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Community => Introductions => Topic started by: Swilson on August 07, 2017, 10:09:00 AM
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Hey my name is Scott and I had been dipping on and off again for the better part of 12 years. It was something I tried to give up on multiple occasions by myself only to find myself back in the can for some reason or another. Well this time it is for good and needs to be! My Wife and I have been together for about 8 years and just had our first Baby girl about 2 Months ago and while i did not dip the entire time we were together it was a part of me that I was ashamed of and one that I hid from her up until last week when the maid left a can on our dinning room table. It was not up until this point I realized how terrible this stupid little can was... Because of my deception my loving and caring wife now did not know what to think, what to say, what to believe. She and I have already started to do some couples counseling and having someone to talk to about it openly and honestly has already helped. What I have come to realize is that this stupid can made me lie to the women that I love all for some stupid little nic fix, Hell I lied to myself that it was not bad and it was ok because i was going to quit the next can. Well I can say this quit not just of the nic but also of the deception and lies to myself and the ones I love is going to be the one that sticks because I want to be around for my 10th anniversary my 20th, my 30th.... my daughters high school graduation, her wedding day, the borth of my future children... And it all starts right now KTC and not looking back not now not ever.
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Looks like you found your November Quit Group. Keep posting early every day. That's your solemn promise - your word - that you will not use nicotine for the entire rest of the day.
Reach out when you need to. Swap digits with your quit brothers, mine are just a PM away.
I did quite a bit of damage to my 21 year marriage, and a lot of it stems from my addiction. All you can do is use the tools you will continue to learn about here, and refuse to cave. Don't be a bitch to a little plastic can.
Proud to quit with you.
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Scott, I'm in Nov with you, and quit just a couple days after you. Same story for the most part, but my quit is for me, she knows/knew I chewed and did not like it, but I kept at it. Now I am done with it for good. I'm with you brother, anything you need, just pm me
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My Quit is for me as well. I also feel I have more resolve and support now but they are reasons I want to quit for myself. For now I take it one day at a time, was in the gas station where i usually bought my cans and told them no more cans for me. Just one more person to support the Quit.
Scott
Chicago
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Today is day 32 and I have made it through one whole month +1 - Fucking fantastic and I don't ever want to go back, I see how good it feels without using that crap! These are words I think to myself each and every morning when I wake up - and THEN I POST ROLL. I write this little tidbits of truth, K(nuggets) of Knowledge for myself and also those who may be just starting their journey, those who have not even quit yet, those who have been quit for 2,3,4,5 or 10 years who need that refresh in mindset. Hell I write these so my future self can come back and re-affirm yeah this is fantastic glad to be quit only wish you had done it a hell of lot sooner you dumbass!
If you are reading this it is because you are on quit chewing website and some part of your addict self wants to quit or you are quit - either way congrats on being here now make it happen or keep it up! The best way to do so on this site is to be present. What does that mean? Invest the time in the site by doing the following:
1. Posting Roll EACH AND EVERY SINGLE DAY
2. See step one make sure you did it...
3. Establish accountability with fellow quitters - make sure they post roll as well you are on this journey together.
4. Get Phone #'s for fellow quitters
5. USE the #'s you get - it's no good if you have a tool
6. Support Fellow Quitters in times of need
7. Assist and give advice to others on the site
8. Share your experiences for others and yourself
9. Explore the website there is an abundance of knowledge
10. Hop on Chat
11. ALWAYS BE QUITTING - did you do step 1?
If you do the above then the reward is your freedom from the can. For me that freedom means more time spent with my family, it means that I no longer have to plan out how to take a dip without anyone knowing (my wife, my coworkers, my friends) the lifted burden of Ninja dipping is enough of a reward by itself but wait there is more... I have saved enough in one month on something I have hidden for so long that I was able to make an additional $250 payment against my wife's student loans. Once those are gone the car... then the house... Vacation... Date nights, all of which sound a hell of a lot better than secretly sitting by myself and throwing cancer turds in my mouth. And what sounds the best is the future with my wife and my daughter. Doing anything that can take away time from them is selfish and looking back I just cannot believe I would have ever been so stupid. I am not the same person that I was 32 days ago who was ashamed his wife caught him after 8 years of hiding it from her, I am so so much better and I am so proud to quit with those who want to quit. I am a better person, a better husband and better father and i plan on taking that into other aspects of my life as well!
ABQ - Post that Roll - ABQ
This is a separate thing for me - Question for my future self (day 100) How much weight have you lost?
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Keep it up Scott! With the right outlook this quit lifestyle just gets better and better. It's not always easy, but you've got tools to succeed. Keep pitching in and helping others - you new guys that get it are what makes this place work.
Keep on kicking ass brother!
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glad to be quit with you scott...everyday it gets better
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Brother I was in the same boat as you. Well, I don't have a maid :D But dipping is literally the only thing my wife and I have fought about. She didn't speak to me for 3 days when she caught me. Like you've already learned, I didn't quit for her I quit for me. But she is my biggest supporter. Constantly asks if I posted roll and always asks me about my quit family. Keep up the good work.
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1 year removed from the nic bitch and life is great!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Fuck you Dip
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1 year removed from the nic bitch and life is great!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Fuck you Dip
Badass job, Scott!
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Congrats on your first year brother, keep quitting hard!!!!!!!!!!
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Congrats on 1000 days, Cookie! @Swilson (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=67)
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This sounds like a real man with true dedication. Congrats!!!
I'm almost 8 years quit. How many days is that, I have no fucking clue. I'm just quit. Shit doesn't even cross my mind any more. I think about it and nothing happens. No rise in hear beat, no magic tingle, might as well be thinking about cardboard ot something.
It's fucking easy now. Wasn't always that way. But it will be. Keep grinning.