 12 pm, and I don't plan on anything changing for a very long time.
So I am 100% for 250 days, but I am still one bad decision away from starting over. I know that I have built up too much accountability to let any of that happen.
I want to succeed more today than I did 250 days ago. I am not that angry, scared, out of options, googling addict, I was. Now I am an addict with a different tool set, and building one hell of a new life with them.
So yeah am I happy at 250 days quit but that is today. Tomorrow is another day with a new promise and a new set of challenges, but I will meet them the same way I did today. Quit.
Congrats on this HUGE milestone. I cant thank you enough for all the input you have had in my own quit. Keep leading bro!Congrats on the third floor bro.
That's a lot of quit.Quote from: I'mCongrats on this HUGE milestone. I cant thank you enough for all the input you have had in my own quit. Keep leading bro!Congrats on the third floor bro.
Congrats...but mostly, thank you.Quote from: basshaugThat's a lot of quit.Quote from: I'mCongrats on this HUGE milestone. I cant thank you enough for all the input you have had in my own quit. Keep leading bro!Congrats on the third floor bro.
Keep up the good work my good sir.
We all appreciate what you do Candoit! Congrats my friend!Quote from: wastepanelCongrats...but mostly, thank you.Quote from: basshaugThat's a lot of quit.Quote from: I'mCongrats on this HUGE milestone. I cant thank you enough for all the input you have had in my own quit. Keep leading bro!Congrats on the third floor bro.
Keep up the good work my good sir.
Proud to be QUIT w/ you bro!Quote from: ChickDipWe all appreciate what you do Candoit! Congrats my friend!Quote from: wastepanelCongrats...but mostly, thank you.Quote from: basshaugThat's a lot of quit.Quote from: I'mCongrats on this HUGE milestone. I cant thank you enough for all the input you have had in my own quit. Keep leading bro!Congrats on the third floor bro.
Keep up the good work my good sir.
Well done and good shit, Cando. On to one year and the 4th floor.Quote from: pab1964Proud to be QUIT w/ you bro!Quote from: ChickDipWe all appreciate what you do Candoit! Congrats my friend!Quote from: wastepanelCongrats...but mostly, thank you.Quote from: basshaugThat's a lot of quit.Quote from: I'mCongrats on this HUGE milestone. I cant thank you enough for all the input you have had in my own quit. Keep leading bro!Congrats on the third floor bro.
Keep up the good work my good sir.
Nice job, Candi. 300 long days of quitting and giving back makes for one hell of a BAQ.Quote from: AirWell done and good shit, Cando. On to one year and the 4th floor.Quote from: pab1964Proud to be QUIT w/ you bro!Quote from: ChickDipWe all appreciate what you do Candoit! Congrats my friend!Quote from: wastepanelCongrats...but mostly, thank you.Quote from: basshaugThat's a lot of quit.Quote from: I'mCongrats on this HUGE milestone. I cant thank you enough for all the input you have had in my own quit. Keep leading bro!Congrats on the third floor bro.
Keep up the good work my good sir.
363 days... The same forwards and backwards, a palindromeic number.Dad is better title than principal. That is awesome! There will always be job opportunities but you only have your chance to be a dad once in life. You will get through this you very smart man and strong willed! Good luck on your business. Damn proud to be quit with you today my friend!
My life is almost palindromeic.
The stress, the same as a year ago.
The pressures from life, the same as a year ago.
The way I deal with the pressures and stress, not the same as a year ago.
I was under the false pretense that I needed to have nicotine in my system to cope and overcome those stressors.
I this last 363 days I have:
- Saved my marriage
- Lost control of my career
- Fought anxiety
- Developed tools and strategies to overcome
- Fought to keep my job
- Realized that it is a job and not who I am
- Began to regain control by no longer changing who I am fo the sake of others
- Resigned from my job
- Sued my former employer
- Won a 4 month paid vacation.
- Got blacklisted in education
- Realized that my children pay more than any job
- Dad is a better title than principal
- Concluded that one does not need 30 desks and 4 walls to be a teacher. Just an opportunity.
- Choose to start my own business
That choice brought back the stressors on the marriage. But I am 100% nicotine free, through out all of this. I haven't focused on a set amount of days, just get to tomorrow. Today is doable, beyond that is too much.
I quit for today.
363 days... The same forwards and backwards, a palindromeic number.Thanks for posting this Candoit. Some ring true already, others I look forward to experiencing. Good way to jump off this week. Quit with you today.
My life is almost palindromeic.
The stress, the same as a year ago.
The pressures from life, the same as a year ago.
The way I deal with the pressures and stress, not the same as a year ago.
I was under the false pretense that I needed to have nicotine in my system to cope and overcome those stressors.
I this last 363 days I have:
- Saved my marriage
- Lost control of my career
- Fought anxiety
- Developed tools and strategies to overcome
- Fought to keep my job
- Realized that it is a job and not who I am
- Began to regain control by no longer changing who I am fo the sake of others
- Resigned from my job
- Sued my former employer
- Won a 4 month paid vacation.
- Got blacklisted in education
- Realized that my children pay more than any job
- Dad is a better title than principal
- Concluded that one does not need 30 desks and 4 walls to be a teacher. Just an opportunity.
- Choose to start my own business
That choice brought back the stressors on the marriage. But I am 100% nicotine free, through out all of this. I haven't focused on a set amount of days, just get to tomorrow. Today is doable, beyond that is too much.
I quit for today.
Keep killing it every day man.Quote from: Candoit363 days... The same forwards and backwards, a palindromeic number.Thanks for posting this Candoit. Some ring true already, others I look forward to experiencing. Good way to jump off this week. Quit with you today.
My life is almost palindromeic.
The stress, the same as a year ago.
The pressures from life, the same as a year ago.
The way I deal with the pressures and stress, not the same as a year ago.
I was under the false pretense that I needed to have nicotine in my system to cope and overcome those stressors.
I this last 363 days I have:
- Saved my marriage
- Lost control of my career
- Fought anxiety
- Developed tools and strategies to overcome
- Fought to keep my job
- Realized that it is a job and not who I am
- Began to regain control by no longer changing who I am fo the sake of others
- Resigned from my job
- Sued my former employer
- Won a 4 month paid vacation.
- Got blacklisted in education
- Realized that my children pay more than any job
- Dad is a better title than principal
- Concluded that one does not need 30 desks and 4 walls to be a teacher. Just an opportunity.
- Choose to start my own business
That choice brought back the stressors on the marriage. But I am 100% nicotine free, through out all of this. I haven't focused on a set amount of days, just get to tomorrow. Today is doable, beyond that is too much.
I quit for today.
King
Glad I caught on to your shirt-tail.Quote from: KingNothingKeep killing it every day man.Quote from: Candoit363 days... The same forwards and backwards, a palindromeic number.Thanks for posting this Candoit. Some ring true already, others I look forward to experiencing. Good way to jump off this week. Quit with you today.
My life is almost palindromeic.
The stress, the same as a year ago.
The pressures from life, the same as a year ago.
The way I deal with the pressures and stress, not the same as a year ago.
I was under the false pretense that I needed to have nicotine in my system to cope and overcome those stressors.
I this last 363 days I have:
- Saved my marriage
- Lost control of my career
- Fought anxiety
- Developed tools and strategies to overcome
- Fought to keep my job
- Realized that it is a job and not who I am
- Began to regain control by no longer changing who I am fo the sake of others
- Resigned from my job
- Sued my former employer
- Won a 4 month paid vacation.
- Got blacklisted in education
- Realized that my children pay more than any job
- Dad is a better title than principal
- Concluded that one does not need 30 desks and 4 walls to be a teacher. Just an opportunity.
- Choose to start my own business
That choice brought back the stressors on the marriage. But I am 100% nicotine free, through out all of this. I haven't focused on a set amount of days, just get to tomorrow. Today is doable, beyond that is too much.
I quit for today.
King
Proud of you.
Today is what we control. The more support we have the easier today is. Thank you all.Quote from: wastepanelGlad I caught on to your shirt-tail.Quote from: KingNothingKeep killing it every day man.Quote from: Pab194Thanks for posting this Candoit. Some ring true already, others I look forward to experiencing. Good way to jump off this week. Quit with you today.Quote from: Candoit363 days... The same forwards and backwards, a palindromeic number.Dad is better title than principal. That is awesome! There will always be job opportunities but you only have your chance to be a dad once in life. You will get through this you very smart man and strong willed! Good luck on your business. Damn proud to be quit with you today my friend!
My life is almost palindromeic.
The stress, the same as a year ago.
The pressures from life, the same as a year ago.
The way I deal with the pressures and stress, not the same as a year ago.
I was under the false pretense that I needed to have nicotine in my system to cope and overcome those stressors.
I this last 363 days I have:
- Saved my marriage
- Lost control of my career
- Fought anxiety
- Developed tools and strategies to overcome
- Fought to keep my job
- Realized that it is a job and not who I am
- Began to regain control by no longer changing who I am fo the sake of others
- Resigned from my job
- Sued my former employer
- Won a 4 month paid vacation.
- Got blacklisted in education
- Realized that my children pay more than any job
- Dad is a better title than principal
- Concluded that one does not need 30 desks and 4 walls to be a teacher. Just an opportunity.
- Choose to start my own business
That choice brought back the stressors on the marriage. But I am 100% nicotine free, through out all of this. I haven't focused on a set amount of days, just get to tomorrow. Today is doable, beyond that is too much.
I quit for today.
King
Proud of you.
Strong quit to follow. Sincere Thx.
I've learned plenty from you Cando and I want to thank you for that. I know that if you put the kind of passion you have for quitting into a business, or just about anything for that matter, you will succeed. Women are another matter completely.Quote from: ChickDipToday is what we control. The more support we have the easier today is. Thank you all.Quote from: wastepanelGlad I caught on to your shirt-tail.Quote from: KingNothingKeep killing it every day man.Quote from: Pab194Thanks for posting this Candoit. Some ring true already, others I look forward to experiencing. Good way to jump off this week. Quit with you today.Quote from: Candoit363 days... The same forwards and backwards, a palindromeic number.Dad is better title than principal. That is awesome! There will always be job opportunities but you only have your chance to be a dad once in life. You will get through this you very smart man and strong willed! Good luck on your business. Damn proud to be quit with you today my friend!
My life is almost palindromeic.
The stress, the same as a year ago.
The pressures from life, the same as a year ago.
The way I deal with the pressures and stress, not the same as a year ago.
I was under the false pretense that I needed to have nicotine in my system to cope and overcome those stressors.
I this last 363 days I have:
- Saved my marriage
- Lost control of my career
- Fought anxiety
- Developed tools and strategies to overcome
- Fought to keep my job
- Realized that it is a job and not who I am
- Began to regain control by no longer changing who I am fo the sake of others
- Resigned from my job
- Sued my former employer
- Won a 4 month paid vacation.
- Got blacklisted in education
- Realized that my children pay more than any job
- Dad is a better title than principal
- Concluded that one does not need 30 desks and 4 walls to be a teacher. Just an opportunity.
- Choose to start my own business
That choice brought back the stressors on the marriage. But I am 100% nicotine free, through out all of this. I haven't focused on a set amount of days, just get to tomorrow. Today is doable, beyond that is too much.
I quit for today.
King
Proud of you.
Strong quit to follow. Sincere Thx.
Congratulations on 1 year!1 year 10 years just keep doing what you're doing its needed! Congratulations my friend!
Congrats Cando!!!Quote from: invaderCongratulations on 1 year!1 year 10 years just keep doing what you're doing its needed! Congratulations my friend!
Candi on a sweetride to quitsville!Quote from: pab1964Congrats Cando!!!Quote from: invaderCongratulations on 1 year!1 year 10 years just keep doing what you're doing its needed! Congratulations my friend!
You rock, my intellectually stellar quit-friend!! Does my heart good to see you sharing the quit wisdom as far and wide as the eye can see. You, sir, are truly a BAQ.Quote from: ChickDipCandi on a sweetride to quitsville!Thanks for everything you do for the newbies, Cando. It goes a long way and is much appreciated. Hope all is well with your new biz. Proud to quit with you today.Quote from: trigerhapyCongratulations on your milestone of 1 year!Quote from: pab1964Congrats Cando!!!Quote from: invaderCongratulations on 1 year!1 year 10 years just keep doing what you're doing its needed! Congratulations my friend!
Enjoy it and here's to quitting with you today!
You have helped so many... but I thank you for helping me.
'chief'
'party2'
Congrats on your journey around the sun! You've helped make quite a few lives better.Quote from: KingNothingYou rock, my intellectually stellar quit-friend!! Does my heart good to see you sharing the quit wisdom as far and wide as the eye can see. You, sir, are truly a BAQ.Quote from: ChickDipCandi on a sweetride to quitsville!Thanks for everything you do for the newbies, Cando. It goes a long way and is much appreciated. Hope all is well with your new biz. Proud to quit with you today.Quote from: trigerhapyCongratulations on your milestone of 1 year!Quote from: pab1964Congrats Cando!!!Quote from: invaderCongratulations on 1 year!1 year 10 years just keep doing what you're doing its needed! Congratulations my friend!
Enjoy it and here's to quitting with you today!
You have helped so many... but I thank you for helping me.
'chief'
'party2'
Congrats Candy! You are the man. When anyone doubts you just recall this. "Bitch please. I'm the Candy Man" 'archer'Quote from: CavMan83Congrats on your journey around the sun! You've helped make quite a few lives better.Quote from: KingNothingYou rock, my intellectually stellar quit-friend!! Does my heart good to see you sharing the quit wisdom as far and wide as the eye can see. You, sir, are truly a BAQ.Quote from: ChickDipCandi on a sweetride to quitsville!Thanks for everything you do for the newbies, Cando. It goes a long way and is much appreciated. Hope all is well with your new biz. Proud to quit with you today.Quote from: trigerhapyCongratulations on your milestone of 1 year!Quote from: pab1964Congrats Cando!!!Quote from: invaderCongratulations on 1 year!1 year 10 years just keep doing what you're doing its needed! Congratulations my friend!
Enjoy it and here's to quitting with you today!
You have helped so many... but I thank you for helping me.
'chief'
'party2'
Congratulations Candy! Thanks for the help along the way!!Quote from: quarkCongrats Candy! You are the man. When anyone doubts you just recall this. "Bitch please. I'm the Candy Man" 'archer'Quote from: CavMan83Congrats on your journey around the sun! You've helped make quite a few lives better.Quote from: KingNothingYou rock, my intellectually stellar quit-friend!! Does my heart good to see you sharing the quit wisdom as far and wide as the eye can see. You, sir, are truly a BAQ.Quote from: ChickDipCandi on a sweetride to quitsville!Thanks for everything you do for the newbies, Cando. It goes a long way and is much appreciated. Hope all is well with your new biz. Proud to quit with you today.Quote from: trigerhapyCongratulations on your milestone of 1 year!Quote from: pab1964Congrats Cando!!!Quote from: invaderCongratulations on 1 year!1 year 10 years just keep doing what you're doing its needed! Congratulations my friend!
Enjoy it and here's to quitting with you today!
You have helped so many... but I thank you for helping me.
'chief'
'party2'
Congrats Candy on your Orbit around the Sun nicotine free. You are a Quit Behemoth around these parts, constantly bringing the Truth to the newer groups, laying down the law when needed, and giving inspiration at the right intervals of struggle.... your Leadership has not gone unnoticed, that's for sure... Here's to 400!Quote from: RandallCongratulations Candy! Thanks for the help along the way!!Quote from: quarkCongrats Candy! You are the man. When anyone doubts you just recall this. "Bitch please. I'm the Candy Man" 'archer'Quote from: CavMan83Congrats on your journey around the sun! You've helped make quite a few lives better.Quote from: KingNothingYou rock, my intellectually stellar quit-friend!! Does my heart good to see you sharing the quit wisdom as far and wide as the eye can see. You, sir, are truly a BAQ.Quote from: ChickDipCandi on a sweetride to quitsville!Thanks for everything you do for the newbies, Cando. It goes a long way and is much appreciated. Hope all is well with your new biz. Proud to quit with you today.Quote from: trigerhapyCongratulations on your milestone of 1 year!Quote from: pab1964Congrats Cando!!!Quote from: invaderCongratulations on 1 year!1 year 10 years just keep doing what you're doing its needed! Congratulations my friend!
Enjoy it and here's to quitting with you today!
You have helped so many... but I thank you for helping me.
'chief'
'party2'
Yesterday I had a tough day as far as my addiction went. It wasn't craves. I have had craves that literally brought me to my knees. That wasn't it. These were persistent thoughts...like a dip would taste great. If I have one I will be able to focus better. Why not? Just take my lumps and move on.With you Candy man and thanks again for being there for me last night. Not in that way, but you know to help a brother pull through. Sick, not like that either. Anyway, thanks again bro, it won't soon be forgotten.
Guess what I pulled over and read KTC for almost an hour in a target parking lot. This is a constant reminder of the choices and actions we make. I choose to ignore those thoughts. I choose to honor my word. I put my quit above myselfish indulgence.
Make the right choice and embrace the hard choices. Those hard choices, may not pay off today or tomorrow, they will pay off in the long term. When you choose to reflect on the series of events that have happened you will realize why we do what we do here and how it pays off. I made it to post another +1, that is a huge vicotry no matter your day count.
If that was my attitude a couple nights ago, my quit would be toast right now. We've all tried to do this thing on our own before, with no success. Now look at all the guys on here that are quit because they used the tools they learned on here. I don't know what it's like to be on day 380, but that's a big damn number. Slam the door on the what-ifs. That's the devil playing games with you. Grab your ball and go home. Quit with you all day today Candy.Sorry KN. This is nothing to do with quit. But getting my business off the ground. They want me to go back to a 9-5 salaried position, it is safe. Not that every job I ever had made me miserable.
Gotcha. Nonetheless, I quit with you anyway, and good luck with the business stuff.Quote from: KingNothingIf that was my attitude a couple nights ago, my quit would be toast right now. We've all tried to do this thing on our own before, with no success. Now look at all the guys on here that are quit because they used the tools they learned on here. I don't know what it's like to be on day 380, but that's a big damn number. Slam the door on the what-ifs. That's the devil playing games with you. Grab your ball and go home. Quit with you all day today Candy.Sorry KN. This is nothing to do with quit. But getting my business off the ground. They want me to go back to a 9-5 salaried position, it is safe. Not that every job I ever had made me miserable.
Thanks KN.Quote from: CandoitGotcha. Nonetheless, I quit with you anyway, and good luck with the business stuff.Quote from: KingNothingIf that was my attitude a couple nights ago, my quit would be toast right now. We've all tried to do this thing on our own before, with no success. Now look at all the guys on here that are quit because they used the tools they learned on here. I don't know what it's like to be on day 380, but that's a big damn number. Slam the door on the what-ifs. That's the devil playing games with you. Grab your ball and go home. Quit with you all day today Candy.Sorry KN. This is nothing to do with quit. But getting my business off the ground. They want me to go back to a 9-5 salaried position, it is safe. Not that every job I ever had made me miserable.
You started a business? What kind of business? I don't know what its like to start a business and because of that not have steady money coming in but I feel for you. What does it take to start seeing some revenue? I may not have the answers but maybe someone at KTC who reads this might have some pointers to offer? Or direction? Your a bad ass and have proven that hard work and perseverance will get you where you need to go. Hold your head high. Karma will come back to bless you.Quote from: KingNothingThanks KN.Quote from: CandoitGotcha. Nonetheless, I quit with you anyway, and good luck with the business stuff.Quote from: KingNothingIf that was my attitude a couple nights ago, my quit would be toast right now. We've all tried to do this thing on our own before, with no success. Now look at all the guys on here that are quit because they used the tools they learned on here. I don't know what it's like to be on day 380, but that's a big damn number. Slam the door on the what-ifs. That's the devil playing games with you. Grab your ball and go home. Quit with you all day today Candy.Sorry KN. This is nothing to do with quit. But getting my business off the ground. They want me to go back to a 9-5 salaried position, it is safe. Not that every job I ever had made me miserable.
I am finding that I am almost reverting in away. About this point a year ago, I used the boards to share my thoughts and ideas. Not for any great purpose or reasoning, but just as a place to capture them.
Both Mcarmo and Wastepanel said it that there is an ebb and flow to activity here. I am really finding that to be true. But the phrase that stands out to me is that KTC is what you need when you need it. Believe it or not that is from Mcarmo.
I am truely frustrated and disappointed with myself for things that I can not control or change. I can not create money or business when there is none. Everyone days its a number game or just push through. I want to, I want to stay at Aflac. For the first time in my life I own my business. But it takes time. Time is something a stressed wife doesn't want to give me.
It's not easy. On the one hand, you have your wife to take care of and make sure she's provided for. On the other hand, just like you can't quit dip for her, sometimes you have to make some decisions for you as well.Quote from: CandoitYou started a business? What kind of business? I don't know what its like to start a business and because of that not have steady money coming in but I feel for you. What does it take to start seeing some revenue? I may not have the answers but maybe someone at KTC who reads this might have some pointers to offer? Or direction? Your a bad ass and have proven that hard work and perseverance will get you where you need to go. Hold your head high. Karma will come back to bless you.Quote from: KingNothingThanks KN.Quote from: CandoitGotcha. Nonetheless, I quit with you anyway, and good luck with the business stuff.Quote from: KingNothingIf that was my attitude a couple nights ago, my quit would be toast right now. We've all tried to do this thing on our own before, with no success. Now look at all the guys on here that are quit because they used the tools they learned on here. I don't know what it's like to be on day 380, but that's a big damn number. Slam the door on the what-ifs. That's the devil playing games with you. Grab your ball and go home. Quit with you all day today Candy.Sorry KN. This is nothing to do with quit. But getting my business off the ground. They want me to go back to a 9-5 salaried position, it is safe. Not that every job I ever had made me miserable.
I am finding that I am almost reverting in away. About this point a year ago, I used the boards to share my thoughts and ideas. Not for any great purpose or reasoning, but just as a place to capture them.
Both Mcarmo and Wastepanel said it that there is an ebb and flow to activity here. I am really finding that to be true. But the phrase that stands out to me is that KTC is what you need when you need it. Believe it or not that is from Mcarmo.
I am truely frustrated and disappointed with myself for things that I can not control or change. I can not create money or business when there is none. Everyone days its a number game or just push through. I want to, I want to stay at Aflac. For the first time in my life I own my business. But it takes time. Time is something a stressed wife doesn't want to give me.
I am a 1099 employee for AFLAC at 100% commission. It is built on educating people, selling and keeping a promise.Quote from: I'mIt's not easy. On the one hand, you have your wife to take care of and make sure she's provided for. On the other hand, just like you can't quit dip for her, sometimes you have to make some decisions for you as well.Quote from: CandoitYou started a business? What kind of business? I don't know what its like to start a business and because of that not have steady money coming in but I feel for you. What does it take to start seeing some revenue? I may not have the answers but maybe someone at KTC who reads this might have some pointers to offer? Or direction? Your a bad ass and have proven that hard work and perseverance will get you where you need to go. Hold your head high. Karma will come back to bless you.Quote from: KingNothingThanks KN.Quote from: CandoitGotcha. Nonetheless, I quit with you anyway, and good luck with the business stuff.Quote from: KingNothingIf that was my attitude a couple nights ago, my quit would be toast right now. We've all tried to do this thing on our own before, with no success. Now look at all the guys on here that are quit because they used the tools they learned on here. I don't know what it's like to be on day 380, but that's a big damn number. Slam the door on the what-ifs. That's the devil playing games with you. Grab your ball and go home. Quit with you all day today Candy.Sorry KN. This is nothing to do with quit. But getting my business off the ground. They want me to go back to a 9-5 salaried position, it is safe. Not that every job I ever had made me miserable.
I am finding that I am almost reverting in away. About this point a year ago, I used the boards to share my thoughts and ideas. Not for any great purpose or reasoning, but just as a place to capture them.
Both Mcarmo and Wastepanel said it that there is an ebb and flow to activity here. I am really finding that to be true. But the phrase that stands out to me is that KTC is what you need when you need it. Believe it or not that is from Mcarmo.
I am truely frustrated and disappointed with myself for things that I can not control or change. I can not create money or business when there is none. Everyone days its a number game or just push through. I want to, I want to stay at Aflac. For the first time in my life I own my business. But it takes time. Time is something a stressed wife doesn't want to give me.
This is not an easy one, but I will say this. Whatever the decision, you and your wife both have to live with and deal with the consequences because it will affect both of you. I'm sure you've already done so, but maybe a nice quiet dinner out on the town where you can have a conversation for an hour or so and really hash out the pros and cons to both sides. It has to be a team decision, because if it's not, somebody is going to feel slighted.
It may also help to not just make the decision for the present. For example, maybe stick with Aflac for another year with the promise from your wife that a year from now, she'll go balls deep with you on your own business. Something like that where everybody wins.
Anyway, hope this helps Candy.
I am so broken right now. I don't know how to deal with anything. It is my fault the marriage fell apart. We talked again for a while last night.I wish I could say something witty here, But all I have is my sympathy. Call or text if you need ANYTHING. QLF with you today.
It comes down to the fact that I am broken and lost. She said that I am going through this "mid life crisis" and she can not do it. "What ever happened to the person you were? What did that woman (my boss last boss) do to you? You used to be confident and social, now you are a hermit and weak. I have to protect the girls and right now we can't do that. I don't know if our marriage can be saved, but you need to fix you before anything else."
I don't know how to fix me. I am out of ideas, I saught professional help before and it didn't help. I don't know even where to begin.
Are you a religious person?I have made $500 over the past two months. I had faith that I could make 100% commission work. In that time I had such blinders on I missed everything from helping hands to signs that it was in trouble. I now have burned so many bridges that I don't know if it is repairable.
When I am down - especially with money issues ( the last 5 years of my life) - I always look at what I do have. Do I have enough food for my family, fresh water, and roof over my head? Yes? Then I have it better than 60% of the world. You live in the US, and what I hope is a safe part of the country - bonus! Start there, and pull yourself up.
Just know God is in control candoit, I'll pray for you and your significant other. God always knows best.Quote from: ThumblewortAre you a religious person?I have made $500 over the past two months. I had faith that I could make 100% commission work. In that time I had such blinders on I missed everything from helping hands to signs that it was in trouble. I now have burned so many bridges that I don't know if it is repairable.
When I am down - especially with money issues ( the last 5 years of my life) - I always look at what I do have. Do I have enough food for my family, fresh water, and roof over my head? Yes? Then I have it better than 60% of the world. You live in the US, and what I hope is a safe part of the country - bonus! Start there, and pull yourself up.
You may be surprised. I have burnt many bridges - or so I thought. If you are contrite, you may find that the bridge isn't burnt. You also need to do whatever it takes to fight for what is most important to you.Quote from: ThumblewortAre you a religious person?I have made $500 over the past two months. I had faith that I could make 100% commission work. In that time I had such blinders on I missed everything from helping hands to signs that it was in trouble. I now have burned so many bridges that I don't know if it is repairable.
When I am down - especially with money issues ( the last 5 years of my life) - I always look at what I do have. Do I have enough food for my family, fresh water, and roof over my head? Yes? Then I have it better than 60% of the world. You live in the US, and what I hope is a safe part of the country - bonus! Start there, and pull yourself up.
I am a RC. A recovering Catholic. I have faith and trust in God. He puts challenges and reality checks in our paths to see if we are truely listening. I thought I was listening and following him. But I feel like I am constantly paying pennence for bad choices and something I did.Quote from: CandoitYou may be surprised. I have burnt many bridges - or so I thought. If you are contrite, you may find that the bridge isn't burnt. You also need to do whatever it takes to fight for what is most important to you.Quote from: ThumblewortAre you a religious person?I have made $500 over the past two months. I had faith that I could make 100% commission work. In that time I had such blinders on I missed everything from helping hands to signs that it was in trouble. I now have burned so many bridges that I don't know if it is repairable.
When I am down - especially with money issues ( the last 5 years of my life) - I always look at what I do have. Do I have enough food for my family, fresh water, and roof over my head? Yes? Then I have it better than 60% of the world. You live in the US, and what I hope is a safe part of the country - bonus! Start there, and pull yourself up.
You and I quit nicotine over a year ago, and speaking for myself, it was one of the hardest things I have done. If it was as hard for you as it was for me, then you are a fighter. You fought for your life and win on a daily basis, so now fight for your family and do what it takes.
And if you are religious, pray, I have seen many good things happen to people of faith.
Just like the Nic bitch, that is the devil trying to trick you. All of us on this board know that you are a bad ass for quitting for so long, why not do the same with the devil and kick his ass out of your life. Give all your troubles to God and truly trust him. I will be praying for you my brother!Quote from: ThumblewortI am a RC. A recovering Catholic. I have faith and trust in God. He puts challenges and reality checks in our paths to see if we are truely listening. I thought I was listening and following him. But I feel like I am constantly paying pennence for bad choices and something I did.Quote from: CandoitYou may be surprised. I have burnt many bridges - or so I thought. If you are contrite, you may find that the bridge isn't burnt. You also need to do whatever it takes to fight for what is most important to you.Quote from: ThumblewortAre you a religious person?I have made $500 over the past two months. I had faith that I could make 100% commission work. In that time I had such blinders on I missed everything from helping hands to signs that it was in trouble. I now have burned so many bridges that I don't know if it is repairable.
When I am down - especially with money issues ( the last 5 years of my life) - I always look at what I do have. Do I have enough food for my family, fresh water, and roof over my head? Yes? Then I have it better than 60% of the world. You live in the US, and what I hope is a safe part of the country - bonus! Start there, and pull yourself up.
You and I quit nicotine over a year ago, and speaking for myself, it was one of the hardest things I have done. If it was as hard for you as it was for me, then you are a fighter. You fought for your life and win on a daily basis, so now fight for your family and do what it takes.
And if you are religious, pray, I have seen many good things happen to people of faith.
Candy man my brother. No one here knows what you're going through but you, we can only assume. I will say we all make poor decisions in life. You're a very smart person, step back look at what's going on in your life , figure out what's really gonna help you get out of this situation as wort said take care of what's most important to you take care of that first and foremost! My heart goes out to you , get down on your knees you will probably find your answers. You as well as anyone on here knows that only bad things follow the tin! Prayers to you and yours!Quote from: CandoitJust like the Nic bitch, that is the devil trying to trick you. All of us on this board know that you are a bad ass for quitting for so long, why not do the same with the devil and kick his ass out of your life. Give all your troubles to God and truly trust him. I will be praying for you my brother!Quote from: ThumblewortI am a RC. A recovering Catholic. I have faith and trust in God. He puts challenges and reality checks in our paths to see if we are truely listening. I thought I was listening and following him. But I feel like I am constantly paying pennence for bad choices and something I did.Quote from: CandoitYou may be surprised. I have burnt many bridges - or so I thought. If you are contrite, you may find that the bridge isn't burnt. You also need to do whatever it takes to fight for what is most important to you.Quote from: ThumblewortAre you a religious person?I have made $500 over the past two months. I had faith that I could make 100% commission work. In that time I had such blinders on I missed everything from helping hands to signs that it was in trouble. I now have burned so many bridges that I don't know if it is repairable.
When I am down - especially with money issues ( the last 5 years of my life) - I always look at what I do have. Do I have enough food for my family, fresh water, and roof over my head? Yes? Then I have it better than 60% of the world. You live in the US, and what I hope is a safe part of the country - bonus! Start there, and pull yourself up.
You and I quit nicotine over a year ago, and speaking for myself, it was one of the hardest things I have done. If it was as hard for you as it was for me, then you are a fighter. You fought for your life and win on a daily basis, so now fight for your family and do what it takes.
And if you are religious, pray, I have seen many good things happen to people of faith.
At this point I have applied to 11 jobs in the past 24 hoursGood on you brother. Sometimes it won't be easy, but it will always be worth it. Heard that around this place once or twice...
- UPS
- Macys x 2
- Lowes x 3
- Verizon Wireless x 2
- Sikoriksy
- Jenesen Communications
- A green home company
I put my truck, that I only use on the weekend up for sale.
Told AFLAC that I am done as soon as I find something that pays. But I cant seem to let go of it 100%, I dont know why, I think part of me knows that I could make it work at some point. But for now it needs to be done.
Tomorrow I need to apply to a minimum of 5 jobs. That is going to be my daily goal. I will post here for accountability sake.
I also need to figure out if I am going to go to a wedding with her tomorrow night. Her entire family will be there. I want to go but I dont know if she wants me there. She says it is up to me. IDK....so lost. I need to sleep on it.
Thank you all for the support. I am choosing to share it because this place is about fixing all of you and I need the support. KTC gives you more support than I can ever get face to face. The prayers, texts, messages, and posts do never go unnoticed or unread. I quit with you all every day.
I am going to at least continue to post about this in here. I need to document this journey for my sake. These next few weeks to months are going to be hard but I need to know I did everything possible.
Go with your wife ,face all of her family with your head held high! Candoit whatever you do, don't feel sorry for yourself my brother, remember you will get through this and whatever comes of this you must let it be God's will. You are a man and there still may be a chance you could make some really good money with aflac but sometimes it takes awhile to build up clientele. One things for sure your ktc family has your back. You got this! You will get a job.Quote from: CandoitAt this point I have applied to 11 jobs in the past 24 hoursGood on you brother. Sometimes it won't be easy, but it will always be worth it. Heard that around this place once or twice...
- UPS
- Macys x 2
- Lowes x 3
- Verizon Wireless x 2
- Sikoriksy
- Jenesen Communications
- A green home company
I put my truck, that I only use on the weekend up for sale.
Told AFLAC that I am done as soon as I find something that pays. But I cant seem to let go of it 100%, I dont know why, I think part of me knows that I could make it work at some point. But for now it needs to be done.
Tomorrow I need to apply to a minimum of 5 jobs. That is going to be my daily goal. I will post here for accountability sake.
I also need to figure out if I am going to go to a wedding with her tomorrow night. Her entire family will be there. I want to go but I dont know if she wants me there. She says it is up to me. IDK....so lost. I need to sleep on it.
Thank you all for the support. I am choosing to share it because this place is about fixing all of you and I need the support. KTC gives you more support than I can ever get face to face. The prayers, texts, messages, and posts do never go unnoticed or unread. I quit with you all every day.
I am going to at least continue to post about this in here. I need to document this journey for my sake. These next few weeks to months are going to be hard but I need to know I did everything possible.
