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Title: 16 years a slave.
Post by: sXeProspect on May 19, 2015, 06:59:00 PM
I've been dipping since I was 13. I'm 29 now, so that's 16 years of my life that could have been spent pursuing my passions, or building a stable home. Instead, I took the easy way out and spent my youth hiding behind a crutch. None of my friends knew, and I kept it a secret from most of my family. I've lived a double life. There was the version of myself that was hard-working and fun to around, and then there was the covert ops ninja dipper version that was lazy and not so much fun to be around.

I'm tired of it, so after looking around on the main KTC site, I've decided to quit. There's no more dip, empty tins, or old spitters in my home. All that's left now is to take it day by day and keep myself accountable. I know what I'm in for, and I know what I'll be going through, but I've made my mind up. Cravings be damned.
Title: Re: 16 years a slave.
Post by: pab1964 on May 19, 2015, 07:06:00 PM
Welcome to freedom! Get on here post roll and let's get you some badass quit going! I can assure this shit will be a whole lot easier with all these badass quitters helping you. We've all tried to quit several times on are own,but not long after fingering the can! Doesn't work like that here, we post roll meaning I'm a man of my word and today the next 24 hour's I promise my brother's and sister's I will use no nicotine of any source and then wake up Piss and post again. Come on in the next moves your's! I quit with you today!
Title: Re: 16 years a slave.
Post by: Landdon on May 19, 2015, 07:14:00 PM
Nice! We need your kind of attitude! Read the Welcome Center thread, and join your group and post roll. Your group I believe is August. Introduce yourself to your new quit family. Remember, Wake, Roll, Repeat. I quit with you!
Title: Re: 16 years a slave.
Post by: sXeProspect on May 19, 2015, 07:22:00 PM
Thanks y'all. I just posted roll, and it really feels good to know that I'm not alone in this fight.
Title: Re: 16 years a slave.
Post by: pab1964 on May 19, 2015, 07:28:00 PM
Quote from: sXeProspect
Thanks y'all. I just posted roll, and it really feels good to know that I'm not alone in this fight.
As long as you post roll, you will never be alone in this battle my friend! Great job posting, now do it again in the morning Odaat (one day at a time ) EDD! ( every damn day )
Title: Re: 16 years a slave.
Post by: cmro79 on May 19, 2015, 09:50:00 PM
welcome to the group. I started at 13 like you did. 15 years of the bitch. I'm about a week into my quit. still a struggle at times but the fog seems to be lifting. stay strong. stay true. stay quit. check your pm inbox
Title: Re: 16 years a slave.
Post by: Air Force ADDICT on May 19, 2015, 10:41:00 PM
Welcome to the family dude. The struggle is REAL but so are the QUITTERS on this site so we'll stand beside you every step of the way. Quit on!
Title: Re: 16 years a slave.
Post by: CastleHusky on May 20, 2015, 03:24:00 AM
Welcome aboard buddy. Post roll every day and constantly remind yourself why you want to embrace the hard-working/fun guy and leave the lazy ninja dipper behind. Quit with you.
Title: Re: 16 years a slave.
Post by: Landdon on May 20, 2015, 05:08:00 AM
So glad you posted roll! It's the first step and you're on your way!!
Title: Re: 16 years a slave.
Post by: Tannzor on May 23, 2015, 01:36:00 PM
Where did you go??
Title: Re: 16 years a slave.
Post by: Wt57 on May 23, 2015, 10:35:00 PM
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Where did you go??
'blowup'
Title: Re: 16 years a slave.
Post by: sXeProspect on August 29, 2015, 02:56:00 PM
Sorry I suddenly dropped off the face of the forum, but I failed. I continued to struggle until I eventually quit on my own back in June, and have been going strong since then. I'm almost 90 days nic free.
Title: Re: 16 years a slave.
Post by: Its_Got2Happen on August 30, 2015, 08:09:00 AM
Quote from: sXeProspect
Sorry I suddenly dropped off the face of the forum, but I failed. I continued to struggle until I eventually quit on my own back in June, and have been going strong since then. I'm almost 90 days nic free.
Hopefully you understand that nic is not a crutch. It is an anchor. Congrats on 90 days. I suggest you post roll and join the brotherhood. Unless you are in the extreme minority and don't need accountability. :scowick:
Title: Re: 16 years a slave.
Post by: pab1964 on August 30, 2015, 10:08:00 AM
Quote from: Its_Got2Happen
Quote from: sXeProspect
Sorry I suddenly dropped off the face of the forum, but I failed. I continued to struggle until I eventually quit on my own back in June, and have been going strong since then. I'm almost 90 days nic free.
Hopefully you understand that nic is not a crutch. It is an anchor. Congrats on 90 days. I suggest you post roll and join the brotherhood. Unless you are in the extreme minority and don't need accountability. :scowick:
Good luck with your quit adventure. 2 minutes a day for all this support, seems to be sure worth it! Come on back it's damn sure worth it!
Title: Re: 16 years a slave.
Post by: sXeProspect on September 16, 2015, 06:02:00 PM
I do appreciate the invitation, but I am doing more than fine on my own. It's been 100 days since I made the decision to quit. Time flies.
Title: Re: 16 years a slave.
Post by: invader on September 16, 2015, 06:19:00 PM
Quote from: sXeProspect
I do appreciate the invitation, but I am doing more than fine on my own. It's been 100 days since I made the decision to quit. Time flies.
Well done on the 100 days. I'm both happy for your success, yet saddened to see whatever wisdom you've accumulated in your quit won't be shared with members of your group or the newcomers to this site. I'm curious as to what your aversion to joining in with your group is.

