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Community => Introductions => Topic started by: Leather Apron on August 31, 2011, 02:34:00 PM
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I dunno if I'm doin this right but I'm gonna give it a shot....
I decided about a month ago that I was gonna quit dipping. Sure, no sweat. It's only been 15 years. Needless to say, I've been dipping about a can and a half a day for 15 years, including the last month. I screwed up and said to my girlfriend of about a year "I think I'm gonna quit dipping." That was my first mistake. As of that moment, it was officially uncool to do something I had been doing since before we had met. A couple days into "quitting" I decided I would just not dip around her. That shouldn't be a problem. WOAH! Boy was I wrong?! Now I'm hiding it from her. Instead of support I get "If you hide that from me, what else will you hide from me?" Well, it's time to quit. I have a 6 year old son that I do NOT want to go through this, and whether I have a girlfriend when it's all over with or not, I'm done with it!!! Any support would be appreciated.
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I dunno if I'm doin this right but I'm gonna give it a shot....
I decided about a month ago that I was gonna quit dipping. Sure, no sweat. It's only been 15 years. Needless to say, I've been dipping about a can and a half a day for 15 years, including the last month. I screwed up and said to my girlfriend of about a year "I think I'm gonna quit dipping." That was my first mistake. As of that moment, it was officially uncool to do something I had been doing since before we had met. A couple days into "quitting" I decided I would just not dip around her. That shouldn't be a problem. WOAH! Boy was I wrong?! Now I'm hiding it from her. Instead of support I get "If you hide that from me, what else will you hide from me?" Well, it's time to quit. I have a 6 year old son that I do NOT want to go through this, and whether I have a girlfriend when it's all over with or not, I'm done with it!!! Any support would be appreciated.
Boy, have you stepped into it now. You've come to the right place.
You'll soon have a ton of people who will call you their brother and who will offer you all kinds of advice. Take what you need and leave the rest...
Start here at the Welcome Center (http://forum.killthecan.org/index.php?showforum=13) and read all the items. Re-read number 4 about why we post roll. That's the most important piece of advice I can give you. It's critical to a successful quit.
Once you're done reading that stuff, read EVERYTHING you can. There's a ton of good stuff within Introductions, HoF Speeches, and the quit groups. You'll be in the December '11 group, so get in there and post your Day 1. Welcome aboard, glad to be quit with you today! 'archer'
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Leather Apron,
Welcome. Tazmed has offered some sound advice. Spend a lot of time on this site. Get to know your future HOF brothers and sisters. Post roll every day!
There is no trying at KTC. You choose to quit for one day at a time.
PM me if you need anything.
I am proud to quit with you today.
whsii
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I really appreciate it guys. As I'm typing this, my cell is vibrating off my desk. Seems the little lady found a can I left in the bathroom and she is none too pleased. It's times like these that I'm gonna have the toughest time. That's why I decided that it's too much for me to do alone. I am eternally grateful for the support.
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I really appreciate it guys. As I'm typing this, my cell is vibrating off my desk. Seems the little lady found a can I left in the bathroom and she is none too pleased. It's times like these that I'm gonna have the toughest time. That's why I decided that it's too much for me to do alone. I am eternally grateful for the support.
It's too much for any of us to do alone. Nicotine is a brutal enemy. Dig your foxhole, hop in and start fighting. You will find many a quitter here at KTC that will hop right in there with you and help you fight. I will quit with you today. Welcome
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Welcome leather Apron,
I am in two days myself of quitting an 18 year habit. I have visited this site in the past (one of my many failed quit attempts) but never posted. I am doing things different this time including becoming part of the support/group instead of looking in. My will power and convictions to quit and stay quit are in the right place.
I know I am only on day 2 but if you need anything let me know. I think I have read every piece of information on this site, funny the obession you get.
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Well Leather Apron,
It's not an easy task those first few days of quit, but all of us reaching out here did it. We went through it. We know the suck of it. We made it. And we're all quit. The fact you made the decision to quit is awesome, and you don't have to do it alone when you have all of us!
You put "trying" to quit. We don't try here. WE DO. Keep the mentality that you can do it. There are MANY people who didn't think they could, but did it. You can, too.
The best thing to do is read. You're gonna hear that a good bit, but it's true as can be. It might be one story that hits right at home and makes you realize how good it is to be quit.