And another thing. I just left Popcorn pick up for Cub Scouts. And I volunteer for fundraising for the Cub Scouts and I volunteer for fundraising for Little League. I think if you volunteer with whatever organization do the fundraising. Not many people want to do it. It'll give you good practice for sales and you'll find that raising funds for yourself is much easier. What I mean is: you'll learn that doing fundraising help should be passionate about pulling out money for the organization. And then you will hopefully realize that you can apply that'sGrizz my father was the Kernel for years. I am an Eagle Scout and Vigil Honor, also was lodge chief. I have two girls 7 4, so I dont think Scouting is in my immediate future. I am considering getting back involved in Masonary. I need to get out of the house and stop being a hermit more than practice sales skills. My biggest issue is that when I quit forced me to deal with all of the shit that it hid. Add on top of that my career coming unraveled. I have been grasping at straws to try and regain some kind of foothold.
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Wow, timid and fear are 2 words I would have never thought of to describe you! Use some of your knowledge and wisdom you put in here in real life. You can be very smart and at times intimidating on here. Stumbling blocks happen in almost everyone's life, you can choose to fight or lay down and I damn well know you're a fighter. Get off your ass and get it done whatever it is and whatever it takes. As far as your wife goes, stop and take time to see if it's you and don't wallow in your self pity! Sometimes we say things that sound a little harsh but often it takes a good swift kick in the nuts to wake us up! If I didn't give a shit, I wouldn't have already posted on this a half dozen times.Quote from: grizzlyhasclawsAnd another thing. I just left Popcorn pick up for Cub Scouts. And I volunteer for fundraising for the Cub Scouts and I volunteer for fundraising for Little League. I think if you volunteer with whatever organization do the fundraising. Not many people want to do it. It'll give you good practice for sales and you'll find that raising funds for yourself is much easier. What I mean is: you'll learn that doing fundraising help should be passionate about pulling out money for the organization. And then you will hopefully realize that you can apply that'sGrizz my father was the Kernel for years. I am an Eagle Scout and Vigil Honor, also was lodge chief. I have two girls 7 4, so I dont think Scouting is in my immediate future. I am considering getting back involved in Masonary. I need to get out of the house and stop being a hermit more than practice sales skills. My biggest issue is that when I quit forced me to deal with all of the shit that it hid. Add on top of that my career coming unraveled. I have been grasping at straws to try and regain some kind of foothold.
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My wife is right that I am not the same person I was 13 months ago. I need to change. I need to find that new medium between what I was and what I need to change.
I am way to stubborn and need to prove that I can do it on my own. That has to change.
I used to be able to see the big picture and now I cant.
I used to be confident but now I am timid.
I used have no fear of failure, now it consumes me.
I know spend more time thinking than doing.
There is a happy medium and I don't know how to get there. I will someday.
I'll tell you. Toastmasters is great. I love it. It's cheap too. I recommend it if you're looking to gain confidence. Plus you'll meet some cool people.I will.
Candoit:Quote from: grizzlyhasclawsI'll tell you. Toastmasters is great. I love it. It's cheap too. I recommend it if you're looking to gain confidence. Plus you'll meet some cool people.I will.
After spending the last hour crying my eyes out, I cant come to grips with just letting things go and happen. I want her to tell me right now how to fix it. I want to know that we will always be a family. I want to know that we will come out of this more in love than ever before. I keep asking her the same questions over and over.
But she is in a different place right now, I just need to hold onto her long enough to prove that I am worth loving.
Me too brother. I'm always a text or phone call away.Quote from: CandoitCandoit:Quote from: grizzlyhasclawsI'll tell you. Toastmasters is great. I love it. It's cheap too. I recommend it if you're looking to gain confidence. Plus you'll meet some cool people.I will.
After spending the last hour crying my eyes out, I cant come to grips with just letting things go and happen. I want her to tell me right now how to fix it. I want to know that we will always be a family. I want to know that we will come out of this more in love than ever before. I keep asking her the same questions over and over.
But she is in a different place right now, I just need to hold onto her long enough to prove that I am worth loving.
I went through this 17 years or so ago (with my first wife). I heard some of the same things.
I don't know what to tell you . . it was one of the darkest periods of my life.
But I will be thinking about you.
I just need to hold onto her long enough to prove that I am worth loving.I know you are in a tough place and I'm here for you too man. But never forget your self worth comes from within not from another person. Is she is not in love with you it does not make you unworthy of it, it just means it's not the right fit.
Develop a plan. Develop a system. Tell your wife your plan and your system to get the income back up to where it needs to be. It's a process. It's a system. Tell her your system. Stick to your system every single day. It's just like quitting. Same dedication and same systematic behavior. Build your framework. Share with your wife. Get up every damn morning and work the fuck out of your system. Don't take no shit from no one. You are special. You can go out there and do whatever you want. Tackle it head on.Quote from: grizzlyhasclawsI'll tell you. Toastmasters is great. I love it. It's cheap too. I recommend it if you're looking to gain confidence. Plus you'll meet some cool people.I will.
After spending the last hour crying my eyes out, I cant come to grips with just letting things go and happen. I want her to tell me right now how to fix it. I want to know that we will always be a family. I want to know that we will come out of this more in love than ever before. I keep asking her the same questions over and over.
But she is in a different place right now, I just need to hold onto her long enough to prove that I am worth loving.
Right now my plan is...We all change, that is the nature of the beast when we quit nicotine. The addiction that covers up so much, we just need to take the deep breath and re-learn a lot about ourselves.
Apply non stop for jobs. Stop this AFLAC shit now
Apply for unemployment benefits
Make enough money to support more than my share any way possible
Work on me. Dedicate time to working on me. Going to the gym, going out and being social again
Showing through actions that I have changed.
I thank you again SD. I can do this, I have to do this. I didnt quit for anyone but me. I need to fix this for me.Quote from: CandoitRight now my plan is...We all change, that is the nature of the beast when we quit nicotine. The addiction that covers up so much, we just need to take the deep breath and re-learn a lot about ourselves.
Apply non stop for jobs. Stop this AFLAC shit now
Apply for unemployment benefits
Make enough money to support more than my share any way possible
Work on me. Dedicate time to working on me. Going to the gym, going out and being social again
Showing through actions that I have changed.
But as we all see, we are not alone when we quit. We let other know that we do. That will let them know that when our behavior changes, it explains a little of why we are doing what we do.
And as I have texted you, when I say we are not alone, that includes the families from all of us, as that is the point we should all strive to get to. I included my wife and kids in my quit, as I believe you have (and others). And it is with this involvement I mentioned for the significant others to reach out to one another. They have that unique perspective that can help in so many ways from their help to us, with just conversing with others.
We all came from a similar background, we turned to a poison to help. Now lets turn to each other and our families to help.
Never look too far down as there is much there for you (in life and work). The sun will shine. Just keep looking for it.
Right now my plan is...You need a system. Daily items that you complete, that are productive, that lead to increased income.
Apply non stop for jobs. Stop this AFLAC shit now
Apply for unemployment benefits
Make enough money to support more than my share any way possible
Work on me. Dedicate time to working on me. Going to the gym, going out and being social again
Showing through actions that I have changed.
I am a mess. She just walked in from the wedding looked amazing, and I want to break down into tears.You and I haven't talked, but I know you. Because we are a lot alike.
I need to document this, for me. This is not a Candoit pity party. This is for me, to remind me of how stupid I was and what I am fighting for.
Quote from: CoachDoc,JulOK...sleeping in an extra room in the attic, wife started looking for apartments for me to move into but realized we cant afford a mortgage and a rent. So, yesterday morning she said we might consider turning the basement into an apartment, but didn't know what my "comfort level" would be still living in the same house if she were to move on, start going out with friends and even maybe going on a date, "if anyone is interested." How the hell do you answer that? Later, before I went to work in the ER yesterday, she said we should talk about maybe writing out a formal separation agreement.ÂAll right coach, youÂ’ve dished out enough tough love in your time on the site, itÂ’s about time you eat some of your own medicine! What the fuck is wrong with you? Your wife has turned you into a sniveling, self loathing, pussy! Sorry, but I bet it was the Marine in you, that she fell in love with! IÂ’ll bet it was the man you used to be that she felt obliged to have four sons with.
Pretty effed up, right? Might wonder why I would post that here, huh?
I guess I was right when I said my marriage would end before my quit.
I post it here so that any of the other quitters having trouble with their spouses see that they are not the only ones. Also, I put it out there so everyone knows that dipping wouldn't make any of this any better or easier to deal with. Does that mean that I haven't thought about caving? NO. What it means is that I have used my numbers, I've called/texted my brothers and let them know I was struggling. I came on here and re-affirmed my promise to remain quit for the day and reminded myself that I am quit. If you have stayed quit for even one day, there is no-one that can take that quit away from you but you.
I will preface the rest of this statement by telling you that I am a single guy and I have never been married. I have no children, and I am happy with my life. I have recently separated with my last girlfriend after raising her and her two boys for over 11 years. I am still in touch with the boys, and now that I am my own man again, they want to be around me rather than that pussy I became with their fucked up mom.
WhatÂ’s the definition of insanity? Doing the same thing over and over again and expect a different result. So fucking what if she is a Marriage Counselor. This never makes them more correct than you. IÂ’m a fucking engineer. You know what? All that means is I can duplicate what other people had to discover. IÂ’m not the genius, someone else was, and I just read the books. IÂ’m just piggy-backing. She studied shit for years and believes she knows the answers, then why is her relationship failing? She didnÂ’t see this coming? She didnÂ’t know how to stop it from happening?
No woman in the history of females has ever, ever, EVER!!! Fallen in love with a pussy-man. I’ve seen women with unattractive men and they say he is smart, funny, loyal, insightful… whatever. Never have I heard a woman tell anyone “I just love the way he folds like a cheap suit. I can tell him to do anything, and he is a complete pushover. I just love that about him!” They turn you into this man they despise and the whole time you think it will strengthen the relationship and then it has the opposite result. You know what she will find next? The “you” you used to be.
I believe Clampy sent you a copy of a book written by a complete fucking GENIUS! I will tell you that this book holds the key to your happiness. I have read this “holy grail” and I will tell you that it is the “relationship bible”. Then why am I single, you ask? Because in the end you will learn to promote your own happiness, and this will not necessarily mean it must be with the person that is beating you senseless. Would you set up your picnic next to the only pile of dog shit in the park? Read the book! Read it twice! Try something different.
Do you truly believe you cannot exist without this woman? Did you think you could live without chew? I think it was you that posted about fighting our conditioned responses. I think itÂ’s time to practice what you preach! I understand your love for the children, but let me ask you this; do you want them to observe that it is appropriate for a man to sleep in the basement while their wife has men over. To be conditioned to believe that a woman can walk on them as long as she feels superior? Think of one of your boys going through the same thing, what advice would you give them? Would it be different than the advice you would give yourself?
IÂ’m on your side buddy. YouÂ’ve been a great quit brother, and I am sorry for the difficult time, but at some point enough is enough. You are going to have to try something different. Even if itÂ’s wrong.
Sunday morning - day 4Prayers man.
She is still sleeping. Girls are up and playing, all I want to do is go on like nothing changed. Not ignore it or pretend it didn't happen, but that it will all be okay.
I can't do that I think that is what bothers me the most right now, there is no instant fix.
I just walked in the door from having lunch with I'm Done With Chew. Tell you what, that brother not only changed my attitude but my outlook. The past 4 hrs was needed and will never be forgotten.Quote from: CandoitSunday morning - day 4Prayers man.
She is still sleeping. Girls are up and playing, all I want to do is go on like nothing changed. Not ignore it or pretend it didn't happen, but that it will all be okay.
I can't do that I think that is what bothers me the most right now, there is no instant fix.
Like quitting, life is a one moment at a time. Sometimes you come out on top. Sometimes you get knocked on your ass. But it's not how hard you hit back in this life. It's how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. (Thanks rocky).
Live in the moment and remember that the past is the past (both the good and the bad). Don't rekindle. Build. And if that don't work, well, it takes two to tango. You can only control your actions.
Sounds promising, now go with it and get the olé candy back! Alot guy's depend and count on you here! Quitting with you today my friend! God bless you and help you in times like these.Quote from: wastepanelI just walked in the door from having lunch with I'm Done With Chew. Tell you what, that brother not only changed my attitude but my outlook. The past 4 hrs was needed and will never be forgotten.Quote from: CandoitSunday morning - day 4Prayers man.
She is still sleeping. Girls are up and playing, all I want to do is go on like nothing changed. Not ignore it or pretend it didn't happen, but that it will all be okay.
I can't do that I think that is what bothers me the most right now, there is no instant fix.
Like quitting, life is a one moment at a time. Sometimes you come out on top. Sometimes you get knocked on your ass. But it's not how hard you hit back in this life. It's how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. (Thanks rocky).
Live in the moment and remember that the past is the past (both the good and the bad). Don't rekindle. Build. And if that don't work, well, it takes two to tango. You can only control your actions.
I know it's cliche and frankly, hard as hell, but you have to stay strong. Things like eating healthy, getting sleep, getting in shape and bringing home a paycheck may seem impossible but will make a world of difference in how you see yourself and how she sees you. Look beyond the worry and kick some ass. One year from now you will be in a totally different place and with hard work, it will be exponentially better.Quote from: CandoitSounds promising, now go with it and get the olé candy back! Alot guy's depend and count on you here! Quitting with you today my friend! God bless you and help you in times like these.Quote from: wastepanelI just walked in the door from having lunch with I'm Done With Chew. Tell you what, that brother not only changed my attitude but my outlook. The past 4 hrs was needed and will never be forgotten.Quote from: CandoitSunday morning - day 4Prayers man.
She is still sleeping. Girls are up and playing, all I want to do is go on like nothing changed. Not ignore it or pretend it didn't happen, but that it will all be okay.
I can't do that I think that is what bothers me the most right now, there is no instant fix.
Like quitting, life is a one moment at a time. Sometimes you come out on top. Sometimes you get knocked on your ass. But it's not how hard you hit back in this life. It's how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. (Thanks rocky).
Live in the moment and remember that the past is the past (both the good and the bad). Don't rekindle. Build. And if that don't work, well, it takes two to tango. You can only control your actions.
391/5Well done brother! It sounds like you are listening with both ears now. Keep up your "Can Do It" attitude, do this now, fight for what you want and believe that you deserve, earn it all back one day at a time.
391: +1's. Fuk yeah! Earned each one of those bad SOB's. But they also are wounds that won't heal. I have tried to ignore and let them heal on their own. That did not work. I grasped at straws and had some faith it would work out.
I delt with them one at a time and some will just fade away. Oh how wrong I was. God was pissed I wasn't listening, he kept sending signs and signals, and I was in my own happy little world. Then he kicked me so hard I saw my balls fly out my nose like a party favor. Shook me to my core.
That is the 5. I finally heard the message 5 days ago. Good for you your quit, stop resting on your lorals, and get your ass in gear, or I am going to repo your life. You are not paying for it, you are over due on your payments of love, honesty, and respect. You are not keeping the promise you made to love and protect them. You can honor your word for 386 days why can't you keep it to your own wife and childern?
Guess what I heard you. Loud and clear. You sent people, strangers to help me. You did not leave me nor turn your back on me. Now I need to do my part. I know I need to get money moving into this house. That is priority #1. I am going to sell a bunch of tools to a pawn store today. I can't just sit and wait for someone to call with an interview and a check.
So untill then I have an extra kidney, lung, dog, cat, truck and a defeated ego for sale. PM me if interested.
Thanks P. All I can say is that is amazing what a swift kick can do for you.Quote from: Candoit391/5Well done brother! It sounds like you are listening with both ears now. Keep up your "Can Do It" attitude, do this now, fight for what you want and believe that you deserve, earn it all back one day at a time.
391: +1's. Fuk yeah! Earned each one of those bad SOB's. But they also are wounds that won't heal. I have tried to ignore and let them heal on their own. That did not work. I grasped at straws and had some faith it would work out.
I delt with them one at a time and some will just fade away. Oh how wrong I was. God was pissed I wasn't listening, he kept sending signs and signals, and I was in my own happy little world. Then he kicked me so hard I saw my balls fly out my nose like a party favor. Shook me to my core.
That is the 5. I finally heard the message 5 days ago. Good for you your quit, stop resting on your lorals, and get your ass in gear, or I am going to repo your life. You are not paying for it, you are over due on your payments of love, honesty, and respect. You are not keeping the promise you made to love and protect them. You can honor your word for 386 days why can't you keep it to your own wife and childern?
Guess what I heard you. Loud and clear. You sent people, strangers to help me. You did not leave me nor turn your back on me. Now I need to do my part. I know I need to get money moving into this house. That is priority #1. I am going to sell a bunch of tools to a pawn store today. I can't just sit and wait for someone to call with an interview and a check.
So untill then I have an extra kidney, lung, dog, cat, truck and a defeated ego for sale. PM me if interested.
She kicks my ass from time to time. I am sure I always deserve it. Even if I'm not sure why.Quote from: PinchedThanks P. All I can say is that is amazing what a swift kick can do for you.Quote from: Candoit391/5Well done brother! It sounds like you are listening with both ears now. Keep up your "Can Do It" attitude, do this now, fight for what you want and believe that you deserve, earn it all back one day at a time.
391: +1's. Fuk yeah! Earned each one of those bad SOB's. But they also are wounds that won't heal. I have tried to ignore and let them heal on their own. That did not work. I grasped at straws and had some faith it would work out.
I delt with them one at a time and some will just fade away. Oh how wrong I was. God was pissed I wasn't listening, he kept sending signs and signals, and I was in my own happy little world. Then he kicked me so hard I saw my balls fly out my nose like a party favor. Shook me to my core.
That is the 5. I finally heard the message 5 days ago. Good for you your quit, stop resting on your lorals, and get your ass in gear, or I am going to repo your life. You are not paying for it, you are over due on your payments of love, honesty, and respect. You are not keeping the promise you made to love and protect them. You can honor your word for 386 days why can't you keep it to your own wife and childern?
Guess what I heard you. Loud and clear. You sent people, strangers to help me. You did not leave me nor turn your back on me. Now I need to do my part. I know I need to get money moving into this house. That is priority #1. I am going to sell a bunch of tools to a pawn store today. I can't just sit and wait for someone to call with an interview and a check.
So untill then I have an extra kidney, lung, dog, cat, truck and a defeated ego for sale. PM me if interested.
"Smacking IDWC back to reality is my job." Mrs. IDWC
It is nessary any wives that think that a swift kick in the ego, will hurt the relationship? As long as it is warrented, start stretching, and get a running start.
Sounds like alot of prayers answered great news! Keep your head up! You got this! Quit on!Quote from: CandoitShe kicks my ass from time to time. I am sure I always deserve it. Even if I'm not sure why.Quote from: PinchedThanks P. All I can say is that is amazing what a swift kick can do for you.Quote from: Candoit391/5Well done brother! It sounds like you are listening with both ears now. Keep up your "Can Do It" attitude, do this now, fight for what you want and believe that you deserve, earn it all back one day at a time.
391: +1's. Fuk yeah! Earned each one of those bad SOB's. But they also are wounds that won't heal. I have tried to ignore and let them heal on their own. That did not work. I grasped at straws and had some faith it would work out.
I delt with them one at a time and some will just fade away. Oh how wrong I was. God was pissed I wasn't listening, he kept sending signs and signals, and I was in my own happy little world. Then he kicked me so hard I saw my balls fly out my nose like a party favor. Shook me to my core.
That is the 5. I finally heard the message 5 days ago. Good for you your quit, stop resting on your lorals, and get your ass in gear, or I am going to repo your life. You are not paying for it, you are over due on your payments of love, honesty, and respect. You are not keeping the promise you made to love and protect them. You can honor your word for 386 days why can't you keep it to your own wife and childern?
Guess what I heard you. Loud and clear. You sent people, strangers to help me. You did not leave me nor turn your back on me. Now I need to do my part. I know I need to get money moving into this house. That is priority #1. I am going to sell a bunch of tools to a pawn store today. I can't just sit and wait for someone to call with an interview and a check.
So untill then I have an extra kidney, lung, dog, cat, truck and a defeated ego for sale. PM me if interested.
"Smacking IDWC back to reality is my job." Mrs. IDWC
It is nessary any wives that think that a swift kick in the ego, will hurt the relationship? As long as it is warrented, start stretching, and get a running start.
392/6Good for you Candy. Things are on the uptick it sounds like. Thoughts and prayers still with you.
So I yesterday was a whirlwind of shit and emotion. Got an interview call with a marketing firm, for Tuesday (today).
I went to AFLAC drop stuff off and sat through the meeting. I don't know what even to say about that. I have a grudge against them right now, but it is a focus of anger. The pawn shop was closed. So I drove to the Starbucks, about to get out of the car, I get another call for an interview, the same day. Great, but it is damn near an hour away. What ever, I rush home get changed, and go. I end up having to pull over because I am a wreck and need to pull myself together. It is a sales job. Pedling some air purification system. I can do it, base salary + bonus. But the guy is a moron. Doesn't read my resume beyond the first line, what ever.
I leave I have a phone call from another company, Bankers Life, that is 100% commission. No thanks. I also start talking to marriage counselers. I get an appt for Thursday. I tell my wife, she goes well I have plans, I guess I can reschedule. I told her don't worry, he wanted to see both of us individually at some point so I will go by myself. I never got a response.
That was yesterday. Today is today. I need to focus on small achievable steps. But more importantly I need money coming in. So 1:30 interview will determine what the next step is, on to the job boards.
I prove that I have changed. But I also realized something uesyesterday. I had my confindnce, self worth, and pride sitting next to me on the couch all these months, and it took me really losing it to realize I had it.
Positive attitude breeds positive outcomes.... NOW THAT IS CLICHE! But it comes from truth!Quote from: Candoit392/6Good for you Candy. Things are on the uptick it sounds like. Thoughts and prayers still with you.
So I yesterday was a whirlwind of shit and emotion. Got an interview call with a marketing firm, for Tuesday (today).
I went to AFLAC drop stuff off and sat through the meeting. I don't know what even to say about that. I have a grudge against them right now, but it is a focus of anger. The pawn shop was closed. So I drove to the Starbucks, about to get out of the car, I get another call for an interview, the same day. Great, but it is damn near an hour away. What ever, I rush home get changed, and go. I end up having to pull over because I am a wreck and need to pull myself together. It is a sales job. Pedling some air purification system. I can do it, base salary + bonus. But the guy is a moron. Doesn't read my resume beyond the first line, what ever.
I leave I have a phone call from another company, Bankers Life, that is 100% commission. No thanks. I also start talking to marriage counselers. I get an appt for Thursday. I tell my wife, she goes well I have plans, I guess I can reschedule. I told her don't worry, he wanted to see both of us individually at some point so I will go by myself. I never got a response.
That was yesterday. Today is today. I need to focus on small achievable steps. But more importantly I need money coming in. So 1:30 interview will determine what the next step is, on to the job boards.
I prove that I have changed. But I also realized something uesyesterday. I had my confindnce, self worth, and pride sitting next to me on the couch all these months, and it took me really losing it to realize I had it.
We made an promise in front of friends, family and God. For better or worse till death do us part.Perfectly stated friend. I had to snip out one of the comments for my signature. You truly inspire many of us her on KTC. Stay open, stay honest and remain a man of integrity and you will you be able to look at yourself in the mirror with out judgement or guilt.
We make a promise with our brothers everyday, I will not use nicotine in any form, for better or worse, for today.
We can easily walk away from either. What surprises me, is the number of people that are willing to not honor their word.
With out honor, love, and respect we are nothing. What happened to the morals and ethics that our fathers taught us? Be honorable, be able to look yourself in the mirror at the end of the day, be able to follow through.
Nothing about keeping either of those promises is easy, but when you made them, you knew that you could and wanted to keep them.
What happened? Things got hard? You got hurt? You are scared? You realized that things changed? Hate to break it to you sunshine, life is not all princesses and unicorns.
To be honorable means looking at the insurmountable odds, saying I don't give a fuck. Then keep your promise. If your promise is to fail, let it be on them and not you.
In the end you want to be able to face St. Peter and say: "I have done everything within my power to live up to the expectations he set forth."
How many promises have you made?
How many have you kept?
The answers to those two questions are the simplest measure of an honorable person.
Do not come here with the intention of being dishonorable. That is unacceptable and inexcusable. Don't ever tell any quitter in here life is too hard to keep a promise. We are among the few left in this country who live honorably among our brothers.
I have been jotting down thoughts as they come to me, I wrote this last night.Share this with your wife! Candy go into your marriage just like you have with your quit. You do whatever it takes to get it done. You don't give up. You promise yourself before it's all said and done, I've done everything humanly possible to fight for what's mine ,then in the end no matter what happens you will have a piece of mind knowing that you did your best. Prayers to you!
I have given you 10 years of my life. There is not one person that I would rather had by my side.
For all of the issues we have had.
For all of the words not said.
For all of the tears shed in private.
For all of the feelings lost.
I want to hear them.
I want to dry them.
I want to experience them.........WITH YOU!
We have become new people.
We have become new people not despite us but because of us.
I have never lost sight of why I fell in love with you.
Your smile, your touch, your kind eyes. Our daughters give me the same look every day. That look is a constant reminder of why I love you and never have stopped loving you.
When they look at me, I see:
What was.
What is.
What it can be.
Which is what gives me the strength, courage, and faith that this is worth fighting for.
We made a promise to grow together.
We never figured out how.
We now can learn together.
We can discover who we are together.
I can only hope with every fiber of my being that you continue to walk with me on this journey.
I am so scared.Being scared is a natural human reaction. But the energy you are expending being scared is fruitless. Refocus and harness that energy on bettering yourself through an employment change. I suggested before and I'll suggest again doing literally anything to get that ball rolling - including delivering pizza. An idol mind is the devils workshop. Once you get back in the work world and you are able to focus more on that, I bet you spouse will be happy with some changes you've made.
Why am I shouldering all of the blame?
Why am I saying this is all my fault?
Why am I doing all of this to save it?
Am I holding on to something that isn't worth it? I believe I should be fighting for it, but how do I keep going? This is draining beyond anything I ever experienced.
I feel used and broken. I am scared that I wasted time and effort. But I can tell that she is also unsure. Statements like right now, maybe, at this point. In those there is hope that is what I am holding on too.
I have been trying, Lowes, home depot, Walmart, today a few liqour stores. I am also going to apply at a couple super markets.Quote from: CandoitI am so scared.Being scared is a natural human reaction. But the energy you are expending being scared is fruitless. Refocus and harness that energy on bettering yourself through an employment change. I suggested before and I'll suggest again doing literally anything to get that ball rolling - including delivering pizza. An idol mind is the devils workshop. Once you get back in the work world and you are able to focus more on that, I bet you spouse will be happy with some changes you've made.
Why am I shouldering all of the blame?
Why am I saying this is all my fault?
Why am I doing all of this to save it?
Am I holding on to something that isn't worth it? I believe I should be fighting for it, but how do I keep going? This is draining beyond anything I ever experienced.
I feel used and broken. I am scared that I wasted time and effort. But I can tell that she is also unsure. Statements like right now, maybe, at this point. In those there is hope that is what I am holding on too.
Just my 2 cents sir.
God, please grant me strength and courage. I am terrified of what is going to happen.Candie. Be strong bro. You might feel like there is no light right now. You're not alone. But there is only one way to go, and that is forward. You gotta fight hard sometimes. Shit does not always come easy, or quick. But anything worth having is hard to get, but also worth the fight.
Why are we taught and believe that if we work hard we will be rewarded. I don't know how much more rejection I can take, I don't know how I can keep moving forward , positivity. I am trying so hard to hold it together, but it is falling apart.
Prayers man. Just never give up man.Quote from: CandoitGod, please grant me strength and courage. I am terrified of what is going to happen.Candie. Be strong bro. You might feel like there is no light right now. You're not alone. But there is only one way to go, and that is forward. You gotta fight hard sometimes. Shit does not always come easy, or quick. But anything worth having is hard to get, but also worth the fight.
Why are we taught and believe that if we work hard we will be rewarded. I don't know how much more rejection I can take, I don't know how I can keep moving forward , positivity. I am trying so hard to hold it together, but it is falling apart.
Stay strong brother. I know you're fighting demons right now. Keep fighting. You're stronger than you think you are.
I am trying not to. The mental games of this whole thing, suck. I just am questioning everything I am doing (not my quit). Is it the right or wrong choice, will it help or hurt. Trying to justify everything.Quote from: NolaqPrayers man. Just never give up man.Quote from: CandoitGod, please grant me strength and courage. I am terrified of what is going to happen.Candie. Be strong bro. You might feel like there is no light right now. You're not alone. But there is only one way to go, and that is forward. You gotta fight hard sometimes. Shit does not always come easy, or quick. But anything worth having is hard to get, but also worth the fight.
Why are we taught and believe that if we work hard we will be rewarded. I don't know how much more rejection I can take, I don't know how I can keep moving forward , positivity. I am trying so hard to hold it together, but it is falling apart.
Stay strong brother. I know you're fighting demons right now. Keep fighting. You're stronger than you think you are.
Just keep trying man. You will break through. Don't worry about rejection or any of the shit that is out of your control. Everything you are doing is correct and you are trying. Dont waste energy debating if it is correct, just keep on doing.Quote from: mcarmo44I am trying not to. The mental games of this whole thing, suck. I just am questioning everything I am doing (not my quit). Is it the right or wrong choice, will it help or hurt. Trying to justify everything.Quote from: NolaqPrayers man. Just never give up man.Quote from: CandoitGod, please grant me strength and courage. I am terrified of what is going to happen.Candie. Be strong bro. You might feel like there is no light right now. You're not alone. But there is only one way to go, and that is forward. You gotta fight hard sometimes. Shit does not always come easy, or quick. But anything worth having is hard to get, but also worth the fight.
Why are we taught and believe that if we work hard we will be rewarded. I don't know how much more rejection I can take, I don't know how I can keep moving forward , positivity. I am trying so hard to hold it together, but it is falling apart.
Stay strong brother. I know you're fighting demons right now. Keep fighting. You're stronger than you think you are.
That's the doubt. I have no idea if it is correct or not.Quote from: CandoitJust keep trying man. You will break through. Don't worry about rejection or any of the shit that is out of your control. Everything you are doing is correct and you are trying. Dont waste energy debating if it is correct, just keep on doing.Quote from: mcarmo44I am trying not to. The mental games of this whole thing, suck. I just am questioning everything I am doing (not my quit). Is it the right or wrong choice, will it help or hurt. Trying to justify everything.Quote from: NolaqPrayers man. Just never give up man.Quote from: CandoitGod, please grant me strength and courage. I am terrified of what is going to happen.Candie. Be strong bro. You might feel like there is no light right now. You're not alone. But there is only one way to go, and that is forward. You gotta fight hard sometimes. Shit does not always come easy, or quick. But anything worth having is hard to get, but also worth the fight.
Why are we taught and believe that if we work hard we will be rewarded. I don't know how much more rejection I can take, I don't know how I can keep moving forward , positivity. I am trying so hard to hold it together, but it is falling apart.
Stay strong brother. I know you're fighting demons right now. Keep fighting. You're stronger than you think you are.
CandyQuote from: basshaugThat's the doubt. I have no idea if it is correct or not.Quote from: CandoitJust keep trying man. You will break through. Don't worry about rejection or any of the shit that is out of your control. Everything you are doing is correct and you are trying. Dont waste energy debating if it is correct, just keep on doing.Quote from: mcarmo44I am trying not to. The mental games of this whole thing, suck. I just am questioning everything I am doing (not my quit). Is it the right or wrong choice, will it help or hurt. Trying to justify everything.Quote from: NolaqPrayers man. Just never give up man.Quote from: CandoitGod, please grant me strength and courage. I am terrified of what is going to happen.Candie. Be strong bro. You might feel like there is no light right now. You're not alone. But there is only one way to go, and that is forward. You gotta fight hard sometimes. Shit does not always come easy, or quick. But anything worth having is hard to get, but also worth the fight.
Why are we taught and believe that if we work hard we will be rewarded. I don't know how much more rejection I can take, I don't know how I can keep moving forward , positivity. I am trying so hard to hold it together, but it is falling apart.
Stay strong brother. I know you're fighting demons right now. Keep fighting. You're stronger than you think you are.
After the past 10 months my judgement and faith in what is right is shattered and off. I don't know what else to do.Quote from: CandoitCandyQuote from: basshaugThat's the doubt. I have no idea if it is correct or not.Quote from: CandoitJust keep trying man. You will break through. Don't worry about rejection or any of the shit that is out of your control. Everything you are doing is correct and you are trying. Dont waste energy debating if it is correct, just keep on doing.Quote from: mcarmo44I am trying not to. The mental games of this whole thing, suck. I just am questioning everything I am doing (not my quit). Is it the right or wrong choice, will it help or hurt. Trying to justify everything.Quote from: NolaqPrayers man. Just never give up man.Quote from: CandoitGod, please grant me strength and courage. I am terrified of what is going to happen.Candie. Be strong bro. You might feel like there is no light right now. You're not alone. But there is only one way to go, and that is forward. You gotta fight hard sometimes. Shit does not always come easy, or quick. But anything worth having is hard to get, but also worth the fight.
Why are we taught and believe that if we work hard we will be rewarded. I don't know how much more rejection I can take, I don't know how I can keep moving forward , positivity. I am trying so hard to hold it together, but it is falling apart.
Stay strong brother. I know you're fighting demons right now. Keep fighting. You're stronger than you think you are.
I can't possibly imagine what you are going through. I can only imagine how painful it is.
Hang in there man. Keep fighting, keep doing what you think is right.
We care about what is happening to you even if it's long distance. Thoughts and prayers sent your way!!!Quote from: redtrain14After the past 10 months my judgement and faith in what is right is shattered and off. I don't know what else to do.Quote from: CandoitCandyQuote from: basshaugThat's the doubt. I have no idea if it is correct or not.Quote from: CandoitJust keep trying man. You will break through. Don't worry about rejection or any of the shit that is out of your control. Everything you are doing is correct and you are trying. Dont waste energy debating if it is correct, just keep on doing.Quote from: mcarmo44I am trying not to. The mental games of this whole thing, suck. I just am questioning everything I am doing (not my quit). Is it the right or wrong choice, will it help or hurt. Trying to justify everything.Quote from: NolaqPrayers man. Just never give up man.Quote from: CandoitGod, please grant me strength and courage. I am terrified of what is going to happen.Candie. Be strong bro. You might feel like there is no light right now. You're not alone. But there is only one way to go, and that is forward. You gotta fight hard sometimes. Shit does not always come easy, or quick. But anything worth having is hard to get, but also worth the fight.
