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Re: Day one for me;
« Reply #21 on: January 10, 2015, 11:11:00 AM »
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Re: Day one for me;
« Reply #20 on: May 25, 2011, 11:36:00 AM »
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I'm day 15 quit, and I can't remember if I introduced myself or not, since I'm quit, I don't have a lot of time to post as I try to occupy myself with the time I've wasted dipping.  I'm Dan, and definitely an addict.  But what is pissing me off is that I have over 150 a day as I teach, and I'm patient most of the time, but when I get home, I'm not.  Its bullshit, and not fair to my own kids.  Tell me it will stop.  I have trouble explaining being quit to them as they are all younger than 6 and I really don't want to ever know or remember daddy with "candy in his mouth and I don't have anymore to give you".  I'm a piece of shit.  Any strategies out there??? Thanks.
I teach little kids. I have little kids. It will pass.

It might take some time, but you really NEED to either get involved here (bitch at us), or get some numbers and call or text a brother and bitch at them.

If you need a number, PM me.
I also have little kids, and at work I deal with people who act like little kids. That counts' right? Anyway, the anger and rage will be short term. The positive, healthy "after nicotine" version of you will last forever. That is what your kids will remember. In the meantime, if you are married or involved, that can be a big help. I kept my wife in the dark for a long time, but the smartest thing I ever did was to get her involved in my quit. SHe read a bunch on here (spouses section is great) and then she realized what I was dealing with. She had no idea it was an actual addiction with actual physical and mental effects. She just thought I was being an ass because I wanted to. Once she was on board, we could work as a team. She recognized the rage for what it was and was glad to cover for me if I walked away for a few minutes. She knew the end result would be worth it. Several times I just went outside to cool down and the kids would ask some crazy question when I got back like "did you get the lawnmower fixed?". I'd just say yes and smile a thank-you to my wife. You get the idea. Did I mention that I managed to quit with 2-year-old twins at home? It can be done. We can help. Let me know if you ever need anything.

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Re: Day one for me;
« Reply #19 on: May 25, 2011, 10:31:00 AM »
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I'm day 15 quit, and I can't remember if I introduced myself or not, since I'm quit, I don't have a lot of time to post as I try to occupy myself with the time I've wasted dipping.  I'm Dan, and definitely an addict.  But what is pissing me off is that I have over 150 a day as I teach, and I'm patient most of the time, but when I get home, I'm not.  Its bullshit, and not fair to my own kids.  Tell me it will stop.  I have trouble explaining being quit to them as they are all younger than 6 and I really don't want to ever know or remember daddy with "candy in his mouth and I don't have anymore to give you".  I'm a piece of shit.  Any strategies out there??? Thanks.
Dan...trust me...it WILL stop...read my speech and my story about my kids...link below. I would have rather been an assbite to them for a couple of weeks...than what I was for the first mid to late teens of their lives.
Excellent HOF speech, thank you for the read and helping me understand what I have missed and could have missed with my family. I am grateful.
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Re: Day one for me;
« Reply #18 on: May 25, 2011, 08:57:00 AM »
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I went through the same thing bro. Its very hard when you feel like everyone is poking you with a hot stick no matter who they are.

You're certainly not a piece of shit (unless you kicked a puppy or punched a midget clown today). You made the best decision you could to see those little ones for as long as you can: you stopped putting a turd in your mouth.

I chose exercise to get me through that anxious period. Beat myself into the ground running and biking. Some old chain gang mentality that a tired body leads to a soul at rest.

When I look at my kids, I think "Jeez...its certainly going to be nice to be in their wedding photos with my entire face in place". If that doesn't help, I count to 10 out loud. Slows everyone down. If that doesn't help, I walk away and distract for a second by thinking about watermelon sized breasts.
Mmmmmmmmm....watermelon sized breasts......not I'm distracted.... 'boob'
i should have added with beer flavored nipples.
You had me at watermelon...
Boobs !!

