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Community => Introductions => Topic started by: Zachmtravis on September 04, 2018, 06:47:00 AM
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Good morning Kill the can! My name is Zach, and as of 9/2/18 I am nicotine, alcohol and caffeine free( I include the caffeine on there because IÂ’ve read about its ties to nicotine). I have quit so many times before but get complacent with it. I am in the process of separating with my wife and learning how to be single with 3 children splitting time between the two of us. I was quit for five years, started dipping about a month ago, drinking heavily this last week. Going through this change in my life I no longer have my rock/partner in crime, so I am looking to find a little brotherhood here in kill the can. I am absolutely shocked and disgusted how easily after five years being nicotine free I fell right back into it, like putting on an old pair of shoes, slipped right back in and BOOM! IÂ’m back to a can a day. I want to make the right changes for my self so I can be a good father and honestly not be a shitty ex to my kidsÂ’ mom.
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Welcome. Nice job posting roll.
Posting roll is our secret to remaining quit. Just keep doing that early every day - weekends, holidays, birthdays, sick days.
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Awesome job on taking the plunge! Welcome onboard mate... Quit on! ODAAT!!!
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Good morning Kill the can! My name is Zach, and as of 9/2/18 I am nicotine, alcohol and caffeine free( I include the caffeine on there because IÂ’ve read about its ties to nicotine). I have quit so many times before but get complacent with it. I am in the process of separating with my wife and learning how to be single with 3 children splitting time between the two of us. I was quit for five years, started dipping about a month ago, drinking heavily this last week. Going through this change in my life I no longer have my rock/partner in crime, so I am looking to find a little brotherhood here in kill the can. I am absolutely shocked and disgusted how easily after five years being nicotine free I fell right back into it, like putting on an old pair of shoes, slipped right back in and BOOM! IÂ’m back to a can a day. I want to make the right changes for my self so I can be a good father and honestly not be a shitty ex to my kidsÂ’ mom.
Welcome to KTC !
Just to clear things up -- We only Quit ONCE. You stopped for 5 years then allowed the Nic Bitch to take over your life AGAIN!. Your post is full of excuses -- We do not want excuses we want Bad Ass Quitters here.
When a member Caves here they have to answer 3 questions -- I know you are NEW to KTC However I suggest you think about these questions and answer them for yourself:
1) What happened?
2) Why did it happen?
3) What are you going to do differently to ensure that it doesn't happen this time?
If you can not answer these for YOURSELF then you may not be truly quit just another pause from Nicotine.
The Price of Admission here is to Wake Up Piss Post (WUPP) and do that Every Damn Day (EDD). You are in the December Group -- I post there everyday to show my support. I will be checking for you!
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Falcon67,I agree. I will not be doing this again. it was a big shock to me, i never thought i would come back to that point. I am still Nicotine Free today, making day 3. Thank you all for your support!
1 - it happened because 2 reasons, not excuses just honest reasons. Last time i had dipped had been when my wife and i separated, and now she is leaving and it just.... happened. i had been drinking too much and then next thing i know i've got a mouthful of dip and a lot of beer in me. it helped me to realize how what i've seen on here which describes it perfectly every day is a quit day, and you are never truly quit, always fighting.
2 - why? it happened because i was acting like a baby, not wanting to cope with the tidal wave of emotions that was crashing down around me.
3 - i've experienced how easy it is to fall back into nicotine's clutches. and i am not willing to spend the rest of my life shackled to that bitch. i've started focusing on my physical well being as well as my emotional well being. i am an addict, and i am finding new healthier options for myself to be addicted to.
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Great Answers Zach and I'm proud to quit with you. Great job getting posted up. Now I encourage you to reach out and get digits. Mine are just a PM away and I will send my daily quit to you personally. It's just another tool in the toolbox to help keep you quit!!
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Glad to see you on roll this morning! Way to go!!
Proud to quit with you today!
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Falcon67,I agree. I will not be doing this again. it was a big shock to me, i never thought i would come back to that point. I am still Nicotine Free today, making day 3. Thank you all for your support!
1 - it happened because 2 reasons, not excuses just honest reasons. Last time i had dipped had been when my wife and i separated, and now she is leaving and it just.... happened. i had been drinking too much and then next thing i know i've got a mouthful of dip and a lot of beer in me. it helped me to realize how what i've seen on here which describes it perfectly every day is a quit day, and you are never truly quit, always fighting.
2 - why? it happened because i was acting like a baby, not wanting to cope with the tidal wave of emotions that was crashing down around me.
3 - i've experienced how easy it is to fall back into nicotine's clutches. and i am not willing to spend the rest of my life shackled to that bitch. i've started focusing on my physical well being as well as my emotional well being. i am an addict, and i am finding new healthier options for myself to be addicted to.
I posted this into December '18 earlier for someone else, but I wanted to share it here for you as well Zach. This is incredibly good information (much of Irish's intro is) on addiction, symptoms, relapse, etc. I highly recommend browsing through there when you have the time, but this part specifically applies to these three questions that we have cavers answer:
The Three Questions (http://forum.killthecan.org/topic/11541810/1/?x=90#post9654281)
and
Answering the three questions - Reprise (http://forum.killthecan.org/topic/11541810/1/?x=90#post9785911)
I think the fact that you've attempted to answer these on your own as a "new quitter" to KTC is commendable. In fact, I did the exact same thing pretty early in my quit as well. It made sense to me to make this analysis for myself because I knew I'd failed so many times on my own, and I wanted to be as sure a I could that I would be successful. Keep up the great work, and don't be afraid to reach out when you're struggling!!!