Why are we taught and believe that if we work hard we will be rewarded. I don't know how much more rejection I can take, I don't know how I can keep moving forward , positivity. I am trying so hard to hold it together, but it is falling apart.
Stay strong brother. I know you're fighting demons right now. Keep fighting. You're stronger than you think you are.
I can't possibly imagine what you are going through. I can only imagine how painful it is.
Hang in there man. Keep fighting, keep doing what you think is right.
Applying to jobs, praying for guidance, and hoping that something happens.
We care about what is happening to you even if it's long distance. Thoughts and prayers sent your way!!!Quote from: redtrain14After the past 10 months my judgement and faith in what is right is shattered and off. I don't know what else to do.Quote from: CandoitCandyQuote from: basshaugThat's the doubt. I have no idea if it is correct or not.Quote from: CandoitJust keep trying man. You will break through. Don't worry about rejection or any of the shit that is out of your control. Everything you are doing is correct and you are trying. Dont waste energy debating if it is correct, just keep on doing.Quote from: mcarmo44I am trying not to. The mental games of this whole thing, suck. I just am questioning everything I am doing (not my quit). Is it the right or wrong choice, will it help or hurt. Trying to justify everything.Quote from: NolaqPrayers man. Just never give up man.Quote from: CandoitGod, please grant me strength and courage. I am terrified of what is going to happen.Candie. Be strong bro. You might feel like there is no light right now. You're not alone. But there is only one way to go, and that is forward. You gotta fight hard sometimes. Shit does not always come easy, or quick. But anything worth having is hard to get, but also worth the fight.
Why are we taught and believe that if we work hard we will be rewarded. I don't know how much more rejection I can take, I don't know how I can keep moving forward , positivity. I am trying so hard to hold it together, but it is falling apart.
Stay strong brother. I know you're fighting demons right now. Keep fighting. You're stronger than you think you are.
I can't possibly imagine what you are going through. I can only imagine how painful it is.
Hang in there man. Keep fighting, keep doing what you think is right.
Applying to jobs, praying for guidance, and hoping that something happens.
This family is what is giving me the strength to go forward. I know that I can do this and I will come out a new person.Quote from: CandoitWe care about what is happening to you even if it's long distance. Thoughts and prayers sent your way!!!Quote from: redtrain14After the past 10 months my judgement and faith in what is right is shattered and off. I don't know what else to do.Quote from: CandoitCandyQuote from: basshaugThat's the doubt. I have no idea if it is correct or not.Quote from: CandoitJust keep trying man. You will break through. Don't worry about rejection or any of the shit that is out of your control. Everything you are doing is correct and you are trying. Dont waste energy debating if it is correct, just keep on doing.Quote from: mcarmo44I am trying not to. The mental games of this whole thing, suck. I just am questioning everything I am doing (not my quit). Is it the right or wrong choice, will it help or hurt. Trying to justify everything.Quote from: NolaqPrayers man. Just never give up man.Quote from: CandoitGod, please grant me strength and courage. I am terrified of what is going to happen.Candie. Be strong bro. You might feel like there is no light right now. You're not alone. But there is only one way to go, and that is forward. You gotta fight hard sometimes. Shit does not always come easy, or quick. But anything worth having is hard to get, but also worth the fight.
Why are we taught and believe that if we work hard we will be rewarded. I don't know how much more rejection I can take, I don't know how I can keep moving forward , positivity. I am trying so hard to hold it together, but it is falling apart.
Stay strong brother. I know you're fighting demons right now. Keep fighting. You're stronger than you think you are.
I can't possibly imagine what you are going through. I can only imagine how painful it is.
Hang in there man. Keep fighting, keep doing what you think is right.
Applying to jobs, praying for guidance, and hoping that something happens.
Keep on fighting, Cando. Just like quitting, it's going to suck until it doesn't. This is your cue to move forward and leave all of the BS behind. Focus on gaining momentum each day, not in solving every last problem sitting in front of you.Quote from: kdipThis family is what is giving me the strength to go forward. I know that I can do this and I will come out a new person.Quote from: CandoitWe care about what is happening to you even if it's long distance. Thoughts and prayers sent your way!!!Quote from: redtrain14After the past 10 months my judgement and faith in what is right is shattered and off. I don't know what else to do.Quote from: CandoitCandyQuote from: basshaugThat's the doubt. I have no idea if it is correct or not.Quote from: CandoitJust keep trying man. You will break through. Don't worry about rejection or any of the shit that is out of your control. Everything you are doing is correct and you are trying. Dont waste energy debating if it is correct, just keep on doing.Quote from: mcarmo44I am trying not to. The mental games of this whole thing, suck. I just am questioning everything I am doing (not my quit). Is it the right or wrong choice, will it help or hurt. Trying to justify everything.Quote from: NolaqPrayers man. Just never give up man.Quote from: CandoitGod, please grant me strength and courage. I am terrified of what is going to happen.Candie. Be strong bro. You might feel like there is no light right now. You're not alone. But there is only one way to go, and that is forward. You gotta fight hard sometimes. Shit does not always come easy, or quick. But anything worth having is hard to get, but also worth the fight.
Why are we taught and believe that if we work hard we will be rewarded. I don't know how much more rejection I can take, I don't know how I can keep moving forward , positivity. I am trying so hard to hold it together, but it is falling apart.
Stay strong brother. I know you're fighting demons right now. Keep fighting. You're stronger than you think you are.
I can't possibly imagine what you are going through. I can only imagine how painful it is.
Hang in there man. Keep fighting, keep doing what you think is right.
Applying to jobs, praying for guidance, and hoping that something happens.
I am struggling with words to express what this brotherhood is all about.
Quitting is all about changing who you are not what you do. Right now your prayers, thoughts, texts, and PMS are what is keeping me going.
Candy praying every day for you, fight for what you believe is right but somehow I can't see all the problems being all your fault. Stay strong and don't say never, it is what it is and we can't control everything. Be the man candy!Quote from: CandoitKeep on fighting, Cando. Just like quitting, it's going to suck until it doesn't. This is your cue to move forward and leave all of the BS behind. Focus on gaining momentum each day, not in solving every last problem sitting in front of you.Quote from: kdipThis family is what is giving me the strength to go forward. I know that I can do this and I will come out a new person.Quote from: CandoitWe care about what is happening to you even if it's long distance. Thoughts and prayers sent your way!!!Quote from: redtrain14After the past 10 months my judgement and faith in what is right is shattered and off. I don't know what else to do.Quote from: CandoitCandyQuote from: basshaugThat's the doubt. I have no idea if it is correct or not.Quote from: CandoitJust keep trying man. You will break through. Don't worry about rejection or any of the shit that is out of your control. Everything you are doing is correct and you are trying. Dont waste energy debating if it is correct, just keep on doing.Quote from: mcarmo44I am trying not to. The mental games of this whole thing, suck. I just am questioning everything I am doing (not my quit). Is it the right or wrong choice, will it help or hurt. Trying to justify everything.Quote from: NolaqPrayers man. Just never give up man.Quote from: CandoitGod, please grant me strength and courage. I am terrified of what is going to happen.Candie. Be strong bro. You might feel like there is no light right now. You're not alone. But there is only one way to go, and that is forward. You gotta fight hard sometimes. Shit does not always come easy, or quick. But anything worth having is hard to get, but also worth the fight.
Why are we taught and believe that if we work hard we will be rewarded. I don't know how much more rejection I can take, I don't know how I can keep moving forward , positivity. I am trying so hard to hold it together, but it is falling apart.
Stay strong brother. I know you're fighting demons right now. Keep fighting. You're stronger than you think you are.
I can't possibly imagine what you are going through. I can only imagine how painful it is.
Hang in there man. Keep fighting, keep doing what you think is right.
Applying to jobs, praying for guidance, and hoping that something happens.
I am struggling with words to express what this brotherhood is all about.
Quitting is all about changing who you are not what you do. Right now your prayers, thoughts, texts, and PMS are what is keeping me going.
The world seems crushing and suffocating right now. As long as you keep pushing forward, you will emerge stronger and victorious. Probably a lot faster than you realize.
Candy praying every day for you, fight for what you believe is right but somehow I can't see all the problems being all your fault. Stay strong and don't say never, it is what it is and we can't control everything. Be the man candy!Quote from: CandoitKeep on fighting, Cando. Just like quitting, it's going to suck until it doesn't. This is your cue to move forward and leave all of the BS behind. Focus on gaining momentum each day, not in solving every last problem sitting in front of you.Quote from: kdipThis family is what is giving me the strength to go forward. I know that I can do this and I will come out a new person.Quote from: CandoitWe care about what is happening to you even if it's long distance. Thoughts and prayers sent your way!!!Quote from: redtrain14After the past 10 months my judgement and faith in what is right is shattered and off. I don't know what else to do.Quote from: CandoitCandyQuote from: basshaugThat's the doubt. I have no idea if it is correct or not.Quote from: CandoitJust keep trying man. You will break through. Don't worry about rejection or any of the shit that is out of your control. Everything you are doing is correct and you are trying. Dont waste energy debating if it is correct, just keep on doing.Quote from: mcarmo44I am trying not to. The mental games of this whole thing, suck. I just am questioning everything I am doing (not my quit). Is it the right or wrong choice, will it help or hurt. Trying to justify everything.Quote from: NolaqPrayers man. Just never give up man.Quote from: CandoitGod, please grant me strength and courage. I am terrified of what is going to happen.Candie. Be strong bro. You might feel like there is no light right now. You're not alone. But there is only one way to go, and that is forward. You gotta fight hard sometimes. Shit does not always come easy, or quick. But anything worth having is hard to get, but also worth the fight.
Why are we taught and believe that if we work hard we will be rewarded. I don't know how much more rejection I can take, I don't know how I can keep moving forward , positivity. I am trying so hard to hold it together, but it is falling apart.
Stay strong brother. I know you're fighting demons right now. Keep fighting. You're stronger than you think you are.
I can't possibly imagine what you are going through. I can only imagine how painful it is.
Hang in there man. Keep fighting, keep doing what you think is right.
Applying to jobs, praying for guidance, and hoping that something happens.
I am struggling with words to express what this brotherhood is all about.
Quitting is all about changing who you are not what you do. Right now your prayers, thoughts, texts, and PMS are what is keeping me going.
The world seems crushing and suffocating right now. As long as you keep pushing forward, you will emerge stronger and victorious. Probably a lot faster than you realize.
Candy praying every day for you, fight for what you believe is right but somehow I can't see all the problems being all your fault. Stay strong and don't say never, it is what it is and we can't control everything. Be the man candy!Quote from: CandoitKeep on fighting, Cando. Just like quitting, it's going to suck until it doesn't. This is your cue to move forward and leave all of the BS behind. Focus on gaining momentum each day, not in solving every last problem sitting in front of you.Quote from: kdipThis family is what is giving me the strength to go forward. I know that I can do this and I will come out a new person.Quote from: CandoitWe care about what is happening to you even if it's long distance. Thoughts and prayers sent your way!!!Quote from: redtrain14After the past 10 months my judgement and faith in what is right is shattered and off. I don't know what else to do.Quote from: CandoitCandyQuote from: basshaugThat's the doubt. I have no idea if it is correct or not.Quote from: CandoitJust keep trying man. You will break through. Don't worry about rejection or any of the shit that is out of your control. Everything you are doing is correct and you are trying. Dont waste energy debating if it is correct, just keep on doing.Quote from: mcarmo44I am trying not to. The mental games of this whole thing, suck. I just am questioning everything I am doing (not my quit). Is it the right or wrong choice, will it help or hurt. Trying to justify everything.Quote from: NolaqPrayers man. Just never give up man.Quote from: CandoitGod, please grant me strength and courage. I am terrified of what is going to happen.Candie. Be strong bro. You might feel like there is no light right now. You're not alone. But there is only one way to go, and that is forward. You gotta fight hard sometimes. Shit does not always come easy, or quick. But anything worth having is hard to get, but also worth the fight.
Why are we taught and believe that if we work hard we will be rewarded. I don't know how much more rejection I can take, I don't know how I can keep moving forward , positivity. I am trying so hard to hold it together, but it is falling apart.
Stay strong brother. I know you're fighting demons right now. Keep fighting. You're stronger than you think you are.
I can't possibly imagine what you are going through. I can only imagine how painful it is.
Hang in there man. Keep fighting, keep doing what you think is right.
Applying to jobs, praying for guidance, and hoping that something happens.
I am struggling with words to express what this brotherhood is all about.
Quitting is all about changing who you are not what you do. Right now your prayers, thoughts, texts, and PMS are what is keeping me going.
The world seems crushing and suffocating right now. As long as you keep pushing forward, you will emerge stronger and victorious. Probably a lot faster than you realize.
cando..i day at a time...its not just for quit...thoughts and prayers to you.Quote from: TucoCandy praying every day for you, fight for what you believe is right but somehow I can't see all the problems being all your fault. Stay strong and don't say never, it is what it is and we can't control everything. Be the man candy!Quote from: CandoitKeep on fighting, Cando. Just like quitting, it's going to suck until it doesn't. This is your cue to move forward and leave all of the BS behind. Focus on gaining momentum each day, not in solving every last problem sitting in front of you.Quote from: kdipThis family is what is giving me the strength to go forward. I know that I can do this and I will come out a new person.Quote from: CandoitWe care about what is happening to you even if it's long distance. Thoughts and prayers sent your way!!!Quote from: redtrain14After the past 10 months my judgement and faith in what is right is shattered and off. I don't know what else to do.Quote from: CandoitCandyQuote from: basshaugThat's the doubt. I have no idea if it is correct or not.Quote from: CandoitJust keep trying man. You will break through. Don't worry about rejection or any of the shit that is out of your control. Everything you are doing is correct and you are trying. Dont waste energy debating if it is correct, just keep on doing.Quote from: mcarmo44I am trying not to. The mental games of this whole thing, suck. I just am questioning everything I am doing (not my quit). Is it the right or wrong choice, will it help or hurt. Trying to justify everything.Quote from: NolaqPrayers man. Just never give up man.Quote from: CandoitGod, please grant me strength and courage. I am terrified of what is going to happen.Candie. Be strong bro. You might feel like there is no light right now. You're not alone. But there is only one way to go, and that is forward. You gotta fight hard sometimes. Shit does not always come easy, or quick. But anything worth having is hard to get, but also worth the fight.
Why are we taught and believe that if we work hard we will be rewarded. I don't know how much more rejection I can take, I don't know how I can keep moving forward , positivity. I am trying so hard to hold it together, but it is falling apart.
Stay strong brother. I know you're fighting demons right now. Keep fighting. You're stronger than you think you are.
I can't possibly imagine what you are going through. I can only imagine how painful it is.
Hang in there man. Keep fighting, keep doing what you think is right.
Applying to jobs, praying for guidance, and hoping that something happens.
I am struggling with words to express what this brotherhood is all about.
Quitting is all about changing who you are not what you do. Right now your prayers, thoughts, texts, and PMS are what is keeping me going.
The world seems crushing and suffocating right now. As long as you keep pushing forward, you will emerge stronger and victorious. Probably a lot faster than you realize.
I am smiling tonight because I let things go. And in return the strength I needed came from all of you. I will handle this as I handle my quit. ODAAT because that I Can Do and I am going to stick it out.Quote from: pab1964cando..i day at a time...its not just for quit...thoughts and prayers to you.Quote from: TucoCandy praying every day for you, fight for what you believe is right but somehow I can't see all the problems being all your fault. Stay strong and don't say never, it is what it is and we can't control everything. Be the man candy!Quote from: CandoitKeep on fighting, Cando. Just like quitting, it's going to suck until it doesn't. This is your cue to move forward and leave all of the BS behind. Focus on gaining momentum each day, not in solving every last problem sitting in front of you.Quote from: kdipThis family is what is giving me the strength to go forward. I know that I can do this and I will come out a new person.Quote from: CandoitWe care about what is happening to you even if it's long distance. Thoughts and prayers sent your way!!!Quote from: redtrain14After the past 10 months my judgement and faith in what is right is shattered and off. I don't know what else to do.Quote from: CandoitCandyQuote from: basshaugThat's the doubt. I have no idea if it is correct or not.Quote from: CandoitJust keep trying man. You will break through. Don't worry about rejection or any of the shit that is out of your control. Everything you are doing is correct and you are trying. Dont waste energy debating if it is correct, just keep on doing.Quote from: mcarmo44I am trying not to. The mental games of this whole thing, suck. I just am questioning everything I am doing (not my quit). Is it the right or wrong choice, will it help or hurt. Trying to justify everything.Quote from: NolaqPrayers man. Just never give up man.Quote from: CandoitGod, please grant me strength and courage. I am terrified of what is going to happen.Candie. Be strong bro. You might feel like there is no light right now. You're not alone. But there is only one way to go, and that is forward. You gotta fight hard sometimes. Shit does not always come easy, or quick. But anything worth having is hard to get, but also worth the fight.
Why are we taught and believe that if we work hard we will be rewarded. I don't know how much more rejection I can take, I don't know how I can keep moving forward , positivity. I am trying so hard to hold it together, but it is falling apart.
Stay strong brother. I know you're fighting demons right now. Keep fighting. You're stronger than you think you are.
I can't possibly imagine what you are going through. I can only imagine how painful it is.
Hang in there man. Keep fighting, keep doing what you think is right.
Applying to jobs, praying for guidance, and hoping that something happens.
I am struggling with words to express what this brotherhood is all about.
Quitting is all about changing who you are not what you do. Right now your prayers, thoughts, texts, and PMS are what is keeping me going.
The world seems crushing and suffocating right now. As long as you keep pushing forward, you will emerge stronger and victorious. Probably a lot faster than you realize.
Atta boy candy! Sometimes life can be a bitch, we must play the hand we're dealt. As far as men and women, now a days I'm seeing people that's been married 30+ years getting divorces. Me personally I think it's the fast pace world we're living in. Sometimes we have to do things a little different than we may want, to get the results we desire and then there's no guarantee. Put your faith in the hands of the man, it will always work out. Stop look around,be thankful of what you have and remember there's always someone alot worse off than ourselves! Stop smell the roses,breath in the fresh air and let the wind blow in your face,that's living my friend! Sorry can't stop trying to help, I'm a huge family man. Prayers to you daily.Quote from: D2maineI am smiling tonight because I let things go. And in return the strength I needed came from all of you. I will handle this as I handle my quit. ODAAT because that I Can Do and I am going to stick it out.Quote from: pab1964cando..i day at a time...its not just for quit...thoughts and prayers to you.Quote from: TucoCandy praying every day for you, fight for what you believe is right but somehow I can't see all the problems being all your fault. Stay strong and don't say never, it is what it is and we can't control everything. Be the man candy!Quote from: CandoitKeep on fighting, Cando. Just like quitting, it's going to suck until it doesn't. This is your cue to move forward and leave all of the BS behind. Focus on gaining momentum each day, not in solving every last problem sitting in front of you.Quote from: kdipThis family is what is giving me the strength to go forward. I know that I can do this and I will come out a new person.Quote from: CandoitWe care about what is happening to you even if it's long distance. Thoughts and prayers sent your way!!!Quote from: redtrain14After the past 10 months my judgement and faith in what is right is shattered and off. I don't know what else to do.Quote from: CandoitCandyQuote from: basshaugThat's the doubt. I have no idea if it is correct or not.Quote from: CandoitJust keep trying man. You will break through. Don't worry about rejection or any of the shit that is out of your control. Everything you are doing is correct and you are trying. Dont waste energy debating if it is correct, just keep on doing.Quote from: mcarmo44I am trying not to. The mental games of this whole thing, suck. I just am questioning everything I am doing (not my quit). Is it the right or wrong choice, will it help or hurt. Trying to justify everything.Quote from: NolaqPrayers man. Just never give up man.Quote from: CandoitGod, please grant me strength and courage. I am terrified of what is going to happen.Candie. Be strong bro. You might feel like there is no light right now. You're not alone. But there is only one way to go, and that is forward. You gotta fight hard sometimes. Shit does not always come easy, or quick. But anything worth having is hard to get, but also worth the fight.
Why are we taught and believe that if we work hard we will be rewarded. I don't know how much more rejection I can take, I don't know how I can keep moving forward , positivity. I am trying so hard to hold it together, but it is falling apart.
Stay strong brother. I know you're fighting demons right now. Keep fighting. You're stronger than you think you are.
I can't possibly imagine what you are going through. I can only imagine how painful it is.
Hang in there man. Keep fighting, keep doing what you think is right.
Applying to jobs, praying for guidance, and hoping that something happens.
I am struggling with words to express what this brotherhood is all about.
Quitting is all about changing who you are not what you do. Right now your prayers, thoughts, texts, and PMS are what is keeping me going.
The world seems crushing and suffocating right now. As long as you keep pushing forward, you will emerge stronger and victorious. Probably a lot faster than you realize.
Now that doesn't mean I am rock solid or won't have a melt down or 6 a day. Just a little clearing in the doom and gloom.
Don't ever stop being you for the sake of someone else. We have become to offendible and quick to give up. The reset button mentality. Life has no reset.Quote from: CandoitAtta boy candy! Sometimes life can be a bitch, we must play the hand we're dealt. As far as men and women, now a days I'm seeing people that's been married 30+ years getting divorces. Me personally I think it's the fast pace world we're living in. Sometimes we have to do things a little different than we may want, to get the results we desire and then there's no guarantee. Put your faith in the hands of the man, it will always work out. Stop look around,be thankful of what you have and remember there's always someone alot worse off than ourselves! Stop smell the roses,breath in the fresh air and let the wind blow in your face,that's living my friend! Sorry can't stop trying to help, I'm a huge family man. Prayers to you daily.Quote from: D2maineI am smiling tonight because I let things go. And in return the strength I needed came from all of you. I will handle this as I handle my quit. ODAAT because that I Can Do and I am going to stick it out.Quote from: pab1964cando..i day at a time...its not just for quit...thoughts and prayers to you.Quote from: TucoCandy praying every day for you, fight for what you believe is right but somehow I can't see all the problems being all your fault. Stay strong and don't say never, it is what it is and we can't control everything. Be the man candy!Quote from: CandoitKeep on fighting, Cando. Just like quitting, it's going to suck until it doesn't. This is your cue to move forward and leave all of the BS behind. Focus on gaining momentum each day, not in solving every last problem sitting in front of you.Quote from: kdipThis family is what is giving me the strength to go forward. I know that I can do this and I will come out a new person.Quote from: CandoitWe care about what is happening to you even if it's long distance. Thoughts and prayers sent your way!!!Quote from: redtrain14After the past 10 months my judgement and faith in what is right is shattered and off. I don't know what else to do.Quote from: CandoitCandyQuote from: basshaugThat's the doubt. I have no idea if it is correct or not.Quote from: CandoitJust keep trying man. You will break through. Don't worry about rejection or any of the shit that is out of your control. Everything you are doing is correct and you are trying. Dont waste energy debating if it is correct, just keep on doing.Quote from: mcarmo44I am trying not to. The mental games of this whole thing, suck. I just am questioning everything I am doing (not my quit). Is it the right or wrong choice, will it help or hurt. Trying to justify everything.Quote from: NolaqPrayers man. Just never give up man.Quote from: CandoitGod, please grant me strength and courage. I am terrified of what is going to happen.Candie. Be strong bro. You might feel like there is no light right now. You're not alone. But there is only one way to go, and that is forward. You gotta fight hard sometimes. Shit does not always come easy, or quick. But anything worth having is hard to get, but also worth the fight.
Why are we taught and believe that if we work hard we will be rewarded. I don't know how much more rejection I can take, I don't know how I can keep moving forward , positivity. I am trying so hard to hold it together, but it is falling apart.
Stay strong brother. I know you're fighting demons right now. Keep fighting. You're stronger than you think you are.
I can't possibly imagine what you are going through. I can only imagine how painful it is.
Hang in there man. Keep fighting, keep doing what you think is right.
Applying to jobs, praying for guidance, and hoping that something happens.
I am struggling with words to express what this brotherhood is all about.
Quitting is all about changing who you are not what you do. Right now your prayers, thoughts, texts, and PMS are what is keeping me going.
The world seems crushing and suffocating right now. As long as you keep pushing forward, you will emerge stronger and victorious. Probably a lot faster than you realize.
Now that doesn't mean I am rock solid or won't have a melt down or 6 a day. Just a little clearing in the doom and gloom.
I've had the privilege of meeting you. That allows me the ability to say this with first hand knowledge...... Things are hard right now but you have something a lot of people in life do not have. Intelligence and a fighting attitude. Being a fighter doesn't mean you are always tough or confident. Being a fighter is someone who keeps at it even when they are getting hit from every angle (picture Rocky). You have the intelligence to back up your attitude. That is a winning combination even if the fight doesn't end as quickly as you would like. Your a strong father and have support pouring in from all sides. This is a recipe for success. Hold your head up and be yourself. ODAAT has a way of working out most things. I got your back if you need anything!Quote from: pab1964Don't ever stop being you for the sake of someone else. We have become to offendible and quick to give up. The reset button mentality. Life has no reset.Quote from: CandoitAtta boy candy! Sometimes life can be a bitch, we must play the hand we're dealt. As far as men and women, now a days I'm seeing people that's been married 30+ years getting divorces. Me personally I think it's the fast pace world we're living in. Sometimes we have to do things a little different than we may want, to get the results we desire and then there's no guarantee. Put your faith in the hands of the man, it will always work out. Stop look around,be thankful of what you have and remember there's always someone alot worse off than ourselves! Stop smell the roses,breath in the fresh air and let the wind blow in your face,that's living my friend! Sorry can't stop trying to help, I'm a huge family man. Prayers to you daily.Quote from: D2maineI am smiling tonight because I let things go. And in return the strength I needed came from all of you. I will handle this as I handle my quit. ODAAT because that I Can Do and I am going to stick it out.Quote from: pab1964cando..i day at a time...its not just for quit...thoughts and prayers to you.Quote from: TucoCandy praying every day for you, fight for what you believe is right but somehow I can't see all the problems being all your fault. Stay strong and don't say never, it is what it is and we can't control everything. Be the man candy!Quote from: CandoitKeep on fighting, Cando. Just like quitting, it's going to suck until it doesn't. This is your cue to move forward and leave all of the BS behind. Focus on gaining momentum each day, not in solving every last problem sitting in front of you.Quote from: kdipThis family is what is giving me the strength to go forward. I know that I can do this and I will come out a new person.Quote from: CandoitWe care about what is happening to you even if it's long distance. Thoughts and prayers sent your way!!!Quote from: redtrain14After the past 10 months my judgement and faith in what is right is shattered and off. I don't know what else to do.Quote from: CandoitCandyQuote from: basshaugThat's the doubt. I have no idea if it is correct or not.Quote from: CandoitJust keep trying man. You will break through. Don't worry about rejection or any of the shit that is out of your control. Everything you are doing is correct and you are trying. Dont waste energy debating if it is correct, just keep on doing.Quote from: mcarmo44I am trying not to. The mental games of this whole thing, suck. I just am questioning everything I am doing (not my quit). Is it the right or wrong choice, will it help or hurt. Trying to justify everything.Quote from: NolaqPrayers man. Just never give up man.Quote from: CandoitGod, please grant me strength and courage. I am terrified of what is going to happen.Candie. Be strong bro. You might feel like there is no light right now. You're not alone. But there is only one way to go, and that is forward. You gotta fight hard sometimes. Shit does not always come easy, or quick. But anything worth having is hard to get, but also worth the fight.
Why are we taught and believe that if we work hard we will be rewarded. I don't know how much more rejection I can take, I don't know how I can keep moving forward , positivity. I am trying so hard to hold it together, but it is falling apart.
Stay strong brother. I know you're fighting demons right now. Keep fighting. You're stronger than you think you are.
I can't possibly imagine what you are going through. I can only imagine how painful it is.
Hang in there man. Keep fighting, keep doing what you think is right.
Applying to jobs, praying for guidance, and hoping that something happens.
I am struggling with words to express what this brotherhood is all about.
Quitting is all about changing who you are not what you do. Right now your prayers, thoughts, texts, and PMS are what is keeping me going.
The world seems crushing and suffocating right now. As long as you keep pushing forward, you will emerge stronger and victorious. Probably a lot faster than you realize.
Now that doesn't mean I am rock solid or won't have a melt down or 6 a day. Just a little clearing in the doom and gloom.
Pab continue to help. I will always need the help of others.
One is only a failure is if he does not get back up. I am picking myself up everyday. I can do that because I have you all.Quote from: CandoitI've had the privilege of meeting you. That allows me the ability to say this with first hand knowledge...... Things are hard right now but you have something a lot of people in life do not have. Intelligence and a fighting attitude. Being a fighter doesn't mean you are always tough or confident. Being a fighter is someone who keeps at it even when they are getting hit from every angle (picture Rocky). You have the intelligence to back up your attitude. That is a winning combination even if the fight doesn't end as quickly as you would like. Your a strong father and have support pouring in from all sides. This is a recipe for success. Hold your head up and be yourself. ODAAT has a way of working out most things. I got your back if you need anything!Quote from: pab1964Don't ever stop being you for the sake of someone else. We have become to offendible and quick to give up. The reset button mentality. Life has no reset.Quote from: CandoitAtta boy candy! Sometimes life can be a bitch, we must play the hand we're dealt. As far as men and women, now a days I'm seeing people that's been married 30+ years getting divorces. Me personally I think it's the fast pace world we're living in. Sometimes we have to do things a little different than we may want, to get the results we desire and then there's no guarantee. Put your faith in the hands of the man, it will always work out. Stop look around,be thankful of what you have and remember there's always someone alot worse off than ourselves! Stop smell the roses,breath in the fresh air and let the wind blow in your face,that's living my friend! Sorry can't stop trying to help, I'm a huge family man. Prayers to you daily.Quote from: D2maineI am smiling tonight because I let things go. And in return the strength I needed came from all of you. I will handle this as I handle my quit. ODAAT because that I Can Do and I am going to stick it out.Quote from: pab1964cando..i day at a time...its not just for quit...thoughts and prayers to you.Quote from: TucoCandy praying every day for you, fight for what you believe is right but somehow I can't see all the problems being all your fault. Stay strong and don't say never, it is what it is and we can't control everything. Be the man candy!Quote from: CandoitKeep on fighting, Cando. Just like quitting, it's going to suck until it doesn't. This is your cue to move forward and leave all of the BS behind. Focus on gaining momentum each day, not in solving every last problem sitting in front of you.Quote from: kdipThis family is what is giving me the strength to go forward. I know that I can do this and I will come out a new person.Quote from: CandoitWe care about what is happening to you even if it's long distance. Thoughts and prayers sent your way!!!Quote from: redtrain14After the past 10 months my judgement and faith in what is right is shattered and off. I don't know what else to do.Quote from: CandoitCandyQuote from: basshaugThat's the doubt. I have no idea if it is correct or not.Quote from: CandoitJust keep trying man. You will break through. Don't worry about rejection or any of the shit that is out of your control. Everything you are doing is correct and you are trying. Dont waste energy debating if it is correct, just keep on doing.Quote from: mcarmo44I am trying not to. The mental games of this whole thing, suck. I just am questioning everything I am doing (not my quit). Is it the right or wrong choice, will it help or hurt. Trying to justify everything.Quote from: NolaqPrayers man. Just never give up man.Quote from: CandoitGod, please grant me strength and courage. I am terrified of what is going to happen.Candie. Be strong bro. You might feel like there is no light right now. You're not alone. But there is only one way to go, and that is forward. You gotta fight hard sometimes. Shit does not always come easy, or quick. But anything worth having is hard to get, but also worth the fight.
Why are we taught and believe that if we work hard we will be rewarded. I don't know how much more rejection I can take, I don't know how I can keep moving forward , positivity. I am trying so hard to hold it together, but it is falling apart.
Stay strong brother. I know you're fighting demons right now. Keep fighting. You're stronger than you think you are.
I can't possibly imagine what you are going through. I can only imagine how painful it is.
Hang in there man. Keep fighting, keep doing what you think is right.
Applying to jobs, praying for guidance, and hoping that something happens.
I am struggling with words to express what this brotherhood is all about.
Quitting is all about changing who you are not what you do. Right now your prayers, thoughts, texts, and PMS are what is keeping me going.
The world seems crushing and suffocating right now. As long as you keep pushing forward, you will emerge stronger and victorious. Probably a lot faster than you realize.
Now that doesn't mean I am rock solid or won't have a melt down or 6 a day. Just a little clearing in the doom and gloom.
Pab continue to help. I will always need the help of others.
