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Community => Introductions => Topic started by: Jay.w on July 18, 2014, 03:12:00 PM
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I'm stoked I found this site. I've been a chewer for well over 25 years. One of those horrible chewers that always had a discreet bit of chew tucked away in the back of your gums where nobody would notice. Had one in as soon as I was done with breakfast until it was time to go to bed. Hell sometimes I even kept the chew in while I snacked on stuff during the day.
I have to admit.. I love chewing.. I know it's bad for me, I know it will kill me, hell I even know deep down inside I really don't love chewing... My wife hates it, I'm always trying to hide it and lie to her that I'm not chewing... Well enough is enough.
I'm now 7 days clean and I'm planning on being a "quitter" for the rest of my life. I'm not going to rely on my will power to pull me through this.. hell I've been there before and have gone months or even one time 2 years without a chew. This time I'm going to surround myself with "quitters" like me. Thanks for making this site.. thanks for being there for me, and I hope I can help some folks along the way.
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Welcome Jay.W! This place is hard core and all about quitting. We are addicts and to fit in you have to admit the same. You don't love to chew. You are an addict that needs a big fix of nicotine to feel normal. Own up to that and start posting roll. Congrats on being quit 7 days. That's awesome!
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Thanks for the clarity Reese... Yes I'm an addict and looking forward to posting roll again and again
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Thanks for the clarity Reese... Yes I'm an addict and looking forward to posting roll again and again
We do it daily, no exceptions. We ask for today, no more than that.
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Thanks for the clarity Reese... Yes I'm an addict and looking forward to posting roll again and again
We do it daily, no exceptions. We ask for today, no more than that.
Welcome Jay. Don't forget the desk drawer method.
FWIW I was on Chantix when I first Quit. I gave it up after I found this site. The Chantix did weird shit to me.
PM me if you want to discuss, or if I can help in any way.
-Nolaq
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Jay,
The fine quitters above did a good job of pointing out some great advice for you but I thought I would offer you some direct links to items to help speed and ease your searches.
Welcome to KTC, you appear to have your mind made up to quit for you. If I may add a couple of things that in my opinion can make or break your quit (all items below with underlined words are links to different areas on KTC or referenced, all safe)
1. Your spouse, well her support is critical and she deserves to understand more what you are going through, so see the following link and hell print it or e-mail it to her to read Spousal Support (http://www.killthecan.org/community/spousal-support/)
2. Read this for yourself to make sure you fully know what to expect What to expect when you quit (http://www.killthecan.org/your-quit/what-to-expect-when-you-quit-dipping/); some days are better then others, then eventually all days are better
3. Read the stories on here at KTC, the Kern story is a tear jerker and though you want to be around for your kids this will reinforce it dramatically, Kern's Story (http://forum.killthecan.org/topic/1008859/1/); then there are these words spoken by a man who lost his brother to this stupid shit Sean Marsee (http://forum.killthecan.org/topic/1009362/1/#new), damn I wish he would have talked at my middle school.
4. Find an alternative and keep it on you at all times. There will be times when going to the Convenience Store and getting a soda or anything else can cause one lapse in judgment and lead to a huge mistake. Don't be that guy, be the guy with Testicular Fortitude.
5. Find a couple of other quitters and exchange numbers with them, if you need another please PM me and let's do this.
6. Remember that you are an addict, 100 days is a milestone not a goal; the goal is a lifetime being free from the nic bitch. Get pissed off at big tobacco and the dangers they put you in.
7. Remember that you are the one who caused you to be an addict, so don't let anger get outside of your control. It is no one else's fault that you got here. Your family will only support you if you are not an asshole.
8. Drink lots of water, may also consider changing your eating lifestyle/diet, shit changes after the weed is out of your system. Exercise is also a huge help.
P
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Can't say a whole lot more than the dudes above did, 'cept for welcome ... and I quit with you today!
Oh yeah ... click on the underlined in P's post ... they are hyperlinks to pearls of wisdom (just in case).
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Thanks All for the good advice. I've just spent the last couple of hours going through all of the links and useful tidbits of info.
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Thanks All for the good advice. I've just spent the last couple of hours going through all of the links and useful tidbits of info.
It was great talking to you in chat today Jay. You are on your way man..
I support everything these guys said.. post roll, honor your word.. I quit with you today..
-Ben
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I'm stoked I found this site.
I'm glad you found us too, Jay.
You've received great advice and it sounds like you've taken the KTC process to heart. Post roll first thing each day. Keep your word. Repeat. One day it won't suck anymore, but you gotta earn your freedom back. Follow our process and this will be the easiest hard thing you've ever done.
Yell if you need anything.
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I'm stoked I found this site.
I'm glad you found us too, Jay.
You've received great advice and it sounds like you've taken the KTC process to heart. Post roll first thing each day. Keep your word. Repeat. One day it won't suck anymore, but you gotta earn your freedom back. Follow our process and this will be the easiest hard thing you've ever done.
Yell if you need anything.
Welcome. I am glad you have already read thru the links. If you have had the opportunity to speak with MN_Ben already, then you have just set yourself up for success! He was the first hand I grabbed over 200 days ago.
Now, you will read a lot of info and chat about a lot great things and see some awesome pieces of advice in your intro but none of it will help you if you don't LISTEN! I see it so many times.....words of truth, of basic facts and guideance, and then the person doesn't LISTEN. They begin thinking they have this quit all figured out and start going their own way.
Trust these people. They will help you save your life!
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I'm stoked I found this site.
I'm glad you found us too, Jay.
You've received great advice and it sounds like you've taken the KTC process to heart. Post roll first thing each day. Keep your word. Repeat. One day it won't suck anymore, but you gotta earn your freedom back. Follow our process and this will be the easiest hard thing you've ever done.
Yell if you need anything.
Welcome. I am glad you have already read thru the links. If you have had the opportunity to speak with MN_Ben already, then you have just set yourself up for success! He was the first hand I grabbed over 200 days ago.
Now, you will read a lot of info and chat about a lot great things and see some awesome pieces of advice in your intro but none of it will help you if you don't LISTEN! I see it so many times.....words of truth, of basic facts and guideance, and then the person doesn't LISTEN. They begin thinking they have this quit all figured out and start going their own way.
Trust these people. They will help you save your life!
Good talking with You in chat brother.
You're in the right place, for the right reasons.
Get mad, get sad, get into chat...usually some other badass quitter in there to talk with.
Glad you're here.
You got this ODAAT and NAFAR