Day 1 Done

[Bean]

I'm gonna share with you the best piece of advice that I EVER received when I started my quit  - You MUST make this quit about you. A son who never knew a dad that didn't dip and being married with two kids might seem like strong motivators. But if you make it about them, you are likely to fail.

I rarely do this, but I have to make a post in half-ass disagreement here. Well, actually more of a clarification, I guess. I finally quit for good because of one of my kids (2 years old at the time). He mocked me spitting on the ground and proudly said "Like daddy!". Freakin FAIL!!! One of the lowest moments of my entire life. After all of the work I had done to set a good example in every other way, I had failed..... miserably. I quit that day. Right then. A short time later during a craving I found this site. It saved my quit, because I was struggling.

So, the point I'm trying my best to make is that you can quit for your kids. That can be done. But, STAYING quit for them is difficult. I know because I walked that line. Use your love for your kids to start down this road. Then use the support and info from KTC to sustain your quit during the hard times. It has worked for me for 808 days now. Accountability is a great tool, and will develop into some good friendships over time.

I hope I've helped in some way here. If you need anything or more info, drop me a PM. My contact is available just like everybody else here.

I agree with Radman. My original motivation happened watching a 9-11 "survivor" show about a little kid my son's age who described growing up without daddy, etc. I spit my dip out right then. 11 days later I found this site at 3:00 am or so...hanging from the ceiling like a bat, I think.

It is a very fine distinction...quitting to make me a better me, or quitting to make me a better daddy. In truth, I don't see myself as really being seperate from my little guys. I haven't thought this through a ton. I just know that I'm quit today after about 20 years of being a slave. And I couldn't have "stayed quit" without KTC.

[Radman]

I'm gonna share with you the best piece of advice that I EVER received when I started my quit - You MUST make this quit about you. A son who never knew a dad that didn't dip and being married with two kids might seem like strong motivators. But if you make it about them, you are likely to fail.

I rarely do this, but I have to make a post in half-ass disagreement here. Well, actually more of a clarification, I guess. I finally quit for good because of one of my kids (2 years old at the time). He mocked me spitting on the ground and proudly said "Like daddy!". Freakin FAIL!!! One of the lowest moments of my entire life. After all of the work I had done to set a good example in every other way, I had failed..... miserably. I quit that day. Right then. A short time later during a craving I found this site. It saved my quit, because I was struggling.

So, the point I'm trying my best to make is that you can quit for your kids. That can be done. But, STAYING quit for them is difficult. I know because I walked that line. Use your love for your kids to start down this road. Then use the support and info from KTC to sustain your quit during the hard times. It has worked for me for 808 days now. Accountability is a great tool, and will develop into some good friendships over time.

I hope I've helped in some way here. If you need anything or more info, drop me a PM. My contact is available just like everybody else here.

[CoachDoc]

Hey guys,

I'm on my first full day of quitting after 11 years of addiction. I've tried to quit several times before but with no real accountability because I always had to hide the addiction. A little about me; I'm 27, married for 4 years with 2 great kids. I think my one of my biggest motivators is little boy, and not wanting to pass the idea or image of cool from some damn can to my son.

Hey Chief, First, let me say this is cut and pasted from al least one other quitter that I've sent this same message to. Understand, it applies as much to you as it did to the others I have sent it to. And it applied as much to me when I began this new life 1010 days ago.

I'm gonna share with you the best piece of advice that I EVER received when I started my quit - You MUST make this quit about you. A son who never knew a dad that didn't dip and being married with two kids might seem like strong motivators. But if you make it about them, you are likely to fail.

I know, you're probably thinking, "Who the fuck is this guy? What the hell kinda support is this, him telling me how to quit and saying I'll fail?" I know, I thought the same things. But, you know what, all those brothers that told me to make it about me were right. But what you have to remember this might be one of the only times everyone you care about will actually benefit from you being self centered and self serving.

Keep posting roll and stay active...the more active you are on the site the more likely you are to remain successful in your quit. Get to know members on here...especially you fellow quitters in your group. Learn how to support them and to accept their help as well. Get numbers...lots of them. Don't be afraid to admit when you are having trouble or bad cravings. Ask for help when you need it. Read this site....and then read some more. Tons and tons of good solid information, knowledge and inspiration regarding quitting.

If you need a number, I'd be happy to provide you with mine. Welcome to your quit.

- CoachDoc

[05wrxing]

Hey guys,

I'm on my first full day of quitting after 11 years of addiction. I've tried to quit several times before but with no real accountability because I always had to hide the addiction. A little about me; I'm 27, married for 4 years with 2 great kids. I think my one of my biggest motivators is little boy, and not wanting to pass the idea or image of cool from some damn can to my son.

Welcome to KTC and congratulation's on quitting. This site is a life saver, stroll on up the the salmon colored welcome center in the top left of screen. Great job on posting roll in March 13 as well. Post roll early every single day and make that promise to not use tobacco of any kind. The first few day's are pure hell but, remember it and embrace the suck so, you will never want to post another day 1. Would be a good idea to pick up some seeds, gum, hard candy or fake chew. Those things really helped me out during me quit. I'm 27 and married with a couple young boy's as well and I know that can be rough from time to time so stay strong. I quit with you today, if you have any question's or need anything just pm me. I'm always around.

[red_chief]

Hey guys,

I'm on my first full day of quitting after 11 years of addiction. I've tried to quit several times before but with no real accountability because I always had to hide the addiction. A little about me; I'm 27, married for 4 years with 2 great kids. I think my one of my biggest motivators is little boy, and not wanting to pass the idea or image of cool from some damn can to my son.