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Title: Intro Standing in the Door
Post by: LUNK173 on December 13, 2010, 08:25:00 PM
Made the decsion, close to retirement and now is the right time to quit. I am telling nobody around me because mentally it is my battle. I do realize that I am an addict and can't touch or replace it. I have been dippin for about 16yrs, started in the military and gonna end in the military. I have tried replacing it with cigars, redmann, tried the patch and the gumm and still back to it, it has kicked my ass and I will never be stronger than it. I am in control of me using it not it tempting me. I am pwerless against this demon, but I have the decision to quit or not. I hate 7 day soldiers ( 7 days in a weak) but in this case I am the weak one. I dont know about the future and will go day by day but for tonight I am dip free. Take Care and keep your feet and knees together...Oh yeah my bio, I am in New England, originally from Wisconsin, been in the Military 24yrs and have a wife and 2 great kids. GO PACK!
Title: Re: Intro Standing in the Door
Post by: SamCat!!! on December 13, 2010, 08:48:00 PM
Quote from: LUNK173
Made the decsion, close to retirement and now is the right time to quit. I am telling nobody around me because mentally it is my battle. I do realize that I am an addict and can't touch or replace it.  I have been dippin for about 16yrs, started in the military and gonna end in the military. I have tried replacing it with cigars, redmann, tried the patch and the gumm and still back to it, it has kicked my ass and I will never be stronger than it. I am in control of me using it not it tempting me. I am pwerless against this demon, but I have the decision to quit or not. I hate 7 day soldiers ( 7 days in a weak) but in this case I am the weak one. I dont know about the future and will go day by day but for tonight I am dip free.  Take Care and keep your feet and knees together...Oh yeah my bio, I am in New England, originally from Wisconsin, been in the Military 24yrs and have a wife and 2 great kids. GO PACK!
Welcome to the Suck!!! Ok, I must say that you have it right by concentrating on being Quit One Day at a Time. My only advice is that even though this is a personal mental battle that only you can fight...you should tell your family. It is a whole lot easier to fail and give into something if no one is looking and trusting in your word. By telling your Family that you are Quitting it leaves no room for an easy escape. You build accountability here with us at KTC by giving us your word everyday...thats all we can trust in. I'll give you my word and you give me yours...But the Accountability and support that you recieve from your Family is just as much needed. They need to know what you are going through and they will be more supportive to you. Gosh, Im really glad you are Quit but I really hope that you give thought to what I am trying to say... See you on the boards and Congratulations on your decision to Quit!!! PM me if you need anything...
SamCat...5o4!!!
Title: Re: Intro Standing in the Door
Post by: Greg5280 on December 13, 2010, 09:06:00 PM
Lunk,
Reading through your post you say you have tried to replace dipping by smoking, the patch, the pill whatever. What you need to understand is you are not addicted to dipping. You are addicted to the NICOTINE in the tobacco. You cannot "replace" it with another form of nicotine and quit. If you were an alcoholic and your drink was say Scotch you could not quit alcohol by drinking vodka instead. See what I mean ? Nicotine is the drug you are hooked on and to become free you must remove ALL nicotine from your body. No Smoking, no dipping, no patches, no gum, no snus, suppositories or whatever other delivery means has been invented these days. NO NIC is what we require !!

I will send you some information to get you stared. Make sure you read it all and understand what it is we do here. I am glad you are here, use the methods here and you WILL be quit.

