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Community => Introductions => Topic started by: Rob on December 17, 2018, 10:46:16 PM
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Hey guys, my names rob. I’m 25 years old and have been dipping nonstop a can a day sometimes more since I was 21. If we are being honest I love dipping or at least I feel like I do when I have one in. It doesn’t really interfere with my life. I mainly have a dip in whenever I’m driving or doing anything stationery. 95% of my friends dip and don’t see a reason to quit. I’ve had the same girlfriend for 3 years and even though she doesn’t like it. She doesn’t really force me to quit or anything. I use to compete in bodybuilding and live an extremely healthy lifestyle; never did I think I’d be one to dip. However one night, I went out with friends and we all had drinks. As we were heading home my friend offered me a Copenhagen mint. Ever since that day I’ve bought a can a day. I went through phases between mint and southern. The strange thing is even though I haven’t dipped southern in months, for some reason I can still taste it from time to time.
I own a small business (gym) here in Florida, for the past two years. Even though it’s been fun, it has caused a ton of stress... dip was there for all of it.
So why am I quitting? Well even though I enjoy it. The health risks are the deal breaker for me. I don’t want to lose my teeth. I don’t want to develop cancer. The problem is I’m completely addicted now. If I go just a few hours without a dip I’m miserable.
After trying to quit everywhich way possible over the past several months (cold turkey, nicotine replacement, slowly dipping less, you name it I’ve tried it) I’ve decided that I need people who are trying to accomplish the same goal or have already done so. Someone or a group that makes me feel accountable.
So that’s my introduction, today has been the first day that I haven’t dipped in 24 hours, in a very long time. I’m proud of myself. To be honest, it was extremely difficult. Today was a complete fog. My girlfriend and I did one of those escape rooms and I couldn’t even do simple math I was in such a daze. Tomorrow is day 2 and I will not use nicotine.
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Welcome.
Nice job posting roll. Keep posting roll early every morning.
My best advice to you is that you need to develop a hatred for tobacco. You need to quit romanticizing it. Nicotine was trying to kill you, and you say you enjoyed it?
Seriously, your chances of being successful in yoour quit will improve drastically once you develop a hatred for tobacco.
Proud to quit with you.
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Welcome.
Nice job posting roll. Keep posting roll early every morning.
My best advice to you is that you need to develop a hatred for tobacco. You need to quit romanticizing it. Nicotine was trying to kill you, and you say you enjoyed it?
Seriously, your chances of being successful in yoour quit will improve drastically once you develop a hatred for tobacco.
Proud to quit with you.
Thanks for the advice man, will work on it
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Welcome.
Nice job posting roll. Keep posting roll early every morning.
My best advice to you is that you need to develop a hatred for tobacco. You need to quit romanticizing it. Nicotine was trying to kill you, and you say you enjoyed it?
Seriously, your chances of being successful in yoour quit will improve drastically once you develop a hatred for tobacco.
Proud to quit with you.
Thanks for the advice man, will work on it
gotta get a mean on for whipping tobacco
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Welcome.
Nice job posting roll. Keep posting roll early every morning.
My best advice to you is that you need to develop a hatred for tobacco. You need to quit romanticizing it. Nicotine was trying to kill you, and you say you enjoyed it?
Seriously, your chances of being successful in yoour quit will improve drastically once you develop a hatred for tobacco.
Proud to quit with you.
Thanks for the advice man, will work on it
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Welcome to hell! The first week as you are discovering is nothing but hell. Remember that you have to want to quit if you are to stay quit.
Being a body builder I am sure you are no stranger to setting goals, buckling down and accomplishing them then moving on to new ones right? Well the idea is the same here. ONE DAY AT A TIME!!! (ODAAT) Your goal and promise every morning is that you will not use nicotine for that day. It is a manageable goal, who can't do a day right? ONLY focus on that day, we will focus on tomorrow when tomorrow gets here.
Like RDB said, you need to hate it. If it is the taste you like try some fake (Smokey Mountain Mint would be right up your alley). If you just need to satisfy an oral fixation then start packing sunflower seeds.
