That's good shit quit brother. Glad to hear you are on the right path. Proud to be quit with you today. You are correct in saying that the wife doesn't understand. What is even more maddening is a wife that smokes and doesn't understand. It's not their fault. In your case, she has no idea what it is like to be an addict and can't udnerstand why stopping is making you such an ass. Everything was supposed to be "better", right? In my case, she denies she is an addict and has no interest in stopping as the nic bitch is firmly in control.
In either case... walk away. I have found it best to simply take a break, don't be an ass, and come back after your desire to flit smart-ass comments has subsided. These usually go hand-in-hand with craves.
Keep it up and PM me if you need anything.
Randy