Welcome to the party
Greg
Title: Re: Intro Standing in the Door
Post by: Greg5280 on December 13, 2010, 09:11:00 PM
Lunk,
Check your inbox ( 1 ) . Upper right corner...
Title: Re: Intro Standing in the Door
Post by: Sadjr111 on December 13, 2010, 10:10:00 PM
Quote from: LUNK173
Made the decsion, close to retirement and now is the right time to quit. I am telling nobody around me because mentally it is my battle. I do realize that I am an addict and can't touch or replace it. I have been dippin for about 16yrs, started in the military and gonna end in the military. I have tried replacing it with cigars, redmann, tried the patch and the gumm and still back to it, it has kicked my ass and I will never be stronger than it. I am in control of me using it not it tempting me. I am pwerless against this demon, but I have the decision to quit or not. I hate 7 day soldiers ( 7 days in a weak) but in this case I am the weak one. I dont know about the future and will go day by day but for tonight I am dip free. Take Care and keep your feet and knees together...Oh yeah my bio, I am in New England, originally from Wisconsin, been in the Military 24yrs and have a wife and 2 great kids. GO PACK!
Welcome lunk! Like you, I tried every form of nicotine to try to "quit" dipping. Like Greg5280 said it doesn't work and the only way we do it here is cold turkey. I'm still a noob here at 34 days quit. My best advise for you is to follow our program, post roll everyday, and take it one day at a time. Read everything on this site! If you need a number, send me a pm.
Title: Re: Intro Standing in the Door
Post by: brianl on December 14, 2010, 08:31:00 AM
Quote from: LUNK173
Made the decsion, close to retirement and now is the right time to quit. I am telling nobody around me because mentally it is my battle. I do realize that I am an addict and can't touch or replace it. I have been dippin for about 16yrs, started in the military and gonna end in the military. I have tried replacing it with cigars, redmann, tried the patch and the gumm and still back to it, it has kicked my ass and I will never be stronger than it. I am in control of me using it not it tempting me. I am pwerless against this demon, but I have the decision to quit or not. I hate 7 day soldiers ( 7 days in a weak) but in this case I am the weak one. I dont know about the future and will go day by day but for tonight I am dip free. Take Care and keep your feet and knees together...Oh yeah my bio, I am in New England, originally from Wisconsin, been in the Military 24yrs and have a wife and 2 great kids. GO PACK!
Welcome Lunk,

I'm a New Englander, born and raised here in MA.
Do yourself a favor and root for the Patriots this Sunday, save yourself the pain of rooting for the Pack.

Now, back to your Quit. IT'S ABOUT FUCKING TIME!!!
You can do this. How do I know? Because I'm doing it!!! I tried to Quit many times with the gum/lozenge/patch but it never worked. Always went back to the can. But then I found this site and it changed my life.
Read as much as you can, post roll every day.

PM me if I can be of any assistance, I'll gladly give you my cell# if you need it.

Also, thank you for your military service. I'm an Army man myself (20 years ago).

Brian
Title: Re: Intro Standing in the Door
Post by: kms on December 14, 2010, 11:22:00 AM
Just saw that you posted roll this morning. Glad you joined us. I'm right there with you  only on day 5. I'm a female who had been dipping in hiding for over 20 years (since in college). Although my family really knew it was something never talked about. This site along my family will make this my last quit. I've never gone 5 days without a dip in over 20 years. Feels good. But, for me the first 3 days were absolute living hell!! I didn't think I was going to make it. Texting the people on this site was the only thing that got me to day 4. Don't be afraid to use them. One of these days it will be us helping those that join after us.
Title: Re: Intro Standing in the Door
Post by: LUNK173 on December 14, 2010, 03:03:00 PM
Thank you all for the support, all I got to say is WOW! I have not seen this many people offering help outside of the communities that I have been in. Been a day so far can't tell you about tomorrow but can gaurantee the rest of the day will be Nicotine Free! I am very positive about tomorrow but only living for today!

Thanks alot for all the support so far, and I will be leaning outta my foxhole for help from time to time and its great knowing it is there. Thanks Again for today!

Brian: I will be the only one at Gillette with a cheesehead on, and no dip cup this time!

Thanks Again everyone! Its impressive!
Title: Re: Intro Standing in the Door
Post by: Bean on December 15, 2010, 05:49:00 AM
Stay strong, cheesehead!!! Early on, I Stayed glued to this site to fight craves. Read all you can, drink tons of water, and stay quit!
Title: Re: Intro Standing in the Door
Post by: LUNK173 on December 17, 2010, 06:22:00 PM
Bean: Thanks for the support, day 4, still good. Had a xmas party and a buddy try everything to get me to fall off the wagon, funny thing how a daily promise works, nice being a Alpha male. Thnks to all of you!
Title: Re: Intro Standing in the Door
Post by: Buckeye64 on December 17, 2010, 11:49:00 PM
Quote from: LUNK173
Bean: Thanks for the support, day 4, still good. Had a xmas party and a buddy try everything to get me to fall off the wagon, funny thing how a daily promise works, nice being a Alpha male. Thnks to all of you!
What a dick....I love those types. Stay away from the alcohol and you'll be fine. Continue to be the Alpha and congrats on your quit today. Lets dominate this shit together tomorrow.
Title: Re: Intro Standing in the Door
Post by: LUNK173 on December 18, 2010, 06:15:00 AM
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What a dick....I love those types. Stay away from the alcohol and you'll be fine.


