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Community => Introductions => Topic started by: Natro on November 03, 2014, 02:55:00 PM
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I just found this website today. I have dipped for most of 20 years, but I finished my can one night and didn't start again in the morning. I quit on October 20th. I'm crabby and irritable with my wife and kids and was trying to find out why and how long it will last. I've never posted much on blogs and am not really sure how this works. It is nice to have a place to go for support though. Thanks in advance!
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I just found this website today. I have dipped for most of 20 years, but I finished my can one night and didn't start again in the morning. I quit on October 20th. I'm crabby and irritable with my wife and kids and was trying to find out why and how long it will last. I've never posted much on blogs and am not really sure how this works. It is nice to have a place to go for support though. Thanks in advance!
hey. Glad you're here. Take alook at the Welcome Center thread. Read through those posts. They are short and will explain a little about how KTC will work for you.
I dipped for 23 years, and I'm quit for almost 140 days now. Was it hard getting started? Oh yes, but I had some motivation outside of just wanted to quit. Honestly though, this site, and my quit group made the whole beginning part much more manageable. I'm never going to be completely cured of this addiction, but I know that there is support here, and they have my back and I have there's. So, you want success? Follow this:
1. Post roll every day without fail. Do it first thing, and do it every day. It is the most important part of KTC, and you must use this tool. You have to ask yourself is coming here everyday for like 2 minutes going to be something you can commit too? I can tell you that there are those that stopped posting roll after having quit for 500 days, and they are right back to the poison. Can you commit to such a simple task? Don't have internet access? See rule 2
2. Get some digits of quitters in your group. I suggest the person above and the person below you in your quit group spreadsheet. Just pm them. It's very important. Out drinking a few with some buds watching the game, and you decide you'd like to sling just one in, but you know you shouldn't. Call or text them. They will talk you down, and you will do the same for them.
KTC is awesome man! It will change your life, but you have to use the tools that are here, and you have to be a part of your quit group, and commit to literally 2 minutes (maybe even less) per day. Can you do that? I bet you can. I look forward to seeing you in the HoF!
I believe you would be in the February 2015 group btw.
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Welcome Aboard Natro. You made a great choice.
Read up on your addiction This site has a lot of good information. Post roll EVERY DAY. Honor your word.
You quit 1 day at a time. Best way to describe quitting is it will suck til it doesn't. I cannot remember who coined the phrase but it applies.
I will say it gets better.
Worry about today, quit like a rabid beast. I quit with you.
Quitter.
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Thanks for the reply landdon. I did post roll call(once I figured it out). I can already see benefits to being on this site as it is keeping my mind off of nicotine.
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Natro,
Welcome to KTC. Man I remember the early days and let me tell you it is not just a one week, couple days, or couple of months kind of thing. It took about 2-3 weeks before my rational mind started coming back. Even then there were additional roadblocks that get thrown in along the way. Around the Day 70 mark there were fits of rage and complete anger towards anyone that got in my way or created a change for me. Day 90 is when the "fuck it" days started, this is where I didn't give a fuck about anything or anyone. Then day 100 came and went quite the celebration...I fucking won...then reality sat in and it got hard to continue watching my fellow quitters drop like flies as I continued posting roll daily.
However, it really does get better after about day 200 was when I finally saw in myself that I was quit, even if I get pushed now I pledge my promise (post roll) daily and promise to everyone on here, my kids and my wife that I am quit. Nothing will change that.
Get your wife involved in your quit, I regret not doing that as she would have been a huge help but instead I figured she didn't know and I put her on the outside. Give this link to your wife Spousal Support (http://www.killthecan.org/community/spousal-support/) she needs to know and be able to identify your behavior and learn how to call you on your bullshit.
I am here to quit daily with you and I offer myself to you if you evened help. I started walking this path 477 days ago and am not looking back now.
Pinched
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Congrats on making a great choice, Natro. Embrace the suck. It is the feeling of healing. You can't get free for the asking. You have to earn it. But you have taken HUGE first steps on your own. Now let us help you with the rest.
Post roll, read all you can and repeat. Don't think about tomorrow, next week, next year. We'll deal with them when they get here. All you need to do is focus on today. And anybody can go one day, right? That's all there is to it, brother!
Stay strong. Stay quit. One day at a time...
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Natro, having kids can help you with quitting, because as we progress along our quits we go through phases each faze usually lasts a couple of days to a couple of weeks, but just like your kids go in and out of phases so will you. A lot of us had some misplaced anger problems we had to deal with. Quitting is fucking frustrating work. But you will grow out of the weird anger soon. So knowing it won't last long, bite your lip and smile. Get through this phase, without unloading on your family. Good luck.
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Thank you all for the words of encouragement and advice. It helps.
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Thank you all for the words of encouragement and advice. It helps.
Natro, going solo for 2 weeks is bad ass, and we are glad you are here now. I'd suggest you get some fellow quitters numbers and exchange texts, it can be a life saver.
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Thank you all for the words of encouragement and advice. It helps.
