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Community => Introductions => Topic started by: JRan on June 26, 2011, 07:06:00 PM
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Hey guys...just wanted to introduce myself and say that I'm really glad to have found this forum. I have been dipping for about 15 years and have made some efforts to quit in the past with some being more successful than others. I actually quit for over a year right after college, but got sucked back in again by a roommate. I have a one year old daughter and another due at the end of September and I have been consumed recently with thoughts of leaving them and my wife because of my selfishness. I just cannot do that and I am sick of worrying about it every day. I am very blessed with my life and I don't want to throw that all away because I was foolish. So, here we are.
My last dip was at 5pm on Friday, so I am a little over 48 hours in and October 1st would be 100 days. This week is going to be tough for me because my wife took our daughter to her parents' house for the week and I don't have as many distractions. But, it is also a good thing because I might be a little irritable as I get adjusted.
Anyway, please pray for me as I go through the next week. If I can make it through this week and next weekend over the 4th, then I am hopefully home free.
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Hi Jran,
We don't try here, or wish or hope.. We Do.
We do quit one day at a time using a very simple program:
1. Post roll first thing in your day: This is not your status- it is a promise to all of us that you will not use nicotine in any form just for today.
2. Honor that promise
3. Wake up tomorrow and start at step 1.
We never look farther ahead than today. You can do anything for 24 hours, Yes? Good. Post roll, take nicotine off the table for today. Worry about tomorrow when tomorrow comes. You already completed 2 of the toughest days, and it is going to get dramatically easier and better VERY soon.
Glad to be quit with you,
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JRAN: Welcome aboard! I see you have posted roll in the October group, Congrats! Proud to be quit with you today brother! Nico
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Congratulations on a great decision.
One day at a time gets it done. There is no other way to do it.
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Welcome. Glad to be quit with you today. You got this, one day at a time.
BJH83
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Your day 4 looks awesome. Well done.
1 day at a time.
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Check out the links on here about Tom Kern, similar to why you want to quit. Day 2 was worse day for me, it gets better though. Stay strong, YOU CAN DO IT.
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Did say a prayer for you and if there is another way I can help I'm here.
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Nice work Jran. I understand that alone time being hard. Reach out BEFORE things get tough.
And if you get irritable and feel like yelling at someone, you can pick any of us to be your emotional punching bag. I just love the abuse.
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Well, I made it through my first week. In retrospect, it was probably good for me to be alone this past week, as I was able to get through the hardest part my own way without having to be as sensitive as I normally need to be. I am at my in-laws now with my wife and daughter, so my new challenge is to integrate myself back into "normal life" without nicotine. My father-in-law is a big cigar guy, as are my wife's cousins who will all be over here tomorrow. This is going to be a tough weekend for me, especially tomorrow. However, I know that I got through this last seven days and I know I can get through tomorrow. I already told my wife that I may need to excuse myself periodically to get away from the temptations, and she completely understood. This will be my first stop if I am struggling, so you guys might be hearing from me. I am 100% focused on my quit though and I am keeping my reasons at the forefront of my mind to help me combat temptation.
Thanks for everyone's support. I will see you all in the morning for roll. Stay strong boys and girls!
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You have numbers JRan? Sounds like you got yourself a fight coming. Hang in there. Have a plan and keep your head straight bro. You don't use nicotine anymore.
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Jran,
I'm new to the quit, but not to the wife kids and in law situation. If you're situation is anything like mine those in laws of yours love that daughter of yours more than life itself. Grand kids can change people. With that being said, I would not only excuse myself from the "nic" situations, but I would also bring up your quit. Not to go all Jesus on you but the story of your quit and your reasons may just help someone else make the same decision. That girl of yours has powers on everyone that loves her (and for good reason, kids are what we are here for).
So point being: be confident in your quit, not shy. Not apologetic for leaving, but rather inviting them to join. Not worried about the weekend, excited about still being quit on Monday and having more rough roads under your belt to strengthen your quit.
