Need support

[Scowick65]

Come talk to me in the chat room. I am often there in the evenings on an Eastern time zone schedule. You can do this.

[tarpon17]

Nice work June. Danny take note. These guys are very interested to see you quit. They will bend over backwards to help. You have to do your part by promising every day that dips is not an option. If you struggle, thats what these guys and many others are for. Help. You have to reach out. Don't be a puss and think that shows you are weak. We are all weak and need the support fro each and every member in here.

Welcome and follow these guys lead and you'll be a bad ass quitter

[miles]

Come on over to June 2011 and post roll with us friend. Quitting is easy if you do it one day at a time. 13 days quit and no regrets.

[dgkirkpa1]

Hello. I am on day one and need encouragement. My spouse doesn't think I can do it and is very negative about it. Help!

Hang in there. Everyone responding is right this is about you. I'm on day 12 and this quit is really different than the past for a couple of reasons. This fourum and posting roll call everyday has been a God send for me. It might seem silly but i really look forward to it everyday. I draw energy and fraternity from it. Also, I am making myself number 1 during this ordeal. I have wife, kids, and all the responsibilities that everyone else has and I'm doing my responsibilities but when I have a crave, whatever I need to do to get through, I'm doing. If I need to run, work out, go to the store, or just crawl in bed and sleep though the crave, I'm doing it. God will make sure you have time for all your responsibilities. Come do this quit with me. It truely is one day at a time. We are worth it. P.S. My wife was very skeptical about my quit. She knew in the past quits I could become mean. I am walking away from situations when I feel "mean" this time. There is a page for spouse on this web sight that I printed off for her.

[jaygib]

Hello. I am on day one and need encouragement. My spouse doesn't think I can do it and is very negative about it. Help!

I believe you can do it Danny. It took lots of courage to walk into a forum full of strangers and as us to support you and you did it. You want this. Guard that desire to quit and use it, it is an endless supply of fuel though you don't realize it now. That want to quit is stronger that the want to use but fight for every inch as it comes in the first few days if necessary.

Sometimes the journey is tough but the road isn't impassable. And you ain't alone. Glad to have you.

[bnlelliott]

Hello.  I am on day one and need encouragement.  My spouse doesn't think I can do it and is very negative about it.  Help!

1. Find your group and post roll

2. Make a promise to those guys EVERY day and keep it

3. Give several of them your number and your email address so that you are accountable

4. After 33 years my wife didn't think I could do it either...you know what?!? This wasn't about her...this was about me and I had used her as a crutch for years...

5. Go to the Hall of Fame and read some speeches (mine is attached in my sig) you'll see how stupid many of us were for years until we got the nic out of our brain

6. If you have problems PM me

You CAN do this...if YOU want too

[Bean]

You've taken the first step, we're behind you the rest of the way. You can do this. I dipped for 20 plus years and failed lots of time. But this time has worked...and the only thing I've done differently is use this site. So first, find your quit group and post roll.

Don't think about tomorrow, next week or forever...we'll worry about those when they get here. Just focus on now, today, this 5 minutes!!! Just give your word that you will not put that shit in your lip today...the fight like he'll to keep your word. Pretty soon you can look back say it's been 3 days, or a week, or a month, etc.

Read everything you can on this site. Read the Kern Family story. Print a copy of The Contract. Get some phone numbers from your quit group. Look at the cancer pics...and think about going through that shit every time you feel a crave.

Come up with a plan...what are going to do when a big crave comes?

You can do this, brother!!!

[southtexasman]

No offense to your spouse, but if they don't support you then to hell with them. Its not about them, or your kids, or anything else except you and the quit.

You're gonna have to bear down and reach deep into strengths you didn't even know you had. Tap that anger and rage that you nic withdrawls have given you and use it to power through the craves, the shakes, and the headaches. Follow the advice of the veterans around here. Read some HOF speeches. Drink water, take a walk, browse some porn.....whatever you have to do to get through the day/hour/minute.

You can do this. We have, and still are every day. The next three days are going to suck but go and post roll, and make today the beginning of the end and start to make your spouse a believer.

Be strong/Stay Quit

[Chaos]

Hello. I am on day one and need encouragement. My spouse doesn't think I can do it and is very negative about it. Help!

She may have a lot of reason to be negative about your quit. A lot of us have promised our spouses more times than you can imagine that we were going to quit only to cave.

But this time is different and this place is different. You can quit here one day at a time. Don't worry about your spouse right now, worry about yourself.

79 days ago I came here after dipping for 30 years and quitting no longer than a week on my own. If I can quit so can you. Post roll, read the HOF speeches, and get involved. It will get better after the physical symptoms subside.

[Danny11]

Hello. I am on day one and need encouragement. My spouse doesn't think I can do it and is very negative about it. Help!