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Community => Introductions => Topic started by: Flounder on October 28, 2014, 11:20:00 AM
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Ok, so I've been dipping for 11 years, roughly a can a day. I've managed to quit a dozen or so times but always came back to it. For me, it was a crutch when I was stressed, a celabratory treat after something good happened, it helped me focus, it helped me poop, and hell I just really enjoyed a good dip. Now, my gums are receding, my teeth are sorta stained, I'm setting a bad example for my kids, and I could have bought a new boat for what I've spent at 7-11.
I'm 46. I'm too old to be doing this. At least I'm old enough to know better. Two close friends lost thier fathers to cancer this past year. Heading to another funeral tommorrow. That'll be 3. My wife was dianosed with breast cancer this summer, had a unilateral mastectomy 5 weeks ago. How do you handle the news your wife has cancer? I put a dip in as soon as I could. That's kinda fucked up. I've never said that out loud, it stings a bit.
Anyway, I'm here and on day one.
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Ok, so I've been dipping for 11 years, roughly a can a day. I've managed to quit a dozen or so times but always came back to it. For me, it was a crutch when I was stressed, a celabratory treat after something good happened, it helped me focus, it helped me poop, and hell I just really enjoyed a good dip. Now, my gums are receding, my teeth are sorta stained, I'm setting a bad example for my kids, and I could have bought a new boat for what I've spent at 7-11.
I'm 46. I'm too old to be doing this. At least I'm old enough to know better. Two close friends lost thier fathers to cancer this past year. Heading to another funeral tommorrow. That'll be 3. My wife was dianosed with breast cancer this summer, had a unilateral mastectomy 5 weeks ago. How do you handle the news your wife has cancer? I put a dip in as soon as I could. That's kinda fucked up. I've never said that out loud, it stings a bit.
Anyway, I'm here and on day one.
Welcome flounder! Great choice! Read everything in this forum, drink lots of water, work out and sleep as much as you can.
I see you posted roll already. Do it everyday first thing. It's your promise not to use. Honor that promise.
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Ok, so I've been dipping for 11 years, roughly a can a day. I've managed to quit a dozen or so times but always came back to it. For me, it was a crutch when I was stressed, a celabratory treat after something good happened, it helped me focus, it helped me poop, and hell I just really enjoyed a good dip. Now, my gums are receding, my teeth are sorta stained, I'm setting a bad example for my kids, and I could have bought a new boat for what I've spent at 7-11.
I'm 46. I'm too old to be doing this. At least I'm old enough to know better. Two close friends lost thier fathers to cancer this past year. Heading to another funeral tommorrow. That'll be 3. My wife was dianosed with breast cancer this summer, had a unilateral mastectomy 5 weeks ago. How do you handle the news your wife has cancer? I put a dip in as soon as I could. That's kinda fucked up. I've never said that out loud, it stings a bit.
Anyway, I'm here and on day one.
Welcome flounder! Great choice! Read everything in this forum, drink lots of water, work out and sleep as much as you can.
I see you posted roll already. Do it everyday first thing. It's your promise not to use. Honor that promise.
Forgot to ask is your screen name in honor of flounder from animal house?
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Ok, so I've been dipping for 11 years, roughly a can a day. I've managed to quit a dozen or so times but always came back to it. For me, it was a crutch when I was stressed, a celabratory treat after something good happened, it helped me focus, it helped me poop, and hell I just really enjoyed a good dip. Now, my gums are receding, my teeth are sorta stained, I'm setting a bad example for my kids, and I could have bought a new boat for what I've spent at 7-11.
I'm 46. I'm too old to be doing this. At least I'm old enough to know better. Two close friends lost thier fathers to cancer this past year. Heading to another funeral tommorrow. That'll be 3. My wife was dianosed with breast cancer this summer, had a unilateral mastectomy 5 weeks ago. How do you handle the news your wife has cancer? I put a dip in as soon as I could. That's kinda fucked up. I've never said that out loud, it stings a bit.
Anyway, I'm here and on day one.
Awesome to have you join the war!!!! Welcome to a motley crew of quitters. I posted a day one and in my head, I didn't think I would make it 30 days let alone 900+. Follow the site with exactness. Stay close and get numbers in your phone. You will need them!
This is the toughest thing I have face in a decade. This is the greatest triumph I have had in a decade. Life, well its life it will still kick you in the balls but being nic free and living life on life's terms, its freedom!
You just declared your independence now is the battle to fight for your freedom. Quitting isn't possible if you quit out of fear, for loved ones or even your God. You have to be selfish and want to quit. All those other reasons support your quit but you. YOU have to want this because you are the one that has to fight!!!!
One day at a time. Don't think forever. Just quit today. If you wake tomorrow, come back and post roll.