I am in March with you and just sent you a PM with my digits. Quit on!
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Going to post an update here a few times a week if that's alright.
Day 2:
I woke up feeling great, I worked out around 8am. Then went and helped a family friend lay some brick pavers for her new patio. A few nights a week, I cook part time at a local restaurant just for some extra money. If any one works in the restaurant industry they know it can be hectic. We were slammed and I started to fall behind cooking. THAT IS WHEN IT HIT ME. I started getting extremely irritated and annoyed. I mean it was extreme. All I wanted was to get off work and put a dip in. For some reason though I kept thinking about this group, and how I wanted to post that I didnt do it. Well I'm here now and I DIDNT USE NICOTINE TODAY. That is 48 hours without a dip in! Today was honestly tough but, I can't wait to wake up tomorrow and quit again.
Also I thought about it today at work when I was angry/annoyed. You guys are right, with every withdraw I'm hating dip a little more.
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Welcome to hell! The first week as you are discovering is nothing but hell. Remember that you have to want to quit if you are to stay quit.
Being a body builder I am sure you are no stranger to setting goals, buckling down and accomplishing them then moving on to new ones right? Well the idea is the same here. ONE DAY AT A TIME!!! (ODAAT) Your goal and promise every morning is that you will not use nicotine for that day. It is a manageable goal, who can't do a day right? ONLY focus on that day, we will focus on tomorrow when tomorrow gets here.
Like RDB said, you need to hate it. If it is the taste you like try some fake (Smokey Mountain Mint would be right up your alley). If you just need to satisfy an oral fixation then start packing sunflower seeds.
I am in March with you and just sent you a PM with my digits. Quit on!
Just focusing on cold turkey one day at a time. I've always ate sunflower seeds so will continue to do that! The ODAAT idea is great and i think its part of the reason why I think I had trouble quitting in the past.
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Going to post an update here a few times a week if that's alright.
Day 2:
I woke up feeling great, I worked out around 8am. Then went and helped a family friend lay some brick pavers for her new patio. A few nights a week, I cook part time at a local restaurant just for some extra money. If any one works in the restaurant industry they know it can be hectic. We were slammed and I started to fall behind cooking. THAT IS WHEN IT HIT ME. I started getting extremely irritated and annoyed. I mean it was extreme. All I wanted was to get off work and put a dip in. For some reason though I kept thinking about this group, and how I wanted to post that I didnt do it. Well I'm here now and I DIDNT USE NICOTINE TODAY. That is 48 hours without a dip in! Today was honestly tough but, I can't wait to wake up tomorrow and quit again.
Also I thought about it today at work when I was angry/annoyed. You guys are right, with every withdraw I'm hating dip a little more.
All good wins! When it hits, don't just think about the site, blow up our phones! Take your rage out on us, we know the feeling and can take it!
QUIT ON!
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Day 3:
Smooth sailing went through the entire day extremely tired. Probably not from quitting just been really busy lately. Around mid afternoon my friend pulled out a can and put a dip in, didn’t really bother me. Old me would have asked to bum one. F*** that! Let’s go day 4!
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Day 3:
Smooth sailing went through the entire day extremely tired. Probably not from quitting just been really busy lately. Around mid afternoon my friend pulled out a can and put a dip in, didn’t really bother me. Old me would have asked to bum one. F*** that! Let’s go day 4!
Accountability counts in real life, just as much as on the internet. Tell your girlfriend if you haven't yet, tell your buddy who pulls out that can of death that you are done with that shit. Tell your mom and dad.
Tell your dick if you like to talk to it - just tell everyone. Make yourself transparent, live your life free and enjoy the rewards that come with it. Congrats on day 3, here come the mind games. Be prepared, drink lots of water and push through another set when that crave comes.
