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Community => Introductions => Topic started by: Unfjosh on December 09, 2014, 04:39:00 PM
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Hello everyone who reads this, my name is Josh. I'm 22 going on 23, recently got married, and recently decided that for my wife and future children that I want to quit dipping. So let me tell you about myself. I began dipping with friends when I was roughly 14 years of age. Throughout the years I told myself multiple times I would quit, such as when I turned 18, 21, when I got married, etc. I've been reading plenty of posts the past couple of days and I have decided this is where I want to have my final stand, with the rest of you, to quit and to stay quit one day at a time for a lifetime. I've currently set my quit date as this upcoming Saturday. Really looking forward to meeting some people and making connections because over time I have figured out this is a terrible addiction, one I cannot do alone. I have no one to keep me accountable, my wife cares but doesn't know how to approach the situation, my friends/co-workers are addicts as well and do not care to ever quit, and I don't really have any ties with my family. So that leads me here, after my long and tiresome journey, I was lead here to this site seeking help. I don't really know where else to go from here but I look forward to hearing from you all!
-Josh
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The place to go is the toilet and flush everything now and then to march 2015 quit group and post your day one today!!! You know future quits never come. If you quit today it will work. We all quit today not tomorrow or Saturday.
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My brain is going fucking mental, I read that and I want to so bad but my mind keeps telling me, just one more day at least, my brain is teasing me trying to tell me im fine today, that i wont be able to sleep well tonight etc. Im like in fucking tears man, i want to be rid of this so bad...
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My brain is going fucking mental, I read that and I want to so bad but my mind keeps telling me, just one more day at least, my brain is teasing me trying to tell me im fine today, that i wont be able to sleep well tonight etc. Im like in fucking tears man, i want to be rid of this so bad...
As I moved my quit up 11 days I sat at the toilet and bawled after 40 years of addiction. Addiction talk tells you to wait.
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no just how you feel and I remember being right where you are. I told myself just one more day just one more week just one more can. I remember wanting to quit when I was your age well 25 years later I finally did. I do not recommend that you take that path. Quit now today is the day
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Reading that kind of hurt, but you are so right. Tomorrow will be my day, not Saturday, and this is the only post I have, next thing i would do is start my quit group tomorrow correct? I'm assuming that's my next step, redirect my if there is anything else I should do please.
And as many of you have felt, I feel as if I'm scared, not of quitting because I have so many times previously for a few days, maybe a week or two but I jumped back on the bandwagon. The withdrawels, the sleepless nights, etc scare me guys. It really scares me.
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My brain is going fucking mental, I read that and I want to so bad but my mind keeps telling me, just one more day at least, my brain is teasing me trying to tell me im fine today, that i wont be able to sleep well tonight etc. Im like in fucking tears man, i want to be rid of this so bad...
Josh, glad to meet and Quit with you TODAY! I'm on day 7 and while the first 3 days suck, best decision I've ever made! Was chewing a can a day for 20 years and was scared shitless to quit. Not gonna lie, I didn't sleep at all the first night and had cravings like mad the next day (still do but they're getting better). Went and got some smokey mountain herbal chew, and z quill to sleep the next couple of nights and it's working!
I'm a newbie round here but can tell you that if you post roll, and listen to what all these badasses on here tell you, I guarantee IT CAN BE DONE!
Ask your brain if it's more worried about a couple sleepless nights or having half your fucking face cut off because you stuff that shit in your mouth! Sorry to be harsh but it's the truth!
Quit with me, let's do this together! I'm pming you my #.
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Reading that kind of hurt, but you are so right. Tomorrow will be my day, not Saturday, and this is the only post I have, next thing i would do is start my quit group tomorrow correct? I'm assuming that's my next step, redirect my if there is anything else I should do please.
And as many of you have felt, I feel as if I'm scared, not of quitting because I have so many times previously for a few days, maybe a week or two but I jumped back on the bandwagon. The withdrawels, the sleepless nights, etc scare me guys. It really scares me.
