Quit for a while, still struggling

[Rawls]

Motto Of The Day, from Spenceorion in Jan '16

"Destroy What Destroys You." Simple as that. Nicotine was waging an active war on every part of our health—our body, our heart, our lungs, our mouth, our mind, our families, our relationships—450-some-odd days ago we all decided to buck up, grab as many tools as we could, and fight back.

Destroy What Destroys You. Quit on, folks.

This young man is mature in his ways.
Now, before, and tomorrow.
Respect is always with those that are "Canless".
I quit with you today brother.
Rawls

[canless2014]

Motto Of The Day, from Spenceorion in Jan '16

"Destroy What Destroys You." Simple as that. Nicotine was waging an active war on every part of our health—our body, our heart, our lungs, our mouth, our mind, our families, our relationships—450-some-odd days ago we all decided to buck up, grab as many tools as we could, and fight back.

Destroy What Destroys You. Quit on, folks.

[canless2014]

Can you do #8 for me bro, my wife gets pissed if I do it. Thanks, QLF with you today!

Hahahaha no worries Thumblewort, I'll take that bullet for you.

But if you get to #8, you're probably gonna get two broken hands from this guy before I let you get to #9.

[Thumblewort]

Can you do #8 for me bro, my wife gets pissed if I do it. Thanks, QLF with you today!

[fowlmouth]

Somehow, I never sat down to make a plan, or a list of things I will do before I cave. Luckily, fowlmouth has made a great one. I am posting an adaptation here. He called this a "quit plan", I'll call it

"Note to my future self who wants to cave" (not as catchy, but fuck it)

1. Wake up.
2. You are an addict.
3. Post roll: you gave your word that you will not use nicotine in any form today. You will keep your word for 24 hours.
4. Message your group: they are your first line of defense; give them 24 hours to respond.
5. Text/call the guys who helped you through the first weeks; you know who they are. Give them 24 hours to respond.
6. At this point, you are waiting for 24 hours for the sage advice and kick-in-the-balls from other quitters. Go get out in the woods.
7. Call your parents and tell them you wanted to show them you could live life without nicotine, but it was too hard.
8. Call your girlfriend, tell her you've decided you'd rather live shoving dirt in your mouth or inhaling nicotine.
9. Drive to the store and spend your hard earned monies.
10. Get on KTC and post a Day 1. I know you feel guilty as shit, and I know you didn't enjoy it. Answer the questions. How the fuck did you get to #10?

#7 and #8 gave me the chills. Proud as fuck to quit with you today.

[canless2014]

Somehow, I never sat down to make a plan, or a list of things I will do before I cave. Luckily, fowlmouth has made a great one. I am posting an adaptation here. He called this a "quit plan", I'll call it

"Note to my future self who wants to cave" (not as catchy, but fuck it)

1. Wake up.
2. You are an addict.
3. Post roll: you gave your word that you will not use nicotine in any form today. You will keep your word for 24 hours.
4. Message your group: they are your first line of defense; give them 24 hours to respond.
5. Text/call the guys who helped you through the first weeks; you know who they are. Give them 24 hours to respond.
6. At this point, you are waiting for 24 hours for the sage advice and kick-in-the-balls from other quitters. Go get out in the woods.
7. Call your parents and tell them you wanted to show them you could live life without nicotine, but it was too hard.
8. Call your girlfriend, tell her you've decided you'd rather live shoving dirt in your mouth or inhaling nicotine.
9. Drive to the store and spend your hard earned monies.
10. Get on KTC and post a Day 1. I know you feel guilty as shit, and I know you didn't enjoy it. Answer the questions. How the fuck did you get to #10?

[Vguy]

Thanks to Boelker62 for this post. Not sure if I have a comment here.. I think the post speaks for itself. Quit with all of you, trying to make our lives better.

"Boelker62 - Look at that...another new day and an opportunity to increase our wholeness by 1%. On wholeness, a VERY, VERY close friend of mine, one whom we chat about stuff like this, relayed something that was very important to her in her journey of navigating depression and subsequent symptomatic bulimia and anorexia nervosas. Now that she has found her way to a fuller, and also brighter place in life, this concept of wholeness has become ultimately even more salient:

“I actually attack the concept of happiness. I don’t mind people being happy - but the idea that everything we do is part of the pursuit of happiness seems to me a really dangerous idea and has led to a contemporary disease in Western society, which is fear of sadness. It’s a really odd thing that we’re now seeing people saying 'write down 3 things that made you happy today before you go to sleep', and 'cheer up' and 'happiness is our birthright' and so on. We’re kind of teaching our kids that happiness is the default position - it’s rubbish. Wholeness is what we ought to be striving for and part of that is sadness, disappointment, frustration, failure; all of those things which make us who we are. Happiness and victory and fulfillment are nice little things that also happen to us, but they don’t teach us much. Everyone says we grow through pain and then as soon as they experience pain they say 'Quick! Move on! Cheer up!' I’d like just for a year to have a moratorium on the word 'happiness' and to replace it with the word 'wholeness'. Ask yourself 'is this contributing to my wholeness?' and if you’re having a bad day, it is."
- Hugh Mackay, psychologist and social researcher"

Great post. Love this. Thanks for sharing it.

