Hey guys,
This also is my first day quitting... again. I've quit before, for a full two years even, but tough times brought me back to the snuff and got me hooked again. I'm determined to stop though, else I wouldn't keep trying.
How do you guys stay away from it and prevent a backslide? My toughest times staying away from it are when I'm home by myself after work. I can stay off it when I'm around my girlfriend, or other people, but it's so trying when I'm alone.
What do you guys do to not dip when you're by yourself?
Thanks all, and stay strong in your fight to quit.
Jon
to all three of the rooks in this thread, that last question by wojo is important.
how do you do it? when the sun goes down, and the girlfriend/wife/kids/boyfriend/dog/etc goes to be and it is just you... how do you manage?
you do it with the help of KTC and the good people (let me go, i'm on a roll) that come here. KTC was founded on the principles of personal accountability, honor, trust, friendship, and a DAILY COMMITTMENT.
we post roll here. it is our promise not to use nicotine (in ANY form) for that day. then we simply keep our word. it is very simple in concept, but hard to execute. you have to be a man (or woman) of your word. you have to be willing to cut ties with friends that use nicotine... sometimes for just a stretch, sometimes forever. you have to be willing to avoid triggers. to stop drinking. to stop playing softball.
you have to be committed during the highs, the easy days; you have to be committed during the lows and the hard days. you have to be as dedicated to quitting every day as you were to dipping every day.
let me ask you... you're going on vacation to Bumfuck, Nowhere. Hunting trip with the boys in the middle of virgin forest (don't even try to fuck the knotholes). when you were a dipper, would you even THINK to embark without a solid plan for having enough dip for the trip? by a log, or two, or three? you have to do the same prep when you're quitting. going on a trip to the artic circle? have a plan in place to quit daily. spend the money for a sat connection, give an eskimo a handjob, whatever. make. it. happen.
we quit daily with a promise... to ourselves, to our family, to our friends, and to our KTC brothers. that promise is your roll call post.
we then keep our word at all costs. you eliminate friends, family, and co-workers that erode your will. don't kill them.... you've read too many spy novels. just don't hang out with them anymore.
you come back and do it again the next day. we take it one day at a time here. there is no forever at KTC. i've posted for 484 of my 487 days quit, and each of those posts was only good for one day. those other three days? those were days that i "forgot," and i really did forget to post (long after 100 days). those three days were also the closest i've come to caving... not because i had crazy craves, but because those were the days nicotine wasn't officially off the table.
TL:DR?
1. post roll
2. man up and keep your fucking word.
3. make posting roll your new habit. it's better for you.
go post roll. if you've already posted today, post it again for shits and grins.