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I had a set of cherry flavored nipple pops once, but I am a biter sooooooo....................that did not work out so well.
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Re: Day one for me;
« Reply #17 on: May 25, 2011, 08:19:00 AM »
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I'm day 15 quit, and I can't remember if I introduced myself or not, since I'm quit, I don't have a lot of time to post as I try to occupy myself with the time I've wasted dipping. I'm Dan, and definitely an addict. But what is pissing me off is that I have over 150 a day as I teach, and I'm patient most of the time, but when I get home, I'm not. Its bullshit, and not fair to my own kids. Tell me it will stop. I have trouble explaining being quit to them as they are all younger than 6 and I really don't want to ever know or remember daddy with "candy in his mouth and I don't have anymore to give you". I'm a piece of shit. Any strategies out there??? Thanks.
Dan...trust me...it WILL stop...read my speech and my story about my kids...link below. I would have rather been an assbite to them for a couple of weeks...than what I was for the first mid to late teens of their lives.
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Re: Day one for me;
« Reply #16 on: May 23, 2011, 10:16:00 PM »
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I went through the same thing bro. Its very hard when you feel like everyone is poking you with a hot stick no matter who they are.

You're certainly not a piece of shit (unless you kicked a puppy or punched a midget clown today). You made the best decision you could to see those little ones for as long as you can: you stopped putting a turd in your mouth.

I chose exercise to get me through that anxious period. Beat myself into the ground running and biking. Some old chain gang mentality that a tired body leads to a soul at rest.

When I look at my kids, I think "Jeez...its certainly going to be nice to be in their wedding photos with my entire face in place". If that doesn't help, I count to 10 out loud. Slows everyone down. If that doesn't help, I walk away and distract for a second by thinking about watermelon sized breasts.
Mmmmmmmmm....watermelon sized breasts......not I'm distracted.... 'boob'
i should have added with beer flavored nipples.
You had me at watermelon...
Boobs !!

'drool'

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Re: Day one for me;
« Reply #15 on: May 23, 2011, 03:56:00 PM »
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I went through the same thing bro. Its very hard when you feel like everyone is poking you with a hot stick no matter who they are.

You're certainly not a piece of shit (unless you kicked a puppy or punched a midget clown today). You made the best decision you could to see those little ones for as long as you can: you stopped putting a turd in your mouth.

I chose exercise to get me through that anxious period. Beat myself into the ground running and biking. Some old chain gang mentality that a tired body leads to a soul at rest.

When I look at my kids, I think "Jeez...its certainly going to be nice to be in their wedding photos with my entire face in place". If that doesn't help, I count to 10 out loud. Slows everyone down. If that doesn't help, I walk away and distract for a second by thinking about watermelon sized breasts.
Mmmmmmmmm....watermelon sized breasts......not I'm distracted.... 'boob'
i should have added with beer flavored nipples.
You had me at watermelon...
What is your major malfunction?!?!?!?!

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Re: Day one for me;
« Reply #14 on: May 23, 2011, 03:54:00 PM »
I can tell you from experience (Alcoholic and Dip Quitter) that we will ALWAYS hurt the ones we love the most. You would never consider lashing out at your students yet you do it to your kids. You would never consider lashing out at your boss (bullshit we think about it all the time but never do it) yet we will talk to our wives like they are 2 years old. Can I make it stop for you, nope. My suggestion is to try to leave your day at the door. Also take a few extra seconds to take a deep breath before reacting to ANYTHING involving your kids or wife. Just slow everything way down right now. If you have to go take a walk if it get's too bad.
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Re: Day one for me;
« Reply #13 on: May 23, 2011, 03:39:00 PM »
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I went through the same thing bro. Its very hard when you feel like everyone is poking you with a hot stick no matter who they are.

You're certainly not a piece of shit (unless you kicked a puppy or punched a midget clown today). You made the best decision you could to see those little ones for as long as you can: you stopped putting a turd in your mouth.

I chose exercise to get me through that anxious period. Beat myself into the ground running and biking. Some old chain gang mentality that a tired body leads to a soul at rest.

When I look at my kids, I think "Jeez...its certainly going to be nice to be in their wedding photos with my entire face in place". If that doesn't help, I count to 10 out loud. Slows everyone down. If that doesn't help, I walk away and distract for a second by thinking about watermelon sized breasts.
Mmmmmmmmm....watermelon sized breasts......not I'm distracted.... 'boob'
i should have added with beer flavored nipples.