I'll understand if you are doing fine on your own, truly, but I'm afraid I'm not seeing a particular downside to making lifelong friends and sharing in a common bond with some of the finest men and women you'll ever meet. I also do not see how the addition of added accountability is ever a bad thing. To me, that's like a builder offering to hurricane-proof your house for free, and you saying "No thanks, the aluminum siding is holding up great."

Oh well, c'est la vie. Glad to hear things are going good for you.
Title: Re: 16 years a slave.
Post by: pab1964 on September 16, 2015, 07:03:00 PM
Quote from: invader
Quote from: sXeProspect
I do appreciate the invitation, but I am doing more than fine on my own. It's been 100 days since I made the decision to quit. Time flies.
Well done on the 100 days. I'm both happy for your success, yet saddened to see whatever wisdom you've accumulated in your quit won't be shared with members of your group or the newcomers to this site. I'm curious as to what your aversion to joining in with your group is.

I'll understand if you are doing fine on your own, truly, but I'm afraid I'm not seeing a particular downside to making lifelong friends and sharing in a common bond with some of the finest men and women you'll ever meet. I also do not see how the addition of added accountability is ever a bad thing. To me, that's like a builder offering to hurricane-proof your house for free, and you saying "No thanks, the aluminum siding is holding up great."

Oh well, c'est la vie. Glad to hear things are going good for you.
Goodluck and continued success! Keep this site bookmarked got a feeling you may need it later,hopefully not. Buhbye!
Title: Re: 16 years a slave.
Post by: sXeProspect on September 28, 2015, 10:24:00 PM
Quote from: invader
Quote from: sXeProspect
I do appreciate the invitation, but I am doing more than fine on my own. It's been 100 days since I made the decision to quit. Time flies.
Well done on the 100 days. I'm both happy for your success, yet saddened to see whatever wisdom you've accumulated in your quit won't be shared with members of your group or the newcomers to this site. I'm curious as to what your aversion to joining in with your group is.

I'll understand if you are doing fine on your own, truly, but I'm afraid I'm not seeing a particular downside to making lifelong friends and sharing in a common bond with some of the finest men and women you'll ever meet. I also do not see how the addition of added accountability is ever a bad thing. To me, that's like a builder offering to hurricane-proof your house for free, and you saying "No thanks, the aluminum siding is holding up great."

Oh well, c'est la vie. Glad to hear things are going good for you.
I actually tried the KTC thing. I think it's great, but it wasn't for me. For me, my decision to quit was about reinventing myself in some way. I knew if I was constantly reminded of what I was giving up, the temptation would be that much harder to resist. To be completely truthful, I started going for walks every evening. I mostly dipped at night, so changing things up definitely helped. The worst part was constantly arguing with myself every time I went out. My brain seriously messed with me during the first two weeks, but eventually those nagging reminders and cravings quieted down enough for me to start building new habits. Walking led to running, and I'm a lot less moody. The only downside I can think of is that I get upset and angry over little things. I reckon all the years of numbing my stresses and worries has left me feeling more emotionally vulnerable.

I'm backsliding a bit, though. I'm staying clean from dip no matter what, but I have been abusing caffeine and I've been neglecting the exercise of late. I've been in a rut, really, but things are looking up.
Title: Re: 16 years a slave.
Post by: KingNothing on September 28, 2015, 10:49:00 PM
Quote from: sXeProspect
Quote from: invader
Quote from: sXeProspect
I do appreciate the invitation, but I am doing more than fine on my own. It's been 100 days since I made the decision to quit. Time flies.
Well done on the 100 days. I'm both happy for your success, yet saddened to see whatever wisdom you've accumulated in your quit won't be shared with members of your group or the newcomers to this site. I'm curious as to what your aversion to joining in with your group is.