Natro, going solo for 2 weeks is bad ass, and we are glad you are here now. I'd suggest you get some fellow quitters numbers and exchange texts, it can be a life saver.
Allright. So now you're in a text group. You will find it to be a true literal lifesaver. Next challenge, find another. Find a vet that posts in support of Feb and ask them if they are in a group that you can join. If not, can you trade texts with them. At 184 days, I'm still a noob like you. To me vets at least have a comma (1,000 days).
Ask. You'll be surprised at the answer.
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Day 96 - Now that HOF is getting close, and a ton of my good friends are already on the train, I am feeling a little sentimental. I haven't been very good with keeping my intro updated. I wish I had at this point but oh well. When I came to this site I thought (on first impression) that it was dumb. Why would I want to talk to these people about my
habit addiction. So I wrote an intro and tried to learn how to post roll. I was close but I posted in the supporter section. Almost immediately someone fixed it for me, welcomed me, and made me feel at home. Since then it has been a lot of the same, supporters around every corner and close during every crave. I've made friends with a ton of people, especially "the jerks", and can't imagine making this journey without Ktc.
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Day 96 - Now that HOF is getting close, and a ton of my good friends are already on the train, I am feeling a little sentimental. I haven't been very good with keeping my intro updated. I wish I had at this point but oh well. When I came to this site I thought (on first impression) that it was dumb. Why would I want to talk to these people about my habit addiction. So I wrote an intro and tried to learn how to post roll. I was close but I posted in the supporter section. Almost immediately someone fixed it for me, welcomed me, and made me feel at home. Since then it has been a lot of the same, supporters around every corner and close during every crave. I've made friends with a ton of people, especially "the jerks", and can't imagine making this journey without Ktc.
Proud to be quit with you, and glad to call you a friend. The Jerks have definitely been a huge thing for me too. Just 4 days, and you get a HOF train power wedgy!
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Natro - 267
Haven't been on my intro thread for a while... I'm still at 100% in January 15 but I seem to be a little bored, and burned out. I need some motivation to continue to be involved in a meaningful way. I'm taking suggestions.
A couple things on a lighter note.... I got to meet up with 4 quitters in January 15, (Jake_m, Tige12, Txtaco, And Mark4). What an amazing weekend, we met and got along like we had known each other for years. We were missing a couple of close friends, not all of the Jerks could make this trip.
(They were missed) You gotta meet some fellow quitters it will solidify your quit like nothing else. I also got to meet Cavman83 in the last month, great guy, up here in MN for business. Meeting other quitters is highly recommended.
Lastly, I decided that if I could quit dipping, I could lose weight. So I made some changes in my diet and it has worked beautifully. I've lost 16 lbs and am still going.
I guess what I am trying to say is, use your quit , it can help you make friends for life or lose weight. Quitting just makes your life better. It can work for anyone. I couldn't have done it without all my boys and girls in January 15, and many others at Ktc.Thanks.
ODAAT EDD
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Natro - 267
Haven't been on my intro thread for a while... I'm still at 100% in January 15 but I seem to be a little bored, and burned out. I need some motivation to continue to be involved in a meaningful way. I'm taking suggestions.
A couple things on a lighter note.... I got to meet up with 4 quitters in January 15, (Jake_m, Tige12, Txtaco, And Mark4). What an amazing weekend, we met and got along like we had known each other for years. We were missing a couple of close friends, not all of the Jerks could make this trip.
(They were missed) You gotta meet some fellow quitters it will solidify your quit like nothing else. I also got to meet Cavman83 in the last month, great guy, up here in MN for business. Meeting other quitters is highly recommended.
Lastly, I decided that if I could quit dipping, I could lose weight. So I made some changes in my diet and it has worked beautifully. I've lost 16 lbs and am still going.
I guess what I am trying to say is, use your quit , it can help you make friends for life or lose weight. Quitting just makes your life better. It can work for anyone. I couldn't have done it without all my boys and girls in January 15, and many others at Ktc.Thanks.
ODAAT EDD
Natro my brother we all hit that wall occasionally, I usually get on here and try to help some poor olé foggy ass , just like we were get going on there quit. I'm sure I can't say the right thing to them all but I'm gonna give it my all because there's so much difference just one person can do like yourself my friend, just hang in there you've got this you been thru it before I'm sure! Damn proud to be quit with you!
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Huge congratulations to Natro! Killing the can for 365 days, all 4 seasons! Well done, sir!
'40' 'worship' 'Sing and Drink' 'oh yeah' 'party2' 'chew2' '40'
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Huge congratulations to Natro! Killing the can for 365 days, all 4 seasons! Well done, sir!
'40' 'worship' 'Sing and Drink' 'oh yeah' 'party2' 'chew2' '40'
Congrats Natro and keep up the support, it goes a long way!
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Huge congratulations to Natro! Killing the can for 365 days, all 4 seasons! Well done, sir!
'40' 'worship' 'Sing and Drink' 'oh yeah' 'party2' 'chew2' '40'
Congrats Natro and keep up the support, it goes a long way!
