Hey y'all I'm new in my quit Day 2 but still pushing on. I was wondering if y'all could give me some advice on that friend who continues to dip in front of you even after you say your done. He is a really good friend of mine and I don't wanna just stop hangin with him, but everytime he puts one in right in front of me it makes me want to take one. This has led to me failing many times. I know some of you Vets have been through this what should I do.
Post roll and honor your promise. You are only as good as your word. I know its hard because I dealt with something similar the first few months but it can be done.
By the way. Tell you friend that if he EVER offers you one you will punch him square in the nose. And follow through if you have to. The thing you should know is that he is likely jealous that you have the balls to quit an he doesn't. So he will probably try to sucker you in to dipping to make himself feel better. Don't fall for this shit.
Truth is man, you've got to limit the time you spend with this friend or he's got to understand your quit. If you're serious about your quit you'll use caution when hangin out with this friend. Like never drink with him (shouldn't drink at first anyways) if you're having a made crave day, stay away from him. It's not like yall are gay lovers or something, if he doesn't respect your quit then you'll have to stop hangin with him, PERIOD. Unless he is more important then your life, why don't you tell him to get his ass in here? Save his life too
I had a similar situation with my best friend. I actually posted that story in April 12 and it may be time to post it up in my Intro.
Anyways, to summarize the story, my best friend lives 2 hours away. He brought his family to visit about 3 weeks ago and I told him if I found his can lying around my house I would pour it down the drain. I also told him to ninja his dips out of respect for my quit. Guess what? When he showed up to my house he hadn't put a dip in since the day before. He's now 23 days quit.
Long story short, tell your friend how you feel and command respect for your quit. If he doesn't respect that, then he's not a friend, period.
all true words here, valentine.
i'll throw mine in too...
1. your quit needs to be your #1 priority.
2. you need to protect your quit at all costs. limit/eliminate alcohol, limit exposure to dippers, tell your friends to respect your quit, and especially tell your friends to watch your back.
3. if a friend refuses to fall in line with this, it's time for a little break.
