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Community => Introductions => Topic started by: Donedippin3 on April 15, 2009, 10:02:00 PM
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Hey all!
Great site...this site has already been a huge help to me from the start of my day 2. I am now on day 8. I stumbled across it like many others, by doing a Google search. I have chewed since I was 14 and am now 34. First few years was off and on with the guys but by 18 I was hooked and hooked hard. Had been chewing Skoal Fine Cut the last 10 years and before that it was Kodiak or skoal Straight.
I finally got to a point that I felt I was being selfish. Taking time away from my family to dip and only doing harm to the future I might have with my family. I also was sick of the chew spitters around the house/truck. Not something I wanted to be doing in front of my two children anymore. Heck one day my daughter picked up my spitter in my truck and asked why I always had this (spitter for me 20oz Pepsi) with me. Like it was what she thought of when she thought of me. That pissed me off and I quit the next day. Hunting and Fishing will be different but I am ready for it.
Thanks DD3!
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DD3,
Your story sounds just like mine: started dipping in junior high, and now I'm in my 30s. There are a TON of guys just like us here...two decades of addiction. But now, we're all quit, to one extent or another. I am at day 24. I'm going to make it to day 25 because I don't want to leave my family without me - and I don't want to leave my family. I'm not going to let nicotine and tobacco kill me. Period.
I try to keep these thoughts in mind while the going is tough. You try, too. Try to remember that if you dip again, you're going to die. You are going to leave your daughter without a dad.
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Some of the best advice I have read lately is that I need to focus on today's quit and the rest will come.
I think the other times I tried to quit I got panicked thinking I would never chew again and would talk myself into caving because it seemed overwhelming. Well sorry nic bitch but I wonÂ’t use nic today and never again for that matter but I am only taking her on one day at a time. Its working so far because anxiety seems to have become a big challenge that has rose its ugly head since I quit. The more simplified I make this the easier it has become. I QUIT A DAY AT A TIME!
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Some of the best advice I have read lately is that I need to focus on today's quit and the rest will come.
I think the other times I tried to quit I got panicked thinking I would never chew again and would talk myself into caving because it seemed overwhelming. Well sorry nic bitch but I wonÂ’t use nic today and never again for that matter but I am only taking her on one day at a time. Its working so far because anxiety seems to have become a big challenge that has rose its ugly head since I quit. The more simplified I make the easier it has become. I QUIT A DAY AT A TIME!
Yeah buddy! That was the KEY for me in my early days, even today as a matter of fact. It's way to hard to imagine never doing something again that you've been doing for such a long time, day in/day out. I actually don't take it one day at a time, I take it one 15 minute period at a time when the craves come in. Anybody can make it 15 minutes without doing something. Typical crave lasts about 3 minutes, so just get past that, get your mind on something else, and you'll be a +1 in no time! Great to have ya.
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Right on DD3,
Great job on your quit. One day at a time is a great approach and should help alleviate some of that anxiety. I wanted to share a couple of things I learned the hard way unfortunately.
1. Don't get complacent, ever, no matter how far into your quit you are - stay close to this site.
2. Have a quit plan in place that you can turn to when that monster crave hits and pushes you to the brink.
I'll help you however I can in your quit DD3. You ever have any questions feel free to ask.
Gooch
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Some of the best advice I have read lately is that I need to focus on today's quit and the rest will come.
I think the other times I tried to quit I got panicked thinking I would never chew again and would talk myself into caving because it seemed overwhelming. Well sorry nic bitch but I won’t use nic today and never again for that matter but I am only taking her on one day at a time. Its working so far because anxiety seems to have become a big challenge that has rose its ugly head since I quit. The more simplified I make the easier it has become. I QUIT A DAY AT A TIME!
Yeah buddy! That was the KEY for me in my early days, even today as a matter of fact. It's way to hard to imagine never doing something again that you've been doing for such a long time, day in/day out. I actually don't take it one day at a time, I take it one 15 minute period at a time when the craves come in. Anybody can make it 15 minutes without doing something. Typical crave lasts about 3 minutes, so just get past that, get your mind on something else, and you'll be a +1 in no time! Great to have ya.
