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Offline jhuroleye

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Re: 5 days in
« Reply #13 on: July 12, 2016, 11:54:00 AM »
yeah i told her this weekend. showed her the fake chew i had. she was a little upset.. she started saying that it's the same as her vaping.. explained that the fake chew wasn't tobacco at all and didn't have any nicotine.. and that vaping has nicotine.. then she said she could get vape that doesn't have nicotine.. so i told her i wouldn't care then.. lol... then i was kind of an asshole when trying to get the house cleaned.. the kids weren't helping and wanting me to take them places.. and the wife was feeling sick being 8 months pregnant.. she could tell i was upset.. told her i was agitated.. and then she said she would rather i chewed and be in a good mood than be an asshole.. lol i told her to deal with me being moody for a month or two or deal with me having mouth cancer and maybe losing me forever... prolly didn't help she was already agitated too.. we cooled down later in the evening and talked.. we both apologized and she's on-board now... both agreed we needed to find better ways to vent our agitations... i suggested i make the garage my quite spot and when i go out there, nobody is to follow.. give myself a place to collect my thoughts.. we'll see how well it works..
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Re: 5 days in
« Reply #12 on: July 08, 2016, 08:10:00 PM »
Jhuoleye I completely understand what you are going through. I lied to my wife for over a decade. One thing I have noticed is that I feel much better talking to my wife about my quit.
Drink lots of water, gum, seeds and whatever else you need to keep on the wagon.
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Re: 5 days in
« Reply #11 on: July 08, 2016, 04:06:00 PM »
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i could just be an all around asshole nevertheless so she can't tell anything has changed! lol kidding. good advice though. i'll do that
I'm an all around asshole. I also lied to my wife many time about quitting. It took her months to even believe I was quit. .

As addicts, we lie to the ones we love. The freedom or being quit and a man of your word is a beautiful thing.
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Offline jhuroleye

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Re: 5 days in
« Reply #10 on: July 08, 2016, 02:24:00 PM »
i could just be an all around asshole nevertheless so she can't tell anything has changed! lol kidding. good advice though. i'll do that
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Re: 5 days in
« Reply #9 on: July 08, 2016, 12:30:00 AM »
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Just my opinion but I'd come clean with your fiance' - the main reason being that quitting can cause rage at odd times. Plus the truth will set you free.

Either way I quit with you today.
^^^^^ that is strong advice. Involving your loved ones with your quit adds to you accountability (my wife will still ask me from time to time what day I'm at). But more importantly it is big in living a life of honesty. The initial conversation will be awkward, but the end result puts you on much firmer ground.
^^same. Your inner circle WILL know something is up. And they'll be guessing as to what it is. You don't want them guessing "huh...I guess he's just an asshole." Why would they guess this? Because you will likely be an asshole. Often. At unpredictable times. Over big shit. Or tiny stuff. You may loose your damn mind at times. Like when she uses your real name during a bank heist. Or maybe because she bought Coke instead of Pepsi. You would be the RARE dude indeed that acted "normal" during the fog and withdrawal of the first few weeks.

Have the sig-other read this. And know that it gets better. WAY better...if you stick with it.
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Re: 5 days in
« Reply #8 on: July 07, 2016, 10:00:00 PM »
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Just my opinion but I'd come clean with your fiance' - the main reason being that quitting can cause rage at odd times. Plus the truth will set you free.

Either way I quit with you today.
^^^^^ that is strong advice. Involving your loved ones with your quit adds to you accountability (my wife will still ask me from time to time what day I'm at). But more importantly it is big in living a life of honesty. The initial conversation will be awkward, but the end result puts you on much firmer ground.
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Re: 5 days in
« Reply #7 on: July 07, 2016, 02:48:00 PM »
Just my opinion but I'd come clean with your fiance' - the main reason being that quitting can cause rage at odd times. Plus the truth will set you free.

