I am not sue

[69franx]

Tbtay, I can't offer much better thoughts than Tennesse and Srains just gave you. You know where my thoughts lie if you've read through the last couple days. It is possible to come in here every day and post your promise and disappear for 24 hours, no strings attached but you're missing part of the equation. You may stay quit that way, but in real life, connections make it happen. I'm not a sharer in real life, and it causes lots of problems in relationships. But here I have found some success at quitting and an Avenue to vent my frustrations. Working with the new November is another piece I hope to help make my quit resolve even stronger. I said I don't Express much in life, but I let it all hang out in here because these are just strangers, but then damnit through opening up these people become real. Just kind of rambling, so I'll wrap up with do what you need to do, but I would highly suggest you spend 2 hours reading through some people's introduction to find out why they came here? How your situation is similar to another quitter. Give this a chance beyond just posting a number. In the end it may not be what you need, but it has helped so many, isn't it worth fully committing to even if just on a trial basis. You have my phone number. Use it if you like. I wont send you any unnecessary bullshit, no dick pics, just support and my day count, or nothing at all if that's how you want it. But wouldn't it be better to know that someone has your back?

[BubbaM]

I will give you my digits if you PM me and ask for them! PM me, reach out, not for! And call your mother!

[SRains918]

This is day 14 for me and I have not posted much beyond roll. I am not a share your feelings type of guy. Honestly i am not sure i have feelings, i probably do, but do not like to think about that. You know what they say, "If you don't know the meaning of the word introspection, you need to take a good long look at yourself."

Anyway, I am on the fence on if I should stick out the site. I know this is blasphemy for many of you here and I should probably not even write it down. My saying it does not diminish your experience or the importance of this site. People are just different. I originally found this site a day after I quit. It looked interesting and I needed a place to let someone, even a stranger, know that I had quit. 14 days later and still the only people who know I quit are on this site.

You see, I have not told a single person in my life that I quit. My wife does not even know, although she does know that I have been a bigger dick than usual. I have not told anyone because I believe that addiction is weakness and I do not need to advertise to the world how weak I am. I decided that as a man, I could dip if I wanted and did not hide it or make excuses for my tobacco use. Along the same line, as a man I decided to quit and should be able to do so without difficulty or making excuses. Therefore it is no ones business but my own that I quit.

My unwillingness to share is what makes this site difficult. The sharing of "digits" with strangers is unthinkable. I also find the use of the word "digits" instead of phone number a bit gay. I am horrible on the phone and have no idea what I would possible say to someone on the other end of the line?
"Hi, you don't know me but I want to cave"
"No don't cave"
"thank you, I won't now"

Besides the thought of that awkward conversation is the guilt it would bring. I don't even call my mother on the phone and I am going to call a stranger? Before you get to judgmental, I know my mother is still alive. I know that because my wife talks to her and I will occasionally ask my wife if my mother is still alive.

So, the moral of the story is I do not know why I am writing this, I am not convinced that this site is the right place for me and I am in general a horrible human being that is emotionally dead on the inside.

I think I will try to stick out the 100 days, but posting is becoming a pain in the ass. Especially weekends, which I have determined to be technology free. Can I consider this site to be social media? I have never had a social media account or posted to any social media website before. Again I am confused if this is a good or bad thing.

Yea? I'll bite on this hook.

I've walked out more difficult things with people who are bigger dicks than you..here goes.

1) not posting anything more than roll call is exactly what you're supposed to do. Everyone knows that this is not the weight watchers room where you cry and crap...

2) No one here is interested in how you feel. Honestly, I don't care if you're dead inside and don't like introspection. It's about discipline..pure and simple. You're quit or your not, no feelings, no warm fuzzies missed here if you don't "share".