Brother, get on LIVE chat, or get a phone number from one of us. We have all been where you are right now. Post roll immediately, Day 1 if you are truly quit, and get some help from folks that have been where you are.
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Tomorrow is a myth man. Quit today bro. The desire to quit can be fleeting. It may be gone tomorrow. Seize the moment NOW. Dump your shit. Today can be your day one. What do you say??
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I say yes, I will go dump my snuff out now, I'm glad you guys are here for me. Let me go dump this shit and start this journey with you all.
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Nice,
You got this. There isn't anything to be scared of regarding quitting. It is a known equation. 72hours to get the nicotine out of your system- close to a month to get the rest of the 20 plus cancer causing chemicals out of your body that come in that little copperheaded fuck bucket of poison. The longer you remain quit the more nicotine receptors shut down, and the better you feel. If you cave? you start back from zero, it only takes one puff or one dip to refire all those nicotine receptors and your right back to where you started.
What you REALLY should fear is spending the next 20 years of your life as a slave. Stealing time from your family to feed your addiction, destroying your health and then being filleted alive in a attempt to save your life. Quitting is the easiest hard thing you'll ever do. I promise.
The first three days are going to be a special treat. Remember them.
Around day 14 a little rough patch and again around day 70 and 120 or so. These are known as funks.
You can keep your blood sugar up and steady - a crash will lead to a crave. Sip sweet juice like pineapple during the day and balance it out with some protein.
Cut your caffeine in half. Nic counteracts caffeine , unless you want to be bouncing like a jackrabbit on a meth bender, chill with the caff.
exercise will also reduce the frequency and intensity of cravings.
Other than that? post roll everyday and read all you can here. Start with Words of Wisdom.
I dipped for longer than you have been alive- I quit here. Your in the right spot. Sing out if you need help.
sM
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Awesome news. Welcome aboard. Read all you can. Get to know your adversary. You can do this. We can help.
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I say yes, I will go dump my snuff out now, I'm glad you guys are here for me. Let me go dump this shit and start this journey with you all.
Outstanding decision, and one you'll never regret.
Like you, I posted in my intro that I was planning to quit the following day, but somehow got goaded into posting my "Day 1" that day. That was almost 5 years ago, and I'll always be gratetful to MikeA for goading me to post that day.
Skoal Monster lays it out nicely in the post befor mine. Remember these next three days. Embrace the suck.
As my wise quit brother from June 2010 once said "You'll NEVER regret quitting, but you'll ALWAYS regret caving".
You've got this.
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Great plan. The best time to quit is now. The first few days are hard but you can get thru it one day at s time. I had days that I broke it down to quitting by the minute. You can do this. It is great freedom. You make some great friends too.
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Thank you all, the support here is amazing and im looking forward to this, we can do this one day at a time!
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I say yes, I will go dump my snuff out now, I'm glad you guys are here for me. Let me go dump this shit and start this journey with you all.
Outstanding decision, and one you'll never regret.
Like you, I posted in my intro that I was planning to quit the following day, but somehow got goaded into posting my "Day 1" that day. That was almost 5 years ago, and I'll always be gratetful to MikeA for goading me to post that day.
Skoal Monster lays it out nicely in the post befor mine. Remember these next three days. Embrace the suck.
As my wise quit brother from June 2010 once said "You'll NEVER regret quitting, but you'll ALWAYS regret caving".
You've got this.
Way to man up. The best time to quit is today. The worst time to quit is tomorrow.
No lies, it's gonna suck donkey balls for awhile but you will survive. Each second, minute, hour, and day you make it nic free is a small victory. Over time those victories will add up and you will begin to feel better.
Gotta take it in small pieces though. Focus on NOW don't worry about tomorrow.
Stay close to this site, it will help you by not only providing valuable info, but will be a solid distraction to keep your brain busy.
I'm glad you're on board and I'm glad you're 22 going on 23.
Quit on...
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Great plan. The best time to quit is now. The first few days are hard but you can get thru it one day at s time. I had days that I broke it down to quitting by the minute. You can do this. It is great freedom. You make some great friends too.
