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Community => Introductions => Topic started by: WNM on April 02, 2013, 02:12:00 AM
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Hello,
I found this group tonight/this morning after a very intense fight with my Wife. I have been dipping Copenhagen since I was nine years old and a school friends older brother thought it would be funny to see me get sick if I tried it. He was very suprised when I liked it and have been dipping ever since. I am now 43 years old and I have a dip in all the time. I only use about 1 can a day but I keep a pinc in for quite awhile befor replacing it. This year the company I worked for decided that tobacco users were going to pay more for their health insurance and again my wife suggested I should quit. We were given until the end of the 1st quarter and I said no problem. Well here we are and guess what...PROBLEM! My wife actually took the can I had hid in the basement and after a long argument I went to the store and bought a new can. So I am typing this from my couch which is where I will be trying to sleep tonight, I literally just spit out my last dip, dumped the new can and the partial that was thrown at me befor my Wife went to bed. Glad to be here and look foward to getting to know some more people like me. Sorry this is all over the place but I am a little stessed out right now.
WNM
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Dude, I konw where you are comming from. I'm on Day 1 of my first committed quit through this site. Tried a bunch of times on my own because the wife wanted me to, but inevitably, I owuld backslide, try to hide it, she would find out, and we'd be back in a fight. Best advice I ever got was that if you are serious about quitting it has to be for you. Can't be for the wife or the health insurance (though those are some good added benifits), but if you want to truly quit and stay quit, it needs to be for a better you first and foremost! Stay strong in the fight brother!
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Hello,
I found this group tonight/this morning after a very intense fight with my Wife. I have been dipping Copenhagen since I was nine years old and a school friends older brother thought it would be funny to see me get sick if I tried it. He was very suprised when I liked it and have been dipping ever since. I am now 43 years old and I have a dip in all the time. I only use about 1 can a day but I keep a pinc in for quite awhile befor replacing it. This year the company I worked for decided that tobacco users were going to pay more for their health insurance and again my wife suggested I should quit. We were given until the end of the 1st quarter and I said no problem. Well here we are and guess what...PROBLEM! My wife actually took the can I had hid in the basement and after a long argument I went to the store and bought a new can. So I am typing this from my couch which is where I will be trying to sleep tonight, I literally just spit out my last dip, dumped the new can and the partial that was thrown at me befor my Wife went to bed. Glad to be here and look foward to getting to know some more people like me. Sorry this is all over the place but I am a little stessed out right now.
WNM
Prove me wrong, but nothing you said in your intro proved to me that you are quitting for YOU!! Don't discount the difference between quitting for the wife or insurance or a lower incisor. You have to quit for you. I've been here long enough to know that it will never work if you quit for the wife or an insurance premium. You'll resent both. Tell us why you want to quit, leaving out wife and insurance. I'll quit with you every fucking day, but you have to give us reasons a little more personal to why you actually want to quit for YOU!
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Hello,
I found this group tonight/this morning after a very intense fight with my Wife. I have been dipping Copenhagen since I was nine years old and a school friends older brother thought it would be funny to see me get sick if I tried it. He was very suprised when I liked it and have been dipping ever since. I am now 43 years old and I have a dip in all the time. I only use about 1 can a day but I keep a pinc in for quite awhile befor replacing it. This year the company I worked for decided that tobacco users were going to pay more for their health insurance and again my wife suggested I should quit. We were given until the end of the 1st quarter and I said no problem. Well here we are and guess what...PROBLEM! My wife actually took the can I had hid in the basement and after a long argument I went to the store and bought a new can. So I am typing this from my couch which is where I will be trying to sleep tonight, I literally just spit out my last dip, dumped the new can and the partial that was thrown at me befor my Wife went to bed. Glad to be here and look foward to getting to know some more people like me. Sorry this is all over the place but I am a little stessed out right now.
WNM
Glad to have you here. First off you will want to read the Welcome Center (http://forum.killthecan.org/index.php?showforum=13)
Then get your butt over to July Pre-HOF class (http://forum.killthecan.org/index.php?showtopic=8025) and post roll. FYI-We post roll EVERYDAY. That is your promise to me you will not use for today. I will post my support for you as well. None of that forever bullshit, today only. Sometimes even that is too long so if you need too quit for this minute, hour, or second.
You need to make sure you are quitting for the right reasons also. Make sure you are quitting for you. That way you have no reason to take any of your frustrations out on your wife. It will suck for a bit, but I promise you that it does get better.
The next 3 days you body will be going through a detox process, so make sure you are drinking plenty of water. Grab some seeds, gum (non nicotine), candy, toothpicks, whatever you need to keep that shit out of your mouth.
Copenhagen user for 22 years here, yea we know what you are going through.