3) Stick around or don't stick around. You said it because you need to be here, you want someone to say.."oh, please stay...it means a lot to us if you stay.." We're men, we're on a quest to quit and stay quit, join us or move on. Good luck with that. (Are you offended yet? anyone else offended?..good cuz this is real) YOU looked for help, you signed up, you told a whole bunch of strangers that you quit. I'll stop there the rest would be me taking your inventory and I'm not your sponsor.

4. Your unwillingness to share is your own shit. Just the fact that you had the two sided conversation in your post says just checking in means something. It's called being a man.

Watch this video on being a man from Coach Joe Ehrman...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jVI1Xutc_Wsapp=desktop

5. Awkward is saying "you know, I had 14 day's of quit on tobacco and I decided that posting my name and a number of day's was too hard..so now, I have half a jaw, stomach cancer, I'm dying and shitting my pants here in the hospital and my wife and mom never call.." to the male nurse who is changing your diaper...yeah it can get there. Don't kid yourself

6. You know full well why you posted this, you needed someone who can be stronger than you to kick you in the ass and say "Tay, man to man, brother to brother, you matter, your life matters, quit today, live tomorrow."

So here, I'm an introvert, I am the "feeler" in my family. But, I'll end someone who ever came at my family.

Tay, I'm stronger than you are today and I give a shit. You can't have my phone number until you ask for it. When you ask for it, I'll send it to you and you and I will come to an agreement that we won't be chatty or feely, we'll just be men, on a quest, to move toward living.

Randy

So much to say about this...


I think it's important that you tell people you're quitting. Your addiction isn't a weakness to be hidden, it's a chemical dependency that YOU CAUSED by stuffing shit into your face. The sooner you man up and admit that this is a legitimate problem, the sooner you will accept the tools to quit.

KTC is definitely not for everyone. KTC is a place to make a daily promise to your quit brothers and sisters that you will not use nicotine in any form for this one day only. Yesterday doesn't matter. Tomorrow doesn't matter. Today matters. The next four hours matter. The next five minutes matter. Quit today. Post and keep your word. It's that simple.

The fact that you CHOOSE to not share your experiences with others shows that you're probably not even aware of what's coming. You're simply rolling with it all and hoping for the best. One of the key components of KTC (look at the top of the screen) is Accountability + Brotherhood = Success. Accountability is what you get when you post (and hearing from your brothers when you're missing). Brotherhood (the ghey sharing of "digits" and posting in the forums) to me is AT LEAST as important. Why? Because I didn't make my promise this morning to a bunch of random internet strangers. I made my promise to friends that I text with on a daily basis. I made my promise to people I actually talk to on the phone periodically. I made a promise to a bunch of people I've met in person (as well as some of their families). These people are no longer strangers to me - they're brothers and sisters that know more about me than my ACTUAL family because they've been down in the trenches with me as we supported each other through our quits.


If you're looking for anyone here to blow smoke up your ass or beg you to stay and see what happens, you're probably in the wrong place. I'm not here to kiss your ass. I'm here to help you (and others) quit this nasty awful addiction, because I'm getting that same help from the people that came before me on a daily basis.

Anything less will lead you down the path to a cave. Maybe not today or tomorrow, but eventually. Too hard to post? WTF does that even mean? You don't have 30 seconds out of your morning to commit to your long term health and quit? I call bullshit. I bet you didn't have any trouble finding 30 seconds to stuff camel shit into your lip in the morning.


If you think you can do better on your own, knock yourself out. I tried repeatedly for years and years to quit. I made it a year and a half once before I caved. Then I found KTC. Now I make a daily promise to quit and I keep my word. I don't worry about forever. I worry about today. That's it.

[Tennesseexdipper]

This is day 14 for me and I have not posted much beyond roll. I am not a share your feelings type of guy. Honestly i am not sure i have feelings, i probably do, but do not like to think about that. You know what they say, "If you don't know the meaning of the word introspection, you need to take a good long look at yourself."