Great job on making the decision to quit! Don't worry, we all thought we couldn't make it but we have. We still stand together everyday. Take it one minute at a time. Live Chat will help a lot tonight and many nights this first month and more. Get on it. Many of us wish we had quit when you are....you are going to love being free.
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Hello everyone who reads this, my name is Josh. I'm 22 going on 23, recently got married, and recently decided that for my wife and future children that I want to quit dipping. So let me tell you about myself. I began dipping with friends when I was roughly 14 years of age. Throughout the years I told myself multiple times I would quit, such as when I turned 18, 21, when I got married, etc. I've been reading plenty of posts the past couple of days and I have decided this is where I want to have my final stand, with the rest of you, to quit and to stay quit one day at a time for a lifetime. I've currently set my quit date as this upcoming Saturday. Really looking forward to meeting some people and making connections because over time I have figured out this is a terrible addiction, one I cannot do alone. I have no one to keep me accountable, my wife cares but doesn't know how to approach the situation, my friends/co-workers are addicts as well and do not care to ever quit, and I don't really have any ties with my family. So that leads me here, after my long and tiresome journey, I was lead here to this site seeking help. I don't really know where else to go from here but I look forward to hearing from you all!
-Josh
Josh, glad to read that you went and flushed that shit. One thing about KTC.org -- FUQ tomorrow!!! Quit today. If tomorrow happens for you, you can quit again tomorrow for the 2nd day. I'm standing with you for sure, homie.
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I just read this intro; fucking love, love the badassery to heed the advice of some stud quitters and flush that shit down right now. Itsgot2happen, put that shit in complete perspective...many of us wish we made the decision in our early 20's to quit....only to finally pull the trigger 15-20 years later when we are at the pinnacle of desperation and fear. So, kudos...it takes balls to do what you did.
Now a few things for you as you move forward
1) this quitting for your wife and future kid thing...flush that too. This quit is for you. Sounds like a dickhead statement, I know. But all of us have tried quitting for loved ones and you know what happens every time...we fail. Quit for you. Wife, kids, can be inspiration for you, but you need this for you. You can't be there and love them if you're not alive. Save yourself first so that you can be there to love them
2) Post roll every day. Go to March 2015 and figure out posting roll. Screwing it up is a right of passage, we'll fix it. All we care about is your promise.
3) stay active. Get numbers and build accountability. As you can see, we will all jump on your bandwagon of quit when you quit like fuck (QLF) with us every damn day (EDD).
I'm with you; we're all with you.
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I just read this intro; fucking love, love the badassery to heed the advice of some stud quitters and flush that shit down right now. Itsgot2happen, put that shit in complete perspective...many of us wish we made the decision in our early 20's to quit....only to finally pull the trigger 15-20 years later when we are at the pinnacle of desperation and fear. So, kudos...it takes balls to do what you did.
Now a few things for you as you move forward
1) this quitting for your wife and future kid thing...flush that too. This quit is for you. Sounds like a dickhead statement, I know. But all of us have tried quitting for loved ones and you know what happens every time...we fail. Quit for you. Wife, kids, can be inspiration for you, but you need this for you. You can't be there and love them if you're not alive. Save yourself first so that you can be there to love them
2) Post roll every day. Go to March 2015 and figure out posting roll. Screwing it up is a right of passage, we'll fix it. All we care about is your promise.
3) stay active. Get numbers and build accountability. As you can see, we will all jump on your bandwagon of quit when you quit like fuck (QLF) with us every damn day (EDD).
I'm with you; we're all with you.
Quittin' with you! Great decision. PM if you need digits or any kind of help. One day at a time. You can do this.
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This intro is the sort that gets a lot of us excited! You are doing what I wish I'd done a ly of years ago. The advice you have received is golden! There really is nothing to fear... But there is a lot to celebrate! Write in this thread and document what you are going through. Because you won't ever have to relive sleepless nights again. You are quit!
Congratulations Josh! Welcome to a group of bad asses!