Post everyday here, and read others' stories and advice. IQWYT Rob
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Hey Rob, I love that you're chronicling it. It's very therapeutic to write it all out and this is the place for it. Wildirish refers to his intro as an old comfortable leather chair or something along those lines. It's something you'll refer back to from time to time to remember the suck or to pull an excerpt from where a context calls for it. Others will read it and be edified too. Welcome to KTC. One day at a time can move mountains, really.
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Day 4:
Sunflowers seeds are a life saver, had some pretty bad withdrawals today. I felt like I was just missing something the entire day. However I didn’t let it control me or my day. Honestly if I wasn’t apart of this group. I would have dipped. So thanks guys...
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Hey Rob, I love that you're chronicling it. It's very therapeutic to write it all out and this is the place for it. Wildirish refers to his intro as an old comfortable leather chair or something along those lines. It's something you'll refer back to from time to time to remember the suck or to pull an excerpt from where a context calls for it. Others will read it and be edified too. Welcome to KTC. One day at a time can move mountains, really.
Thanks man, one day at a time is working great! I will check it out!
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Day 3:
Smooth sailing went through the entire day extremely tired. Probably not from quitting just been really busy lately. Around mid afternoon my friend pulled out a can and put a dip in, didn’t really bother me. Old me would have asked to bum one. F*** that! Let’s go day 4!
Accountability counts in real life, just as much as on the internet. Tell your girlfriend if you haven't yet, tell your buddy who pulls out that can of death that you are done with that shit. Tell your mom and dad.
Tell your dick if you like to talk to it - just tell everyone. Make yourself transparent, live your life free and enjoy the rewards that come with it. Congrats on day 3, here come the mind games. Be prepared, drink lots of water and push through another set when that crave comes.
Post everyday here, and read others' stories and advice. IQWYT Rob
I just haven’t gotten to telling friends and family because I’ve quit a million times. Everyone will know in due time, just wanted to prove to myself first this time
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Day 3:
Smooth sailing went through the entire day extremely tired. Probably not from quitting just been really busy lately. Around mid afternoon my friend pulled out a can and put a dip in, didn’t really bother me. Old me would have asked to bum one. F*** that! Let’s go day 4!
Accountability counts in real life, just as much as on the internet. Tell your girlfriend if you haven't yet, tell your buddy who pulls out that can of death that you are done with that shit. Tell your mom and dad.
Tell your dick if you like to talk to it - just tell everyone. Make yourself transparent, live your life free and enjoy the rewards that come with it. Congrats on day 3, here come the mind games. Be prepared, drink lots of water and push through another set when that crave comes.
Post everyday here, and read others' stories and advice. IQWYT Rob
I just haven’t gotten to telling friends and family because I’ve quit a million times. Everyone will know in due time, just wanted to prove to myself first this time
Burn the boats.... Light that fire and never look back.
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Forgot to post yesterday:
So recap day 5: Day off from work but had a couple meetings involving the gym, plus went to the driving range. I took your guys advice and told my friends about quitting/the group. They all seemed pretty supportive. To be honest yesterday wasn’t too bad, just going to keep at it today! Day 6 you sick quitters!
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Forgot to post yesterday:
So recap day 5: Day off from work but had a couple meetings involving the gym, plus went to the driving range. I took your guys advice and told my friends about quitting/the group. They all seemed pretty supportive. To be honest yesterday wasn’t too bad, just going to keep at it today! Day 6 you sick quitters!
Glad to hear you are hanging in there with your quit...one of the best decisions you'll ever make. I can't emphasize enough the importance of posting roll everyday, especially, as early as you are into your quit. Just some friendly advice. Welcome aboard Rob!
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It’s officially day 10!!! I made it through hell week, I’ll have a craving once or twice a day. I just chew sunflower seeds whenever I do, and tough it the f*** out. Thanks everyone for supporting me, texting me, messaging me. LFG ONE DAY AT A TIME! Merry Christmas!
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It’s officially day 10!!! I made it through hell week, I’ll have a craving once or twice a day. I just chew sunflower seeds whenever I do, and tough it the f*** out. Thanks everyone for supporting me, texting me, messaging me. LFG ONE DAY AT A TIME! Merry Christmas!
