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Title: Baseball, Firefighting and Military
Post by: Will88 on July 16, 2014, 11:35:00 PM
I never chewed until I was around 20. All through college I played baseball surrounded by guys chewing and thats when I started. At first I did not feel like it was anything to be concerned with. I did small pinches and a tin usually lasted me a week. As time went on the pinches became bigger and a tin was only lasting 2 days. After college I joined the military and also volunteer as a firefighter. At the firestation many of the firefighters and medics smoke and chew while waiting for a call. Many of my military friends chew too so I was always surrounded by it. I have stopped chewing several times. The longest I have gone since I started was almost 6 months. The last time I stopped was about 4 months. I am 26 now. My family and Fiancee have no idea I chew(ed) and its time to put an end to this for good. I think this support group will help me get past those few months and never turn back.
I am still in the military and still at the firehouse, but I can be strong and just say no
Title: Re: Baseball, Firefighting and Military
Post by: Grizzlyhasclaws on July 16, 2014, 11:44:00 PM
Quote from: Will88
I never chewed until I was around 20. All through college I played baseball surrounded by guys chewing and thats when I started. At first I did not feel like it was anything to be concerned with. I did small pinches and a tin usually lasted me a week. As time went on the pinches became bigger and a tin was only lasting 2 days. After college I joined the military and also volunteer as a firefighter. At the firestation many of the firefighters and medics smoke and chew while waiting for a call. Many of my military friends chew too so I was always surrounded by it. I have stopped chewing several times. The longest I have gone since I started was almost 6 months. The last time I stopped was about 4 months. I am 26 now. My family and Fiancee have no idea I chew(ed) and its time to put an end to this for good. I think this support group will help me get past those few months and never turn back.
I am still in the military and still at the firehouse, but I can be strong and just say no
Did you quit? If so make sure you post roll. Welcome aboard. Own this shit. It's the best way to succeed.
Title: Re: Baseball, Firefighting and Military
Post by: Doc2quit4good on July 17, 2014, 09:58:00 AM
Quote from: Will88
I never chewed until I was around 20. All through college I played baseball surrounded by guys chewing and thats when I started. At first I did not feel like it was anything to be concerned with. I did small pinches and a tin usually lasted me a week. As time went on the pinches became bigger and a tin was only lasting 2 days. After college I joined the military and also volunteer as a firefighter. At the firestation many of the firefighters and medics smoke and chew while waiting for a call. Many of my military friends chew too so I was always surrounded by it. I have stopped chewing several times. The longest I have gone since I started was almost 6 months. The last time I stopped was about 4 months. I am 26 now. My family and Fiancee have no idea I chew(ed) and its time to put an end to this for good. I think this support group will help me get past those few months and never turn back.
I am still in the military and still at the firehouse, but I can be strong and just say no
Like Grizz says you gotta post roll before a lot of this will help you. I will say you are going to have to have a good sense of humor and strength to ward off the day to day bad influences that seem to be in your life. You may have to piss off a few buds in this process. Post roll in October '14 and be prepared soon to let this out in the open to your family and wife to be. You will be surprised the support you will get from them. Quit for yourself though!! This won't work if you quit for them cause they'll never understand.... And always get pissed in here and not at the people in your life! I quit with you today if you post roll!!!!
Title: Re: Baseball, Firefighting and Military
Post by: wastepanel on July 17, 2014, 10:11:00 AM
Quote from: doc2quit4good
Quote from: Will88
I never chewed until I was around 20. All through college I played baseball surrounded by guys chewing and thats when I started. At first I did not feel like it was anything to be concerned with. I did small pinches and a tin usually lasted me a week. As time went on the pinches became bigger and a tin was only lasting 2 days. After college I joined the military and also volunteer as a firefighter. At the firestation many of the firefighters and medics smoke and chew while waiting for a call. Many of my military friends chew too so I was always surrounded by it. I have stopped chewing several times. The longest I have gone since I started was almost 6 months. The last time I stopped was about 4 months. I am 26 now. My family and Fiancee have no idea I chew(ed) and its time to put an end to this for good. I think this support group will help me get past those few months and never turn back.
I am still in the military and still at the firehouse, but I can be strong and just say no
Like Grizz says you gotta post roll before a lot of this will help you. I will say you are going to have to have a good sense of humor and strength to ward off the day to day bad influences that seem to be in your life. You may have to piss off a few buds in this process. Post roll in October '14 and be prepared soon to let this out in the open to your family and wife to be. You will be surprised the support you will get from them. Quit for yourself though!! This won't work if you quit for them cause they'll never understand.... And always get pissed in here and not at the people in your life! I quit with you today if you post roll!!!!
Will hit roll last night.