Buckeye: He's my buddy and its kinda like little boys in grade school picking on girls if they don't like you they don't pick on you! A Recruiting/Infantry thing. I think he was genuinely thinking of quitting when he saw that I am. I am hnadeling it pretty good this time, I am just worried about when I head into the woods, or if I head over the big pond again. I see your a buckeye fan,my 2nd favorite team, sorry though I am from WI originally so a Badger fan. You take care and stay warm!
Title: Re: Intro Standing in the Door
Post by: jcook on December 18, 2010, 11:37:00 AM
Quote from: Buckeye64
Quote from: LUNK173
Bean: Thanks for the support, day 4, still good. Had a xmas party and a buddy try everything to get me to fall off the wagon, funny thing how a daily promise works, nice being a Alpha male.  Thnks to all of you!
What a dick....I love those types. Stay away from the alcohol and you'll be fine. Continue to be the Alpha and congrats on your quit today. Lets dominate this shit together tomorrow.
Let me add my encouragement!!! Keep being strong! Proud to be quit with you!
Title: Re: Intro Standing in the Door
Post by: Greg5280 on December 18, 2010, 08:47:00 PM
Quote from: jcook
Quote from: Buckeye64
Quote from: LUNK173
Bean: Thanks for the support, day 4, still good. Had a xmas party and a buddy try everything to get me to fall off the wagon, funny thing how a daily promise works, nice being a Alpha male.  Thnks to all of you!
What a dick....I love those types. Stay away from the alcohol and you'll be fine. Continue to be the Alpha and congrats on your quit today. Lets dominate this shit together tomorrow.
Let me add my encouragement!!! Keep being strong! Proud to be quit with you!
He wants to get you dipping again because he knows only the bad asses quit and he is not sure he can do it.

Your quit makes him feel bad so he wants to try to wreck it. Stay strong and Stay quit !!
Title: Re: Intro Standing in the Door
Post by: LUNK173 on August 26, 2011, 08:57:00 AM
Well I did it, fuc#ed up but ready to move on. It was a combination of things. One is me not posting wich was the biggest mistake of all, the second was not reaching out for advice and the third was thinking that I actually had control over my addiction and that I could handle alternate tobacco products (Cigars). Either way it all leaded me right back to the 'Bitch" and falling off the Quit train. Again I appoligize I let myself down foremost and my family second. Well I am ready to "RUCK THE FUCK UP!" and Rolling On!

Do not fear mistakes. You will know failure. Continue to reach out.
Benjamin Franklin
Title: Re: Intro Standing in the Door
Post by: Wild_Bill on August 26, 2011, 09:38:00 AM
Lunk,

It's the worst feeling when you fail at something. I've been there. Pick your head up, Post Roll Day One and QUIT!! I respect you maaning up the the community.

Quit just for today. You can do that. I tell you what. I will quit with you today.

whsii
Title: Re: Intro Standing in the Door
Post by: miles on August 26, 2011, 11:36:00 AM
Welcome back Lunk. Sorry to see anyone post a day one AGAIN. It's your life and your choice brother.
Title: Re: Intro Standing in the Door
Post by: Capt Kylos on August 26, 2011, 12:35:00 PM
Lunk,
While it is disappointing that you did not use the resources of this site and your original quit group it seems like you are ready to get back on the horse....post roll EVERY day and get numbers and USE them.....I'll support you...let's get this shit done.
Title: Re: Intro Standing in the Door
Post by: Bean on August 28, 2011, 11:48:00 PM
I hate to hear it, but I like what you said. There are some tough MF'ers on here that really get after folks who fail...I'm not one of them, but I want to stress this isn't a site for people justing giving it a shot.

If you are serious about your commitment, you will not fail. You would never try a cigar because you gave your word about NICOTINE!!! You would have exhausted all tools, all numbers, all chat rooms, etc.

Look, I'm not saying you're being flippant or taking this lightly, but what you need to ask yourself is what are you prepared to do differently this time?

Welcome back. Stay strong, stay quit. We're here for you so don't let us down!!!