[canless2014]

Thanks to Boelker62 for this post. Not sure if I have a comment here.. I think the post speaks for itself. Quit with all of you, trying to make our lives better.

"Boelker62 - Look at that...another new day and an opportunity to increase our wholeness by 1%. On wholeness, a VERY, VERY close friend of mine, one whom we chat about stuff like this, relayed something that was very important to her in her journey of navigating depression and subsequent symptomatic bulimia and anorexia nervosas. Now that she has found her way to a fuller, and also brighter place in life, this concept of wholeness has become ultimately even more salient:

“I actually attack the concept of happiness. I don’t mind people being happy - but the idea that everything we do is part of the pursuit of happiness seems to me a really dangerous idea and has led to a contemporary disease in Western society, which is fear of sadness. It’s a really odd thing that we’re now seeing people saying 'write down 3 things that made you happy today before you go to sleep', and 'cheer up' and 'happiness is our birthright' and so on. We’re kind of teaching our kids that happiness is the default position - it’s rubbish. Wholeness is what we ought to be striving for and part of that is sadness, disappointment, frustration, failure; all of those things which make us who we are. Happiness and victory and fulfillment are nice little things that also happen to us, but they don’t teach us much. Everyone says we grow through pain and then as soon as they experience pain they say 'Quick! Move on! Cheer up!' I’d like just for a year to have a moratorium on the word 'happiness' and to replace it with the word 'wholeness'. Ask yourself 'is this contributing to my wholeness?' and if you’re having a bad day, it is."
- Hugh Mackay, psychologist and social researcher"

[canless2014]

Reading up on many intros, words of wisdom and HOF / HOL speeches tonight. Something struck me from the most recent post in the Hall of Legends forum:

"You have failed in the past. You are not your addiction."

That struck me. We spend so much time here saying we are addicts — and that's true! I am a nicotine addict and I always will be. But we spend so much time saying it that sometimes I forget that "I am not my addiction." I don't have to be defined by the fact that I am addicted to nicotine. Leaving this here so I'll see it in the future.

[Grizzlyhasclaws]

"Today I will remember that nicotine isn't good for anything but keeping me addicted to nicotine."

- Saw this from SkoalMonster today and wanted to post it here so I remember.

We have Finals this week at school. I swear the number of people I see smoking or chewing doubles during Finals Week. So I'm posting as a reminder to myself and a warning to others: nicotine does not make you study harder. Nicotine does not get you better grades on finals. Nicotine isn't good for anything but keeping you addicted to nicotine.

I pledge that no matter how late I'm up, no matter how stressful it gets, I will continue to uphold my daily promise not to use nicotine in any form.

On a lighter note, I'm finally getting close to 100 days of posting on KTC. That comes later than most of my group, obviously, because I didn't start here until day 70 of my quit. It feels good to have been a Titan for almost 100, and it feels even better to be coming up on 200 total days quit in a month.

Quit on, everyone.

Great stuff. Keep it up brother. You are winning.

[canless2014]

"Today I will remember that nicotine isn't good for anything but keeping me addicted to nicotine."

- Saw this from SkoalMonster today and wanted to post it here so I remember.

We have Finals this week at school. I swear the number of people I see smoking or chewing doubles during Finals Week. So I'm posting as a reminder to myself and a warning to others: nicotine does not make you study harder. Nicotine does not get you better grades on finals. Nicotine isn't good for anything but keeping you addicted to nicotine.

I pledge that no matter how late I'm up, no matter how stressful it gets, I will continue to uphold my daily promise not to use nicotine in any form.

On a lighter note, I'm finally getting close to 100 days of posting on KTC. That comes later than most of my group, obviously, because I didn't start here until day 70 of my quit. It feels good to have been a Titan for almost 100, and it feels even better to be coming up on 200 total days quit in a month.

Quit on, everyone.

[Candoit]

I'm starting to understand the apathy toward people who leave the site to "quit their own way."

I want everyone to be quit, obviously. I would like to run Big Tobacco into the ground, obviously. The people still here are the people who have kept me quit all this time. If you want to leave and risk it, fine, do whatever you want. But you're certainly not going to get any "occasional texts to check in" from me.

You're on roll and your quit, or your not and I don't give a shit, to throw a little rhyme in there.

Canless it took me a while to find the meaning of take what you need and leave the rest. Sounds like you have too. Quit in Titian.

[Grizzlyhasclaws]

I'm liking your quit. Keep it strong. Congrats on your freedom.

[canless2014]

I'm starting to understand the apathy toward people who leave the site to "quit their own way."

I want everyone to be quit, obviously. I would like to run Big Tobacco into the ground, obviously. The people still here are the people who have kept me quit all this time. If you want to leave and risk it, fine, do whatever you want. But you're certainly not going to get any "occasional texts to check in" from me.

You're on roll and your quit, or your not and I don't give a shit, to throw a little rhyme in there.

[canless2014]

Posting this so it's always here. I had read this story before. Little bit different listening to it.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nDFNqOuZ3II