Anyway, I am on the fence on if I should stick out the site. I know this is blasphemy for many of you here and I should probably not even write it down. My saying it does not diminish your experience or the importance of this site. People are just different. I originally found this site a day after I quit. It looked interesting and I needed a place to let someone, even a stranger, know that I had quit. 14 days later and still the only people who know I quit are on this site.

You see, I have not told a single person in my life that I quit. My wife does not even know, although she does know that I have been a bigger dick than usual. I have not told anyone because I believe that addiction is weakness and I do not need to advertise to the world how weak I am. I decided that as a man, I could dip if I wanted and did not hide it or make excuses for my tobacco use. Along the same line, as a man I decided to quit and should be able to do so without difficulty or making excuses. Therefore it is no ones business but my own that I quit.

My unwillingness to share is what makes this site difficult. The sharing of "digits" with strangers is unthinkable. I also find the use of the word "digits" instead of phone number a bit gay. I am horrible on the phone and have no idea what I would possible say to someone on the other end of the line?
"Hi, you don't know me but I want to cave"
"No don't cave"
"thank you, I won't now"

Besides the thought of that awkward conversation is the guilt it would bring. I don't even call my mother on the phone and I am going to call a stranger? Before you get to judgmental, I know my mother is still alive. I know that because my wife talks to her and I will occasionally ask my wife if my mother is still alive.

So, the moral of the story is I do not know why I am writing this, I am not convinced that this site is the right place for me and I am in general a horrible human being that is emotionally dead on the inside.

I think I will try to stick out the 100 days, but posting is becoming a pain in the ass. Especially weekends, which I have determined to be technology free. Can I consider this site to be social media? I have never had a social media account or posted to any social media website before. Again I am confused if this is a good or bad thing.

Yea? I'll bite on this hook.

I've walked out more difficult things with people who are bigger dicks than you..here goes.

1) not posting anything more than roll call is exactly what you're supposed to do. Everyone knows that this is not the weight watchers room where you cry and crap...

2) No one here is interested in how you feel. Honestly, I don't care if you're dead inside and don't like introspection. It's about discipline..pure and simple. You're quit or your not, no feelings, no warm fuzzies missed here if you don't "share".

3) Stick around or don't stick around. You said it because you need to be here, you want someone to say.."oh, please stay...it means a lot to us if you stay.." We're men, we're on a quest to quit and stay quit, join us or move on. Good luck with that. (Are you offended yet? anyone else offended?..good cuz this is real) YOU looked for help, you signed up, you told a whole bunch of strangers that you quit. I'll stop there the rest would be me taking your inventory and I'm not your sponsor.

4. Your unwillingness to share is your own shit. Just the fact that you had the two sided conversation in your post says just checking in means something. It's called being a man.

Watch this video on being a man from Coach Joe Ehrman...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jVI1Xutc_Wsapp=desktop

5. Awkward is saying "you know, I had 14 day's of quit on tobacco and I decided that posting my name and a number of day's was too hard..so now, I have half a jaw, stomach cancer, I'm dying and shitting my pants here in the hospital and my wife and mom never call.." to the male nurse who is changing your diaper...yeah it can get there. Don't kid yourself

6. You know full well why you posted this, you needed someone who can be stronger than you to kick you in the ass and say "Tay, man to man, brother to brother, you matter, your life matters, quit today, live tomorrow."

So here, I'm an introvert, I am the "feeler" in my family. But, I'll end someone who ever came at my family.

Tay, I'm stronger than you are today and I give a shit. You can't have my phone number until you ask for it. When you ask for it, I'll send it to you and you and I will come to an agreement that we won't be chatty or feely, we'll just be men, on a quest, to move toward living.

Randy

[tbtay]

This is day 14 for me and I have not posted much beyond roll. I am not a share your feelings type of guy. Honestly i am not sure i have feelings, i probably do, but do not like to think about that. You know what they say, "If you don't know the meaning of the word introspection, you need to take a good long look at yourself."

