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Offline G

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Re: Hey
« Reply #21 on: April 01, 2013, 12:48:00 AM »
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Marsh - I imagine that if your wives sit down to write a book about how shitty quitting husbands can be, it will eventually turn into how much more awesome of a husband a quit addict is compared to an actively using addict. So, you really don't need 30 minutes to shit after allÂ…

Serenity - All relationships are different. Here's how illogical the mind of a quitter can be: you say "I'm so proud of you, baby" and he may hear "my encouragement is a passive aggressive reminder that you better not fuck up this time, I'm watching youÂ…". That said, I highly recommend that you tell him you're proud of him, but definitely let him initiate quit talk. Probably not a good idea to ask him how his quit's going because even if he's caved, he'll probably tell you everything's fine. Just give him his room and don't overreact to any assholishness. It will pass. And if he's not on this site, get him here. This site is the greatest gift you can give to any quitter. If he buys in to the personal accountability, he can fight any crave. Working for me, and I'm a total dick.
I'll vouch that smokey is a total dick and if this site can work for him, your husband needs to get here post haste.

Honestly, if your husband wants to be quit this time next year, he will be on this site and involved and posting roll daily. Other than that, I see his chances of becoming a non-using addict as less than 20%.
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Re: Hey
« Reply #20 on: April 01, 2013, 12:43:00 AM »
Marsh - I imagine that if your wives sit down to write a book about how shitty quitting husbands can be, it will eventually turn into how much more awesome of a husband a quit addict is compared to an actively using addict. So, you really don't need 30 minutes to shit after allÂ…

Serenity - All relationships are different. Here's how illogical the mind of a quitter can be: you say "I'm so proud of you, baby" and he may hear "my encouragement is a passive aggressive reminder that you better not fuck up this time, I'm watching youÂ…". That said, I highly recommend that you tell him you're proud of him, but definitely let him initiate quit talk. Probably not a good idea to ask him how his quit's going because even if he's caved, he'll probably tell you everything's fine. Just give him his room and don't overreact to any assholishness. It will pass. And if he's not on this site, get him here. This site is the greatest gift you can give to any quitter. If he buys in to the personal accountability, he can fight any crave. Working for me, and I'm a total dick.
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Re: Hey
« Reply #19 on: March 31, 2013, 07:46:00 PM »
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Ok guys. Happy easter to everyone. I know that to each their own, but I think I have found out the reason for not using the fake as a quitting aide. Here I am sitting at home on Easter Sunday, out of fake, and no way of getting it as they don't sell it all everywhere as you guys well know. I feel like, I am back at day one of quoting, with the craving. I will not fail, I've come to damn far, but all I can say is wow. These craves are fucking intense............
Sunflower seeds, coffee grounds, herbal tea, chewing gum, hard candy and many other things can be stuffed into your face. Anything but that tobacco. It's not worth it ever again.
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Re: Hey
« Reply #18 on: March 31, 2013, 05:34:00 PM »
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Ok guys.  Happy easter to everyone.  I know that to each their own, but I think I have found out the reason for not using the fake as a quitting aide.  Here I am sitting at home on Easter Sunday, out of fake, and no way of getting it as they don't sell it all everywhere as you guys well know.  I feel like, I am back at day one of quoting, with the craving.  I will not fail, I've come to damn far, but all I can say is wow.  These craves are fucking intense............
A crave will fade. Cancer will fucking kill you.
Good stuff, simple yet powerful wording!

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Re: Hey
« Reply #17 on: March 31, 2013, 05:16:00 PM »
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Ok guys. Happy easter to everyone. I know that to each their own, but I think I have found out the reason for not using the fake as a quitting aide. Here I am sitting at home on Easter Sunday, out of fake, and no way of getting it as they don't sell it all everywhere as you guys well know. I feel like, I am back at day one of quoting, with the craving. I will not fail, I've come to damn far, but all I can say is wow. These craves are fucking intense............
A crave will fade. Cancer will fucking kill you. I know they are a bitch, but realize you are doing right. Grind it out. Each crave you beat is a little victory. Eventually those little victories add up and before you know it your craves will be less and less, and when they do come, you will be able to dismiss them with relative ease.

It gets better.

I promise.

Never again, my friend.
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Re: Hey
« Reply #16 on: March 31, 2013, 05:09:00 PM »
Ok guys. Happy easter to everyone. I know that to each their own, but I think I have found out the reason for not using the fake as a quitting aide. Here I am sitting at home on Easter Sunday, out of fake, and no way of getting it as they don't sell it all everywhere as you guys well know. I feel like, I am back at day one of quoting, with the craving. I will not fail, I've come to damn far, but all I can say is wow. These craves are fucking intense............
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Re: Hey
« Reply #15 on: March 26, 2013, 09:19:00 PM »
Nice story and I think there is a section on this site for spouses of quitters.

