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Community => Introductions => Topic started by: dforbes on May 09, 2011, 02:54:00 PM
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Hello all, this must be 30th day one for me, but I'm here again with the most resolve I've ever had. I've decided to quit because Iwant to quit. So with that said, I'm ready for it and the punches that will be thrown at me for the next 12+ weeks. I'm also using the assistance of chantix and hope that will help as much as possible. Thanks for listening.
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Same for me......just had lunch and I want a dip. But I promise that I can get through this BS and be done for life.
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Hello all, this must be 30th day one for me, but I'm here again with the most resolve I've ever had. I've decided to quit because Iwant to quit. So with that said, I'm ready for it and the punches that will be thrown at me for the next 12+ weeks. I'm also using the assistance of chantix and hope that will help as much as possible. Thanks for listening.
dforbes...welcome to a place that will help you in your quest.
Few things first: Chantix - pitch it. I used it. I used it for 30 days. I found this place on Day 31. You don't need it. It's a waste of money, and all it did was give me F'ED UP dreams. I mean scary stuff. My wife would find me in different parts of the house doing various things. It's bad stuff, and it does nothing for you. Eventually, you will have to learn how to live without nicotine. Start now.
Your 30th Day 1 - Let's make this your LAST Day 1. You in? You want it? Well, then you gotta follow a few simple rules:
1. Post Roll Every Day. (The earlier the better). This is your daily promise and reminder NOT to use nicotine in any way, shape or form for this day.
2. Keep your WORD. We work on accountability here. Is your word worth anything? If you're like me, I had lied to so many people for so many years, I didn't know if I COULD keep my word. Can you keep yours?
3. Repeat.
Simple? Yes! Easy? Hell NO! Worth it? You bet your ASS!
Check your Inbox (1) in a few minutes. Upper right corner of your screen.
PM me if you need help.
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Here's all I know about it. The American Cancer Society's Cancer Facts and Figures 2003 reported that 91.4% of former U.S. adult smokers quit our way.
That means more than 9 of 10 successful quitters quit cold turkey, if you're to believe that figure.
Of that remaining 8.6%, some percentage used NRT, Chantrix, Wellbutrin, hypnosis, etc. Of that fraction that tried quitting using Chantrix, 66% failed.
I don't know why. Maybe because none of these aids that ease quitting actually keep you quit. At some point, you will stop using them. You use them because you're afraid you can't handle being quit; and yet you can't always use them. Does that explain it?
I don't know. But quitting cold-turkey, with accountability, gets you quit exactly the same way every day. If you make it through just one day, you know exactly how to stay quit on day 1,000 and beyond. That makes sense to me. What about you?
Here's what's certain: Every single one of the people who stay quit have made a decision that they don't change their mind about later. In the final analysis, those are the ONLY people who stay quit. We commit ourselves each day to helping you to become one of those people. Let us know when you need help.
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I'm day 15 quit, and I can't remember if I introduced myself or not, since I'm quit, I don't have a lot of time to post as I try to occupy myself with the time I've wasted dipping. I'm Dan, and definitely an addict. But what is pissing me off is that I have over 150 a day as I teach, and I'm patient most of the time, but when I get home, I'm not. Its bullshit, and not fair to my own kids. Tell me it will stop. I have trouble explaining being quit to them as they are all younger than 6 and I really don't want to ever know or remember daddy with "candy in his mouth and I don't have anymore to give you". I'm a piece of shit. Any strategies out there??? Thanks.
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I'm day 15 quit, and I can't remember if I introduced myself or not, since I'm quit, I don't have a lot of time to post as I try to occupy myself with the time I've wasted dipping. I'm Dan, and definitely an addict. But what is pissing me off is that I have over 150 a day as I teach, and I'm patient most of the time, but when I get home, I'm not. Its bullshit, and not fair to my own kids. Tell me it will stop. I have trouble explaining being quit to them as they are all younger than 6 and I really don't want to ever know or remember daddy with "candy in his mouth and I don't have anymore to give you". I'm a piece of shit. Any strategies out there??? Thanks.
I teach little kids. I have little kids. It will pass.
It might take some time, but you really NEED to either get involved here (bitch at us), or get some numbers and call or text a brother and bitch at them.
If you need a number, PM me.
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I'm day 15 quit, and I can't remember if I introduced myself or not, since I'm quit, I don't have a lot of time to post as I try to occupy myself with the time I've wasted dipping. I'm Dan, and definitely an addict. But what is pissing me off is that I have over 150 a day as I teach, and I'm patient most of the time, but when I get home, I'm not. Its bullshit, and not fair to my own kids. Tell me it will stop. I have trouble explaining being quit to them as they are all younger than 6 and I really don't want to ever know or remember daddy with "candy in his mouth and I don't have anymore to give you". I'm a piece of shit. Any strategies out there??? Thanks.
I teach little kids. I have little kids. It will pass.
It might take some time, but you really NEED to either get involved here (bitch at us), or get some numbers and call or text a brother and bitch at them.
If you need a number, PM me.