Welcome aboard done!!! I enjoyed visiting with you in chat!!! I'm sure youv'e already checked it out but the welcome center has a ton of useful information!!! Pm me if you have questions or need numbers, or anything else!!!
index.php?showforum=13 (http://forum.killthecan.org/index.php?showforum=13)
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Day 9
Yesterday was brutal. I was either pissed, tired, mad, sad, or happy. What a freaking roller coaster ride. It was the like the crave lasted all day. I finally just fell a sleep. It was the worst day so far.
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Day 9
Yesterday was brutal. I was either pissed, tired, mad, sad, or happy. What a freaking roller coaster ride. It was the like the crave lasted all day. I finally just fell a sleep. It was the worst day so far.
DD3-
As shitty of a day as you had yesterday, you remained quit. That's huge - Great job! It does and will get better. You can and will do this. Stay focused, stay close to this site and most importantly STAY QUIT!! You run into trouble PM me and I'll do what I can to help you through it. If you need a number to call I'll give you mine, just PM me and I'll shoot it your way.
Gooch
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Can someone direct me to the "contract". I know I saw it once on here in a post but I cant find it now.
Thanks!
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DD3-
Check the post I started in introductions titled "July Quitters". Roy Jester cut and pasted a link to the contract about halfway down the reponses. That's where I got mine.
Gooch
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Can someone direct me to the "contract". I know I saw it once on here in a post but I cant find it now.
Thanks!
here it is man (http://killthecan.org/facts/contract.asp).
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The quit has gone well the last few days...all things considered.
But dang am I ever going to be able to sleep through the night again? I am going to end up at the chiro soon...I must really be thrashing around in bed at night. My back, neck and shoulders are all killing me. I have cut way back on the caffine and still sleep a good four hours then up and down until the alarm goes off.
later,
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Hey all!
Great site...this site has already been a huge help to me from the start of my day 2. I am now on day 8. I stumbled across it like many others, by doing a Google search. I have chewed since I was 14 and am now 34. First few years was off and on with the guys but by 18 I was hooked and hooked hard. Had been chewing Skoal Fine Cut the last 10 years and before that it was Kodiak or skoal Straight.
I finally got to a point that I felt I was being selfish. Taking time away from my family to dip and only doing harm to the future I might have with my family. I also was sick of the chew spitters around the house/truck. Not something I wanted to be doing in front of my two children anymore. Heck one day my daughter picked up my spitter in my truck and asked why I always had this (spitter for me 20oz Pepsi) with me. Like it was what she thought of when she thought of me. That pissed me off and I quit the next day. Hunting and Fishing will be different but I am ready for it.Â
Thanks DD3!
Keep the faith, Brother.
All of us are or have gone through the same things that you're going through.
Take advantage of all the Quit Bad-Assery on the site and keep the thoughts of your family high on the list -
You'll make it through.
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Quick update:
So far so good been getting better as the days go on. I am finding the triggers to be less often but still just as strong sometimes and lasting a little longer. The reason I think they are lasting longer is I have this wierd ass conversation with myself each time. Its like my brain say's its ok to dip and life would be more fulfilled with a dip but then I have to talk myself out of it. This is were this site has really come into play. By reading everyone elses struggles, horror stories and triumphs I have found more reasons not to chew and these reasons, have seemed to stuck with me. I now have way more reasons not to chew then I would have ever come up with on my own. Maybe "reasons" is a poor choice of words to describe this as they are more like weapons for me to use on the nic bitch.
A few of them:
Knowing now what nic was doing to my brain
My heart's health
Feeling of Freedom
Accomplishment
The common cancer scare's
Feeling healthier everyday
More time with my kids and wife
No bad breath
no nasty spitters in the truck this July STINK!
More Physical Stamina
Taste has improved
more free time and alot more productive with free time
Term "Nic Bitch"
feel free to add to the list
Stay strong July Quit Brothers!
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Hope its ok but kind of using this post as my journal
Mowed the yard last night and was pissed off the whole time. This seems to be one of my many triggers that makes me mad for some reason. I guess its becuase I havent mowed the yard in 15 years without a dip.
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You're doing a great job DD3. Mowing is also huge for me. I used to love mowing but it sucked the first time I did it this year without dip. Well it's not as bad the past couple times. I also have to admit that I'm huffing and puffing a lot less after the one minute bang sessions with the ol' lady.