I'll understand if you are doing fine on your own, truly, but I'm afraid I'm not seeing a particular downside to making lifelong friends and sharing in a common bond with some of the finest men and women you'll ever meet. I also do not see how the addition of added accountability is ever a bad thing. To me, that's like a builder offering to hurricane-proof your house for free, and you saying "No thanks, the aluminum siding is holding up great."

Oh well, c'est la vie. Glad to hear things are going good for you.
I actually tried the KTC thing. I think it's great, but it wasn't for me. For me, my decision to quit was about reinventing myself in some way. I knew if I was constantly reminded of what I was giving up, the temptation would be that much harder to resist. To be completely truthful, I started going for walks every evening. I mostly dipped at night, so changing things up definitely helped. The worst part was constantly arguing with myself every time I went out. My brain seriously messed with me during the first two weeks, but eventually those nagging reminders and cravings quieted down enough for me to start building new habits. Walking led to running, and I'm a lot less moody. The only downside I can think of is that I get upset and angry over little things. I reckon all the years of numbing my stresses and worries has left me feeling more emotionally vulnerable.

I'm backsliding a bit, though. I'm staying clean from dip no matter what, but I have been abusing caffeine and I've been neglecting the exercise of late. I've been in a rut, really, but things are looking up.
Glad you're still quit sXe. Congrats on making it on your own, but know that we will be here supporting each other and you if change your mind.
Title: Re: 16 years a slave.
Post by: sXeProspect on October 10, 2015, 05:40:00 PM
Quote from: KingNothing
Quote from: sXeProspect
Quote from: invader
Quote from: sXeProspect
I do appreciate the invitation, but I am doing more than fine on my own. It's been 100 days since I made the decision to quit. Time flies.
Well done on the 100 days. I'm both happy for your success, yet saddened to see whatever wisdom you've accumulated in your quit won't be shared with members of your group or the newcomers to this site. I'm curious as to what your aversion to joining in with your group is.

I'll understand if you are doing fine on your own, truly, but I'm afraid I'm not seeing a particular downside to making lifelong friends and sharing in a common bond with some of the finest men and women you'll ever meet. I also do not see how the addition of added accountability is ever a bad thing. To me, that's like a builder offering to hurricane-proof your house for free, and you saying "No thanks, the aluminum siding is holding up great."

Oh well, c'est la vie. Glad to hear things are going good for you.
I actually tried the KTC thing. I think it's great, but it wasn't for me. For me, my decision to quit was about reinventing myself in some way. I knew if I was constantly reminded of what I was giving up, the temptation would be that much harder to resist. To be completely truthful, I started going for walks every evening. I mostly dipped at night, so changing things up definitely helped. The worst part was constantly arguing with myself every time I went out. My brain seriously messed with me during the first two weeks, but eventually those nagging reminders and cravings quieted down enough for me to start building new habits. Walking led to running, and I'm a lot less moody. The only downside I can think of is that I get upset and angry over little things. I reckon all the years of numbing my stresses and worries has left me feeling more emotionally vulnerable.

I'm backsliding a bit, though. I'm staying clean from dip no matter what, but I have been abusing caffeine and I've been neglecting the exercise of late. I've been in a rut, really, but things are looking up.
Glad you're still quit sXe. Congrats on making it on your own, but know that we will be here supporting each other and you if change your mind.
I have a confession to make: I caved. After 123 days, I caved. I have no excuse - I just did it. To be honest, I did not enjoy it. I feel shitty for doing it, and I am going to do everything I can to prevent it from happening again. I'm not looking for sympathy or support - I made a mistake and I am owning up to it.
Title: Re: 16 years a slave.
Post by: eyehatecope on October 10, 2015, 06:11:00 PM
Back to square one. Suck it up and quit again. Stay quit. Get on here and reach out to people when you need it and be there when they need you. Commit!!!!!!!!!!
Title: Re: 16 years a slave.
Post by: KingNothing on October 10, 2015, 06:34:00 PM
Quote from: sXeProspect
Quote from: KingNothing
Quote from: sXeProspect
Quote from: invader
Quote from: sXeProspect
I do appreciate the invitation, but I am doing more than fine on my own. It's been 100 days since I made the decision to quit. Time flies.
Well done on the 100 days. I'm both happy for your success, yet saddened to see whatever wisdom you've accumulated in your quit won't be shared with members of your group or the newcomers to this site. I'm curious as to what your aversion to joining in with your group is.