Either way I quit with you today.
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Offline jhuroleye

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Re: 5 days in
« Reply #6 on: July 07, 2016, 01:51:00 PM »
lol thanks guys! after work yesterday i actually stopped by one of the tobacco shops and picked up a can of the smokey mountain. stuff isn't half bad! for me it's not so much the nicotine craving but the oral habit... don't get me wrong, i crave the nicotine, but that oral fix is what i really wanted.. and this stuff does the trick... even has a slight "burn" to it... i got the mint long cut and the wintergreen pouches... i'm used to doing pouches while at work.. tuck it in my upper lip.. these help me get back to focusing on work instead of the damn craving..

as for swallowing, i would spit about 3 times right after putting it in and then swallow the rest.. i guess i've been dipping long enough that i don't salivate very much.. just initially and then it isn't much at all..

had horrible headaches yesterday afternoon... basically as soon as i got home i popped some ibuprofen, lay down, and was out for a few hours..

but yes it is quite a relief not having to worry about my damn breathe anymore! lol and having to dispose of the dip without her seeing it.. such a PIA! but not anymore! she still thinks i quit a long time ago so i try to keep the fake stuff out of view.. but i'm not so worried about getting caught with the fake stuff... at least then i have actual proof that i quit and doing what i have to to stay quit..
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Re: 5 days in
« Reply #5 on: July 06, 2016, 08:08:00 PM »
Glad you made the decision. I am 4 days into my quit. Hopefully you are feeling good not having to sneak around your wife. These past few days have felt good for me to hold my head up high in front of my wife. I am not afraid to kiss her because my breath might stink like chew or hear her banging on the bathroom door wondering if I am ever coming out. Keep fighting the good fight and I know what you are going through and we are all here for support.
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Re: 5 days in
« Reply #4 on: July 06, 2016, 06:26:00 PM »
Hey bro welcome aboard!

I don't know about you but I couldn't swallow the stuff.

I just spent the last couple of days turning a wrench myself for the 1st time since I've quit. One of the things that was really nice was not having to stop what I was doing to find my spit cup every couple of minutes. The only thing I had look for today was my tools!

You can do this brother. Find your group, post your promise not to use first thing in the morning and repeat the next day. Quitting is not easy, but it's doable and it's worth the fight.

I quit with you today!
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Re: 5 days in
« Reply #3 on: July 06, 2016, 06:18:00 PM »
Congrats on deciding to quit. I'm here with ya on day 4 of my quit. The best thing I'm finding so far is to stay busy, keep your mind occupied. I picked up a couple rolls of life savers mints after work, caus I was getting sick of chewing gum, I could tell it was already gonna get my jaw sore. Do what you gotta do to fight the cravings though, a sore jaw from gum chewing for a few weeks sure beats a missing jaw from mouth cancer.
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Re: 5 days in
« Reply #2 on: July 06, 2016, 05:55:00 PM »
jhuroleye,
Welcome and congratulations on your decision.
Post roll and do it first thing everyday!
One of chew/nicotine's tricks is making us believe that everything is better with chew, it isn't. You can still work on you truck, fish, hunt and computer without a chew and it is fun...
PM if you need help,
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P.S. picking your nose is a habit, you are addict, as am I.
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Offline jhuroleye

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5 days in
« on: July 06, 2016, 04:42:00 PM »
Had my last bit of tobacco/nicotine the night of July 1st, 2016. lol 5 big days in... already made it through 4th of July drinking a few beers and not caving to any tobacco though! however, the headaches are real, cravings are real, insomnia is real, the fog is already real, and my jaw hurts from trying to make gum my oral fix.. i was doing around a can every 2-3 days, depending on what was going on.. some weekends i could kill 2 cans a day.. started chewing 8 years ago.. prior to that i smoked for about 6 years.. I made a deal with the fiance that i would quit chewing if she quit smoking... well, she quit smoking and i've been hiding my dirty habit for about 6 months now.. i feel guilty as fuck and i'm really tired of spending the damn money.. and having to "hide" the habit, makes taking trips even harder. my first baby boy is due in 4 weeks.. i want him to grow up never seeing me use tobacco. i'm thinking of getting some bacc-off to try for the first few weeks for the oral fix.

more about me... i'm a network administrator... the days are soooooooooooooooooo long now without a little chew... people and computers aggravate me so much more now.... when i get home, i don't touch a computer.. the garage is my place to be with wrenches or other tools... although i haven't done any wrenching since i quit.. which was kinda my thing.. put a fat dip in and get all greasy working on a car... well shit, this better not make me hate wrenching on cars! especially my diesel truck!
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