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Community => Introductions => Topic started by: Flannywho on August 07, 2014, 09:16:00 AM
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Hi, my name is Jeff and I am 38 years old, and have been addicted to nicotine for 21 years. I will be 39 at the end of August and I decided it was time to give up this nasty, bitch of a habit that has dominated my life for so long. I have a wife of almost 13 years and 3 wonderful children. They all know I dip and have pretty much left me alone about it. They hate it and have asked me to stop, but my wife knows I am the only one that can make myself quit, not anyone telling me to. But the kids are getting older and wiser and they know it is not good for Dad. This nic bitch has taken over my life so much that no matter where I was going or no matter what I was doing, I needed it by my side, in my pocket, in my car, etc. No matter where, just going to church, I would run back in the house so it would be there when I got out of church. No matter what I did, the Nic Bitch had to be right there beside me. The turning point, and I have known for a very long time I needed to quit and thought about it all the time and tried and failed on several attempts, came back in May when my daughter who is 11 said, "Dad, I want you to quit dipping so you can be a PaPa to my kids like your dad is to me". Well, that pretty much hit home and after months of building up the strength and getting through a couple family trips this summer, I picked August 4th to quit. Leading up to this date, I changed my password at work to Q2L0804, which has helped build up the strength to quit. Quit 2 Live has been my motto. But the real turning point in my strength and knowing this is my official quit for life and never turning back is when I found Killthecan and all of you on the web . I can't tell you guys how much this site and these posts, readings, articles, and reading the intros has helped with my quit. I know this is exactly what I needed at the time I needed it the most. I haven't really posted much, but have made roll the last three days. I am so proud to be a part of the this group, especially my brothers of November. I am still trying to figure out how to navigate this site and post, chime in, etc. But here's to 4 days down and to the rest of our lives nicotine free. Proud to say I am not trying to quit, but am a QUITTER! Thanks guys. Looking forward to this journey with each and every one of you.
Flannywho
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Hi, my name is Jeff and I am 38 years old, and have been addicted to nicotine for 21 years. I will be 39 at the end of August and I decided it was time to give up this nasty, bitch of a habit that has dominated my life for so long. I have a wife of almost 13 years and 3 wonderful children. They all know I dip and have pretty much left me alone about it. They hate it and have asked me to stop, but my wife knows I am the only one that can make myself quit, not anyone telling me to. But the kids are getting older and wiser and they know it is not good for Dad. This nic bitch has taken over my life so much that no matter where I was going or no matter what I was doing, I needed it by my side, in my pocket, in my car, etc. No matter where, just going to church, I would run back in the house so it would be there when I got out of church. No matter what I did, the Nic Bitch had to be right there beside me. The turning point, and I have known for a very long time I needed to quit and thought about it all the time and tried and failed on several attempts, came back in May when my daughter who is 11 said, "Dad, I want you to quit dipping so you can be a PaPa to my kids like your dad is to me". Well, that pretty much hit home and after months of building up the strength and getting through a couple family trips this summer, I picked August 4th to quit. Leading up to this date, I changed my password at work to Q2L0804, which has helped build up the strength to quit. Quit 2 Live has been my motto. But the real turning point in my strength and knowing this is my official quit for life and never turning back is when I found Killthecan and all of you on the web . I can't tell you guys how much this site and these posts, readings, articles, and reading the intros has helped with my quit. I know this is exactly what I needed at the time I needed it the most. I haven't really posted much, but have made roll the last three days. I am so proud to be a part of the this group, especially my brothers of November. I am still trying to figure out how to navigate this site and post, chime in, etc. But here's to 4 days down and to the rest of our lives nicotine free. Proud to say I am not trying to quit, but am a QUITTER! Thanks guys. Looking forward to this journey with each and every one of you.
Flannywho
OK, so you posted roll and you're 3 days in. That intro is a helluva lot more sense than came out of my keyboard at 3 days. You have a good plan but make sure this quit is about you, anyone else that benefits is good but it has to be about you for you to succeed. The struggle you go through is worth it. I am feeling so much better at 95 days. And I remember every bit of the first week that was pure shit. I want to always remember it to strengthen my desire to only go through it once. Don't just dip a toe, fully submerge yourself in KTC, it will pay off in spades.
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Sounds good, a couple things; remember what you are dealing with isn't a nasty habit it is an addiction that is equal to the worst illegal drugs you can think of. Spend as much time as you can online and get to know not only the site but as many of your fellow quitters as possible.
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Thanks guys for the responses. I keep reading a lot, especially the new intros and I see a lot of quitters say to PM them and reach out. Wt57, you mention to get to know as many of our fellow quitters as possible. Since I am new to all of this, what is the best way to get to know the quitters in my group and all the other quitters? Since deciding to join, I have constantly been online trying to read as much as possible. Good motivation and accountability. But it is still very hard!!
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Flanny I just sent you a PM you can check your inbox in the top right hand corner of your screen. Glad you found us! It is pretty simple here all you have to do is keep your word!