I'll understand if you are doing fine on your own, truly, but I'm afraid I'm not seeing a particular downside to making lifelong friends and sharing in a common bond with some of the finest men and women you'll ever meet. I also do not see how the addition of added accountability is ever a bad thing. To me, that's like a builder offering to hurricane-proof your house for free, and you saying "No thanks, the aluminum siding is holding up great."

Oh well, c'est la vie. Glad to hear things are going good for you.
I actually tried the KTC thing. I think it's great, but it wasn't for me. For me, my decision to quit was about reinventing myself in some way. I knew if I was constantly reminded of what I was giving up, the temptation would be that much harder to resist. To be completely truthful, I started going for walks every evening. I mostly dipped at night, so changing things up definitely helped. The worst part was constantly arguing with myself every time I went out. My brain seriously messed with me during the first two weeks, but eventually those nagging reminders and cravings quieted down enough for me to start building new habits. Walking led to running, and I'm a lot less moody. The only downside I can think of is that I get upset and angry over little things. I reckon all the years of numbing my stresses and worries has left me feeling more emotionally vulnerable.

I'm backsliding a bit, though. I'm staying clean from dip no matter what, but I have been abusing caffeine and I've been neglecting the exercise of late. I've been in a rut, really, but things are looking up.
Glad you're still quit sXe. Congrats on making it on your own, but know that we will be here supporting each other and you if change your mind.
I have a confession to make: I caved. After 123 days, I caved. I have no excuse - I just did it. To be honest, I did not enjoy it. I feel shitty for doing it, and I am going to do everything I can to prevent it from happening again. I'm not looking for sympathy or support - I made a mistake and I am owning up to it.
Let's try posting roll this time. That may just be the bump you need to get over the top. Maybe KTC really is onto something??
Title: Re: 16 years a slave.
Post by: pab1964 on October 10, 2015, 07:47:00 PM
Quote from: KingNothing
Quote from: sXeProspect
Quote from: KingNothing
Quote from: sXeProspect
Quote from: invader
Quote from: sXeProspect
I do appreciate the invitation, but I am doing more than fine on my own. It's been 100 days since I made the decision to quit. Time flies.
Well done on the 100 days. I'm both happy for your success, yet saddened to see whatever wisdom you've accumulated in your quit won't be shared with members of your group or the newcomers to this site. I'm curious as to what your aversion to joining in with your group is.

I'll understand if you are doing fine on your own, truly, but I'm afraid I'm not seeing a particular downside to making lifelong friends and sharing in a common bond with some of the finest men and women you'll ever meet. I also do not see how the addition of added accountability is ever a bad thing. To me, that's like a builder offering to hurricane-proof your house for free, and you saying "No thanks, the aluminum siding is holding up great."

Oh well, c'est la vie. Glad to hear things are going good for you.
I actually tried the KTC thing. I think it's great, but it wasn't for me. For me, my decision to quit was about reinventing myself in some way. I knew if I was constantly reminded of what I was giving up, the temptation would be that much harder to resist. To be completely truthful, I started going for walks every evening. I mostly dipped at night, so changing things up definitely helped. The worst part was constantly arguing with myself every time I went out. My brain seriously messed with me during the first two weeks, but eventually those nagging reminders and cravings quieted down enough for me to start building new habits. Walking led to running, and I'm a lot less moody. The only downside I can think of is that I get upset and angry over little things. I reckon all the years of numbing my stresses and worries has left me feeling more emotionally vulnerable.

I'm backsliding a bit, though. I'm staying clean from dip no matter what, but I have been abusing caffeine and I've been neglecting the exercise of late. I've been in a rut, really, but things are looking up.
Glad you're still quit sXe. Congrats on making it on your own, but know that we will be here supporting each other and you if change your mind.
I have a confession to make: I caved. After 123 days, I caved. I have no excuse - I just did it. To be honest, I did not enjoy it. I feel shitty for doing it, and I am going to do everything I can to prevent it from happening again. I'm not looking for sympathy or support - I made a mistake and I am owning up to it.
Let's try posting roll this time. That may just be the bump you need to get over the top. Maybe KTC really is onto something??
My invitation still stands! Only thing it sucks to go through suck again but at least you know what to expect!
Title: Re: 16 years a slave.
Post by: Stranger999 on October 11, 2015, 12:45:00 AM
Quote from: sXeProspect
Quote from: KingNothing
Quote from: sXeProspect
Quote from: invader
Quote from: sXeProspect
I do appreciate the invitation, but I am doing more than fine on my own. It's been 100 days since I made the decision to quit. Time flies.
Well done on the 100 days. I'm both happy for your success, yet saddened to see whatever wisdom you've accumulated in your quit won't be shared with members of your group or the newcomers to this site. I'm curious as to what your aversion to joining in with your group is.