Freedom is not free, but it is worth every minute.
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Drink lots of water, read this site, post roll, honor your promise for today, repeat tomorrow. That's quit.
Simple. Not always easy though.
No magic. No shortcuts.
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Hello,
I found this group tonight/this morning after a very intense fight with my Wife. I have been dipping Copenhagen since I was nine years old and a school friends older brother thought it would be funny to see me get sick if I tried it. He was very suprised when I liked it and have been dipping ever since. I am now 43 years old and I have a dip in all the time. I only use about 1 can a day but I keep a pinc in for quite awhile befor replacing it. This year the company I worked for decided that tobacco users were going to pay more for their health insurance and again my wife suggested I should quit. We were given until the end of the 1st quarter and I said no problem. Well here we are and guess what...PROBLEM! My wife actually took the can I had hid in the basement and after a long argument I went to the store and bought a new can. So I am typing this from my couch which is where I will be trying to sleep tonight, I literally just spit out my last dip, dumped the new can and the partial that was thrown at me befor my Wife went to bed. Glad to be here and look foward to getting to know some more people like me. Sorry this is all over the place but I am a little stessed out right now.
WNM
Prove me wrong, but nothing you said in your intro proved to me that you are quitting for YOU!! Don't discount the difference between quitting for the wife or insurance or a lower incisor. You have to quit for you. I've been here long enough to know that it will never work if you quit for the wife or an insurance premium. You'll resent both. Tell us why you want to quit, leaving out wife and insurance. I'll quit with you every fucking day, but you have to give us reasons a little more personal to why you actually want to quit for YOU!
I've had enough! This is ruining my entire life. I WANT to quit to turn my life around, not because my wife wants me too.
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Hello,
I found this group tonight/this morning after a very intense fight with my Wife. I have been dipping Copenhagen since I was nine years old and a school friends older brother thought it would be funny to see me get sick if I tried it. He was very suprised when I liked it and have been dipping ever since. I am now 43 years old and I have a dip in all the time. I only use about 1 can a day but I keep a pinc in for quite awhile befor replacing it. This year the company I worked for decided that tobacco users were going to pay more for their health insurance and again my wife suggested I should quit. We were given until the end of the 1st quarter and I said no problem. Well here we are and guess what...PROBLEM! My wife actually took the can I had hid in the basement and after a long argument I went to the store and bought a new can. So I am typing this from my couch which is where I will be trying to sleep tonight, I literally just spit out my last dip, dumped the new can and the partial that was thrown at me befor my Wife went to bed. Glad to be here and look foward to getting to know some more people like me. Sorry this is all over the place but I am a little stessed out right now.
WNM
Prove me wrong, but nothing you said in your intro proved to me that you are quitting for YOU!! Don't discount the difference between quitting for the wife or insurance or a lower incisor. You have to quit for you. I've been here long enough to know that it will never work if you quit for the wife or an insurance premium. You'll resent both. Tell us why you want to quit, leaving out wife and insurance. I'll quit with you every fucking day, but you have to give us reasons a little more personal to why you actually want to quit for YOU!
I've had enough! This is ruining my entire life. I WANT to quit to turn my life around, not because my wife wants me too.
WNM, Then do it, own your quit man! All we ask is that you post up once per day a promise that you wont use for one day, then do it again the next day. Anyone can quit anything for one day right?
Get your shit together, your seeds, your gum your water your candy your fake chew whatever you need and man up and get through the next few days Have your wife read this site, get your spouse behind you. But man this has to be for you! Go get it.
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welcome to the neighborhood WMN
I see there has already been alot of information sent to you in the thread here.
read it, become familiar with it
And remember that the situation that you are in, is because of you. If you ever feel the rage, the anger as the emotions you will have in the next couple of weeks, get on here into the chat room and take it out on us, and not the wife. As you probably do not want that arguement again and do not want to be comfortable on the couch.
Now I say neighborhood above. treat the site here and your quit group as a new nice neighborhood that you have moved into, watch out for your brother here (just reading the roll to see if anyone is having a hard time). Shoot them a message to how your support of them and I will promise you it will be reciprocated when you need it. Also exchange numbers with one another so you can speak directly when its needed (or texting).
Reaching out for help is not a sign of weakness, it is a sign of wisdom. We here are a brotherhood and welcome you with open arms.
yell if you need anything
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Hello,
I found this group tonight/this morning after a very intense fight with my Wife. I have been dipping Copenhagen since I was nine years old and a school friends older brother thought it would be funny to see me get sick if I tried it. He was very suprised when I liked it and have been dipping ever since. I am now 43 years old and I have a dip in all the time. I only use about 1 can a day but I keep a pinc in for quite awhile befor replacing it. This year the company I worked for decided that tobacco users were going to pay more for their health insurance and again my wife suggested I should quit. We were given until the end of the 1st quarter and I said no problem. Well here we are and guess what...PROBLEM! My wife actually took the can I had hid in the basement and after a long argument I went to the store and bought a new can. So I am typing this from my couch which is where I will be trying to sleep tonight, I literally just spit out my last dip, dumped the new can and the partial that was thrown at me befor my Wife went to bed. Glad to be here and look foward to getting to know some more people like me. Sorry this is all over the place but I am a little stessed out right now.