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Sounds good, a couple things; remember what you are dealing with isn't a nasty habit it is an addiction that is equal to the worst illegal drugs you can think of. Spend as much time as you can online and get to know not only the site but as many of your fellow quitters as possible.
When you post roll tomorrow put your name number and then say "I need some numbers for my acccountability, can some of you guys PM me?" That should get you a bunch, I just PM'd you my number. Get ready for a rough ride Flanny, quitting is not fun, but it is really worth it. Post roll first thing upon waking up. Get in that habit, and don't get loose with ity. If you have a smart phone you can post roll from anywhere. It's time to man up!
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Great intro Flanny. Your story about leaving the house for church making sure you had enough dip once church ended hit close to home. I was the exact same way eventually I just ninja dipped in church. The struggle is REAL TOUGH but you can do it. Read every HOF speech on this site, start a journal about every challenge you're facing reflect on where you are where you desire to be.
Welcome to the family.
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Great intro! Great resolve!
Post your promise to yourself and all of us as soon as your feet hit the floor. Then keep your word. That's it. You can do abything for a day. Anything.
You know how many of us gave fidgeted waiting for church to be done and the minister to shut his gd mouth so we could get a hit? Almost sounds like a heroin addict, right? Dude, you are winning! The fight isn't easy, but doesn't it, in a basal level, feel good to win? Yeah I know the craves, the fog, the night sweats, all of the bs we did to ourselves.... They are temporary. Freedom... That is yours!!! One day at a time.
Let me know if you need an accountability number. It was really weird when I sent out my first text to a stranger I met on this site. They saved my life when I was in a weak moment. Almost 600 days ago. If I can do it... You can too.
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Great to meet you Flannywho... What you mentioned about grabbing the can on the way to church really hit close to home with me also.
Keep it up, brother...
-- Fellow Nov 2014 Grouper
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Hi, my name is Jeff and I am 38 years old, and have been addicted to nicotine for 21 years. I will be 39 at the end of August and I decided it was time to give up this nasty, bitch of a habit that has dominated my life for so long. I have a wife of almost 13 years and 3 wonderful children. They all know I dip and have pretty much left me alone about it. They hate it and have asked me to stop, but my wife knows I am the only one that can make myself quit, not anyone telling me to. But the kids are getting older and wiser and they know it is not good for Dad. This nic bitch has taken over my life so much that no matter where I was going or no matter what I was doing, I needed it by my side, in my pocket, in my car, etc. No matter where, just going to church, I would run back in the house so it would be there when I got out of church. No matter what I did, the Nic Bitch had to be right there beside me. The turning point, and I have known for a very long time I needed to quit and thought about it all the time and tried and failed on several attempts, came back in May when my daughter who is 11 said, "Dad, I want you to quit dipping so you can be a PaPa to my kids like your dad is to me". Well, that pretty much hit home and after months of building up the strength and getting through a couple family trips this summer, I picked August 4th to quit. Leading up to this date, I changed my password at work to Q2L0804, which has helped build up the strength to quit. Quit 2 Live has been my motto. But the real turning point in my strength and knowing this is my official quit for life and never turning back is when I found Killthecan and all of you on the web . I can't tell you guys how much this site and these posts, readings, articles, and reading the intros has helped with my quit. I know this is exactly what I needed at the time I needed it the most. I haven't really posted much, but have made roll the last three days. I am so proud to be a part of the this group, especially my brothers of November. I am still trying to figure out how to navigate this site and post, chime in, etc. But here's to 4 days down and to the rest of our lives nicotine free. Proud to say I am not trying to quit, but am a QUITTER! Thanks guys. Looking forward to this journey with each and every one of you.
Flannywho
OK, so you posted roll and you're 3 days in. That intro is a helluva lot more sense than came out of my keyboard at 3 days. You have a good plan but make sure this quit is about you, anyone else that benefits is good but it has to be about you for you to succeed. The struggle you go through is worth it. I am feeling so much better at 95 days. And I remember every bit of the first week that was pure shit. I want to always remember it to strengthen my desire to only go through it once. Don't just dip a toe, fully submerge yourself in KTC, it will pay off in spades.
Great intro flanny ... I like the attitude! Welcome to KTC, continue to post roll every damn day ... we're all here quitting with you.
