KillTheCan.org Accountability Forum
Community => Introductions => Topic started by: doos on June 15, 2018, 03:45:00 PM
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My quit date was 5/26/2018. I've been lurking around KTC reading anything that was public but did not join till today. I have spent 24 years perfecting hiding my habit from friends family. I swallowed the juice and tracked every can. I've been caught once in 12 years of marriage (she found nicotine gum wrappers when I was actually trying to quit - she never actually found the skoal). So it should go without saying, that I have not shared my quit with anyone.
I've quit before for as long as 2 years, but usually about 3 weeks is where I fail (which is why I am here this time). At this point, weeks of low productivity, grumpiness, and an accumulation of fog lead me back to the habit - and what feels like an explosion of productivity.
Any advice on making it through day 20+ would be very appreciated.
And because I am a human and not just an addiction, here is a little about me. I am a father of 2 girls. I am a amateur gardener and professional programmer. I usually have a few projects in various states of completion (right now those projects are an attempt to grow morel mushrooms and an rc car I've been tinkering with).
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My advice would be to join a group and start posting your daily promise. I think you are in the September quit group. Those guys are at the same point as you are. No need to quit alone. At 20 days quit, you are in the mental battle. Quit one day at a time. Tell yourself that no matter how bad it gets, tobacco is not an option. You said you have quit for 2 years, so you know there are better days ahead. The thing that will keep you quit this time is the determination that you are quitting for good. KTC can help hold you accountable to yourself. Welcome and proud to be quitting with you.
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Congratulations on a great decision, doos. And I see you posted roll today in September 2018. Like Brian said, posting roll daily is what it is all about. Posting roll, making that promise to take nicotine off the table for the day and then keeping that promise every day, to what are now a bunch of strangers (they won't be for long) on the internet - is what it is all about.
Brotherhood + Accountability = Success.
Reach out to your fellow September quitters and start exchanging phone numbers. Text each other daily. If you feel like you need to be talked off a ledge - text someone, call someone. If a brother or sister needs to be talked off a ledge - be there for them. This is what it is all about. It doesn't sound like it should work. But it does. You don't have to quit alone.
There are also great resources here. Read all you can about this addiction (it is NOT a habit, as you said). Try this section of the site HERE (https://www.killthecan.org/facts-figures/) plus pour over the Hall of Fame speeches, the Words of Wisdom, the Introductions, etc. It helps understanding what nicotine physically did to you, how it rewired your brain. It also helps to read about other quitters' journeys.
Again, welcome to KTC and proud to be quit with you today.
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Thank you both. Yesterday was tough. Getting signed up, posting roll, and an intro helped get through it.
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Thank you both. Yesterday was tough. Getting signed up, posting roll, and an intro helped get through it.
Your intro sounds familiar... been there...
One day at a time things will get easier. Decades of addiction have your head a little twisted right now. Come here and rant if you need to. I promise how you feel now isnÂ’t the new normal. You are really going to like freedom bro. Push forward. You are doing great.