Know that tomorrow s4s is quit with you and will be with my family and in laws (wife's b-day) and each struggle you go through this weekend someone (me) will be following your example.
Set the right one.
May the Quit be with you,
s4s
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For the record, I took S4S's advice and did mention my quit to a couple of the guys today when it came up. I didn't hide it or make a lame excuse and that was the right call. Maybe they will think about it down the road when they have their own kids. Who knows? I will keep looking for opportunities to bring it up though.
I had a great day today and I honestly didn't have much temptation (thank God!). I am going to sleep soon and will face another day tomorrow. But, I was dreading the potential temptation of this day from the day I quit and I made it through. I will say it...good for me! I am so proud of myself and my badass fucking quit. My quit is so badass that even I am impressed today. Godspeed brothers.
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For the record, I took S4S's advice and did mention my quit to a couple of the guys today when it came up. I didn't hide it or make a lame excuse and that was the right call. Maybe they will think about it down the road when they have their own kids. Who knows? I will keep looking for opportunities to bring it up though.
I had a great day today and I honestly didn't have much temptation (thank God!). I am going to sleep soon and will face another day tomorrow. But, I was dreading the potential temptation of this day from the day I quit and I made it through. I will say it...good for me! I am so proud of myself and my badass fucking quit. My quit is so badass that even I am impressed today. Godspeed brothers.
Good stuff bro. That's awesome...really good to hear.
One day at a time. I quit with you.
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JRan I am impressed that you've not only thought about the challenges you are going to face this weekend but also have had the conversation with your wife and posted it here. You're doing great! Not only will you get through this weekend but you will be an inspiration to your relatives as well.
Good stuff!!!
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JRan,
Good stuff.
Be proud of your quit---everyone you tell, that is just anothe layer of accountability. The more people that know about your quit the better!
PM if you need anything
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JRAN,
Keep it up. Stay quit. Be Proud.
S4S's suggestion is good. Came to work this morning, people were eyeing me seeing if I was still QUIT. One guy is considering quit for himself!
Proud to quit with you, GTG, LLC, and the rest of October.
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Gentlemen-
First let me say that I know the protocol for returning to the forum requires a mea culpa to your quit group but I honestly can't remember when mine was and I tried looking at a few but couldn't recognize anyone so allow this to serve as a blanket apology.
I fucked up. I thought I had this bitch picked after being quit for a year and thought it would be ok to smoke a cigar, which led to more cigars, which led to cigarettes, which led back to dip for the reasons I had always dipped instead of smoked anyway (odorless, easier to hide, doesn't affect my ability to work out, doesn't have me out back smoking and missing family time etc.). It is embarrassing now to look back at how dumb I was and to think that I could be celebrating 5 or 6 years instead of being back at Day 1.
I know now that I cannot allow any nicotine products near my face and I won't make that mistake again.
My word probably doesn't mean much around here after trying and failing my quit brothers once but I give you my word that I am all in this time.
For my intro, I have a wife and three young children (7, 5 and 9 months) that I love dearly and want to be around a long time to love and support. But that is not the reason for my quit. I believe that dipping is the lynchpin to an array of poor lifestyle choices that are hurting me. I believe that I will be happier if I remove that pin and find healthier ways to deal with my stress. I am doing this for me because I believe that I will be happier on the other side. There are obviously side benefits of that decision but I am going to stay focused on that.
Thank you all for your understanding. I missed this place.
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You would be Oct 11.
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I fucked up.
Me, too!!!!
We can both be redeemed, though. I wholeheartedly believe that. Just accept all the hell (read: wisdom) the vets give you and help me lead September, '17 to the HOF and beyond. Two former fuck ups should know how bad it feels to fuck up and never let a single one of our September brethren meet the same fate. I know I'm committed to it. Since I woke up this morning, quitting has been the most important thing I've done all day. And I fucking OWNED it today. I'll PM you my number. Welcome back. Don't fuck up again.
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JRan, I merged this with your original intro.
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Congrats on 200 today, Jordan!