I teach I have been quit 107 days. Fortunately and unfortunately my kid at home is 17. I don't see him much. This is my thought in your situation. Younger kids require patience. As a fellow teacher I know how much patience that takes especially at this time of year. Your patience at home will improve dramatically when summer vacation gets here. Hold on until then. Finally, a temporarily impatient father is easier to deal with than a father without a face. Hang in there brother and it will get better.
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It'll get better, it will.
Strategies, embrace the time you have with them--play catch with them, watch TV (the shows they like), talk about their day, play the wii; basically I do all the stuff I ignored for years because I was off by myself so I didn't have them asking me what I was doing while I was dipping.
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Those kids didn't shove dip in your pie hole. They do not deserve to have your rage directed at them. Get involved, read, post up stoopid shit, go to chat, get some numbers....yell at us, we can take it.
In fact, many of us like it...so bring it.
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I went through the same thing bro. Its very hard when you feel like everyone is poking you with a hot stick no matter who they are.
You're certainly not a piece of shit (unless you kicked a puppy or punched a midget clown today). You made the best decision you could to see those little ones for as long as you can: you stopped putting a turd in your mouth.
I chose exercise to get me through that anxious period. Beat myself into the ground running and biking. Some old chain gang mentality that a tired body leads to a soul at rest.
When I look at my kids, I think "Jeez...its certainly going to be nice to be in their wedding photos with my entire face in place". If that doesn't help, I count to 10 out loud. Slows everyone down. If that doesn't help, I walk away and distract for a second by thinking about watermelon sized breasts.
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I went through the same thing bro. Its very hard when you feel like everyone is poking you with a hot stick no matter who they are.
You're certainly not a piece of shit (unless you kicked a puppy or punched a midget clown today). You made the best decision you could to see those little ones for as long as you can: you stopped putting a turd in your mouth.
I chose exercise to get me through that anxious period. Beat myself into the ground running and biking. Some old chain gang mentality that a tired body leads to a soul at rest.
When I look at my kids, I think "Jeez...its certainly going to be nice to be in their wedding photos with my entire face in place". If that doesn't help, I count to 10 out loud. Slows everyone down. If that doesn't help, I walk away and distract for a second by thinking about watermelon sized breasts.
Mmmmmmmmm....watermelon sized breasts......not I'm distracted.... 'boob'
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Alright! Great stuff so far, keep it coming. Its cool/sad how many of us share the same BS because of this dip shit... I'm glad we can kick each other in the nuts to keep us all in line. I appreciate the feedback. Best quit ever for me, and it WILL last forever this time.
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I went through the same thing bro. Its very hard when you feel like everyone is poking you with a hot stick no matter who they are.
You're certainly not a piece of shit (unless you kicked a puppy or punched a midget clown today). You made the best decision you could to see those little ones for as long as you can: you stopped putting a turd in your mouth.
I chose exercise to get me through that anxious period. Beat myself into the ground running and biking. Some old chain gang mentality that a tired body leads to a soul at rest.
When I look at my kids, I think "Jeez...its certainly going to be nice to be in their wedding photos with my entire face in place". If that doesn't help, I count to 10 out loud. Slows everyone down. If that doesn't help, I walk away and distract for a second by thinking about watermelon sized breasts.
Mmmmmmmmm....watermelon sized breasts......not I'm distracted.... 'boob'
i should have added with beer flavored nipples.
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I can tell you from experience (Alcoholic and Dip Quitter) that we will ALWAYS hurt the ones we love the most. You would never consider lashing out at your students yet you do it to your kids. You would never consider lashing out at your boss (bullshit we think about it all the time but never do it) yet we will talk to our wives like they are 2 years old. Can I make it stop for you, nope. My suggestion is to try to leave your day at the door. Also take a few extra seconds to take a deep breath before reacting to ANYTHING involving your kids or wife. Just slow everything way down right now. If you have to go take a walk if it get's too bad.
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I went through the same thing bro. Its very hard when you feel like everyone is poking you with a hot stick no matter who they are.
You're certainly not a piece of shit (unless you kicked a puppy or punched a midget clown today). You made the best decision you could to see those little ones for as long as you can: you stopped putting a turd in your mouth.
I chose exercise to get me through that anxious period. Beat myself into the ground running and biking. Some old chain gang mentality that a tired body leads to a soul at rest.
When I look at my kids, I think "Jeez...its certainly going to be nice to be in their wedding photos with my entire face in place". If that doesn't help, I count to 10 out loud. Slows everyone down. If that doesn't help, I walk away and distract for a second by thinking about watermelon sized breasts.
Mmmmmmmmm....watermelon sized breasts......not I'm distracted.... 'boob'
i should have added with beer flavored nipples.
You had me at watermelon...
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I went through the same thing bro. Its very hard when you feel like everyone is poking you with a hot stick no matter who they are.
You're certainly not a piece of shit (unless you kicked a puppy or punched a midget clown today). You made the best decision you could to see those little ones for as long as you can: you stopped putting a turd in your mouth.