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Ok, so I've been dipping for 11 years, roughly a can a day. I've managed to quit a dozen or so times but always came back to it. For me, it was a crutch when I was stressed, a celabratory treat after something good happened, it helped me focus, it helped me poop, and hell I just really enjoyed a good dip. Now, my gums are receding, my teeth are sorta stained, I'm setting a bad example for my kids, and I could have bought a new boat for what I've spent at 7-11.
I'm 46. I'm too old to be doing this. At least I'm old enough to know better. Two close friends lost thier fathers to cancer this past year. Heading to another funeral tommorrow. That'll be 3. My wife was dianosed with breast cancer this summer, had a unilateral mastectomy 5 weeks ago. How do you handle the news your wife has cancer? I put a dip in as soon as I could. That's kinda fucked up. I've never said that out loud, it stings a bit.
Anyway, I'm here and on day one.
Welcome flounder! Great choice! Read everything in this forum, drink lots of water, work out and sleep as much as you can.
I see you posted roll already. Do it everyday first thing. It's your promise not to use. Honor that promise.
Forgot to ask is your screen name in honor of flounder from animal house?
avatar idea for you (http://content6.flixster.com/question/39/16/28/3916284_std.jpg)
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Ok, so I've been dipping for 11 years, roughly a can a day. I've managed to quit a dozen or so times but always came back to it. For me, it was a crutch when I was stressed, a celabratory treat after something good happened, it helped me focus, it helped me poop, and hell I just really enjoyed a good dip. Now, my gums are receding, my teeth are sorta stained, I'm setting a bad example for my kids, and I could have bought a new boat for what I've spent at 7-11.
I'm 46. I'm too old to be doing this. At least I'm old enough to know better. Two close friends lost thier fathers to cancer this past year. Heading to another funeral tommorrow. That'll be 3. My wife was dianosed with breast cancer this summer, had a unilateral mastectomy 5 weeks ago. How do you handle the news your wife has cancer? I put a dip in as soon as I could. That's kinda fucked up. I've never said that out loud, it stings a bit.
Anyway, I'm here and on day one.
Welcome flounder! Great choice! Read everything in this forum, drink lots of water, work out and sleep as much as you can.
I see you posted roll already. Do it everyday first thing. It's your promise not to use. Honor that promise.
Forgot to ask is your screen name in honor of flounder from animal house?
"Forgot to ask is your screen name in honor of flounder from animal house? "
Yep, a reference to Animal House. Thanks for the Avatar link.
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Ok, so I've been dipping for 11 years, roughly a can a day. I've managed to quit a dozen or so times but always came back to it. For me, it was a crutch when I was stressed, a celabratory treat after something good happened, it helped me focus, it helped me poop, and hell I just really enjoyed a good dip. Now, my gums are receding, my teeth are sorta stained, I'm setting a bad example for my kids, and I could have bought a new boat for what I've spent at 7-11.
I'm 46. I'm too old to be doing this. At least I'm old enough to know better. Two close friends lost thier fathers to cancer this past year. Heading to another funeral tommorrow. That'll be 3. My wife was dianosed with breast cancer this summer, had a unilateral mastectomy 5 weeks ago. How do you handle the news your wife has cancer? I put a dip in as soon as I could. That's kinda fucked up. I've never said that out loud, it stings a bit.
Anyway, I'm here and on day one.
Welcome, Flounder. If you're here to quit, then you're in exactly the right spot. We quit here, and we only quit here. As Islander said, posting roll every day is the price of admission.
After reading your intro, I see plenty of good reasons to quit (teeth, gums, money, kids, wife's health, etc). What I don't see specifically is why YOU are quitting. What was it that finally pushed the logical, rational you to the front of the line ahead of the addict and said, "enough." Whatever that is, or whatever it was, you need to keep that at the forefront of your mind and start stacking your quit on top of that. This addiction does not give up and never goes away. She knows all of the little tricks she thinks she can use to get you to come crawling back to her. She knows that getting you to have "just one" will immediately lead to slapping the blinders back on so you go back to ignoring the cold reality staring you in the face.
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Ok, so I've been dipping for 11 years, roughly a can a day. I've managed to quit a dozen or so times but always came back to it. For me, it was a crutch when I was stressed, a celabratory treat after something good happened, it helped me focus, it helped me poop, and hell I just really enjoyed a good dip. Now, my gums are receding, my teeth are sorta stained, I'm setting a bad example for my kids, and I could have bought a new boat for what I've spent at 7-11.
I'm 46. I'm too old to be doing this. At least I'm old enough to know better. Two close friends lost thier fathers to cancer this past year. Heading to another funeral tommorrow. That'll be 3. My wife was dianosed with breast cancer this summer, had a unilateral mastectomy 5 weeks ago. How do you handle the news your wife has cancer? I put a dip in as soon as I could. That's kinda fucked up. I've never said that out loud, it stings a bit.