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Nice,
You got this. There isn't anything to be scared of regarding quitting. It is a known equation. 72hours to get the nicotine out of your system- close to a month to get the rest of the 20 plus cancer causing chemicals out of your body that come in that little copperheaded fuck bucket of poison. The longer you remain quit the more nicotine receptors shut down, and the better you feel. If you cave? you start back from zero, it only takes one puff or one dip to refire all those nicotine receptors and your right back to where you started.
What you REALLY should fear is spending the next 20 years of your life as a slave. Stealing time from your family to feed your addiction, destroying your health and then being filleted alive in a attempt to save your life. Quitting is the easiest hard thing you'll ever do. I promise.
The first three days are going to be a special treat. Remember them.
Around day 14 a little rough patch and again around day 70 and 120 or so. These are known as funks.
You can keep your blood sugar up and steady - a crash will lead to a crave. Sip sweet juice like pineapple during the day and balance it out with some protein.
Cut your caffeine in half. Nic counteracts caffeine , unless you want to be bouncing like a jackrabbit on a meth bender, chill with the caff.
exercise will also reduce the frequency and intensity of cravings.
Other than that? post roll everyday and read all you can here. Start with Words of Wisdom.
I dipped for longer than you have been alive- I quit here. Your in the right spot. Sing out if you need help.
sM
I wish someone had warned me about caffeine. Lol this is my day 2 and after several cups of coffee I have been bouncing like a jackrabbit on a meth bender. ?
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5:30 in the morning and im up posting roll, thanks for the advice everyone today is day 2, lets see how this goes... ill probably be ranting tonight ;)
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5:30 in the morning and im up posting roll, thanks for the advice everyone today is day 2, lets see how this goes... ill probably be ranting tonight ;)
Rant away Josh. Do what you have to do. Get some seeds, straws, atomic fireballs, whatever. Just do not use nicotine today. One foot in front of the other. Breath. You've got this. You also have my number in your mailbox. Shoot me a text if you need to. No nicotine, no excuses.
Ryan
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Dang that is some motivated quitting Unfjosh! You may be shocked by the degree to which we'll have your back, especially when you come out the gate like you just did. Drink water. Stay QUIT.
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So today, done with work and went and ran/jogged 1 mile, feeling..... fair.. to say the least. Really feel pretty bad (which was expected) and have been craving all day. Sucks, alot.. but in a way, i feel good. It's hard to describe but I feel good, like knowing i was clean today, like im taking control of my life again. Idk what it is but it feels pretty good, underneath it all it feels good.
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Keep it up man, we got this!!!
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So today, done with work and went and ran/jogged 1 mile, feeling..... fair.. to say the least. Really feel pretty bad (which was expected) and have been craving all day. Sucks, alot.. but in a way, i feel good. It's hard to describe but I feel good, like knowing i was clean today, like im taking control of my life again. Idk what it is but it feels pretty good, underneath it all it feels good.
Well done. The reason most people fail is that they are scared of the imagined pain that accompanies quitting, they are unwilling to face withdrawal.
Instead simply embrace withdrawl as the price of freedom from addiction. It's a subtle twist of mind set that will help you immensely.
Stay the course. Just for today. Tomorrow you can decide again
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So day 3 and I'm actually feeling really well, some small cravings so far but nothing major. I'm also quite... Snappy.. Today to say the least, already snapped on a guy at work for no reason, now I feel like a jackass.. But hey, I apologized like I should have and that's squared away, the random bursts of extreme anger is part of it I guess?
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yes anger is part of the process
read this
http://www.killthecan.org/additional-re ... ex-chewer/ (http://www.killthecan.org/additional-resources/new-reactions-to-anger-as-an-ex-chewer/)
when you finish with that read this
http://whyquit.com/whyquit/LinksAAddiction.html (http://whyquit.com/whyquit/LinksAAddiction.html)
Then stay quit. Use the anger against the addiction.
You got this
sM
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So I'm doing pretty well so far, but today my mind really is trying to convince me to go back. Like all my thoughts revolve around giving up quitting and getting a dip. Pretty crazy how your mind can react so strongly towards the use of a chemical.. Anywho, ready to get today over with man.