Anyway, I am on the fence on if I should stick out the site. I know this is blasphemy for many of you here and I should probably not even write it down. My saying it does not diminish your experience or the importance of this site. People are just different. I originally found this site a day after I quit. It looked interesting and I needed a place to let someone, even a stranger, know that I had quit. 14 days later and still the only people who know I quit are on this site.

You see, I have not told a single person in my life that I quit. My wife does not even know, although she does know that I have been a bigger dick than usual. I have not told anyone because I believe that addiction is weakness and I do not need to advertise to the world how weak I am. I decided that as a man, I could dip if I wanted and did not hide it or make excuses for my tobacco use. Along the same line, as a man I decided to quit and should be able to do so without difficulty or making excuses. Therefore it is no ones business but my own that I quit.

My unwillingness to share is what makes this site difficult. The sharing of "digits" with strangers is unthinkable. I also find the use of the word "digits" instead of phone number a bit gay. I am horrible on the phone and have no idea what I would possible say to someone on the other end of the line?
"Hi, you don't know me but I want to cave"
"No don't cave"
"thank you, I won't now"

Besides the thought of that awkward conversation is the guilt it would bring. I don't even call my mother on the phone and I am going to call a stranger? Before you get to judgmental, I know my mother is still alive. I know that because my wife talks to her and I will occasionally ask my wife if my mother is still alive.

So, the moral of the story is I do not know why I am writing this, I am not convinced that this site is the right place for me and I am in general a horrible human being that is emotionally dead on the inside.

I think I will try to stick out the 100 days, but posting is becoming a pain in the ass. Especially weekends, which I have determined to be technology free. Can I consider this site to be social media? I have never had a social media account or posted to any social media website before. Again I am confused if this is a good or bad thing.

title should be "I am not sure", but the one posted is true as well. I am not sue and never have been or wanted to transition to. Although if that is your thing I will not judge you for being sue. I have been sued, but it was dropped before court.

[tbtay]

This is day 14 for me and I have not posted much beyond roll. I am not a share your feelings type of guy. Honestly i am not sure i have feelings, i probably do, but do not like to think about that. You know what they say, "If you don't know the meaning of the word introspection, you need to take a good long look at yourself."

Anyway, I am on the fence on if I should stick out the site. I know this is blasphemy for many of you here and I should probably not even write it down. My saying it does not diminish your experience or the importance of this site. People are just different. I originally found this site a day after I quit. It looked interesting and I needed a place to let someone, even a stranger, know that I had quit. 14 days later and still the only people who know I quit are on this site.

You see, I have not told a single person in my life that I quit. My wife does not even know, although she does know that I have been a bigger dick than usual. I have not told anyone because I believe that addiction is weakness and I do not need to advertise to the world how weak I am. I decided that as a man, I could dip if I wanted and did not hide it or make excuses for my tobacco use. Along the same line, as a man I decided to quit and should be able to do so without difficulty or making excuses. Therefore it is no ones business but my own that I quit.

My unwillingness to share is what makes this site difficult. The sharing of "digits" with strangers is unthinkable. I also find the use of the word "digits" instead of phone number a bit gay. I am horrible on the phone and have no idea what I would possible say to someone on the other end of the line?
"Hi, you don't know me but I want to cave"
"No don't cave"
"thank you, I won't now"

Besides the thought of that awkward conversation is the guilt it would bring. I don't even call my mother on the phone and I am going to call a stranger? Before you get to judgmental, I know my mother is still alive. I know that because my wife talks to her and I will occasionally ask my wife if my mother is still alive.

So, the moral of the story is I do not know why I am writing this, I am not convinced that this site is the right place for me and I am in general a horrible human being that is emotionally dead on the inside.

I think I will try to stick out the 100 days, but posting is becoming a pain in the ass. Especially weekends, which I have determined to be technology free. Can I consider this site to be social media? I have never had a social media account or posted to any social media website before. Again I am confused if this is a good or bad thing.