Prayers brother. Keep fighting and keep your head up.Quote from: I'mOne is only a failure is if he does not get back up. I am picking myself up everyday. I can do that because I have you all.Quote from: CandoitI've had the privilege of meeting you. That allows me the ability to say this with first hand knowledge...... Things are hard right now but you have something a lot of people in life do not have. Intelligence and a fighting attitude. Being a fighter doesn't mean you are always tough or confident. Being a fighter is someone who keeps at it even when they are getting hit from every angle (picture Rocky). You have the intelligence to back up your attitude. That is a winning combination even if the fight doesn't end as quickly as you would like. Your a strong father and have support pouring in from all sides. This is a recipe for success. Hold your head up and be yourself. ODAAT has a way of working out most things. I got your back if you need anything!Quote from: pab1964Don't ever stop being you for the sake of someone else. We have become to offendible and quick to give up. The reset button mentality. Life has no reset.Quote from: CandoitAtta boy candy! Sometimes life can be a bitch, we must play the hand we're dealt. As far as men and women, now a days I'm seeing people that's been married 30+ years getting divorces. Me personally I think it's the fast pace world we're living in. Sometimes we have to do things a little different than we may want, to get the results we desire and then there's no guarantee. Put your faith in the hands of the man, it will always work out. Stop look around,be thankful of what you have and remember there's always someone alot worse off than ourselves! Stop smell the roses,breath in the fresh air and let the wind blow in your face,that's living my friend! Sorry can't stop trying to help, I'm a huge family man. Prayers to you daily.Quote from: D2maineI am smiling tonight because I let things go. And in return the strength I needed came from all of you. I will handle this as I handle my quit. ODAAT because that I Can Do and I am going to stick it out.Quote from: pab1964cando..i day at a time...its not just for quit...thoughts and prayers to you.Quote from: TucoCandy praying every day for you, fight for what you believe is right but somehow I can't see all the problems being all your fault. Stay strong and don't say never, it is what it is and we can't control everything. Be the man candy!Quote from: CandoitKeep on fighting, Cando. Just like quitting, it's going to suck until it doesn't. This is your cue to move forward and leave all of the BS behind. Focus on gaining momentum each day, not in solving every last problem sitting in front of you.Quote from: kdipThis family is what is giving me the strength to go forward. I know that I can do this and I will come out a new person.Quote from: CandoitWe care about what is happening to you even if it's long distance. Thoughts and prayers sent your way!!!Quote from: redtrain14After the past 10 months my judgement and faith in what is right is shattered and off. I don't know what else to do.Quote from: CandoitCandyQuote from: basshaugThat's the doubt. I have no idea if it is correct or not.Quote from: CandoitJust keep trying man. You will break through. Don't worry about rejection or any of the shit that is out of your control. Everything you are doing is correct and you are trying. Dont waste energy debating if it is correct, just keep on doing.Quote from: mcarmo44I am trying not to. The mental games of this whole thing, suck. I just am questioning everything I am doing (not my quit). Is it the right or wrong choice, will it help or hurt. Trying to justify everything.Quote from: NolaqPrayers man. Just never give up man.Quote from: CandoitGod, please grant me strength and courage. I am terrified of what is going to happen.Candie. Be strong bro. You might feel like there is no light right now. You're not alone. But there is only one way to go, and that is forward. You gotta fight hard sometimes. Shit does not always come easy, or quick. But anything worth having is hard to get, but also worth the fight.
Why are we taught and believe that if we work hard we will be rewarded. I don't know how much more rejection I can take, I don't know how I can keep moving forward , positivity. I am trying so hard to hold it together, but it is falling apart.
Stay strong brother. I know you're fighting demons right now. Keep fighting. You're stronger than you think you are.
I can't possibly imagine what you are going through. I can only imagine how painful it is.
Hang in there man. Keep fighting, keep doing what you think is right.
Applying to jobs, praying for guidance, and hoping that something happens.
I am struggling with words to express what this brotherhood is all about.
Quitting is all about changing who you are not what you do. Right now your prayers, thoughts, texts, and PMS are what is keeping me going.
The world seems crushing and suffocating right now. As long as you keep pushing forward, you will emerge stronger and victorious. Probably a lot faster than you realize.
Now that doesn't mean I am rock solid or won't have a melt down or 6 a day. Just a little clearing in the doom and gloom.
Pab continue to help. I will always need the help of others.
Stand Tall. Quit questioning every move you make before you drive yourself crazy. you will come out of this a stronger and wiser person.Quote from: CandoitPrayers brother. Keep fighting and keep your head up.Quote from: I'mOne is only a failure is if he does not get back up. I am picking myself up everyday. I can do that because I have you all.Quote from: CandoitI've had the privilege of meeting you. That allows me the ability to say this with first hand knowledge...... Things are hard right now but you have something a lot of people in life do not have. Intelligence and a fighting attitude. Being a fighter doesn't mean you are always tough or confident. Being a fighter is someone who keeps at it even when they are getting hit from every angle (picture Rocky). You have the intelligence to back up your attitude. That is a winning combination even if the fight doesn't end as quickly as you would like. Your a strong father and have support pouring in from all sides. This is a recipe for success. Hold your head up and be yourself. ODAAT has a way of working out most things. I got your back if you need anything!Quote from: pab1964Don't ever stop being you for the sake of someone else. We have become to offendible and quick to give up. The reset button mentality. Life has no reset.Quote from: CandoitAtta boy candy! Sometimes life can be a bitch, we must play the hand we're dealt. As far as men and women, now a days I'm seeing people that's been married 30+ years getting divorces. Me personally I think it's the fast pace world we're living in. Sometimes we have to do things a little different than we may want, to get the results we desire and then there's no guarantee. Put your faith in the hands of the man, it will always work out. Stop look around,be thankful of what you have and remember there's always someone alot worse off than ourselves! Stop smell the roses,breath in the fresh air and let the wind blow in your face,that's living my friend! Sorry can't stop trying to help, I'm a huge family man. Prayers to you daily.Quote from: D2maineI am smiling tonight because I let things go. And in return the strength I needed came from all of you. I will handle this as I handle my quit. ODAAT because that I Can Do and I am going to stick it out.Quote from: pab1964cando..i day at a time...its not just for quit...thoughts and prayers to you.Quote from: TucoCandy praying every day for you, fight for what you believe is right but somehow I can't see all the problems being all your fault. Stay strong and don't say never, it is what it is and we can't control everything. Be the man candy!Quote from: CandoitKeep on fighting, Cando. Just like quitting, it's going to suck until it doesn't. This is your cue to move forward and leave all of the BS behind. Focus on gaining momentum each day, not in solving every last problem sitting in front of you.Quote from: kdipThis family is what is giving me the strength to go forward. I know that I can do this and I will come out a new person.Quote from: CandoitWe care about what is happening to you even if it's long distance. Thoughts and prayers sent your way!!!Quote from: redtrain14After the past 10 months my judgement and faith in what is right is shattered and off. I don't know what else to do.Quote from: CandoitCandyQuote from: basshaugThat's the doubt. I have no idea if it is correct or not.Quote from: CandoitJust keep trying man. You will break through. Don't worry about rejection or any of the shit that is out of your control. Everything you are doing is correct and you are trying. Dont waste energy debating if it is correct, just keep on doing.Quote from: mcarmo44I am trying not to. The mental games of this whole thing, suck. I just am questioning everything I am doing (not my quit). Is it the right or wrong choice, will it help or hurt. Trying to justify everything.Quote from: NolaqPrayers man. Just never give up man.Quote from: CandoitGod, please grant me strength and courage. I am terrified of what is going to happen.Candie. Be strong bro. You might feel like there is no light right now. You're not alone. But there is only one way to go, and that is forward. You gotta fight hard sometimes. Shit does not always come easy, or quick. But anything worth having is hard to get, but also worth the fight.
Why are we taught and believe that if we work hard we will be rewarded. I don't know how much more rejection I can take, I don't know how I can keep moving forward , positivity. I am trying so hard to hold it together, but it is falling apart.
Stay strong brother. I know you're fighting demons right now. Keep fighting. You're stronger than you think you are.
I can't possibly imagine what you are going through. I can only imagine how painful it is.
Hang in there man. Keep fighting, keep doing what you think is right.
Applying to jobs, praying for guidance, and hoping that something happens.
I am struggling with words to express what this brotherhood is all about.
Quitting is all about changing who you are not what you do. Right now your prayers, thoughts, texts, and PMS are what is keeping me going.
The world seems crushing and suffocating right now. As long as you keep pushing forward, you will emerge stronger and victorious. Probably a lot faster than you realize.
Now that doesn't mean I am rock solid or won't have a melt down or 6 a day. Just a little clearing in the doom and gloom.
Pab continue to help. I will always need the help of others.
Keep putting one foot in front of the other. You will get through this no matter what. Focus on the good things (kids) and show her your strength. I have faith in YOU.Quote from: normjr88Stand Tall. Quit questioning every move you make before you drive yourself crazy. you will come out of this a stronger and wiser person.Quote from: CandoitPrayers brother. Keep fighting and keep your head up.Quote from: I'mOne is only a failure is if he does not get back up. I am picking myself up everyday. I can do that because I have you all.Quote from: CandoitI've had the privilege of meeting you. That allows me the ability to say this with first hand knowledge...... Things are hard right now but you have something a lot of people in life do not have. Intelligence and a fighting attitude. Being a fighter doesn't mean you are always tough or confident. Being a fighter is someone who keeps at it even when they are getting hit from every angle (picture Rocky). You have the intelligence to back up your attitude. That is a winning combination even if the fight doesn't end as quickly as you would like. Your a strong father and have support pouring in from all sides. This is a recipe for success. Hold your head up and be yourself. ODAAT has a way of working out most things. I got your back if you need anything!Quote from: pab1964Don't ever stop being you for the sake of someone else. We have become to offendible and quick to give up. The reset button mentality. Life has no reset.Quote from: CandoitAtta boy candy! Sometimes life can be a bitch, we must play the hand we're dealt. As far as men and women, now a days I'm seeing people that's been married 30+ years getting divorces. Me personally I think it's the fast pace world we're living in. Sometimes we have to do things a little different than we may want, to get the results we desire and then there's no guarantee. Put your faith in the hands of the man, it will always work out. Stop look around,be thankful of what you have and remember there's always someone alot worse off than ourselves! Stop smell the roses,breath in the fresh air and let the wind blow in your face,that's living my friend! Sorry can't stop trying to help, I'm a huge family man. Prayers to you daily.Quote from: D2maineI am smiling tonight because I let things go. And in return the strength I needed came from all of you. I will handle this as I handle my quit. ODAAT because that I Can Do and I am going to stick it out.Quote from: pab1964cando..i day at a time...its not just for quit...thoughts and prayers to you.Quote from: TucoCandy praying every day for you, fight for what you believe is right but somehow I can't see all the problems being all your fault. Stay strong and don't say never, it is what it is and we can't control everything. Be the man candy!Quote from: CandoitKeep on fighting, Cando. Just like quitting, it's going to suck until it doesn't. This is your cue to move forward and leave all of the BS behind. Focus on gaining momentum each day, not in solving every last problem sitting in front of you.Quote from: kdipThis family is what is giving me the strength to go forward. I know that I can do this and I will come out a new person.Quote from: CandoitWe care about what is happening to you even if it's long distance. Thoughts and prayers sent your way!!!Quote from: redtrain14After the past 10 months my judgement and faith in what is right is shattered and off. I don't know what else to do.Quote from: CandoitCandyQuote from: basshaugThat's the doubt. I have no idea if it is correct or not.Quote from: CandoitJust keep trying man. You will break through. Don't worry about rejection or any of the shit that is out of your control. Everything you are doing is correct and you are trying. Dont waste energy debating if it is correct, just keep on doing.Quote from: mcarmo44I am trying not to. The mental games of this whole thing, suck. I just am questioning everything I am doing (not my quit). Is it the right or wrong choice, will it help or hurt. Trying to justify everything.Quote from: NolaqPrayers man. Just never give up man.Quote from: CandoitGod, please grant me strength and courage. I am terrified of what is going to happen.Candie. Be strong bro. You might feel like there is no light right now. You're not alone. But there is only one way to go, and that is forward. You gotta fight hard sometimes. Shit does not always come easy, or quick. But anything worth having is hard to get, but also worth the fight.
Why are we taught and believe that if we work hard we will be rewarded. I don't know how much more rejection I can take, I don't know how I can keep moving forward , positivity. I am trying so hard to hold it together, but it is falling apart.
Stay strong brother. I know you're fighting demons right now. Keep fighting. You're stronger than you think you are.
I can't possibly imagine what you are going through. I can only imagine how painful it is.
Hang in there man. Keep fighting, keep doing what you think is right.
Applying to jobs, praying for guidance, and hoping that something happens.
I am struggling with words to express what this brotherhood is all about.
Quitting is all about changing who you are not what you do. Right now your prayers, thoughts, texts, and PMS are what is keeping me going.
The world seems crushing and suffocating right now. As long as you keep pushing forward, you will emerge stronger and victorious. Probably a lot faster than you realize.
Now that doesn't mean I am rock solid or won't have a melt down or 6 a day. Just a little clearing in the doom and gloom.
Pab continue to help. I will always need the help of others.
That is awesome. Whatever comes to you from that, from your wife is unknown today, but know that you have put yourself out there, completely vulnerable, transparent. Keep growing, change is living, keep opening up, change and action is freeing.Quote from: CandoitI have been jotting down thoughts as they come to me, I wrote this last night.Share this with your wife! Candy go into your marriage just like you have with your quit. You do whatever it takes to get it done. You don't give up. You promise yourself before it's all said and done, I've done everything humanly possible to fight for what's mine ,then in the end no matter what happens you will have a piece of mind knowing that you did your best. Prayers to you!
I have given you 10 years of my life. There is not one person that I would rather had by my side.
For all of the issues we have had.
For all of the words not said.
For all of the tears shed in private.
For all of the feelings lost.
I want to hear them.
I want to dry them.
I want to experience them.........WITH YOU!
We have become new people.
We have become new people not despite us but because of us.
I have never lost sight of why I fell in love with you.
Your smile, your touch, your kind eyes. Our daughters give me the same look every day. That look is a constant reminder of why I love you and never have stopped loving you.
When they look at me, I see:
What was.
What is.
What it can be.
Which is what gives me the strength, courage, and faith that this is worth fighting for.
We made a promise to grow together.
We never figured out how.
We now can learn together.
We can discover who we are together.
I can only hope with every fiber of my being that you continue to walk with me on this journey.
That is some nice work there. You are at point where you have to leave it all on the table for her to see and those words are quite powerful.Quote from: pab1964That is awesome. Whatever comes to you from that, from your wife is unknown today, but know that you have put yourself out there, completely vulnerable, transparent. Keep growing, change is living, keep opening up, change and action is freeing.Quote from: CandoitI have been jotting down thoughts as they come to me, I wrote this last night.Share this with your wife! Candy go into your marriage just like you have with your quit. You do whatever it takes to get it done. You don't give up. You promise yourself before it's all said and done, I've done everything humanly possible to fight for what's mine ,then in the end no matter what happens you will have a piece of mind knowing that you did your best. Prayers to you!
I have given you 10 years of my life. There is not one person that I would rather had by my side.
For all of the issues we have had.
For all of the words not said.
For all of the tears shed in private.
For all of the feelings lost.
I want to hear them.
I want to dry them.
I want to experience them.........WITH YOU!
We have become new people.
We have become new people not despite us but because of us.
I have never lost sight of why I fell in love with you.
Your smile, your touch, your kind eyes. Our daughters give me the same look every day. That look is a constant reminder of why I love you and never have stopped loving you.
When they look at me, I see:
What was.
What is.
What it can be.
Which is what gives me the strength, courage, and faith that this is worth fighting for.
We made a promise to grow together.
We never figured out how.
We now can learn together.
We can discover who we are together.
I can only hope with every fiber of my being that you continue to walk with me on this journey.
So I rewrote it by hand, and handed it to her. She read it put it in the envelope and put it aside. No emotion, so glance, no look. Just stotic.Quote from: ChickDipThat is some nice work there. You are at point where you have to leave it all on the table for her to see and those words are quite powerful.Quote from: pab1964That is awesome. Whatever comes to you from that, from your wife is unknown today, but know that you have put yourself out there, completely vulnerable, transparent. Keep growing, change is living, keep opening up, change and action is freeing.Quote from: CandoitI have been jotting down thoughts as they come to me, I wrote this last night.Share this with your wife! Candy go into your marriage just like you have with your quit. You do whatever it takes to get it done. You don't give up. You promise yourself before it's all said and done, I've done everything humanly possible to fight for what's mine ,then in the end no matter what happens you will have a piece of mind knowing that you did your best. Prayers to you!
I have given you 10 years of my life. There is not one person that I would rather had by my side.
For all of the issues we have had.
For all of the words not said.
For all of the tears shed in private.
For all of the feelings lost.
I want to hear them.
I want to dry them.
I want to experience them.........WITH YOU!
We have become new people.
We have become new people not despite us but because of us.
I have never lost sight of why I fell in love with you.
Your smile, your touch, your kind eyes. Our daughters give me the same look every day. That look is a constant reminder of why I love you and never have stopped loving you.
When they look at me, I see:
What was.
What is.
What it can be.
Which is what gives me the strength, courage, and faith that this is worth fighting for.
We made a promise to grow together.
We never figured out how.
We now can learn together.
We can discover who we are together.
I can only hope with every fiber of my being that you continue to walk with me on this journey.
My deepest fear is giving all of me and it not being returned. I afraid that when all bets are off that I will have never been lived like I have given.Candy I have been married 31 year's. I will be the first to tell you it hasn't always been a cakewalk and it's still not
I challenge everyone to love with no conditions your spouse. I love my wife as much as I love my daughters. I gave of myself so completely, that the wells ran dry.
I have replenished the wells to only find that she didn't wait. Why? I cannot bear the burden of this alone. She is making me to be the bad guy, she is making me hurt, she is making me doubt.
I am seeking forgiveness for 100% of the err, when I should be seeking forgiveness for 50% of the err. Why is she not seeking forgiveness?
No one said to Issac Newton, you can't prove planetary movement until you take adavanced mathematics, physics, and English. He went out an invented calculus to prove his point.Once you've completed something for the first time, you are finally ready to start it for the first time. Life is messy that way.
You do not need to take a course before you can do something. You just do it.
If your dick is too shortQuote from: CandoitNo one said to Issac Newton, you can't prove planetary movement until you take adavanced mathematics, physics, and English. He went out an invented calculus to prove his point.Once you've completed something for the first time, you are finally ready to start it for the first time. Life is messy that way.
You do not need to take a course before you can do something. You just do it.
Just so fn angry right now. I need to stop this train of thought before I say something I would regret. She keeps pushing me away. Testing me. Why?May not make sense to you candy but I've heard women say he's really trying to hard, maybe back off a little give her, her space. Maybe she's having issues you're not aware of. Hang in there bud, it is what it is and you can't force anything, sit back and watch.
^for me. Just have to note this for me.
I agree with Pab but I'm gonna phrase it a little differently... Right now I would focus on you. On how you can move forward. On how you can improve your life. If she wants to be with you on a life improvement journey - which might take time to play out - you both win. If she doesn't, you have focused your efforts on your own improvement.Quote from: CandoitJust so fn angry right now. I need to stop this train of thought before I say something I would regret. She keeps pushing me away. Testing me. Why?May not make sense to you candy but I've heard women say he's really trying to hard, maybe back off a little give her, her space. Maybe she's having issues you're not aware of. Hang in there bud, it is what it is and you can't force anything, sit back and watch.
^for me. Just have to note this for me.
Brother, those first 2 sentences flashed me back to 2012. Those statements are a hard realization, but they're true. You may never get as good as you gave. What I realized is you've got to get to a place where you're ok with that.Quote from: CandoitMy deepest fear is giving all of me and it not being returned. I afraid that when all bets are off that I will have never been lived like I have given.Candy I have been married 31 year's. I will be the first to tell you it hasn't always been a cakewalk and it's still not
I challenge everyone to love with no conditions your spouse. I love my wife as much as I love my daughters. I gave of myself so completely, that the wells ran dry.
I have replenished the wells to only find that she didn't wait. Why? I cannot bear the burden of this alone. She is making me to be the bad guy, she is making me hurt, she is making me doubt.
I am seeking forgiveness for 100% of the err, when I should be seeking forgiveness for 50% of the err. Why is she not seeking forgiveness?
I was told by my Grandfather a time a young age that marriage has got to be 50/50 and you can never be to proud to admit when you are wrong. Men and woman always have problems admitting there wrong or always have to get the last word in but rest assured my friend you didn't screw your marriage up by yourself. Head up son, and stay strong. Prayers to you and quit on my brother!
400 times I said I quit. - that's bad ass. That and that alone makes my day.Candoit - I'm extremely happy for you today. I saw the number 400 and couldn't be more excited. A number of milestones you've passed, and a number more. Each one ever so important. Way to keep strong every single day. Proud to be quit with you today.
Time to make the bed.
Do not ring the bell.
Dig in and fight.
Continue to practice the Basics
I do no longer Wake Up Piss Post, but I wake up, pray, piss, post.
"I do no longer Wake Up Piss Post, but I wake up, pray, piss, post."Quote from: Candoit400 times I said I quit. - that's bad ass. That and that alone makes my day.Candoit - I'm extremely happy for you today. I saw the number 400 and couldn't be more excited. A number of milestones you've passed, and a number more. Each one ever so important. Way to keep strong every single day. Proud to be quit with you today.
Time to make the bed.
Do not ring the bell.
Dig in and fight.
Continue to practice the Basics
I do no longer Wake Up Piss Post, but I wake up, pray, piss, post.
Awesome 400 man!Quote from: jimthins"I do no longer Wake Up Piss Post, but I wake up, pray, piss, post."Quote from: Candoit400 times I said I quit. - that's bad ass. That and that alone makes my day.Candoit - I'm extremely happy for you today. I saw the number 400 and couldn't be more excited. A number of milestones you've passed, and a number more. Each one ever so important. Way to keep strong every single day. Proud to be quit with you today.
Time to make the bed.
Do not ring the bell.
Dig in and fight.
Continue to practice the Basics
I do no longer Wake Up Piss Post, but I wake up, pray, piss, post.
That's what I'm Screaming! CONGRATS Brother on 400.
Moving Forward
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400 is badassery! Smile today Candy everywhere I've posted, I've seen nothing but love for you! Damn proud to be quit with you today my brother!Quote from: RawlsAwesome 400 man!Quote from: jimthins"I do no longer Wake Up Piss Post, but I wake up, pray, piss, post."Quote from: Candoit400 times I said I quit. - that's bad ass. That and that alone makes my day.Candoit - I'm extremely happy for you today. I saw the number 400 and couldn't be more excited. A number of milestones you've passed, and a number more. Each one ever so important. Way to keep strong every single day. Proud to be quit with you today.
Time to make the bed.
Do not ring the bell.
Dig in and fight.
Continue to practice the Basics
I do no longer Wake Up Piss Post, but I wake up, pray, piss, post.
That's what I'm Screaming! CONGRATS Brother on 400.
Moving Forward
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I have a Wisteria bush I found on freecycle about 6-7 years ago. Since I have owned it has never bloomed. I was talking with an old Italian nursey owner about this. Wondering if it was time to dig it out and toss it.Some good words right there Cando. One of those things you don't take the time to stop and think about. Dig a little deeper, and think a little longer at the true meanings. We sometimes get caught up in our day-to-day activities not appreciating the small stuff.
His reply surpised me: "Wisteria does not behave like many plants that need the right amount of TLC. Wisteria thrives on damage. It takes at least 6 years to establish itself. Additionally you need to prune the new growth at least twice a year. Then either cut a ring of bark off or stab the roots with a shovel in Jan/Feb. Until it is threathened and shocked it has no reason to grow."
As I am in my yard now looking at the plant. I remembered this conversation. It takes time to grow roots. The strong roots are necessary to grow, but so is a shock. It can only handle the shock if it has strong roots.
As long as things are stable and calm, we have no reason to grow. Yet the scars and wounds force this to grow, expand, and flourish.
404/18 -Candy read what you wrote, it takes 2 in marriage to make it work. Looks like a one man show. Give her room, she may realize grass is not always greener on the other side! You to good a man to go through this shit!
I sold my truck today. I have owned that truck since June of 2005 paid 1800 for it then with 90,000 miles, today it had 180,000 miles and I sold it for 1800. That pained me more than I suspected. The oldest was upset with me. But that money is more important than a truck, it is for my family.
She still keeping me more than an arms distance away. It is making me angry and resentful towards her, I am trying my hardest to stay positive and hopeful. Cut and run easy to do, what she wants to do, what I am resentful for. A wee bit hypocritical but keep pressing forward.
Space is what she wants but will not fix the problems. If she was actually working on fixing the problems maybe, but from where I stand she still is trying to place blame on everyone else. It takes two for a marriage to break or work.
408/21You asked a good question at the end. Why are you? Kind of like when you quit, you need to dig deep and figure the answer out. The sooner, the better.
I asked her if she called the counselor to set the appointment yet?
Mrs C: I have been too busy at work to do anything else, and when I get in the car, I just need time to decompress.
Me: Understandable
Mrs. C: I don't think you get it. My feelings are not going to change, and you wont believe me until you hear it from someone else.
Me: We still should at least sit down with a counselor and talk.
Mrs. C: You figure out what your doing for your birthday tomorrow?
Me: I would like to do something with my family.
Mrs. C: Thats fine take the girls out to dinner and I will find something else to do.
Why am I chasing this hurt?
408/21Nicotine won't help you at all.
I asked her if she called the counselor to set the appointment yet?
Mrs C: I have been too busy at work to do anything else, and when I get in the car, I just need time to decompress.
Me: Understandable
Mrs. C: I don't think you get it. My feelings are not going to change, and you wont believe me until you hear it from someone else.
Me: We still should at least sit down with a counselor and talk.
Mrs. C: You figure out what your doing for your birthday tomorrow?
Me: I would like to do something with my family.
Mrs. C: Thats fine take the girls out to dinner and I will find something else to do.
Why am I chasing this hurt?
My motives are pure at this point. I need the truth so I can move on. I understand that I may never get the truth but all of these reasons can't be it.Quote from: Candoit408/21You asked a good question at the end. Why are you? Kind of like when you quit, you need to dig deep and figure the answer out. The sooner, the better.
I asked her if she called the counselor to set the appointment yet?
Mrs C: I have been too busy at work to do anything else, and when I get in the car, I just need time to decompress.
Me: Understandable
Mrs. C: I don't think you get it. My feelings are not going to change, and you wont believe me until you hear it from someone else.
Me: We still should at least sit down with a counselor and talk.
Mrs. C: You figure out what your doing for your birthday tomorrow?
Me: I would like to do something with my family.
Mrs. C: Thats fine take the girls out to dinner and I will find something else to do.
Why am I chasing this hurt?
Not saying you are doing the wrong thing. Not saying to stop. But you need to understand your motives.
Nicotine is off the table for today. And it will be for tomorrow. That part will never change.Quote from: Candoit408/21Nicotine won't help you at all.
I asked her if she called the counselor to set the appointment yet?
Mrs C: I have been too busy at work to do anything else, and when I get in the car, I just need time to decompress.
Me: Understandable
Mrs. C: I don't think you get it. My feelings are not going to change, and you wont believe me until you hear it from someone else.
Me: We still should at least sit down with a counselor and talk.
Mrs. C: You figure out what your doing for your birthday tomorrow?
Me: I would like to do something with my family.
Mrs. C: Thats fine take the girls out to dinner and I will find something else to do.
Why am I chasing this hurt?
I recommend you ignore her starting immediately. Don't say a word and only give short answers if she asks questions. See what happens. Sounds like it's worth a shot.
But hey, I'm not dr drew here. Just some schlub on a message board.
My brother I understand wanting to hang on but dammit my friend you are killing yourself mentally. Move on there's other women out there looking for a man like you. And I will add it's easy for me to say this I'm not in your shoes. But remember those beautiful girls need there Dad. Head up candy, you will be fine, God will not put more on you than you can handle. Continue letting it out , it's not good to keep it in. I would look her straight in the eyes and say I want you to tell me it's over and also is there someone else? Be the man that you are. Prayers to you.Pab, I am at the point were I am asking myself what is there to save, then my girls look at me. I realize they need to understand forgiveness and compassion, something that their mother has never learned or long since forgotten. I need lead by example, plain and simple.
My brother I understand wanting to hang on but dammit my friend you are killing yourself mentally. Move on there's other women out there looking for a man like you. And I will add it's easy for me to say this I'm not in your shoes. But remember those beautiful girls need there Dad. Head up candy, you will be fine, God will not put more on you than you can handle. Continue letting it out , it's not good to keep it in. I would look her straight in the eyes and say I want you to tell me it's over and also is there someone else? Be the man that you are. Prayers to you.Pab, I am at the point were I am asking myself what is there to save, then my girls look at me. I realize they need to understand forgiveness and compassion, something that their mother has never learned or long since forgotten. I need lead by example, plain and simple.
I am seeing that you are making great strides my friend, lets look:Quote from: pab1964My brother I understand wanting to hang on but dammit my friend you are killing yourself mentally. Move on there's other women out there looking for a man like you. And I will add it's easy for me to say this I'm not in your shoes. But remember those beautiful girls need there Dad. Head up candy, you will be fine, God will not put more on you than you can handle. Continue letting it out , it's not good to keep it in. I would look her straight in the eyes and say I want you to tell me it's over and also is there someone else? Be the man that you are. Prayers to you.Pab, I am at the point were I am asking myself what is there to save, then my girls look at me. I realize they need to understand forgiveness and compassion, something that their mother has never learned or long since forgotten. I need lead by example, plain and simple.
I am out of ideas:
1. I have been applying to jobs like a mad man. I have one starting on Tuesday at a Toyota dealership, sales manager. I haven't stopped applying.
2. I have tried to be positive and understanding.
3. I have sought professional help.
4. I have been reading the bible and praying (thank you Rawls)
5. I have been trying to spend as much time with the girls as possible.6. I have shared openly my feelings with her, like i do here.
7. I have tried to make sure I do the small things that she gets annoyed I dont do.
I am all ears...
To me it's obvious what the problem is here. You have poured your heart out to this woman and for some reason or another she no longer wants or needs you. Once again I will say move on candy, to me you're wasting your time you could use elsewhere, she's not the only woman you are capable of loving. Remember it takes 2 and sometimes the harder you try ,the farther you're pushing her away. Sometimes a little time away makes my wife and myself think about things.Quote from: grizzlyhasclawsI am seeing that you are making great strides my friend, lets look:Quote from: pab1964My brother I understand wanting to hang on but dammit my friend you are killing yourself mentally. Move on there's other women out there looking for a man like you. And I will add it's easy for me to say this I'm not in your shoes. But remember those beautiful girls need there Dad. Head up candy, you will be fine, God will not put more on you than you can handle. Continue letting it out , it's not good to keep it in. I would look her straight in the eyes and say I want you to tell me it's over and also is there someone else? Be the man that you are. Prayers to you.Pab, I am at the point were I am asking myself what is there to save, then my girls look at me. I realize they need to understand forgiveness and compassion, something that their mother has never learned or long since forgotten. I need lead by example, plain and simple.
I am out of ideas:
1. I have been applying to jobs like a mad man. I have one starting on Tuesday at a Toyota dealership, sales manager. I haven't stopped applying.
2. I have tried to be positive and understanding.
3. I have sought professional help.
4. I have been reading the bible and praying (thank you Rawls)
5. I have been trying to spend as much time with the girls as possible.6. I have shared openly my feelings with her, like i do here.
7. I have tried to make sure I do the small things that she gets annoyed I dont do.
I am all ears...
1 - You are being the good father and spending time with your girls. That in of itself should give you a great feeling to be with those who will look up to you.
2 - you have employment that you are seeking. It is a start, and might not be the long term answer of what you ultimately want, but you are a step to the positive.
3- From your postings here, I have seen a positive attitude, maybe a little down, but always a spark looking to the better (and even still helping others).
4 - Always to use prayer and the help of others when we feel we need. There is nothing wrong when it comes to that. We all came here to KTC when we needed help with quitting nicotine, and now with help needed in other areas in your life you are reaching out. Can be nothing smarter than what you are doing.
I say take a step back and look at what you are doing. This is all you. Do not worry about what the others may think as it is you and your reaction to how you are doing that means the world. Now I think looking at the 4 items I listed, that you are doing quite well and I think others would say the same for the effort you are giving. And I think if you look in the mirror you would probably come to the same conclusion, and if you do I would feel pretty good about yourself.
Just keep up the great work. I believe if you keep on doing what you are, everything will work out for the best in the end.
I'm going to repeat my recurring theme... Throw every bit of your energy into you. Including your new job. By the way... Congratulations!Quote from: SirDerekTo me it's obvious what the problem is here. You have poured your heart out to this woman and for some reason or another she no longer wants or needs you. Once again I will say move on candy, to me you're wasting your time you could use elsewhere, she's not the only woman you are capable of loving. Remember it takes 2 and sometimes the harder you try ,the farther you're pushing her away. Sometimes a little time away makes my wife and myself think about things.Quote from: grizzlyhasclawsI am seeing that you are making great strides my friend, lets look:Quote from: pab1964My brother I understand wanting to hang on but dammit my friend you are killing yourself mentally. Move on there's other women out there looking for a man like you. And I will add it's easy for me to say this I'm not in your shoes. But remember those beautiful girls need there Dad. Head up candy, you will be fine, God will not put more on you than you can handle. Continue letting it out , it's not good to keep it in. I would look her straight in the eyes and say I want you to tell me it's over and also is there someone else? Be the man that you are. Prayers to you.Pab, I am at the point were I am asking myself what is there to save, then my girls look at me. I realize they need to understand forgiveness and compassion, something that their mother has never learned or long since forgotten. I need lead by example, plain and simple.
I am out of ideas:
1. I have been applying to jobs like a mad man. I have one starting on Tuesday at a Toyota dealership, sales manager. I haven't stopped applying.
2. I have tried to be positive and understanding.
3. I have sought professional help.
4. I have been reading the bible and praying (thank you Rawls)
5. I have been trying to spend as much time with the girls as possible.6. I have shared openly my feelings with her, like i do here.
7. I have tried to make sure I do the small things that she gets annoyed I dont do.
I am all ears...
1 - You are being the good father and spending time with your girls. That in of itself should give you a great feeling to be with those who will look up to you.
2 - you have employment that you are seeking. It is a start, and might not be the long term answer of what you ultimately want, but you are a step to the positive.
3- From your postings here, I have seen a positive attitude, maybe a little down, but always a spark looking to the better (and even still helping others).
4 - Always to use prayer and the help of others when we feel we need. There is nothing wrong when it comes to that. We all came here to KTC when we needed help with quitting nicotine, and now with help needed in other areas in your life you are reaching out. Can be nothing smarter than what you are doing.
I say take a step back and look at what you are doing. This is all you. Do not worry about what the others may think as it is you and your reaction to how you are doing that means the world. Now I think looking at the 4 items I listed, that you are doing quite well and I think others would say the same for the effort you are giving. And I think if you look in the mirror you would probably come to the same conclusion, and if you do I would feel pretty good about yourself.
Just keep up the great work. I believe if you keep on doing what you are, everything will work out for the best in the end.