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1. Dan, you do not have sex for even one minute. You and I both know that.
2. I just got nervous that DD3 caved. (See August group...'Done12'...I thought that was some cutesy way of DD3 saying he caved.){
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1. Dan, you do not have sex for even one minute. You and I both know that.
You have first hand knowledge? Just sayin'.... sounds homorific!
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no cave here...i did go take a look at what you were talking about but its not me.
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1. Dan, you do not have sex for even one minute. You and I both know that.
You have first hand knowledge? Just sayin'.... sounds homorific!
Unless Dean is that big dark shadow with pants around the ankles by the tree outside my bedroom window,,,,,I don't think he has any first hand knowledge,,,but he is right,,,I should have been honest and replaced "ol lady" with "milfhunter.com"
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Big Dippa: You've been here long enough to know that we are all a bit more gay now than before we started here.
Dan: I am not the shadow. Not this time.
DD3: I'm really happy to still have you among the July brethren
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Well today is day 55 and things are looking pretty good.
The one nagging issue I still contend with is this anger issue. I am getting better at controlling it and it seems to be less frequent. Yet when I get pissed look the hell out who knows how long I will go off. Like I said its happening less often but is still too often for my liking. I have come to the conclusion that the cause of the anger for me is that I canÂ’t have something I want (dip/obvisously) so like a bitch I get pissed at the first issue I am faced with. Like I said earlier I think am getting better with this as my mood seems to rebound a little quicker then it was.
The craves seem to be less intense not as many as I was having say 20-30 days ago. It amazes me how one day can be a total shit hole the next can be a complete 360 turn around.
I am exercising (mountain biking) almost daily and seems to be helping burn off the stress.
So hang in there guys and keep taking it one day at a time!
Just left the Dentist office a few minutes ago. Everything checked out good. She did say that I still have a little Leukoplakia still sticking around on one side of my mouth but didnÂ’t seem to concerned about it. What a relief that was since I havenÂ’t been to the Dentist in a few years and my wife even works there.
FUCK THE NIC BITCH!
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Just read back through this intro and was amazed at how much of the stuff that I had forgotten about.
I can say two things about this:
1. It gets better and sometimes its a little questionable how much better it really is at the time, but for me each stage was easier then the one before it.
2. Damn! I dont want to go back to day 1 or even day 10.
This site is a game changer!
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One day at a time is a great approach
Don't get complacent
Have a quit plan in place when that monster crave hits and pushes you to the brink.
I'll help you however I can in your quit DD3.
Remember this motherfucker? I had him pegged for a useless piece of shit the second he showed up. Caving asshole. He was a big fucking help to you, wasn't he, DD3?
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One day at a time is a great approach
Don't get complacent
Have a quit plan in place when that monster crave hits and pushes you to the brink.Â
I'll help you however I can in your quit DD3.
Remember this motherfucker? I had him pegged for a useless piece of shit the second he showed up. Caving asshole. He was a big fucking help to you, wasn't he, DD3?
dude that's hilarious, first thing i noticed too when I went back in DD's thread was Gooch's posts. I also remember right away thinking this dude was a turd. I don't particularly think chronic cavers have the right to come back and instantaneously spout their "wisdom" right away. he didnt shut up from day 1.
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Day 172 the last few weeks on and off have felt like day 7-10 all over again.
Hell, I went weeks without even thinking about dip. Then one night I have a crave dream that I had bought a tin of Skoal Fine Cut. Never did open the can in my dream but I kept caring it around with me in my right front pocket. Just like the old days. I woke up wanting a dip so bad and to break a seal on a fresh can. Crazy shit I thought I was past it all. Not so!
Rock on July!
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Must be the time of year for me.
I almost caved last night, not sure what the hell is going on but the last few days the craving's have been horrible. No dip dreams. My wife actually talked me out of it and it wasnÂ’t easy but I can guarantee that if she wouldnÂ’t of been involved in my quit and read some of the stuff on here she probably wouldnÂ’t of been successful.