I chose exercise to get me through that anxious period. Beat myself into the ground running and biking. Some old chain gang mentality that a tired body leads to a soul at rest.
When I look at my kids, I think "Jeez...its certainly going to be nice to be in their wedding photos with my entire face in place". If that doesn't help, I count to 10 out loud. Slows everyone down. If that doesn't help, I walk away and distract for a second by thinking about watermelon sized breasts.
Mmmmmmmmm....watermelon sized breasts......not I'm distracted.... 'boob'
i should have added with beer flavored nipples.
You had me at watermelon...
Boobs !!
'drool'
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I'm day 15 quit, and I can't remember if I introduced myself or not, since I'm quit, I don't have a lot of time to post as I try to occupy myself with the time I've wasted dipping. I'm Dan, and definitely an addict. But what is pissing me off is that I have over 150 a day as I teach, and I'm patient most of the time, but when I get home, I'm not. Its bullshit, and not fair to my own kids. Tell me it will stop. I have trouble explaining being quit to them as they are all younger than 6 and I really don't want to ever know or remember daddy with "candy in his mouth and I don't have anymore to give you". I'm a piece of shit. Any strategies out there??? Thanks.
Dan...trust me...it WILL stop...read my speech and my story about my kids...link below. I would have rather been an assbite to them for a couple of weeks...than what I was for the first mid to late teens of their lives.
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I went through the same thing bro. Its very hard when you feel like everyone is poking you with a hot stick no matter who they are.
You're certainly not a piece of shit (unless you kicked a puppy or punched a midget clown today). You made the best decision you could to see those little ones for as long as you can: you stopped putting a turd in your mouth.
I chose exercise to get me through that anxious period. Beat myself into the ground running and biking. Some old chain gang mentality that a tired body leads to a soul at rest.
When I look at my kids, I think "Jeez...its certainly going to be nice to be in their wedding photos with my entire face in place". If that doesn't help, I count to 10 out loud. Slows everyone down. If that doesn't help, I walk away and distract for a second by thinking about watermelon sized breasts.
Mmmmmmmmm....watermelon sized breasts......not I'm distracted.... 'boob'
i should have added with beer flavored nipples.
You had me at watermelon...
Boobs !!
'drool'
I had a set of cherry flavored nipple pops once, but I am a biter sooooooo....................that did not work out so well.
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I'm day 15 quit, and I can't remember if I introduced myself or not, since I'm quit, I don't have a lot of time to post as I try to occupy myself with the time I've wasted dipping. I'm Dan, and definitely an addict. But what is pissing me off is that I have over 150 a day as I teach, and I'm patient most of the time, but when I get home, I'm not. Its bullshit, and not fair to my own kids. Tell me it will stop. I have trouble explaining being quit to them as they are all younger than 6 and I really don't want to ever know or remember daddy with "candy in his mouth and I don't have anymore to give you". I'm a piece of shit. Any strategies out there??? Thanks.
Dan...trust me...it WILL stop...read my speech and my story about my kids...link below. I would have rather been an assbite to them for a couple of weeks...than what I was for the first mid to late teens of their lives.
Excellent HOF speech, thank you for the read and helping me understand what I have missed and could have missed with my family. I am grateful.
Dan
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I'm day 15 quit, and I can't remember if I introduced myself or not, since I'm quit, I don't have a lot of time to post as I try to occupy myself with the time I've wasted dipping. I'm Dan, and definitely an addict. But what is pissing me off is that I have over 150 a day as I teach, and I'm patient most of the time, but when I get home, I'm not. Its bullshit, and not fair to my own kids. Tell me it will stop. I have trouble explaining being quit to them as they are all younger than 6 and I really don't want to ever know or remember daddy with "candy in his mouth and I don't have anymore to give you". I'm a piece of shit. Any strategies out there??? Thanks.
I teach little kids. I have little kids. It will pass.
It might take some time, but you really NEED to either get involved here (bitch at us), or get some numbers and call or text a brother and bitch at them.
If you need a number, PM me.
I also have little kids, and at work I deal with people who act like little kids. That counts' right? Anyway, the anger and rage will be short term. The positive, healthy "after nicotine" version of you will last forever. That is what your kids will remember. In the meantime, if you are married or involved, that can be a big help. I kept my wife in the dark for a long time, but the smartest thing I ever did was to get her involved in my quit. SHe read a bunch on here (spouses section is great) and then she realized what I was dealing with. She had no idea it was an actual addiction with actual physical and mental effects. She just thought I was being an ass because I wanted to. Once she was on board, we could work as a team. She recognized the rage for what it was and was glad to cover for me if I walked away for a few minutes. She knew the end result would be worth it. Several times I just went outside to cool down and the kids would ask some crazy question when I got back like "did you get the lawnmower fixed?". I'd just say yes and smile a thank-you to my wife. You get the idea. Did I mention that I managed to quit with 2-year-old twins at home? It can be done. We can help. Let me know if you ever need anything.
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FU Forbes, Happy Birthday!!!
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