You can't make her want to get back together. The harder you pull, the harder she pushes. Time to do a 180. Whatever you have been doing has not worked in this department so it's time to start mentally preparing to move on . We all know sometimes you have to fake it to make it, so put on the happy face. Start exuding confidence and just focus on you. Hit the gym, go out with the guys, keep slamming the job front, have some fun and just overall act like you aren't at a breaking point.Quote from: pab1964I'm going to repeat my recurring theme... Throw every bit of your energy into you. Including your new job. By the way... Congratulations!Quote from: SirDerekTo me it's obvious what the problem is here. You have poured your heart out to this woman and for some reason or another she no longer wants or needs you. Once again I will say move on candy, to me you're wasting your time you could use elsewhere, she's not the only woman you are capable of loving. Remember it takes 2 and sometimes the harder you try ,the farther you're pushing her away. Sometimes a little time away makes my wife and myself think about things.Quote from: grizzlyhasclawsI am seeing that you are making great strides my friend, lets look:Quote from: pab1964My brother I understand wanting to hang on but dammit my friend you are killing yourself mentally. Move on there's other women out there looking for a man like you. And I will add it's easy for me to say this I'm not in your shoes. But remember those beautiful girls need there Dad. Head up candy, you will be fine, God will not put more on you than you can handle. Continue letting it out , it's not good to keep it in. I would look her straight in the eyes and say I want you to tell me it's over and also is there someone else? Be the man that you are. Prayers to you.Pab, I am at the point were I am asking myself what is there to save, then my girls look at me. I realize they need to understand forgiveness and compassion, something that their mother has never learned or long since forgotten. I need lead by example, plain and simple.
I am out of ideas:
1. I have been applying to jobs like a mad man. I have one starting on Tuesday at a Toyota dealership, sales manager. I haven't stopped applying.
2. I have tried to be positive and understanding.
3. I have sought professional help.
4. I have been reading the bible and praying (thank you Rawls)
5. I have been trying to spend as much time with the girls as possible.6. I have shared openly my feelings with her, like i do here.
7. I have tried to make sure I do the small things that she gets annoyed I dont do.
I am all ears...
1 - You are being the good father and spending time with your girls. That in of itself should give you a great feeling to be with those who will look up to you.
2 - you have employment that you are seeking. It is a start, and might not be the long term answer of what you ultimately want, but you are a step to the positive.
3- From your postings here, I have seen a positive attitude, maybe a little down, but always a spark looking to the better (and even still helping others).
4 - Always to use prayer and the help of others when we feel we need. There is nothing wrong when it comes to that. We all came here to KTC when we needed help with quitting nicotine, and now with help needed in other areas in your life you are reaching out. Can be nothing smarter than what you are doing.
I say take a step back and look at what you are doing. This is all you. Do not worry about what the others may think as it is you and your reaction to how you are doing that means the world. Now I think looking at the 4 items I listed, that you are doing quite well and I think others would say the same for the effort you are giving. And I think if you look in the mirror you would probably come to the same conclusion, and if you do I would feel pretty good about yourself.
Just keep up the great work. I believe if you keep on doing what you are, everything will work out for the best in the end.
Happy birthday, old timer.Happy birthday candy man!
Agree dude. Happy birthday. I hope you and your girls have a great day.Quote from: invaderHappy birthday, old timer.Happy birthday candy man!
Happy birthday Candy! Here with you everyday bud as you try to sort this stuff out.Happy Birthday Candoit! We're all here for ya and willing to help you in any way shape or form!
Hey man. Do you want to save your marriage? It's all about honesty. You have to drop the wall that is between you and your wife. What is your wall?My wall?
Candy my daughter got divorced neither at fault she has them one week him the next. 50/50Quote from: grizzlyhasclawsHey man. Do you want to save your marriage? It's all about honesty. You have to drop the wall that is between you and your wife. What is your wall?My wall?
Fear of loss.
Fear that she will take everything I value from me.
Fear is ok, as long as you do not let it rule you. Instead use it to prepare like you have been doing. Spend time with your girls and keep doing what you want to do as you move ahead,Quote from: CandoitCandy my daughter got divorced neither at fault she has them one week him the next. 50/50Quote from: grizzlyhasclawsHey man. Do you want to save your marriage? It's all about honesty. You have to drop the wall that is between you and your wife. What is your wall?My wall?
Fear of loss.
Fear that she will take everything I value from me.
It boils down to this...Quote from: pab1964Fear is ok, as long as you do not let it rule you. Instead use it to prepare like you have been doing. Spend time with your girls and keep doing what you want to do as you move ahead,Quote from: CandoitCandy my daughter got divorced neither at fault she has them one week him the next. 50/50Quote from: grizzlyhasclawsHey man. Do you want to save your marriage? It's all about honesty. You have to drop the wall that is between you and your wife. What is your wall?My wall?
Fear of loss.
Fear that she will take everything I value from me.
That is huge ,I mean a giant step my friend! I think you've known all along what you need to do but how is the question. That can only be decided by you but my .02 cents worth is the longer you put it off the worse be on the girls! We all have to do things we really do dread!Quote from: SirDerekIt boils down to this...Quote from: pab1964Fear is ok, as long as you do not let it rule you. Instead use it to prepare like you have been doing. Spend time with your girls and keep doing what you want to do as you move ahead,Quote from: CandoitCandy my daughter got divorced neither at fault she has them one week him the next. 50/50Quote from: grizzlyhasclawsHey man. Do you want to save your marriage? It's all about honesty. You have to drop the wall that is between you and your wife. What is your wall?My wall?
Fear of loss.
Fear that she will take everything I value from me.
She runs, hides, and points fingers of blame like a newibe or caver does here.
I have to stand up and put an end to her avoidance of the issues that she is hiding from. When she is cornered it is going to get ugly. I still love her and I am going to have to do this for her and my girls.
Her family and friends allow her to avoid and project blame on to others. She will only continue to be miserable until she deals with what ever these issues are.
Since no one else is making her face these head on, I need to. Not because of spite or hatered but out of love and compassion.
We all know what happens around here when we call bullshit on a bullshitter, and that is keyboard vs keyboard. This is face to face with kids. She needs help, counseling, and to be shown there are other ways. No one in her life is willing to stand up and call her on it.
Thats what I am scared about. When she is called on it whatis she going to do? She has the power in the laws eyes in CT. It is a no fault state and 90% of the time primary custody is placed with the mother, despite "fault or curmistances". I need to be 100% ready for that time when I challenge her to look in the mirror.
Why doesn't she like you anymore? Why has she clammed up? Did you quit communicating with her? Did you quit being open and honest with her at some point? When did the problems start? The "wall" is the barrier in your communication with her. What initiated that wall? You say it's your fear of her taking your kids away from you. I think you may have put up a wall at some point and quit being open and honest with her. I'm just throwing out ideas.Quote from: grizzlyhasclawsHey man. Do you want to save your marriage? It's all about honesty. You have to drop the wall that is between you and your wife. What is your wall?My wall?
Fear of loss.
Fear that she will take everything I value from me.
Communication never really exisited. We never were taught how from either of our parents. We have a chance to learn how now.Quote from: CandoitWhy doesn't she like you anymore? Why has she clammed up? Did you quit communicating with her? Did you quit being open and honest with her at some point? When did the problems start? The "wall" is the barrier in your communication with her. What initiated that wall? You say it's your fear of her taking your kids away from you. I think you may have put up a wall at some point and quit being open and honest with her. I'm just throwing out ideas.Quote from: grizzlyhasclawsHey man. Do you want to save your marriage? It's all about honesty. You have to drop the wall that is between you and your wife. What is your wall?My wall?
Fear of loss.
Fear that she will take everything I value from me.
I'm noticing you seem to put most of the blame on her. Is it possible youve been ignoring her for a spell and she feels slighted? Just throwing out ideas here. I'm not a therapist, but I've gone through a recent marital rough patch lately. I was able to repair it by recognizing damage that I have done. Things have gotten real good. So maybe I'm projecting. Anyway, it does sound a tad to me like you are putting most of the blame on her. If you want to save the marriage you need to examine yourself first and look at it from her viewpoint. Have you been emotionally absent during your nicotine recovery process? If so, it's time to fix it. Just saying. And again, I only say this because it's been my experience.Quote from: grizzlyhasclawsCommunication never really exisited. We never were taught how from either of our parents. We have a chance to learn how now.Quote from: CandoitWhy doesn't she like you anymore? Why has she clammed up? Did you quit communicating with her? Did you quit being open and honest with her at some point? When did the problems start? The "wall" is the barrier in your communication with her. What initiated that wall? You say it's your fear of her taking your kids away from you. I think you may have put up a wall at some point and quit being open and honest with her. I'm just throwing out ideas.Quote from: grizzlyhasclawsHey man. Do you want to save your marriage? It's all about honesty. You have to drop the wall that is between you and your wife. What is your wall?My wall?
Fear of loss.
Fear that she will take everything I value from me.
She avoids problems it is how she learned how to do and deal with things. I used to do the same then I quit and had to face the demons head on. She does not want to. She needs to be forced to, just like I had to.
I want to work on me and us as parents. But doing so forces her out of her nice blameless boxes.
Hell I would sign a divorce paper today IF it guaranteed that she would go and activity work on her. She needs to figure out these things on her own. I cant fight that fight for her justnwith her. But if we seperate or get divorced with out that piece she is allowed to avoid it. So it isn't about me winning at this point, she needs help to be a better mother and person, but her friends and family let her avoid it. I am the only one that can get her to face it.
GHC she came out and put 100% of the blame on me. She deflects the conversation and attempts at counseling. She has said that she has been going through the motions for the better part of 2 years. She opened a bank account because she thought I would take the money from her.Quote from: CandoitI'm noticing you seem to put most of the blame on her. Is it possible youve been ignoring her for a spell and she feels slighted? Just throwing out ideas here. I'm not a therapist, but I've gone through a recent marital rough patch lately. I was able to repair it by recognizing damage that I have done. Things have gotten real good. So maybe I'm projecting. Anyway, it does sound a tad to me like you are putting most of the blame on her. If you want to save the marriage you need to examine yourself first and look at it from her viewpoint. Have you been emotionally absent during your nicotine recovery process? If so, it's time to fix it. Just saying. And again, I only say this because it's been my experience.Quote from: grizzlyhasclawsCommunication never really exisited. We never were taught how from either of our parents. We have a chance to learn how now.Quote from: CandoitWhy doesn't she like you anymore? Why has she clammed up? Did you quit communicating with her? Did you quit being open and honest with her at some point? When did the problems start? The "wall" is the barrier in your communication with her. What initiated that wall? You say it's your fear of her taking your kids away from you. I think you may have put up a wall at some point and quit being open and honest with her. I'm just throwing out ideas.Quote from: grizzlyhasclawsHey man. Do you want to save your marriage? It's all about honesty. You have to drop the wall that is between you and your wife. What is your wall?My wall?
Fear of loss.
Fear that she will take everything I value from me.
She avoids problems it is how she learned how to do and deal with things. I used to do the same then I quit and had to face the demons head on. She does not want to. She needs to be forced to, just like I had to.
I want to work on me and us as parents. But doing so forces her out of her nice blameless boxes.
Hell I would sign a divorce paper today IF it guaranteed that she would go and activity work on her. She needs to figure out these things on her own. I cant fight that fight for her justnwith her. But if we seperate or get divorced with out that piece she is allowed to avoid it. So it isn't about me winning at this point, she needs help to be a better mother and person, but her friends and family let her avoid it. I am the only one that can get her to face it.
Man it sounds like things are coming together for you! Congrats on the new job sir - I look forward to some great updates!Quote from: grizzlyhasclawsGHC she came out and put 100% of the blame on me. She deflects the conversation and attempts at counseling. She has said that she has been going through the motions for the better part of 2 years. She opened a bank account because she thought I would take the money from her.Quote from: CandoitI'm noticing you seem to put most of the blame on her. Is it possible youve been ignoring her for a spell and she feels slighted? Just throwing out ideas here. I'm not a therapist, but I've gone through a recent marital rough patch lately. I was able to repair it by recognizing damage that I have done. Things have gotten real good. So maybe I'm projecting. Anyway, it does sound a tad to me like you are putting most of the blame on her. If you want to save the marriage you need to examine yourself first and look at it from her viewpoint. Have you been emotionally absent during your nicotine recovery process? If so, it's time to fix it. Just saying. And again, I only say this because it's been my experience.Quote from: grizzlyhasclawsCommunication never really exisited. We never were taught how from either of our parents. We have a chance to learn how now.Quote from: CandoitWhy doesn't she like you anymore? Why has she clammed up? Did you quit communicating with her? Did you quit being open and honest with her at some point? When did the problems start? The "wall" is the barrier in your communication with her. What initiated that wall? You say it's your fear of her taking your kids away from you. I think you may have put up a wall at some point and quit being open and honest with her. I'm just throwing out ideas.Quote from: grizzlyhasclawsHey man. Do you want to save your marriage? It's all about honesty. You have to drop the wall that is between you and your wife. What is your wall?My wall?
Fear of loss.
Fear that she will take everything I value from me.
She avoids problems it is how she learned how to do and deal with things. I used to do the same then I quit and had to face the demons head on. She does not want to. She needs to be forced to, just like I had to.
I want to work on me and us as parents. But doing so forces her out of her nice blameless boxes.
Hell I would sign a divorce paper today IF it guaranteed that she would go and activity work on her. She needs to figure out these things on her own. I cant fight that fight for her justnwith her. But if we seperate or get divorced with out that piece she is allowed to avoid it. So it isn't about me winning at this point, she needs help to be a better mother and person, but her friends and family let her avoid it. I am the only one that can get her to face it.
I know that I seem to be putting the blame on her, but she needs to own up to part of this. It takes two to break a relationship.
Why would anyone avoid eye contact in conversation or a session with a counselor (1:1) with me not there? She gets pissed because I wont accept her reasons for the marriage being over.
To review here they are:
1. I got black out drunk at our wedding (12/2006)
2. Lied about my chewing (I am quit 412 days ~ 9/7/15)
3. I made a comment/joke about her weight to her best friend (1/2013)
4. I do not have a job or income (Start tomorrow 9/8/15 as a Sales Manager at a Toyota Dealership)
So I know that these ^^^ put blame on me alone. So yes I am saying she is at fault for something, what I don't know.
300th post in my intro.Hope things are getting better candy. Good luck on your new job! Quit on!
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Refill please? Tap that keg of Kool Aid and pound it. No matter the day a cup of KTC Kool Aid hydrates the soul.
Sounds like she has a hard time letting things go. I know I do too, but my wife helps me with it by simply saying "how does "X" affect you today?". The answer is always "it doesn't", and she replys "so drop it"...........and I do. Not sure if that would work for you, us grudge holders can be hard to communicate with.I have let this issue of "what I am doing to save my marriage" go. I have no control over the wife's thinking or her willingness to talk. Now I am focused on me and my daughters. I have to take care of the three of us and do what's best. If she still wants to be part of it then awesome, if not that is on her, not me.
Great progress dude. Well done.Quote from: ThumblewortSounds like she has a hard time letting things go. I know I do too, but my wife helps me with it by simply saying "how does "X" affect you today?". The answer is always "it doesn't", and she replys "so drop it"...........and I do. Not sure if that would work for you, us grudge holders can be hard to communicate with.I have let this issue of "what I am doing to save my marriage" go. I have no control over the wife's thinking or her willingness to talk. Now I am focused on me and my daughters. I have to take care of the three of us and do what's best. If she still wants to be part of it then awesome, if not that is on her, not me.
Candy man , way to go, I see you're moving on with your life. Damn happy for you. If you need anything pm me please. Hope you sale 25 Toyota before Christmas! Quit on!Quote from: CandoitGreat progress dude. Well done.Quote from: ThumblewortSounds like she has a hard time letting things go. I know I do too, but my wife helps me with it by simply saying "how does "X" affect you today?". The answer is always "it doesn't", and she replys "so drop it"...........and I do. Not sure if that would work for you, us grudge holders can be hard to communicate with.I have let this issue of "what I am doing to save my marriage" go. I have no control over the wife's thinking or her willingness to talk. Now I am focused on me and my daughters. I have to take care of the three of us and do what's best. If she still wants to be part of it then awesome, if not that is on her, not me.
So I followed through. Yesterday I called the lawyer and had him start the paperwork. She should be served by the end of the week.I am calling the lawyer tomorrow and withdrawing the motion. We actually talked for a good two hours tonight. A
That was the most disappointing call I have ever had to make. I have been struggling to find the right words to describe it. The best I can come up with is I was forced to go all in. I have spent many nights over the past 6 weeks reading the bible and praying about this.
I was not going to make the call if it was out of spite or anger. I was not going to make the call to prove a point or win a race. I was only going to make the call when I knew that it was for the right reasons.
It has gotten to the point where all of her responses to me are yes and no. She wont make eye contact or even be in the same room as me any more. She has begun cleaning and painting the house because "I have the urge to clean". BS she is getting ready to put the house on the market.
I can not continue to live moment to moment, it is effecting my girls. The girls say things like "Dont you love dad? Are you still married to Dad? Are you going to tell him you love him or good bye? " I need them to see what love is and how it works, but also help their mother see what she will loose if she keeps on the same path.
I continue to pray that her heart will soften and she will begin to see that every relationship takes work and can be strengthened if you want to. Until then I need to do what is best for me, to be the best father and role model for my girls.
That is huge, glad things are happening!Quote from: CandoitSo I followed through. Yesterday I called the lawyer and had him start the paperwork. She should be served by the end of the week.I am calling the lawyer tomorrow and withdrawing the motion. We actually talked for a good two hours tonight. A
That was the most disappointing call I have ever had to make. I have been struggling to find the right words to describe it. The best I can come up with is I was forced to go all in. I have spent many nights over the past 6 weeks reading the bible and praying about this.
I was not going to make the call if it was out of spite or anger. I was not going to make the call to prove a point or win a race. I was only going to make the call when I knew that it was for the right reasons.
It has gotten to the point where all of her responses to me are yes and no. She wont make eye contact or even be in the same room as me any more. She has begun cleaning and painting the house because "I have the urge to clean". BS she is getting ready to put the house on the market.
I can not continue to live moment to moment, it is effecting my girls. The girls say things like "Dont you love dad? Are you still married to Dad? Are you going to tell him you love him or good bye? " I need them to see what love is and how it works, but also help their mother see what she will loose if she keeps on the same path.
I continue to pray that her heart will soften and she will begin to see that every relationship takes work and can be strengthened if you want to. Until then I need to do what is best for me, to be the best father and role model for my girls.
Alot came out about hurt and trust. One major theme was my broken trust for hiding my chewing. This is a huge step and she agreed to see the counselor. So moving forward together for a single step. That is enough to make my buckets over flow.
Thinking of you bud. Hoping things work out for the best, whatever that looks like.Quote from: CandoitThat is huge, glad things are happening!Quote from: CandoitSo I followed through. Yesterday I called the lawyer and had him start the paperwork. She should be served by the end of the week.I am calling the lawyer tomorrow and withdrawing the motion. We actually talked for a good two hours tonight. A
That was the most disappointing call I have ever had to make. I have been struggling to find the right words to describe it. The best I can come up with is I was forced to go all in. I have spent many nights over the past 6 weeks reading the bible and praying about this.
I was not going to make the call if it was out of spite or anger. I was not going to make the call to prove a point or win a race. I was only going to make the call when I knew that it was for the right reasons.
It has gotten to the point where all of her responses to me are yes and no. She wont make eye contact or even be in the same room as me any more. She has begun cleaning and painting the house because "I have the urge to clean". BS she is getting ready to put the house on the market.
I can not continue to live moment to moment, it is effecting my girls. The girls say things like "Dont you love dad? Are you still married to Dad? Are you going to tell him you love him or good bye? " I need them to see what love is and how it works, but also help their mother see what she will loose if she keeps on the same path.
I continue to pray that her heart will soften and she will begin to see that every relationship takes work and can be strengthened if you want to. Until then I need to do what is best for me, to be the best father and role model for my girls.
Alot came out about hurt and trust. One major theme was my broken trust for hiding my chewing. This is a huge step and she agreed to see the counselor. So moving forward together for a single step. That is enough to make my buckets over flow.
This is great news Candy. Take this as a +1 just like your quit. Thinking and hoping the best for you.Quote from: ChickDipThinking of you bud. Hoping things work out for the best, whatever that looks like.Quote from: CandoitThat is huge, glad things are happening!Quote from: CandoitSo I followed through. Yesterday I called the lawyer and had him start the paperwork. She should be served by the end of the week.I am calling the lawyer tomorrow and withdrawing the motion. We actually talked for a good two hours tonight. A
That was the most disappointing call I have ever had to make. I have been struggling to find the right words to describe it. The best I can come up with is I was forced to go all in. I have spent many nights over the past 6 weeks reading the bible and praying about this.
I was not going to make the call if it was out of spite or anger. I was not going to make the call to prove a point or win a race. I was only going to make the call when I knew that it was for the right reasons.
It has gotten to the point where all of her responses to me are yes and no. She wont make eye contact or even be in the same room as me any more. She has begun cleaning and painting the house because "I have the urge to clean". BS she is getting ready to put the house on the market.
I can not continue to live moment to moment, it is effecting my girls. The girls say things like "Dont you love dad? Are you still married to Dad? Are you going to tell him you love him or good bye? " I need them to see what love is and how it works, but also help their mother see what she will loose if she keeps on the same path.
I continue to pray that her heart will soften and she will begin to see that every relationship takes work and can be strengthened if you want to. Until then I need to do what is best for me, to be the best father and role model for my girls.
Alot came out about hurt and trust. One major theme was my broken trust for hiding my chewing. This is a huge step and she agreed to see the counselor. So moving forward together for a single step. That is enough to make my buckets over flow.
Great to hear Candy. I hope the best for you two. Just as you said, it takes work. Sounds like you both are on the right path.Quote from: MN_BenThis is great news Candy. Take this as a +1 just like your quit. Thinking and hoping the best for you.Quote from: ChickDipThinking of you bud. Hoping things work out for the best, whatever that looks like.Quote from: CandoitThat is huge, glad things are happening!Quote from: CandoitSo I followed through. Yesterday I called the lawyer and had him start the paperwork. She should be served by the end of the week.I am calling the lawyer tomorrow and withdrawing the motion. We actually talked for a good two hours tonight. A
That was the most disappointing call I have ever had to make. I have been struggling to find the right words to describe it. The best I can come up with is I was forced to go all in. I have spent many nights over the past 6 weeks reading the bible and praying about this.
I was not going to make the call if it was out of spite or anger. I was not going to make the call to prove a point or win a race. I was only going to make the call when I knew that it was for the right reasons.
It has gotten to the point where all of her responses to me are yes and no. She wont make eye contact or even be in the same room as me any more. She has begun cleaning and painting the house because "I have the urge to clean". BS she is getting ready to put the house on the market.
I can not continue to live moment to moment, it is effecting my girls. The girls say things like "Dont you love dad? Are you still married to Dad? Are you going to tell him you love him or good bye? " I need them to see what love is and how it works, but also help their mother see what she will loose if she keeps on the same path.
I continue to pray that her heart will soften and she will begin to see that every relationship takes work and can be strengthened if you want to. Until then I need to do what is best for me, to be the best father and role model for my girls.
Alot came out about hurt and trust. One major theme was my broken trust for hiding my chewing. This is a huge step and she agreed to see the counselor. So moving forward together for a single step. That is enough to make my buckets over flow.
Great makes my heart feel good for you my friend! God bless and take advantage of another chance at your true love! Wow! Congrats!Quote from: cjoyGreat to hear Candy. I hope the best for you two. Just as you said, it takes work. Sounds like you both are on the right path.Quote from: MN_BenThis is great news Candy. Take this as a +1 just like your quit. Thinking and hoping the best for you.Quote from: ChickDipThinking of you bud. Hoping things work out for the best, whatever that looks like.Quote from: CandoitThat is huge, glad things are happening!Quote from: CandoitSo I followed through. Yesterday I called the lawyer and had him start the paperwork. She should be served by the end of the week.I am calling the lawyer tomorrow and withdrawing the motion. We actually talked for a good two hours tonight. A
That was the most disappointing call I have ever had to make. I have been struggling to find the right words to describe it. The best I can come up with is I was forced to go all in. I have spent many nights over the past 6 weeks reading the bible and praying about this.
I was not going to make the call if it was out of spite or anger. I was not going to make the call to prove a point or win a race. I was only going to make the call when I knew that it was for the right reasons.
It has gotten to the point where all of her responses to me are yes and no. She wont make eye contact or even be in the same room as me any more. She has begun cleaning and painting the house because "I have the urge to clean". BS she is getting ready to put the house on the market.
I can not continue to live moment to moment, it is effecting my girls. The girls say things like "Dont you love dad? Are you still married to Dad? Are you going to tell him you love him or good bye? " I need them to see what love is and how it works, but also help their mother see what she will loose if she keeps on the same path.
I continue to pray that her heart will soften and she will begin to see that every relationship takes work and can be strengthened if you want to. Until then I need to do what is best for me, to be the best father and role model for my girls.
Alot came out about hurt and trust. One major theme was my broken trust for hiding my chewing. This is a huge step and she agreed to see the counselor. So moving forward together for a single step. That is enough to make my buckets over flow.
Good for you Candyman, you deserved a break. Prayers work! Hope it works out for the best.Quote from: jimthinsGreat makes my heart feel good for you my friend! God bless and take advantage of another chance at your true love! Wow! Congrats!Quote from: cjoyGreat to hear Candy. I hope the best for you two. Just as you said, it takes work. Sounds like you both are on the right path.Quote from: MN_BenThis is great news Candy. Take this as a +1 just like your quit. Thinking and hoping the best for you.Quote from: ChickDipThinking of you bud. Hoping things work out for the best, whatever that looks like.Quote from: CandoitThat is huge, glad things are happening!Quote from: CandoitSo I followed through. Yesterday I called the lawyer and had him start the paperwork. She should be served by the end of the week.I am calling the lawyer tomorrow and withdrawing the motion. We actually talked for a good two hours tonight. A
That was the most disappointing call I have ever had to make. I have been struggling to find the right words to describe it. The best I can come up with is I was forced to go all in. I have spent many nights over the past 6 weeks reading the bible and praying about this.
I was not going to make the call if it was out of spite or anger. I was not going to make the call to prove a point or win a race. I was only going to make the call when I knew that it was for the right reasons.
It has gotten to the point where all of her responses to me are yes and no. She wont make eye contact or even be in the same room as me any more. She has begun cleaning and painting the house because "I have the urge to clean". BS she is getting ready to put the house on the market.
I can not continue to live moment to moment, it is effecting my girls. The girls say things like "Dont you love dad? Are you still married to Dad? Are you going to tell him you love him or good bye? " I need them to see what love is and how it works, but also help their mother see what she will loose if she keeps on the same path.
I continue to pray that her heart will soften and she will begin to see that every relationship takes work and can be strengthened if you want to. Until then I need to do what is best for me, to be the best father and role model for my girls.
Alot came out about hurt and trust. One major theme was my broken trust for hiding my chewing. This is a huge step and she agreed to see the counselor. So moving forward together for a single step. That is enough to make my buckets over flow.
I don't have a whole lot to add. Everything is at an even kind of pace and balance.I found myself in the same boat as you bro. For the last couple weeks I felt like I needed a break and posted roll every day but ghosted as soon as I had made my promise. I found that as I was spending less time here I was thinking more about chewing and les about the freedom I have won through a determined discipline. I felt like I was drifting even though I posted roll each day. After 8 months of quit I know without a doubt that posting and ghosting DOES NOT wok for me. I need more. The "break" I thought was needed was weakening my quit not helping at all. I have gotten back to my normal posting and support that I was neglecting and I feel strong again. I had to remember that we only get out f our quit what we put into it. I refuse to ever lose the freedom I have earned through KTC and am thankful I was able to recognize what was happening before it went too far. I am glad you have recognized it was well. A break can be good but many of us need to stay heavily involved to maintain our strength. Besides.... There are many quitters who we can help if we are here. We need to remember that paying it forward is our responsibility and privilege. Proud to quit with you again today!
I am 3 weeks into 8 weeks of training at the Toyota dealership. We are talking, but it is not the easiest thing to do, when you never really knew how to talk about us in the 1st place.
Additionally I had drifted from activity at KTC over the past few weeks. I found that the thoughts of using increased. Yes I still have 100 % posting status. I posted and ghosted and have felt the pressures. Need to get back involved.
Wow^^^^^! How true that is for me. Candy man, you need to realize, whether you know it or not there's alot of people on here that needs your input daily. Look at the marriage thing like this , no news is good news sometimes! Quit on and enjoy life to the fullest. Sometimes happiness is right in front of us!Quote from: CandoitI don't have a whole lot to add. Everything is at an even kind of pace and balance.I found myself in the same boat as you bro. For the last couple weeks I felt like I needed a break and posted roll every day but ghosted as soon as I had made my promise. I found that as I was spending less time here I was thinking more about chewing and les about the freedom I have won through a determined discipline. I felt like I was drifting even though I posted roll each day. After 8 months of quit I know without a doubt that posting and ghosting DOES NOT wok for me. I need more. The "break" I thought was needed was weakening my quit not helping at all. I have gotten back to my normal posting and support that I was neglecting and I feel strong again. I had to remember that we only get out f our quit what we put into it. I refuse to ever lose the freedom I have earned through KTC and am thankful I was able to recognize what was happening before it went too far. I am glad you have recognized it was well. A break can be good but many of us need to stay heavily involved to maintain our strength. Besides.... There are many quitters who we can help if we are here. We need to remember that paying it forward is our responsibility and privilege. Proud to quit with you again today!
I am 3 weeks into 8 weeks of training at the Toyota dealership. We are talking, but it is not the easiest thing to do, when you never really knew how to talk about us in the 1st place.
Additionally I had drifted from activity at KTC over the past few weeks. I found that the thoughts of using increased. Yes I still have 100 % posting status. I posted and ghosted and have felt the pressures. Need to get back involved.
Men at some time are masters of their fates: The fault, dear Brutus, is not in our stars, but in ourselves, that we are underlings.
Good to hear from you candy man , hope lifes treating you well!Quote from: CesarMen at some time are masters of their fates: The fault, dear Brutus, is not in our stars, but in ourselves, that we are underlings.
Reject the concept of fate and superstition. A quitter believes and practices that he alone can shape his life with his actions. While if he becomes complacent he fails to master his own fate. Blaming it on the faults of luck, stars, and fate. It is foolish to ignore the soothsayer warning, because the "Ides of March" is always a day away.
When I was a high school football player (yeah, it was a long time ago) I read a book by Gale Sayers called I Am Third. There was a statement in that book that I wrote out and taped over my desk - "I control my body; I control my destiny".Quote from: CesarMen at some time are masters of their fates: The fault, dear Brutus, is not in our stars, but in ourselves, that we are underlings.
Reject the concept of fate and superstition. A quitter believes and practices that he alone can shape his life with his actions. While if he becomes complacent he fails to master his own fate. Blaming it on the faults of luck, stars, and fate. It is foolish to ignore the soothsayer warning, because the "Ides of March" is always a day away.
I am doing well. Trying to make a name for myself at the dealership. They have given me the nick name of The Professor. Which is fitting. In the end I need to get people in the door.Quote from: CandoitGood to hear from you candy man , hope lifes treating you well!Quote from: CesarMen at some time are masters of their fates: The fault, dear Brutus, is not in our stars, but in ourselves, that we are underlings.
Reject the concept of fate and superstition. A quitter believes and practices that he alone can shape his life with his actions. While if he becomes complacent he fails to master his own fate. Blaming it on the faults of luck, stars, and fate. It is foolish to ignore the soothsayer warning, because the "Ides of March" is always a day away.
481 +1's....quit hard little orphan annie!
Each one different yet the same. I promised and i kept it, yet the out come and events of each of those +1's was different.
I know where i will begin and end my day. Giving you all my word not to use nicotine is making my bed.
I plan on being here tomorrow morning to do the same. Beyond that, yes I would like to, but thats the best I can do. I dont worry about tomorrow, because it is always a day away.
When I re read that, I caught that...hoping no one else would, but I knew better, Dadday WarbucksQuote from: Candoit481 +1's....quit hard little orphan annie!
Each one different yet the same. I promised and i kept it, yet the out come and events of each of those +1's was different.
I know where i will begin and end my day. Giving you all my word not to use nicotine is making my bed.
I plan on being here tomorrow morning to do the same. Beyond that, yes I would like to, but thats the best I can do. I dont worry about tomorrow, because it is always a day away.
Nothing about any of this is easy. Who ever tells you different is so full of crap their eyes are brown.Candy man is right on 110 percent! But I will say what can keep you from doing this? You and only you! How bad you want it? One of the best things I've ever done. It's a challenge, hell I've always liked challenges but I also know my brother's and sisters are there anytime I need them and that is huge! This is Toyota month buy one and support a fine quit brother! Quit on Candy, its my damn pleasure to fight right along beside you.
However to relish in the highs, you must experinces the lows. If you arent experincing this then your not living.
I had a conversation yesterday with my desk manager about sales. I respect the hell out of this guy, a Puerto Rican Vincent Van Ghoul.And I have no doubt you will! Although you do come across as an arrogant prick, I still like you. You ever thought about being an engineer? You meet some of the criteria
"There was this guy I worked with, smartest guy, I have ever met, and a Marine none the less. The fukr could look at someone once and recall numbers, email, and the color car they drove. However, he could only sell maybe 5 cars a month. He was too smart, people found him to be an arrogant prick, almost insulting that he was so smart. People don't want to buy from smart, they want to buy from knowledgeable. Great fukn guy, horrible fukn salesman.'
I have been thinking about this, since then.
I have stopped apologizing for being me. I don't actually consider myself "smart" or "intelligent", I just have mastered the ability to learn. I know how to learn, apply, and refine that which I have learned. I come across as an arrogant prick or preachy, yeah, I know. But if I change that, I change me. I am far from being a pompous douche, but yet often accused of being egotistical.
I keep thinking about the fact that a certain skill set means that you are forever trapped in a job, role, or classification for life. As in most cases that means you can never expect to make more than someone deems you worth. I am tired of earning what someone thinks I am worth, I want to earn what I am worth.
I will sell 20 cars a month at some point, but right now I want to sell enough to pay my bills.
I had a conversation yesterday with my desk manager about sales. I respect the hell out of this guy, a Puerto Rican Vincent Van Ghoul.Who is the best salesman you know? Perhaps a family member? An uncle or grandpa growing up? Someone who could talk to anyone about anything, and make the convo about that person. Make the other person feel good. Deflect all attention from yourself unless it's self effacing. You must be humble yet gregarious. Think of the best salesman you knew from your family as a kid, and start acting like them. Sales is in your blood. You just need to let it flow. Be real. Be humble. Be friendly. Make friends. Be cool. And always, always, do what you say you're gonna do. 80% of salesmen suck because they don't do what they say they're gonna do. The customer is always right.