Make sure you post roll everyday. No computer isn't an excuse. Get numbers. Text roll if you need to. Text when you even think of that nasty shit. There are many people here to help you in your quit. Take all the advice you can. You can do this!
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All the support is overwhelming. This is day one of a long road and it's reassuring to know that I'm not the only person on the road. I look forward to walking along side y'all.
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All the support is overwhelming. This is day one of a long road and it's reassuring to know that I'm not the only person on the road. I look forward to walking along side y'all.
470 Days ago I felt the overwhelming wave of support you're now feeling. It was CRAZY! I was like shit! These guys are gonna make me man the fuck up! So welcome to the Quit Dojo. We openly accept hardcore-Quitters. The following will be roundhouse kicked in the dome:
- people who are:
- giving it a good ole "college TRY"
- doing this for their grandmother, sister, son, daughter, girlfriend (i.e. anyone other than themselves) (Note: it is OK to be inspired to quit by these folks. It just can't be the backbone of your QUIT...subtle, but important)
- CAVERS!
- "Hopeful" that this is the one...MAKE IT YOUR LAST QUIT!
- Douchesnozzles; see Cavers.
...you get the point...
Congratulations on making the decision to become a better, more kick-ass version of yourself. One that is not controlled by a weed. One that doesn't have to take hour and a half shits, get milk EVERYNIGHT, and hide toxic spitters under the drivers seat.
Great things come to those who battle through, and accept, the SUCK.
Glad to be Quit with you this fine evening sir.
CC
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I am pretty early on in my quit but i do find the everyday promise to everyone by posting roll helps. I get on the site often to read posts and the daily roll call. The sayings get interesting.
Most importantly get involved. Read like everyone has said. LOOK at the nasty scary pictures.... YOU dont want to look like that. Its not worth the gamble. Spend $5 dollars a day on Lotto tickets instead or start a quit jar like me. I'm paying myself to quit.
I decided to reply to your post as i feel i need to be more involved on this site and stay focused on my quit.
And when I needed someone to talk to and talk me out of buying a can I came back to my intro posts and sent Whsii a PM and he texted me back right away.
" Stay quit with me "
So welcome brother and if you need anything PM me.
I quit with you today
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All the support is overwhelming. This is day one of a long road and it's reassuring to know that I'm not the only person on the road. I look forward to walking along side y'all.
look man tazmed gave you a link to the welcome center. its cleer you aint red it yet cuz you got 3 posts and theere all here in this thred. reed the stuff in the welcome center and then get your ass over to decmeber roll call and post up.
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I see you on the site right now. Yet, you have not posted roll. You gonna quit? Here is how you do it. http://killthecan.org/community/welcome.asp (http://killthecan.org/community/welcome.asp)
'Popcorn'
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I see you on the site right now. Yet, you have not posted roll. You gonna quit? Here is how you do it. http://killthecan.org/community/welcome.asp (http://killthecan.org/community/welcome.asp)
'Popcorn'
Way to go! Welcome.
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hey leather apron....you post in here yesterday that it is day 1 but then on today's roll call you also post day 1.
You are only allowed 1 day 1 around here. What, did you have a rough night and sneak a little pinch?
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So about a week ago I'm driving to Buffalo Wild Wings with my 6 year old son and one of his baseball teammates in the back seat. I'm doin the same thing I been doin since June of '95, driving with a dip in my mouth, when my sons friend says "what's in this water bottle back here? Why's it brown?" It sucks when a grown ass man has to be embarassed by a 6 year old to realize something has to change. That's not even the worse part. My son says "that's some stuff my dad always has in his mouth. He has to spit it in there." I'll tell you what, it started eating away at me right then and there. Something had to give, and it finally gave last night. I'm day 1 quit and I pray my son doesn't remember me having that shit rolling around my floorboard.
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hey leather apron....you post in here yesterday that it is day 1 but then on today's roll call you also post day 1.
You are only allowed 1 day 1 around here. What, did you have a rough night and sneak a little pinch?
All this stuff is kinda tricky to figure out. I'm still tryin to hang out, read stuff, and figure out what's goin on. It's a little more complicated than fb. Last night was good. I havent dipped in 25 hours, 37 minutes. I'm not entirely sure if that makes me day 1 or day 2. I thought I'd play it safe and reset to this morning. Dont wanna try to sneak an extra day of credit when I dipped on the way to work yesterday. The way I figure, this is my first day of being quit.