Hey Rob Great job so far!! You have reached a milestone already in your quit...Your first Zero!!
The first zero is possibly the most difficult...until you hit a wall in your 200's!!! Yep even then it can be brutal.
Keep on pushing and fighting.. reach out when you need to do so!
If you wish -check out The Zero Hero Report nightly in May17. If You post your zeroes in May 17 you will be on that Report.
If you want my contact info send me a PM.
I dont know you but you are now one of my Quit Brothers here at KTC
LMcB 688 Quit with You
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Quick update:
Day 19!!!! We are moving right along. I have to say I’ve craved more lately that I did the first week but it’s a different kind of craving. Pretty sure it’s just an oral fixation because I throw some sun flowers seeds in and go right along.
I’ve been extremely busy trying to sell my business and work etc. I know I’m not the most active person via texting but everyone’s texts do help.
A big trigger for me was New Year’s Eve. For the past 4-5 New Year’s Eve it’s always my resultion to quit lmao. So I usually dip 2 can or so on New Year’s Eve and just keep telling myself tomorrow’s the day. So anyway not this year. I went into it dip free! Had some pretty bad cravings when we started drinking but didn’t cave!
The whole counting days, being accountable, and posting roll thing works. Trust me I thought it was the dumbest shit at first but I gave it a try. Now I’d be so mad if I slipped up and had to go back to day one! So thanks everyone! Happy New Years!
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Health wise honestly I feel great. My mouth just feels cleaner 24/7. I’m back to working out everyday. I’m eating cleaner. I’ve lost 6lbs! Not sure if it was mental or what. I was lazy when I was dipping all day, I feel way more energized. Any day without dip is better than with it!
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Health wise honestly I feel great. My mouth just feels cleaner 24/7. I’m back to working out everyday. I’m eating cleaner. I’ve lost 6lbs! Not sure if it was mental or what. I was lazy when I was dipping all day, I feel way more energized. Any day without dip is better than with it!
Hi Rob... great post!
As time goes by, you will see that nicotine really only did one thing... take. It takes your time. Your health. Your relationships. Your freedom.
You are beginning to see the truth. Time that you spent feeding your addiction, you can now spend building relationships with your family. Enjoying life. Feeling the ups and downs that life has - like a roller coaster - instead of using nicotine to escape. You can use that time to run, or workout, or have crazy wild sweaty sex (CARDIO!) There are so many benefits, and it is great to see that you are starting to feel them.
Use this intro to journal your path to freedom - it is great to come back and see what a wreck things were.... and where things are.
One more thing, be extra vigilant for a while about friends who dip, and alcohol. You are building your tools up, but need to watch your back for a while longer. This path gets a whole lot easier - just keep posting EVERY day, and you'll keep winning.
Honored to quit with you today, sir.
worktowin
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32 days dip free! Still going strong.
I’ve been having these dreams lately where I put a dip, then I’ll wake up in the morning and can’t remember if I put a dip in or not. It seems very real.
Yesterday was tough man, very stressful day business wise. I haven’t really had a day like that since I quit. So honestly I craved a dip all day. Besides yesterday though cravings had been minimal. #RoadTo100
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32 days dip free! Still going strong.
I’ve been having these dreams lately where I put a dip, then I’ll wake up in the morning and can’t remember if I put a dip in or not. It seems very real.
Yesterday was tough man, very stressful day business wise. I haven’t really had a day like that since I quit. So honestly I craved a dip all day. Besides yesterday though cravings had been minimal. #RoadTo100
Dip Dreams are the worst. You wake up thinking you caved and now you have to go explain yourself to everyone here. Then you realize it was a dream.
Great job staying strong. Reach out though if it gets too much. Better to call a friend than stuff that crap in your pie hole.
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Day 61!!! Here’s an update guys. I have to say days 51-59 were tough for me. Idk what it was but almost everything was a trigger. I told my friends that it was a rough week for me. They were helpful and supportive. Now we’re back on track though and cruising towards the HOF. Life’s great guys and I can’t thank everyone enough! If you’re reading this and considering quitting, just do it. I use to think I needed dip to do normal activities, to cope with stress, etc. After a month or so though I realized it was just an addiction. Life’s better without it!