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Re: Day one for me;
« Reply #12 on: May 23, 2011, 03:00:00 PM »
Alright! Great stuff so far, keep it coming. Its cool/sad how many of us share the same BS because of this dip shit... I'm glad we can kick each other in the nuts to keep us all in line. I appreciate the feedback. Best quit ever for me, and it WILL last forever this time.
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Re: Day one for me;
« Reply #11 on: May 23, 2011, 02:57:00 PM »
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I went through the same thing bro. Its very hard when you feel like everyone is poking you with a hot stick no matter who they are.

You're certainly not a piece of shit (unless you kicked a puppy or punched a midget clown today). You made the best decision you could to see those little ones for as long as you can: you stopped putting a turd in your mouth.

I chose exercise to get me through that anxious period. Beat myself into the ground running and biking. Some old chain gang mentality that a tired body leads to a soul at rest.

When I look at my kids, I think "Jeez...its certainly going to be nice to be in their wedding photos with my entire face in place". If that doesn't help, I count to 10 out loud. Slows everyone down. If that doesn't help, I walk away and distract for a second by thinking about watermelon sized breasts.
Mmmmmmmmm....watermelon sized breasts......not I'm distracted.... 'boob'
What is your major malfunction?!?!?!?!

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Re: Day one for me;
« Reply #10 on: May 23, 2011, 02:54:00 PM »
I went through the same thing bro. Its very hard when you feel like everyone is poking you with a hot stick no matter who they are.

You're certainly not a piece of shit (unless you kicked a puppy or punched a midget clown today). You made the best decision you could to see those little ones for as long as you can: you stopped putting a turd in your mouth.

I chose exercise to get me through that anxious period. Beat myself into the ground running and biking. Some old chain gang mentality that a tired body leads to a soul at rest.

When I look at my kids, I think "Jeez...its certainly going to be nice to be in their wedding photos with my entire face in place". If that doesn't help, I count to 10 out loud. Slows everyone down. If that doesn't help, I walk away and distract for a second by thinking about watermelon sized breasts.

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Re: Day one for me;
« Reply #9 on: May 23, 2011, 02:51:00 PM »
Those kids didn't shove dip in your pie hole. They do not deserve to have your rage directed at them. Get involved, read, post up stoopid shit, go to chat, get some numbers....yell at us, we can take it.

In fact, many of us like it...so bring it.

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Re: Day one for me;
« Reply #8 on: May 23, 2011, 02:36:00 PM »
It'll get better, it will.

Strategies, embrace the time you have with them--play catch with them, watch TV (the shows they like), talk about their day, play the wii; basically I do all the stuff I ignored for years because I was off by myself so I didn't have them asking me what I was doing while I was dipping.
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Re: Day one for me;
« Reply #7 on: May 23, 2011, 02:24:00 PM »
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I'm day 15 quit, and I can't remember if I introduced myself or not, since I'm quit, I don't have a lot of time to post as I try to occupy myself with the time I've wasted dipping.  I'm Dan, and definitely an addict.  But what is pissing me off is that I have over 150 a day as I teach, and I'm patient most of the time, but when I get home, I'm not.  Its bullshit, and not fair to my own kids.  Tell me it will stop.  I have trouble explaining being quit to them as they are all younger than 6 and I really don't want to ever know or remember daddy with "candy in his mouth and I don't have anymore to give you".  I'm a piece of shit.  Any strategies out there??? Thanks.
I teach little kids. I have little kids. It will pass.

It might take some time, but you really NEED to either get involved here (bitch at us), or get some numbers and call or text a brother and bitch at them.

If you need a number, PM me.
I teach I have been quit 107 days. Fortunately and unfortunately my kid at home is 17. I don't see him much. This is my thought in your situation. Younger kids require patience. As a fellow teacher I know how much patience that takes especially at this time of year. Your patience at home will improve dramatically when summer vacation gets here. Hold on until then. Finally, a temporarily impatient father is easier to deal with than a father without a face. Hang in there brother and it will get better.
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