yeah that emotions not my fault thing....do i address it or ignore it? my gentle reminders sometimes set things off anyway...dont want to cause more stress...
Print this page out and leave it on the table sometime for him to read, maybe do it just before you are gonna be out for an hour or so:
Dear Quitter,
Congrats on a great decision. You probably haven't yet realized the extent of the grip dip had on you. Every day you stay quit, focus on all the bullshit that you USED to do in order to support that addiction.
Speaking of your addiction....it is all your fault. Chances are slim that your partner forced nicotine into your system until you were hooked. If you quit recently, you are unpredictably irrational, touchy, edgy anxious, etc. In short,
you are most likely a raging asshole right now. I know this because I went through the same. And there are hundreds/thousands of stories at KTC that are EXACTLY the same. You are NOT handling this withdrawal like James Bond fighting sharks with lasers (cool-like). Don't kid yourself. But it's normal. You just need to acknowledge and deal with it.
Your partner does not deserve any shit because of your stupid decisions. period. Your partner has been advised NOT to nag. She/he knows it will do no good in the long run. She has been told that YOU need to quit for you, and only for you. If you want to rage and rant, do it it the shed. Better yet, come to KTC and do it. Unlike your partner, we DO know EXACTLY what is bugging you. You will not get polite "that's GREAT honey" pandering statements when you say some dumb shit. Or when you start saying stuff to rationalize your next planned quit failure. You will get the truth here, and it will likely piss you off further. But that's OK, because you won't have to put up with us over Thanksgiving dinner. You will get a place to laugh, rant, rage, ect. Most importantly, your ass will be held accountable for your choice to dip or not to dip.
The good news is that it gets better. Way better. You will become less of an asshole as the days go on (assuming you weren't an asshole before). But you gotta stay quit.
And go easy on the loved ones...
Zam - 472