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Hi, my name is Jeff and I am 38 years old, and have been addicted to nicotine for 21 years. I will be 39 at the end of August and I decided it was time to give up this nasty, bitch of a habit that has dominated my life for so long. I have a wife of almost 13 years and 3 wonderful children. They all know I dip and have pretty much left me alone about it. They hate it and have asked me to stop, but my wife knows I am the only one that can make myself quit, not anyone telling me to. But the kids are getting older and wiser and they know it is not good for Dad. This nic bitch has taken over my life so much that no matter where I was going or no matter what I was doing, I needed it by my side, in my pocket, in my car, etc. No matter where, just going to church, I would run back in the house so it would be there when I got out of church. No matter what I did, the Nic Bitch had to be right there beside me. The turning point, and I have known for a very long time I needed to quit and thought about it all the time and tried and failed on several attempts, came back in May when my daughter who is 11 said, "Dad, I want you to quit dipping so you can be a PaPa to my kids like your dad is to me". Well, that pretty much hit home and after months of building up the strength and getting through a couple family trips this summer, I picked August 4th to quit. Leading up to this date, I changed my password at work to Q2L0804, which has helped build up the strength to quit. Quit 2 Live has been my motto. But the real turning point in my strength and knowing this is my official quit for life and never turning back is when I found Killthecan and all of you on the web . I can't tell you guys how much this site and these posts, readings, articles, and reading the intros has helped with my quit. I know this is exactly what I needed at the time I needed it the most. I haven't really posted much, but have made roll the last three days. I am so proud to be a part of the this group, especially my brothers of November. I am still trying to figure out how to navigate this site and post, chime in, etc. But here's to 4 days down and to the rest of our lives nicotine free. Proud to say I am not trying to quit, but am a QUITTER! Thanks guys. Looking forward to this journey with each and every one of you.
Flannywho
OK, so you posted roll and you're 3 days in. That intro is a helluva lot more sense than came out of my keyboard at 3 days. You have a good plan but make sure this quit is about you, anyone else that benefits is good but it has to be about you for you to succeed. The struggle you go through is worth it. I am feeling so much better at 95 days. And I remember every bit of the first week that was pure shit. I want to always remember it to strengthen my desire to only go through it once. Don't just dip a toe, fully submerge yourself in KTC, it will pay off in spades.
Great intro flanny ... I like the attitude! Welcome to KTC, continue to post roll every damn day ... we're all here quitting with you.
Great choice to be quit. Sounds like you have the right mindset, and you have received great advice from ^^^ these guys. Own your quit. Work your quit. Get your plan ready for when you need one, and don't be afraid to reach out when you need to. Keep reading and learning how we quit KTC style, and then live it. The KTC quit plan works. Focus on getting through today, minute by minute if need be, but know this: it gets better than you can hope for. PM me if you need another #.
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10 days, Flanny! Congratulations brother. Hitting double digits is great, but it's just a small drop in the bucket. Let's keep this quit going. We got this. Proud to be quit with you today!
Quit on!
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10 days, Flanny! Congratulations brother. Hitting double digits is great, but it's just a small drop in the bucket. Let's keep this quit going. We got this. Proud to be quit with you today!
Quit on!
Nice intro Flanny. What was that old saying, don't leave home without it...that was us. After 34 years of where's my can, I still catch myself thinking that some mornings. I'm @ day 56 and loving every minute of it. My kids hounded my ass as well, but it took grandkids to make me smell the quit roses. Post roll everyday, exercise alot if possible and let's beat this fat ass nic bitch. I'm a PM away if needed.
QLF - Old ES
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Nice 10 spot, Flanny. Keep up the good work.
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I smell a quitter in here. Loved the intro. Don't ignore this place flanny, keep the posts coming. It helps all of us.
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Thanks guys for posting on my intro. The support means the world to me. Staying involved, posting when I can get some in between work and kids. Texting some fellow KTC brothers that I have come to know. So far so good. Amazing the power of this site and the power to make a promise to strangers daily that I will remain quit and that I will not break a promise to myself and my brothers. Love it. Thanks again
Flanny
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1 Day at a time, Every Damn Day Flanny.......Quit with you today bro!
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Flannywho, great intro! Spilling your story like that for everyone to read helps everyone including yourself. Posting helps everyone heal either by reading or writing it.
Great to hear you've already made some solid relationships with fellow quitters. As much as your family wants you to quit, they don't know what you're going thru like we do. Lean on us when needed. We're all here for each other.
Quit Hard!
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Flannywho, great intro! Spilling your story like that for everyone to read helps everyone including yourself. Posting helps everyone heal either by reading or writing it.
Great to hear you've already made some solid relationships with fellow quitters. As much as your family wants you to quit, they don't know what you're going thru like we do. Lean on us when needed. We're all here for each other.
Quit Hard!
You are killing it Flanny, proud to quit with you today.
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I quit with this dude all day every day
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Flannywho, you are absolutely rocking this quit! Your quit makes mine stronger. Keep up the great work!
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Happy Birthday!!
'oh yeah'
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Just droppin by to see how life is treating you Flanny. Looking back it's hard to believe we were both in the same position when we came to KTC. Now here we sit at Day 247. Proud to be quit with you.
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Congratulations on one year Flanny! Look how far we made it. Let's keep this going. Proud of you today.
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Congratulations on one year Flanny! Look how far we made it. Let's keep this going. Proud of you today.
Ditto on that Flanny, a big congrats.
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Gratz on the year Flanny!
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Happy Birthday Flanny! 'Birthday' 'party2'