WNM
Prove me wrong, but nothing you said in your intro proved to me that you are quitting for YOU!! Don't discount the difference between quitting for the wife or insurance or a lower incisor. You have to quit for you. I've been here long enough to know that it will never work if you quit for the wife or an insurance premium. You'll resent both. Tell us why you want to quit, leaving out wife and insurance. I'll quit with you every fucking day, but you have to give us reasons a little more personal to why you actually want to quit for YOU!
I've had enough! This is ruining my entire life. I WANT to quit to turn my life around, not because my wife wants me too.
WNM, Then do it, own your quit man! All we ask is that you post up once per day a promise that you wont use for one day, then do it again the next day. Anyone can quit anything for one day right?
Get your shit together, your seeds, your gum your water your candy your fake chew whatever you need and man up and get through the next few days Have your wife read this site, get your spouse behind you. But man this has to be for you! Go get it.
It's simple brother, wake up every morning and make the decision not to put nicotine into your body. Don't over complicate it, don't listen when the nic bitch whispers in your ear that "you need a dip right now", you'd don't! Wake up, post roll, stay quit. That is your new daily routine. Pm me if you need anything
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I've had enough! This is ruining my entire life. I WANT to quit to turn my life around, not because my wife wants me too.
That sounds a little better.
"WANT"
You have to want to be quit. There is no hope or luck here. You have already gotten a lot of solid advice here. Take it one day at a time. Post Roll, make your promise to not use nic in any way shape or form TODAY, and keep your word.
When you get a crave fight it as if your life depended on it, because it actually does. Use seeds, gum, candy, toothpicks, tea bags, fake dip, whatever it takes. Personally, logging in here and reading Intros and HOF speeches was always an easy way to kill a crave. Get into Live Chat if possible and get to meet some of these guys on a personal level. They will save your life.
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Hello,
I found this group tonight/this morning after a very intense fight with my Wife. I have been dipping Copenhagen since I was nine years old and a school friends older brother thought it would be funny to see me get sick if I tried it. He was very suprised when I liked it and have been dipping ever since. I am now 43 years old and I have a dip in all the time. I only use about 1 can a day but I keep a pinc in for quite awhile befor replacing it. This year the company I worked for decided that tobacco users were going to pay more for their health insurance and again my wife suggested I should quit. We were given until the end of the 1st quarter and I said no problem. Well here we are and guess what...PROBLEM! My wife actually took the can I had hid in the basement and after a long argument I went to the store and bought a new can. So I am typing this from my couch which is where I will be trying to sleep tonight, I literally just spit out my last dip, dumped the new can and the partial that was thrown at me befor my Wife went to bed. Glad to be here and look foward to getting to know some more people like me. Sorry this is all over the place but I am a little stessed out right now.
WNM
Prove me wrong, but nothing you said in your intro proved to me that you are quitting for YOU!! Don't discount the difference between quitting for the wife or insurance or a lower incisor. You have to quit for you. I've been here long enough to know that it will never work if you quit for the wife or an insurance premium. You'll resent both. Tell us why you want to quit, leaving out wife and insurance. I'll quit with you every fucking day, but you have to give us reasons a little more personal to why you actually want to quit for YOU!
I've had enough! This is ruining my entire life. I WANT to quit to turn my life around, not because my wife wants me too.
WNM, Then do it, own your quit man! All we ask is that you post up once per day a promise that you wont use for one day, then do it again the next day. Anyone can quit anything for one day right?
Get your shit together, your seeds, your gum your water your candy your fake chew whatever you need and man up and get through the next few days Have your wife read this site, get your spouse behind you. But man this has to be for you! Go get it.
It's simple brother, wake up every morning and make the decision not to put nicotine into your body. Don't over complicate it, don't listen when the nic bitch whispers in your ear that "you need a dip right now", you'd don't! Wake up, post roll, stay quit. That is your new daily routine. Pm me if you need anything
Being quit is like being pregnant. Either you are or you aren't. No fuckin gray area.
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Rapping up day 1 and I feel wierd. I've gone longer than this befor but I think I always knew I would go back. It feels different this time.
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I've had enough! This is ruining my entire life. I WANT to quit to turn my life around, not because my wife wants me too.