"There was this guy I worked with, smartest guy, I have ever met, and a Marine none the less. The fukr could look at someone once and recall numbers, email, and the color car they drove. However, he could only sell maybe 5 cars a month. He was too smart, people found him to be an arrogant prick, almost insulting that he was so smart. People don't want to buy from smart, they want to buy from knowledgeable. Great fukn guy, horrible fukn salesman.'
I have been thinking about this, since then.
I have stopped apologizing for being me. I don't actually consider myself "smart" or "intelligent", I just have mastered the ability to learn. I know how to learn, apply, and refine that which I have learned. I come across as an arrogant prick or preachy, yeah, I know. But if I change that, I change me. I am far from being a pompous douche, but yet often accused of being egotistical.
I keep thinking about the fact that a certain skill set means that you are forever trapped in a job, role, or classification for life. As in most cases that means you can never expect to make more than someone deems you worth. I am tired of earning what someone thinks I am worth, I want to earn what I am worth.
I will sell 20 cars a month at some point, but right now I want to sell enough to pay my bills.
Candi... Thank you so much for helping me and guiding me through some difficult times adjusting to a nic free existence.500 just simply awesome, welcome to the half dangle
I still have a ways to go, but the foundation you helped me lay is strong.
Congrats on your 500 days!! I quit with ewe today!
Cheers! 'party2'
500 is awesome!Quote from: ChickDipCandi... Thank you so much for helping me and guiding me through some difficult times adjusting to a nic free existence.500 just simply awesome, welcome to the half dangle
I still have a ways to go, but the foundation you helped me lay is strong.
Congrats on your 500 days!! I quit with ewe today!
Cheers! 'party2'
Congrats on the big 5-0-0Half comma man, congrats!!!
Candy some people here are the real deal and you happen to be one of them! Damn proud to call you a friend and a brother! Congratulations on 500 awesome days! Thanks!Quote from: RaiderCongrats on the big 5-0-0Half comma man, congrats!!!
ODAAT..... QLF.......NAFAR......NHNNNIML...FUN....Well done brother.
The thing that has gotten me this far is not an abbirivation, but living up to my promise. Being a man of my word, following through every single day. Nothing harder than being able to look in the mirror and not respect the person looking back. I have grown to respect the person looking back more than ever.
There is only thing that matters to me making it to the next +1. In the end, all that alphabet soup is meaningless, unless I am here to give them meaning.
Acoountility is what makes this work. Let yourself be accountable and everything else will fall into place.
Your words have hit home with me in a big way today Candy. You are 100% right about this, and I will continue to strive to give meaning to those words every single day.Quote from: CandoitODAAT..... QLF.......NAFAR......NHNNNIML...FUN....Well done brother.
The thing that has gotten me this far is not an abbirivation, but living up to my promise. Being a man of my word, following through every single day. Nothing harder than being able to look in the mirror and not respect the person looking back. I have grown to respect the person looking back more than ever.
There is only thing that matters to me making it to the next +1. In the end, all that alphabet soup is meaningless, unless I am here to give them meaning.
Acoountility is what makes this work. Let yourself be accountable and everything else will fall into place.
500 Rocks.
Truth can set all free.
You are on a road of freedom.
I quit with you today.
Rawls 382
Hey you arrogant fucking prick southie Mick bastard drunk cock sucker...fucking A I love you man.WTF? What's that bouty bout Smalls?
I hope sixteen is way way way better than fifteen.
Candy- thanks
Going to be honest. Lately the fuck it thoughts have been stronger than ever. I have thought of and began to fade off and it would be a matter of time before I started again. That I am 100% certain onYou got it brother
In a call with Kramer yesterday he phrased it quite well..."it is harder to post roll the further into the quit you go. Why? Because you know that 1 day missing isn't going to be the end of the world. However that leaves the door open."
It does leave the door wide open to compliancy. I have stood firm 535 days, missing ONE WON'T HURT. That is addict speak if I have ever heard it.
I am trying to find a reason to be here. Ktc is what you need when you need it. I am finding a reason to need it harder and harder to find. Take what you need and leave the rest. That's what I am struggling with, at 535 days what I need is very different from what I needed at day 100.
I am going to continue to post roll, reflect, pray, and move forward one day at a time. Quit on quitthas
Going to be honest. Lately the fuck it thoughts have been stronger than ever. I have thought of and began to fade off and it would be a matter of time before I started again. That I am 100% certain onI couldn't agree more; your reasons at 535 are different than 100. The new quit crews need guidance from guys like you. I know early in our quits you, Kramer, Norm, et al kept me on tilt...which is exactly what I needed. Stay, Post, and keep guiding new quitters.
In a call with Kramer yesterday he phrased it quite well..."it is harder to post roll the further into the quit you go. Why? Because you know that 1 day missing isn't going to be the end of the world. However that leaves the door open."
It does leave the door wide open to compliancy. I have stood firm 535 days, missing ONE WON'T HURT. That is addict speak if I have ever heard it.
I am trying to find a reason to be here. Ktc is what you need when you need it. I am finding a reason to need it harder and harder to find. Take what you need and leave the rest. That's what I am struggling with, at 535 days what I need is very different from what I needed at day 100.
I am going to continue to post roll, reflect, pray, and move forward one day at a time. Quit on quitthas
I'll give you a reason candy, Me and 1000's more have learned the true meaning of quit from you and we were reminded numerous times quitting ktc is not an option. If you're looking for some coddling, I'm trying to find a quitter you coddled, its not happening! Now as far as everyone liking you on here,who gives a shit, stay quit and don't you ever let anyone tell you that you're nothing less than one badass son of a bitch of a quitter! To hell with the rest ,in my book you're one of the best! Quit on my friend and I look forward to seeing your post for many years to come!Quote from: CandoitGoing to be honest. Lately the fuck it thoughts have been stronger than ever. I have thought of and began to fade off and it would be a matter of time before I started again. That I am 100% certain onI couldn't agree more; your reasons at 535 are different than 100. The new quit crews need guidance from guys like you. I know early in our quits you, Kramer, Norm, et al kept me on tilt...which is exactly what I needed. Stay, Post, and keep guiding new quitters.
In a call with Kramer yesterday he phrased it quite well..."it is harder to post roll the further into the quit you go. Why? Because you know that 1 day missing isn't going to be the end of the world. However that leaves the door open."
It does leave the door wide open to compliancy. I have stood firm 535 days, missing ONE WON'T HURT. That is addict speak if I have ever heard it.
I am trying to find a reason to be here. Ktc is what you need when you need it. I am finding a reason to need it harder and harder to find. Take what you need and leave the rest. That's what I am struggling with, at 535 days what I need is very different from what I needed at day 100.
I am going to continue to post roll, reflect, pray, and move forward one day at a time. Quit on quitthas
At day 100 it was about Candy alone, now you have the power to helps hundreds quit every year!
Thanks for everything!!
Dipbegone, Pab and Jack I am not going anywhere today or tomorrow. It is a daily promise and I will continue to post as long as I can.Quote from: DipbegoneI'll give you a reason candy, Me and 1000's more have learned the true meaning of quit from you and we were reminded numerous times quitting ktc is not an option. If you're looking for some coddling, I'm trying to find a quitter you coddled, its not happening! Now as far as everyone liking you on here,who gives a shit, stay quit and don't you ever let anyone tell you that you're nothing less than one badass son of a bitch of a quitter! To hell with the rest ,in my book you're one of the best! Quit on my friend and I look forward to seeing your post for many years to come!Quote from: CandoitGoing to be honest. Lately the fuck it thoughts have been stronger than ever. I have thought of and began to fade off and it would be a matter of time before I started again. That I am 100% certain onI couldn't agree more; your reasons at 535 are different than 100. The new quit crews need guidance from guys like you. I know early in our quits you, Kramer, Norm, et al kept me on tilt...which is exactly what I needed. Stay, Post, and keep guiding new quitters.
In a call with Kramer yesterday he phrased it quite well..."it is harder to post roll the further into the quit you go. Why? Because you know that 1 day missing isn't going to be the end of the world. However that leaves the door open."
It does leave the door wide open to compliancy. I have stood firm 535 days, missing ONE WON'T HURT. That is addict speak if I have ever heard it.
I am trying to find a reason to be here. Ktc is what you need when you need it. I am finding a reason to need it harder and harder to find. Take what you need and leave the rest. That's what I am struggling with, at 535 days what I need is very different from what I needed at day 100.
I am going to continue to post roll, reflect, pray, and move forward one day at a time. Quit on quitthas
At day 100 it was about Candy alone, now you have the power to helps hundreds quit every year!
Thanks for everything!!
Whoever this Kramer guy (and I hope he reads this) needs a good ol' fashioned homer simpson to Bart neck choke.Quote from: pab1964Dipbegone, Pab and Jack I am not going anywhere today or tomorrow. It is a daily promise and I will continue to post as long as I can.Quote from: DipbegoneI'll give you a reason candy, Me and 1000's more have learned the true meaning of quit from you and we were reminded numerous times quitting ktc is not an option. If you're looking for some coddling, I'm trying to find a quitter you coddled, its not happening! Now as far as everyone liking you on here,who gives a shit, stay quit and don't you ever let anyone tell you that you're nothing less than one badass son of a bitch of a quitter! To hell with the rest ,in my book you're one of the best! Quit on my friend and I look forward to seeing your post for many years to come!Quote from: CandoitGoing to be honest. Lately the fuck it thoughts have been stronger than ever. I have thought of and began to fade off and it would be a matter of time before I started again. That I am 100% certain onI couldn't agree more; your reasons at 535 are different than 100. The new quit crews need guidance from guys like you. I know early in our quits you, Kramer, Norm, et al kept me on tilt...which is exactly what I needed. Stay, Post, and keep guiding new quitters.
In a call with Kramer yesterday he phrased it quite well...
It does leave the door wide open to compliancy. I have stood firm 535 days, missing ONE WON'T HURT. That is addict speak if I have ever heard it.
I am trying to find a reason to be here. Ktc is what you need when you need it. I am finding a reason to need it harder and harder to find. Take what you need and leave the rest. That's what I am struggling with, at 535 days what I need is very different from what I needed at day 100.
I am going to continue to post roll, reflect, pray, and move forward one day at a time. Quit on quitthas
At day 100 it was about Candy alone, now you have the power to helps hundreds quit every year!
Thanks for everything!!
I am not looking for velvet gloves or special treatment. Just documenting it for people to know that they aren't alone, and the path is clear.
Steakbomb....you and Kramer are saying the samething. That would be my fault for not providing enough context.Quote from: CandoitWhoever this Kramer guy (and I hope he reads this) needs a good ol' fashioned homer simpson to Bart neck choke.Quote from: pab1964Dipbegone, Pab and Jack I am not going anywhere today or tomorrow. It is a daily promise and I will continue to post as long as I can.Quote from: DipbegoneI'll give you a reason candy, Me and 1000's more have learned the true meaning of quit from you and we were reminded numerous times quitting ktc is not an option. If you're looking for some coddling, I'm trying to find a quitter you coddled, its not happening! Now as far as everyone liking you on here,who gives a shit, stay quit and don't you ever let anyone tell you that you're nothing less than one badass son of a bitch of a quitter! To hell with the rest ,in my book you're one of the best! Quit on my friend and I look forward to seeing your post for many years to come!Quote from: CandoitGoing to be honest. Lately the fuck it thoughts have been stronger than ever. I have thought of and began to fade off and it would be a matter of time before I started again. That I am 100% certain onI couldn't agree more; your reasons at 535 are different than 100. The new quit crews need guidance from guys like you. I know early in our quits you, Kramer, Norm, et al kept me on tilt...which is exactly what I needed. Stay, Post, and keep guiding new quitters.
In a call with Kramer yesterday he phrased it quite well...
It does leave the door wide open to compliancy. I have stood firm 535 days, missing ONE WON'T HURT. That is addict speak if I have ever heard it.
I am trying to find a reason to be here. Ktc is what you need when you need it. I am finding a reason to need it harder and harder to find. Take what you need and leave the rest. That's what I am struggling with, at 535 days what I need is very different from what I needed at day 100.
I am going to continue to post roll, reflect, pray, and move forward one day at a time. Quit on quitthas
At day 100 it was about Candy alone, now you have the power to helps hundreds quit every year!
Thanks for everything!!
I am not looking for velvet gloves or special treatment. Just documenting it for people to know that they aren't alone, and the path is clear.
"it is harder to post roll the further into the quit you go. Why? Because you know that 1 day missing isn't going to be the end of the world."
I totally agree, this is pure addict speak, and frankly its just plain asinine. A statement like that comes from somebody who hasn't learned a thing about quitting. I don't care if that person is at day 1,000 ...saying that posting roll is not imperative or (basically) "optional" tells me that said person is a pre-caver; meaning at any given point they could cave because they didn't care enough to make a promise.
For anyone out there reading this, if you learn anything about quitting, take away one thing. Post roll every day. The second you let your resolve and vigilance slip, is the second you compromise everything. Remember: posting roll is posting a promise for you. If you stop caring about you, then all is lost. Everyone who depends on you being quit, depends on you caring enough about yourself to post roll every day.
Today is a new day. Some how it feels like I am back to some place I was before. I have a sense of hesitation that I have not felt in a long time. Using KTC as an escape and grasping at something that I am searching for. I dont yet know what that is, but only one way to find out, move forward.One thing I like about you is your refusal to give up. You've gone through some shit this last year and yet the thing that has probably helped you the most is that you keep "moving forward". You've continued to post roll AND support even when you needed it yourself. I have 100% faith in the strength of your quit and the fact that you will stay a pillar of KTC for a long long time. If you left I'd be making another road trip. QLF with you EDD!
If you knock, the door will be opened. Those who search.... Will find the Truth.Quote from: CandoitToday is a new day. Some how it feels like I am back to some place I was before. I have a sense of hesitation that I have not felt in a long time. Using KTC as an escape and grasping at something that I am searching for. I dont yet know what that is, but only one way to find out, move forward.One thing I like about you is your refusal to give up. You've gone through some shit this last year and yet the thing that has probably helped you the most is that you keep "moving forward". You've continued to post roll AND support even when you needed it yourself. I have 100% faith in the strength of your quit and the fact that you will stay a pillar of KTC for a long long time. If you left I'd be making another road trip. QLF with you EDD!
Candi. Its been a sweet ride.Cando, nice 6th floor!
Thanks for all you've done to help me and support my group!
Always appreciated, and admired.
6th floor badass!
'party2'
I need all of you quitting with me every damn day, holding me accountable and making sure that I am here to give my word. I need this just as much on day 600 as I did on day 100.Quote from: ChickDipCandi. Its been a sweet ride.Cando, nice 6th floor!
Thanks for all you've done to help me and support my group!
Always appreciated, and admired.
6th floor badass!
'party2'
Thanks candy for being huge in my quit and many others!Quote from: Nomore1959I need all of you quitting with me every damn day, holding me accountable and making sure that I am here to give my word. I need this just as much on day 600 as I did on day 100.Quote from: ChickDipCandi. Its been a sweet ride.Cando, nice 6th floor!
Thanks for all you've done to help me and support my group!
Always appreciated, and admired.
6th floor badass!
'party2'
Well done on 600 and 601. You the man. You quitter!Quote from: CandoitThanks candy for being huge in my quit and many others!Quote from: Nomore1959I need all of you quitting with me every damn day, holding me accountable and making sure that I am here to give my word. I need this just as much on day 600 as I did on day 100.Quote from: ChickDipCandi. Its been a sweet ride.Cando, nice 6th floor!
Thanks for all you've done to help me and support my group!
Always appreciated, and admired.
6th floor badass!
'party2'
Keep laying the smooth asphalt for us in the rear. Look up to you and your abilities in this battle. Fight on CandyCouldn't say well done on 600....
My Dad was admitted last night to the hospital with a blocked intensine. Of course my mother, not wanting to worry me, tells me at 11 pm, via text. When I go down in the morning to visit, she doesnt know his room number, because she doesnt know which hospital he is at. Why? Beacuse fukn Yale owns both hospitals in New Haven, "oh, he will be where ever we have room." Yeah great that helps. According to her, he will be out tonight. Nope he is going to be in for at least the next 48 hours. So, getting ready to leave work, now. Stressed yes, but nic free.Prayers for your dad. Thanks for being such a leader here
**note*** 602+1's in. Almost 2 trips around the sun and the shit thrown my direction, still lets the whisper in. Standing tall, keeping my word, and putting 100% of my faith in my brothers. This is what has worked, I will be damned if I will change now.
Thank you. He is doing okay for what it is. The doctors are taking it one day at a time. Hoping the blockage clears when the bile is removed (sucking it out through a tube). So, time will tell. But on the upside my little brother didnt let anyone else know what was going on. Ie my 3 other siblings that live out of state. I love those convos....Quote from: CandoitMy Dad was admitted last night to the hospital with a blocked intensine. Of course my mother, not wanting to worry me, tells me at 11 pm, via text. When I go down in the morning to visit, she doesnt know his room number, because she doesnt know which hospital he is at. Why? Beacuse fukn Yale owns both hospitals in New Haven, "oh, he will be where ever we have room." Yeah great that helps. According to her, he will be out tonight. Nope he is going to be in for at least the next 48 hours. So, getting ready to leave work, now. Stressed yes, but nic free.Prayers for your dad. Thanks for being such a leader here
**note*** 602+1's in. Almost 2 trips around the sun and the shit thrown my direction, still lets the whisper in. Standing tall, keeping my word, and putting 100% of my faith in my brothers. This is what has worked, I will be damned if I will change now.
My Dad was admitted last night to the hospital with a blocked intensine. Of course my mother, not wanting to worry me, tells me at 11 pm, via text. When I go down in the morning to visit, she doesnt know his room number, because she doesnt know which hospital he is at. Why? Beacuse fukn Yale owns both hospitals in New Haven, "oh, he will be where ever we have room." Yeah great that helps. According to her, he will be out tonight. Nope he is going to be in for at least the next 48 hours. So, getting ready to leave work, now. Stressed yes, but nic free.Congrats on the sixth floor.
**note*** 602+1's in. Almost 2 trips around the sun and the shit thrown my direction, still lets the whisper in. Standing tall, keeping my word, and putting 100% of my faith in my brothers. This is what has worked, I will be damned if I will change now.
So, got a call at 9:30 that he was going in for exploratory surgery. This has been a worry for a long time. He lost 3 ft of small intestine in '88. In that event he no longer has ab muscles. So in '05 the mesh let the instentine move and knot up. They did the same thing used the NT tube, remove the bile, and he was fine. This time it isnt getting any better. Took him in for surgey about 1:30 pm.Glad to hear all seems to have gone well for your dad. At least now you can formulate a plan in the event any of those things happen. Maybe FMLA in the event you need to miss work? You are right though nicotine wouldn't do a thing to help your situation. Continued prayers for your dad!
I just spoke to the drs asst. He just got out of surgery. Removed alot of scar tissue and everything looks to be good. They did not send any to pathology because there isnt any signs that it was a cancerous growth. He will be in recovery until at least 7 tonight.
I am relieved at this outcome, but it also made me realize that I dont have a plan for alot of things. Like money coming in if I have to miss work or what is going to happen to my mother, if she out lives him. I need to hold a meeting of the mindless to figure this shit out.
Prayers my brother.Quote from: CandoitSo, got a call at 9:30 that he was going in for exploratory surgery. This has been a worry for a long time. He lost 3 ft of small intestine in '88. In that event he no longer has ab muscles. So in '05 the mesh let the instentine move and knot up. They did the same thing used the NT tube, remove the bile, and he was fine. This time it isnt getting any better. Took him in for surgey about 1:30 pm.Glad to hear all seems to have gone well for your dad. At least now you can formulate a plan in the event any of those things happen. Maybe FMLA in the event you need to miss work? You are right though nicotine wouldn't do a thing to help your situation. Continued prayers for your dad!
I just spoke to the drs asst. He just got out of surgery. Removed alot of scar tissue and everything looks to be good. They did not send any to pathology because there isnt any signs that it was a cancerous growth. He will be in recovery until at least 7 tonight.
I am relieved at this outcome, but it also made me realize that I dont have a plan for alot of things. Like money coming in if I have to miss work or what is going to happen to my mother, if she out lives him. I need to hold a meeting of the mindless to figure this shit out.
Hang in there and prayers do helpQuote from: tjschuPrayers my brother.Quote from: CandoitSo, got a call at 9:30 that he was going in for exploratory surgery. This has been a worry for a long time. He lost 3 ft of small intestine in '88. In that event he no longer has ab muscles. So in '05 the mesh let the instentine move and knot up. They did the same thing used the NT tube, remove the bile, and he was fine. This time it isnt getting any better. Took him in for surgey about 1:30 pm.Glad to hear all seems to have gone well for your dad. At least now you can formulate a plan in the event any of those things happen. Maybe FMLA in the event you need to miss work? You are right though nicotine wouldn't do a thing to help your situation. Continued prayers for your dad!
I just spoke to the drs asst. He just got out of surgery. Removed alot of scar tissue and everything looks to be good. They did not send any to pathology because there isnt any signs that it was a cancerous growth. He will be in recovery until at least 7 tonight.
I am relieved at this outcome, but it also made me realize that I dont have a plan for alot of things. Like money coming in if I have to miss work or what is going to happen to my mother, if she out lives him. I need to hold a meeting of the mindless to figure this shit out.
Prayers with you candi.Quote from: Cope30Hang in there and prayers do helpQuote from: tjschuPrayers my brother.Quote from: CandoitSo, got a call at 9:30 that he was going in for exploratory surgery. This has been a worry for a long time. He lost 3 ft of small intestine in '88. In that event he no longer has ab muscles. So in '05 the mesh let the instentine move and knot up. They did the same thing used the NT tube, remove the bile, and he was fine. This time it isnt getting any better. Took him in for surgey about 1:30 pm.Glad to hear all seems to have gone well for your dad. At least now you can formulate a plan in the event any of those things happen. Maybe FMLA in the event you need to miss work? You are right though nicotine wouldn't do a thing to help your situation. Continued prayers for your dad!
I just spoke to the drs asst. He just got out of surgery. Removed alot of scar tissue and everything looks to be good. They did not send any to pathology because there isnt any signs that it was a cancerous growth. He will be in recovery until at least 7 tonight.
I am relieved at this outcome, but it also made me realize that I dont have a plan for alot of things. Like money coming in if I have to miss work or what is going to happen to my mother, if she out lives him. I need to hold a meeting of the mindless to figure this shit out.
Thinking of you, man.Quote from: pab1964Prayers with you candi.Quote from: Cope30Hang in there and prayers do helpQuote from: tjschuPrayers my brother.Quote from: CandoitSo, got a call at 9:30 that he was going in for exploratory surgery. This has been a worry for a long time. He lost 3 ft of small intestine in '88. In that event he no longer has ab muscles. So in '05 the mesh let the instentine move and knot up. They did the same thing used the NT tube, remove the bile, and he was fine. This time it isnt getting any better. Took him in for surgey about 1:30 pm.Glad to hear all seems to have gone well for your dad. At least now you can formulate a plan in the event any of those things happen. Maybe FMLA in the event you need to miss work? You are right though nicotine wouldn't do a thing to help your situation. Continued prayers for your dad!
I just spoke to the drs asst. He just got out of surgery. Removed alot of scar tissue and everything looks to be good. They did not send any to pathology because there isnt any signs that it was a cancerous growth. He will be in recovery until at least 7 tonight.
I am relieved at this outcome, but it also made me realize that I dont have a plan for alot of things. Like money coming in if I have to miss work or what is going to happen to my mother, if she out lives him. I need to hold a meeting of the mindless to figure this shit out.
Update on my father.Quote from: ChickDipThinking of you, man.Quote from: pab1964Prayers with you candi.Quote from: Cope30Hang in there and prayers do helpQuote from: tjschuPrayers my brother.Quote from: CandoitSo, got a call at 9:30 that he was going in for exploratory surgery. This has been a worry for a long time. He lost 3 ft of small intestine in '88. In that event he no longer has ab muscles. So in '05 the mesh let the instentine move and knot up. They did the same thing used the NT tube, remove the bile, and he was fine. This time it isnt getting any better. Took him in for surgey about 1:30 pm.Glad to hear all seems to have gone well for your dad. At least now you can formulate a plan in the event any of those things happen. Maybe FMLA in the event you need to miss work? You are right though nicotine wouldn't do a thing to help your situation. Continued prayers for your dad!
I just spoke to the drs asst. He just got out of surgery. Removed alot of scar tissue and everything looks to be good. They did not send any to pathology because there isnt any signs that it was a cancerous growth. He will be in recovery until at least 7 tonight.
I am relieved at this outcome, but it also made me realize that I dont have a plan for alot of things. Like money coming in if I have to miss work or what is going to happen to my mother, if she out lives him. I need to hold a meeting of the mindless to figure this shit out.
That is good to hear Cando. Hang in there bro!Quote from: danojenoUpdate on my father.Quote from: ChickDipThinking of you, man.Quote from: pab1964Prayers with you candi.Quote from: Cope30Hang in there and prayers do helpQuote from: tjschuPrayers my brother.Quote from: CandoitSo, got a call at 9:30 that he was going in for exploratory surgery. This has been a worry for a long time. He lost 3 ft of small intestine in '88. In that event he no longer has ab muscles. So in '05 the mesh let the instentine move and knot up. They did the same thing used the NT tube, remove the bile, and he was fine. This time it isnt getting any better. Took him in for surgey about 1:30 pm.Glad to hear all seems to have gone well for your dad. At least now you can formulate a plan in the event any of those things happen. Maybe FMLA in the event you need to miss work? You are right though nicotine wouldn't do a thing to help your situation. Continued prayers for your dad!
I just spoke to the drs asst. He just got out of surgery. Removed alot of scar tissue and everything looks to be good. They did not send any to pathology because there isnt any signs that it was a cancerous growth. He will be in recovery until at least 7 tonight.
I am relieved at this outcome, but it also made me realize that I dont have a plan for alot of things. Like money coming in if I have to miss work or what is going to happen to my mother, if she out lives him. I need to hold a meeting of the mindless to figure this shit out.
They removed the scar tissue that was causing the bloackage in his GI tract. It was not sent to pathology, because it showed no signs of cancer. He still is in step down unit, no food, but sitting up and joking. So all good signs.
Thank you all for the thoughts and prayers.
Tomorrow will be my 630th +1. Thats 90 weeks. I find it so hard to believe that 90 weeks have passed. My life has dramtically changed. I know its for the better.You arnt going anywhere.....
One thing that really crystalized for me tonight was that, helping others helps me, but it doesnt always provide the level of return on accountibility I need. Accountibility has changed what it looks like and how it is delievered, but at its core it remains the same. A person willing to drag my ass back in here no matter what to face the consuqences of my actions. A person willing to step between me and the exit, no matter what. To do that it takes massive respect and belief in a person to do that.
We do the same to a caver, we need to pruse our brothers with the same verver.
congrats on your 90 weeks!! Thanks for being there for me always, even when I didn't need it.. (I always needed it, just didn't always know it! hahaha)Quote from: CandoitTomorrow will be my 630th +1. Thats 90 weeks. I find it so hard to believe that 90 weeks have passed. My life has dramtically changed. I know its for the better.You arnt going anywhere.....
One thing that really crystalized for me tonight was that, helping others helps me, but it doesnt always provide the level of return on accountibility I need. Accountibility has changed what it looks like and how it is delievered, but at its core it remains the same. A person willing to drag my ass back in here no matter what to face the consuqences of my actions. A person willing to step between me and the exit, no matter what. To do that it takes massive respect and belief in a person to do that.
We do the same to a caver, we need to pruse our brothers with the same verver.
Promise you that.
Good news about your dad.
Congrats on 90 weeks.
ALL DAY LONG.
Rawls 511
I am glad to look up to you CandyMan, glad I found this place, glad I stopped trying to slowkill myself. I support your fights and your quit.Quote from: Rawlscongrats on your 90 weeks!! Thanks for being there for me always, even when I didn't need it.. (I always needed it, just didn't always know it! hahaha)Quote from: CandoitTomorrow will be my 630th +1. Thats 90 weeks. I find it so hard to believe that 90 weeks have passed. My life has dramtically changed. I know its for the better.You arnt going anywhere.....
One thing that really crystalized for me tonight was that, helping others helps me, but it doesnt always provide the level of return on accountibility I need. Accountibility has changed what it looks like and how it is delievered, but at its core it remains the same. A person willing to drag my ass back in here no matter what to face the consuqences of my actions. A person willing to step between me and the exit, no matter what. To do that it takes massive respect and belief in a person to do that.
We do the same to a caver, we need to pruse our brothers with the same verver.
Promise you that.
Good news about your dad.
Congrats on 90 weeks.
ALL DAY LONG.
Rawls 511
We own who we are, we do not ask to be judged, we do not turn away those who seek the support, we hold those accountable for their actions, like they requested by becoming a member.Damn I was angry, still feel the same way, though. Thinking about what it takes to quit and how much effort at times this takes. This sure as hell is easier now than, back then. But it still requires effort and commitment. Cheesewhiz ass roflmao
Life is about choices, I made the choice to quit, and I will make that choice to quit every single minute of the rest of my life. Why because I choose to pick up a tin, instead of cigarettes. That is the choice I made 11 years ago. I am enough of a fucking man to stand by my choices, and ask for support. I am not asking for forgiveness for my own bad choices, I am seeking to forgive myself.
When you rush to the defense of those who broke the KTC law, it insults everyone that follows the law. This does not work because it contains shades of gray in which the weak, feabable minded people can hide behind broken promises to say to the world I am a member, therefore I am doing something to quit. This is built on the premise that it is black and white. Either the nic bitch is bending you over her knee and spanking you like the NY Giants do every time they play the pats, or your spanking the nic bitch like Regan spanked the Cremlin.
Do me a favor and save your sunshine, and rainbow bullshit for someone that believes your cheese whiz ass smells like roses. I know I used a lot of big words and accurate historical facts that will not be believed or validated by Wikipedia or yahoo questions. I may be a quitter but I can think for myself. Do you know what that makes me? A fucking Titan of Quit.
I saw somebody yesterday state that days 1-100 are sacred.Quote from: DayWe own who we are, we do not ask to be judged, we do not turn away those who seek the support, we hold those accountable for their actions, like they requested by becoming a member.Damn I was angry, still feel the same way, though. Thinking about what it takes to quit and how much effort at times this takes. This sure as hell is easier now than, back then. But it still requires effort and commitment. Cheesewhiz ass roflmao
Life is about choices, I made the choice to quit, and I will make that choice to quit every single minute of the rest of my life. Why because I choose to pick up a tin, instead of cigarettes. That is the choice I made 11 years ago. I am enough of a fucking man to stand by my choices, and ask for support. I am not asking for forgiveness for my own bad choices, I am seeking to forgive myself.
When you rush to the defense of those who broke the KTC law, it insults everyone that follows the law. This does not work because it contains shades of gray in which the weak, feabable minded people can hide behind broken promises to say to the world I am a member, therefore I am doing something to quit. This is built on the premise that it is black and white. Either the nic bitch is bending you over her knee and spanking you like the NY Giants do every time they play the pats, or your spanking the nic bitch like Regan spanked the Cremlin.
Do me a favor and save your sunshine, and rainbow bullshit for someone that believes your cheese whiz ass smells like roses. I know I used a lot of big words and accurate historical facts that will not be believed or validated by Wikipedia or yahoo questions. I may be a quitter but I can think for myself. Do you know what that makes me? A fucking Titan of Quit.
I have shifted my life over the past 640 days to live from a place of moral accountability. I have an ethical duty to be successful in all I do. I am accountabile to God, my family, my brothers and to myself to give everything to everything I do. There is no making time for this or that. When I am successful, there always is time. When I have a lack of time, I know I need to work harder in some aspect.Quote from: CandoitI saw somebody yesterday state that days 1-100 are sacred.Quote from: DayWe own who we are, we do not ask to be judged, we do not turn away those who seek the support, we hold those accountable for their actions, like they requested by becoming a member.Damn I was angry, still feel the same way, though. Thinking about what it takes to quit and how much effort at times this takes. This sure as hell is easier now than, back then. But it still requires effort and commitment. Cheesewhiz ass roflmao
Life is about choices, I made the choice to quit, and I will make that choice to quit every single minute of the rest of my life. Why because I choose to pick up a tin, instead of cigarettes. That is the choice I made 11 years ago. I am enough of a fucking man to stand by my choices, and ask for support. I am not asking for forgiveness for my own bad choices, I am seeking to forgive myself.
When you rush to the defense of those who broke the KTC law, it insults everyone that follows the law. This does not work because it contains shades of gray in which the weak, feabable minded people can hide behind broken promises to say to the world I am a member, therefore I am doing something to quit. This is built on the premise that it is black and white. Either the nic bitch is bending you over her knee and spanking you like the NY Giants do every time they play the pats, or your spanking the nic bitch like Regan spanked the Cremlin.
Do me a favor and save your sunshine, and rainbow bullshit for someone that believes your cheese whiz ass smells like roses. I know I used a lot of big words and accurate historical facts that will not be believed or validated by Wikipedia or yahoo questions. I may be a quitter but I can think for myself. Do you know what that makes me? A fucking Titan of Quit.
Incorrect. Every day quit is sacred.
It's not always easy. It's not always hard either. Hell, most days now I can lean on a simple roll post to get through the day. Occasionally, I need to reach out just to rekindle some fire. But, mostly, I stay active to stay quit. It's simple...but not always easy.
I posted roll today but I plan to stop posting beyond today. I've gotten to the point that I don't think about it much or feel the need to post. Recently I spoke about wanting to be more active but I realized it was mostly myself feeling guilty about not wanting to log on anymore. Rather then fake it I'd rather be honest and just let you know that after 460 days I don't feel the draw to get on everyday. It doesn't make sense to me to post roll, just to full a quotaHave to say that hurt me this morning. This is a guy that drove 6+ hours to have a beer with me when I was at my lowest. I really couldnt say much. Me throwing shit at the wall to see what stuck, wouldnt have worked.