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Day 61!!! Here’s an update guys. I have to say days 51-59 were tough for me. Idk what it was but almost everything was a trigger. I told my friends that it was a rough week for me. They were helpful and supportive. Now we’re back on track though and cruising towards the HOF. Life’s great guys and I can’t thank everyone enough! If you’re reading this and considering quitting, just do it. I use to think I needed dip to do normal activities, to cope with stress, etc. After a month or so though I realized it was just an addiction. Life’s better without it!
Good job, Rob.
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Day 1 again.
My name is Rob and I was a part of the 2019 Marchmen. Unfortunately I thought I could quit on my own after about 400 days.
Between two family deaths, career going to shit due to Covid, and other things. I went back to chew (no excuse). After 2-3 months of dipping everyday. I’m ready to quit.
When I dip I let other aspects of my life go to shit, as it’s such an unhealthy/negative addiction. This time around I plan on posting first thing every morning and getting to know some other quitters. (Last time I was distant)
I know everyone will give me a hard time, it took a lot for me to come back here.
As I’ve already dipped today, tomorrow will be day one.
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Day 1 again.
My name is Rob and I was a part of the 2019 Marchmen. Unfortunately I thought I could quit on my own after about 400 days.
Between two family deaths, career going to shit due to Covid, and other things. I went back to chew (no excuse). After 2-3 months of dipping everyday. I’m ready to quit.
When I dip I let other aspects of my life go to shit, as it’s such an unhealthy/negative addiction. This time around I plan on posting first thing every morning and getting to know some other quitters. (Last time I was distant)
I know everyone will give me a hard time, it took a lot for me to come back here.
As I’ve already dipped today, tomorrow will be day one.
Sucks to be you.
I'm not sure I could live with myself if I had to type "again" after a Day 1.
KTC works because it's all about owning this the first time.
The. First. Time.
Make sure you soak this in:
This site is NOT about trying. Period. Addiction can NOT be given an inch. After the amount of time you stopped (not quit)... you should have realized that and owned your shit. I personally get sick of the ass patting and the "it's ok... get back in there and try again!" You need to feel the pain of your failure. The absolute waste of time your previous stoppage was. And... I hope you do. I hope you feel like complete shit over it. You can NOT be a "try" guy. It's weak. It's ineffective.
Own it.
I've been saying this for years... Get involved and STAY involved. It works. Ask me how I know. Do I "need" to be here to maintain my quit? Nah. I owned this from day 1. But... I see guys like you and I see a fresh baby Mod who caved recently and I know that the 15 seconds it takes me to roll up is a small price to pay to maintain the freedom I earned.
AJ... 2,685. 100% poster and still here every day because I will NOT be you.
Own it.
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Spit it out and start today, stop letting that shit controlling where, what, and when you do stuff!
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Day 1 again.
My name is Rob and I was a part of the 2019 Marchmen. Unfortunately I thought I could quit on my own after about 400 days.
Between two family deaths, career going to shit due to Covid, and other things. I went back to chew (no excuse). After 2-3 months of dipping everyday. I’m ready to quit.
When I dip I let other aspects of my life go to shit, as it’s such an unhealthy/negative addiction. This time around I plan on posting first thing every morning and getting to know some other quitters. (Last time I was distant)
I know everyone will give me a hard time, it took a lot for me to come back here.
As I’ve already dipped today, tomorrow will be day one.
Yep, last time you were distant. And you didn’t seem to buy into the stuff that most of us did who have connected with others, and looked out for others quit. You know well enough that the excuses are just the excuses… I would start by posting your three answers in March 2019, try to learn something, and then we’ll support you in your new group. @Rob (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=1671)
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Spit it out and start today, stop letting that shit controlling where, what, and when you do stuff!
