8 year dip user here from NY.
Trying to quit for my health and for my future with my wife-to-be...
Gonna be 30 soon, and I want to be CLEAN ASAP.
Quit date is today, 11/19/2012.
Wish me luck, since I almost ALWAYS relapse.
Number 1, Welcome to the site.
Take a look up at that black bar at the top of the screen. You'll see a
WELCOME CENTER I want you to click on to read about what we do here, why we do it, and how we do it.
You are in the February 2013 group which represents the month you are will be in when you are 100 days quit. In this group, you will be surrounded by others going through the same shit you are. Befriend them. Stand beside them. Help them and they will help you.
Again, welcome.
Number 2, Quitting is about you. Be quit because you want to be quit. There will be times where healthy living does not seem "worthy" of the pain, and it's easy to blame fights with loved ones as excuses to cave especially if you quit for them.
Quit because you're tired of shoving cat turds in your lip. Quit because you're sick of brushing furiously before kissing your to-be-wife. Quit because you are tired of being an user.
Number 3, You are clean ASAP. We quit cold turkey here which means that you are already clean. Now, you do have to go through withdrawals here for the next 3-7 days. They go faster if you drink lots of water (I'd avoid caffeine-You'll be jittery enough), exercise, and get to know some of the cool ass people here. You don't get to avoid them because you brought them onto yourself. It's a small price to pay.
After those initial days, you will continue to be an addict. However, you will not be physically dependent on the drug. Your brain will continue to ask for the drug, but the longer you stay quit, the further these "craves" become. This is where it important to realize that you will never be cured, but that you have to be actively quit each day. We can't just be "quit". We have to work for it one day at a time.
But it will get better...way better.
I am 510 days quit today, and my last set of cravings were 2 months from each other.
Finally, we don't wish luck here. Quitting is doing. There is only do or do not. There is no try (Thanks Yoda). You don't "almost always relapse". You have relapsed your entire life. It is up to you to control your actions from this moment on. Think about what led to your failures in the past, why they did, and what you are going to do differently this time.
Post roll.
Stay quit.
Repeat.