This notion that we can go it alone, keeps playing out, the farther down the path we go. Concurrently in May 16, they are having this converstation as they approach their HOF's.Quote from: I'mAfter 460 days I was convinced I was ready to leave KTC. I had a bunch of reasons laid out for myself, and as an addict I was sold on the idea. After voicing my thoughts this morning to some fellow Misfits I was quickly reminded of my addict logic and the path I was about to follow. After 460 days I am still an addict. I am still in need of my brothers support and tough love. I am thankful for both. I didn't plan to cave in any way but had I left I may have lost sight of my addiction and eventually done just that. Today I am quit. Tommorrow I will be here and my promise will assure that I continue to stay quit. Thank you.Quote from: Some"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day-in and day-out." - Robert CollierMaybe they should listen to themselves. Just sayn.
"Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up." - Thomas A. Edison
All of this keeps reminding me of why I signed up day 1. I couldnt do this on my own then, why should it be any different now? The battles are different, but it is the same war.Quote from: WepdocThat's no shit....Today I posed up 2683...while that seems huge - it is literally only 28% of the time I actively used. I still used 3x longer than I have been quit.Quote from: AWOLExactly even at 100 days and 0.5% quit do you think the journey is over.....by no means. Does that mean 100 days is nothing....absolutely not.....100 days is an accomplishment to be celebrated of itself but continued vigilance toward the bigger fight.Quote from: Wepdoc.58%Quote from: SwilderbeastThink about what percent you quit you are..... Number of days quit \ number of days dipping= times 100 that's how quit you are at 140 days I'm still only 1% quit I've got some work to do.Quote from: hanzenI work on class 8 Peterbilt trucks, I got in the drivers seat of one today and the driver had a solo cup prepped with napkins and 3 used dips sitting on top on them. All I could smell was dip and like you it made me want to vomit.Quote from: RNGLockDude comes up to me at work today with a dip in his mouth. The smell that was radiating into my nostrils made me want to throw up. I'm glad that isn't apart of my life anymore. Kind of made me wonder how many people thought the same thing about me when I'd talk to them. Just the thought makes me glad I quit.Quote from: AWOLI was told the exact same thing. That is what started my quit.Quote from: Bryan127You got a gift to be told that. Most just keep going until it's too late.Quote from: DavalinThis blows. I'm literally 10 days from the Hall of Fame, and the Nic Bitch is being stronger than ever for me. I mentioned this before, but I'm back to work. Going through indoctrination, which is pretty much death by power point. The 4 other guys going through it with me are sitting there dipping the whole time. It's driving me nuts. The cravings are harsh. My mouth is watering just sitting there attempting to stare at these power points or watch these videos. I won't cave, but it's really hard.Yeah dude I started a new job back in February and it's for the railroad so people either smoke or dip and I just get cravings when I'm around them good thing the dippers aren't in my group, and guess what what scared the crap out of me is the dentist told me " you have leukoplakia where you used to dip in your mouth well keep an eye on it and in 6months if it gets worse
Well biopsy it" I'm like wow way to not beat around the bush , keep in mind been doing grizz long cut for about 8-10 years on and off so I still get
The craving but the hygienist told me don't go back to it or it will for sure turn to the C word....it's just not worth it dying young idc if you always had that mentality "oh well I'm gonna die might as well pick my poison!" FUCK THAT!!!
I've said it before I have serious respect for those of you that have to be around it all day. I am away from it all day at work.
Quit on.
The HOF train is a celebration, but it is not a culmination of your quit. Don't climb aboard with the intention of getting off at the next stop (in other words-stay active. You are not cured.)
Congrats on 700 man!!!Congrats on the 7th floor!!
Proud to be quit with you!
Candy man....one of two guys that are responsible for my continued success here. Congrats on 7 thank you for paying it forward with a guy like me. Catch some trout and quit on7th floor view! Awesome badass keep bringing it!
7th floor! Congrats Candoit and thanks for paying it forward to the newbies!Quote from: DipbegoneCandy man....one of two guys that are responsible for my continued success here. Congrats on 7 thank you for paying it forward with a guy like me. Catch some trout and quit on7th floor view! Awesome badass keep bringing it!
Nice going Red! You need to reopen Mr. C's Emporium..... :DMaybe.....
Congrats on two trips around the sun!!! Again thanks for all you do here!!Congratulations on 2 years candyman! Thanks for your support everyday
Thanks for your dedication to the quitters on this site and holding people accountable! Congrats on your second revolution!Quote from: tjschuCongrats on two trips around the sun!!! Again thanks for all you do here!!Congratulations on 2 years candyman! Thanks for your support everyday
Candi, congrats on 2 years my brother !Quote from: pab1964Thanks for your dedication to the quitters on this site and holding people accountable! Congrats on your second revolution!Quote from: tjschuCongrats on two trips around the sun!!! Again thanks for all you do here!!Congratulations on 2 years candyman! Thanks for your support everyday
Attn: Newly self appointed bad ass quittersThis is pure good stuff! ^^^^^ one day at a time is what gets you through. Even past the comma, i still draw on that method. You need to practice that approach repeatedly, that's what arms you for the long haul. Don't short cut your learning, undermine your quit- just follow the method here as hard as you can. That's what works.
RE: Committing to the Comma
While your filled with rage and hatered toward nicotine is welcomed and refreshing, it soon will fade. I enjoy watching all of you come out of the gate with such passion and vigor it inspires me. But just like anything else, it too shall fade.
Many of the old krusty BAQ advise you about being quit for today. We speak of easier times and challenges yet unfathomable. Yet you in your chest thumping "I am QFL" turn a blind eye to the sage warns and collective wisdom. This wisdom is built, sadly, upon the remains of many former BAQ, who choose a different path.
The comma will come, but so shall challenges so vast you cannot begin to contemplate them. One thing will bring you through those unimaginable challenges to our egos and quit, the value you place in a simple task. Posting your promise to make it 24 hours nicotine free. Not your brash QFL or commitment to 800 more days, but just making it through today.
Today is all that matters. Today is all I control. Today is what I make of it. All anyone of us can promise is to make it to tomorrow, not forever. Forever is hope and faith. Today is sweat and toil. Making it to tomorrow is something you can hang your hat on.
While I admire the balls to the wall quit, remember that you need to be okay with the person in the mirror. Too often we let ego cover the flaws we seek to hide from ourselves. Learn to deal with those flaws and eventually be proud of them.
You have made it this far, are you in for another day?
We are addicts, everything we do is selfish. Quitting itself is a selfish act. Investing in others, staying active, starting dumpster fires, are all 100% selfish acts. The act of either quitting or using are are different ends of the selfishness scale, but both are 100% selfish acts. Me, I choose to be a selfish in a way that benefits me and as a side effect helps others be selfish in reclaiming their lives.
Thanks for helping me get to 100, ya selfish bastard.Quote from: CandoitWe are addicts, everything we do is selfish. Quitting itself is a selfish act. Investing in others, staying active, starting dumpster fires, are all 100% selfish acts. The act of either quitting or using are are different ends of the selfishness scale, but both are 100% selfish acts. Me, I choose to be a selfish in a way that benefits me and as a side effect helps others be selfish in reclaiming their lives.
BOOM. In Candi style, just another day...but it looks so cool. See you on text and roll Manana brotherAlways! It is a hella nice number, but not as nice as 801 will look in the AM. Couldnt not do it with all of you that hold my ass accountable every day.
I'm a little late to the party. Congrats on 8th floor Mr. C!!Quote from: DipbegoneBOOM. In Candi style, just another day...but it looks so cool. See you on text and roll Manana brotherAlways! It is a hella nice number, but not as nice as 801 will look in the AM. Couldnt not do it with all of you that hold my ass accountable every day.
Attaboy Candy... thanks for your support, I'll quit with you EDD!Quote from: CandoitI'm a little late to the party. Congrats on 8th floor Mr. C!!Quote from: DipbegoneBOOM. In Candi style, just another day...but it looks so cool. See you on text and roll Manana brotherAlways! It is a hella nice number, but not as nice as 801 will look in the AM. Couldnt not do it with all of you that hold my ass accountable every day.
Well done..... SirQuote from: trigerhapyAttaboy Candy... thanks for your support, I'll quit with you EDD!Quote from: CandoitI'm a little late to the party. Congrats on 8th floor Mr. C!!Quote from: DipbegoneBOOM. In Candi style, just another day...but it looks so cool. See you on text and roll Manana brotherAlways! It is a hella nice number, but not as nice as 801 will look in the AM. Couldnt not do it with all of you that hold my ass accountable every day.
Finding myself being angry alot lately. When I become angry the thoughts of using increase. I need to say my piece and move on, not let this fester. Always come back to this why am I letting the small stuff control me? Can not do anything so move on.Candoit, you got this! I have no worries about your quit. One foot in front of the other!
As always easier said than done. ODAAT
Thank you spuds, for the words and avatar. I think anger has replaced anxiety when I feel out of control. Finding new ways and outlets to move forward.Quote from: CandoitFinding myself being angry alot lately. When I become angry the thoughts of using increase. I need to say my piece and move on, not let this fester. Always come back to this why am I letting the small stuff control me? Can not do anything so move on.Candoit, you got this! I have no worries about your quit. One foot in front of the other!
As always easier said than done. ODAAT
Today
I will remember I am an addict.
I will make the decision to stay quit just for today. Tomorrow will take care of itself.
I will post roll today to both remind myself I am an addict, and to steel my quit against temptation.
Today I will stand shoulder to shoulder with my fellow quitters and both hold them up and hold them accountable.
Today I will remember that nicotine isn't good for anything but keeping me addicted to nicotine.
Today I will remember Kenzi Kern and I will hug my children tight.
Today I will not hide from my family or friends to satisfy my addiction
Today my battered mind and body will continue to heal from years of ingesting a neurotoxic weed.
Today I live within the bounds of my word and my desire to stay free .
Today I stay quit.
sM.
Couldnt believe how much two days with out sucked. I need a daily quit fix. I know I am not cured. I know that KTC is a critical part of my life. I know that I will be here tomorrow.No doubt. I'm an addict. My drug of choice is this group of miscreants
Incessant texting gropeme without the ktc.Quote from: CandoitCouldnt believe how much two days with out sucked. I need a daily quit fix. I know I am not cured. I know that KTC is a critical part of my life. I know that I will be here tomorrow.No doubt. I'm an addict. My drug of choice is this group of miscreants
Damn it was different. I never really realized how bad I needed ktc! I'm a full blown junky and I need all the help I can get. The texting and groupme definitely helped but just not the sameQuote from: DipbegoneIncessant texting gropeme without the ktc.Quote from: CandoitCouldnt believe how much two days with out sucked. I need a daily quit fix. I know I am not cured. I know that KTC is a critical part of my life. I know that I will be here tomorrow.No doubt. I'm an addict. My drug of choice is this group of miscreants
900 congrats on another milestone - Quit Hard!Way to go Candy! Thanks for helping me and a ton of others. Proud to be quit with you!
Grats, Red! You keep this up, and sooner or later, you're gonna have a pretty good quit going! 'winker'Quote from: D2maine900 congrats on another milestone - Quit Hard!Way to go Candy! Thanks for helping me and a ton of others. Proud to be quit with you!
Next stop the comma club!! Congrats and thank you for all you do here!!!Quote from: PMILSGrats, Red! You keep this up, and sooner or later, you're gonna have a pretty good quit going! 'winker'Quote from: D2maine900 congrats on another milestone - Quit Hard!Way to go Candy! Thanks for helping me and a ton of others. Proud to be quit with you!
Helping countless others out on the road to success yourself. Solid! You make this site a sight better than it otherwise would be.
Awesome quit Cando!Quote from: CavMan83Next stop the comma club!! Congrats and thank you for all you do here!!!Quote from: PMILSGrats, Red! You keep this up, and sooner or later, you're gonna have a pretty good quit going! 'winker'Quote from: D2maine900 congrats on another milestone - Quit Hard!Way to go Candy! Thanks for helping me and a ton of others. Proud to be quit with you!
Helping countless others out on the road to success yourself. Solid! You make this site a sight better than it otherwise would be.
Nice job Candy Man. Proud to be quitting today with you at 900Quote from: tjschuAwesome quit Cando!Quote from: CavMan83Next stop the comma club!! Congrats and thank you for all you do here!!!Quote from: PMILSGrats, Red! You keep this up, and sooner or later, you're gonna have a pretty good quit going! 'winker'Quote from: D2maine900 congrats on another milestone - Quit Hard!Way to go Candy! Thanks for helping me and a ton of others. Proud to be quit with you!
Helping countless others out on the road to success yourself. Solid! You make this site a sight better than it otherwise would be.
Here's to the next milestone!
You mew quitters need to hang on to this badass quitters coattail! Congratulations candoit ! Damn proud to call you a friend and brother!Quote from: trigerhapyNice job Candy Man. Proud to be quitting today with you at 900Quote from: tjschuAwesome quit Cando!Quote from: CavMan83Next stop the comma club!! Congrats and thank you for all you do here!!!Quote from: PMILSGrats, Red! You keep this up, and sooner or later, you're gonna have a pretty good quit going! 'winker'Quote from: D2maine900 congrats on another milestone - Quit Hard!Way to go Candy! Thanks for helping me and a ton of others. Proud to be quit with you!
Helping countless others out on the road to success yourself. Solid! You make this site a sight better than it otherwise would be.
Here's to the next milestone!
Candi man on this sweet ride with all of us.Quote from: JB65You mew quitters need to hang on to this badass quitters coattail! Congratulations candoit ! Damn proud to call you a friend and brother!Quote from: trigerhapyNice job Candy Man. Proud to be quitting today with you at 900Quote from: tjschuAwesome quit Cando!Quote from: CavMan83Next stop the comma club!! Congrats and thank you for all you do here!!!Quote from: PMILSGrats, Red! You keep this up, and sooner or later, you're gonna have a pretty good quit going! 'winker'Quote from: D2maine900 congrats on another milestone - Quit Hard!Way to go Candy! Thanks for helping me and a ton of others. Proud to be quit with you!
Helping countless others out on the road to success yourself. Solid! You make this site a sight better than it otherwise would be.
Here's to the next milestone!
And what's better than 900?Quote from: pab1964Candi man on this sweet ride with all of us.Quote from: JB65You mew quitters need to hang on to this badass quitters coattail! Congratulations candoit ! Damn proud to call you a friend and brother!Quote from: trigerhapyNice job Candy Man. Proud to be quitting today with you at 900Quote from: tjschuAwesome quit Cando!Quote from: CavMan83Next stop the comma club!! Congrats and thank you for all you do here!!!Quote from: PMILSGrats, Red! You keep this up, and sooner or later, you're gonna have a pretty good quit going! 'winker'Quote from: D2maine900 congrats on another milestone - Quit Hard!Way to go Candy! Thanks for helping me and a ton of others. Proud to be quit with you!
Helping countless others out on the road to success yourself. Solid! You make this site a sight better than it otherwise would be.
Here's to the next milestone!
Thanks for keeping me in the zone when i wanted to zone out. Thanks for talking 'reason' when ther was no reasoning with me.
Thanks for giving me freedom to be a NC....cuz you know that made me feel all warm and fuzzy.
Congrats on 900!
~LBPNC
Day 4 today. The nicotine should be out of your body and now it's mind games. I saw a post you made in October and found it to be profound enough it should go in your thread to remind you how bad you want to be quit and just how much you hate this addition, later down the road. It was in reference to rdad's post of day 1.I never checked the accuracy of this post. The refernce wasnt RDad but BCN23 which Rdad quoted. I am sorry for that RDad
( candoit's words to BCN23)
We own who we are, we do not ask to be judged, we do not turn away those who seek the support, we hold those accountable for their actions, like they requested by becoming a member.
Life is about choices, I made the choice to quit, and I will make that choice to quit every single minute of the rest of my life. Why because I choose to pick up a tin, instead of cigarettes. That is the choice I made 11 years ago. I am enough of a fucking man to stand by my choices, and ask for support. I am not asking for forgiveness for my own bad choices, I am seeking to forgive myself.
When you rush to the defense of those who broke the KTC law, it insults everyone that follows the law. This does not work because it contains shades of gray in which the weak, feabable minded people can hide behind broken promises to say to the world I am a member, therefore I am doing something to quit. This is built on the premise that it is black and white. Either the nic bitch is bending you over her knee and spanking you like the NY Giants do every time they play the pats, or your spanking the nic bitch like Regan spanked the Cremlin.
Do me a favor and save your sunshine, and rainbow bullshit for someone that believes your cheese whiz ass smells like roses. I know I used a lot of big words and accurate historical facts that will not be believed or validated by Wikipedia or yahoo questions. I may be a quitter but I can think for myself. Do you know what that makes me? A fucking Titan of Quit.
No worries Candyman. I do like sunshine and rainbows though. As long as they aren't being showered on cavers!Quote from: ErussellDay 4 today. The nicotine should be out of your body and now it's mind games. I saw a post you made in October and found it to be profound enough it should go in your thread to remind you how bad you want to be quit and just how much you hate this addition, later down the road. It was in reference to rdad's post of day 1.I never checked the accuracy of this post. The refernce wasnt RDad but BCN23 which Rdad quoted. I am sorry for that RDad
( candoit's words to BCN23)
We own who we are, we do not ask to be judged, we do not turn away those who seek the support, we hold those accountable for their actions, like they requested by becoming a member.
Life is about choices, I made the choice to quit, and I will make that choice to quit every single minute of the rest of my life. Why because I choose to pick up a tin, instead of cigarettes. That is the choice I made 11 years ago. I am enough of a fucking man to stand by my choices, and ask for support. I am not asking for forgiveness for my own bad choices, I am seeking to forgive myself.
When you rush to the defense of those who broke the KTC law, it insults everyone that follows the law. This does not work because it contains shades of gray in which the weak, feabable minded people can hide behind broken promises to say to the world I am a member, therefore I am doing something to quit. This is built on the premise that it is black and white. Either the nic bitch is bending you over her knee and spanking you like the NY Giants do every time they play the pats, or your spanking the nic bitch like Regan spanked the Cremlin.
Do me a favor and save your sunshine, and rainbow bullshit for someone that believes your cheese whiz ass smells like roses. I know I used a lot of big words and accurate historical facts that will not be believed or validated by Wikipedia or yahoo questions. I may be a quitter but I can think for myself. Do you know what that makes me? A fucking Titan of Quit.
PoofNow I am curious.....
As far as I know anyone that I supported from day 1 and vanished, only to reappear, has not made it to the HOF again.How humble is that?
Those that reached out for more support on round 2, have made it and are still here.
So is the lesson here....
A. Dont shit on Mr C
B. Be humble, seek help and use the support
Cando-Quote from: CandoitAs far as I know anyone that I supported from day 1 and vanished, only to reappear, has not made it to the HOF again.How humble is that?
Those that reached out for more support on round 2, have made it and are still here.
So is the lesson here....
A. Dont shit on Mr C
B. Be humble, seek help and use the support
I prefer:
1. Post Roll Every Day.
2. Keep your WORD.
3. Repeat.
No offense, candieass, but people have most success when the focus on those three things, and not so much when the are worried about who they are not supposed to shit on.
Im also not sure you should be so proud of the fact that your support for retreads resulted in those failure.
Not sure what your intended lesson was here, but I'll reference my three step approach as a retort of sorts.
"A. Don't shit on Mr. C"Quote from: AppleJackPoofNow I am curious.....
Yeah, I know. It was an arrogant moment and thought. Thats why I posted it here not in the threads. All good thats life.Quote from: Candoit"A. Don't shit on Mr. C"Quote from: AppleJackPoofNow I am curious.....
Are you The Pied Piper of Quit? Does your support really matter all that much?
You think a whooole lot of yourself to assume the above statement is something that has weight.
Sorry... not trying to be an ass, bro but... just be a quitter.
Like we all are.
Assigning importance to yourself is silly.
Ones cockiness can also become ones setbackQuote from: AppleJackYeah, I know. It was an arrogant moment and thought. Thats why I posted it here not in the threads. All good thats life.Quote from: Candoit"A. Don't shit on Mr. C"Quote from: AppleJackPoofNow I am curious.....
Are you The Pied Piper of Quit? Does your support really matter all that much?
You think a whooole lot of yourself to assume the above statement is something that has weight.
Sorry... not trying to be an ass, bro but... just be a quitter.
Like we all are.
Assigning importance to yourself is silly.
SD was right in the vain of thinking.
I worry about my quit first on foremost. Anyone I can help is great, anyone who doesn't listen to me is off my radar in a matter of seconds, because at the end of the day I am still a quitter.Quote from: CandoitOnes cockiness can also become ones setbackQuote from: AppleJackYeah, I know. It was an arrogant moment and thought. Thats why I posted it here not in the threads. All good thats life.Quote from: Candoit"A. Don't shit on Mr. C"Quote from: AppleJackPoofNow I am curious.....
Are you The Pied Piper of Quit? Does your support really matter all that much?
You think a whooole lot of yourself to assume the above statement is something that has weight.
Sorry... not trying to be an ass, bro but... just be a quitter.
Like we all are.
Assigning importance to yourself is silly.
SD was right in the vain of thinking.
Vet rage! This place has it ALL!!!Quote from: pab1964I worry about my quit first on foremost. Anyone I can help is great, anyone who doesn't listen to me is off my radar in a matter of seconds, because at the end of the day I am still a quitter.Quote from: CandoitOnes cockiness can also become ones setbackQuote from: AppleJackYeah, I know. It was an arrogant moment and thought. Thats why I posted it here not in the threads. All good thats life.Quote from: Candoit"A. Don't shit on Mr. C"Quote from: AppleJackPoofNow I am curious.....
Are you The Pied Piper of Quit? Does your support really matter all that much?
You think a whooole lot of yourself to assume the above statement is something that has weight.
Sorry... not trying to be an ass, bro but... just be a quitter.
Like we all are.
Assigning importance to yourself is silly.
SD was right in the vain of thinking.
I also subscribe to equality in quits...if a day 2 dude posts roll, his quit is equal my day XX quit, and so on. It's an unpopular way of thinking to some folks, but the ODAAT philosophy is what drives that.
We are all addicts, and only one bad decision to be active addicts, makes no difference who we emulate in our quit circles. In my quit circles I have some serious BAQ's backing me up, yet only I can control what I choose to do.
I have a similar veiw....Quote from: ThumblewortVet rage! This place has it ALL!!!Quote from: pab1964I worry about my quit first on foremost. Anyone I can help is great, anyone who doesn't listen to me is off my radar in a matter of seconds, because at the end of the day I am still a quitter.Quote from: CandoitOnes cockiness can also become ones setbackQuote from: AppleJackYeah, I know. It was an arrogant moment and thought. Thats why I posted it here not in the threads. All good thats life.Quote from: Candoit"A. Don't shit on Mr. C"Quote from: AppleJackPoofNow I am curious.....
Are you The Pied Piper of Quit? Does your support really matter all that much?
You think a whooole lot of yourself to assume the above statement is something that has weight.
Sorry... not trying to be an ass, bro but... just be a quitter.
Like we all are.
Assigning importance to yourself is silly.
SD was right in the vain of thinking.
I also subscribe to equality in quits...if a day 2 dude posts roll, his quit is equal my day XX quit, and so on. It's an unpopular way of thinking to some folks, but the ODAAT philosophy is what drives that.
We are all addicts, and only one bad decision to be active addicts, makes no difference who we emulate in our quit circles. In my quit circles I have some serious BAQ's backing me up, yet only I can control what I choose to do.
My $.02...Quote from: JB65I have a similar veiw....Quote from: ThumblewortVet rage! This place has it ALL!!!Quote from: pab1964I worry about my quit first on foremost. Anyone I can help is great, anyone who doesn't listen to me is off my radar in a matter of seconds, because at the end of the day I am still a quitter.Quote from: CandoitOnes cockiness can also become ones setbackQuote from: AppleJackYeah, I know. It was an arrogant moment and thought. Thats why I posted it here not in the threads. All good thats life.Quote from: Candoit"A. Don't shit on Mr. C"Quote from: AppleJackPoofNow I am curious.....
Are you The Pied Piper of Quit? Does your support really matter all that much?
You think a whooole lot of yourself to assume the above statement is something that has weight.
Sorry... not trying to be an ass, bro but... just be a quitter.
Like we all are.
Assigning importance to yourself is silly.
SD was right in the vain of thinking.
I also subscribe to equality in quits...if a day 2 dude posts roll, his quit is equal my day XX quit, and so on. It's an unpopular way of thinking to some folks, but the ODAAT philosophy is what drives that.
We are all addicts, and only one bad decision to be active addicts, makes no difference who we emulate in our quit circles. In my quit circles I have some serious BAQ's backing me up, yet only I can control what I choose to do.
For example day 3 quitter today, I am 923 days quit. The difference is 920 days.
The only difference is I figured it out 920 days sooner. We now need to keep our days quit the same distance apart.
As for my attitude... I have been all over the map lately. Dont really know whats going on but it is something i am working through.
I have to make it through today to get to tomorrow.I Quit with you today pards.
Worry won't change tomorrow.
Regret won't change yesterday.
Change today so you won't have worry or regret.
Focus on what you can effect directly, your actions. Nothing I do or say can effect you unless you grant me the power over you.
Booooom!Congrats, Candieman!
Congrats on the COMMA CANDYMAN.
And appreciate the 14,000+ post!
I enjoy our friendship.
Keep pushing it forward.
I Quit with you today Brother.
Rawls 882
Congrats on the comma Candi!Quote from: RawlsBooooom!Congrats, Candieman!
Congrats on the COMMA CANDYMAN.
And appreciate the 14,000+ post!
I enjoy our friendship.
Keep pushing it forward.
I Quit with you today Brother.
Rawls 882
Thanks for all you do and congrats on the comma, Candy!Quote from: NolaqCongrats on the comma Candi!Quote from: RawlsBooooom!Congrats, Candieman!
Congrats on the COMMA CANDYMAN.
And appreciate the 14,000+ post!
I enjoy our friendship.
Keep pushing it forward.
I Quit with you today Brother.
Rawls 882
I know it hasn't always been a Sweet Ride,
But I think it's been the ride you needed to become such a strong force in your quit and others.
Thank you so much for all you do here and the tireless, selfless efforts you make daily.
I appreciate you.
⤠LBPNC
Congrats on the dangle Candoit!Quote from: ChickDipThanks for all you do and congrats on the comma, Candy!Quote from: NolaqCongrats on the comma Candi!Quote from: RawlsBooooom!Congrats, Candieman!
Congrats on the COMMA CANDYMAN.
And appreciate the 14,000+ post!
I enjoy our friendship.
Keep pushing it forward.
I Quit with you today Brother.
Rawls 882
I know it hasn't always been a Sweet Ride,
But I think it's been the ride you needed to become such a strong force in your quit and others.
Thank you so much for all you do here and the tireless, selfless efforts you make daily.
I appreciate you.
⤠LBPNC
WOW!!! A freaking Comma bro!!! Congrats on the dangle!! Thanks for all the support!Quote from: PMILSCongrats on the dangle Candoit!Quote from: ChickDipThanks for all you do and congrats on the comma, Candy!Quote from: NolaqCongrats on the comma Candi!Quote from: RawlsBooooom!Congrats, Candieman!
Congrats on the COMMA CANDYMAN.
And appreciate the 14,000+ post!
I enjoy our friendship.
Keep pushing it forward.
I Quit with you today Brother.
Rawls 882
I know it hasn't always been a Sweet Ride,
But I think it's been the ride you needed to become such a strong force in your quit and others.
Thank you so much for all you do here and the tireless, selfless efforts you make daily.
I appreciate you.
⤠LBPNC
congrats candy man (https://youtu.be/AYihDAhVPko)Quote from: trigerhapyWOW!!! A freaking Comma bro!!! Congrats on the dangle!! Thanks for all the support!Quote from: PMILSCongrats on the dangle Candoit!Quote from: ChickDipThanks for all you do and congrats on the comma, Candy!Quote from: NolaqCongrats on the comma Candi!Quote from: RawlsBooooom!Congrats, Candieman!
Congrats on the COMMA CANDYMAN.
And appreciate the 14,000+ post!
I enjoy our friendship.
Keep pushing it forward.
I Quit with you today Brother.
Rawls 882
I know it hasn't always been a Sweet Ride,
But I think it's been the ride you needed to become such a strong force in your quit and others.
Thank you so much for all you do here and the tireless, selfless efforts you make daily.
I appreciate you.
⤠LBPNC
Commas ROCK!!Quote from: Richardcongrats candy man (https://youtu.be/AYihDAhVPko)Quote from: trigerhapyWOW!!! A freaking Comma bro!!! Congrats on the dangle!! Thanks for all the support!Quote from: PMILSCongrats on the dangle Candoit!Quote from: ChickDipThanks for all you do and congrats on the comma, Candy!Quote from: NolaqCongrats on the comma Candi!Quote from: RawlsBooooom!Congrats, Candieman!
Congrats on the COMMA CANDYMAN.
And appreciate the 14,000+ post!
I enjoy our friendship.
Keep pushing it forward.
I Quit with you today Brother.
Rawls 882
I know it hasn't always been a Sweet Ride,
But I think it's been the ride you needed to become such a strong force in your quit and others.
Thank you so much for all you do here and the tireless, selfless efforts you make daily.
I appreciate you.
⤠LBPNC
Nice work Candy Man. Thanks for all you do for others!Quote from: D2maineCommas ROCK!!Quote from: Richardcongrats candy man (https://youtu.be/AYihDAhVPko)Quote from: trigerhapyWOW!!! A freaking Comma bro!!! Congrats on the dangle!! Thanks for all the support!Quote from: PMILSCongrats on the dangle Candoit!Quote from: ChickDipThanks for all you do and congrats on the comma, Candy!Quote from: NolaqCongrats on the comma Candi!Quote from: RawlsBooooom!Congrats, Candieman!
Congrats on the COMMA CANDYMAN.
And appreciate the 14,000+ post!
I enjoy our friendship.
Keep pushing it forward.
I Quit with you today Brother.
Rawls 882
I know it hasn't always been a Sweet Ride,
But I think it's been the ride you needed to become such a strong force in your quit and others.
Thank you so much for all you do here and the tireless, selfless efforts you make daily.
I appreciate you.
⤠LBPNC
Congrats, bro!
'party' Congratulations, Candyman! 'party' And thanks for all the support you give the Dumpster Fire!Quote from: AppleJackNice work Candy Man. Thanks for all you do for others!Quote from: D2maineCommas ROCK!!Quote from: Richardcongrats candy man (https://youtu.be/AYihDAhVPko)Quote from: trigerhapyWOW!!! A freaking Comma bro!!! Congrats on the dangle!! Thanks for all the support!Quote from: PMILSCongrats on the dangle Candoit!Quote from: ChickDipThanks for all you do and congrats on the comma, Candy!Quote from: NolaqCongrats on the comma Candi!Quote from: RawlsBooooom!Congrats, Candieman!
Congrats on the COMMA CANDYMAN.
And appreciate the 14,000+ post!
I enjoy our friendship.
Keep pushing it forward.
I Quit with you today Brother.
Rawls 882
I know it hasn't always been a Sweet Ride,
But I think it's been the ride you needed to become such a strong force in your quit and others.
Thank you so much for all you do here and the tireless, selfless efforts you make daily.
I appreciate you.
⤠LBPNC
Congrats, bro!
Hell yeah Candy Man! Great stuff, thanks for giving back man. Your one of the best damn quitters on this whole site!Quote from: Bucky'party' Congratulations, Candyman! 'party' And thanks for all the support you give the Dumpster Fire!Quote from: AppleJackNice work Candy Man. Thanks for all you do for others!Quote from: D2maineCommas ROCK!!Quote from: Richardcongrats candy man (https://youtu.be/AYihDAhVPko)Quote from: trigerhapyWOW!!! A freaking Comma bro!!! Congrats on the dangle!! Thanks for all the support!Quote from: PMILSCongrats on the dangle Candoit!Quote from: ChickDipThanks for all you do and congrats on the comma, Candy!Quote from: NolaqCongrats on the comma Candi!Quote from: RawlsBooooom!Congrats, Candieman!
Congrats on the COMMA CANDYMAN.
And appreciate the 14,000+ post!
I enjoy our friendship.
Keep pushing it forward.
I Quit with you today Brother.
Rawls 882
I know it hasn't always been a Sweet Ride,
But I think it's been the ride you needed to become such a strong force in your quit and others.
Thank you so much for all you do here and the tireless, selfless efforts you make daily.
I appreciate you.
⤠LBPNC
Congrats, bro!
congrats candy man (https://youtu.be/AYihDAhVPko)New ring tone set.... Just for KTC contacts. Thank you D2
Nice job Mr. C! Proud of you.Quote from: D2mainecongrats candy man (https://youtu.be/AYihDAhVPko)New ring tone set.... Just for KTC contacts. Thank you D2
Nicely done sir!Quote from: CandoitNice job Mr. C! Proud of you.Quote from: D2mainecongrats candy man (https://youtu.be/AYihDAhVPko)New ring tone set.... Just for KTC contacts. Thank you D2
Comma looks good Cando!Quote from: CavMan83Nicely done sir!Quote from: CandoitNice job Mr. C! Proud of you.Quote from: D2mainecongrats candy man (https://youtu.be/AYihDAhVPko)New ring tone set.... Just for KTC contacts. Thank you D2
Congrats on the comma!!!Quote from: FISHFLORIDAComma looks good Cando!Quote from: CavMan83Nicely done sir!Quote from: CandoitNice job Mr. C! Proud of you.Quote from: D2mainecongrats candy man (https://youtu.be/AYihDAhVPko)New ring tone set.... Just for KTC contacts. Thank you D2
Here's to the candyman on his comma day!!!!Quote from: Nomore1959Congrats on the comma!!!Quote from: FISHFLORIDAComma looks good Cando!Quote from: CavMan83Nicely done sir!Quote from: CandoitNice job Mr. C! Proud of you.Quote from: D2mainecongrats candy man (https://youtu.be/AYihDAhVPko)New ring tone set.... Just for KTC contacts. Thank you D2
Congratulations on the comma my friend!Quote from: tjschuHere's to the candyman on his comma day!!!!Quote from: Nomore1959Congrats on the comma!!!Quote from: FISHFLORIDAComma looks good Cando!Quote from: CavMan83Nicely done sir!Quote from: CandoitNice job Mr. C! Proud of you.Quote from: D2mainecongrats candy man (https://youtu.be/AYihDAhVPko)New ring tone set.... Just for KTC contacts. Thank you D2
Day 1071wow, totally with you, thinkin hard on it, but the reason I stay is because then I'll have no outs.
