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Community => Introductions => Topic started by: Enegkrut on July 16, 2015, 02:06:00 AM
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Hey everybody ! This is totally not my style, but here it goes! My lying about my addiction has just about ruined my marriage! I started when I was 13 years old, and seeing how my parents were so dead against it I developed a very very good habit of hiding it from everybody. See I was also a leader in my church and many people looked up to me. Well, 16 years, 4 kids, career, and 7 years of marriage later nothing has changed. I have had many times of quitting( as many as 2 years) but somehow always fall off by trying it just once. Then it continues to snowball from there. I always act like I have been quit for awhile and even preach to my students about quitting. I have completely lost my wife's trust through all of this. She does not back down and will not allow me to slip so when I have slipped I end up hiding it for the fear of being found out. I ain't going to lie, I love nicotine especially dip, but I refuse to let this stronghold take hold of me any longer . Mabely this sit will help! Thanks!
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The good news is you've been able to string together some Quit time. The bad news is your an ADDICT and can't have JUST ONE.
You're at the right place. Browse the site and read up. Post roll and make your daily commitment not to use nicotine.
Glad to have you here. You just saved your life.
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1. Read the Welcome Center link, and post roll
2. Learn to HATE nicotine, because it is killing you and stressing your marriage
3. Quit just until midnight, and then post roll tomorrow and do it all again. I only quit 24 hours at a time.
Have you stopped using yet?
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Hi, and welcome to the site! I can't put it any better than Thumblewort and brianl. I would like to reiterate Thumblewort's point though. You have got to stop letting nicotine convince you that you love it. I'd actually recommend making a list of reasons why you do hate it. Here are a few examples:
It determines how you spend your money.
It determines how you spend your free time.
It has turned you, a person who I'm sure is honorable and honest into a liar towards your loved ones.
It is killing you slowly, while some fat cat at big tobacco profits off of it.
It probably has affected your dental health in a negative way. If not, there is no mistake it will.
You have to worry about when you can sneak a dip.
You have to worry about if that sore throat is just a sore throat when you get sick.
There are hundreds of other reasons, to be sure. Either way, you're here now, and that's great! Head on over to the October quit group and join in there. Those folks will hold you accountable and help you to make sure this time your quit is permanent!
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You don't love nicotine... You have been conditioned to it chemically (we call this "addiction"). See the link in my signature for a very good scientific explanation of how our brain is confused by nicotine.
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You said you wouldn't lie....
You don't love nicotine and you definitely don't love dip. How could you love something that kills you? I think you meant "I ain't gonna lie, I'm addicted to nicotine more specifically dip."
We're here to help, but stop romanticizing about nicotine.
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You said you wouldn't lie....
You don't love nicotine and you definitely don't love dip. How could you love something that kills you? I think you meant "I ain't gonna lie, I'm addicted to nicotine more specifically dip."
We're here to help, but stop romanticizing about nicotine.
Listen to sheaf he's dead on. Post roll let's get you a new beginning on a life of freedom! This shit is a whole lot easier with help than by yourself. Just post roll and be a man of your word and you win! I quit with you!
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I think you should either quit, or stop lying about actively using dip. The first choice shows you are strong and have integrity, the second choice shows you are weak and have integrity. You have a nicotine addiction, AND you have a problem with honesty and keeping your commitments to people.
Post roll every day and prove that you can keep your commitments. If you won't do that, start being honest with the people in your life and admit you have an addiction and you won't stop using.
Either be a strong addict with integrity, or a weak addict with integrity.
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Are you quitting or not? You need to post roll and keep your word to be nicotine free for 24 hours. Do that each day and you cannot and will not lose the battle! Jump on the train we love quitters in here............
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Poof.....like a fart in the wind.............
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Wow! No sac! Gotta really want this or you can go ahead suck on it another 10 years, if you lucky and can, come back and try again your sac may fall by then!
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He warned everyone that he was a liar. Just another liar who hides behind his church-leadership rhetoric.