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Josh.
Remember how bad you wanted to quit when you were NOT in withdrawal. That's the truth, that's the real you. Hold onto that.
Nicotine tricks your brain into thinking that getting that next fix is as important as eating or breathing. Just like a heroin addict or a meth junkie ( nic works on the same chemical reward pathways as these drugs)
There is only one thing that you MUST accomplish today, and that is to stay quit. Everything else is gravy. Your literally in a fight for your life so hit it hard.
You can do it, if only just for today.
If you haven't read the Kern story- You should, this is a post from his daughter.
Hey Dad-
I have been thinking about you a lot. Lately I have been crying every night. I don't know why but I feel like the pain is getting worse. It has been 6 years already, but I swear I remember it like it was just yesterday. I remember mom waking me and nikki up in the morning saying it wasn't good. I remember Julie driving us to the hospital. I remember going to Walmart to get swim suits because we were going to go to john and shell's and run through the sprinkler, until Dave called my phone and told us to come quick. I remember coming to the hospital scared of what might come next. I wanted to run out to the car to get my CD that has the song "Dance with my father" that I really wanted you to hear. Right as we were going to get on the elevator grandma yelled to have everyone come back into the room, we all new it was bad. I remember running back into the room, throwing myself on top on you at the end of the bed yelling "DADDY, PLEASE DON'T GO", but then you did. Hearing you take your last breath, was like getting my heart ripped out of my chest. I remember laying there at the end of your bed crying and crying and crying, hoping and praying you were going to come back. I needed you, mom needed you, connor, alexa, and tori needed you. We needed you to be there for us, to cook me steak and tell me who I could and couldn't date, you needed to coach tori and connor's softball and baseball teams, you needed to watch alexa perform just ONE more time, mom needed your help to keep me out of trouble. It's not fair. It's not fair that such an amazing guy like you had to go. It's not fair that alexa, tori, and I will never get to have you walk us down the isle or have our father daughter dance, it's not fair that you will not get to see what a good pitcher connor is or see what an amazing guy he has become. it's not fair that Kenra will never get to hear your laugh or have you give her one of those amazing hugs you gave. Dad I miss you so much and want you hear to tell me everything will be okay.
Kenzi Kern
- Monday, July 19, 2010 9:03 PM CDT
Fuck Chew
sM
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Oh Ya, I read all the material you linked to me yesterday. I'm aware of how everything works, just kinda crazy if you think about it, that it's even legal.. And like yesterday when I went to get some smokey mountain from my local drive thru tobacco mart, I saw a guy walk out with a carton of cigs, and I thought to myself.. Wow this guy is pretty much like a slave and yet he doesn't realise it. He just spent probably $60 on shit that's bad for you and will kill you. Made me glad I'm not in that position now! But thanks for all the advice you give skoal monster!
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Great work today Josh. You are winning man. SM is a wise quitter. I suggest reading his intro from begining to end. He knows what he is talking about. Keep it up.
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hey man, i'm on day 2. these guys coerced me yesterday to flush my shit while at work and I did. Now I am 29 hours in and feeling pretty good. Listen to these guys, cold turkey it and power through the withdraw. You just have to accept the fact you are going to feel like crap, and tell nicotine you are in control when those strong cravings hit.
Quitting nicotine is hard to do, but is very possible. It takes practice to quit on your own. You have to learn how to fight the cravings, and how to avoid buying more dip. These guys will help you quit the quickest and most effective way possible, without going through the years of trial and error it can take by yourself.
JUST LISTEN, HAVE DETERMINATION, AND YOU WILL WIN!
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I am looking for your roll post bro. Please tell me you have not given up.
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Uh oh, this guy gone already?!
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Uh oh, this guy gone already?!
It appears so. Unfortunatley he wasnt ready to choose freedom. Some people have to wait until they are spitting teeth out. Or until the cancer diagnosis comes. Cant say we didnt try to help the man.
Josh - when you are ready we are here. It is not easy, but it is worth it. You can do this, we can help.