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hey leather apron....you post in here yesterday that it is day 1 but then on today's roll call you also post day 1.
You are only allowed 1 day 1 around here. What, did you have a rough night and sneak a little pinch?
All this stuff is kinda tricky to figure out. I'm still tryin to hang out, read stuff, and figure out what's goin on. It's a little more complicated than fb. Last night was good. I havent dipped in 25 hours, 37 minutes. I'm not entirely sure if that makes me day 1 or day 2. I thought I'd play it safe and reset to this morning. Dont wanna try to sneak an extra day of credit when I dipped on the way to work yesterday. The way I figure, this is my first day of being quit.
You are on day 2 then. Congratulations.
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hey leather apron....you post in here yesterday that it is day 1 but then on today's roll call you also post day 1.
You are only allowed 1 day 1 around here. What, did you have a rough night and sneak a little pinch?
All this stuff is kinda tricky to figure out. I'm still tryin to hang out, read stuff, and figure out what's goin on. It's a little more complicated than fb. Last night was good. I havent dipped in 25 hours, 37 minutes. I'm not entirely sure if that makes me day 1 or day 2. I thought I'd play it safe and reset to this morning. Dont wanna try to sneak an extra day of credit when I dipped on the way to work yesterday. The way I figure, this is my first day of being quit.
If yesterday was the day you quit, then it was day 1. Today would be day 2. But most importantly, you have given us your word that you will not use nicotine TODAY. So do whatever it takes and be a man of your word TODAY. We'll deal with tomorrow when it gets here.
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hey leather apron....you post in here yesterday that it is day 1 but then on today's roll call you also post day 1.
You are only allowed 1 day 1 around here. What, did you have a rough night and sneak a little pinch?
All this stuff is kinda tricky to figure out. I'm still tryin to hang out, read stuff, and figure out what's goin on. It's a little more complicated than fb. Last night was good. I havent dipped in 25 hours, 37 minutes. I'm not entirely sure if that makes me day 1 or day 2. I thought I'd play it safe and reset to this morning. Dont wanna try to sneak an extra day of credit when I dipped on the way to work yesterday. The way I figure, this is my first day of being quit.
If yesterday was the day you quit, then it was day 1. Today would be day 2. But most importantly, you have given us your word that you will not use nicotine TODAY. So do whatever it takes and be a man of your word TODAY. We'll deal with tomorrow when it gets here.
Hells yeah. Free day!! I'll post roll tomorrow as day 3 then.
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hey leather apron....you post in here yesterday that it is day 1 but then on today's roll call you also post day 1.
You are only allowed 1 day 1 around here. What, did you have a rough night and sneak a little pinch?
All this stuff is kinda tricky to figure out. I'm still tryin to hang out, read stuff, and figure out what's goin on. It's a little more complicated than fb. Last night was good. I havent dipped in 25 hours, 37 minutes. I'm not entirely sure if that makes me day 1 or day 2. I thought I'd play it safe and reset to this morning. Dont wanna try to sneak an extra day of credit when I dipped on the way to work yesterday. The way I figure, this is my first day of being quit.
If yesterday was the day you quit, then it was day 1. Today would be day 2. But most importantly, you have given us your word that you will not use nicotine TODAY. So do whatever it takes and be a man of your word TODAY. We'll deal with tomorrow when it gets here.
Hells yeah. Free day!! I'll post roll tomorrow as day 3 then.
Nice job LA. I see you posted roll AND support in Sept as day 1. Way to jump in and get this by the balls. You've got a bunch of support, money can't buy this quality of a QUIT. Use the tools, proud to be quit with you today. I quit today, you quit today.
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Congrats on making the right move. Get over to the 2011 December HOF and post roll and make yourself and all of us a promise each day. PM me if you need anything
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Welcome Leather. Best decision of your life. Like 8up said, go over to December and post roll. When you post roll, that is the equivalent of you looking us in the eye and telling us you will not use nicotine today under any circumstances. Period. End of story. Worry about today and tomorrow will take care of itself. You have a some tough times ahead of you, but many of us have been in your shoes and will gladly tell you that it gets better than you can ever imagine. Just gut the next couple weeks out. If you need any help dont be afraid to ask.