Anyway, I'm here and on day one.
Welcome, Flounder. If you're here to quit, then you're in exactly the right spot. We quit here, and we only quit here. As Islander said, posting roll every day is the price of admission.
After reading your intro, I see plenty of good reasons to quit (teeth, gums, money, kids, wife's health, etc). What I don't see specifically is why YOU are quitting. What was it that finally pushed the logical, rational you to the front of the line ahead of the addict and said, "enough." Whatever that is, or whatever it was, you need to keep that at the forefront of your mind and start stacking your quit on top of that. This addiction does not give up and never goes away. She knows all of the little tricks she thinks she can use to get you to come crawling back to her. She knows that getting you to have "just one" will immediately lead to slapping the blinders back on so you go back to ignoring the cold reality staring you in the face.
Flounder - I'm going to ask you this one time and you better answer it honestly. Have you ever been on this site with a different screen name?
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Tuco - that's a good question. I'm gonna need to think about that one a bit. I can't say I can really point to one particular event.
Bronc - no, why do you ask?
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Tuco - that's a good question. I'm gonna need to think about that one a bit. I can't say I can really point to one particular event.
Bronc - no, why do you ask?
So glad to hear it. We had a total douche in here who was a 4 time caver named otter that liked the fact that we nicknamed him flounder. He was so douchy in fact, that he actually embraced the name.
Flounder - we quit once. This isn't a try and try again system. We quit today for today and then we wake up and quit again tomorrow. Don't think about forever or next week or next month. It's one day at a time. I'm not going to lie, this next couple of weeks is going to suck ass. But you can do it. We all did it. I'm 46 too, and I dipped for 28 years at least a can a day. This place got me quit and I've stayed quit. Get aggressive and get bad ass about it. Start building that hate towards nicotine right now. Do not spend a second romanitcizing it. Every thought you get in your head, actively fight it with truth.
Examples of truth:
Nicotine is poison
No one respects a guy that's chewing
I'm disrespcting all the people in my life that have died and are suffering from cancer by actively choosing to put a known cancer causing substance in my mouth.
I'm so weak I can't control a feeling.
My heart and circulation will function much better.
I'll have longer lasting and and solid erections due to the increase in circulation if I don't put this shit in my mouth.
Quit strong Flounder...don't half ass it. Get angry, get busy, get after it. There's no passive quitting.
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Hi Flounder-
Your not too old! Now is your chance- take it and go, quit hard, follow this method. You have some great support, from guys who helped me quit, and others who I have seen really nail this quitting business down well. Make connections here, and learn all you can. Things are going to get a little wacky, just ride that out and read, read, read here at the site. The more you know about how the addiction works, the better you can fight it. Know your enemy, right? Congrats, even when it's hard, being truly free is amazingly worth it- more than you can imagine right now- it just keeps unfolding!
There's a link in my signature line with an article- that one helped me a lot.
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Bronc - got it. The flounder thing just popped in my head after my first few screen name choices were already taken. I have been guilty of caving though. That's all behind me now, just gotta focus on getting this one right.
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Welcome flounder.....stay quit bro
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Bret - thanks for the article link. I learned quite a bit I didn't know before.
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Flounder - you are in the Feb15 quit group. my digits are coming your way via PM. Protect your quit at ALL COSTS. i am here for you. i quit with you today bro. welcome.
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Flounder - you are in the Feb15 quit group. my digits are coming your way via PM. Protect your quit at ALL COSTS. i am here for you. i quit with you today bro. welcome.
^^^^^This is what it's all about, guys. Bring each other into the fold and build that accountability right from the start. You will thank yourselves thousands of times over in the coming days, weeks, months, and years for being proactive and taking charge of your quits.
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I love the avatar.
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Hi Flounder-
Your not too old! Now is your chance- take it and go, quit hard, follow this method. You have some great support, from guys who helped me quit, and others who I have seen really nail this quitting business down well. Make connections here, and learn all you can. Things are going to get a little wacky, just ride that out and read, read, read here at the site. The more you know about how the addiction works, the better you can fight it. Know your enemy, right? Congrats, even when it's hard, being truly free is amazingly worth it- more than you can imagine right now- it just keeps unfolding!
There's a link in my signature line with an article- that one helped me a lot.
Thank you sir!
That information in your sig is perfect. I'm up in the middle of the night cause I know that bitch is lurking around here. Solid read with some great information. I love those F'n cig CEO's all saying that nicotine is not addictive. HA!!!! Fucking HA!!!!
Makes me never want to see another can of dip!
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Got pm's from JonnyS, Islander, and ForMyLife with they're numbers. Thanks guys, I'll reach out if I need to.