I was in the garage getting in the truck to drive up to the gas station I had made up my mind that I couldnÂ’t quit any longer and that chewing was a void in my life I needed to fill. I have this urge in the evening's, that I need something to take the edge off. It use to be chew when things got stressful but I havenÂ’t found a replacement yet. Sorry for the vent it just made me think that staying away from the site might of been a bad thing.
Kind of stayed away from the site for awhile with the mentality that out of site out of mine was what I needed. I may need to rethink that.
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Must be the time of year for me.
I almost caved last night, not sure what the hell is going on but the last few days the craving's have been horrible. No dip dreams. My wife actually talked me out of it and it wasnÂ’t easy but I can guarantee that if she wouldnÂ’t of been involved in my quit and read some of the stuff on here she probably wouldnÂ’t of been successful.
I was in the garage getting in the truck to drive up to the gas station I had made up my mind that I couldnÂ’t quit any longer and that chewing was a void in my life I needed to fill. I have this urge in the evening's, that I need something to take the edge off. It use to be chew when things got stressful but I havenÂ’t found a replacement yet. Sorry for the vent it just made me think that staying away from the site might of been a bad thing.
Kind of stayed away from the site for awhile with the mentality that out of site out of mine was what I needed. I may need to rethink that.
You did the right thing brother. No need to waste all of your hard work up until now on some shitty dip. You just gotta keep beating it everyday and stay quit.
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Must be the time of year for me.
I almost caved last night, not sure what the hell is going on but the last few days the craving's have been horrible. No dip dreams. My wife actually talked me out of it and it wasnÂ’t easy but I can guarantee that if she wouldnÂ’t of been involved in my quit and read some of the stuff on here she probably wouldnÂ’t of been successful.Â
I was in the garage getting in the truck to drive up to the gas station I had made up my mind that I couldnÂ’t quit any longer and that chewing was a void in my life I needed to fill. I have this urge in the evening's, that I need something to take the edge off. It use to be chew when things got stressful but I havenÂ’t found a replacement yet. Sorry for the vent it just made me think that staying away from the site might of been a bad thing.   Â
Kind of stayed away from the site for awhile with the mentality that out of site out of mine was what I needed. I may need to rethink that.
You did the right thing brother. No need to waste all of your hard work up until now on some shitty dip. You just gotta keep beating it everyday and stay quit.
Whoa, I would definitely rethink that. If you came that close to caving, I'd say a daily promise + at this site is what the doctor ordered.
It is obviously not out of sight/out of mind, right?
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Must be the time of year for me.
I almost caved last night, not sure what the hell is going on but the last few days the craving's have been horrible. No dip dreams. My wife actually talked me out of it and it wasnÂ’t easy but I can guarantee that if she wouldnÂ’t of been involved in my quit and read some of the stuff on here she probably wouldnÂ’t of been successful.
I was in the garage getting in the truck to drive up to the gas station I had made up my mind that I couldnÂ’t quit any longer and that chewing was a void in my life I needed to fill. I have this urge in the evening's, that I need something to take the edge off. It use to be chew when things got stressful but I havenÂ’t found a replacement yet. Sorry for the vent it just made me think that staying away from the site might of been a bad thing.
Kind of stayed away from the site for awhile with the mentality that out of site out of mine was what I needed. I may need to rethink that.
DON'T APPOLOGIZE!
The reason we are here is so you can vent to us... So you don't cave!
You want to bitch about your life or call me every name in the book, fine... so long as you stay quit!!!
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Must be the time of year for me.
I almost caved last night, not sure what the hell is going on but the last few days the craving's have been horrible. No dip dreams. My wife actually talked me out of it and it wasnÂ’t easy but I can guarantee that if she wouldnÂ’t of been involved in my quit and read some of the stuff on here she probably wouldnÂ’t of been successful.
I was in the garage getting in the truck to drive up to the gas station I had made up my mind that I couldnÂ’t quit any longer and that chewing was a void in my life I needed to fill. I have this urge in the evening's, that I need something to take the edge off. It use to be chew when things got stressful but I havenÂ’t found a replacement yet. Sorry for the vent it just made me think that staying away from the site might of been a bad thing.
Kind of stayed away from the site for awhile with the mentality that out of site out of mine was what I needed. I may need to rethink that.
DD3...I think you need to show up in our quit group every morning for a few weeks, pal. Consider it. (Plus, we miss you.)