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Sugar, you need to quit for you. Your son will be a good enough reason for a while, but undoubtedly, that shit'll wear off. It usually does. Quit because YOU wanna quit. Quit because YOU know it's best for YOU. Quit because YOU know YOU gotta.
It's all about YOU. Not your mom, wife, brother, or son. You've lied to, cheated, and stolen from every single person you hold dear....however, YOU will not lie to us. You post Roll Call everyday, then live up to your word. Get to know the people in December and the vets who come in to support them/you. Find some guys that are close to the same quit days as you...be proactive and exchange numbers with them. Yeah, LOOT knows, sounds kinda creepy huh? These people will save YOU from YOU if you let them. Pay attention to what they say. Read all you can here.
Roll Call is the secret. Strangers are the key.
Never again for any reason.
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Sugar, you need to quit for you. Your son will be a good enough reason for a while, but undoubtedly, that shit'll wear off. It usually does. Quit because YOU wanna quit. Quit because YOU know it's best for YOU. Quit because YOU know YOU gotta.
It's all about YOU. Not your mom, wife, brother, or son. You've lied to, cheated, and stolen from every single person you hold dear....however, YOU will not lie to us. You post Roll Call everyday, then live up to your word. Get to know the people in December and the vets who come in to support them/you. Find some guys that are close to the same quit days as you...be proactive and exchange numbers with them. Yeah, LOOT knows, sounds kinda creepy huh? These people will save YOU from YOU if you let them. Pay attention to what they say. Read all you can here.
Roll Call is the secret. Strangers are the key.
Never again for any reason.
kids, wives, family can all be "A" reason to quit......
they can never be "THE" reason to quit.
Listen to LooT.....them are some pearls right there....big pearls. Drink the kool-aide and i'll get you measured for your Church of LooT choir robes.
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Dude, my 8 year old thought he was going to take a big swig of Daddy's Coke - only we all know the end to that story - it wasn't Coke. Even that wasn't enough to get me to quit. And yes, he remembers that!!! He is 10 now, and just the look on his face when I told him that I was done was enough to get me through day 2. That's all I need. Now I will get through day 3.
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Goddam LOOT hit it spot on. Strangers are KEY to the QUIT. Making your promise to us is a huge motivator. I can't explain why. I don't care why. It works. Post roll.
I have a 7 year old son who once asked me what I has sucking on and if he could have some. That was in March. In April I quit. I didn't quit for my son. I love him more that I love myself... but he didn't make me quit.... I could explain it away to him. "daddy's midday snack - none for you" .... "adults only, buddy".... "...you wouldn't like it - it tastes like farts..." (I've used all of these)
I quit because -for some reason - I was ready. I didn't even realize I was ready. I was just ready.
My guess is you're ready. The kids are a great excuse - we all need milestones to mark major decisions in our life - we need to rationalize them... but maybe your just "ready."
129 days ago I was ready. After 26 years, I was ready. You're ready. Go post roll. Make your promise. Then do it again tomorrow.
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Sugar, you need to quit for you. Your son will be a good enough reason for a while, but undoubtedly, that shit'll wear off. It usually does. Quit because YOU wanna quit. Quit because YOU know it's best for YOU. Quit because YOU know YOU gotta.
It's all about YOU. Not your mom, wife, brother, or son. You've lied to, cheated, and stolen from every single person you hold dear....however, YOU will not lie to us. You post Roll Call everyday, then live up to your word. Get to know the people in December and the vets who come in to support them/you. Find some guys that are close to the same quit days as you...be proactive and exchange numbers with them. Yeah, LOOT knows, sounds kinda creepy huh? These people will save YOU from YOU if you let them. Pay attention to what they say. Read all you can here.
Roll Call is the secret. Strangers are the key.
Never again for any reason.
kids, wives, family can all be "A" reason to quit......
they can never be "THE" reason to quit.
Listen to LooT.....them are some pearls right there....big pearls. Drink the kool-aide and i'll get you measured for your Church of LooT choir robes.
Leather... you got some heavy-hitters supporting you right here. These two guys are the real deal. It don't get any more die-hard that Loot and Mule. Do no let them down.
Some of us are just mouthy teenagers in our quits, but these two vets have some real wisdom.
DO NOT LET THEM DOWN.