Also, try to keep one intro and just add to it.
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Re: Hey
« Reply #14 on: March 26, 2013, 06:41:00 PM »
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I did read that prior to his quit date, thank you.
In that case, send him here, if he doesn't want to use ktc that's fine but it's one hell of a tool. Cut him some slack - it is tough and you don't understand unless you've quit nicotine yourself. with that being said don't let him use it as an excuse either, yeah it's tough but tough shit, he wouldn't have to deal with quitting if he didn't start in the first place, it's all on him. Again, the best thing I've found is this site, it gives a place to talk to and rage at guys who have been there - much better than giving you hell... Hope this helps a bit.
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Re: Hey
« Reply #13 on: March 26, 2013, 06:29:00 PM »
I did read that prior to his quit date, thank you.
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Re: Hey
« Reply #12 on: March 26, 2013, 06:15:00 PM »
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What would you guys say to wives? I'm a girlfriend of a recent quitter...we're 2 days in. He's tried a handful of times, but has never had a partner involved. I want to be as supportive as I possibly can. I've read about what it's like and he's told me a lot too. Do you have any other advice? He has chosen to quit, it did not come from me, but I continue to tell him how proud of him I am! I do not use, nor have I ever used nicotine so I understand that I will have no clue what it's like.
check this link out: http://www.killthecan.org/community/spouse.asp
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Re: Hey
« Reply #11 on: March 26, 2013, 06:07:00 PM »
What would you guys say to wives? I'm a girlfriend of a recent quitter...we're 2 days in. He's tried a handful of times, but has never had a partner involved. I want to be as supportive as I possibly can. I've read about what it's like and he's told me a lot too. Do you have any other advice? He has chosen to quit, it did not come from me, but I continue to tell him how proud of him I am! I do not use, nor have I ever used nicotine so I understand that I will have no clue what it's like.
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Re: Hey
« Reply #10 on: March 25, 2013, 11:42:00 AM »
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I was as a golf tournament this weekend with my wife. My Hooch was in the pocket for bad craves as I was sure they would hit me at less than two weeks into my quit, and they did.  We ran into an old friend of mine and his wife, whom we don't get a chance to see that often.  For the last few years, we really only see each other during the tournament.  As we were talking and catching up on each other's happenings,  we find out that my friend is 5 months into his personal quit.  At that point the conversation immediately leans in the direction of the quit. The stories that our wives told about us were near identical.  The childlike temper tantrums, the rage, etc.....  We all know the drill.  I was glad that my wife had someone to talk with regarding her side of the quit, as I know it has not been easy on her.  After swapping stories this weekend, the wives are convinced that they need to write a book to forewarn all other wives of potential quitters.  What to Expect When your Husband is a Quitter.............. I must admit, it's probably not a bad idea.
Great idea. Unless your wife is a nicotine addict herself, she will never understand what it's like to be addicted to it, let alone to come off of it. I know mine has never understood it.
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Re: Hey
« Reply #9 on: March 25, 2013, 10:47:00 AM »
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I was as a golf tournament this weekend with my wife. My Hooch was in the pocket for bad craves as I was sure they would hit me at less than two weeks into my quit, and they did. We ran into an old friend of mine and his wife, whom we don't get a chance to see that often. For the last few years, we really only see each other during the tournament. As we were talking and catching up on each other's happenings, we find out that my friend is 5 months into his personal quit. At that point the conversation immediately leans in the direction of the quit. The stories that our wives told about us were near identical. The childlike temper tantrums, the rage, etc..... We all know the drill. I was glad that my wife had someone to talk with regarding her side of the quit, as I know it has not been easy on her. After swapping stories this weekend, the wives are convinced that they need to write a book to forewarn all other wives of potential quitters. What to Expect When your Husband is a Quitter.............. I must admit, it's probably not a bad idea.
So true, and I am glad I got my wife involved this time. However she has said sinc eI quit for me this time not her, it has been a lot better. Stay quit borthers, I quit with you today!
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Re: Hey
« Reply #8 on: March 25, 2013, 10:44:00 AM »
Nice post. I've said it time and time again here that wives must be involved and informed. Aside from finding KTC, getting my wife REALLY involved was the most important thing in my quit. If they write that book, they can contact Mrs. Radman and I can guarantee she'll join the braintrust.

Quit on, sir.
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Re: Hey
« Reply #7 on: March 25, 2013, 10:37:00 AM »
I was as a golf tournament this weekend with my wife. My Hooch was in the pocket for bad craves as I was sure they would hit me at less than two weeks into my quit, and they did. We ran into an old friend of mine and his wife, whom we don't get a chance to see that often. For the last few years, we really only see each other during the tournament. As we were talking and catching up on each other's happenings, we find out that my friend is 5 months into his personal quit. At that point the conversation immediately leans in the direction of the quit. The stories that our wives told about us were near identical. The childlike temper tantrums, the rage, etc..... We all know the drill. I was glad that my wife had someone to talk with regarding her side of the quit, as I know it has not been easy on her. After swapping stories this weekend, the wives are convinced that they need to write a book to forewarn all other wives of potential quitters. What to Expect When your Husband is a Quitter.............. I must admit, it's probably not a bad idea.
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