Right on! Right on! Congrats my good man! Never turn back to the pain, keep paying it forward. Thanks for your support. Damn proud to be quit with you!
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Huge congratulations to Natro! Killing the can for 365 days, all 4 seasons! Well done, sir!
'40' 'worship' 'Sing and Drink' 'oh yeah' 'party2' 'chew2' '40'
Congrats Natro and keep up the support, it goes a long way!
Right on! Right on! Congrats my good man! Never turn back to the pain, keep paying it forward. Thanks for your support. Damn proud to be quit with you!
365, bet that feels great! Congratulations man!
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Huge congratulations to Natro! Killing the can for 365 days, all 4 seasons! Well done, sir!
'40' 'worship' 'Sing and Drink' 'oh yeah' 'party2' 'chew2' '40'
Congrats Natro and keep up the support, it goes a long way!
Right on! Right on! Congrats my good man! Never turn back to the pain, keep paying it forward. Thanks for your support. Damn proud to be quit with you!
365, bet that feels great! Congratulations man!
Love ya buddy!! Congrats on your 1 year. Thanks for all your support always!
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Huge congratulations to Natro! Killing the can for 365 days, all 4 seasons! Well done, sir!
'40' 'worship' 'Sing and Drink' 'oh yeah' 'party2' 'chew2' '40'
Congrats Natro and keep up the support, it goes a long way!
Right on! Right on! Congrats my good man! Never turn back to the pain, keep paying it forward. Thanks for your support. Damn proud to be quit with you!
365, bet that feels great! Congratulations man!
Love ya buddy!! Congrats on your 1 year. Thanks for all your support always!
Keep leading brother...Right behind you....
Appreciate you staying on the tracks...EDD ODAAT.
Like you said day one.... It's nice to have support.
Rawls 336
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Huge congratulations to Natro! Killing the can for 365 days, all 4 seasons! Well done, sir!
'40' 'worship' 'Sing and Drink' 'oh yeah' 'party2' 'chew2' '40'
Congrats Natro and keep up the support, it goes a long way!
Right on! Right on! Congrats my good man! Never turn back to the pain, keep paying it forward. Thanks for your support. Damn proud to be quit with you!
365, bet that feels great! Congratulations man!
Love ya buddy!! Congrats on your 1 year. Thanks for all your support always!
Keep leading brother...Right behind you....
Appreciate you staying on the tracks...EDD ODAAT.
Like you said day one.... It's nice to have support.
Rawls 336
Your comment in July about "using" your quit has got me inspired today. Quit with you, and congratulations Natro!
I'm with Rawls, we'll keep following you, ODAAT!
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Huge congratulations to Natro! Killing the can for 365 days, all 4 seasons! Well done, sir!
'40' 'worship' 'Sing and Drink' 'oh yeah' 'party2' 'chew2' '40'
Congrats Natro and keep up the support, it goes a long way!
Right on! Right on! Congrats my good man! Never turn back to the pain, keep paying it forward. Thanks for your support. Damn proud to be quit with you!
365, bet that feels great! Congratulations man!
Love ya buddy!! Congrats on your 1 year. Thanks for all your support always!
Keep leading brother...Right behind you....
Appreciate you staying on the tracks...EDD ODAAT.
Like you said day one.... It's nice to have support.
Rawls 336
Your comment in July about "using" your quit has got me inspired today. Quit with you, and congratulations Natro!
I'm with Rawls, we'll keep following you, ODAAT!
Thanks for all of the notes everyone!! It feels pretty good to be at a year. All of this support is the reason I'm still here. Thanks!!
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Congrats Nate on your 400 days!
I quit with you today!
Thanks for your support over my days here.
'party2'
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Congrats Nate on your 400 days!
I quit with you today!
Thanks for your support over my days here.
'party2'
Congrats Natro, 400 is huge!
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Congrats Nate on your 400 days!
I quit with you today!
Thanks for your support over my days here.
'party2'
Congrats Natro, 400 is huge!
Four hundred! Now that's kicking the bitch in the teeth! Congratulations! 'poledancer'
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Congrats Nate on your 400 days!
I quit with you today!
Thanks for your support over my days here.
'party2'
Congrats Natro, 400 is huge!
Four hundred! Now that's kicking the bitch in the teeth! Congratulations! 'poledancer'
Group guys and gals are the reason I'm still here. Thanks a ton!
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Happy Birthday Nate!!
and many more.
'party2'
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Happy bday bud
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Happy Birthday Nate!!
and many more.
'party2'
Happy birthday my brother and Friend! Quit on!
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Nate, congratulations on your 500 days!
1/2 a comma!
'worship'
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Nate, congratulations on your 500 days!
1/2 a comma!
'worship'
Congratulations you badass!
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Nate, congratulations on your 500 days!
1/2 a comma!
'worship'
Congratulations you badass!
Busting the 1/2
Done it once.
Do it again.... to 1000
EDD ODAAT.
Rawls 470
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Hey Natro, congrats on the comma!!!
Thanks for all the support always.
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'Birthday' Nate!