The day you spit it out and choose to quit is day one. Today can be, no, today SHOULD BE day 1. Get in and post roll @Rob (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=1671)
And everything posted by AJ up above is gold!
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Day 1 again.
My name is Rob and I was a part of the 2019 Marchmen. Unfortunately I thought I could quit on my own after about 400 days.
Between two family deaths, career going to shit due to Covid, and other things. I went back to chew (no excuse). After 2-3 months of dipping everyday. I’m ready to quit.
When I dip I let other aspects of my life go to shit, as it’s such an unhealthy/negative addiction. This time around I plan on posting first thing every morning and getting to know some other quitters. (Last time I was distant)
I know everyone will give me a hard time, it took a lot for me to come back here.
As I’ve already dipped today, tomorrow will be day one.
Eskimo quit brother. I knew you were fucking up when you peaced out but better to be back than not to be back. Don’t throw it away this time. And take care of yourself, it’s shit out there, hope you’re doing alright on a personal level.
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Day 1 again.
My name is Rob and I was a part of the 2019 Marchmen. Unfortunately I thought I could quit on my own after about 400 days.
Between two family deaths, career going to shit due to Covid, and other things. I went back to chew (no excuse). After 2-3 months of dipping everyday. I’m ready to quit.
When I dip I let other aspects of my life go to shit, as it’s such an unhealthy/negative addiction. This time around I plan on posting first thing every morning and getting to know some other quitters. (Last time I was distant)
I know everyone will give me a hard time, it took a lot for me to come back here.
As I’ve already dipped today, tomorrow will be day one.
@Rob (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=1671)
AJ and Allpuck has already said most everything that needs to be said. Being a retread sucks ass but you have 2 choices. Stick with your old MO of not replying to texts and not engaging or getting your butt in gear, drinking the koolaid and being a leader in your new quit group since this shit should be old hat.
We in Mar19 are getting damn near close to our 2 year mark and you are starting over, let that sink in.
Remember a problem with a dip is now 2 problems. We all have had some shit go down, when it happens we turn to each other, not the can.
Get your first day posted and make that promise.
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Spit it out and start today, stop letting that shit controlling where, what, and when you do stuff!
Agreed the last month I found myself altering plans just to dip. Ready to have my life back again
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Day 1 again.
My name is Rob and I was a part of the 2019 Marchmen. Unfortunately I thought I could quit on my own after about 400 days.
Between two family deaths, career going to shit due to Covid, and other things. I went back to chew (no excuse). After 2-3 months of dipping everyday. I’m ready to quit.
When I dip I let other aspects of my life go to shit, as it’s such an unhealthy/negative addiction. This time around I plan on posting first thing every morning and getting to know some other quitters. (Last time I was distant)
I know everyone will give me a hard time, it took a lot for me to come back here.
As I’ve already dipped today, tomorrow will be day one.
Yep, last time you were distant. And you didn’t seem to buy into the stuff that most of us did who have connected with others, and looked out for others quit. You know well enough that the excuses are just the excuses… I would start by posting your three answers in March 2019, try to learn something, and then we’ll support you in your new group. @Rob (https://ktcforum.org/index.php?action=profile;u=1671)
Will post these answers shortly, going through all the replies. Not giving my all last time was the reason for my failure
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Day 1 again.
My name is Rob and I was a part of the 2019 Marchmen. Unfortunately I thought I could quit on my own after about 400 days.
Between two family deaths, career going to shit due to Covid, and other things. I went back to chew (no excuse). After 2-3 months of dipping everyday. I’m ready to quit.
When I dip I let other aspects of my life go to shit, as it’s such an unhealthy/negative addiction. This time around I plan on posting first thing every morning and getting to know some other quitters. (Last time I was distant)
I know everyone will give me a hard time, it took a lot for me to come back here.
As I’ve already dipped today, tomorrow will be day one.
Eskimo quit brother. I knew you were fucking up when you peaced out but better to be back than not to be back. Don’t throw it away this time. And take care of yourself, it’s shit out there, hope you’re doing alright on a personal level.
I know man I let all of you down :(