He's a good guy. Met him in chat a couple days ago and he's just catching up to the program.

Can't quit 7 months all at once, Will. We don't worry about how long we went last time. Focus on this day and this day alone. Learn from your past. Quit today. Plan for the future.

Ninjas...any advice?
Title: Re: Baseball, Firefighting and Military
Post by: DirtyHarry10 on July 17, 2014, 10:19:00 AM
Quote from: wastepanel
Quote from: doc2quit4good
Quote from: Will88
I never chewed until I was around 20. All through college I played baseball surrounded by guys chewing and thats when I started. At first I did not feel like it was anything to be concerned with. I did small pinches and a tin usually lasted me a week. As time went on the pinches became bigger and a tin was only lasting 2 days. After college I joined the military and also volunteer as a firefighter. At the firestation many of the firefighters and medics smoke and chew while waiting for a call. Many of my military friends chew too so I was always surrounded by it. I have stopped chewing several times. The longest I have gone since I started was almost 6 months. The last time I stopped was about 4 months. I am 26 now. My family and Fiancee have no idea I chew(ed) and its time to put an end to this for good. I think this support group will help me get past those few months and never turn back.
I am still in the military and still at the firehouse, but I can be strong and just say no
Like Grizz says you gotta post roll before a lot of this will help you. I will say you are going to have to have a good sense of humor and strength to ward off the day to day bad influences that seem to be in your life. You may have to piss off a few buds in this process. Post roll in October '14 and be prepared soon to let this out in the open to your family and wife to be. You will be surprised the support you will get from them. Quit for yourself though!! This won't work if you quit for them cause they'll never understand.... And always get pissed in here and not at the people in your life! I quit with you today if you post roll!!!!
Will hit roll last night.

He's a good guy. Met him in chat a couple days ago and he's just catching up to the program.

Can't quit 7 months all at once, Will. We don't worry about how long we went last time. Focus on this day and this day alone. Learn from your past. Quit today. Plan for the future.

Ninjas...any advice?
I know I just started on here today, but my journey has been long. Will, I've been where you are. A bit of advice if you will on dealing with the Ninja sneaks...come clean now! Tell your family, tell your fiance. Tell your friends. At the same time, do something I never did. Tell them you are reaching out and fighting the addiction. Let them read the spousal support article on this site. Advocate for them to stand behind you. I just posted roll today. It's my day one. You and I are going to take this stroll together. Let's get moving.
Title: Re: Baseball, Firefighting and Military
Post by: zam on July 17, 2014, 10:32:00 AM
Welcome aboard Will. This place will indeed help you quit, but as you know, the key word is "help". You'll need to own it...you'll need to put in some heavy lifting. I too was a ninja dipper. It is amazing how F*^(*ed up our lives become trying to both get our fix, and hide the clues. Trust me, you are working very hard to support your addiction. Put that effort into quitting.
I strongly suggest you come clean with the GF and family. Tell them what you're doing, and that you may be an asshole the next couple of weeks. It prepares them for your fog and your nic-rage for one. Number two, they probably already know it, or strongly suspect it anyway. But they have no idea the power you allow this thing to exert over you. Your wife-to-be will definitely know it, even if she doesn't acknowledge it. Leveling with them will stop the "Let's pretend Will doesn't dip!" game, and possibly give you one more layer of accountability.
Feel free to PM me if you need anything or have questions. Good call coming here...now jump in with both feet.

PS - have you significant other read the Spouse support info. (http://www.killthecan.org/community/spousal-support/)
Title: Re: Baseball, Firefighting and Military
Post by: Thumblewort on July 17, 2014, 11:09:00 AM
I didn't ninja dip, but I lied about how much I was using, and the cost. When I did quit, I came out with everything to my wife, her jaw hitting the floor several times on how much I was spending , and had her search out hidey holes, etc to prove I was quit for the day. The truth will set you free brother. Thank you for your service!
Title: Re: Baseball, Firefighting and Military
Post by: flash on July 17, 2014, 11:12:00 AM
Welcome aboard. Realize you have a ton of brothers right by your side, fighting the same battle. Post your daily promise and keep it. Hold yourself accountable.
Title: Re: Baseball, Firefighting and Military
Post by: sixercountry on July 17, 2014, 12:28:00 PM
Good job posting roll Will....My instructions were probably vague but you got it. Now wake up and repeat your promises every day. Stay quit dude.
Title: Re: Baseball, Firefighting and Military
Post by: RES17CUE on July 17, 2014, 02:35:00 PM
Hey Will. I know how the firehouse is when it comes to dipping and the temptation. Don't cave and your crew will respect you even more for it. Hit me up if you need a number. I'm always down to help a quit or bullshit about firefighting. Stay low and stay quit brother.