I'll understand if you are doing fine on your own, truly, but I'm afraid I'm not seeing a particular downside to making lifelong friends and sharing in a common bond with some of the finest men and women you'll ever meet. I also do not see how the addition of added accountability is ever a bad thing. To me, that's like a builder offering to hurricane-proof your house for free, and you saying "No thanks, the aluminum siding is holding up great."

Oh well, c'est la vie. Glad to hear things are going good for you.
I actually tried the KTC thing. I think it's great, but it wasn't for me. For me, my decision to quit was about reinventing myself in some way. I knew if I was constantly reminded of what I was giving up, the temptation would be that much harder to resist. To be completely truthful, I started going for walks every evening. I mostly dipped at night, so changing things up definitely helped. The worst part was constantly arguing with myself every time I went out. My brain seriously messed with me during the first two weeks, but eventually those nagging reminders and cravings quieted down enough for me to start building new habits. Walking led to running, and I'm a lot less moody. The only downside I can think of is that I get upset and angry over little things. I reckon all the years of numbing my stresses and worries has left me feeling more emotionally vulnerable.

I'm backsliding a bit, though. I'm staying clean from dip no matter what, but I have been abusing caffeine and I've been neglecting the exercise of late. I've been in a rut, really, but things are looking up.
Glad you're still quit sXe. Congrats on making it on your own, but know that we will be here supporting each other and you if change your mind.
I have a confession to make: I caved. After 123 days, I caved. I have no excuse - I just did it. To be honest, I did not enjoy it. I feel shitty for doing it, and I am going to do everything I can to prevent it from happening again. I'm not looking for sympathy or support - I made a mistake and I am owning up to it.
I did not see a roll post in January 16 so you certainly are not doing everything you can to prevent it from happening again.

This website isn't about status reports. It is about quitting nicotine one day at a time every damn day.

I'm sorry that you are using nicotine again and I am not offering you any sympathy or support - you said you don't want that anyway. The funny thing is that you will get both of those things when we see you on a roll call here actually quitting.

The choice is yours. You can keep posting status reports but I would rather see you actually quit.
Title: Re: 16 years a slave.
Post by: Stranger999 on October 11, 2015, 01:42:00 AM
And you said you felt shitty for caving. At that moment did you feel like you were letting hundreds of people down? Would you not have caved if you thought your were letting hundreds of people down?

Having connections makes all the difference. I've tried to quit by myself a lot of times and the one constant about those quits was that I always failed.

This time I am quitting with others and I won't let those other folks down.
Title: Re: 16 years a slave.
Post by: Jerk11 on October 11, 2015, 07:08:00 PM
Quote from: sXeProspect
I do appreciate the invitation, but I am doing more than fine on my own. It's been 100 days since I made the decision to quit. Time flies.
How are you doing now? OHHHH. You caved!? How did that slice of Humble Pie taste?

It irritates me when people cave, but you never really caved since you never Posted Roll. You never quit either. How did you let Nicotine outsmart you? It has an IQ of zero. Your reflections and insights made me think you are a very intelligent person. Maybe you are. And it seemed from afar that you had plenty of self-control and discipline to stay off this drug. But, then again, you are an ADDICT like all of us.

ADDICTS need checks and balances. This is that part where we lift you when you need carried and we call you on your shit when we hear ADDICT speak spewed from your mouth like Dip Spit.

ADDICTS need structure. This is that part about Posting Roll every day when you wake in the morning. Every day. And when you can't post yourself due to unforeseen, emergency circumstances-- you text someone to pick you up.

ADDICTS need hope. Hope that life is great without our best friend Mr. Dip Can, and even better poison-free. This is that part where you share your successes: beating those craves early on, learning to do something without it in your mouth, getting to 100 days, getting to 200, 1000, etc.

Above all.... ADDICTS need TRUTH. Being fed LIES by big tobacco for years has distorted our minds and thought process. I would have never dreamed as a kid that I would need mint flavored poison in my mouth to finish homework or make a tough putt. That is not only a huge lie, but insane. We are insane addicts that, prior to Quitting for good, were not used to the TRUTH.

You have the power to swallow your pride, Post a Day 1, embrace KTC and the Truth, and re-write your story.
We will be here quitting and enjoying Life in the meantime, sXe.