I always find these introductions interesting. It's really scary to see people pour their heart out and want to make a change...but then after posting an intro they never come back...very odd but scary to see what nicotine does to people.
100% agree with you. When I put my intro out there, that was it for me. The quit was in print and I wasn't about to bail on it. I don't understand how some people can just give up so quickly. It just reinforces that not everyone is going to be strong enough.
Oh well. Hopefully this guy puts his big boy pants on. If not, well hell, he can quit when he's dead.
I agree Dan. Most of the time when I read these one and dones, I try to send them an email through the KTC system (if they have the option listed under their profile -- sometimes it's "private" --- kind of a red flag they didn't want to be held accountable in the first place.
At any rate, here's what I just emailed to our boy here....
Good morning. You're probably hating yourself right now, because you have "failed" again in your attempt at quitting. I'm not going to scold. Quitting dip is vastly harder to quit than smoking, because of the amount of nicotine you have had flooding your brain for the past however many years.
I do know, however, that no matter how it feels at the time, quitting nicotine has never actually KILLED anyone. You just have to want it bad enough to gut it out through the craves that will come (there is no stopping them, unfortunately). It does, however, get better. MUCH better. I dipped Copenhagen for nearly FOUR decades, with a 15-month stoppage in 1993-94. If I can quit at my age, you can quit at yours and be the much better person for having done so.
So, how does this place work? You put your name on roll. That is SACRED. It is a solemn promise to yourself and to your quit group that you will not ingest nicotine IN ANY FORM for the next 24 hours. Then you live up to that promise. No matter what. You wake up, piss, and put your name on roll the next day and the cycle repeats. In addition, you fill your contacts list with as many numbers as you think you need to build a group of fellow quitters going through the same SUCK you are to hold you accountable to fulfilling your promise. Then you double it. I've lost track of the number of quitters in my contacts but it exceeds 100. The web of accountability you build is only going to be as strong as you build it. One Day, one Hour, one MINUTE at a time if necessary, but plow through the suck until it no longer does. That is how you quit nicotine, whether you dip, smoke, chew, vape, patch, gum, whatever.
If you're ready, REALLY ready, make that commitment to deal with the suck, read as much as you can on these pages as to how and why nicotine screws with your primal brain, and jump back in. Just be warned you'll have to answer some questions before November '16 will let you back in: 1. what happened? 2. why did it happen? 3. what are you going to do differently this time to make sure it doesn't happen again?
Hope to see you on the forum.
Respectfully,
JDW
AKA CavMan83