Day 1

[Wt57]

TX. You have been given a lot of good advice now you need to go to theNovember Pre HOF group. And post roll! There will always be stress in your life, I know I'm an old bastard and can tell you if you get rid of one stress another will be glad to take its place! So get rid of the addiction and then learn to live without the bitch!! You will see a lot about reprogramming or rewiring well part of that is learning to live w/o nicotine! Check your inbox (1) I sent you a pm.

[Notdeadyet]

Hello all,
    I am starting my quit day today even though I joined yesterday.  I must admit it is a hard thing to do since this is my fourth time to quit.  I primarily dip to relieve stress in my life and the calm it provides...albeit temporary...gives me enough time to think out things and put things in perspective.  I have cleared most of the stresses out of my life now that has caused me to dip.  I said MOST, there is one stress I can't get rid of even though I KNOW I have to.  The stress I am talking about is a girl.  We have been friends, lovers, friends with benefits.  I have gotten to know her and her daughters.  She makes me smile a little bigger when we are together, she can make me smile by the simplest phone call or text when I am having a terrible day.  I will do anything for her and her daughters.  Those 2 little girls mean the world to me and they love me back even more.  BUT she is also the reason I dip.  I worry when we talk and I can tell she wants to tell me something but doesn't.  I have told her how I feel and I can tell she feels the same way but for some reason won't say it.  But it isn't that easy to say goodbye, even though I know I have to in order to make this quit stick.  Last time I quit, she threw my can away and flushed the snuff down the toilet.  She said if we were to be together she wasn't going to have me addicted to anything but her!  So with her help I quit for almost a year.  Then she left me.  After a while she found me again, but she had changed.  She wasn't the same girl I fell in love with so long ago, but I still carried feelings for her and still do to this day even though we are "just friends".  Recently I told her I started dipping again (cause I never did it in front of her...ashamed), and her response was "I don't care if you dip or not".  So I kept dipping, but decided yesterday that I am tired of depending on snuff. 
    So I am here to find help in quitting snuff.  And a way to deal with stress WITHOUT snuff.

You have never quit, but are a pretty good serial stopper.

You do not dip to relieve stress - you dip to get your fix. You are a nicotine addict and start going into withdrawal within 30 minutes of your last dip. The dip just stops your withdrawal which is causing all of your stress and anxiety.

You gotta quit for YOU. Your gal and her kids are a good inspiration, but deep down inside you must hate the slavery. Hate the murdering tobacco companies. Hate everything about it.

Read the pink ("salmon") Welcome Center above.

[30isEnuff]

Welcome to getting your life back...

What Eric says times 10,000. Heed the mans advice and you'll progress.

I will quit with you today. It is day 90 for me. 1st and last quit for me.
Maybe study the difference between a stoppage and a quit.
you gotta do it for YOU sir.
'zombie'

please read this:
Important

[eric71]

Hello all,
I am starting my quit day today even though I joined yesterday. I must admit it is a hard thing to do since this is my fourth time to quit. I primarily dip to relieve stress in my life and the calm it provides...albeit temporary...gives me enough time to think out things and put things in perspective. I have cleared most of the stresses out of my life now that has caused me to dip. I said MOST, there is one stress I can't get rid of even though I KNOW I have to. The stress I am talking about is a girl. We have been friends, lovers, friends with benefits. I have gotten to know her and her daughters. She makes me smile a little bigger when we are together, she can make me smile by the simplest phone call or text when I am having a terrible day. I will do anything for her and her daughters. Those 2 little girls mean the world to me and they love me back even more. BUT she is also the reason I dip. I worry when we talk and I can tell she wants to tell me something but doesn't. I have told her how I feel and I can tell she feels the same way but for some reason won't say it. But it isn't that easy to say goodbye, even though I know I have to in order to make this quit stick. Last time I quit, she threw my can away and flushed the snuff down the toilet. She said if we were to be together she wasn't going to have me addicted to anything but her! So with her help I quit for almost a year. Then she left me. After a while she found me again, but she had changed. She wasn't the same girl I fell in love with so long ago, but I still carried feelings for her and still do to this day even though we are "just friends". Recently I told her I started dipping again (cause I never did it in front of her...ashamed), and her response was "I don't care if you dip or not". So I kept dipping, but decided yesterday that I am tired of depending on snuff.
So I am here to find help in quitting snuff. And a way to deal with stress WITHOUT snuff.

Life will invent new stresses on a whim so learning how to effectively deal with them is the key to managing and thriving. I have a couple of questions for you though:

Are you quitting because you want to or because you think this will fix your relationship with said girl?

Do you think that by you dipping she will show how she feels about you and come to your side to help in your quit?

If the answer to either of these questions is yes, you have to re-think your logic in relationships. Relationships work when both parties are selfless and give to the other without asking for anything in return. To subconsciously ask for her help by dipping you send the message that regardless of what she would need from you, your insecurities come first and you need her to help you. If she and her two kids mean as much to you as you say, you should tell her and tell her that is why you quit. Lay it out on the table, at least you would know where you stand.

In regards to dipping to relieve stress, sorry, that's a bullshit reason and anyone here will tell you so. It's the impulsive thought process you've grown accustomed to that tells you when you're stressed, you need dip. Do some research on stress management and you will find there are proven methods that can help reduce and/or eliminate the impulse mechansim.

We will help with your quit and prop you up to face it head on. You have to meet us in the middle and get rid of the lame ass excuses for being an addict.

[txguy75110]

Hello all,
I am starting my quit day today even though I joined yesterday. I must admit it is a hard thing to do since this is my fourth time to quit. I primarily dip to relieve stress in my life and the calm it provides...albeit temporary...gives me enough time to think out things and put things in perspective. I have cleared most of the stresses out of my life now that has caused me to dip. I said MOST, there is one stress I can't get rid of even though I KNOW I have to. The stress I am talking about is a girl. We have been friends, lovers, friends with benefits. I have gotten to know her and her daughters. She makes me smile a little bigger when we are together, she can make me smile by the simplest phone call or text when I am having a terrible day. I will do anything for her and her daughters. Those 2 little girls mean the world to me and they love me back even more. BUT she is also the reason I dip. I worry when we talk and I can tell she wants to tell me something but doesn't. I have told her how I feel and I can tell she feels the same way but for some reason won't say it. But it isn't that easy to say goodbye, even though I know I have to in order to make this quit stick. Last time I quit, she threw my can away and flushed the snuff down the toilet. She said if we were to be together she wasn't going to have me addicted to anything but her! So with her help I quit for almost a year. Then she left me. After a while she found me again, but she had changed. She wasn't the same girl I fell in love with so long ago, but I still carried feelings for her and still do to this day even though we are "just friends". Recently I told her I started dipping again (cause I never did it in front of her...ashamed), and her response was "I don't care if you dip or not". So I kept dipping, but decided yesterday that I am tired of depending on snuff.
So I am here to find help in quitting snuff. And a way to deal with stress WITHOUT snuff.