Hello my name is Brandon, i have failed myself and everybody around me. i was quit for six months and i fucking caved. so i am here now because i need help from my brothers. so please help me become the man i need to be.
Brandon
Brandon,
Congrats on quitting and posting day 1. You were not quit for six months, you were only taking a break.
Have you been on this site before your cave?
What happened and why did you cave after six months? What is your plan and how will this be different?
Steve
yes i was but i decided i didnt need help nemore and i stopped posting and low and behold...i caved in. i caved cuz of stress? i guess im not sure really i was unemployed when i quit and i work construction and everybody around me dips and i caved not long after i went back to work. I dont have a plan and idk how it will be different but i need to draw the somewhere brother. so please help me.
Brandon,
1. You should be using the same username as your first attempt. Two usernames is a big no-no here.
2. You need to go to you original group and explain why you caved.
3. As far as your plan, I will give you advice on how I have stayed quit (I am not a vet by any means, but this approach has worked for 99 days)
-As you pointed out you stopped posting roll call. This needs to be done daily, first thing. I post roll first thing, before I eat breakfast. And I do this EVERYDAY. I have also exchanged #'s with about 10 guys from my quit group. I am certain that if my name is missing from roll call, I will get multiple messages of people looking for me.
Early on in your quit you should always have substitues handy. Seeds, jerky, gum, hard candy, fake chew, straws, ect., ect. Let all your chewing coworkers and friends know that you are quit. When you get hit with a tough crave you should have a plan on how to deal with it. Go run, jump on chat, eat an apple, what ever it takes. But have your plan and be ready. When the crave hits you, you need to be confident that you have tools handy to smack it away.
Shoot me a pm if need anything.
Steve