Still find myself thinking of leaving. I know that I will eventually justify "just one" if I am not here. Always have, so I stay. My promise to a bunch of addicts continues to keep me quit.
Everyday we take it off the table, it is what works. I always try and justify decisions. Being an addict I know I will take the smallest crack and blow it wide open. As much as it pisses me off at times, KTC continues to be what I need.Quote from: CandoitDay 1071wow, totally with you, thinkin hard on it, but the reason I stay is because then I'll have no outs.
Still find myself thinking of leaving. I know that I will eventually justify "just one" if I am not here. Always have, so I stay. My promise to a bunch of addicts continues to keep me quit.
Glad to see you totally still dedicated. I struggle to make roll some days. Proud of you for staying dedicated.Quote from: ChickDipEveryday we take it off the table, it is what works. I always try and justify decisions. Being an addict I know I will take the smallest crack and blow it wide open. As much as it pisses me off at times, KTC continues to be what I need.Quote from: CandoitDay 1071wow, totally with you, thinkin hard on it, but the reason I stay is because then I'll have no outs.
Still find myself thinking of leaving. I know that I will eventually justify "just one" if I am not here. Always have, so I stay. My promise to a bunch of addicts continues to keep me quit.
time and complacency are corrosive to a quit, simply post up every day and take that away. 30 seconds is not a burden.Quote from: CandoitGlad to see you totally still dedicated. I struggle to make roll some days. Proud of you for staying dedicated.Quote from: ChickDipEveryday we take it off the table, it is what works. I always try and justify decisions. Being an addict I know I will take the smallest crack and blow it wide open. As much as it pisses me off at times, KTC continues to be what I need.Quote from: CandoitDay 1071wow, totally with you, thinkin hard on it, but the reason I stay is because then I'll have no outs.
Still find myself thinking of leaving. I know that I will eventually justify "just one" if I am not here. Always have, so I stay. My promise to a bunch of addicts continues to keep me quit.
I have never thought of leaving in almost 1200 days because in these 3 years I have seen multiple 1000+ day caves. Hell, I post roll on 2 different sites because caving is not an option. Stay strong folks, 1000 days is the magical cure day.Quote from: Medicfftime and complacency are corrosive to a quit, simply post up every day and take that away. 30 seconds is not a burden.Quote from: CandoitGlad to see you totally still dedicated. I struggle to make roll some days. Proud of you for staying dedicated.Quote from: ChickDipEveryday we take it off the table, it is what works. I always try and justify decisions. Being an addict I know I will take the smallest crack and blow it wide open. As much as it pisses me off at times, KTC continues to be what I need.Quote from: CandoitDay 1071wow, totally with you, thinkin hard on it, but the reason I stay is because then I'll have no outs.
Still find myself thinking of leaving. I know that I will eventually justify "just one" if I am not here. Always have, so I stay. My promise to a bunch of addicts continues to keep me quit.
I think this totally rational. It gets real frustrating to see so few of the people who were involved in my quit still posting, and there is a good chance that if you leave you'll stay quit.....but we all know it's out there, the scenario where you do cave...whether it's because you are drinking, or with old buddies, or all alone, we probably all have a series of events that if they do occur, we'd cave. Even if those events occurring are rare, I want to have KTC behind me. So I post, to dwindling numbers of people, but I post anyway. And today I quit with you.Quote from: D2maineI have never thought of leaving in almost 1200 days because in these 3 years I have seen multiple 1000+ day caves. Hell, I post roll on 2 different sites because caving is not an option. Stay strong folks, 1000 days is the magical cure day.Quote from: Medicfftime and complacency are corrosive to a quit, simply post up every day and take that away. 30 seconds is not a burden.Quote from: CandoitGlad to see you totally still dedicated. I struggle to make roll some days. Proud of you for staying dedicated.Quote from: ChickDipEveryday we take it off the table, it is what works. I always try and justify decisions. Being an addict I know I will take the smallest crack and blow it wide open. As much as it pisses me off at times, KTC continues to be what I need.Quote from: CandoitDay 1071wow, totally with you, thinkin hard on it, but the reason I stay is because then I'll have no outs.
Still find myself thinking of leaving. I know that I will eventually justify "just one" if I am not here. Always have, so I stay. My promise to a bunch of addicts continues to keep me quit.
So I post, to dwindling numbers of people, but I post anyway. I hear that from so many, even after HOF. I crave the accountability that comes from building relationships on here, I go in search of it. For the most part that comes with new quitters. My deal is simple, I will post daily with you only if you are willing to call me out if I am missing. Not oh you posted somewhere else, ect..... Hold my feet to the fire. I don't give a damn if I am 1000 days ahead of you. I am still 1 series of events from a day 1. I have more to loose, more is at stake and quit is who I am. But I am an addict, I will justify and rationalize, the smallest thought, till I have given myself premission. I need those quitters to smack my ego back in check or stop the justification games.Quote from: ThumblewortI think this totally rational. It gets real frustrating to see so few of the people who were involved in my quit still posting, and there is a good chance that if you leave you'll stay quit.....but we all know it's out there, the scenario where you do cave...whether it's because you are drinking, or with old buddies, or all alone, we probably all have a series of events that if they do occur, we'd cave. Even if those events occurring are rare, I want to have KTC behind me. So I post, to dwindling numbers of people, but I post anyway. And today I quit with you.Quote from: D2maineI have never thought of leaving in almost 1200 days because in these 3 years I have seen multiple 1000+ day caves. Hell, I post roll on 2 different sites because caving is not an option. Stay strong folks, 1000 days is the magical cure day.Quote from: Medicfftime and complacency are corrosive to a quit, simply post up every day and take that away. 30 seconds is not a burden.Quote from: CandoitGlad to see you totally still dedicated. I struggle to make roll some days. Proud of you for staying dedicated.Quote from: ChickDipEveryday we take it off the table, it is what works. I always try and justify decisions. Being an addict I know I will take the smallest crack and blow it wide open. As much as it pisses me off at times, KTC continues to be what I need.Quote from: CandoitDay 1071wow, totally with you, thinkin hard on it, but the reason I stay is because then I'll have no outs.
Still find myself thinking of leaving. I know that I will eventually justify "just one" if I am not here. Always have, so I stay. My promise to a bunch of addicts continues to keep me quit.
3 YEARS!!!Congrats on 3 years quit Candi!
'party' Congratulations, Candyman, on three fantastic years of quit! 'party'
And thank you for teaching us all what "paying it forward" really looks like. KTC is a far better place because of your passion and leadership!!
'party2' 'party2' 'party2' 'party2'
Congrats on 3 years. You've touched a lot of lives. Keep up all you do.Quote from: FLLipOut3 YEARS!!!Congrats on 3 years quit Candi!
'party' Congratulations, Candyman, on three fantastic years of quit! 'party'
And thank you for teaching us all what "paying it forward" really looks like. KTC is a far better place because of your passion and leadership!!
'party2' 'party2' 'party2' 'party2'
Thank you for the support!
Ewe know what Flocking the Herd is call about. ;)
Congrats on 3 years Candoit!Quote from: ChickDipCongrats on 3 years. You've touched a lot of lives. Keep up all you do.Quote from: FLLipOut3 YEARS!!!Congrats on 3 years quit Candi!
'party' Congratulations, Candyman, on three fantastic years of quit! 'party'
And thank you for teaching us all what "paying it forward" really looks like. KTC is a far better place because of your passion and leadership!!
'party2' 'party2' 'party2' 'party2'
Thank you for the support!
Ewe know what Flocking the Herd is call about. ;)
3 years is awesome Candoit! Congratulations!Quote from: DagrangerCongrats on 3 years Candoit!Quote from: ChickDipCongrats on 3 years. You've touched a lot of lives. Keep up all you do.Quote from: FLLipOut3 YEARS!!!Congrats on 3 years quit Candi!
'party' Congratulations, Candyman, on three fantastic years of quit! 'party'
And thank you for teaching us all what "paying it forward" really looks like. KTC is a far better place because of your passion and leadership!!
'party2' 'party2' 'party2' 'party2'
Thank you for the support!
Ewe know what Flocking the Herd is call about. ;)
Congrats on 3 Years!Quote from: pky15203 years is awesome Candoit! Congratulations!Quote from: DagrangerCongrats on 3 years Candoit!Quote from: ChickDipCongrats on 3 years. You've touched a lot of lives. Keep up all you do.Quote from: FLLipOut3 YEARS!!!Congrats on 3 years quit Candi!
'party' Congratulations, Candyman, on three fantastic years of quit! 'party'
And thank you for teaching us all what "paying it forward" really looks like. KTC is a far better place because of your passion and leadership!!
'party2' 'party2' 'party2' 'party2'
Thank you for the support!
Ewe know what Flocking the Herd is call about. ;)
Way to Go candy, thanks for your support to us quitters sir!Quote from: Nomore1959Congrats on 3 Years!Quote from: pky15203 years is awesome Candoit! Congratulations!Quote from: DagrangerCongrats on 3 years Candoit!Quote from: ChickDipCongrats on 3 years. You've touched a lot of lives. Keep up all you do.Quote from: FLLipOut3 YEARS!!!Congrats on 3 years quit Candi!
'party' Congratulations, Candyman, on three fantastic years of quit! 'party'
And thank you for teaching us all what "paying it forward" really looks like. KTC is a far better place because of your passion and leadership!!
'party2' 'party2' 'party2' 'party2'
Thank you for the support!
Ewe know what Flocking the Herd is call about. ;)
awesome. KudosQuote from: ChristopherJWay to Go candy, thanks for your support to us quitters sir!Quote from: Nomore1959Congrats on 3 Years!Quote from: pky15203 years is awesome Candoit! Congratulations!Quote from: DagrangerCongrats on 3 years Candoit!Quote from: ChickDipCongrats on 3 years. You've touched a lot of lives. Keep up all you do.Quote from: FLLipOut3 YEARS!!!Congrats on 3 years quit Candi!
'party' Congratulations, Candyman, on three fantastic years of quit! 'party'
And thank you for teaching us all what "paying it forward" really looks like. KTC is a far better place because of your passion and leadership!!
'party2' 'party2' 'party2' 'party2'
Thank you for the support!
Ewe know what Flocking the Herd is call about. ;)
Well done Brother!Quote from: JB65awesome. KudosQuote from: ChristopherJWay to Go candy, thanks for your support to us quitters sir!Quote from: Nomore1959Congrats on 3 Years!Quote from: pky15203 years is awesome Candoit! Congratulations!Quote from: DagrangerCongrats on 3 years Candoit!Quote from: ChickDipCongrats on 3 years. You've touched a lot of lives. Keep up all you do.Quote from: FLLipOut3 YEARS!!!Congrats on 3 years quit Candi!
'party' Congratulations, Candyman, on three fantastic years of quit! 'party'
And thank you for teaching us all what "paying it forward" really looks like. KTC is a far better place because of your passion and leadership!!
'party2' 'party2' 'party2' 'party2'
Thank you for the support!
Ewe know what Flocking the Herd is call about. ;)
Well done, sir!Quote from: GrizzlySlaveWell done Brother!Quote from: JB65awesome. KudosQuote from: ChristopherJWay to Go candy, thanks for your support to us quitters sir!Quote from: Nomore1959Congrats on 3 Years!Quote from: pky15203 years is awesome Candoit! Congratulations!Quote from: DagrangerCongrats on 3 years Candoit!Quote from: ChickDipCongrats on 3 years. You've touched a lot of lives. Keep up all you do.Quote from: FLLipOut3 YEARS!!!Congrats on 3 years quit Candi!
'party' Congratulations, Candyman, on three fantastic years of quit! 'party'
And thank you for teaching us all what "paying it forward" really looks like. KTC is a far better place because of your passion and leadership!!
'party2' 'party2' 'party2' 'party2'
Thank you for the support!
Ewe know what Flocking the Herd is call about. ;)
this right here is awesome! well done!Quote from: RawlsWell done, sir!Quote from: GrizzlySlaveWell done Brother!Quote from: JB65awesome. KudosQuote from: ChristopherJWay to Go candy, thanks for your support to us quitters sir!Quote from: Nomore1959Congrats on 3 Years!Quote from: pky15203 years is awesome Candoit! Congratulations!Quote from: DagrangerCongrats on 3 years Candoit!Quote from: ChickDipCongrats on 3 years. You've touched a lot of lives. Keep up all you do.Quote from: FLLipOut3 YEARS!!!Congrats on 3 years quit Candi!
'party' Congratulations, Candyman, on three fantastic years of quit! 'party'
And thank you for teaching us all what "paying it forward" really looks like. KTC is a far better place because of your passion and leadership!!
'party2' 'party2' 'party2' 'party2'
Thank you for the support!
Ewe know what Flocking the Herd is call about. ;)
Quote from: GrizzlySlave5 days / 6 hours....Today is done! You made it. Stand a little bit taller because you have stayed quit. Tomorrow will be what ever you make it. I have faith that you will be strong enough to make it through. I know this because I am stong enough to help you bear what ever cross you need to.
Thanks guys, for all the input.
Today was hellish
I don't know if your reglious or not. I don't want to be preachy or pushy, but this is the way I see the help at KTC. A good friend and quitter helped me understand this....
Even Jesus, the son of God, needed help to bear the cross. He did not ask for it, God sent it through those tasked with killing him. Our job is recognize the help He sends and accept it.
You got this.
For me..... reference day 1102...All Good, Red. All Good. Enjoy your weekend brother and rest up a bit!!Quote from: CandoitQuote from: GrizzlySlave5 days / 6 hours....Today is done! You made it. Stand a little bit taller because you have stayed quit. Tomorrow will be what ever you make it. I have faith that you will be strong enough to make it through. I know this because I am stong enough to help you bear what ever cross you need to.
Thanks guys, for all the input.
Today was hellish
I don't know if your reglious or not. I don't want to be preachy or pushy, but this is the way I see the help at KTC. A good friend and quitter helped me understand this....
Even Jesus, the son of God, needed help to bear the cross. He did not ask for it, God sent it through those tasked with killing him. Our job is recognize the help He sends and accept it.
You got this.
I am so broken right now. I don't know how to deal with anything. It is my fault the marriage fell apart. We talked again for a while last night.Saturday will be 2 years, 730 +1's. I cannot believe what a difference faith in God, myself and KTC has done for me. I would not be standing, let alone quit with out many of you. I can not ever repay what you all have given me, I truly do thank everyone of you.
It comes down to the fact that I am broken and lost. She said that I am going through this "mid life crisis" and she can not do it. "What ever happened to the person you were? What did that woman (my boss last boss) do to you? You used to be confident and social, now you are a hermit and weak. I have to protect the girls and right now we can't do that. I don't know if our marriage can be saved, but you need to fix you before anything else."
I don't know how to fix me. I am out of ideas, I saught professional help before and it didn't help. I don't know even where to begin.
Wow! What a climb for you! Glad to have your support, and glad to give you some of my support. Congrats on two years.Quote from: CandoitI am so broken right now. I don't know how to deal with anything. It is my fault the marriage fell apart. We talked again for a while last night.Saturday will be 2 years, 730 +1's. I cannot believe what a difference faith in God, myself and KTC has done for me. I would not be standing, let alone quit with out many of you. I can not ever repay what you all have given me, I truly do thank everyone of you.
It comes down to the fact that I am broken and lost. She said that I am going through this "mid life crisis" and she can not do it. "What ever happened to the person you were? What did that woman (my boss last boss) do to you? You used to be confident and social, now you are a hermit and weak. I have to protect the girls and right now we can't do that. I don't know if our marriage can be saved, but you need to fix you before anything else."
I don't know how to fix me. I am out of ideas, I saught professional help before and it didn't help. I don't know even where to begin.
'Birthday' cando!Yesterday was the 4th birthday nicotine free. Spent the day with the family.
Enjoy the new addition to the family!Quote from: ChickDip'Birthday' cando!Yesterday was the 4th birthday nicotine free. Spent the day with the family.
Helped the inlaws with their car show.
Went shopping with the girls and ended up with another dog... A havanse puppy 10 weeks old.
Puppy vs thickness planer.... My 9 6 yr olds won out in the end.
My thoughts on the last bit of drama. (Monkeater Oct 17)
Fades to black.... We are in the kitchen at the 2014 Group Home.... Noise in the background of moving chairs and clicking glasses.
Candoit - Damn it! Cavman where you put the Kool aid?
Cavman - There is a keg of the blue in the basement.
Candoit - That was here when we moved in. I don't trust something that pre dates Syndrome. Where's the red?
Cavman - I think it's next to the keg o' rator then.
Candoit - Walking around the corner into the denFor fuk sake! FishFlorida (displaced by the hurricane) just because it's hotter than balls and you have no power doesn't mean you can ice down your balls on the keg. Make yourself somewhat useful and help move the keg to the porch.
FishFlorida - Candy don't get your quit in a twist. I will clean up afterwards.
Candoit - Using FLLIPOUT's cat to wipe your balls doesn't count, besides that's the only pussy you can get.
FishFlorida - FU CDI
Candoit - let's get this done, so you can get back to what ever it is that you do around here.
FishFlorida and Candoit move the keg to the porch. There is a hiss and a click as the keg is tapped.
Cavman helps himself the first glass.
Candoit - What in the Quit, Cav! Always showing up after the works done.
Cavman - Its a union job and I am the supervisor. When you going to figure that out?
Candoit - Cav you must lick car batteries for living. Candoit turns to yard and whistles towards the 2017 block
Candoit - yelling Hey Commies' I just tapped a keg. Turning away, mumbling something about new quitters.
October 17 comes pouring through the gate, in the middle of the crowd, Broccoli, Samrs, ProHunter and DavidS sneak in.
Cavman - Hey FishFace! Get your ban hammer ready we have a few stow aways.
FishFlorida - You know I can't do that.
Cavman - They don't know that.
FishFlorida - Oh! Runs into the house. Banging and clanking come from inside. Runs out side with the end of a broken fishing pole.The best I can do. Holds it up and shakes it at Samr's.
Samrs - Fish no one needs to see you playing with your rod.
FishFlorida - Samrs, I ban you!
Samrs - Fish your about as effective the banjo minnow.
FishFlorida - That was low.
Samrs - Well you make too easy.
FishFlorida - Yeah.... Grabs a cup of Kool aid and goes to a chair on the porch, playing with his broken rod.
Cavman - Mr. C you going fill me and or them in in why we tapped the keg?
Candoit - Pounds the first glass of Kool aid and pours #2 Cav the drama and avoidance of the drama.
Cavman - Oh! October quitters are usually sharp. But they are about 20 days behind.
Candoit - At least they got it, September gets lost trying to find the quote button.
Cavman - Listen we straightened Jubs out, took alot of Hortons and Molsen Ice, but it got done.
Candoit - The goats or Jubs?
Cavman - Red for fuk sake.
Candoit - That's what I am asking.
Cavman - Molsen Ice was involved.
Candoit - Noted. walks over to the stairs and sits down Commies' listen we all get tired of the drama, but you all need to realize that it is a necessary part of quitting. everyone pulls up a seat around the porch. A loud thud comes from the house. Candoit stands up and looks up at the second floor. Sweet baby Jesus, Flaw! Stop licking the windows we have guests. a low squel is heard as Flaw's face is falling to the bottom of the window I apologise for that. We are all addicts that realized we where never in control of your lives.
Canstopwillstop - What ya mean?
Cavman - You all used to always make sure you had a can on you? With a back up?
Candoit - How many of you put old cans together to get at least 1 more?
Cschilling1 - I know I did grumbling of agreement
Candoit - Why? Because you were hard up and needed a fix.
Cavman - We got walked around by our short hairs by the nic bitch.
Willy75 - What does this have to do with drama?
Cavman - Everything.
Candoit - When we hang on to any illusion of control we will do anything to keep it. So when someone challenges that reality.
Sayingadios - We come out swinging.
Beckyt85 - They start causing drama to distract from the fact.
FishFlorida - Pulling a Hillary?
Candoit - Yes, but pulling Hillary's rod all on you. I am sure that Slick Willy will have no problem with it.
Jacobmldn - So when some special butterflies come in blowing a blizzard vs Hillary they are
Oliver88 - cutting back on the extra protein? Cavman shoots Kool aid out of his nose.
Candoit - Not bad Oliver, nicely done. To you point Jacobmldn, they are covering or trying to have some control over something.
Jacobmldn - so because they can't control their own lives, they cause drama to have some control over something?
Candoit - 99% correct. It is all of us.
Cavman - wiping his shirt off, leaving a big red stripe. He looks down and shakes his head and smiles At least its not spit juice. But Candy is right. Drama, or avoidance of, is always someone's open door or excuse to leave. Life is always going to have drama. We can not run from it because we dont want to face it.
Candoit - KTC is always helping you get ready, sharping your tools.
GrizzlySlave - Like Cav and his goats?
Candoit - Exactly!
Blackjp4dr - How are we to face drama in person if we can't handle it online?
Candoit - Standing up and high fiving Blackjp4dr Damn fukn straight. When you realize and embrace that you have started to regain control of your life in a positive manner.
Cavman - You can't gain control til you let go of it. You see Loud chant from down the street gets louder and louder, drowning out Cavman as he continues to talk Toga! Toga! Toga!
Candoit - turning to FishFlorida Did you text Oct 16?
FishFlorida - putting his rod down- Maybe
Candoit - We are done Commrads. I can not be responsible for the tire fire that is about to insue. Waving to Cavman Let's go get the blue Kool aid for the DF and tell them it's Ecto Cooler.
Congrats on the 12th floor Candi!!Way to go Candoit, you one BAQ, congrats on the 12th floor 'clap'
Congrats on 12 floors. Thanks for your support. ItÂ’s rejuvenated my quitQuote from: ChickDipCongrats on the 12th floor Candi!!Way to go Candoit, you one BAQ, congrats on the 12th floor 'clap'
I need you.Well done Candoit...1200 Rocks!
Those that are: Just quit, Foggy quit, Angry quit
HOFER'S, 365 days deep, Half dangle's, Comma's, 3,650 +1's and all in between. You fuel my quit.
Keep me honest.
Keep me connected.
Keep me inspired.
Keep me in awe of what we can do with the freedom.
No matter what is going on KTC will always provide what I need to help me. I will continue to pay the price for my freedom. Freedom is earned not given.
We don't ask for Grace and Freedom. It is ours to accept and embrace. It always comes down to walking in the light or following our own will, a choice we make daily.Quote from: CandoitI need you.Well done Candoit...1200 Rocks!
Those that are: Just quit, Foggy quit, Angry quit
HOFER'S, 365 days deep, Half dangle's, Comma's, 3,650 +1's and all in between. You fuel my quit.
Keep me honest.
Keep me connected.
Keep me inspired.
Keep me in awe of what we can do with the freedom.
No matter what is going on KTC will always provide what I need to help me. I will continue to pay the price for my freedom. Freedom is earned not given.
Freedom is truly earned!
But once earned.. Can it be given away as a gift......
If I receive it as a gift.
Im not positive I earned it.
Grace... An undeserved gift of freedom!
I quit with you today brother!
Rawls 1086
Congratulations my friend! Well deserved. Thanks for showing me and so many others the way!Quote from: RawlsWe don't ask for Grace and Freedom. It is ours to accept and embrace. It always comes down to walking in the light or following our own will, a choice we make daily.Quote from: CandoitI need you.Well done Candoit...1200 Rocks!
Those that are: Just quit, Foggy quit, Angry quit
HOFER'S, 365 days deep, Half dangle's, Comma's, 3,650 +1's and all in between. You fuel my quit.
Keep me honest.
Keep me connected.
Keep me inspired.
Keep me in awe of what we can do with the freedom.
No matter what is going on KTC will always provide what I need to help me. I will continue to pay the price for my freedom. Freedom is earned not given.
Freedom is truly earned!
But once earned.. Can it be given away as a gift......
If I receive it as a gift.
Im not positive I earned it.
Grace... An undeserved gift of freedom!
I quit with you today brother!
Rawls 1086
Just because we didn't ask for it doesn't mean we don't deserve it.
Quit For YouThat acronym was driving me crazy...thanks for spelling it out! roflmao
You quit for you. You came here for a way to quit and the brotherhood showed you the way. You always need to be selfish and quit for you.
Quit With Your Brothers
The brotherhood is what makes this real. This is the lifeblood of KTC, with out this KTC doesn't exist. Brotherhood is created by interaction and our willingness to be held accountable. The size of your brotherhood is not bound by anyone but yourself.
Quit Because It Matters
This is life or death. If you don't think it is, your in the wrong place. Posting roll, matters, it is why you came here in the first place, to quit.
QFYQWYBQBIM
Congrats on hitting the 13th floor Candi!Well done brother...
Proud to be quit with you man. They usually leave the 13th floor out of high-rises, but we'll make an exception!Quote from: ChickDipCongrats on hitting the 13th floor Candi!Well done brother...
Rawls 1182
Great stuff man! Thanks for your support to newbies and vets alike. LKC is successful because of committed quitters giving back like YOU!Quote from: RawlsProud to be quit with you man. They usually leave the 13th floor out of high-rises, but we'll make an exception!Quote from: ChickDipCongrats on hitting the 13th floor Candi!Well done brother...
Rawls 1182
From May 15, 2-12-18When you are as involved as you are here you leave a large wake behind you Candy. YouÂ’ll be tracked down. Congrats on 1300.
At 1,301 days @100%, I don't intend on loosing that 100%. But there might be a time where I have an off day, who is going to track me down? Or is everyone going to say it's Candy and he will post up later?
I don't want to question who will hold me accountable rather I want to be able to ask who won't?
Congrats on hitting the 14th floor Candi!Congrats on 1400 days. You are a heck of a presence around here and deeply appreciated.
Congrats on 1400 days quit! Thanks for all you do around here!Quote from: ChickDipCongrats on hitting the 14th floor Candi!Congrats on 1400 days. You are a heck of a presence around here and deeply appreciated.
Congrats my friend and brother! Well doneQuote from: DonkeyMNCongrats on 1400 days quit! Thanks for all you do around here!Quote from: ChickDipCongrats on hitting the 14th floor Candi!Congrats on 1400 days. You are a heck of a presence around here and deeply appreciated.
Congrats again, Candyman! 'party' And thank you for your support EDD!Quote from: tjschuCongrats my friend and brother! Well doneQuote from: DonkeyMNCongrats on 1400 days quit! Thanks for all you do around here!Quote from: ChickDipCongrats on hitting the 14th floor Candi!Congrats on 1400 days. You are a heck of a presence around here and deeply appreciated.
Been debating about sharing this with you all, but when 69Franx reached out to me about my intro, I felt I needed to share. Thank you Brother!Found out he plead guilty. Personally think that is the most mature thing he has done in a long time. But as far as I know he is still awaiting arraignment.
About a month ago, found out that one of my brothers, was arrested in child predator federal sting. This put some serious stress on multiple fronts...
A. My parents. It took the better part of the month to get it out of them that they are not paying for his bail or lawyer. They are willing to be power of attorney and pay bills ect... But this also cost them their Granddaughter who they practically raised, she is 13. I donÂ’t know if they have even spoken to her since. Additionally they live in the same town as he did. Embarrassed to say the least.
B. My wife. Now she is a teacher that works in that area, geographically. Had multiple people come up to her and ask her about it, even at her high school reunion. This made her remove her last name from Facebook. When my parents were sounding like they supported him, she with drew from them, too.
C. My brothers sister. They all live out of state, therefore that put me in the middle as the gatherer and dispenser of information. I really donÂ’t want anything to do with him or this role, but my hand is forced.
D. Me. I had to play neutral in this for my parents and siblings sake. If I wanted information then I needed to keep all lines open. In my opinion he is guilty and needs to pay for his actions. The charges and the way he was caught isnÂ’t a wrong place at a wrong time, thing. 3 states away, in a federal operation. Yeah your done. He isnÂ’t allowed near my family or my home.
This past Tuesday spent an hour talking with my father about the whole thing. He feels the same way as I do, now. He stated it this way... “he made this sick bed now he had to sleep in it. We still can’t find his car, it will show up at some point. He ruined his life but I won’t let it ruin ours.” The thing that made me feel better was that he understands that I want him no where near or associated with me or my family. They no longer have an Uncle ****
At this point I am much less stressed about this. This is today, tomorrow?
Congrats on 4 years quit Candi!Congrats brother! Keep up the great work, both in your quit and here on KTC. You make a difference every day, for 1462 days
Congrats on four years of quit!!!Quote from: ChickDipCongrats on 4 years quit Candi!Congrats brother! Keep up the great work, both in your quit and here on KTC. You make a difference every day, for 1462 days
Congratulations on the 4 years my brother! Thanks for all your support!Quote from: 69FranxCongrats on four years of quit!!!Quote from: ChickDipCongrats on 4 years quit Candi!Congrats brother! Keep up the great work, both in your quit and here on KTC. You make a difference every day, for 1462 days
Thank you for all you have done for those of us that have come after you!
Candyman turns four!!! 'party' Congrats dear friend on an outstanding quit and thank you for your support every day!!!Quote from: srains918Congratulations on the 4 years my brother! Thanks for all your support!Quote from: 69FranxCongrats on four years of quit!!!Quote from: ChickDipCongrats on 4 years quit Candi!Congrats brother! Keep up the great work, both in your quit and here on KTC. You make a difference every day, for 1462 days
Thank you for all you have done for those of us that have come after you!
So proud of you Cando! Reread your intro... what a journey. Thanks for sharing some of it with me.Quote from: pab1964Candyman turns four!!! 'party' Congrats dear friend on an outstanding quit and thank you for your support every day!!!Quote from: srains918Congratulations on the 4 years my brother! Thanks for all your support!Quote from: 69FranxCongrats on four years of quit!!!Quote from: ChickDipCongrats on 4 years quit Candi!Congrats brother! Keep up the great work, both in your quit and here on KTC. You make a difference every day, for 1462 days
Thank you for all you have done for those of us that have come after you!
Well done brother...Quote from: FLLipOutSo proud of you Cando! Reread your intro... what a journey. Thanks for sharing some of it with me.Quote from: pab1964Candyman turns four!!! 'party' Congrats dear friend on an outstanding quit and thank you for your support every day!!!Quote from: srains918Congratulations on the 4 years my brother! Thanks for all your support!Quote from: 69FranxCongrats on four years of quit!!!Quote from: ChickDipCongrats on 4 years quit Candi!Congrats brother! Keep up the great work, both in your quit and here on KTC. You make a difference every day, for 1462 days
Thank you for all you have done for those of us that have come after you!
Congrats on the 15th floor. Proud to be QWYT and every day. Enjoy the view from up there.CONGRATS ON 1500 CANDI !
Congrats on 15th floor brother, proud to quit with you!!!!!!Candy... If you throw a rock from the 15th floor to the parking lot.....
About 3.65 secondsQuote from: skolvikingsCongrats on 15th floor brother, proud to quit with you!!!!!!Candy... If you throw a rock from the 15th floor to the parking lot.....
How many seconds does it take to hit the Nic B*$# in the head?
I quit with you Brother.
Rawls 1381
Congrats on the comma and a half!!Quote from: RawlsAbout 3.65 secondsQuote from: skolvikingsCongrats on 15th floor brother, proud to quit with you!!!!!!Candy... If you throw a rock from the 15th floor to the parking lot.....
How many seconds does it take to hit the Nic B*$# in the head?
I quit with you Brother.
Rawls 1381
Assuming
- 10 ft per floor of height
- 0.1 lb stone
- Drag Coefficient Of 0.05
- Cross sectional area of 1
The terminal velocity is 41 ft/sec
Anyways Quit With You All Damn Day
1500 from a fellow Nutmeg brutha! Congrats and thanks.Quote from: CandoitCongrats on the comma and a half!!Quote from: RawlsAbout 3.65 secondsQuote from: skolvikingsCongrats on 15th floor brother, proud to quit with you!!!!!!Candy... If you throw a rock from the 15th floor to the parking lot.....
How many seconds does it take to hit the Nic B*$# in the head?
I quit with you Brother.
Rawls 1381
Assuming
- 10 ft per floor of height
- 0.1 lb stone
- Drag Coefficient Of 0.05
- Cross sectional area of 1
The terminal velocity is 41 ft/sec
Anyways Quit With You All Damn Day
Attaboy Candyman! Congratulations on the 1500!Quote from: batdad1500 from a fellow Nutmeg brutha! Congrats and thanks.Quote from: CandoitCongrats on the comma and a half!!Quote from: RawlsAbout 3.65 secondsQuote from: skolvikingsCongrats on 15th floor brother, proud to quit with you!!!!!!Candy... If you throw a rock from the 15th floor to the parking lot.....
How many seconds does it take to hit the Nic B*$# in the head?
I quit with you Brother.
Rawls 1381
Assuming
- 10 ft per floor of height
- 0.1 lb stone
- Drag Coefficient Of 0.05
- Cross sectional area of 1
The terminal velocity is 41 ft/sec
Anyways Quit With You All Damn Day
1,500!!! Congrats Candy!!! 'party' And thanks for your daily support!!!Quote from: DagrangerAttaboy Candyman! Congratulations on the 1500!Quote from: batdad1500 from a fellow Nutmeg brutha! Congrats and thanks.Quote from: CandoitCongrats on the comma and a half!!Quote from: RawlsAbout 3.65 secondsQuote from: skolvikingsCongrats on 15th floor brother, proud to quit with you!!!!!!Candy... If you throw a rock from the 15th floor to the parking lot.....
How many seconds does it take to hit the Nic B*$# in the head?
I quit with you Brother.
Rawls 1381
Assuming
- 10 ft per floor of height
- 0.1 lb stone
- Drag Coefficient Of 0.05
- Cross sectional area of 1
The terminal velocity is 41 ft/sec
Anyways Quit With You All Damn Day
Today is 1,827 days.... 5 years Quit.
I haven’t missed a day of roll yet, come close a few times, but something or someone always pulls me back. For that I am thankful and blessed.
Thank you KTC
Catch you on roll in the AM
2,000 daysWay to go Eric! Thanks for being so supportive in my quit. You're a badass and I'm PTQWYT!
That’s a lot of quit.... yet to catch Mcarmo. That rat bastard is always 993 days in front of me. I would not have it any other way.
Unfriggin believeable!! Thanks for paying it forward for so long!2,000 daysWay to go Eric! Thanks for being so supportive in my quit. You're a badass and I'm PTQWYT!
That’s a lot of quit.... yet to catch Mcarmo. That rat bastard is always 993 days in front of me. I would not have it any other way.