Correct. This (nic dependency) is ruining your life. It has ruined a shit load of otherwise great family times. It sent your out in the rain late at night for no good reason. It had you buying soda, just for the bottle. It holed you up in the bathroom for hours. It had you freaking out any time you felt something odd on your gums. When that something odd went away, it had you celebrate how? Yea...with a huge dip. etc, etc.
Dude, read everything you can on this site, and you will find a million better reasons to quit than health insurance premiums or the wife. Do it to end being a damn slave.
PS. I assume you meant to say "I WILL turn my life around, not because my wife wants me too, but because I want to."
Hang it there brother. You're situation is like MANY others on this site (27 years of Cope was my deal) It is hard. It is do-able.
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Rapping up day 1 and I feel wierd. I've gone longer than this befor but I think I always knew I would go back. It feels different this time.
This is some heavy shit bro. You've been chin dipping since Moby Dick was a minnow.
Its gonna feel weird. REAL fucking weird.
Your lucky though. You found us.
Look how many people, who don't know you from a cock in the ass, have offered some advice/support/tough love.
We aren't ghey, at least I'm not. We don't want get in your trousers, at least I don't...we want to help you QUIT. I know I do.
Post roll and promise to keep that shit out of your lip.
You want to have something between your cheeks and gum, stick a hot dog up your ass.
As of now your quit. Wake up tomorrow and post your promise to do it again. Then the next day and the next day and the next day and so on...
You feel "weird", confused , pissed, have questions, wanna bitch, complain, turn to us. We will help.
Freedom bro. Time to get yours back. Its been too long.
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Welcome to KTC bro. I'm sure right now you are going through hell, the nic bitch is doing everything she can to get you to cave......STAY STRONG! It does get better, and easier, if you stay quit. I'm 38 days off the shit myself, and I wouldn't have been able to do it without the support I've gotten here. Get involved, get numbers, get tough. Freedom from nicotine is amazing. Once you have been apart from the bitch for a while you will realize him much your addiction was running your day to day life. If you need anything you can pm me. QLF man...
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Thanks to everyone for the encouragement! Now starts day 2 an I'm feeling pretty good about it.
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Thanks to everyone for the encouragement! Now starts day 2 an I'm feeling pretty good about it.
Day 2 go get it. Remember be ready, water, snacks whatever. As the nic leaves your system, she is going to throw everything at you she has. We got your back reach out if you need something.
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Day 3 and my head is spinning.
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Thanks to everyone for the encouragement! Now starts day 2 an I'm feeling pretty good about it.
Day 2 go get it. Remember be ready, water, snacks whatever. As the nic leaves your system, she is going to throw everything at you she has. We got your back reach out if you need something.
Hang in there bro. ^^^what KK said for day 2. Go to Wal Mart for Smokey Mountain. Get some seeds. DRINK WATER A LOT. Stay close to KTC and read and rant. and when all else fails, man up and get through the day.
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Day 3 and my head is spinning.
Good news, the nic is on the way out brother!! Hang in there, keep this shit close, remember this feeling. Own your quit!
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Day 3 and my head is spinning.
Good news, the nic is on the way out brother!! Hang in there, keep this shit close, remember this feeling. Own your quit!
It sucks, and it will not last. the quit changes a lot after the initial physical withdrawal. Different temptations may arise, but you do not have to go through this more than once in your life, so stick with it, and with us, for we know you can do this thing, and will be strong in your quit too.
iquitchewing -100-
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Day 3 and my head is spinning.
Good news, the nic is on the way out brother!! Hang in there, keep this shit close, remember this feeling. Own your quit!
It sucks, and it will not last. the quit changes a lot after the initial physical withdrawal. Different temptations may arise, but you do not have to go through this more than once in your life, so stick with it, and with us, for we know you can do this thing, and will be strong in your quit too.
iquitchewing -100-
WNM, Remember the spinning....so that you don't have to spin again!! You can do this one a.m. at a time!!
I'll quit with you Today and any day that ends with a y.
Cheers! 'bang head'
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Day 4 and still going.
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Day 4 and still going.
Keep on going, it will get better!
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Day 4 and still going.
Keep on going, it will get better!
Day 4 man,, that's great. Now go outside and take a look around. Everything should look a little different to you now that nicotine isn't in your system. The cloud of nicotine should be gone or about gone. Your nicotine free brother, the way it should be. Your brain is now getting the oxygen it was intended to get. Find the tallest building, go to the top and tell the world i'm nicotine free,, take that nic bitch.
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Day 6 is almost gone and feeling pretty good.
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Day 6 is almost gone and feeling pretty good.
Bad to the BONE. Keep it up!!!!! You're gaining your freedom back. No better feeling in the entire world.
BELIEVE THAT!!!!